Nollywood actress Inem Peter Is advising men to give their women money all the time....
If you agree with her mindset then my two cents after the cut will get you really pissed off!!!
Why should a man give you money all the time?I don't care whether you are his wife or girlfriend,GO AND WORK and make your own money and stop thinking being with a man makes it a must to give you money...This mindset is really wrong,I never had it and i wont start now...if he gives you money,its fine but don't make it a must......
I know that some of you hate this my mindset but please state yours and don't waste your time commenting to insult me...........
Go and work and stop looking for men who will become your ATM when you are not ready to become one.....
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ReplyDeleteGive a woman money all the time and what does she give a man all the time? Some women think pu*sy is all a man wants. Man does not man by sex alone! We love ideas. Quality discussions. Cleanliness. Support.
Deleteanon 10:59 then MEN need to ACT like there is more to life than just pu#sy and stop acting like slaves to their fleshly lust. When men stop leaving their wives, stop cheating, stop fornicating and using women for sex then I will try to believe u but til then MECHONU
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ReplyDeleteSee them. Na people like you Simi dey try save their reputation.
ReplyDeleteInem Peter with your entitlement mentality, if men start treating you without respect you will start shouting men are scum.
I am sooooo independent that I don't need money from men biko. I still pray that God will continue to sustain me so that I can't tell a man to give me shishi
ReplyDeleteBeing independent is good but once in a while,let the man in your life spoil you a bit. It's what makes them feel good. Some sha not all
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DeleteSo what makes women feel good? Being spoilt by their man definitely, cos it's an abomination for them to also spoil their man once in awhile too..
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Dante,it's a two way thing but I was talking in terms of women who give up the vibe of not wanting anything from a man
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ReplyDeleteEvery time relationship and money advice. If you check well now, they have neither of the two.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteWell, if a man is funding u, he has every damn right to cheat and misbehave IF he chooses and you have no right to complain. No right because he OWNS you. Periodt.
ReplyDeletestfu pls. broke men cheat on women that are feeding them all the time. make we hear word. if you have no self respect and allow a man to disrespect you because of money and you don't know how to date rich men without losing your self value then that is your own personal problem. sit down keep quiet and allow the women that can do it to do it
DeleteAs if broke men don't cheat. We don read chronicles tire
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ReplyDeleteThis is the reason why most girls now think all the need to bring to the table is beauty and nothing more. What is wrong with a girl working for her own money?
ReplyDeleteCorrection; not beauty but sex because the ugly ones have joined them. Thank you.
DeleteStella, you know I love you deeply right! Your mentality is the best there's.
ReplyDeleteThis early morning? Abeg I don't have time
ReplyDeleteMy dear, tell them.
DeleteWhy don't the men just buy them girls and keep at home or wherever and treat them like merchandise? I'm a woman but I hate any woman with this kind of mindset. Your man can spoil you once in a while but that's vice versa.
anon 9:32 and your hate is why I have a problem with women voicing out when they have this mindset. I agree with the mindset 100% because men wey I don give money don show me shege. Who independent woman help? But u will never see me voice it out. Never. It is kinda tacky to do. Every woman secretly wants what she stated. Yes! even you. but not dumb enough to voice it out because the world hates truth. lol
Delete09:32, there is a difference between hate and logical thinking but you wouldn't know that, would you? Keep collecting money and don't say no to collecting the p***k even when you know you shouldn't because you have sold your voice. That's why most of you are being treated like pigs in any relationships you find yourself.
DeleteStella I like you. We should be delivered from that LAZY mindset. That does not happen in western world.
ReplyDeleteThis same mindset is what has kept alot of Nigeria women suffering in toxic relationships.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was still in Uni calling my Dad or mum to ask for money was a very uncomfortable act for me cause I no dey hear word and any time I have money problem they use the opportunity to remind me of all ny insubordinations😅 not to talk of asking a man in the name of relationship, that one na to loose all my rep naw. Hot chick like me.
Thats how I started my hustle in 2nd year, somehow got contact of a supplier that supplied me very nice hairs at affordable prices. God blessed that business as I was making between 100-150% profit, my parents still sent me money when they are sending to my other siblings but I dont ever recall calling them to ask. I had my own money coming in. I was hot on campus, my room was always filled with big girls tripping in to buy hairs and the business sustained me till I graduated.
I have a strong personality and quite opinionated (I wont call it pride per se) but I dont ever feel comfortable asking a man for money till date not even my hubby, I always feel it makes me lose my power or voice, because I cannot take nonsense in relationship, I just dont know how,
I feel sad when I see alot friends that endure abuse and infidelity in relationships just because hes funding their lifestyle. Most of these women dont believe in themselves that they can make money.
