So she made his mother's hair and got paid and he is upset and broke up with her...told her she should have refused the money.....
I dont get it,she is not supposed to collect money or what?.I am with her on this....you?
Sunday, October 04, 2020
Shocking Whatsapp Chat Of How Guy Broke Up With His Girlfriend...
She made her boyfriend's mother's hair and was paid. Guess what happened next?
So she made his mother's hair and got paid and he is upset and broke up with her...told her she should have refused the money.....
So she made his mother's hair and got paid and he is upset and broke up with her...told her she should have refused the money.....
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Are these chats even real?
ReplyDeleteDont mind them.its one and same person chatting herself up.
DeleteFake I think. But if it happens in real life I won't blame the guy at all. In some things in life you use wisdom.
DeleteShe was unwise, very unwise. She "won the battle but lost the war." Besides her lack of wisdom, imagine all the guy did for her?!? Just a girlfriend o, not fiancee. He should block every contact he has with her. Stella I also live abroad and if it's the me, myself and I attitude that obtains abroad that makes you support her, then the BOYFRIEND should not have paid her rent, bought her clothes, lost profit to her brother etc. She's a big FOOL.
DeleteHow would I make hair for my boyfriend's mom and collect money? Na wa na wokeness be that one too. Some ladies are very foolish.
DeleteI think I understand where the guy is coming from. She should simply have told the mother that she her son will take care of the bill... then proceeded to collect *2 or 3 of what the hair is worth from guy man and he'd happily give her... I think the girl didn't make a wise decision....
Deletebut the guy too should not act as if he is one prized stallion abeg🙄🙄
Stella I don't agree with you on this. She shouldn't have collected that money even if the guy is not taking care of her.
DeleteShe saw nothing wrong in her action is, that was his anger.
DeleteYour future mother-in-law. One the guy was trying to make you connect with, you made hair and billed the woman. Only the fact that it's d first time should make her not ask. Except maybe she got her weavon.
The mama has who makes her hair for her. I.think the guy just wanted her and the mum to connect hence asking her to.make the hair
Make the hair and bill the guy later, he would gladly pay as the mom would be no wiser and see you as a nice person.
She is stingy. Asking about her brother's phone. Which he sold to him at cost price and never told her
See the end she knows she has messed up.
I can't stand stingy people 🦋
The girl is very mad
DeletePeople that money conscious they even forget family and be behaving like mad people.
The guy spoke disrespectfully but he must have been really angry.
A simple "sorry" would have solved everything
If you ask her now she will say she's woke.
Someone dint make money on your brothers phone.
Paid half your shop rent.
Will she collect money from her own mother.
She couldn't even handle this with wisdom, what rubbish
This generation enh...marriage go hard.
Anybody who supports this girl has problems and possibly single or in a bad relationship or bad marriage .
DeleteThis is why many marriages have comma.
So if she makes hair for her mother, she will take money?
Her mother in law is automatically her mother o. How can such a babe have a happy marriage
Stella, you live in Europe, these are people in Nigeria. It's a totally different ball game out there... she wasn't supposed to charge the potential mother in law any money; if anything she should've transferred her invoice to her BF!
DeleteI'm not with her on this abeg.
DeleteEven if the mom in law to be offered to pay, she should have declined come on.
How much was she paid that she couldn't have forfeited? The ba e like money no be small.
This is the same guy that gave part payment for that same shop, gives you money on a regular basis according to the chat, yet you still had to collect that money.
Nahh she didn't do well.
We know it's her source of income but thennn.
When you date a child
ReplyDeleteNot like i blame her o, but cant collect such money o. Even my platonic friend's mom i cant collect and i have had my mom patronize even my former class mates, on recorgnising her they dont collect money from her talk more of a prospective mother in law.
DeleteShe is not wrong but...
God forbid
DeleteShe's a greedy person, this one will cook soup and ask her hubby to pay her back.
Just see the message,she has never given him anything and she thinks there's nothing wrong with her actions.
I hate greedy, selfish, and stingy people
I'm a female but I support Mike. The hair I am carrying now, a church member did it for free. Talk less of mother in law to be. This girl messed up big time. Marrying her will be a mistake because she obviously doesn't take corrections.
DeleteOne of the reasons for High divorce rates now.
Does she think his mother will like her anymore?
If the guy sold the phone to her brother for the cost price, it shows that he is caring.
