How often do you go shopping for food?
I don’t have the time to do that because of work. Therefore, my wife handles that aspect. I don’t know how often she does that.
Do you take note of the nutritional value of the things you eat?
My wife knows all about food and it is her duty to take not of that. She makes sure she gives me the best of what I need to eat. I do not take note on my own (of the nutritional value), but my wife does it for me.
Do you know how to cook?
No, I don’t know how to cook. I can only boil water. There was only a time I tried to cook, but my wife eventually did that for me. I told her how I wanted the soup to be made and the ingredients I wanted in it. I call it Ibu stew.
Do you like spicy food?
No, I do not really like it. Also, I’m scared of food that has certain types of flavours.
Do you like to eat out or eat at home?
It depends, I’m always out for work, so I eat out. But whenever I’m back home, I always eat at home.
What is your favourite meal?
I love eating ‘swallow’ with good soups like vegetables, egusi and okra.
Do you think cooking should be done by only women or by both genders?
Cooking is for the women and should be done by them, except on few occasions if you just feel the need to cook, which shows you have regard for your wife. Asides that, cooking is a woman’s duty.
When a man cooks, it is either because the wife is away from home and he’s alone. So, he has to cook for himself.
Have you ever eaten anything that made you ill?
Yes, I have, and it was due to the fact that I ate at a wrong time. I was on set and we had to shoot. I therefore, postponed eating until later in the evening and by the time I ate it, made me sick. It gave me constipation.
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😂😂😂 This man is absolutely unserious and bonkers
ReplyDeleteHubby cooks very well,and my brother is a professional chef. Is wife dose not enter kitchen talk less of cooking. Hubby just made chicken pepper soup and rice 4 me now. He cooks Sundays. If he can't we eat out. I don't enter kitchen on Sundays.
DeleteWell he has enough abdomen space for the food
Delete😔🤣😁😄
DeleteArguing with dis man sef is a waste.
DeleteThe best chefs Ramsey Gordon,Wolfgang Pac,Jamie Oliver are mostly male. ....when he wont leave Asaba to know what is going on in d world.
The truth is some people were brought up this way. I grew up in a home where women were always those in the kitchen doing all the cooking except pounding yam. The only thing that changed my mentality is education and socialisation but that not withstanding, I still don't feel absolutely comfortable for a man to cook for me as I always find something missing. My partner on the other hand is not ok with a woman cooking for him so I just let him cook and serve for national peace. I think people should just be allowed to do what works for them rather than someone saying it must be done this way or that way. Understanding each other is key.
Delete15:21 I thought omitting "h" is only when some people speak. You actually wrote this "Is wife dose not enter kitchen talk less of cooking."
Delete*His wife *does* not enter...
Please, stop that break-dance o! 💃
As long as the man knows bringing home huge sums of money is the man's duty then I have no issue with what he said. But you see these blood suckimg leeches called men nowadays they want a woman to go out work hard to bring home money then still come back, slave in the kitchen and raise kids. When she is not a robot. Usually poor men have this mentality
DeleteWhy not get a cook?
Ibu stew? OK nah
DeleteHmmmm..
ReplyDeleteI find it hard to believe/understand when some men say that they can't cook...
DeleteHis opinion.
ReplyDeleteEating is a man duty.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣 you are on your own if you get angry over a comment from this one because you are just wasting your time, energy and anger which can be use in better ways.
ReplyDeleteYou're right ✅
DeleteWomen Don hear am.for this side of the world sha
ReplyDeleteWhat do you expect from an igbotic man? So long as he cheerfully provides,his wife won't mind
ReplyDeleteAmazon baroness you have said it all nothing to add.
DeleteAbsolutely his headech.
ReplyDeletePronounced as spelt right?
DeletePlease ooh , you people should enlighten me cos I am really confused 🤷♀️
ReplyDeleteBefore is it the husband's duty to cook for the family, cos I don't understand this ongoing 'wokeness'?
