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Good Day Stella,I am one of ur reader ;.pls I need urgent advice on this my story.
Am married but my husband is based abroad.He comes and goes.So their is one of my husband niece that called after her Nysc and begged me that she wants to come to my place and stay for a while.At first I wasn't okay with it.i just told her to give sometimes to think about it.I never wanted her into my home and I was adviced by so many people not to allow her based on that my marriage is just Less than 3 years and no kids yet.
That accepting her will bring problem for me.,am staying alone my husband is based abroad.99.9% told me not to.But for just peace to rain and for my in-laws not to feel bad I took her in.
Stella dat was the beginning of my nightmare.This girl is one of the most ungrateful human being I've ever met.That at my age if am asked wats my greatest mistake in life I've made I will say is bringing in this girl to accommodate her.stella dis girl is so disrespectful, disloyal,liar to d core that whenever she does bad when I call to complain she will lie she did me nothing .That hope they know her parents gave them a good training hmmmm.
I named her INNOCENT LIAR.she always call my sister in laws to talk bad about me which dey always believe.she has succeeded in spoiling my relationship with my sister in laws.And due to all these her bad attitude i've been so cold towards her that i find it very difficult to respond to her greetings.
Now her aim is to chase me out of my husband house by telling so many lies about me.An incident happened recently that my younger bro who just came few days to my house.Who saw how she was so disrespectful towards out of annoyance hit her ,WHICH I NEVER SUPPORTED.HE SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE DAT.even though he was pained on how a little girl was so disrespectful towards his elder sister.
My younger brother apologized later to her that he was sorry for his act.
Now since she has been calling my in-laws telling them so many lies.and how I was the one that told my brother to hit her.That she has never insulted me or talked back at me.hmmmm,That my aim is to chase her away so my brother will occupy.Dat that is my plan.Meanwhile my brother who just finished service is busy looking for accommodation where he can pay affordable rent.Since after that incident my husband has been unhappy with me.My brother has left my house to another place for the sake of peace.
My in-laws are angry with me.becos they believed her lies.on my family believed my side of story.How do I handle this situation now.
I want my husbands niece out of my house.I need peace of mind in my home .Am tired of her.Advice pls.
This is a tough one oh....
She stays she destroys your Marriage but if she goes,she will also do same damage......Is there no way you can start receding her evil doings?is there no way you can discuss this with your hubby?
let us see what the other BVs have to say...
This one is an agent of darkness assigned the primary task of destroying your marriage.
ReplyDeleteBe there and be forming nice wife till your marriage scatters.
Better start kabashing till fire makes her uncomfortable and she will be forced to flee.
Do your best to avoid her and take prayers seriously unless you want to lose your marriage.
Yapi yapi. Which kind agent of darkness what of agent to find house abi land agent. You guys take things too serious. Poster you are displaying seniority imagine u no de reply her greetings. Please check within urself too na
Delete1. Record all she does get a camera placed in the house also do voice recording time to time record your calls with her when you've enough it will be hard to deny.
Delete2. Look for any of the family member that you are or were close to confide in them ask to even if it means they should live with you to observe.
3. Talk to your husband
make her insult you very well and set a camera to record everything. while doing that ask her leading questions that will make her expose all the lies she said about you. after that add all the family members in a whatsapp group and share the video. also add more lies to deal with her very well. this is a case of fire for Fire
Delete@ Ladybird you don't know how it feels until you've walked in her shoes. Some in laws can so o make a woman miserable in her own home. Imagine the whole family ganging up against her, and the husband being away...
DeleteIf the husband was home, he'd be able to make a good assessment. Right now, he's only hearing from diverse radio stations.
This is what is happening in my home right now. I was even called evil from the marine world. These people never allow them into your home 🏡. Wicked lot. Poster just record evidence and send your hubby. I my case my hubby's is now aware of all her evil deeds.
