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My heart is heavy. I cant even confide in hubby yet.
My heart is heavy. I cant even confide in hubby yet.
I went for antenatal registration recently and when the HIV test results were handed over to us, i saw positive(initial test) and i saw another box for confirmatory test.
My heart skipped and i became sad.
I should have gone to a private lab for another before heading home but i didn't have the courage to. I couldn't tell hubby when he got home.
I doubt this result but what if it is right, this scares me. I am of perfect health, no ailments this year apart from headaches (after a stressful day which ends up going without using drugs or runny nose which i have always had since childhood). Can this test be wrong. I noticed there was an error in the result of one for tests I did earlier, I called their attention to it, a repeat was done and I was right. Can this also be another error?
*Why dont you quickly so another test to be sure so that if it is what it is,you and your hubby can start taking treatment...I hope he is not one of the type that will take to his heels once you tell him?it happened to a blog visitor on this Blog some years back..He told her he could not stand the living in fear anymore and then moved on with someone that was negative after he tested negative severally.
What if he infected you? Come clean.
ReplyDeletePoster,don't let FEAR hold you down. Go for test in another hospital.
DeleteSome hospitals do not use high quality reagents and test kits.
That's how one hospital gave my sister a pregnancy test that was positive. She was so happy. After some weeks, no pregnancy symptoms. A test in another hospital came out negative. 🙄
That's another angle
DeleteHave faith in God, He is in-charge. Go and do another one and if it comes out positive, both of you should go to a difft hospital for test.
DeleteGod will see you through. Amen
Go for another test, it could be wrong.
ReplyDeleteWhy were you suddenly sad after the test instead of shocked or finding the test impossible, did you or your hubby engage in activities that could have exposed you to the virus?
Exactly,she should have been shocked and demanded for another test, you called their attention to the first one they did that you thought could be wrong, which turned out wrong eventually, why then didn't you rebuke this
DeleteWere you cheating on your husband? Did you have a blood transfusion lately? Were you in any situation where you were pierced with a sharp object that has been used by someone else?
ReplyDeleteIf your answer to the above questions is "No", them you must have been infected by your husband. You need to inform/confront him.
First of all,🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗. Secondly, why don't you do another test, using another lab? I pray it's an error, but if it's not, you'll have to tell your hubby, let him also get tested. Start taking the necessary medications. I pray all things work out fine for you.
ReplyDeleteWe are talking of deadly diseases like cancer,kidney failure,hepatitis and other deadly disease and this one is talking of HIV!..
ReplyDeleteMy dear,its no longer a death sentence!..
Do you know some people close to you are living with it?..yet you would see them enjoying and living their life..
Hian!...
Nne!..i jiro okwu..
You're right queen.. You also sound like you speaking from experience. Do you have it?
DeleteOnye asiri!if she has it is it ur biz.go n get tested and make sure u dont even have it
DeleteExactly! Its no longer a death sentence. A couple I know is living their life with their two boys who are negative .
DeleteMadam hepatitis is not deadly biko
DeleteMadam please, go immediately to another hospital to run test and if the test result is positive, inform your husband immediately so that he can also go for test.
ReplyDeleteYou need to immediately take the necessary precautions and let your doctor be in the known of what is going on with you.
May the Lord strengthens you and yours and may He keep your baby in good health.🤗🤗
It could be an error ,
ReplyDeleteThis happened to someone I know recently, she went for h.i.v test and when the result was handed to her it was Positive , she was so scared that she started contemplating her next line of action (suicide)
But went to two different labs for confirmation and it was Negative.
However you should conduct another test , and commit it to God , whatever being the case God would give you wisdom on how to go about this .
@Chocolait
Deletethat is it. When people live promiscuous lifestyles, they expect it
at all times. she could have killed herself unnecessarily. 😢😢😢😢
Anon 16:59 Chocolate never made any mention about the 'said lady' lifestyle, though. Give it a rest already!
DeleteUncle Ang; If you had paid attention to your biology teacher in school, you would know that there are other non sexual ways of contacting hiv..
DeleteKindly get educated on the subject..
Chizzy j.
@Chizzy
DeleteDid you read my comment below, did I not mention other ways of
contacting the disease?
You do not even know my profession, do you?
😘
ANG! Accuser of the Brethren!
DeleteYou are too much!
Since you know there are other ways of contracting the virus, why then did you accuse Chocolat's acquaintance of living a promiscuous lifestyle?🤔
@Kamikaze
DeleteJudge, jury and executioner of the sisters,
Did you read my comment below to know that I wrote
the percentage that acquire it through sexual transmission in
Nigeria?
People who go to blood transfusion do not expect to be hiv positive
but people who are promiscuous do panic once the results are awaited.
