STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE FRIENDLY ENEMY
Good afternoon Stella,
Good afternoon Stella,
Stella this life no balance at all, I have a friend from the church, she is married with a son, the husband has about 3 kids from his previous marriage, the wife died so he married my friend, sometime ago, the husband told her that he will no longer be telling her things because most of their discussions are being made public by my friend, I asked her who she's been talking to, she said nobody except her husband niece that stays with them, so she started avoiding the niece like some plague:
Some days ago, the husband came back with some money, dropped it where they usually keep money for family use, and suddenly he removed a huge sum out of the money, so she kept wondering what he did with such huge amount of money in this pandemic era, so yesterday evening the husband came back really late in the night, very drunk, was pressing his phone and slept off...
She went snooping, only to find out that her neighbor at the shop is her husband's mistress, a woman in her 40's, whom she tells everything, who pretends to be pitying so her situation with her husband, anything she hears from her goes directly into her husband's ears, they're so in love (the mistress and the man) and he has been sending money to her, they're even planning on quitting their both marriages and moving in together, my friend is so confused and does not know what next to do, she's been crying the whole day,
I warned to not try to confront the woman cos it will escalate the situation, I told her she sold her home to a stranger with her tongue, now the home is on fire, I don't really know what to tell her, please help us with an advise, if you have any... Thanks Dear
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*The cat is already out of the bag and you can no longer hide its MEOOOOOW..she needs to talk this over with her hubby before confronting the friend...
Do not fight them,i said confront.........
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ReplyDeleteNice one ke! Really?
DeleteI don't think she should confront the woman in any form.
DeleteShe sold her hom to the woman and the woman saw an advantage and took it.
My advice is,she should confront her husband, let him know she knows who his mistress is and what they're both planning before that she should put it in prayers before talking to her husband so the raging storm be calm before anything.
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DeleteA lot of you will start to insult the woman not the man without self control. I am not saying what the woman did is good as a matter of fact she lacks discernment but how many of you has your husband told his friend how good a cook you are or how good your character is and such statement have made you leave your husband's house when his friend starts admiring you? How many of you have been snatched?
DeletePoster your watery mouth or not, your man is loose and promiscous. If not this woman outside, another one would have snatched him from you too.
4 gun shots abi bomb #Kano
DeleteGod pls protect us, amen
Jesus please fix this marriage
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ReplyDeletePoster please your friend should stop crying and just let this one be a lesson to her.At one point,most married women had a matured/elderly lady that have been married longer, they rely on for marital or kids advice.Only few are lucky to meet the wise and godly ones.It is not her fault she met a delilah.
DeleteThis issue need a lot of wisdom to handle.Let her husband not even know what she saw for now.If she can keep her cool.Keep greeting and smiling with the mistress sef.If the mistress husband is not inside bottle,and is really the man of the house,not the weak type that fear their wife and can't say pim.
let your friend call anonymously like a concerned/amebo neighbour that is dating the husband.And can only share the man with his wife and not another old woman.Because the woman is taking most of the money meant for her.If she has a friend that can speak to the man in person sef.Tell him that he/she has seen the wife in a hotel with your husband and seen them together at odd times/places.And even seen your husband giving her money in the shop.Tell mistress hubby to go for test because she gave the man Hiv.She heard them planning to break their marriages and marry each other,because he(mistress hubby)is useless.
.Let your friend know her hubby's password to be able to access his calls and messages,to know when/where they meet and let the mistress hubby see for himself.
Abeg no be everything be fast and pray.As a woman you got to be firm and smart.Watch how things go from here.Set fire on her own camp,since she decided to be a witch.Beat both of them to their game.
Don't have hbp because of a useless man/woman.Get ready for divorce if they part ways,because the husband will do worse than this,but teach this woman a lesson too.Before she kills you and her husband,to marry your own.