DeleteRecord your calls with her but don't provoke her o. Even everything you tell her, pls record and video it, send to your husband and if he shows that he's not happy with the way she talks to you, pls use that opportunity to send her back.
DeleteI sent my 'grand'niece back to my MIL because of the way she talked to me, no respect, no regard that I'm her mother's mate. Well my husband witnessed some but On your case, pray for God's vindication.
Stop provoking her and remind her of how she begged you to allow her to come stay, record it.
Poster, remember that you didn't want this girl in your home in the first place, while I believe she might have started misbehaving towards you, let's be sure it's not a case of action:reaction, I feel both of you have behaved badly. We women can be terrible if we don't want someone in our home.
DeleteOnyeoma CY @ poster.
ReplyDeleteYou said your husband told you not to accommodate her, yet you went ahead and accommodated her.
Pray for her to get a job soon so that she can move out.
As for your brother's part no comment.
Read well he never asked her not to accept. She said 99.9% of people that always believe in-laws are demons
DeletePoster, you have a lot of growing up to do. And no, I can't imagine being in your situation with a small girl. She is a small girl, treat her as a small girl not like your mate. You go exchanging words with her and refusing her greetings and demanding respect. Na wah for you!
DeleteMadam, make laws in your house and throw her out if she can't shape in.
Gbam 👌. @ your comment Saphire. I brought her in , I will throw her out if she misbehaves.
DeleteBiko Park your load and go and rent another house,she should live there alone
ReplyDeleteARE YOU FOR REAL?
Deletesmh..
Are you kidding? She should move out of her matrimonial home, seriously 😳🙄😏🤔🤷🏾♀️😈.
DeleteThis is a dicey situation that requires tact! Go on your knees and pray very hard, tell God to expose her and her lies. See ,God works in mysterious ways. She will pack her load by herself. Don't chase her away.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you,poster if truly you are innocent go on your knees and pray to God. I ought to have told you what to do but emmmm 🙄 anyways pray
DeleteAsk her to leave. It’s your house, tell her that the relationship between the both of you is not working out period!
ReplyDeleteWhy are you walking on egg shells around her? If you handled this when it started your brother wouldn’t have needed to get involved.
Abi is it your husband that handles your bills 100%? Are you scared he’ll stop sending money?
Her brother is a woman beater, why raise hand on someone at all because u feel u can just cos she is a woman. He will meet his type one day.
DeleteI definitely do not side with the brother, he had no right. But I wonder if the poster is the passive aggressive type that won’t come out and take a stance, but will be there dying and squeezing face.
DeleteIf you don’t want a visitor in your house simply ask the person to leave, I don’t understand all this eye service she’s doing.
@Ladybird, shey you'll tag your junior that couldn't stand a little brat insult you severally in your husband's home a woman beater.....
DeleteLady Bird, see ehn.. If you know you have two heads, come and insult or disrespect my lovely elder sister in her house and know if I'd give a flying freaking frag if you call me a woman beater or worse.. I will beat the living daylight out of you till you develop quarter pass four eyes..rubbish!
DeleteWell.. A lady can disrespect and insult me all she wants, I'll always smile and walk away. Do it a hundred times and i promise you I'll walk away a hundred and one times. But if you try to disrespect my elder sis in my presence, i will definitely align your senses with psychological brain resetting slaps first. Then anything that wants to happen can happen after wards. Lady bird for instance, if you are looking for who to call a woman beater you could come disrespect my elder sis for no reason. 😊
Delete@lady burrrd, i can't really verify this poster's story so i can't speak for her but.. I'm a lady and i hope you'll also call me a 'woman beater' too after i finish beating the hell outa ya ass if you insult my elder sister in my presence.
DeleteHey God! This one tough walahi! Madam you need to plan a spiritual coup to move her out of the house...Again what kind of husband will encourage petty talks and gossips from his family members then he himself is no better than the little rascal..He is part of the problem by encouraging such terrible attitude..Poster I think you need to take the bull by the horn and send her out of that house..Start by first changing the locks of the house, pack her bag and baggages and drop with the gateman..then go and rent a hotel and stay for a while..Imagine this nonsense..
