CONFUSING SITUATION
My parents are old and stay alone in the East we got a little girl of 13 years to stay with them to be assisting them. But my mum is complaining of the way my dad is looking at the small girl. I am 34 years old and my eldest sister is 45 years just to let you understand how old my parents cold be.
How can my father still have feelings for a small girl when he is so old? My said she has a church program to attend for three days but couldn't find someone that will watch over my dad and the girl. That she has to watch them daily even at night like children.
Now she couldn't go to the program and was complaining to me. I am confused on what to tell her as this is a very sensitive issue. My elder brother and his wife got the girl for them but how do we approach them with this issue and from the way my mum spoke the girl is liking my father and who knows she could be enjoying some gift from the old man as we send them money on monthly basis.
Please give me tips on what to do as we do not want to create problem between my brother, sister in-law or make my dad feel bad since we didn't catch him in any act.
My parents are old and stay alone in the East we got a little girl of 13 years to stay with them to be assisting them. But my mum is complaining of the way my dad is looking at the small girl. I am 34 years old and my eldest sister is 45 years just to let you understand how old my parents cold be.
How can my father still have feelings for a small girl when he is so old? My said she has a church program to attend for three days but couldn't find someone that will watch over my dad and the girl. That she has to watch them daily even at night like children.
Now she couldn't go to the program and was complaining to me. I am confused on what to tell her as this is a very sensitive issue. My elder brother and his wife got the girl for them but how do we approach them with this issue and from the way my mum spoke the girl is liking my father and who knows she could be enjoying some gift from the old man as we send them money on monthly basis.
Please give me tips on what to do as we do not want to create problem between my brother, sister in-law or make my dad feel bad since we didn't catch him in any act.
*Why don't you just ask your father privately about this?he will be too embarrassed to even continue any plans he may have had
Return the girl back and let your mom do the housechores herself or you employ a maid that won't spend the night but work from morning to evenings.
ReplyDeleteTalk to your father, tell him that if he touches the girl (as she's a minor) you will report and police will arrest him.
DeleteTell him the truth....
I once caught one old man like that with one big aunty then in the villa ... told the man's kids, they scolded their father seriously.
That thing no get age limit for men o. Kikikililk
Get a male help instead
DeletePlease return the girl to her parents. Get a male maid asap. If you talk to your dad from now to tomorrow he will not stop. My uncle did that. Her daughter daughter told me about it and the maid was sent home the next day. Please secure the destiny of that innocent girl. God bless you.
DeletePls like Stella said, talk to your dad in the best way possible and tell him your family won't be happy to see him all over the internet as a rapist and ask him how he'll like to spend the rest of his life in prison.
DeleteGet a male help or work and go helper
DeleteBaba must have shown her some bahd skills when they were both younger lol
DeleteHe must be the anything-under-the-skirt type of man, sexual-espionage things; if you know, you know!
Your old man and the 15 year old girl might be planning to elope!
DeleteBaby, you dey read so?
DeleteHa! This one heavy for me o.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, abeg hit the nail on the head, ask him straight and direct before we hear say monkey born 4 but 5 die.
Unfortunately this is very common in naija.old men shamelessly going to their teenage maids.even if you bring the next person,it will be same story.tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteIt is very common indeed, it is best to bring relatives or hire a small boy instead.
DeleteThey love that unique grip of young pussy...in my hood there is one coded hotel where grandfathers in their seventies come to bang teenage girls, as in home girls wey them eye never too tear
DeleteI know say on day we go hear shout for that hotel when one of those lustful old men croaks on the downstroke
Men will embarrass you.😁.
ReplyDeleteJust go for d jugular....tell him it's a crime to touch an underage girl unless he want to spend d rest of his old age in jail n disgrace.
A 13 year old? Jeeeez! She's young enough to be his grandchild. I think you should look for a way to take the girl out of your parents house. If your Dad is giving her gifts, then sex might happen. When, or if it happens, she'll begin to disrespect your Mum, and who knows what she'll do next. It's best to protect your Mum, and the little girl from the unthinkable.
ReplyDeleteTruth, they can get a small boy of the same age, to avoid stories that touch
DeleteGbam. There was this girl about 14 who was living with a couple. They were both old. Woman was 54 and the man 70. It started with the man buying the teenager gifts, then sex happened. Last last the girl poisoned the madam. Girl married the man when she was 18. Man died last year, he was a very very rich man. His grown up kids and the house help are still fighting over properties. They don’t believe the two children the house help have is their dads
Delete.
Anon 15:33, getting a boy might be a temporary solution.
DeleteAnon 15:47, that's what I don't want in this case.