Married couples should never invite a 3rd party into their marriage. I don't understand why some women can't stay without gossiping or discussing their private life with friends. The man isn't guilt free. If he shut the woman down the 1st time she came to tell him what his wife has been telling her, he wouldn't be where he is now.
DeleteThere is power in the tongue. Your friend use her hand to bring this upon herself. The same way she use it in bringing them both together, let her use it to fight the outcome.
ReplyDeleteGbege! Blabber mouth, sorry o. If your marriage survives this, learn to keep your mouth sealed.
ReplyDeleteBut then u can confront both of them, when d secret is out, it will make them wary.
A wise woman builds her home, but with her own hands, the foolish woman tears
ReplyDeletedown her home Prov. 14:1
It pays to be in Christ, you learn true godly wisdom and apply such in
your life. He gives you loving and caring husband and you both work
out beauty in your relationships.
Jesus gives you eternal life and peace of mind.
Tell your friend to fast and pray and
call upon Jesus to save her life and
marriage.
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I dey tell you..Poster let her let her husband know that she is in the know of what is happening. Already she is aware that her mouth don cause gbege..
DeleteThis one pass me.I am like seriously?? She's such a blabber mouth
ReplyDeleteI dont even understand you guys, is the gossip the issue here???. Her friend is cheating with her husband and all you guys see is to blame her. Wow. What a time to be a man. It's really a mans world.
DeleteSome women do not know the dangers of confiding in the certain frenemies or neighbours.
ReplyDeleteOp please confront the man. dont waste time.
Me I will suggest you do not tell the husband or neighbour yet. Get proof of all the chats and info, forward or send to her husband. Either you talk with him or do it anonymously.
ReplyDeleteFind a way to win your husband back cos this one nah you cause am.
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DeleteAct like you don't know. Get hefty Agboro's to rearrange hubby's face. Make it look like the other party's partner found out. If they can level his car they should go ahead. Make sure the price for stepping out on you will cost him 2years of what he's sweated for. Just 'relass' and watch him running back home every evening for fear of what the woman's husband will do next if he should carry on.
DeleteN:B. This is a disclaimer!!!!! Anything that comes out of that action, na ONLY YOU go face the consequences. After all, na keyboard warrior I dey do.
Or two more options.
Delete1. Still use this your friend and cook fake info that you would feed her with. i.e. You recently discovered that hubby was in the occult after series of nightmares on his part. He leaves his body and stays for prolonged hours. You found something diabolical and confronted him as he was always screaming in his dreams. That was when he opened up to you that he sacrificed his late wife and now that they are asking for someone else to prolong his life. He has assured you not to worry as he loves you but is fixing another woman to take your place. He has also refused revealing her identity. End by saying that he also confessed that there's where his finances has been going since 'women like money', he's using his money to bait her. Make sure she's not with her phone when you download this gist. And never again return to that topic with her AGAIN (in case your hubby is asking for proof from her). Act like you don't know what she's talking about and change topic.
2. Take it up to God in prayers
Mrs E, sense will not kee you. I'm a man and I can tell you, you surely know how to throw the other camp in disarray. Their father!
DeleteInstead of ladies talking in the altar of prayers, they are using their tongues
ReplyDeletefor gossips and vain talks.
Tell them that it is wrong, they will skin you alive.
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This is what happens when you talk too much. I'm ure she can't leave the man because she's dependent.
ReplyDeleteYou cannot blame the woman cos when you men start misbehaving, the burden might be too heavy for the woman to carry alone, she just have to pure it out to someone that will console her even after taking it to God in orayers
DeleteShe should talk to her husband and also confront that snake 🐍 she calls a friend.
ReplyDeleteShebi, she's married, she should narrate her and shame her. Yes, she should shame her.
Wicked woman, a married woman for that matter. So, having a married woman as friends in Nigeria is no longer safe too.
So many people are just too morally bankrupt and corrupt.