ReplyDeletePhoenix dear, don't kill yourself because of this. The poster wrote a full page of chronicle without saying one single thing the SIL did.
DeleteReason am this way, poster fit don get new side boo and her SIL is spoiling her show...
But that her brother na wa ooo.
Poster, give us two examples of what she did and also, I will like to hear your SIL's side of the story.
Apologize to your in-laws,start praising her.
ReplyDeleteApologize to your hubby.
Stop giving her face.
Discuss with ur hubby
I love you tenth. Apologize and just act normal to her and have boundaries
DeleteExactly. Just pretend that all is well till u get enough evidence to prove them wrong.
DeleteThis one is beyond me o and i feel it's high time you tell her to move out of ur house damning all consequences
ReplyDeleteIn this age of communication... Next time she's disrespectful to you.. put you phone record on and send to your hubby and your sister in laws.
ReplyDeleteGet evidence and also pray her out of your home.
The spiritual controls the physical.
But for the prayer to work you must not be bitter towards her. Forgive her truly from your heart.
I am sure she would have done this if it's not age ego that is causing problem. Age is but a number o. Small DJ cuppy can better my father's life tomorrow and we start calling her aunty or madam
DeleteLadybird...lol. we just read one side of the story...who knows the cousin's version.
DeletePoster you need to be open and show love to her. Nobody is beyond the power of Love. That's what God used to capture our heart.
No matter what version she has it's of no consequence! If you are uncomfortable with your sister in-law, you better move. Don't come to her house and be dragging version, abi na who is right.
DeleteI have a brother that I love to bits and I hardly visit his house. He and his wife are not happy that I don't visit.
Why don't I visit often? His wife has got bad mood swings. I don't wish to witness any of those swings and come and be a reason why she and my brother will have problems. She's a good lady but I can't guarantee what I'll do if she has one of her episodes. I try to stay out of her way because it's her house and anything that happens there na me look for trouble. I don't know why it's too hard for the young lady to move if she feels that the Mrs is a terrible person.
Besides, poster, your hubby and his family head no correct.
DeletePoster it’s safe to say you are the cause of your predicament cause you were warned weren’t you? And I’m sure you aren’t new to this blog and must have read several stories such as yours.
ReplyDeleteDamn# the consequences and send her away. Discuss this decision with your husband first. Do not try to negotiate this decision with your husband cause he’d want her to still stay. Let him know you are frustrated. Cry if possible.
let her go for your own sanity before you do something nasty unintentionally to her.
Next time don’t be a people pleaser.
This one is a neice from hell ooo cos either ways she won't stop until she fulfills her mission. Maybe you should start recording your conversations as an evidence to show to your husband.
ReplyDeleteSha don't bring any male friend or colleague at work home biko.
..I would like to hear her side of the story before blasting her. If everyone warned u against her? Why are they believing her? Niece, come n tell us ur own truth.
ReplyDeleteGbam. Poster send link to her
DeleteBlackBerry you are wise. For this comment, I'm giving you a nice bed and a sweet bobo that will help you break the bed.
DeleteExactly, let's hear from the niece before passing verdict. The niece will just from the blues start disrespecting you without any reason.
DeleteMadam, send the link to her.
We don't need to hear from her. If Mrs is terrible, she better move OUT. I don't even blame her, it's the Mrs that is writing long epistle over what she could have handled swiftly. The girl mustn't stay more than one week in that house. Make her leave and them make peace with your hubby and his family afterwards
DeleteMe honestly I no believe your story poster
DeleteWhy wont u hear from both parties over a story you cannot verify? Where one person is blameless and d other is a painted as a demon? Is that how you behave? Hian...