I know a consultant physician who was trembling like a leaf under the
harmattan wind once she had to await a test result. She never had a needle
prick or anything.🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
ANG, your acquaintance isn't Chocolat Noir's. If 70% get it through sexual activities, what about the 30%? Why accuse when there is a possibility that the lady might be of the 30%?
DeleteThere is no excuse abeg. The thing with you is, even if Chocolat Noir negates your accusation, you would never apologise because 'you are never wrong'.
I believe it is a mistake,go for another test and come and testify om this blog in JESUS name.
ReplyDeleteIt is a mistake.
DeleteThe earlier the better and from your talk it seems you are the guilty one ,may be you are the one that brought the disease to him,it is better to let him know in time so as not to cause further harm
ReplyDeleteAwww Baby Girl Please I always advice that when running tests..Visit at least 2 Labs or diagnostic centres to be certain about any result..That being sad Please visit another lab and carry out the test again..Whatever the result,please be strong and let your husband know about the outcome and then you can be given the necessary support you deserve..It is not the end of the world, I am praying that the result is NEGATIVE! For now let OGA use condom or abstain till when you get the test result.. All the best ok E-hugs...
ReplyDeleteThis is not an end but a beginning depending on how you handle it.
ReplyDeleteDo another test and tell your husband
whatever the result may be.
Remember the golden rule from Jesus; Do to others as you would like them
do to you.
If your husband was the one with HIV,
won't you like him to tell you?
And do not forget that he too needs the test as well as the kids.
When you make Jesus your Lord, he promised to "work in all things for your good, if you love him..." Rom. 8
To all reading this, when God says in his word, "be chaste,' he does not mean any harm, it is for your benefit.
I know that one can get HIV/AIDs through other means but don't forget that more than 80% transmission is sexual. And this poster is not in anyway wondering if the husband brought it. She knows her lifestyle.
It pays to belong to Jesus; peace.
😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
It pays to be chaste...she is not wondering if the husband brought it....She knows her lifestyle? Really? Like! Really?
DeleteJesus Christ are u so sure she commited fornicatin or are u just stupid?
Delete@House
DeleteDid you read "fornication" in my comment up there?
🤣🤣🤣
DeleteAccuser of the Brethren!
Goodness gracious! It be nice you look for some other place to run another test to be absolutely sure
ReplyDeleteBut why are you afraid?? If you are so sure of yourself.How long have you been married? If you have been faithful in the marriage,I see no reason for this panic and fear,except your husband has not been faithful to you either.
ReplyDeleteYour concern and prayer should be that this one was a mistake,forget about telling hubby for Now.Please go for another test immediately,in 2 different reputable labs.Don't delay or procastinate.Act fast now.If it comes out positive,you should tell your hubby as soon as possible and confront him about it.You can't keep this kind of thing a secret abeg, regardless of the outcome.
Poster please go fast to two other labs to run another test to confirm cos it might be an error, also take it to God in prayer.
ReplyDeleteHiv is not as bad anymore
ReplyDeleteKindly go to another Lab to confirm ur fear.
ReplyDeletePlease do another to be certain and HIV is no longer a death sentence.There are worst things like COVID_19
ReplyDeleteGO AND DO ANOTHER TEST IN A REPUTABLE LABORATORY PLEASE!IT COULD BE A MISTAKE YOU KNOW. If you can't tell him yourself(in case its positive)take him to the hospital and let the doctor break the news to him and you both will be properly counselled because of your state so that you won't infect your baby. All the best dear, don't give room for fear.
ReplyDeleteI forgot to add that when you test elsewhere and it's negative, don't use that hospital again. They are to careless. In developed country, you would have sue their ass out.
ReplyDeleteCalm down and go to three different places to repeat the test, follow it up immediately if it's positive.
ReplyDeletePlease ladies, do not hide your health status from your husband.
ReplyDeleteAnd flee fornication. It is for your own good.
Nobody is free from std or hiv. As long as you fornicate, if you like
wear ten condoms, male and female, it is not fool proof. You can get infected.
And stop attacking people who are telling you the truth.
fornication kills.
You are also not safe if you share sharp infected objects like that needle that that your hairstylist use in fixing your weavons.
DeleteWhy is your mind always fixated 24/7 on sex even when the post doesn't have a sexual undertone?
Chizzy j.
And what if she didn't fornicate or are u daft?
Delete@Chizzy
DeleteI don't fix dead human's hairs or whatever you call weave on.
Do remember that 85% of Hiv transmission is through illicit sex,
search it and see. Continue attacking anything good or godly.
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DeletePlease stop attacking ANG. Her obsession with sex is good and godly.