My dear please go about it in a very mature and wise manner....Our people say na when fly perch for scrotum then you go know say no be gragra be solution! Approach your dad in a respectful manner and tell him your mind and to refrain for any illict affair with that girl..I pray God puts the right words on your lips so he can get the message and he changes..All the best...
ReplyDeleteI don't doubt genuine feminine intuition. God gave ladies that creep alarm to safeguard them as
ReplyDeletethe "weaker vessel." What your
mom is sensing is real. Your dad
once eyed her same way. So, something has to be sacrificed. Either you get
your mom to sacrifice the "church program" (if she can't take the two along),
or, let her find a reason to send the
girl home and let them get a boy of
same age to help them.
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Stella if his children ask him,he will deny, my brother handled one case recently,the man is 87 years old,disturbing his carer/nurse to allow him touch boobs,and also give him hand job,he denied severally until he was told one of the carers recorded him begging for handjob,though these are adults but it is still wrong,if they refused he accuses them of stealing huge amount from his room,and they're sacked.
ReplyDeleteIf there is anyone who should ask your dad about this issue, it is you mom.
ReplyDeleteShe knows by now how to bring out the
truth from him.
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All these old men. To be safe, first ask your dad or carry the girl back to where your brother brought her.
ReplyDeleteNot good for a child to cause problems because that girl is a.minor and does not know what love is. Don't let your father be what he is not supposed to be.
I wonder why he keeps eyeing his grand daughters mate.
That is wrong
Nawa o! This one pass my power and of course,stylishly ask your dad about the lAss so that you sure will know what next step to take
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, if possible you can travel home and see your dad to discuss this matter ( like Stella said) face to face so he can see your reaction towards it and stop any further move he might have.
ReplyDeleteThat is the problem we have. Someone will not respect himself,you will be respecting him,someone will be embarrassing himself,you will be afraid to also embarrass him. Call your dad to order! All of you should call him and warn him not to try any nonsense,if he has anything in mind,he will stop it immediately. My husband and his siblings did something similar to my FIL when my MIL reported him. They told him they will all disown him and take their mum away if they hear anything like that again. Since then,he has been behaving himself. His children just read him the riot act and his brain reset immediately. And let your brother and his wife also know,so they can warn both your father and the girl.
ReplyDeleteYour father Is a pedophile..
ReplyDeleteYou guys should send the girl to her parents and get a boy for them...
Your mom knows him better,she knows what he is capable off.get a married nanny to come and stay,on Sundays will be her off day.
ReplyDeleteReplace her with a boy or a more mature woman who has finished given birth, married, that will come and leave at night.
ReplyDeleteGet a male help and send the little girl back to her parents.
ReplyDeleteBefore it gets dirty.
Talk to your dad about it or get them a male assistant
ReplyDeleteYou believe your mum is saying the truth because? I guess your mum is just insecure. If the old man wants to sleep with the kid your mum watching like a hulk won't stop him. Why not return the little girl to her parents for peace to reign in the house
ReplyDeleteAlexander
The seeming inability of a full grown adult male to tame his libido will lead to disgrace and shame
DeleteDeal with your weaknesses so your weaknesses do not deal with you later
Disgrace is calling
Warn him not to answer !
The person I am concerned for is that little girl. Put feelings aside. Why can't your mother just ask him herself?. It is her place to. Since she cannot, you do the asking. Tell him about your mums observation. Look at how he reacts .
ReplyDeletePoster you people should look into this. Don't allow things to go too far before reacting. If I were you,I will return the said girl back. Even if your dad is innocent, your mom thought process is else where.
ReplyDeleteWith all the things I read daily ehn, I plan to stay in a serviced apartment in old age, a one bedroom apartment with my husband by Gods Grace because if you hire a maid, wahala
ReplyDeletePlease return that girl. Sever all ties between your father and the little girl.
ReplyDeleteIt's a crime to employ a 13years old as a house help.
You lost me at she is 13years old..
ReplyDeleteWhy do people recruit under aged children as domestic worker? How do you feel watching a child cater to the physical needs of your parents that adults like you cannot do?
It is not so hard to see domestic house helps that are adults nah.
Chizzy j
The little girl is not doing anything serious for my parents. Sweep the house, mop, help he like pound pepper and small small messages in the house.
DeleteMy parents do not farm or run any business so do not say the girl is suffering. We just needed a little child that can help them out, keep them busy with gist and all that.
Why do you employ the services of a matured person to help out with your parents? Honestly speaking 13years old is child abuse.. please get that girl out if that house before you all create problems for yourself.
ReplyDeletePlease return the girl immediately to avoid future embarrassment.
ReplyDeleteIt will not be nice to read about one old man raping an underage girl.Tell your brother and let the girl be returned.
Do not forget that sex with an underage girl is rape.