Deleteyou either chase her out with prayers or make arrangement with your hubby to send her packing nicely.That prayer is not for her to die just tell God you want her out of your space,she'll feel the heat herself. Be smart with any method you choose to use
ReplyDeleteI don't know why some of you are so soft. This is happening in your own home? I beg, wake her up at 2am and threaten her. Tell her you will destroy her life if she doesn't leave by morning and warn her after this discussion, she should blame herself of anything that befalls her if she ever say any evil against you to any one. Say all these things with a very mean face, while you stare directly into her eyes, she will think you are a witch. After that, walk out of her room and watch her leave before daybreak. After this, 2 things will happen. She will forever keep quiet or report you to the family. If your husband calls you, deny everything and cry sef.
ReplyDeleteHahahahah...this na indabosky stlye o. Can't stop laughing@Anon 15:14
DeleteBlah blah blah. Naso show me pictures or videos ofthe war you have fought in I will take ur advise too. Everything is not power.
Deleteall these for the lil niece?nah poster shouldn't stoop low to do this.
Delete😂😂😂😂
DeleteAbeg dis one no follow
Oshey bahoose🙌
DeleteLet me give you a story of how the agent in my former house got rid of her troublesome sister-in-law. She said she turned her house to a crusade/night vigil house. Her church members always assembled at her house by 9pm. They will cabash, caste and bind throughout the night. Her pastor told her that something most pursue the girl; either she's a witch or the lack of sleep she'll be experiencing will do the trick. Two weeks into their daily night vigil, babe quietly moved without telling anyone. They got home from work one day and didn't see her bags. The story she later heard from her in-laws was that every night she was hearing, 'die, die, die'. She didn't know if it's her she and her church members wanted to kill.
DeleteShe tactfully made her leave without asking her to.
Poster, since you are 'looking at the face of your in-laws', I advise you do this since you stay alone and hubby will not complain that you deprived him of sleep
Pray her out of your life. Don't talk too much with her even if she does things that will make u talk. Just ignore and be occupied with other things, fight this battle in the spiritual she will pack her things herself and leave.
ReplyDeleteAll this pray this and that. Prayer works with action. That is why Jesus went to the temple and threw them out. He didn’t just pray for them to leave. U think North Koreans have not been praying for decades for freedom? I beg poster throw her out. Let her tell her family whatever. U are already a witch in their eyes so it will make no difference. Once a woman is not acting like they want her to which is a fool they will say she is a witch.
DeletePlease let her get out of your house. If you allow her she will surely destroy your home. If you let her go with time things May come back normal.
ReplyDeleteAlso pray that God will expose her wickedness
I don' believe you , how long did it take to allow your brother stay with you. How many people did you tell to advice you before allowing him in. Why on earth did your brother hit her , to achieve what ?
Deletestart recording her when she goes off on you and send to hubby. dont show her she is been recorded
ReplyDeleteSee we women find it hard to live with another woman. Before she came u should have stayed the rules, Like you are older than her na. I still wonder how it turned out this bad .why not start over with her, sit her down and do the whole intro again and apologize to her . Yes I said apologize and ask her to do same and You both start on a clean slate. I have done this and it worked forget senior babe you can't battle husband family so just act the fool and get peace . Senior or junior it's just ego playing here
ReplyDeleteThe devil is a liar. Please forget about her and focus on your husband. Pay her no attention anymore. Do the chores yourself if you can. Try to get busy so she will see less of you. You tried being friends with her at first, the reason for all these. You should have started the role of a boss lady the first day she came.
ReplyDeleteNanny Cam to the rescue. Poster, speak no more.
ReplyDeleteInstall, capture and share
Just relass and take Kia of thyself
When 99.9% of people TOLD/WARNED you not to bring her in, did you listen? No ma. So what's d assurance that you would listen to the advice they will give you on this blog?
