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MARRIAGE BY FORCE

Good Stella


Please I need some honest advice urgently before I make the worst mistake of my life.


I met Mr X at his company’s end of year party I ushered. He was very courteous and persistent so I started officially dating him during NYSC in 2018. He is extremely intelligent, witty and quite good looking. He is extremely wealthy from clean deals and family money. I really fell for him and he is my first and only everything from kissing to sex.




I was serving in the South South and will travel all the way to Lagos every two weeks on my monthly allawee and from the few modeling gigs I booked to see him. I stayed in a lodge because I didn’t have enough money to pair with a friend for accommodation. Not until I fell sick and was hospitalized before he coughed up N50k for me to add to my hospital bill and attach with someone for the remaining two months of service.




Mr X will fly first class, rent a jet for local trips with his friends, buy wrist watches, co-owns a beach house, spend $5.7k in the club in one night but didn’t care that I was literally living from hand to mouth. He will even be bragging about what he bought when he travelled and will be showing me pictures. It used to pain me so much that I will cry bitterly but I was too timid to confront him. He knew I was fending for myself but he didn’t care.



I had to cut down on hangouts because all his friends wives and girlfriends were well catered for and it caused a deep inferiority complex for me. I used to stalk them on Instagram and weep. They will all travel for vacations and he will be the only one without his girlfriend. The other girls sensed it and would exclude me from their girls trips and dinner dates. It really really affected my self esteem. I felt so ugly and unworthy.



We broke up last year September after I asked him to assist with N70k for a professional exam and he laughed said I should ask my father. He knows my father is late. I’ve never cried as much that day in my life. Ofcourse I missed the exam because I couldn’t balance the money. He did too many things that made me feel very worthless. An example that hurt was when he told his chef to stop calling me madam because his chef could feed my entire family. One time he told his friend not to bother asking me about my alcohol preference because I’m a smirnoff girl. At the beach house he has laughed at my outfit and his friends had to tell him off. Painful things like that. I had to stop dating him for my own sanity. I hate to admit it but I had two abortions for him and those were the only times he actually seemed genuinely worried about my wellbeing. I fell into serious depression after the exam incident but God used a job offer to save me. I currently earn N120k and use it to support my family. I’m also currently single as I’ve taken self actualization and getting closer to God as a priority for now.



After months of silence he called on valentines day to apologize to me. Since then he has been on my neck for a reconciliation and has been singing marriage. In April he sent me N5m on my birthday. On the 24th of each month he sends at least N500k. I’ve warned him to stop sending me money and blocked his numbers. He still finds a new number to call. I’ve insulted him but he laughs it off and will say my new fierceness will be channeled to the right things very soon. Basically making sexual jokes out fo my resistance. He reminds me every time that he deflowered me and we had two abortions together. He says we have a soul tie.



To the reason for my panic. My mum and pastor’s wife called me for a meeting this evening to tell me that Mr X is my husband and I am the Esther of my family. They said they’ve met his elder sister (his parents are late) and a formal introduction is being planned for October ending. Somehow he had found a way to link up with my mum and has bought over my own mother.

 My mum also dropped a bombshell that she had accepted a house gift from him and will move into it with my siblings (8, 10 and 17 years) in December while I will move into my husband’s house. I felt very faint during all of this and still feel faint as I type. My mum spoke about the promises he made to sponsor my brother to US for schooling and so many other things. They’ve planned everything on my head and are making me feel like a wicked child for not agreeing to it. They both knelt down to beg me to consider my siblings. I feel very bad and cornered as I type this. If someone told me an adult graduate was being married off in 2020 I’d say it’s a lie but here I am.




I firmly believe that it’s the way a man values you and treats you when you are at your lowest that he will treat you when you get married. I feel like I’m being sold into being a baby factory for an emotionally abusive and highly manipulative man. Please I really want to run away from all of this but I think about my siblings. I don’t want them to suffer for my decision. I plan to transfer all the money he has been giving me into my mum’s account and run away to squat with a good friend in the state I served. My boss is a good man so I want to share my problems with him and ask if he can permit me to work remotely till the end of the year. I need to escape from this madness.




Most importantly, I really need reassurance from everyone that I’m not the one being wicked and childish about the whole thing. I’m turning 25 next year and he will be 42 in November. I’m really scared for my future and close to having a panic attack this night.

*If you do not have longer throat for money,please do not marry this man as more chronicles will load and then it might be too late to leave.....Please forgive your mother,she is suffering from poverty mentality and that is what he is using to try to get you..

If your mum persists,then go and use the money to rent a small place and tell her to marry him instead...

You are young and easily swayed but please stand your ground and do not marry this man..DO NOT!!!