On this week's episode of #WithChude, actress Eniola Badmus revealed to host Chude Jideonwo about the several rejections she faced as a plus-sized woman looking to make her mark in the movie industry, and how she used these events as stepping stones to success.
Speaking about her auditions in the early days of her career, Eniola said, “Some people just look at me and say, ‘we don’t want to use your body size’ but to me, I feel beauty is not by size. But size was a major thing people looked at then before saying, ‘no, we don’t want you”’.
She admitted that these periods of rejection were difficult for her, but she was determined to remain undeterred in the pursuit of her dreams. This determination, she revealed, came from the loving support of her parents while growing up. It was the reason for her confidence and tenacity. In her words, “Nothing gets to me”.
Being a victim of fat-shaming, Eniola commented on the issue of people being accused on social media for living above their means. “If they’re living a fake life, they’re living it for a reason, and the reason is so that they can get more jobs. Whether you like it or not, people don’t associate with broke people, so you need to fake it to make it. Fake life is expensive on its own.”
She described her current state of mind as being “very happy”, and said that she was grateful even just for being alive in the midst of a pandemic.
Being a victim of fat-shaming, Eniola commented on the issue of people being accused on social media for living above their means. “If they’re living a fake life, they’re living it for a reason, and the reason is so that they can get more jobs. Whether you like it or not, people don’t associate with broke people, so you need to fake it to make it. Fake life is expensive on its own.”
She described her current state of mind as being “very happy”, and said that she was grateful even just for being alive in the midst of a pandemic.
She's pretty but obese. I dont think she has a genuine boyfriend except those that just want to take advantage of her..But she can be lucky like toolz that got a good genuine love.
ReplyDeleteToolz and Eniola has different body shapes.
DeleteToolz is big, but very curvy as well.
Toolz is nowhere as big as Eniola,even after her 2kids.
DeleteSo you all think that it is curves and bodies that husbands are looking for?
DeleteNo mention of good Characters at all?
What do you mean by "genuine love?"😮😮😮😮
Genuine love means true love...Most fat ladies are not flexible on bed.
DeleteForget that thing size has nothn to do with good husband. I have a friend dat is big,happily married for 10yrs....very pretty,carries herself well with pride and her husband adores her.
DeleteHow do you know she's happily married for 10 yrs? Oversabi
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DeleteAbeg, it is not by body size o. I know someone as big as Eniola who is married with children. She has always been big since when I knew her and that was when we are teenagers. Fat ladies around me are getting married and to correct guys sef. No be by body size.
DeleteAll I think about when I see plus size people is potential health issues, not ability to attract the opposite sex.
Besides, any man who rejects a lady based on her body size is not someone I'll even want as a mate. What if circumstances such as pregnancy and surrounding issues makes the woman grow fat and unable to lose the extra weight? Such a man will become emotionally abusive and eventually cheat on his wife, using her weight gain as an excuse.
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DeleteYou entire mind is warped and vain about love,
you think that love is fornication or sex? No.
Go and read 1 Cor. 13:4-8
Tool's body is firm and thick,she jus has wide hips,both ladies can't be compared biko.
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DeleteYou have even touched Tool's body to know how firm and you've measured its thickness,
did you use Vernier calipers?
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Eniola is beautiful in her own way.
DeleteAbeg Linda dont open this post o.
Great lady..
ReplyDeleteYou'll be fine Eniola.
ReplyDeleteI get her point on faking it till you make it. It's true people dont want to associate with broke ass peeps. She was blunt.
ReplyDeleteI love this lady
ReplyDelete"Beauty shouldn't be based on size or looks"
ReplyDeleteOkay. Eniola, I'm glad you have a very good character.
May God continue to make u happy cos dats divine happiness.imagine wat beautiful girls face just cos dey are fat.Pple are already saying finding love will be difficult for her.Na God dey bring love abeg,d person will just come and love you like no one else exist to him except u
ReplyDeleteBecause it is a sad but bitter truth. I've decided this quarantine I will finally lose the weight that has been holding me back from marriage all these years and expand my dating pool. Wasted years of my life with men that either want money or sex but faking as if love is real. No more
DeleteShe's good at what she does, fat or no fat.
ReplyDeleteGosh! What won't I read on Stella's blog biko nu. Such myopic thinking to say that genuine love is based on physical attributes or sexual abilities in bed. Nothing I won't hear from this blog readers. Mtcheeew. You people are the reason why Nigeria is the way it is.
ReplyDeleteWhat about the nature of men has proved otherwise? The men who leave their wives for slimmer well put together ladies?? Or the men who pretend to love a fat lady just so they can use her?. Look if ur a lady, better sit yourself down n have a serious rethink on things. The game is not pretty but u have to play to survive. Or sit on the sidelines watching out of fear and defeat. Either you play the game or you're getting played or u watch n judge the players as the game and time goes on. Humans have not been selfless and capable of genuine love since Eve bit that apple. Wake up n smell the coffee, princess.
DeleteI don't get ppl like u. You want a certain outcome but aren't willing to put in the work to attract what u want. You wanna settle. Ok o
Naija is a toxic place where pipu Will use your flaws to shame u both male & female. Not like the pipu shaming u are better than u ooo.
ReplyDeleteEni baby, no mind them. It’s a good thing you are trying to loose the weight. Keep it up. Na fat you fat, u no kill person.
Tell them anon@ 13:18
DeleteAnd they wonder why their marriages don’t survive the first sign of trouble or for those who choose to stay live a life of misery.
Instead of seeking and praying for partners with good character and fear of God they are focusing on superficial things.
I too like this lady, some mwn like ladies with her body type.
ReplyDeleteI wish for her to lose weight, level up and bag the hottest richest most successful man that all these slim bishes mocking her could NEVER. She should keep at it! Go Eni
ReplyDeleteEniola work on losing the weight for your own good health because yours have a solution.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you are not putting in as much effort or controlling what you eat. Or you could simply be lazy to put in the needed work.
You could also opt for liposuction. GET HELP.
What of people that have permanent disabilities, health challenges and albinism that face discrimination daily. Those are the ones we should advocate for.
As for faking it to make it, it's not a Nigerian thing but a Lagos thing.
Be yourself. The burden of fake life would either wear you out or kill you. YOU WILL LOSE GOOD OPPORTUNITIES and GENUINE FRIENDS.
Lose some freaking weight then. You can't be a victim if you stop shoving food down your throat.
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