ReplyDeleteAs they say: if you want peace in your home,allow your in law stay with you and Chase out or disapprove all your siblings from staying with you; that's if you the man. By doing this,it gives your in laws room to tell you anything your wife does when you are not around. Opposite is the case when you allow your siblings stay with you. Na trouble everyday. On a funny note
ReplyDeleteAnd people pls treat everyone the way you would want someone to treat ur kids when you are not available. Nobody should be treated more special than other. This life is really nothing o. Accommodate and look another side stop looking for fault in everything. I know you can't please everyone but always try to please ur conscience.
ReplyDeleteYour husband asked you not to agree for her to stay or didn't I read well? But some mothers are some how sha. My mum would have called me back whether at fault or not just leave her house and rest. Even the girl should have the common sense to leave your house for peace to reign. You have made the mistake. It almost always never ends well. Your husband should call his sister to call her daughter to order and calling to order means leaving your house. 🤦🏾♀️
ReplyDeleteProverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
ReplyDeleteYour husband told you not to do it. You did it.
You didn't obey your husband or God in this matter. You obeyed fear; fear of your in laws.
Call upon God. Only Jesus can save you out of this quagmire😪😪😪😞😞😞😞😰😰😰😰😰😰😰
You can't ask her to leave,it will be worse,did you consult the HOLY SPIRIT before accommodating her?that's where you got it all wrong,now go on your knees and ask the holy Spirit to expose and disgrace her until she leaves,pray that your house becomes unbearable for her to stay for a second,top the prayer up with faSTINg and midnight PRAYER for one week,pray fervently and see if the Angels of the MOST HIGH GOD won't whoop the demon in her, POSTER PRAY✌️✌️
ReplyDelete👍 Na you sabi am jare
DeleteIs funny how people misuse prayers..... All these pray her out of the house and all, is it the best prayer to make?
DeleteMust every prayer be for our enemies to meet misfortune?
If the prayer is for a reset of mind of the little girl for peace to reign, will God not answer that one?
It has not gotten to that level, just practical thing and common sense application.
DeleteShe should sit her down, "record the conversation" talk to her in a humble manner, remind her of how she begged to come stay with you and hear what she will say. Give her some simple rules to abide, failure to it will lead to her leaving your house, don't be too bossy. You don't need to stress yourself over your own house. Be prayerful woman.
This girl came to destroy you and to open your yansh. You should discuss the issue with your husband. Get proofs and send it across to your hubby and see if that can help you out in resolving issues.
ReplyDeleteI think you are too soft,well go on your knees and pray..
ReplyDeleteI only comments on few occasion.
ReplyDeleteYou send her out,its will forever affect ur marriage.
So go into spiritual war against her.
Raise the fire of God against her within a week she go leave.
2corin 20:3-5.
Is not every time u argue with pple.
Take it to God with fire
Why do most in laws give their brothers wife wahala? I know one that sent the 7 grown children of the family to their brothers house for the quarantine period And they live in a 2 bedroom flat and have 4 children of their own. The marriage has practically scattered. As for the husband I lost respect for him. A man that can’t talk to his own family. As soon as u marry u think the woman can handle anything or it’s ur right to punish her. Suwah!!!
ReplyDeleteJust negodu!!! If you send seven of your children to me, I'll get a self contained and move out of the house for you. I can't come and go and die for people wey when them dey born Dem no see me.
DeleteDon't listen to anyone telling you to kick her out,unless you want your marriage to pack,all you need is HOLY ANGER IN PRAYER,holyspirit will give you wisdom on how to handle her until she leaves,it won't take time
ReplyDeleteIf everything you wrote is the truth,then your husband's niece is an entitled spoilt brat.She is behaving that way based on the hand you gave her when she first came to the house.You need to learn to state your rules and stand your ground.It's your house,anyone coming in is a visitor no matter who it is.If only people will learn to respect boundaries,everyone has a role in everyone's life,family should know their place and not try to rob shoulders with the wife,wife too should place family where they are supposed to be.
