While some are hustling to get married and quickly doing so,some called it off before the big day and have no regrets......or do you?
I almost got married to one yoruba demon that lives in yankee,but he was a scam from the pit of hell oh...even after i called it off,he reappeared begging before i married my Oyi...No regrets oh...
If the yoruba demon I was dating had gotten his way, I'd probably be married to him now and be living a life of quarrels from lack of being controlled.
ReplyDeleteNo regrets whatsoever.
I am sure I have told my story many times on this blog. I can't thank Sella enough for talking and encouraging me to walk away from that. He couldn't hide his interest in my net-worth and his friends envied him for hitting a "Jack pot". I knew but I was so age conscious.
DeleteJust yesterday, I was telling my mum I am glad I found courage to brake it off and she appologised for the pressure she put me through when I asked that my father returned his brideprice. I met my amazing husband 2 weeks after and life has been sweet. I am celebrated and get gifts for no reason. He gives and gives and gives yet I almost married a shameless taker who was already talking about change of names on my property documents, me funding him to open a new line of business, sending his younger brother abroad...let me just stop here. God I am thankful.
The day he did "imego", the traditional marriage, I purged all morning. Each time they called the bride to come out I'd first run to the toilet. After I identified him with a drink, I almost poo on my body because everything in me was revolting. Rushed to the toilet vomiting and pooing till my body temperature rose. I called my dad to please tell them he won't be releasing me till after white wedding. He looked at me and agreed. And that was my saving grace. I was never officially released to him which made returning the bride price easy.
I can't believe I am still typing. Thank God.
Thank God for your life Sapphire.
Delete@saphire, this is the first time I’m reading your story. Wow! God is great, see all the signs he gave to you. I’m so happy your story ended in praise...
DeleteI still find it hard to believe that there are men out there who are takers, like you want a woman to feed, finance and sponsor you? Wow!
God please, let me not cross paths with such pain 🤮
@Saphire damn gal you dodge a bullet. I am happy for you.
DeleteSaphire, you dodged a freight train. Thank God for that. The guy was a destiny destroyer.
DeleteWow, Saphire you dodged a wrecking high voltage train!
DeleteYou didn't obey your woman instincts at first. Thank God for the decision you later took💖
@chelsy, they plenty, that what my friend was Dealing with until, she couldnt deal again ooh, she brought the ingrate to abroad. The guy na take yahoo guy for over 18 year with nothing to show for it. The family nkor biggest 419 family, including the mama. She hås to run. I really feel for her, a lady with a good heart, they dealt with her sha. I pray God give her the best. I dont want to call name i would have called the yahoo boy out. He was in malaysia before.
DeletePls pardon my writeup, my phone is on another language.
@ Sapphire is God not wonderful? God works in mysterious ways honestly,I believe you have your fears then but don't know how to walk away,,God now used serious purging to set you free from his claws.......
DeleteA broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. I was about starting marriage plans with one Igala babe few months ago but at the last minute, l realized that she wouldn't make a good wife, so l made a 360% uturn. Now dating this Hausa-Fulani babe hoping she becomes the right one. Na observing mode l still dey .
ReplyDeleteObserver well done o
Delete*Coughs* "She wouldn't make a good wife" What was her crime if you don't mind?
Delete*Quick to anger
Delete*Competitive behavior eg, my friends BF got her iPhone 11, l want it or even something better
*Slave to body creams or should l call it toning or bleaching.
*Pride. She feels like she is the most beautiful girl in the world.
*Her love is pay as you go.
Abeg e plenty. If you marry her type, you'll end up borrowing always to please her cause there is a certain standard of life she wants you to maintain
Good you let her off, such women won't be faithful in marriage when things take a nosedive.
DeleteGood one Eesah 👌🏽 I pray God bless you and your newly found lady
DeleteAmen. Thanks Ms A. You and yours too 😊
DeleteAwon slay mamas without money niyen.
