In her words;
''I woke up this morning and realised that this is the first birthday I will spend without my husband in 25 years.
His quiet demeanor and unassuming look outwardly belied the fact that he was e-x-t-r-a as my daughters would say. He did everything with passion and then some. His motto was "What is worth doing, is worth doing to EXCESS!" My husband was a REAL MAN, in every sense of the word. Full of testosterone in everything he did. Everything was big and bold, but very loving.
My birthdays were always full of surprises. Partly because I would never remember (like today, I just remembered) and partly because of the gifts he would buy. For years he would always buy me a Hermès bag, a most expensive one, but not a popular recognisable one with their logo, so you wouldn't know.
I would be happy when I saw the orange box , then slightly (ever so slightly) peeved that it wasn't one of the popular ones with the . When I would point it out to him. He would say" but this one is far more expensive" and show me the receipt, then end the conversation saying nonchalantly. "What does it matter? What is most important is that YOU know." Gadgets were another popular choice (very manly), I possess every type of electronic gadget on the planet.
Especially phones. The other day I asked the price of an HTC phone one of his favourite gifts to me.When they told me I almost passed out, "Whaaaat!!!" I had always assumed they were a couple of hundred £'s maybe three at the most. That's the value I ascribed to a phone in my mind, but over £1000 for a phone?
I've been going through quite a few surprises like that lately. I'm thinking how I would gladly love to have him celebrate with me today and to receive any one of any type of present from him. I am writing this to remind everyone to cherish every moment you have with your loved one, even the annoying ones. Remember everything is done in love, it may be deep deep down, and you may not understand it in the moment, but it truly is.
Whenever we quarrelled he would always end it with " Helen I love you, I will always love you, I'm with you, that's all that matters. It takes death to realise that truly that's all that matters."
Awww, a man that really knows how to treat a woman
ReplyDeleteGod is still in-charge madam.
ReplyDeleteMay his soul continue to rest in peace. Not easy losing your life partner especially when you both had a good relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou miss the gifts,but not any moment you shared together as husband and wife,not even with the kids.You miss him on your birthday, what about his own birthdays or less say, without the birthdays,there was no special moments between you too.
ReplyDeleteI just feel like you shouldn't have written this and put it out in public.Its so shameful jor.
💯 percent correct. Very materialist love. Didn’t like the write up at alllll
DeleteExactly she missed the expensive gifts not the precious moment with the man..So vain
DeleteYou are the one who should be shameful with with your mosquito brain.hunger don wire tour brain sote d brain don damage finish.go n hug transformer naa since u have the right to tell her what and what not to right.onu ure!
Deletejeez you are so shallow....stupidly shallow and judjemental as hell. go back to school since you cant comprehend simple english
DeleteI agree with you.
DeleteSame thing I felt. This looks too materialistic! Just like she misses only his gifts....honestly, don't see the need for this her post
DeleteVery materialistic write up. Judging by what she wrote ,she doesn't miss the man at all. She only misses what he gave her.
DeleteMay his soul rest in peace. She will find someone else to fulfill her materialistic desires.
This is not fair at all. It is her BiRTHDAY. A day she has shared with him for many years. How can she not remember all he did for her on a day as special as her bday. Of course it will bring nostalgic feelings.Things he would have done for her on that special day. See how u guys are going about how materialistic she is. She even rounded it up with how important it is to cherish moments but u guys did not see that . Na wa to una o
DeleteShandyleeks you peeped into my mind. You are on point 💯%.
DeleteHer husband really adored her but Helen's write up speaks volumes. Quite a shame.
KEEP SHUT ABEG. Let her mourn her hubby how she wishes.
DeleteBut Helen is materialistic and has always been. That’s her lifestyle.
DeleteHelen has always been materialistic. She acted like a Saint but she is nothing but a vain and superficial one. She left her ex-husband Jimmy Davies when he was broke and become 2nd wife to Dr Ajayi. She always run after married men when she was young and I remember when she was going out with Dr. Clarkson Majomi and he gave her a custom jewelry and lied to her that it was diamond. Fake ass woman and people wonder why she is Nike Oshinowo friend!
DeleteRumor in the press has it that Helen Prest Ajayi had a hand in Nike Oshinowo's victory as the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria back in 1991. Nike later on denied it towards the end of her reign, but I remember reading reports about it. Happy birthday to Helen. What happened between her and Jimmy Davies (a relative of Ojukwu?)