ReplyDeletePoster discuss the issue with your husband but in a calm manner.Don't sound like you're complaining or reporting her to him i believe you're much older than her see it as you're discussing how to put your younger one to order.Your husband should know better too to caution her and if she will be the reason you will have issues in your home then she should leave.Resolve amicably and let her leave
Discuss it with your hubby. She needs to move out. He should tell her to leave.
ReplyDeleteAfter she leaves, meet with your in-laws and talk to them. Apologize to them too cos your brother was wrong and if they still did not believe you, leave them alone.
Keep praying to God for your home. May the Lord bless you and hubby soon with cute babies in Jesus' name. They will come around when it's right.
Please all these people after they advise you... You won't listen and go ahead and do what you are Warmed about stop disturbing us carry your cross. Do good no dey pay
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly did your husband's niece did to you because I have read from beginning to the last without picking out anything, are you sure you are not the one with problem.
ReplyDeleteSend that babe out of your house, what Rubbish!!!Let her people take her in
ReplyDeleteAdult going to live with people and misbehaving should stop. A grown woman like your niece should be living alone and fending for herself. Enough of this entitlement mentality we have in this country. On a normal level, she should be contributing to food and other house hold items. Enough is enough. If you are grown and staying with someone and not paying rent and still act irresponsibly you deserve to be thrown on the street. Life in naija is hard. If someone gives you a plate of rice appreciate that person.
ReplyDeleteMadam tell your hubby the house you're living is jinxed that most neighbours are complaining bitterly about strange occurrence in the compound and are looking for elsewhere.Liase with an agent truly and pack out to a smaller apartment, if you're staying in a 3 bedroom pack to a 2 bedroom,in another place.Or look for people you'll pay to pack all the properties in the house one side and pretend you're packing out make the house uncomfortable like everywhere is in disarray,tell her you're packing out .Talk to your hubby first before taking this step, dont mention the niece or any family issues going on,make references to things happening around you,different noises at night,look for something genuine and convincing.Tell him you're going to stay at a friend's place and should send money to get another place,go out every day as if you're searching for a new place and your hubby should convincingly cajole the niece to leave to the village or wherever she came from.Moreover is she schooling,working or just at home with you.Comment in the section to let us know
ReplyDeletePoster change parade for her. Don't buy foodstuff in the house, just cook only what you will eat.stop laughing or playing with her. Ignore her totally. Just give her two weeks no body go drive her she will just pack out on her own
ReplyDeletePoster,record her, send to your husband, discuss with your husband, and let him know that this lady might be the end of you someday.
ReplyDeleteI am not a party to someone being uncomfortable in their on home, that is the worst.
Your home is your refuge and should give you happiness.
Wheather it's her fault or posters fault, Let her go and get her own home,and leave the posters own.
I saw a lot of people saying pray about it so she will leave, this is not a prayer issue, just open your mouth and tell her to leave your house, you approved her coming and you should be bold enough to approve her going, don't care about what your in laws says or gossip about you, you have to act now in other to have peace and save your marriage.
ReplyDeleteIt's either you send her parking peacefully or you read the riot act to her in other for her to continue living with you. I don't understand how your husband is taking his family's story to judge you. To think of it you never stated instances of her misdemeanor...