I wont just have peace within my self if a man doesn't treat me right even if hes paying me a million dollars monthly. I just wont.
I think this mindset of entitlement to a man's money is worse with Igbo girls in the east where I grew up, I might be wrong tho.
That Igbo girls part is very correct, they are so dependent on their men
DeleteI was always traveling by night bus from kano to lagos to buy okrika shirts to package and sell. I was living in the hostel and hardly bother my family. My mates thought I was married because boyfriend was doing his own part but I never needed to put pressure on him. I can't blame anybody asking for too much now but I still feel as women, we can always help ourselves but don't say no to support if offered by your man but don't make it look like it's his duty. Na pesin pikins we dey date.
DeleteThings like this will make some women become a liability to their men. I don't know where these set of women spewing this thrash got this mentality from. Some Nigerian women won't cease to amaze me.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I know is that if I'm 'bankrolling' your life, you have no right to ask for loyalty.. when it's not like you're mad.. Do I look like your slave.. just collect yours and step aside for others to collect theirs too and don't be stupid..
ReplyDeleteSee that one up there advising a smarter lady to always make men spoil her cos that's what makes them feel good? What about advising her to also give him too..
Don't get me wrong, I support giving, infact this week alone I know how much of have given your gender people and how much I have promised to before the weekend but seeing the nonsense things you girls say sometimes here doesn't make the giving easy at all..
See that one in yesterday's night post proud to say she has never given a man anything and she'll never give cos it's men that are to give always.. Shey you see why responsible guys don't take some of you seriously, the first screening I have with any girl who's my friend is to see if she calls with her airtime and not expect me to refund, God forbids I should have any one that flashes me to call back as friends.. one who would ask for data to call you on whatsapp.. God forbids..
What some of you guys don't know is that anyone who hasn't sacrificed or invested anything in a friendship or relationship must misbehave.. to move on isn't hard cos she'll feel she never lost anything..
The quickest way to end a relationship with a Nigerian girl is to ask her to loan you money Lol .. just see how fight would be manufactured within a short time Becos she doesn't want to borrow you shii Lol.. but you'll see them asking a guy to loan them when they know they don't plan on paying back.. the 2 I already gave this week, na loan dem talk but I know say dem no go pay and no be me go call dem to drag for money so I gave them what I won't ask back for..
A girl would have lots of cash in her account but would not touch it and be expecting more from you for every lil thing.. let me break this down.. a girl would save money to buy a very expensive phone and be begging you who is using a cheap phone for airtime and data.. like you told her you also don't wanna save for an expensive phone..
In as much as these girls need to level up, I still blame them niggaz more for encouraging these dirty mindset..
Let's learn to help our fellow guys more, that's one of my principle, cos these fellow guys are the ones that would have your back more when you're in need.. also assist only the females who need the assistance for something beneficial.. not to go and buy hair, iPhone and other bullshit
Have a blessed day
oh ho. U said one thing up there i agree with, you said people don't appreciate a relationship when they have invested nothing. this is more true for men! Men are not wired t nurture or have emotions like women so it is important that they invest more money in a relationship. A woman does not need to have given money before she becomes emotionally invested. We all know that.
DeleteYou may have experienced women leaving after using you for money. Well I have experienced men using me for money, cooking etc. And it is waaay worse when a man has used a woman for money. It may sound fun to have a woman earning more and bringing in more money and spending on you but trust me male ego will force you to act out, take her for granted etc. That's why when a man asks me for money or to spend on him, I don't fight or argue, I just put on a smile and use sense to distance from him. Check it yourself. Any relationship where the man is not giving a woman money he is settling for her out of lack or she is not his true spec.
What u people fail to realize is that men fall in love when they give , because It is innate for men to give and give, to feel like kings, to feel like he is making his woman's life easier.. It is natural but women who know their value do not need to ask , feel entitled for it or demand it, the man just knows it is right to give without women being entitled. Sorry that u feel this way but I am saying ever since I closed my pockets to men it is very easy to weed out the users from the providers. And the providers tend to cherish me more. You can imagine a scenario where a man has not taken a lady out on a date, or doesn't put effort demanding that the woman should pamper him, spend money on taking him out on dates, etc. Sounds crazy right. A lot of women are giving into those demands and getting left for women who earn and do way less because these other women know they are diamonds. Getting more from men has worked for me better, but you and stella are free to express any opinion u want.
Why must it always have to be about money?
DeleteDamn, you talk too fucking much!!!
DeleteAll this epistle on top wetin??
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ReplyDeleteYour mind dey dia😀😀
ReplyDeleteWahala for who no get man wey go give am money.