Her useless husband most probably knew what killed his first wife. There's a reason I always insist on autopsy report when a young person dies. He most probably have caused that his late wife pains and torture.
I hope your friend is working and with some savings of her own, if not, she should first moved the money in that house to a safe account.
A married man and a married woman that doesn't want to keep to their vows and respect their partners, should be publicly disgraced.
She should confront her husband. I hope she saved everything, so he won't deny. She was wrong, for carrying her marital woes to an outsider sha.
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ReplyDeleteI hope this ends well. Go with Stella's advice poster.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm, this one strong o, someone that she thought she was pouring her heart to. Talk with your husband and I would advice you let her husband know before confronting her.
ReplyDeleteSome women have mouth diarrhea ,cho cho all in the name of a confidant.she should speak with her husband and pray hard because her home is in danger
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ReplyDeleteSome women cannot stay without my husband this my husband that,it's good to gush about your home or share your burden but know your limit unfortunately some women don't know this and lean on every available shoulder. Poster your friend has to let her husband know she's aware of his plans before he goes farther but do not hurriedly confront the woman.Tell her to calm down and strategise because wisdom will play an important role here
ReplyDeleteIf you confront him he’ll use reverse psychology on you and probably move out. Be quiet and fast 7 days cry out to God every midnight those seven days you’ll see they’ll fight and go naked on the streets
ReplyDeleteI agree with this anonymous. Don't be in a hurry to react. Start praying and call on God to give you wisdom as to how to go about this.
DeleteNothing wrong with confiding in a Person. Just be sure its the right person.
God will give you victory. Just be calm. And your marriage can be saved.
He won't leave his wife, when some men are enjoying the punani they can promise their mistress heaven on earth. Confront him now before it's too late
DeleteSee this thing called women support women...if I hear that rubbish by my side here ... I will push that person
ReplyDeleteJust see
My uncle's wife
The wife best friend was dating my uncle
The wife found out
Took the matter to church , Church women.
The church women suspended the woman from coming to church ( Catholic)
The woman stopped dating my uncle
Now send her senior daughter to start fucking my uncle because my uncle is very very Rich
Now the senior daughter want to marry.. She passed my uncle to the last sister...
They gathered together and killed my uncle's wife... She was bleeding for 3 years...her husband did not touch her for 3years
They killed her
Before she died
She begged them to live her alive
That she promised to live her husband for the if dey live her alive... But is too late.. She died
Now my uncle is married to the last girl now
The last daughter to my uncle's wife friend
She has used shame to destroyed my uncle kids.... Non is normal now...because they are fighting her to live... They refused her to be....because all of them knows their mother fought her family to live her husband..
This life heeee
Nobody can talk in my family ooo
My uncle is Rich... Who want talk...
My goodness!!
DeleteWomen supporting women my thin waist.
DeleteWomen been killing women since time immemorial
Hmmmm...
DeleteWhat a wicked world😢
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DeletePeople need to know that this life is a spiritual arena.
DeleteYou have to be strong in Christ or be swept off by evil tides.
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17:48 Yes but the woman is not the only one who need to be strong in Christ. Also make sure the man you are marrying or married to, is strong in Christ else in this world only you will carry two people's load. This is why so many women are the ones fasting in marriages to keep their men from side chick but have you ever seen a man fast to keep his wife from side cocks?. You tell them marry godly men but no some will start talking about pastors like being a pastor is the definition of godliness. Since most aren't godly themselves they don't know the difference, they will be defining religiousness and think they are defining godliness. Some want a bad man who is bad for them alone. Okay o
DeleteThe problem here is her husband isn't godly else he won't have anything to do with that woman and the jazz will not work on him but that is if he was Jazz o
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DeleteI wrote "people..."
You are talking about women?
She should save the details and confront the friend's husband, from there they plan what to do. I have only one friend here that knows things about me, to say we quarreled in school for over a year still baffles me concerning how close we are, is like I will start bottling up, the world is dangerous.