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My dear this episode happened to me three years ago.My husband's niece who was 18 came to stay with us.The plan was to train her in school and i had a come and go nanny.When the Nanny left my baby was always so sick of food poisoning we were admitted like three times before we clocked one.She handles his eating stuff poorly.I once caught her changing my son she removed the diaper and did clean him or rub cream and wanted to wear the diaper.Any information in my house she will tell my brother inlaw through whatsapp.The one that broke the Carmel's back i told her to put in for jamb she purposely went and put Benin when we reside in Ph.I was so angry and asked her why my husband was offshore so i had to pay for her transport to and fro.I workout in a gym so i take her along so she can hold my baby.She will exchange phone no with every man both married and single.Before i knew it rumour started going round that the small girl they usually control her and take her to hotels.I was confused because some weekends she opts to go to her Mum's place and i don't stop her.The day i took her phone to check because of the gym accusations i was weak.She gives men my home address when i go to work.She serially dates men randomly via social media.She has a different name on Facebook and all manner of rubbish.I scolded her and this girl gave me the shocker.She ran out of the house and was declared missing.Switched off her phone we reached her mum who said she did not come to her place.My son was clocking one i said how can i celebrate when someone's child is missing.I told my dad and he contacted a tracker.Lo and behold Aunt has travelled to Benin🤣this girl was something else.Her phone was still off.Finally she called her mum and my mind came down that she is okay.My husband then cajole her to come back.He arranged all her items already when she came we took her to the police station to close the case.She showed no remorse and i thank God she achieved her waec in my house.So she went back to her mom's place started exhibiting those useless character and her mom got her arrested.This life is indeed funny.She reached out to me some years back apologizing i told her i have forgiven her you see anything relative i and my husband made up our mind never.Come and visit and go if that girl had accident or something what will we have said because we wanted train someone's child.
ReplyDeletemummy Efosa.
DeleteMe I don't even even have time for all those rubbosh. My husband people or mine, u try rubbish u leave my house no time for rubbish
ReplyDeleteThere's 2 sides to every story, you just want the poor girl out of your house. You are ferling cool because your husband rented an apartment for you now do you if the niece will have a better husband than yours. I know your type, your on family is welcome while your husband family is not. Your brother should be arrested for beating a grown up lady. Rubbish
ReplyDeleteGet some of her behaviors on video and send it to your in-laws. Send the video to your husband and asked him to get her out of the house. If you are paying for the apartment then you have the right to send her packing yourself. Unless ..........there is "something" (secret, contract etc.) between the two of you and you are not giving us the full story.
ReplyDeleteMadam go and buy CCTV and plant in your house. In case recording volume becomes a problem please record and video her or without her knowledge anytime she starts. Then secondly start midnight prayers oh. Pray for the salvation of her soul. Try and ask God to heal you of every hurt. It might not be easy but try. She will leave the house for you. Or if you can't pray go on a long holiday and ask her to leave that you don't want to leave your house for her
ReplyDeleteReminds me of what a friend went thru with her husband's niece. Anyway, life is dealing with the niece now.
ReplyDeleteWether you allow her to continue staying with you or not, you are in trouble... Choose your battle and face your fear.
ReplyDeleteFrom BV Dollargoddess
Thank you Dede ugonna for this wonderful advice.
ReplyDeleteWhy do I believe some of these her so called lies? Did she catch you doing something wrong?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, send her away and damn the consequences.
Find a way of making your husband take sides with you.
I was in your shoes some years ago, I was expecting then. This my husband's niece and her mum had a lot evil plans and they succeeded in some but God disgraced them openly. karma is already serving them hot... Just pray for Guidance...
ReplyDeleteDear Poster in as much as u re d architect of ur misfortune, my advise goes thus;
ReplyDeletepretend she does not exist. Clean ur house the way you do when u were living alone. It is not a must u feed her. Even if she cooks your food do not complain. Let me tell u something YOU ONLY FIGHT PEOPLE YOU LIKE/ LOVE. WHY HAVE AN ISSUE WITH A MANNER LESS GIRL WHOSE ONLY AIM IS TO HARM YOU AND BREAK YOUR HOME. DO NOT HAVE ANY FRACAS WITH HER, IGNORE ALL SHE DOES AND U WILL SE THAT YOU RE HAPPY. WHEN SHE SEES THAT YOU HAVE PUT HER IN IGNORE MODE, SHE'LL BE TIRED AND HE WILL LEAVE ON HER VOLITION. LIKE I SAID YOU ONLY FIGHT PPLE WHO LIKE OR LOVE. SO IGNORE HER.