STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BREAK UP OVER FLIMSY EXCUSE
Please bvs I want to know if this is wrong or I am just putting too much importance into it.
My girlfriend broke up with me last month on just a very flimsy excuse I tried to work things out but she already made up her mind. Now before she broke up,my mom bought a beautiful gift for her,i told her and she called my mom thanked her after seeing the picture of the gift.
So i told her when i am back in lagos i will bring it when I am coming to her place. she told me about the aso ebi for her grandma's burial,I bought for her,myself and my mum in the course of the relationship.
So after she broke up she asked if I would still be needing the aso ebi or she should do the needful(meaning she should send me back the money for the aso ebi) I told her no that she should send the aso ebi through a dispatch rider to my mom's office so she can pick it up. I told my mom she broke up with me but still my mom wanted her to get the gift.
My mom called her because she was to collect it last week Sunday but she said she and her mom went out and she told her she would come for it this last sunday which was two days ago.Two days ago my mom called and called her she did not pick her calls neither did she return her call.
My mum felt so bad because she loves her so much and never believe she could do that when they already had an agreement that she would come for it two days ago,so she did it intentionally by ignoring her calls,my mum felt insulted but I told her not to feel that way about her.
Do you think it is right for me to ask her about it or I should just let it go?
*Naaaah I dont buy this your flimsy excuse thingy at alll...
What is the flimsy excuse and how many times did you do it?Sometimes what you think is a mole hill can be a mountain to others...
Please leave your mum out of this and let her be if she does not want to speak to your mum.....She is probably still very upset or she is already dating someone else....LOL
Leave her alone for now to get over her anger and introduce you to her new boyfriend..lol
Oya take the red pen advice. Nothing to add
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DeleteFemale feminist oya
Please leave her alone. Girls are wise enough to stick to guys that treat them well so if she has closed her heart against you then you sure didn't tick her major boxes. Don't use your mum to blackmail her jor.
DeleteMy guy, as a fellow guy, just let things go. Don't stress yourself.
ReplyDeleteBut abeg, don't take her back when her senses come back and she apologizes.
A lady who can disrespect your mum by not picking her calls shouldn't be given a second chance.
But why do you still want her to pick up your mums call when she has broken up with you Abeg let her be hare you want to use gift to bribe her instead of doing what she wants
DeleteExactly, don't take her back.
Delete@Zendaya
DeleteWhat does she want? 🙄🙄🙄
The way you jumped to that paragraph ...after she broke up....
DeleteOK she just woke up and broke up with you just like that? Guy, check yourself.
Anyways, let her be and move on. Cut all communications for now and save the money you should've given her for Christmas for something better.
Stop this your ..my mum liked her, what about you?
She obviously has someone else and it be nice you move the heck on
ReplyDeleteExactly.. move on!
DeleteYes and the someone has the aso ebi as well. She doesn't want to risk you and your mum showing up at the party.
DeleteNwanne gaa chuba ego!..
ReplyDeleteGo and make money abeg...
Have you even seen a rich man being dumped by a woman?..
Its not possible!!...
Well,there is something you are not telling us!..
She cant just wake up one day and decided to end a relationship!...
Untill you tell us the real fact but before then,go and make money and leave women alone!...
🤣🤣🤣 I have been waiting for your comment and you didn't disappoint.
DeleteMy sister in law dumped a rich man because he behaves very badly
DeleteQueen &Boss,everything is not about money.
DeleteI think its either the girl was told by one "pastor" that he is not her husband or there is cheating from the guys side or the girl has a serious relationship and the guy just showed up and she doesn't want to be caught.
If she comes back, please don't take her back,it might be that she has come to her senses or the serious relationship has gone back to his base.
You and your stupid mentality. You don’t have to comment you know. So because a guy is rich but with ugly character, the woman will stay. Who raised some of you women for goodness sake?? It’s so so mind boggling to see the level of low self worth all in the name of money. No self respect whatsoever. What’s wrong with women also working for their money??? It’s really sad.
DeleteAnon its not that serious abeg, some comments are meant for LAUGH sake just to forgot this country's problems small.
DeleteNa lie o. Rich or richer, i don dump before o. Character matters a lot pls. Its not be only money.
DeletePlease poster, the lady said she doesn't want you. You and your mum should respect that and leave her alone ah ah.
ReplyDeleteWhat's all these? She has the right to the calls she picks and the gifts she wants. Leave the girl alone!
Thank you
DeleteSimple! If she took the gift na una go still talk. Just let her be
DeleteBut it's totally unfair to the mum
DeleteYou people will see a nice woman and still complain
People break up everyday, wasn't she close to the woman before then?
She'd have simply picked up the call and told the woman she wasn't interested in a respectful way.
It's so rude to intentionally refuse to pick.
Bros you too face front, tell your mum to understand,the girl is hurting
What you did not tell us is how many years this girl has been your "girlfriend" and why she is not your "fiancee" even when you had introduced your mom into it all.
ReplyDeleteProbably, her patience ran out. She will be wearing "aso ebi" for another's wedding without hers in view? Think about if this girl is your sister, will you like a man to string her along without concrete plans. Ladies have times (of life) and want to settle in their husband's home with kids.