So after he gets home from work, I'll just stretch my legs and tell him , I didn't cook because it's his duty?
It's okay if he decides to go into the kitchen and cook for us, but for me to say I will no longer cook in my house because it is not my duty is what I don't understand.
Am I being archaic or are other married women pretending?
Madam 1800 archaic mentality, you sit at home all day doing nothing so it’s expected that to even the workload you cook.
DeleteLots of women run businesses and do corporate jobs so cooking is not as simple as it used to be. My marriage is still young but during this lockdown my husband has been cooking every weekday because he works from home and I don’t.
When things were normal, I cook basic soup and stew over the weekend and whoever gets home first will boil rice, yam or make eba for the other. Sometimes I get home and he has made jollof spaghetti for us because he feels like eating it. Other times we buy food outside and eat ourselves out till we fall asleep when we get home.
So madam 1800 archaic mentality, it is not about wokeness or pretense. Your reality is just very different from others. If you walk into civilization you’ll realize cooking is no longer an exclusive duty of women...or are you Mrs Ibu?
If we agree It is the man's duty to provide then It is the woman's duty to cook. This however doesn't mean the man cannot help from time to time in the kitchen.
DeleteTwin, cooking is basic life skill just like doing laundry, driving, cleaning. Anyone who can't do it has a problem and should endeavour to learn. In a home, of course a woman is better equipped at everything nurturing so she handles cooking most of the time but that does not make it her duty solely that she must do no matter her disposition. Hat is why marriage is a partnership where both is a help to the other. None is a slave. Same thing goes for providing for the family. It is sick for women to also assume it is the sole responsibility of the man to provide. Ability to provide, nurture and protect is a basic any human must be capable of before venturing into marriage.
Delete"So after he gets home from work, I'll just stretch my legs and tell him , I didn't cook because it's his duty"
DeleteTheres no one rule meets all to this. From your write up you its obvious you are the stay home partner, so its actually not cool to be home all day and your partner comes home and not have food to eat.
I get pissed too sometimes when I come home from work and theres no food waiting for me.
Ibu should rather say it's HIS wife's duty to cook in HIS home.
Anyway This his comment is the least of my problems actually.
Nothing is wrong with you at all. People are just applying ‘feminism’ where it is not necessary.
DeleteYou're probably a housewife so this is not your cup of tea.
DeleteAnon 15:46, with the modern mentality, when God provides me with a good job tomorrow, it doesn't change my responsibility of cooking for the family. If my hubby helps out with cooking, I always appreciate him for it, but I'll never say because I now contribute to the financial quota in the home, the cooking responsibility will now be pushed to him.
DeleteAllow me enjoy my archaism in peace
Madam 1800 archaic mentality, I do pray you find a job. If you can juggle cooking with your job then that’s fine. Your tone was very judging that’s why I replied in like coins. Enjoy your archaism in peace and allow others keep on enjoying their modernism in peace.
DeleteTS you go mess for body o.
DeleteIf you are running your own business while cooking for your home, yes you can manage that stress.
Else one must bow for the other.
There are vultures outside that will definitely cook for your man, if you cannot cook as a woman get a cook. Women run your homes dont follow all this feminist. Be on top of the home affairs or else it will be sidechick that will decide the colour of your bedsheet and curtains. Dont be a figure head at home.
DeleteDamaged man with low mentality. Is your wife's duty to cook ad not for me.
ReplyDeleteLame mindset...
ReplyDeleteVery lame
DeleteWhatever,I'm tired of this gender roles war and shit.
ReplyDeleteBut I once watched a cooking show ehere mr Ibu cooked egusi soup. How come he said he doesnt know how to vook.
ReplyDeleteExactlyy. I remember too
DeleteHe said so simply because he doesn't know how to cook.
ReplyDeleteEveryone to his/her own belief.