DeleteI don't regret not marrying my ex in 2018. He was a liar, always lying he wasn't at home simply because he's other girl was home with him. The day I was with him & he liked over the phone to that one that he wasn't home was the day I started going to his house unannounced. And I always met her there. Eventually walked away & every called me crazy..I refused to accept his pleadings & moved on. Heard they got married & TTC. Na dem know
ReplyDeleteAnd that their TTC part excites you bah? In your mind now, it's your kamar that has caught them up, bah?
DeleteWell, I hope you are now married with children?
You were the side chick ooh. Men already know who they want to marry even on the first date.
DeleteI can't lie it will sweet me somehow if I were in her shoe. *shines teeth*
Inside life, don't 'shine teeth' at someone else's situation. Life is deep, very deep. Nobody is sure of anything.
DeleteGod help us.
Saphire, the thing no tire you?
DeleteYour story was interesting until you add the ttc part.
You were the side chick.
Odunayo I've read your story before, don't worry dear. God will give you someone that when you look back, you'll wonder what you ever saw in the douchebag.
Delete@ Saphire, I don't think she was gloating. Just a passive statement.✌️
Like I narrated previously, they came in droves...
ReplyDeleteThe most outstanding and persistent was the US-based
doctor who was also "born again," Both his parents and mine
were so sure that "this their choosy girl had reached the final
bus stop...let's see the reason she will give now..." (Both he and parents
didn't know I was a citizen anyway...)
When I said no (because the Lord had showed me whom I'd marry),
it ignited a serious issue with my mom. My dad was just
mute and watching. I had to relocate to my aunties house...
The "abroad born again doctor" was later cornered to one very fine
Christian lady that I know. They got married, had a baby and after two
years of marriage, the man died in an auto-crash. I felt so sad for
this very nice Sister in Christ he married and her child.
But I began to think, had I disobeyed the Lord's vision of the man that
I was yet to meet to marry me, would I have been a widow? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Yea, I don't have any regrets at all.
Death can happen to anyone, even a true christian. That he died doesn't mean he was a bad husband when he was alive or that his wife regretted marrying him.
Delete@14:08
DeleteYou just totally misunderstood my comment.
Did I say he was a bad husband or a bad man?
I said he was born again. Even the very nice sister I knew wouldn't have
married an unbeliever. I did not marry him, not because he was a "bad man"
but because, that was not the person that the Lord revealed to me that i
will marry. Please do not take my comments out of context. 😮😮😮😮😮😮
Always coming with so many tales by moonlight ?
Delete@Beds
DeleteThanks for ALWAYS reading my "tales by moonlight"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
please ang one of these days it will be nice if you were to share your pic with us in inhouse news or stella should do a standalone blog post for you oo, cause the way you talk about yourself it'll be interesting to see the face behind all of your yarning. I pray you do it one of these days, but who knows, maybe you are a man like some of your haters say. for someone who has no blog id, whatever you say really stands out.
DeleteI noticed how you have stopped boasting about your big smooth yansh... lol... well done. hopefully the other rebukes you have been receiving from blog visitors about how judgmental you are will eventually convict you too and you will learn to temper judgment with mercy.
God bless!
@17:27
DeleteYou are the chief "hater" for you have just called me what you insinuate that your colleagues call me.
No hard feelings though. 😊😊😊
What I write "stands out" because I write the truth and most of you do not like the truth.
My big behind was never "a boast." I began saying that because of questions thrown at me about dressing and
I had to mention that I don't wear jeans. More so, I just added that for "humor." Maybe you are missing the humor.
As for "conviction" I have NEVER AND WILL NEVER DESIST from speaking the truth. All the insults I get from you and co
are fuel for my truthful person. They encourage me. Jesus my Lord was called Beelzebub the prince of demons. He was said
to be "demon possessed." Haven't I been called Satan, evil...check the comments today and see.
Is there anything you haven't called me? If someone will see you in your skirt and blouse, and
well groomed feminine hair and big behind and breast and beautiful feminine voice and greets you "good morning SIR"
You correct the person that you are not a "sir." And she repeats it, how will you feel?
Try and conjecture what has been dished out to me here okay? Cheers. 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
what you write stands out but not cause it is true my dear, there have been several times when you have judged unrighteous judgment or quoted scriptures out of context.
DeleteDo you know what conjecture means cause I am very sure you dont want me to form an opinion about you based on what people have said.