He even paid half of her shop's rent and she took money from his mum. Pure evil fiancee
I see no reason y she should collect the money from her boyfriend mum nah ...especially if d guy is taking good care of her which from this right up he IS !!!
ReplyDeleteGod bless you....
DeleteY on earth should she collect d money ?? Worst case she should have collected it from the guy himself
ReplyDeleteThanks. Exactly what I said.
DeleteI was supporting the lady till I read the part where the guy said he rented the shop for her.
ReplyDeleteI support the girl.... and the guy somehow.
Abeg, I get relationship matter wey dey give me headache, make I face my own.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteYarn am here make we help you reason am
DeleteIf he can collect money from her brother that came to buy a phone from his shop nothing stops her from collecting money from his mom for doing her hair. Abeg everybody should dey dia dey, men like this will make you slave for their family and expect you to do it with joy and gladness, oga meeoouuvvee entitled fc
ReplyDeleteFirst u should understand that the business of rendering service and sales are two different thing. He said he sold the phone at the cost price he bought it and made no profit from it (try to imagine the time and money he spent on shopping for the phone). But his girlfriend rendered a service which in this case, she can overlook the money because she was rendering a service to her boyfriend's mom. ( Also try to consider the time she spent doing the hair for anyone who might want to argue about this point). So taking money at cost price for the phone was the best he could do for a business that depends so much on capital to continue.
DeleteMy dear, hair making is handwork, it's not sales, it's forbidden to collect money. It's like making your mothers hair and collecting money.
Delete@tiana,when i do anything for my parents, i charge double sef.
DeleteLooool.
They are happy to support their daughter's business.
So the mother in law to be should take the girl like her daughter and support her(it's like she is proud of her and wants to keep encouraging her).
If i am the boy's mother i will pay double sef.
That's how i think sha.
Eva, your thinking is flawed. Typing "Looool" won't cover your wicked heart.
DeleteHow dare you overprice your parents? What stupid form of support is that?Instead of you to spoil them silly, you're charging them for services rendered. This is plain extortion and nothing more.
Wicked woman!
She shouldn't have collected the money, since the man in question has been assisting her financially. If it were to be those men who don't even spend a dime on their ladies, she can then collect. The man is taking it too far though. It's not that serious na.
ReplyDeleteYou de see road
DeleteIt is serious because she did not realize anything she did was wrong. It is not as if there is a law she shouldn't collect money, but for someone you love who has done a lot for you, and you are dealing with the person's mother, you behave differently. Sometimes you need to stoop to conquer.
DeleteThe man is not taking anything too far abeg. He needs to block the babe fast. I hate people who know how to take without giving back in their own little way when the opportunity presents itself.
DeleteThey're both right but in the wrong way.
ReplyDeleteShe wasn't suppose to collect that money for his mum hair
DeleteShe is wrong!
DeleteThe boy over reacted. In a way, she shouldn't have collected the money from the woman knowing that she's her boyfriend's mother. That gesture would have gone a long way to make their relationship strong. She not realizing that she made a little mistake of making business out of this is her own undoing. If it were her boyfriend's sister or cousin, taking the money wouldnt have been a serious issue. He overreacted anyway but I can understand because this is his mother and the girl's supposed future mother in-law but calling out all the stuff he did for her is a no no.
ReplyDeleteChai naija girls don suffer for naija guys hand I swear,no be small thing,thank God I escaped this route,,glory!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat’s this one saying?
DeleteFunny but not funny
ReplyDeleteI'm a girl, but, I support the guy on this, not everything is about Money, since the guy actually help her financially and not a stingy boyfriend, then there are some things that should be scarifice for the sake of love, that money won't make you rich automatically so whats the buzz about, if she make her mother's hair will she collect money, if you love a man love who they love. Las Las them go dey alright .
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this comment. Sacrifice matters a lot. Money isn't all to life.
DeleteAnon if you are single then you're a very desperate single woman. If you're married or in a relationship then you have no self esteem at the moment.
DeleteI am a lady. I had a friend who makes hair. I pay her each time she does my hair and even give her extra most times. One time I was owing her just 200 as change from the hair I made. I promised to give her back the money once I got home as we were neighbours. This is someone I do various things for freely as a friend. When she came back, she immediately came to my house that she needs her money, she wants to use it, dragging as if I said I would not pay. I was in shock. She was frowning and acting like she wanted a show down over two hundred naira. After all I have done for her. So I reasoned it means this girl cannot even dash me 200. Just 200 which I was going to give her anyway. I just gave her her change immediately and new then that she had become past tense as a friend. So I understand the guy's reasoning in the post.