This anon are dumb? What's even wrong with you? Are you possessed? Please sex is the most common way but not the only way of contracting HIV. Please repeat it until it's the only thing you can recall
Delete@ang what if the husband transmitted it to her. This your Christianity ehnnn I never see before. You won't make heaven o if u continue this your I too know attitude.
DeleteI pity the husband that married @ ang. He must be so miserable. Dis Kain woman na oversabi . I can not deal
DeleteSo the husband transmitted it to her and she is "afraid to tell the husband?"
DeleteThis is wonderful reasoning from the learned attorneys.
Please go to a totally different lab and repeat the test.If it is negative,then it was just an error,if it's positive,no matter how hurt you are,remember it's not the end of the world,people living with HIV are living normal lives provided they live healthy and take their drugs,all will be well,sending you love and light.
ReplyDeleteBeen positive for 10 years,with hubby negative, he never stopped loving me, in fact we got to know before getting married and he still married me, he treats me like an egg, in fact na me even be the hot temper one, my kids are negative and healthy, and I do exclusive breastfeeding for them. I always thank God I didnt end it then, cos the devil was pushing suicidal thoughts in my mind. But now its all in my past, I use my drugs once daily as prescribed and I know the disease can not kill me, I will see its end.HIV is the last thing on my mind now, na to get job and help my hubby o
ReplyDeleteYour hubby is a good man,thank God for the kind of mind he has! My mother had it but she was not taking her drugs she was looking on to God for divine healing but it didn't work I guess she was tired of taking the drugs! I had to practically force her to be taking her drugs in the end she died but I was with her all the way I even followed her to her hospital check ups! I miss her everyday! I wish she was like you determined to fight for life!
DeleteHow many of you girls will stay with a hiv positive man?
DeleteJust a question.
Do a confirmatory test.It is important you have it done.A confirmatory test will help you know if you have it or not.
ReplyDeleteDuring my housemanship days,I had a patient who was to be transfused,his parents refused coming to the hospital to donate and his blood group type is blood group O Rheus D negative. blood group type wasn't in the blood bank.His RVS result was positive,confirmatory came out Negative,I had to follow things up and discovered that it was the lab scientist who mistakenly reported it wrongly may while on the Lab's copy,the result was Negative.
Please, is there any good hospital that I can do HIV test around abule egba side?. I really need to know my status coe of the reckless life I lived before giving my life to Christ...
ReplyDeleteSweetie take it from a microbiologist. Go for a re-test in 3 different labs. Your reaction is normal because you're human. But please don't panic or do anything you'd regret.
ReplyDeleteThere's what is called a false positive reading on tests. It can be caused by;
1. The use of expired test kits
2. Sample mix up during analysis
3. Delayed readings
Please go for a re-test and if all fails please inform hubby so he too can get tested.
However, before you inform hubby, invite a counselor and think deeply. Have you;
1. Been unfaithful
2. Undergone blood transfusion
3. Visited a dentist
4. Pricked by an infected needle in the hospital
If this is your first child, where you promiscuous before marriage?
If all answers to the above is a solid NO then look at your husband. He may have infected you knowingly or unknowingly.
Whatever the case may be, please go for a re-test. For the sake of that baby you're carrying
BTW is this your first antenatal visit? If no, what did your other RVS test say? If it was negative then you may have been infected from the hospital and someone needs to be held accountable.
Sexual transmissions accounts for more than 70% in Nigeria, so what's the
Deletefull about all these?
Anon the fact that the rest is 30% doesn't mean it can't happen. I know someone who got infected through blood transfusion. He had an accident and needed immediate blood transfusion, his dad donated, transfusion began on trust that it was a family hospital and all patient records were available. Blood screening was still done as per protocol and documentation purpose, Lo and behold, Chairmo was positive. Sexual transmission is the most common not the only.
DeletePlease stop spreading your ignorance all over the place, it stinks
@Troll
DeleteIgnorance, are you kidding me?
You all fronting for this poster who did not tell you
she had blood transfusion or used sharps should cover you faces in shame
Always trying to justify immoral lifestyle. Wow!😏😏😏😏
ANG, you came here to attack a comment?🤣🤣🤣
Delete19:16 Yes, she didn't tell us that and neither did she call you aside in confidence and confessed to you that she had it through sexual immorality or did she? Don't you think its high time you quit sounding like a broken record and take your own advice instead, by covering your face in cow dung for trying so hard to tilt her story toward the angle you so much hope it falls upon? Funny how have already reached a conclusion that she has it when it could even be an error at the end the day, all to your disappointment.
DeleteSee how you are jumping all over the comment section because you want to convince yourself she got it through her lifestyle, rest jare.
Delete@Anon, why rub salt on open injury and trample on someone who is already down?