You sound like you need to mature more. Getting to know Christ's Love will help you. Cheers.
Exactly the poster needs to mature.
DeleteDidn't really get the picture of this chronicle because some things were omitted. Poster it seems she wants to stay away from you and hence your mother. So let her be and move on.
Delete@15:09, did we read the same chronicle? FYI, her grandma's burial. Where did you see aso ebi for a wedding? Why must everything be about marriage or wedding wichu y'all? Why are you wailing? What if the poster and his ex are not of marriageable age? And you know her patience is running out because? She rented your BQ and cries to the hearing of all your fellow yard people every night? Clearly, the poster intentionally didn't mention a few information but it isn't in your place to add knorr and crayfish to sweeten the gist.
DeleteI'm so upset fa! And you ended up saying he needs Christ's love to be mature. Wow!
Cassie, don’t loud it abeg. The chronicle is from a man, my dear bvs are bound to be bias. They are saying incomplete stories and even adding their own story join. Lust look and pass abeg so as not to smell the kind of hypocrisy I keep smelling
DeleteYoure right @cassie & eka joy.... since its from a male bv,theres bound to be a bias for the ex girlfriend.. The girl is badly behaved period!!! You should be glad shes gone. For someone to ignore your mothers call, that's just plain rude. Count your blessings dear. Maybe theres someone else who's tickling her fancy... Maybe she feels you dont have enough money or something... just dont take her back if she comes crawling back....
DeleteAll the best poster..
@Cassie
DeleteLet me recount your sentence; "What if the poster and his ex are not of marriageable age?"
And you Cassie were bold enough to say that I made assumptions, added "Knorr and whatever...?"
If, this sentence of yours isn't an assumption, that then is it?
What is "marriageable age?" So kids write in chronicles here, and mothers now find wives for their kids?
Wow, wow!
And why shouldn't I write that Christ's Love will help him? (you added "mature" to it)
If you know what else will help him, state yours and let others also make their own opinions.
Eka and cassie I understand your point but please this isnt a gender war na. For the guy's mom to like her it must mean the girl in particular must be a nice person to a point. I dont condone how she treated his mom's call but pls the guy should be held accountable for his flimsy actions. Who knows if its something the girl has been complaining about for a long time and still not getting a positive action from him. Had the guy said what happened, it would have been different but he didn't.
DeleteMadam **** i think what cassie is saying is how do u know from the post that the reason for the lady's anger stem from the length and future of the relationship.....and pls explain the immaturity angle 'cause i dont see anything that point to that from the post
DeleteEka and shy girl not everything is about supporting the gender you want to support. To advise well you logically have to look at the plain facts. From all the comments I have read, people were forced to fill in the blanks because the poster deliberately left out information for reasons best known to him. So learn to cut people some slack and air their opinions just as you air yours.
DeleteThe 2 parties are still young not ripe mentally for marriage. From the write up.
DeleteShe is avoiding your mum because she feels your mum WOULD NOT respect her decision to break up with you and rather, use "african old person" eye to instruct her to make up with your manipulative unapologetic and unreflective self.......so oga, please leave her be.
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😂😂🤣🤣 How did you find out he is manipulative, unapologetic and unreflective? This is serious!
Deleteeven i was surprised by how she arrived at that conclusion....she must be an expert long jumper.LOL
Deleteperhaps she has experienced or is experiencing something similar and is now projecting in onto this scenerio.
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DeleteI'm just feeling d comments. It can make one to forget the prices of food stuff..🤣🤣🤣😂
DeleteBiko how old are you people cos what I read up there reeks of immaturity.
ReplyDeleteSince you have broken up,you should have gotten the gift from your mom and gotten it across to her as she's obviously not mature enough to want to meet with your mom after the break up.
For her to call and ask if she should make a refund simply means she wants to cut all ties.
Abeg na small pikin thing be this...
Na really small pikin chronicle be this.
DeleteThe poster should have explained what happened. Let her go,when she is ready she will talk to you.
DeleteLovelace
Or let her go and let things be. She said she no wan do again. Ahn ahn Na by force? It’s a done deal. Keep it moving Oga sir.
DeleteEven small pikin dey need advice. Advice respectfully. You are also a small pikin to some people.
DeleteIts a lie she has no one on board now. Maybe she wants you to change your attitude to prevent more of such excuses. Please let her cool off and sort things with her before you can move on if its not repairable
ReplyDeleteFor her not to have picked your mum's call means she has moved on. Let her be.
ReplyDeleteSome people can be very emotive and allow themselves to be overwhelmed. Please, tell your mum to stay away from her. Don't allow anybody drop sweat on your mother for any reason. You didn't tell us the flimsy excuse that led to the end of the relationship. I guess you should move on, it maybe difficult for you but you can't keep dwelling in the past. Learn from whatever mistakes you may have made and be a better person. Please, don't stalk her. If the excuses were indeed flimsy, she was just looking for the easiest way out of the relationship or possibly she was already seeing someone else
ReplyDeleteExactly Mr Alex.
DeleteHow sure are you that the Asọ ehi isn't for her marriage party?