DeleteGod bless you. Most of the women blaming this guy are just same with the useless babe. Using the word Useless here is not an insult. A girlfriend like this one up here is truly useless.
DeleteAnon 11:58 u lie. She isn't desperate and neither does she suffer low esteem. Dem no dey teach common sense for school. She should have let that money go in the light of everything. It would be like pouring water on the ground to step on cool ground for future purposes. The guy spends on her. Aw does she reciprocate: with little things like this. Its either u are single with the mindset of female mighty Igor or married and wishing u can deal ur hubby blows u can never do. Shioor
DeleteVery typical of a lot of blacks. Same thing my ex tried. His sisters would come to my shop and want services for free. Once when I was absent his 26 year old sister tried to bully my staff into giving her items for free. My own family pay upfront no stories. Entitlement mentality is borne from poverty. People who are used to having don't behave like this.
ReplyDeleteIf it were his sisters, I would take side with the girl but not with the boy's mother. If the boy was reacting this way for taking money from his sisters or cousin, then we could say his is entitled
DeleteExactly! If he could take money directly from her brother for the phone, he could have told him to go and collect the money from her directly too.
DeleteIt's only in Naija people confuse relationship with business.
I saw this yesterday and what I will say and will stand on is that, the lady shouldn't have collected money from the guy's mother since she didn't deny the fact that the guy contributed some money on her shop rent plus other things he mentioned. I know business is business but come on, this is his mother for Christ sake. If it were to be a sister or so I won't bother much but for a mother hell NO. Mothers are priceless. What then is the essence of sacrifice? Come to think it was her first time doing that.
ReplyDeleteIf she wanted the money this bad, she should have stylishly collected it from his guy and not the mother. Little things like this makes mother loves their son's woman so much.
Finally, the guy self is being too hard and not handling this maturely. I see the girl still loves him. They should settle it up but honestly, the girl fucked up on this.
Teejay it depends o.
DeleteI don't know the kind of hair they are talking about. If it simple cornrows, plaiting, Didi, weaving the girl should have just told his mum to leave the money.
But if she bought human hair or attachment to fix on the woman's head, abeg she was right to collect her money.
My problem with this kind of arrangement is once you start with don't worry about paying then it becomes a permanent arrangement.
Solution is to avoid situations like these. The woman should make her hair where she used to.
All these fabu self.
I don't see anything wrong with what the girl did o, I would have collected money too from his mum or collected the money due for my services from the so called boyfriend before even going to make the mum's hair. No free thing over dude
ReplyDeleteYou are a greedy person
DeleteIf no one has said it to you, I am saying it now.
So you came to this life to only take, stop seeing a relationship as an avenue to keep taking.
In my opinion,she shouldn't have collected the money from her, or better still, collect the money from the guy. This is just out of respect. From the chat above, the lady does not give to the guy but the guy do give to her and that's a red flag. Giving shouldn't be onesided in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteBusiness flourish when family and friends pay for goods bought or service rendered. It's up to her to decide whether to wave the charge or give discount. He would have just informed her that he will pay for the services before hand.
ReplyDelete👍👍👍❤️. It’s up to her to decide and yes, if the guy didn’t want his mom to pay for the services, he should have offered to pay the girl...it’s up to his girlfriend to accept the payment or not. There shouldn’t be any hard feelings here.
DeleteGbam
DeleteThank you ooooh!!!
DeleteThe way the guy overreacted is shocking!!!
When my sister was in secondary school, my Dad pays me anytime I make her hair..... He never owed me for once!!
It's up to the girl to decide to collect the money or not and not for people to make it seem like it's a right!
They just over escalated a simple issue🤷🤷
Abegii should shouldn't have collected the money from his mother at all but from the guy simple
DeleteBusiness is business abi? Please tell the lady to be remitting half the proceeds of her shop to the guy, afterall he paid half of the rent.
Delete😒
ReplyDeleteIf this chat is real, then the girl didnt do well.
Let’s call a spade a spade. How much would the hair be?