ReplyDeleteYou better do Amy, THE HEART OF A MAN IS EVIL.
DeleteShe shouldn't confront any of them pls instead she should change towards them,for your husband treat him well more love, respect,pray together...no matter try your best to give him peace
DeleteFor the woman continue to greet her but nothing more...you see that mouth it's for your husband and only positive thing will come out ...
Invite her and her husband for dinner
And continue your...do not confront her oh if she still has concise...make your husband not to feel like going out above all cry to Jehovah
Married woman,married women my ladies beware some are good though,had a very ugly experience with a married woman and a pastor wife,I had my once peaceful relationship shattered b4 my eyes, am single she is married just wondering whether she wan marry two men at the same time,I have learnt never to confide in anyone,the heart of most women are never written on the face, dear poster is prayers o and learn to keep your mouth shut,the person you tell your good news to might be eyeing it secretly.
ReplyDeleteE no go better for that her neighbour. A lady that was my hubby's colleague then was cursed and insulted by me as she no gree leave my hubby. Turned out guy man denied being married to her. I showed her proofs of us being married only for her to go show my hubby and divulged all the truths I told her. I went nuts. My hubby take my eyes see shege...she even had the guts to come for my daughter's naming. In all, my mum kept calming me down. She kept saying 'akeregbe lo ma ju we ibi ti won a fi okun ko' or so...i spent money on prayers so tey just to curtail this man and his philandering. I observed my mum in law never said anything despite her spending 3months after d naming and she saw all her son's behaviour. We later found out...both I and hubby that it is a spiritual thing...which her mum is behind because of his glory. The more he womanizes...the more it adds to her in the coven. It was sooo serious that hubby didn't need to ask ladies out...married, divorced, single etc are always on his case.Even during my delivery it was God that saved me. But in all, I thank God that things have improved now...hubby and I pray now and he has finally let go of a lot if not all those bad habits. Nothing like prayer and faith in God. Let your friend confront both of them and also turn to God.
ReplyDeleteWow! Wow! Wow!!!!
DeleteCan a mother be doing her own son? destroying his life? Ason she carried in her womb?
DeleteThis one off me oooo!
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My sister's mother in law was making her son promiscuous to the extent of toasting and almost sleeping with the maid, It was with prayers that nonsense stopped. Some people sleep and wake up with evil, hatred, envy and bitterness, they will do anything possible to scatter any good thing around them.
DeletePoster, Its prayer oh, the MFM type to scatter that entanglement and learn to keep your lips sealed in future. God be with you.
O'Lamee
DeleteHow can you "spend money on prayers?"
I am confused here. Please help me understand.
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Your fire set the fire now that the fire is burning she should enjoy it. Women will never shut their mouth, they will say everything happening in their marriage.
ReplyDeleteYour Friend should confront her husband and find out why he is cheating. Confront her friend too.
I'll just listen to what others will advice on this. Might learn from it too
ReplyDeleteGod will continue to expose wicked frienemies,poster plss trade carefully that your friend is evil.
ReplyDeleteWow! So the woman is the one that ruined her home not the husband that went out on his own marriage vows?
ReplyDeleteWhat won't we hear! Women don suffer!!
Poster you did nothing wrong! You only confided in the wrong person which most of us do at times. Now strategize to leave that marriage because you have only one kid. Your husband is the one in the wrong here.
Hmmm i am just tired ooo. A woman is not allowed to talk to her friend about issues in her marriage. Because she spoke about the marriage, the husband is cheating and thats ok....maybe its better to be single because me i am not understanding at alll.
DeleteFemilicious, please be single if you can't keep your mouth shut. Being single will be better for. When you supposed better half sell you out, what do you call that? No one holy pass, if outdiders are better informed about someoe, they know when and how to hit below the belt, one can never escape it. May you never be victim.
DeleteShe should repertoire that her friend, personally, to God. Report her to God, beg Him to deal with her fast. Trust God, He won't disappoint you.