DeleteSo you know she didn't say anything about how she got it yet your brain longs so much for it to be sexual intercourse and not even with her husband but with an outsider.
You're nothing but a sadist. Hope your life is not as sadistic and pathetic as the comments you drop
And bitter anon incase of next time, it's Troy like the queen if you can't spell it then keep if far from your pathetic phone and horrible self
Delete@Troy
DeleteSo why is she afraid to tell her husband?
have you asked yourself that?
See the names you have called me;
horrible self,
pathetic phone,
bitter anon
Sadist
All in one sentence?
Wow. What have I done to you?
That I expressed my freedom of speech in making an opinion;
a deduction from a narrative? And you are the righteous one?
Thanks and God bless you.
If Godforbid you discovered you had HIV today how fast will you be to tell your husband, your closest friend or family even?
DeleteHaven't you heard? People with HIV suffer tremendous amount of discrimination. People are even scared to touch or hold them
Until you visit a HIV ward in the hospital, I can't answer this question for you
P.s you're the one jumping from one post of righteousness to another. When someone needs to be consoled, please do so. Don't trample on people who are already on the ground. Create possibilities for them until you get every side of the story and if you're right, you can sing I told you so to the highest heavens if you like.
Thanks for the blessings. God bless you too darling
Poster please do two more confirmatory tests. These government hospitals have a way of giving fake results. When I was few weeks pregnant, I decided to do a confirmatory blood test (since my positive results were from PT strips). Do u know the government hospital test gave me negative. To say I was down was under statement. I had to do a further test at a private lab and I was confirmed pregnant. So please dear, do two more confirmatory tests but do them three months apart and be calm. Trust God, it's not the end of the world.
ReplyDeleteWhile you are doing confirmatory tests, pls join streams of joy international on YouTube, facebook. At 7am-8:20 am. For a prayer meeting in the morning. You pray for yourself and there are testimonies.
ReplyDeleteAll the best.
Poster , so sorry to hear this , please repeat the test in two or more other hospitals . I want ya to know that there is nothing too big for God to handle . If the results came positive please hang in there, it’s not a death sentence don’t think or dwell on it for so long cos of your condition ..I know it’s not easy but please try and also get ur husband tested as well .. seee I’ve been positive for close to 20years now mine was even worst I dnt know on time , got married To a loving , God fearing and supportive husband with it ,have kids , my kids and my hubby remain negative , infact ehn my hubby is the best thing that has ever happened to me , he treats me like a queen , love me unconditionally and takes good care of me and kids .. he prays for me every single day... I hardly think of it self , but I don’t joke with Prayers and the once a day drug I use daily , the most important thing is to always take ur drugs religiously how to handle ur health is in your hands by taking good care of urself and the baby .. don’t conclude, yet try repeat the test to be very sure .. . you don’t have to worry I beg of u, u will be fine hun .. ✌🏿 😘
ReplyDeletePoster, it's always advised you go and have another test at a different hospital and another after some months before you jump into conclusion. You may not even have what scares you. Don't think too much and hurt your baby. Let your husband in on what you were told and both of you can run the test.
ReplyDeleteJust go to a different hospital for test
ReplyDeletePlease I am not the BV nicknamed ANG. But I reasonably believe from comments here that some BVs are waiting to hear from the Poster that she got infected by her husband.
ReplyDeleteIs it all husbands that are wayward or most female BVs here are married to wayward men. Enough of the husband bashing here please.
You guys are trivializing demeaning men and marriage and scaring others from marriage. Meanwhile you are in your marriages bad as you paint them
On the contrary, majority of the BV's want to hear that it's an error. I doubt there's any BV here that wishes sickness on another
DeletePoster don't panic, were u conselled after given the result? If no , u might not have it.there was a time I went for antenatal, we all did HIV test, and the matron said we are all negative . But I saw a particular lady crying , I asked wat the matter was, she said she was positive, I was shocked, I took her result to cross check but it was negative, the negative box which was ticked was in between the negative and positive ,she thought she was positive, I showed her the positive box ,it was not ticked. Maybe u misinterpreted d result. Pls go for another test. Shallom
ReplyDeletePlease remember that you are pregnant, and carrying a healthy baby to term is your primary responsibility at this time. Continue to eat healthy and do your mild exercise.
ReplyDeletePlease go for the confirmation test and take it from there. Hiv is not a death sentence in these times and I honestly do not believe sexual intercourse is the only way to get it. Lots of places have unhygienic practices. Anyhow, go get your confirmation test done ASAP and then after the results if it is positive get on your treatment. Hiv is neither a death sentence nor a point of shame in this age. Times are different from in the 80s. We have an entire generation of ppl who don't even care about it. Hpv, which can lead to different types of cancers and Hepatitis are probably deadlier diseases than Hiv.