MONDAY IHN

Greetings!!!!!

IN HOUSE MEMO


Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm so long a thanksgiving post..


By this time 15 years ago i had just welcomed my first fruit and in a whole lotta pain cos i had CS....it was pain that knocked me off my feet...
It was pain that humbled me...
it was pain i had no threshold for at all...
It was pain that signalled me to Motherhood....

Motherhood that i knew nothing about...
Motherhood that no one prepared me for...
Motherhood the life changing title that ensures you never go back to being the same.

I looked at my Bambino,his curly hair ,his eyes and i was in awe....
I counted his toes and fingers and started to cry but the pain slapped me out of it...I wanted to get up,they said i could..well i couldn't anyway.....


Everytime Mimi's (abbreviated name)birthday comes,the cut of the CS drags me,the place i was given the injection on my back tingles.....
This day i became a mother and killed sleep,i killed peace of mind,i killed freedom of movement and association and stared into the most beautiful gift ever....

Today i look up when i talk to him because this 15 year old stubborn boy is taller than his tall mama..

What can i say?

This is a thanksgiving post.....

God you are awesome and i beg you that for everyone looking up to you for a child,let my thanksgiving connect with their yearning for a child ,that it may happen before 2020 signs out....

Thank you to everyone who left a comment on spontaneous post and on Instagram wishing him a happy 15th,he says ''Thank them for me Mamam''
(Mamam is French for Mama)


Happy Birthday to those who have Birthdays today..

If you gave birth today many years or a year ago for the first time..how was the feeling?...






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CHRONICLE'S OF MELODY THE RUNS-GEH

It's been Rosy between me and my madam, as I have starts learning to accept my fate and the so-called job she got for me, but that fine boy, I still hold am tight, then one day I found out that I was pregnant, cheiiii, it was already 4 months gone..

 I confided in one of the co-olosho' there (Auntie Glory) and she took me to the hospital, we paid, the water in the placenta was drained and we were asked to come back after 3 days if I start to feel any sign of contractions, after some days, we came and met another doctor on seat, he continued, did the D&C , dragged the foetus out and scattered it inside my body, I cried so much that day, my heart was in shreds, I was in pains...

I came back home and bleeding started, I fainted almost all the time, people were begging me to die already, I bled continuously for six horrible months, I was smelling, no pad could hold the bleeding, I turned white, my madam got tired of me and left me to die, after about 6months, then Auntie Glory had left the job because someone fell in love with her and married her out of the job...

when the insults became much, she came and took me to her house, she was taking care of me, for six months I could barely eat, nothing settled in my stomach, I throw up at will, I was having constant migraine, non-stop banging in my head, my life was so miserable and was slipping off my arms, my fine boy ran away at mere hearing that I was pregnant, even his mom whom I was doing a lot for told me that his son cannot settle for my type (and na that my type de feed and take care of her before ooo)

so one very hot afternoon, I waited as usual for everyone to leave the compound before I will come out to bath, I didn't know that Auntie Glory's nosy neighbor was around, I walked quietly to the bathroom, had my bath and on my way out, I had started dripping wet with blood on the floor, the woman came out and started talking, that I brought bad luck to the compound, messing everywhere up with blood and foul odour, that I should beg God to take my life already and that I must buy drinks and cleanse their compound for them....Ahhhh that was it for me!! 

Enough is enough, I went inside, dressed up, went to the shop in front of the compound and bought rat poison, I didn't know that the woman had called Auntie Glory, she rushed back home and met me about to gulp it down, she was so angry, did I tell you guys that I had gone for stomach evacuation three good times plus plenty scan?? Hmmmm and I had another one that day, so we dressed up and went to the hospital, they did another one, I got back and was so pressed, I couldn't wait to get home, so I bent by the bush path and pee'd, behold a baby' hand pushed out, it was already black and rotten, from the moment the bleeding started to dry off, about two months later I was back on my feet...

 my madam heard that I was okay, she came and dragged me out of Auntie Glory's place, they fought but there was little she could do to her and her squad.... Hmmmmm  





This asawo work na wah oooh!!!