ReplyDeleteLet her be and your mum should keep her gift. Obviously, she doesn't want to continue with you.
Mehn you have a good point
DeleteHow would she have given her boyfriend and his mom asoebi for her own marriage?
DeleteWhere is queen and boss to advise this poster😁😁
ReplyDeleteOga leave the lady alone, her focus has changed, she's growing.
Up there 👆
DeleteUp there
DeleteRidiculous advise from her 🙄
DeleteOga what stopped you from briefing us about the "flimsy excuse", just like you briefed us what happened between she and your mom, which of cause, I don't fault her on her she acted.
ReplyDeleteShe didn't act too right, but at the same time isn't wrong.
She should have communicated to you to update momsi on her declining the gift, or could have answered her phone and stated so, maybe she thinks your momsi would get the message from her earlier excuse of going out with her mom.
She didn't want to go to collect the gift for 2 reasons-
1. Your momsi would begin her to stay, but like you said, she had already made up her mind.
2. So you don't spoil her image that's she's greedy and still want a gift after the relationship has ended..
On another hand tho, as Stella talk, e fit be say she don jam correct bobo weh be real OG and him don tell am say if she go pick up that gift or answer una phone call, that's the end of the relationship.. and you know we OGs don't need to be aggressive for one to know we mean business..
Girls rarely end a relationship if they are not yet in another. Rarely bro, Rarely
Lol..
DeleteMisspellings and mistakes everywhere..
Hope I didn't give anyone headache.. I was trying to write alot within a short time.
Blessings
Flimsy excuse doesn't have a name. You should have told us everything so we know where to come in. Go and sort out your so called flimsy excuse with her and then come and give us feedback.
ReplyDeleteEhya! Poor baby! Move on already you hear.
ReplyDeletePoster please let it slide. She wants space give it to her.
ReplyDeleteBro, take my advise, ignore her, and don't ask her about it, just close her chapter, it's actually very easy. But if you can call her and tell her that you and your mom won't be coming for the burial again, and that she should refund the money for the Aso ebi, my guy I'll locate you and buy you any alcohol you take, you can't loose at both ends.
ReplyDeleteWhich one is refund money again kwa, that’s childish. He should just move the heck on.
DeleteHow do you want to ignore the ignored??
ReplyDeleteShe has moved on.. so who exactly is he ignoring?
Someone that asked to send the money back to him..LMAOOOO
He has already lost the battle
Poster is it by force she collects the gift? Move on and leave her alone abeg
ReplyDeleteShe doesn't want you anymore
ReplyDeleteposter at least now you know not every issue with your partner should be addressed as flimsy. Because its flimsy to you dsnt mean it is to her.
ReplyDeletePlease leave her alone....regardless of what transpired between you both.. she should have attended to your mom in a better way tho.
Leave her alone sha.. she deserves someone who wouldn't call her concerns flimsy.
You need to learn some manners as well. Let it go and let her go.
learn manners ?????......how and where in the post indicated he lacked manners.
Deleteomo the way the ladies in this blog just draw some kind conclusion is truely baffling
*truly* dear.
DeleteAnd i said that because from the write up, all he did was try to paint the girl black.
where did he paint the lady black , he only explained things from his point of view.......and how does that still relate with his "lack of manners"
Delete..
That babe is angry with you but you are forming you didn't do anything wrong to her. Is possible she has spoken to you several times about the same thing but you ate not ready to adjust.
ReplyDeleteStop using your mum to emotionally blackmail that lady, give her some time to get over her anger.
Your mum should rest from Calling her, i think your mum has been helping you out to talk to her in the past and she has been ignoring you because of your mum. She has set her standard, you should understand and give her some space.
She was probably feeling choked. There seems to be a third wheel in this relationship because I have never heard of boyfriend and his mother buying asoebi together and being so serious about it. So you and your mother planned to sew the material and show up as what? At best, the boyfriend's mother would give you a monetary gift as Omo oloku but why would she be interested in wearing asoebi when she is not the mother-in-law? To me, this is similar if not equivalent to a woman who wears white at her son's wedding.
ReplyDeleteI think her "flimsy" excuse for breaking up is that she is not ready for polygamy as second wife and that she is tired of dating you through your mother. You have to find a way to separate your identity as an adult male from that of a mother's son. If not, every girl with a brain would also be asking you to "do the needful" after a few months.
If you ever want to marry a good woman, start practicing how to leave from your father especially YOUR MOTHER and give your girlfriend/fiance her respect and autonomy. What your mother is showing may seem like love to your babe but woman to woman, it is clearly the marking of territory.
Let me guess, she is not the only woman who has given you this flimsy excuse? Bro, she won't be the last. If you don't change, you'll end up with a woman you can't stand and because of your mom, a woman you can't leave. You seff go serve time for Mummy's prison.
Twaleeeeeeeeeeeeeee
DeleteOga, what is that flimsy excuse?
ReplyDeleteNa so mummy go dey do nice nice, when you marry her now it’s mummy that will be running the affair of your life...so glad the lady is sensitive to look away... my sister is facing same mummy mummy in law wahala. Some mother in-laws behaves as if they are from another planet.
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