Like the bf said, she could hv collected the money from him. Besides, her response shows she has no respect for the bf and it didn’t start today.
Everybody wants to be lit, humanity is gone.
Same thing i typed.👌
DeleteHope you're doing great darl🥰
Sweetie I’m good.
DeleteHow are you?
Doing good boo
DeleteEnjoy the rest of your weekend okay🥰
Why should she even collect the money back from him? Did he collect the rent money back from her father??? What is wrong with you people?!? Even if you are wicked, don't you understand the law of sowing and reaping?
DeleteNigerian mentality. I used to go through this with Nigerian boyfriends. Entitled mother and son. Mtchew.
ReplyDeleteMy Oyinbo husband will never stand for this.
I have a business he started for me and everyone pays me. He makes sure Of that.
In fact, his parents will not even let anyone get away with not paying me. They will go after you themselves. They pay me for everything.
My dear,we are nigerians we have entitlement mentality. To an extent this is part of our unity and culture.
DeleteWe are not onyibo people.she should have said "no mama,don't worry". And if it won't make her sleep at night she can collect it from the boyfriend.
I personally wouldn't have taken the money. And if it had to do with buying and selling I would most likely sell to you at the cost price like the guy did. She should have gotten the money from the boyfriend if she was that particular about being paid. That said the guy used some not so nice words.
ReplyDeleteCos the girl refused to realise her mistake
DeleteExactly!
DeleteTeejay please don't say that. It's different if the lady in question went on her own and saw her bf mothers hair unkept and decided to make the hair. This is her livelihood. Besides, did the mother complain or the guy just decided to make a big deal out of it.
ReplyDeleteAlso, let's not forget that the guy sold phone to her own brother. It doesn't matter if he gave discount or not. If you have that idea then it should work for everyone.
The girl did nothing wrong.
First it will be your mother, next sister, friends, cousins...where does it end.
Please that boy is wicked and insecure. The girl should use this opportunity and run.
Clap for yourself. She should run far away from that guy for someone better to come in bro his life. The conversation shows she's got no respect for the guy at all. In all of these, I blame guy, why should he be the one to pay half of the girl's rent shop. For what exactly? Person wy you never marry
DeleteAll of you blaming the girl lemme just ask. If you have shop and you pick stuff up from said shop, do you not pay for it? If your answer is no then it's no wonder Y'll struggle for Stella giveaway.
DeleteMarriage is not the only accomplishment in life. He should carry his proposal and shove it down his throat. Infact if possible the girl should refund half the shop money he paid. Nonsense.
DeleteShould her business suffer because of family?
Please if this poster ever sees this comment. Sweetie, you did the right thing.
Please she should rent half of that her rent money
DeleteI personally will not collect money from his mother,especially as the guy helps me out financially. How much can d hair be,cant pass 5k.
ReplyDeleteThe guy overreacted though. Such issue shld not cause breakup except dey had other issues before.
My dear
DeleteMoney that will not make her rich immediately.
Stinginess of the highest order
The guy was probably irritated cus she never even gives him anything
I probably would not have collected money for this, more so if it’s the first time. At the same time, I don’t blame the girl for this. Making hair is hard work, takes a lot of hours, and when you are attending to one customer, you will invariably loose others. So there is the cost of the hair and the opportunity cost as well. There are better ways of handling this issue by both parties. Sometimes the level of entitlement amongst relatives makes one to put down your feet upfront, so they know there is no free hair here, before you start bringing all your family....would the girls mum do this in her shop, during work hours, probably not. She most likely makes her own mother’s hair in her free time. So, she could have offered a discount and let the mother know what she is collecting is like half the price, who could have offered to go home and do in her free time, but a prospective mother in law coming to her shop expecting free hair is very wrong
ReplyDeleteMost Nigerians girls have a sense of entitlement to their guy's money but very reluctant to reciprocate. Not all girls tho but a good number.
ReplyDeleteIf that guy paid for half of the shop rent and she truly has never given him anything, his mother coming to make her hair should have been an opportunity for her to give back in her own little way. Money is not everything.
Her saying he only brought half of the shop rent really showed shes ungrateful, she's even feeling entitled, that hes supposed to have paid the full rent.
Any one in a relationship with you that you have not received any monetary gift from is bloody stingy. There cannot be love without giving and it should be reciprocal.
This is why men in such relationships dont respect the women much because She adds him no value, shes only there to take take.