DeleteWhat happened is that she left him when the money was gone and become 2nd wife to Dr Ajayi.
DeleteCherish every moment! He was such a sweet man.
ReplyDeletePeople with poverty mentality just left the room
ReplyDeleteI tell you.
DeletePoverty on all counts.
Some are up shouting how 'materialistic she is'
DeleteLmao
DeleteThis is beautiful. You never know what you've got until it's gone. Happy birthday beautiful try and look at the bright side of life. It is well.
ReplyDeleteLovelace
Happy birthday madam
ReplyDeleteIt is well
Awwwn, sooo sweet
ReplyDeleteAfter destroying his 1st marriage abi? After he left his own kids virtually uncared for and took in all your kids from your previous marriage? Just keep asking God for forgiveness. Hmmmm.
ReplyDeleteWow.....😳😳fear anons on this blog....🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
DeleteMadam, leave God to judge matters.
DeleteWow...I googled her now, the man left his first legal wife with 5 children. Now all she missed her the financial aspect of the man
DeleteMarriage that was destroyed before they met. Tell the truth please.
Deletemarriage was not destroyed before they met!he walked away from his first family because he saw beautiful woman and she held on not letting him look back. i know the story. her write up is very materialistic cos thats all he was to her.
DeleteHelen is not what the media portrays her to be with her cross eyes. She left Jimmy Davies when he was broke
DeleteMay his soul continue to rest in peace
ReplyDeleteIt wasn't as if there were no cherished memories between them but this is just a post about what it would have looked like on her birthday if he was still alive. Birthday memories, I guess.
ReplyDeleteAbeg tell people that have coconut n water inside and call it brain.
DeleteGod Bless you 🙏
DeleteWow so so touching
ReplyDeleteEyah
ReplyDeleteWhich HTC cost £1,000 ? Lol
ReplyDeleteThis lady has money but no class. She likes to tell everyone about how much her items cost. I remember one write up she did about how she went to Europe to but a dress for her birthday and something about flying first class... quite irritating. Your husband was classy. Real money does not shout. Those that know a Hermes bag will know when they see one. You don't have to have the logo screaming from the bag. Very showy lady, makes me think she is overcompensating for something. Distasteful.
ReplyDeleteLol!! Human beings!! She just told us how much her husband understood her love language which is of gifts but every one has called her names wow!!! Is it your marriage you think it’s easy to be married for 25years
DeleteHow she ran through Europe looking for her perfect 50th birthday dress!!! Hahhhhaha!
DeleteCalm down. She married a man who likes her like that. Most of you are just mad because your husbands doesn't have the initiative to buy you stuff
DeleteNah 17:11 don't try that trite line here.
DeleteSome of us had fathers, brothers and husbands who shower us with much more than what she wrote as a tribute.
How could I remember my dad or husband when he passes on by just the cars, house, clothes, and jewellery he gave me?
It's curious she only mentioned material things and not precious moments spent together.🙄
Same old materialistic Helen. Some people here understand. She’s very nice but very showy.
DeleteHelen is from the Prest family, they are wealthy in there own right and she was well schooled. So all these bad belle. A man has every right, as does a woman, to find a new partner if he is not happy with what he ended up with. By the way, almost all first marriages are mistakes. Men are better prepared and mature by their second marriages. Her write up may sound materialistic to those that are from not well to do backgrounds, she expressed her love as she knows best. You too go and look for a man that would leave his wife for you. Bad belle bunch
DeleteLies @ By the way, almost all first marriages are mistakes. Men are better prepared and mature by their second marriages.
DeleteMore lies and idiocy @Her write up may sound materialistic to those that are from not well to do backgrounds.
A bit weird. Almost like fishing for who would take over buying Hermes bags or her. Mmhhh...not sure what to make of this writ up to be honest
ReplyDeleteDon't know what to make of this write up, to be honest 🤦
ReplyDeletedistastful writeup. i know the first family. man just abandoned them and took over her own.
DeleteSeems the man was loved because he could provide... I thought the memories of a loved one should be about the moments together? Not how he bought you a designer bag or how much a phone costs.. it felt so weird reading this.
DeleteShe has always been about the money.
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