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PRAYERS AND CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER

I have come to believe from what and all I see and read that praying for a life partner is not about answered prayers. MOST times, people have prayed for a particular kind of spouse and got opposite of it. Not being given a better and lasting spouse no, but a complete opposite that even leave some being traumatized, abused or killed.


I did not say prayers do not work in the choice of selecting life partner but pray or not, if you're not lucky, you end up unhappy in the marriage that leaves you wondering. Some might ask if one waited for answers or confirmation to the said prayers?


Cases of bad folks marrying good people abound and vice versa.


A guy went celibate for 2 years + prayers to get a wife ( a good wife probably). Not as if the guy was a "bad guy" so to say apart from "normal stuff". Never forced a girl against her will, never aided or did abortion but ended up marrying a girl that pursued him with knife in public. Denies him sex. Curses him to " do and come down very fast" when they have sex. 


In 9 years of their marriage, they have not had s#x up to 20 times. Love making is out of the question. How she insults him and his parents just because home man asks for sex from her (his wife) is appalling. She beats the children without provocation. Tells the children their father should die. If that man travels, the children starve. She prefers her work to her family. She once called him 90 times in 5 minutes to kill his phone battery just because he did not answer the first call.


If you're lucky your prayers in the choice of life partner were answered, rejoice. You did nothing special others did not or have not done before. And you're not more righteous than others.



If after praying, fastens and sacrifices yet you are not happy and got deceived and settled for less and being cheated on and under appreciated and lied to and abused in one way or the other, take heart. Be strong. You could not have prayed harder. Just bad luck. 


This post is by no means discouraging praying for life partner , not at all. A good, well to do God fearing man is the wish of most women while a beautiful well behaved and respectful woman is the wish of most men. Yet, upon all the prayers put in, how many got what they prayed for? 




Do the stats yourself. Check your family and neighborhood. Upon the prayers, spouses are in for the sake of the children and not because of vows made. Luck to me is the key which is what I think folks should concentrate on. Luck to be lucky in choosing a life's partner.


Baltika.




WOW...this is really a home header...






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SERIAL DEBTOR GIST


Stella, the debtor ran away from the hospital, she was caught and then LAPO people came and took her away, one of them (the people she's owing, the one that runs a POS business) asked me what I intend doing about my money, I said nothing, I told her that I have accepted my fate, she said she wants to do same, then one other woman said "isn't that what we are all will do?

 Is there anyone in this family that looks like he or she can release a dime in this case? Abeg make we de go, let's go and cry our cry at home and to God", I got up and left, and so did a few other people, the one's that stood as guarantor too, some have agreed amidst tears to pay the money they didn't eat, some have decided to in Huncuuu Aiyelala to bring their money for them, I have left it all to God, I don't know why this money is paining me like this, I don't have, yes, but I'm over mourning the money....

My business needs that money right now so badly, yes, but I don't want to be crying everyday like I've been doing for the past days, I don't sleep well anymore, I don't know why I attach so much importance to the things of this world.... I need to be me again, I wan play, I wan crack joke, smile.... Phewwww okay I don rant finish.....




I have told you that your money is gone but you no dey hear...continue chasing the wind!!!...debtors like this NEVER pay back.....

And guess what?she didnt take sniper,it was all a ploy to get you all off her back...she is a Professional serial debtor...






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FROM MY INBOX


Good day Stella..
Please thank God for me,I almost committed suicide..
I did fibroid operation 11 days ago::

If not for God's intervention, I would have died yesterday..
I don't know what got into me, just like a trance I took sniper,I'm glad I'm ok now..

Still feeling very weak, will send you details once I'm ok..




OMG OMG OMG OMG ...where did you see the sniper?how?please get back to me i mailed....My dear BVS please thank God oh,we would have lost one of our family members!!!!







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BIRTH TOURISM INFO NEEDED

Hi Stella Nwanyioma, trust you are doing well?
Your blog has been a blessing to me,I benefited from the TTC prayers and I bless God and appreciate you for that.
I am in my third missionary journey o,God is good. I want to go for birth tourism in Canada,so I want to ask blog visitors that have embarked on such journey for guidance and necessary info.
I will greatly appreciate this.


If you have any info on this please post in the comment section or send me mail if you wanna contact her directly....
Congrats as you await your third patter of tiny feet. 








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