No self respect for herself too because for a guy that paid half her shop rent, got her a phone and even does other small small things for her even if he doesn't ask her for anything she should look for ways to reciprocate, to bring her own value to the relationship.
From the write up the man's anger is a built up one and not just because of the money she charged his mom but because it was a habitual thing for her to never want to give but keep taking.
He deserves better let her go n date an equally stingy man like her that wont support her with rent, not buy her any gifts, and she would comfortably charge him n his family for her services
God bless you. I am starting to think most of these women deserve the kind of men they get. They are never wrong. She even had the guts to say he gave half the shop's payment. Relationship is give and take. If I give when I have when the time comes let me see you are worth it.
DeleteGod bless you Yvonne.
DeleteShe shouldn't have collected a penny. Confirm leech and parasite she is. If her brother had gone to get that phone outside he would pay more than the normal amount. She is very useless and has nothing to add to that brother's life. Blood sucker.
ReplyDeleteRelax, It is not that serious. Why are you getting so worked up over a story that may be the figment of someone's imagination?
DeleteExactly
DeleteMs Abraodian leave the guy. He always supports tou women on this blog so for him to disagree for once shows he is right. it is a figment of someone's imagination but see your reply and some of the ladies saying she did the right thing ba? That Should tell you their mindset whenn it happens that it can happen and it has happened before so Nne biko be calming down....
DeleteRight
DeleteRead my comment again, didn't support her.
DeletePersonally, I don't like freebies esp. If that is the person's means of livelihood.
I would insist on paying the girl if I were the guy's mother.
I wouldn't have collected money from the mum since it's not a buying and selling business. She shouldn't have at all. After all,the man has been assisting her. Not fair at all.
ReplyDeleteWhen I say that a lot of Nigerian girls are greedy, love money and
ReplyDeleteare controlled by it like puppets, they will always come for my head.
A lot of marriages go down the drain because of this. "My money, my money"
when the journey hasn't even started.
She failed a character test and it is obvious.
She loves money more than enduring relationship. And blinded by greed, she does not even
see anything wrong?? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Abeg I stand with the guy on this .The guy has given her a lot already n she shouldn't have collected money from his mum for the service rendered.Haba if she made hair for her own mum , would she collect money from her.its a red flag Biko .
ReplyDeleteShe rendered a service. Making hair takes hours. Why should she do it for free? Paying half rent doesn't give anybody the right to expect free service. Does he want to contribute again next year? Most Nigerian businesses don't flourish because of nonsense like this. Friends and family always want free services. Nne you dodged a bullet. Move on.
ReplyDeleteThe guy dodged a bullet rather,the girl is a very wicked, greedy, senseless girl, why collecting money from the mother of a man that paid half of your shop rent and help you set up a business, the brother bought fone on the cost price is as good as giving him the fone free,but she can't spare a dime for anyone but want to take ,she is a leach that don't deserve to be close to anyone
DeleteAma, how are we sure it's cost price?? Where we there???
DeleteThe way the guy went about the issue is wrong!! What's with the name calling and all??
We say don't mix business with pleasure yet we are castigating the girl, na wa!!!
Tomorrow now, others will come and expect free hair!!
The girl has the right to either accept or reject the money
It's her right to demand payment for services rendered. Now it is his Mum, tomorrow it'd be his Mum's sister or friend. Na so e dey start. Because, she wants to be married, she will end up with users. Then it will be late to complain in future. A man that loves you and knows that you love money will give you a brief before such a business. My husband will use joke and tell me sef. And because of this money, he started reminding her of all he did for her? Tsk, tsk, tsk. Again, why did his Mum tell him about it when she was the one that paid without being asked. The family nwelu issues biko.
ReplyDeleteOk, when she puts to bed and her mother in law comes to visit, she must pay the woman to help out with the child too. You young women of today are very foolish, very, very foolish.
DeleteWhat do you think all the gifts given to omugwo goers is for?
DeleteAll i can say is that ceaser is coming to write long epistle tomorrow on this issue
ReplyDeleteThe girl shouldn't have collected money from her boyfriend's mum...makes no sense to me..
ReplyDeleteThe girl shouldn't have collected money from her boyfriend's mum...makes no sense to me..