ReplyDelete😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂
DeleteWhile we are still doing relationship, if he gives me fine, if he doesn't give me, it's also fine.
ReplyDeleteBut once we become married, it becomes a must he gives me money and vice versa too when the need arises. We become entitled to each other's money.
This is my own mindset and I am not sorry about it
I think it is better to start making sure he gets used to giving you from relationship time o. E get why
DeleteThat was a cute little write up you did there Stella but I'm still going to make sure I get a man that gives me money despite earning my own. Oh and he will cherish me too. Nigerians act like being rich and being a good person are mutually exclusive. cracks me up. lol
DeleteOh n anyone blindly following Stella don't forget that she is ABROAD in a country where things work, where if you work u get compensated well and see the fruit of your labour. It is easy to be shouting "men don't have to give money" when everyday is not a struggle for you. If you follow any naija man do 50/50 for naija na you go suffer am. And naija men kuku will not mind watching you suffer. Or u think say na by mistake Stella japa to marry oyinbo there? Stella is working for her money but it is soft work. No compare yourself to Stella oh.
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ReplyDeleteAnyone blindly following Stella don't forget that she is ABROAD in a country where things work, where if you work u get compensated well and see the fruit of your labour. Also do not forget that Stella is not working a 9 to 5 or doing back-breaking work. It is easy to be shouting "men don't have to give money" when everyday is not a struggle for you. If you follow any naija man do 50/50 for naija na you go suffer am. And naija men kuku will not mind watching you suffer. Or u think say na by mistake Stella japa to marry oyinbo there? Stella is working for her money but it is soft work. No compare yourself to Stella oh.
DeleteLol. Don't go and make your own money o, Stay there and be looking for a man that will give you money. The 'men' with money are equally looking for a woman with money to balance or rather complement each other. What manner of a man who went through struggle to make money will be looking for a leech or a liability to waste his hard earned money?? Well, unless they are into illegal ways of making money.
ReplyDeleteYou'd never read or see disgusting things as this from a Hollywood actress or even a polished Nollywood actress that has respect for herself.
Kisses to you my darling.
DeleteShe is 100% right but I feel she is dumb to voice it out. You know society loves to see black women in struggle love, building up a man, getting cheated on and taking for granted. Black women are not supposed to love being spoiled naaaaa. She didn't read the memo? Anywayyy Ladies pls keep this mindset to yourself while quietly choosing a rich man that will fulfill your dreams. Her announcing it can actually turn off any rich man from wooing her. Men don't like to be told that they are supposed to be spending money . They like to naturally give. so hush and keep it cute and on mute.
ReplyDeleteThis is total rubbish. Entitlement to another's money. I am a lady and i do not support this feeling of having a right to a man's pocket. A man who loves you will give if he feels you are in need without asking and it's because he cares not because he owes you. Nobody owes you.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, This behaviour isn't peculiar to women alone even men have been like this for so long but society have refused to notice. I help out my friends both male and female but i noticed the female started buying things and expecting me to pay for them without me doing it willingly when we go shopping together. I thought that was worse till the guys whom i always help out too started doing the same. One saw me driving to the supermarket he jumped in the car said he wants to keep me company. I started picking stuff and he started picking stuff too inside his cart. Another guy asked me to recharge his phone this was someone that saw me eating at a restaurant close to our estate and he entered and told me he was hungry. I ordered food for him the next thing he said, i should have ordered for a bigger pack because the one i bought can't fill his stomach.😅
This guys live in the same estate with me and aren't broke. One of them told me women are the one who should spend on men and his girlfriend whom i know spoils him well. I just laugh. Gold-digging male and female everywhere😂
The worst was the one i recently helped trying to ask me out thinking he would have better access to chop my money.
At this point I don't even know if it is the situation of the country or the people of the country because everyone i have met both men are women are leeches, it is just that women voice their entitlement to men's money out loud. Men and women are on table.Leeches everywhere.
Bv Peace.
Some men these days want to be treated like women. They feel they are doing you a favour by marrying you and expect you to fund them if you are richer than them, and worse if you are older than them. More young men are becoming professional gigolos. So it goes both ways. If you love it is natural to give and you will give without counting the cost irrespective of gender.
DeleteAll I see is her beauty
ReplyDeleteShe's really beautiful.
DeleteVery shallow, she has never made sense, ever!
ReplyDeleteIf we are married, you take care of me and I take care of you. We care for each other and this includes giving me money to care for myself. God forbid I marry a man who is earning and never spends on me. Everyone shouting work for your money, there are situations where a woman is unable to work or where couples agree that the woman should at home. So if the man doesn't care for his wife or even gives her money for her needs who will? God bless men that put their wives on monthly allowances.
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