Ghanaian actor Majid gives reason he thinks makes relationships and marriages crash...........Do you agree with him?
Friday, November 27, 2020
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ReplyDeleteMarriages crash because a lot of people(not just men) were not trained right.
DeleteThey bring so much baggages from their childhood that destroys. Some of them have been damaged mentally and emotionally beyond repair making their perception of life destructive that only the grace of God can save a few.
Unfortunately in this part of the world we only acknowledge physical damage. No bi anybody wey wear clot normal o.
The foundation for love and commitment is actually respect. If you distract a man from what would have earned you his respect (your intellect, acumen, accomplishments and abilities) with your sexy outfit on your first few dates, you cheat your own self out of the chance of finding true love. Let him love your mind/spirit first, believe me, he wouldn't care too much about what the rest of you looks like. Look at men that married and are crazy about not so attractive women. They fell in love with her spirit, not her body and such a bond is almost impossible to break. People will even think she jazzed the guy but most times it's not jazz. He's crazy about the invisible part of her which is actually the most important part of her. If you want a fling, enhance your butt/boobs, if you want love/commitment, enhance your mind/spirit/intellect.
DeleteThe issue with marriage is that it is the only major thing in our lives we need another person for it to survive, everything else we can handle on our own(Studies, career, business, kids).
DeleteYou can court for a hundred years with or without sex but it may still not work out as you planned. Your spouse can be your best friend and still cheat on you physically or emotionally. People evolve with time, situations in life shape us daily, they may evolve to what you like or maybe not. Some times you just endure for the sake of the Kids, what people will or just get used to what is. How many people are truly happy after 20-30 years and have not wished to role back time for a do over?
Marriage can only survive by the grace of God and the determination of BOTH parties, emphasis on both, not just the women or man fasting and praying.
Alot of marriages are breaking down because a huge percentage of men were not raised right. Women were taught to take the crap men do and keep the home while men continue to act immature. Unfortunately for men a lot of women are being liberated from stupidity.
ReplyDeleteSide eyes @the first person to like the post.
DeleteThat was how I had a serious issue with my hubby recently and he kept telling me that every woman tries to keep her home but I was like did I marry myself?
DeleteMay God continue to strengthen this guy. I like the man he has become. A true role model
DeleteTrue!
ReplyDeleteYes, he is right.
ReplyDeleteSex is not dating
Sex is not relationship
Sex is not marriage
Sex is not love
premarital sex is fornication
It beclouds a person's senses and takes away the fear of the Lord.
It takes away the very essence of companionship which God created marriage to fulfil.
You're absolutely right and many other reasons.
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DeleteHe is very right.
DeleteNowadays, all people think about is sex sex sex and sex.People have abused the reason why God created this sex in the first place.
Well if I can't fuck you, I ain't dating talk less of marrying you
DeleteYou won't know how important sex is to a relationship till you marry or partner with someone your sex life is opposite. Na that time you go know say kaaki no be leather. That friendship will start annoying you
@13:37
DeleteFornication will never be a virtue.
Do you breastfeed a baby in the womb to know if he likes the mother's breastmilk?
Who teaches a baby to breastfeed after he is born?🙄🙄🙄
Fornication will never be a virtue and you will only marry your kind.
Tell that to our randy men both young and old who have no self control especially in Nigeria, they want to sleep with every girl and they will be the one to shout Nigeria girls are prostitute if you refused some will either smear, rape or kill you sef. Mtcheww
ReplyDeleteDo the men sleep with themselves ? Women are always available for sex.
DeleteYes I agree with him. Although, it's one of the many reasons why relationships and marriages don't last.
ReplyDeleteIn a way what he meant is, someone fallen in love superficially - primarily because what they want to gain. Not out of conviction.
Why the ulterior motive is sex for most of the guys, it's material for many of us ladies.
DeleteIn my opinion though, I would say, it's when the benefactor realises the beneficiary is only in it for their greed. And are not together aligned with a mutually selfless interest.
My Ghanaian brother, much respect. Are you speaking from experience?
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ReplyDeleteI agree completely! "How can we be lovers if we can't be friends" building quality friendship in any relationship is the best cos when love wax cold,it's friendship that will take you through!
ReplyDeleteWell....
ReplyDeleteI agree, if only most people can preserve sex for marriage. A lot of men would have looked forward to marriage especially marrying at age 25 upwards.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is more about commitment and sacrifice.
Yeah, he's so right....
ReplyDeleteI agree with him.
ReplyDeleteYou should be each other's friend or else it won't last.
one of the big reasons i agree. building friendship helps you know more about the person, values, spirituality etc. having sex too early beclouds your judgment to an extent. do stuff together, talk, gist you are able to see the person in different scenarios then with time true nature will come out. listen more and observe well. trust me some guys wont last with you 2 months without sex. yes i know some guys pretend and stay longer but for how long.
ReplyDeleteThen ladies, pls if you are a Christian who believes God reigns in the affairs of men start praying about someone you are dating early. am not saying meet a guy then after a month ask how far oh, am just saying start asking God to open your eyes about him. it might save you wasting years in a relationship. Before i met my husband, a guy i knew in church was asking me out and i was already thinking of dating him when i had a leading in the place of prayer to ask him if he was ready to marry. I sent him a text and it took him 4 days to reach out to me. it was like i just uncovered a big secret he had. he just said to me God really loves you and told me he was not ready to settle down yet. meanwhile he was shuttling naija and the US at the time. I would have started a relationship and then started giving chronicles about how he was not ready to marry and wasting my time etc. of course while he was dating me he would not have been obliged to tell me if he would marry me or not, but i would have started dating him, fall in love and then be expecting a guy who in his heart was not ready for marriage to propose.
I partially agree but let's look at it holistically, most men are looking for sexmate, while most girls are looking for an ATM machine, so the foundation is built on selfish mindset
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to sex before marriage, the man ask or pester the lady, what stops the lady from refusing his demands when she knows it’s sex he wants, and she want a relationship devoid of sex, isn’t non consensual sexual rape? Ladies can do better and stop this mantra of men think nothing more than sex, I’m a woman by the way and I had a non sexual relationship before marriage
ReplyDeleteOnce a a while we all need someone to talk to no matter how strong we may appear. Once a man sees you,bottom line is sex that he wants and I have been bitten one too many times.
ReplyDeleteHow do I even pray for the urge to have sex to disappear from me too sef is a different talk on it's own.
Relationship counseling is the way to go. Receive counsel when you start a relationship. This will help you find out about each other. If this is done under supervision at the beginning, sex is put aside especially if it’s done in a real church. Couples are told if you engage in sex early on, you bear the consequences in the long run. No need to rush to consummation when what will keep marriage longer is not sex but the bond you build outside of sex. Cos one day, you grow weary of the spark of sex and nothing else holds you together. Then you start finding out things you don’t like. In rare cases some still remain tighter because they luckIly they find something about each other they can live with and just stay. But consequences you can’t escape oo.
ReplyDeletePartially cos what that works for A might not or does not work for B
ReplyDeleteThe strongest marriages I have seen are those that started as friendships
ReplyDeleteSex is very important in marriage, make sure you are sexually compatible to avoid stories that touch.
ReplyDeleteBut who wants to marry someone who does not physically desire them? Majid, this your answer is too simplistic.
ReplyDeleteNot divorcing is no indication that a marriage has been successful. My grandparents never divorced and there was nothing wonderful about their marriage. So anybody who views divorce as failure and remaining married until death do us part as success have a lot more living and learning to do.