How pervy of your dad to be craving such thoughts with a 13yr old that is old enough to be his grand daughter.
ReplyDeleteYou are quite lucky that he didn't molest you when you were young.
Please take the girl back to her parents, before your dad embarrasses you guys with his evil thoughts.
I thought that people's libido declines when they get to that age.
Get a boy to stay with them. Ebd of story.
ReplyDeletePls allow your mom handle the issue,let her talk to her husband.
ReplyDeletePlease get a male help for them cos your dad would not stop.
ReplyDeleteA 13 year old is too young to work as a housekeeper. Get a more matured person to be coming in daily.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, you, your Mom and your siblings should call your Dad to order.
Lastly, who says a boy child can’t be molested? Pedophiles tend to prey on both genders. Not all of them do so but it’s not uncommon either.
I can't really advice you but if I was in your situation, I will first have a chat with the girl and scare her life that if she tries anything silly with an old man ,the old man will stick and die on top of her,if there is no change in the girl's character towards my pop I will then confront him to kuku go and pay the girls bride price and allow her to be his slave
ReplyDeleteAre you normal?
Deleteyou femi,if this advise you
Deletejust gave is good,then let
its be your potion.
remember what goes around
comes around.
Poster this happened to me. I am 44 years. The first daughter. Guess how old my dad will be. He is a business man and still makes money. We brought a small girl of 15years to stay with them. My dad started touching this girl breast and begging her to sleep with him. Buying her gifts. The girl was beginning to give him attention. Stays in his room longer than necessary. The day my mum told me about it was the day that girl left our house. My dad classed to complain that my mum sent a smart and industrious girl home for reasons best know to her. He asked that we bring her back. I behaved as if l did not know anything I still get goose bumps each time l remember it. My dad has a grand daughter of 17years from my younger sister. He goes to church. I withdrew all the respect l have for him from that day. Even though l don't have a child yet. I cannot watch and see another persons child go through inhuman act.
ReplyDeletePlease poster. Save that girl. I am crying as l type. Don't confront your father. He will deny it. And your confrontation might causes trouble between him and you mum. Get a boy of that age for them. As for me. No girl child will stay with my parents again.
Return the girl
DeleteTell your brother
Withdraw immediately and replace with a male
Install CCTV
Explain crime has risen and you want to safeguard their home
Most Nigerians should be up in arms about this sort of thing. It is unbelievably common and some wives won't even speak of it. These little girls have their lives and destinies ruined by disgusting paedophiles who think they have the right to coerce, groom and rape these little girls. My father was such a man and my mum kept covering. When our last house girl told us what was going on we told her to bite him and smash a frying pan on his head if he dared to try it on with her until we could sort her out. From that day no more house girl for him. Now they have a man that comes in to cook and clean daily.
ReplyDeleteThe old soja is still standing attention whenever it sees fresh babe. Lol
ReplyDeleteNigerian prison no get better uniform for such soldier
DeleteHmmmm..... My family was in the situation some years back but my mum handled it well. The little girl confided in my mum that this is what my dad has been doing to her i.e.lure her to sexual acts which has been denying steadily. My mum confronted my dad and warned him that if anything happen to the girl then he's finished, that she will report to his children and she will convince us to stop giving him pocket money(they are both retired) . And my dad doesn't joke with money oo......... She confided in only me though
ReplyDeleteReally, why destroy the life of an innocent girl child when he can just swagger into a brothel and point out his spec?
DeleteAo people are just greedy and stupid at the same time
Why are some old men like this....tufiakwa...
ReplyDeleteTake the girl back home, this is purely child abuse, molestation and I pray, may it not turn to rape. Get a house boy or a matured woman to take care of the house.
ReplyDeleteBring a small boy.. my dad at 80 made passes at all the nannies infact it was full blown sexual harrasment they will complain to us and he will deny.
ReplyDeleteWe brought a boy and he was complaining that a woman is better story!
Press ignore at such complain
DeletePoster,if that child were your daughter, will you be asking us jamb question?
ReplyDeletePlease that child home.dont confront him,it is of no use!get a male!!!palava short!
Don't mind her,once papa plant his seed inside that girl puna, she is automatically OP's stepmother o.
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Get a male help for your parents. God forgive me but Nigerian men, especially of that generation, do not respect themselves and will chase anything in a skirt. If you bring a 40yr old woman, he will still try his luck. ?Bring a man
ReplyDeleteNobody has taken the next logical step, grandma has alleged a "looking", and y'all have concluded grandpa is a dirty old man. What if grandma's marbles aren't in a row?
ReplyDeleteSo Konji still dey hold old man? Lol. Take the girl away asap and get a male help.
ReplyDeleteThat's man is in his andropause age, that's the common features, at that age they don't keep younger women around them.
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