Let me end with this, have you ever wondered why people judge you so harshly on this blog...? well Jesus said judge not so that you wont be judged, cause with the same judgment you will be judged and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. matthew 7:1-2.
The way you are with others is what you are receiving back. You point one accusing finger and 4 of your own fingers are pointing back at you.
Your own is not the same as Jesus, I pray God will open your eyes and convict you.
@22:19
Delete1 Cor. 5:12 What business of mine is it to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside?
I had one, I felt there was no spark but we were comfortable with each other. We had blood tests and all was well, he went to the village to discuss with his mum, came back and one way or the other decided to get back with his ex. They got married 3 years later and he begged me to attend, I was just wondering what he needs me there for. He has called about 2 times and when I see how far God has brought me, I thank God I didn't end up with him. I am with a better person and no regrets at all
ReplyDeleteQuite a number. No regrets, no regrets, no regrets....
ReplyDeleteAlways good to listen to the Holy Spirit. Spot the red flags. Plus don't ever accept what you do not want.
All things are working for my good. 💃
I once had a guy that whenever he wants to take me out, I must buy fuel in his car! no matter how short the journey is. Always giving excuses of not having money on him, that he has not been paid yet, we work in same organization one story or the other even with enof insult on top my money oh. If i refused, he would say am too proud cos am burst-up more than him. i finally cut off the relationship and guess what?, he started crying like a baby that he doesnt want to loose me. i later borrowed myself some senses.to crown it all he's a yoruba demon
ReplyDeleteThank God for u.
DeleteI almost got married, dated 3 years, got her engaged and was planning a big wedding, then come the fear about marrying onyibo after brainwashed by friends and family. I regret it. Broke up 5 days to the wedding. Culture differences was a major key
ReplyDeleteThank God I didn't marry my police office boyfriend then. We got engaged but everything wasn't right. Anytime he wants to come for introduction, something will just happen.
ReplyDeleteToday, I say thank you Jesus. I'm in my happy place now.
I am on this table. I almost got married to a bad liar and manipulator. Thank God it didn't happen!
ReplyDeleteSorry in advance for the long read.
ReplyDeleteMy ex fiancé lost his father young, he was the first born of 6 children, only one doing well while the rest of them all adults were managing, plus the one that didn’t finish school but has a woman and child leaving with their mother who my fiancé was paying school fees for along with the rest of them.
My fiancé then was hiding that his mum had doubts about me because we were not from the same state, and I’m too exposed, and I have my own money so I’ll be stubborn. She also wasn’t happy he was getting married when he hasn’t completed the family house he was building for them in Abuja. She wasn’t educated and had really archaic views on lots of matters.
I didn’t complain when I met her and she was very cold towards me, I didn’t care because I don’t try and cozy to boyfriend’s families on a normal day. It was while helping him answer some business emails that WhatsApp chats with his best friend asking if his mum has agreed came in.
I opened it out of curiosity and saw through the chat history the full convo. Apparently he was still trying to get her to agree and was ready to move forward if she said no without her consent. He knew he his was a deal breaker for me yet he hid it, while telling me everything was ok.
Though I am very financially stable, and my family is comfortable as well, I didn’t want to marry into a family that didn’t want me, or into one where my husband will commit so much of the family’s finances outside.
I saw how my dad’s people hated my mum, because my dad was bread winner for his people. And the only time I saw my parents quarrel was over his greedy family and their numerous wants.
So I called my father and told him not to meet with our kinsmen for list, as that was the stage we were on at the time. He asked me if I was sure and I explained everything to him and he sided me.
I returned Oga’s ring, and moved on. All efforts to try to get me back was futile, it was the one thing I won’t compromise on Biko.
My new fiancé is amazing. His parents are educated, very simple people, and they’ve been good to me. The wedding prep so far has gone smoothly because our opinions are sought before anything, they just provide guidance just like my dad.
His siblings are all well to do, and busy with their own lives nobody has time to be looking at each other. They all come together to sort out family issues, so no one carries the load.
Leaving my former fiancé was a good decision, and I would have regretted marrying him.