Mine will always remain "he/she who loves/eats food should know how to cook it"
We shouldn't get it twisted. It doesn't mean a man shouldn't cook but cooking as we know is a woman primary role in a family. Women does the cooking but that doesn't mean a man shouldn't cook when need be.
ReplyDeleteI don't have issues with men with his kind of mentality as long as you are not expecting the woman to financially assist you in settling the bills at home because providing for the family is a man's Biblical responsibility.
ReplyDeleteMen of these days wants to have it both ways, they want a woman that is financially independent and can chest 50% of the family bills, meanwhile these lots are fiercely against assisting their spouse with the chores at home.
Mchewwww!!!
It's between him and his wife in their home with his distended belly. Whatever rocks their boat. 😑
DeleteThank you!! A man thinking it is my duty to cook is no problem as long as he can financially support the house and then some. I have no issue preparing the meals. Whether I prepare the meals with or without help is not his business sha. So far there is food when he gets home
DeleteHe's 100% correct. In a marriage, cooking is the woman's sole responsibility. Providing what to cook is solely the husband's. Scream all you want, you all know that's the truth. Most of you saying shit here have husbands who do not know how to boil water but come here to deceive naïve girls. As a single man, no girlfriend cooks for me, neither does my maid. But the day I marry, you will not find me in that kitchen except on occasions my wife is indisposed. If I'm not splitting bills with you, I wonder why your lazy ass cannot make common food. Lazy girls.
ReplyDeleteThat part lazy girls got me laughing that I almost fell off from my chair. But when has cooking become so tedious that some women are complaining this bitterly?
DeleteThank God u said u are not splitting Bill's. That's fair. But there are some lazy things called men these days that want a woman to split 50/50 or work n provide majority of household funds and still expect to be respected and submitted to as men. They still expect a woman to come home after long hours at work and in traffic and enter the kitchen. Ko jo. Part of the reasons a lot of marriages are packing up these days is self deceit such as what I have mentioned here.
DeleteThe wife saw him, liked him like that and married him.
ReplyDeleteIf I must share cooking and other domestic chores with my wife then I should also split the bills with her.
ReplyDeleteMy husband handles everything soup while I handle other kinds of food.
ReplyDeleteSee them o,liars boku for this blog.27 comments,12 lies,hissssss,they have all gone anonymous.
ReplyDeleteMr Ibu is a typical Igbo man,they don't cook,deal with it. Ekelu olu eke,biko.
He belongs to the same WhatsApp group with my hubby,his own is once water kettle whistles,he will start whistling along to notify you to act quickly,hahahaha.He cooketh nada.
Stocking up is his part,making sure everything is in quantum,just make him ndelikpos（delicious meals）,dasall.
Since we got married,I iron my undergarments,neckerchiefs and shawls only,he irons when laundrymen are unavailable.
He will return at 9pm to cook what？Na man wey you see for house dey cook o,I get home earlier between 6 and 8pm,to wait for him？ Say who die？
Weekends,if less busy,he attends to power house,dog house,water valves,go service our cars,cut nails or barb hair for our kids,na food cooking una wan add join？Hian.
Una easy with the lies abeg.
God bless you o ,all this western pattern wey una want to dey copy,make una continue.
DeleteHahahahahahahahahahahahaha...liars! They come on line to form feminism but at home they are slaves,go to work,come back and cook whether their husbands comes back from work before them or not smh! Indi asi
DeleteYou dey mind dem？It is for those they can deceive,that's how some lied that their husbands load dishes in machines or wash all the plates after eating, in Nigeria？ bloody liars,what then is the meaning of DIJIUNO？
DeleteHiss. Beautiful Nonsense.
Abeg let us not change the narrative o. It is a woman's duty to cook.
ReplyDeleteWhat we are advocating for, is for men to use their initiative and help their wives.
Then again, different homes with different dynamics. If your wife works while you stay at home, do the cooking.
If you get back from work before your wife, biko, enter the kitchen and stop waiting on her. You can make eba or boil rice If stew/soup is available, you will not die.