ReplyDeleteShe shouldn't have collected money from the guy's mum, especially since the guy takes care of her. My friend that used to make hair in uni days, lost her mum in our 100 levels, she sustained herself making hair for people. She used my hair to learn and I was a willing participant, when she became a pro and people started to book her, she made sure to make my hair and I always paid her. After school, I got a job and moved to town, she got hers later and came to live in my house, she made my hair, I gave her money and she rejected it. Till she left the country with her hubby, she never took money from me to make my hair. She said it was her own little way of appreciating me the things I did for her.
ReplyDeleteSo if the guy paid for her shop, gives her money, bought her phone etc, then come on, she's wrong for collecting mum from his mum biko.
Nigerians are weird people, they have a different kind of mentality. Nothing is wrong with what the girl did! As a mother in-law to be I would love to pay even more than what she’s charging. I hate awoof on any level. Why would I go to a business and expect free services because my son is dating you? What if my son ends up not marrying you? Us Nigerians needs to start thinking differently Abeg.
ReplyDeleteThe guy shouldn't have paid for her shop either. What if he ended up not marrying her? I am sure the babe expected him to assist with her shop else she would have gotten the shop behind his back and paid without him knowing else she won't tell accuse him of paying only half. Talk true the babe is just wicked and greedy. I have met girls like her before they take but never give a dime.
DeleteI hate awoof with passion..... People will use awoof to insult you for nothing. #spotremover#
DeleteGates, abeg rest!!!! He paid half ba?? The girl has the right to collect money for services rendered from whoever!!!
DeleteThey are both immature in the handling of the issue biko
Anon 13:20, in line with your argument about Nigerians being "weird", the mother in law should never help her with her future kids, do omugo or anything of the like, to avoid being "weird." The oyibo people that have the selfishness culture have realized their mistake and are now preaching emotional intelligence and empathy being the most important skills even in the business world. Think long term, be wise!
DeleteThe woman’s Mother in law doesn’t do Omugo. Besides, the gifts bought and money given after to the woman after omugo is serves as payment.
DeleteOmugo is not a do or die affair Biko. Some of us that are very far from our families managed without it.
I took care of 2 kids with my husband and we managed just fine.
Anon19:30, your selfishness is the sole reason why nobody will do omugo for you
DeleteJust like you the lady will be very far from favour all the days of her life
Wisdom is profitable to direct. If I were the lady, I wouldn't have collected the money from the woman, or at worst, I'd just take a small fraction of it, say 1k & tell her to keep the rest with a smile, telling her that "mummy, let me use this one for Coca-Cola, I'm not not charging you".
ReplyDeleteAtleast, for the first time. Subsequently, we can work on sharing percentages. Same way the woman told her some she collected money is the same way she'll also tell her son that she didn't collect money or just collected a small fraction of it.
What pissed me off about the guy was calling the lady ungrateful thing..it's an insult. It's her hustle but wisdom is profitable to direct.
So, if that was her mum would she have collected money from her? I am a woman and she is wrong on this. I would have done mamas hair with delight and jeje ly collected the money from bf. Funny enough that one hair she did for mama would have gotten her more gifts and favor from her bf and husband to be. She is short sighted. She did not do well at all. The man should run bcos 2moro if he falls into financial issues the girl go run.
ReplyDeleteI don't support the girl on this one. Since the guy has been very supportive towards her and her business, she would have collected the cash from the guy instead. Something similar happened to a friend, na begging solve the matter before they got married last month o
ReplyDeleteThe lady is stingy and unwise. People like that will only take and take but release nothing! Wisdom is profitable to direct. Why not collect 'thank you' from the prospective mother-in-law and go and collect the money from the boyfriend since the guy doesnt even seem to be stingy? (if she couldn't let go?)
ReplyDeleteThe guy is absolutely wrong.
ReplyDelete1. He should have arranged before hand with the girlfriend how she will be compensated for the hair as he arranged the appointment, this is her business, her livelihood, regardless if you assisted to start the business. Payment arrangement agreed may have been a). Free, b). Free first time only, c), discounted cost, as per it is your mom and you have helped me, (same as he discounted) for her brother. It is absolutely wrong to assume that because she provides services, it cannot be valued. Her services are valuable in terms of time and skill. His goods are not more valuable than her services, I resent his and wll you all pomposity in that regard.
2. Since he failed to effectively communicate prior to the appointment, he acted rudely and irrationally in the chat, insulting her severally which was unnecessary. Several times, she offered to refund the money to make peace.