ReplyDeleteMy take is that sometimes people confide in people because they need to vent, encouragement, sounding board, advice, healing so as to continue living etc.
ReplyDeleteNot necessarily because they talk too much.
It's just unfortunate that she fell into the hands of an evil conscienceless human.
Poster, tell your friend to pray and ask the Holy Spirit for guidance, before she looses out in more horrible ways.
That woman may be more dangerous than she knows presently.
God's grace
I agree.
DeleteExactly, just to vent for the sake of it and also to get consoled. I can't blame the woman, its just sad she vented to the wrong person.
DeleteEverybody blaming the woman. Really?!!!
ReplyDeleteSo someone tells you something your wife told her and the next thing is to sleep with her.
Hmm, hope if your brothers finds out that the friends they confide in are sleeping with their wives, you'll advised them to pray and fight for their marriages.
Sorry to say this, but the greatest enemies of women are women
Me, I will scatter everywhere shebi dry want to be together no wahala. I will just send the chat details to the other woman's hubby let them be together in shame. Useless people. Praying for someone who might kill your friend soon. What killed the 1st wife. Let her leave the house for them and see if they can really live the happily ever after they seek. Mtcheew.
ReplyDeleteWhy all y’all blaming the woman? I am not understanding. 🤦♀️
ReplyDeleteI think she should tell her husband she had a dream,then narrate all she knows to him,she shouldn't make the mistake of saying she read his texts/chats. Go to prayers. let her pray for the unity of her home.
ReplyDeleteI hope your friend has some savings for the rainy day. If she doesn’t, she should start gathering money depending on how bouyant the family is. Then, she has to deal with this in the place of prayers as well because the heart of man is desperately wicked. She should be prepared when confronting her husband so they don’t take her unawares.
ReplyDeleteShould hold her peace, avoid that neighbor and go to God in prayer. She shouldn't confront anyone.
ReplyDeletePoster please tell your friend to save the chats, fast and pray then inform the woman's spouse. With the proofs... Give her a taste of her own medicine then sit and watch how everything plays out. If she is no more interested in the marriage. Afterall she never can tell how the first wife died...
ReplyDeleteOr she should fast and pray and watch how everything plays out...
She should not confront anyone but be very intentional towards her husband,meaning be nicer, shut up, respectful and continue hello to pray non stop, behave normal to the woman but no more sharing of information of her marriage, be nice, she should continue to gather more info on the woman and her husband, She should carefully give the woman’s husband those info anonymously
ReplyDeleteAll pieces of advice given above are good, but let your friend use the one very applicable to your situation.
ReplyDeleteBefore your friend tells the woman's husband about the escapade, she should find out if the other woman is really still married to her husband and if their marriage is working. Otherwise, the woman's husband may use the report as a reason to divorce or abandon the woman for your friend's husband.
Your friend should pray as advised, believe God will change her husband or at least scatter the affair, but should also start gathering her "I quit" money.
Above all, your friend should make effort to repair her marriage. If the marriage was well as far as we humans can make a marriage, your friend would not have been telling stories about it to her neighbour.
Fighting a renegade husband rarely works or bring him back; most times it push the man farther into the arms of the other woman.
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Poster, please transfer all their messages to your phone and show it to the woman's husband and tell him to warn his wife to stay off your man, see when the situation becomes messy, the man becomes embarassed and will definitely distance himself from the woman because the other woman will not only confront and threaten your husband in order to leave his wife alone even if he will definitely leave the cheating woman, he will confront your husband. It happened to me to although we are not yet married, I did it in a way that till now after my boyfriend is still apologizing a d has distanced himself from the so called friendly enemy. If you are sure of your husband love for you then confront him first and let him know that the woman has also been advising you against him but you are not just taking to it. He will stop and resent ygeat woman, I hope you read my comment. Please take all have said into advisement
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