Weekends make yourself useful around the house and help If there is no maid. It is wrong for you to cross your legs all day watching football or reading newspaper while your wife is struggling with cooking/chores.
Finally, each home should do what works for them.
Nice comment you got here. I totally agree with you on this.
DeleteTeejay, please stick to one side of the argument. Under ceaser's post, you were supporting him and called women lazy. Now you are coming under this post to agree with this poster. It won't hurt you to have your own opinion and stick to it. Nobody will have your head on a platter for having an opinion on the matter.
DeleteCalling you two faced is putting it mildly.
Ms Abroadian, you are spot on with your post. Personally, I love to cook and I love when someone eats what I prepare and licks plate. That alone is enough compliment.
Anonymous I guess you didn't read my stand alone comment above? Go up and read it and then look on Abrodian first sentence then you will understand why I support the comment. In my comment above I stated it clearly that it's women primarily role to cook. What did Abrodian first sentence says? Is there any contradiction here or you just want to spew your hatred on yourself. Supporting ceaser's comment is on the basis he said he can't cook when the wife is indisposed just like I said in mine above "when need be". I guess you didn't read my comment properly.
DeleteTeejay, I read everything even your stand alone post and I said what I said still. You spoilt everything by calling women lazy. You said contradictory stuff which I pointed out without insulting you.
DeleteDo me a favour and get off your horse, nobody is hating on you or spewing any hatred. This is not the first post you are doing this. Take the correction and move on rather than projecting your imaginary hatred that I never knew existed. How I wan take dey show hate for person wey I never sabi before.
Why this gender wahala all the time ehnn?
ReplyDeleteEvery home is unique, and so whatever works for me, will not necessarily work for another.
The truth is that by nature, women have fundamental roles of nurturing. You can add whatever you want as your own nurturing activities.
Nurturing babies not fully grown men.
DeleteDifferent rules for different homes. As long as his wife is happy then na dem know!!
ReplyDeleteIf women make so much noise about marrying a provider then I see no issue with what he has said. Afterall we learnt division of labour in primary school
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't bother me. I cook by myself. Why get married when I will be busy arguing with wifey what benefits she brings to the relationship. I can have baby mamas and a few pay as you go. I enjoy cooking. If my wife thinks that it is too much of a chore, thete are many men out there she can marry. She can buy a land and build her own house and buy her own car since obviously she is coming into the relationship to compete for rights instead of letting us complement each other. I really have minimal tolerance for nonsense. Ordinary cooking?
ReplyDeleteAnon 20.49....fantastic comment... u are a real man... i will buy car , buy or rent house, pay bride price , pay for wedding expenses, provide security, take cars to mechanic, look for gen repairs, provide hospital bills and school fees and u still tell me I should cook...the woman must b mad... even if she works...how much does she contribute?? If u ask me to cook , then ud start taking the cars to the mechanic
DeleteA wife that cannot cook is setting herself up to be single again. Desperate girls including adult maids are not smiling. She go hear am. No be by gragara and phantom woke.
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry for some people who cannot define their lives. I found out that my public opinions are different from my real life. Anyone who lives their lives by public opinion has himself or herself to blame. People say the right thing in public but carry their crosses in private
ReplyDeleteThis is where Nigerians get it wrong. Margret Tatcher used to cook for her husband when she was PM. Queen Elizabeth dows not do anything without her husband's approval. To be a great peesin, u humble urswlf it is the woman's duty to cook as she is the primary carer. The man assists when he can
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, i disagree because my wife can't cook to save her life. When she does try , it taste awful and we laugh. I cook better, so i cook more and we also order large meals to save in the freezer.
ReplyDeleteShe always tell me she will surprise me , its 14years she still can't cook🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Cheers wifey
Awww! Better husband. God continue to bless your home
DeleteHahahah🤣🤣🤣,kpele Sir
DeleteWhat does he know?
ReplyDeleteOgini???
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