Nice read. I am currently dating a guy who the family always ask him for money. I am seriously considering. I have my own money, i thank God i just want a man whose family are all doing well for themselves.
DeleteAlmost got Married to a chronic cheat, this guy just wouldn't stop, dated for 6yrs,he also wasn't responsible with money, I met him when I was 20,forgave him multiple times, I saw pregnancy test result of ladies in his wallet, he would always beg my family when I want to break up and I couldn't open up to them, he was a slave to sex.
ReplyDelete2018 I met an amazing guy, totally not my spec but this guy is IT,broke up with uncle hot deek and moved on, he still stuck around till last year, told me he was getting married to one of his side chicks.
Called me on his intro day and was saying rubbish, I realized that he would have been telling those same things to someone else if I was getting married to him.
I'm grateful I left him, God had to bring me my best friend cos I was so attached to my ex.
I honestly wish him d best in marriage and prays that he changes, also he's so unemotional.
My man and I are saving towards a 2021 wedding, he's high on sexual purity and treats me with utmost respect plus I have peace! Used to think I was bipolar with my ex cos my mood swings and anger was over the top, now I'm healthy and happy, I've not googled bipolar symptoms in over a year, lol
I'm in q beautiful place RN and I have no regrets.
Vee.
My friend that knows my story saw this post and called my attention to it, lol.
It can only get better.
Thank you Stella for this platform.
Rooting for you !!!!!
DeleteAll the best and God Bless you future home !!!
I pray everything works out well. All the best
DeleteAll the best
DeleteTo be honest, a bad man can bring out the beast in a good woman.
DeleteI'm happy for you.
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ReplyDeleteShare it anyway.
DeleteI don't think that reason is enough not to want to share your story. Once you tell your truth, don't mind anyone judging you unfairly. They will eventually drop it because they will become tired eventually.
DeleteI've been waiting on you to share your story .
DeleteI was a silent reader when you posted about your intro and I still wonder what went wrong, if your story would help someone please do not hesitate to share .
However I am proud of you for not settling for less than you deserve , marriage is too long a journey to walk in blindly.
Where do I start from 😂, Let me just say up to several months after d situationship ended, whenever I remembered that I nearly got married to this guy i would start to have this panic attacks. Whenever I feel downcast or feel somehow towards God, I would just remember that if God could save me from getting married to D, then I am rest assured that HE still love me
ReplyDeleteAlmost got married to a very obsessive, jealous dude. Surprisingly this dude was fine for days, well to do but he's a control freak. When we started dating he was sweet, came to meet my mum, took permission to take to to church, drops by luck break to check on me. My mum feel in love with his pretentious act n he could do no wrong
ReplyDeleteFirst sign was we were at the bank queuing to get money, a guy walks up to me to enquire, oga have vex, he praticakky dragged me n stormed out of the bank.
Another scenery was at some eatery, a guy that make my hair hailed me, problem, oga stormed out yet again, I had to go out running to him. Controls what I wear, even the hair I make. It was the most choking and stressful relationship ever. And he acts so perfectly when he's around my folks that u would think he's God sent
Last straw was when I eventually met his dad who has being away, man was so nice n kid, uncle stepped out for a bit, came back met me and the d dad chatting. A memorable day cos it was the day president Obama was sworn in. He came back saw us witted at the living room with his younger sis hosting, he started fuming, told me to stand up we are leaving. In the car rage started, why was I chatting so friendly with his dad, why did I give his dad my no, some that wanted to help me with a Job as he asked what I did for a living. Oh men that day he saw a new side of me, I offloaded all me past rage, he was shocked. Gave him the insult of his life, broke up that day. When I told my mum she was beyond shocked.
Dude stalked me for 6 months, tormented with calls, moved to a house opposite mine. Jezzz that God I dodged a bomb.
Today am married to the most amazing man, exactly my type, the exact way I asked God for.
You really dodged a bullet.
DeleteThank God for you
DeleteYour story reminded me of the movie 'The perfect guy'. Sanaa Lathan, Morris Chestnut and Michael Ealy.
DeleteInteresting read. Sapphire pls give us the full gist.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed all the stories and I want some more.
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