3. It is not your place to dictate to someone else how to run their business. Those who are successful in business, most times are able to separate the personal from the business. Even when the business owners use the services or buy stuff, they themselves actually pay for the goods and services for accountability, how much more "family and friends."
4. From his actions, this lady may sacrifice ALL her free services for his Mom, Sisters, Aunties and any others and still, they will not marry her.
5. His Mom definitely complained to him, if not, how did he know that she was charged for her hair. Apparently, she too was expecting free hair, then, why ask for the cost of the services? I dislike 2-faced people.
6. If his Mom was the hairdresser, and he sends his girlfriend to his Mom to her to do her hair, a). He would have paid the Mom for the hair beforehand, with huge tip, or b). Expect the girlfriend to pay the Mom with huge tip. Same principle here. This is a business.
He was rude, insulting in his chat. Took the opportunity to begin to tabulate all he ever did for her, which is a no no for anybody.
On her part, in hindsight, she should have refused the business, so no wahala, but you learn lessons.
This is my own opinion oh, please state yours.
Thank you so much!!!!
DeleteYou summed it up nicely🙏🙏
Thank you Anon 14:11.
DeleteI have siblings that run a business on the side. I order stuff from them and I pay them with shipping cost included. Because I’m family, they give me discount on the items but what I’m not going to do is request that they send me stuff and not pay them because they’re family. I do the same with an Uncle too. This is someone’s business for Pete’s sake. It’s a whole different ball game if I pay them and they refuse it for being family.
As much as this is business, I don't even like to mix business with pleasure. I would have collected my money from my boyfriend instead. I don't even like doing business with family and friends. #spotremover#
ReplyDeleteCharacter tests come in different guises. Both men and women do it in a relationship. The lady failed this one because she is one of the famed naija "entitled ladies". A simple , sorry or silence should have sufficed. Comparing oranges and apples i.e. Purchase of the phone .... made her fail the test woefully.
ReplyDeleteand this happens everyday. The man was not reacting to this singular incident and take note he tried to give allowance for her to realize her mistake and apologies, if only she had done that all the comments (mine inclusive) would not have been necessary.
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ReplyDeleteThis matter get as e be.
No 1 this boy doesn't love the girl because this single action is not enough for him to call off their relationship.
I mean he and his entire family are packs of lowlives for thinking so low. What is wrong in his babe liking to make money to the extent of taking payment for rendering service to his mom?
For him to have reasoned this far he and his mom and siblings had already discussed this and its just too low for them.
The 2nd part of the matter now is that if I'm in the girls shoe I will not take money from my bf's mom. If e too pain me I go collect am from bf.
The action of taking money from the mom may mean either of these two reasons :
1. Is that she likes money a lot to the point she couldn't pretend
2. Is that she is not the type that pretends, she is just free and didn't see anything wrong in that action. She has the mindset of live & let live.
Whichever case she doesn't deserve a Mommy's boy like this guy that dumped her.
Let her leave him alone and move on. She is not the type to be manipulated.
I hope she finds her type.
Stella I am surprised you are with her oh....haba how can she collect money. When his mum asked “how much “ she should have just said “don’t worry ma” pls she did wrong . How much was the money that she cldnt let it go? Just like he said she should have asked her boo to pay for the hair instead. She fall hand oh
ReplyDeleteStella the girl didn't do well please. Even if the guy didn't do all he said he's been doing for her, collecting money from that woman was uncalled for, let alone doing it to a supportive partner. Again, the reason why the guy was blowing everything up was because the lady in question was busy throwing tantrums, instead of trying to see reasons with him. In everything we do in life, wisdom is profitable to direct.
ReplyDeleteBut why will the guy's mom first ask her for the cost, pay and still go behind to discuss or even complain about it to the guy. This is a Problematic MIL red flag.
ReplyDeleteNa you get sense pass! Two faced mil from hell
DeleteSERIOUSLY THAT LADY IS WRONG. EVEN THO YOU WANT TO COLLECT MONEY SHE SHOULD JUST BILL THE BOYFRIEND WITH SWAG KNOWING FULLY WELL THAT THE GUY HAVE BEEN SUPPORTIVE.
ReplyDeleteBoth of them are foolish! They need a lot to learn. Both of them are suffering from entitlement mentality... When people who are dating behave as if they are married...
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