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Good day Stella. 

Here's my story. I served in a military barracks few years ago and it was loads of fun even though I didn't have much fun because I am a total introvert and I need a lot of persuasion before someone can drag me out. 

And as a lot of people know, many of these military guys are so handsome especially when in their camouflage. So I met so many young, rich and handsome officers but i didn't flirt with any. 

Straight to my story... One week to our POP, I met one young officer in the officer's mesh. This is a guy I have never spoken with even though I have seen him on few occasions. The night we met, we exchanged numbers and we started talking. My POP came a week after and I left the barracks. We started talking often and I started having feelings for him. He never asked me out, but always saying he likes me and from the way we flow with each other, one would think we were dating. 

So I summoned courage to ask him about our relationship status lol, his answer was he love me so yeah we can be official. I liked him so I felt there was no need to pretend, we started dating. 

All of this happened so fast, like within a month after my NYSC POP. After I traveled back to Lagos from Kano where I served, he invited me over back to the North. He was already in Kaduna. I foolishly risked my life, lied to my family and traveled to Kaduna from Lagos (One of the actions I regret in my entire life). I got to Kaduna, he delayed me for about an hour at the park in the night before he came to pick me! 

When I got to his lodge, I went to the bathroom to shower and I met a used condom so I guess a lady just left his house and that was why he delayed me. 

After shower, he was talking to a lady for close to one hour. That was when I knew I had entered one chance lol. I made up my mind not to allow him sleep with me cos obviously, it was a fruitless journey.

 Two days after, I left o because I was treated like trash. This guy left me to go play football/tennis for a whole day, he came back later in the night. He said since I didn't allow him have his way, then what's my usefulness. 

I left and returned to Lagos. He told me to give the info of how I got to Kaduna from Lagos (eg the bus I took, the route I followed and the garage I took the bus). I ignorantly gave him and asked him why he needed the info. He said his friend's wife is coming so he wants to know. My mind told me it's a lie and you know we ladies can find things out if we want to lol. Long story short, this guy invited a girl I know down to Kaduna, just a day after I left. Few days later, I started noticing him withdrawing. Anytime I call him especially at night, he will be on another call for hours. 

I will wait and wait for him to return my call but he won't. This went on for days and he will only say he was on call with his friends or family. And this is even when I personally call him back the next day. Thereafter he broke up with me with the excuse that I'm too childish for him. Me sef no kuku beg. I moved on immediately! 

We still have each other's contacts and view each other's status for close to four years now without talking. Recently, I saw a viral picture of his proposal to a beautiful lady and my heart skipped! 

I felt so jealous (not bitter anyways). He didn't post the picture on his own status (or he probably blocked me from viewing), I only saw the picture on his friends and family's page. I know I don't wanna have anything to do with him again, but I almost cried when I saw the picture. I think this is due to the fact that I haven't dated anyone after my relationship with him ended. Is anyone experiencing same? How do I move on from this guy completely cos I seriously hate this feeling. Please help...

Babe,its been four years,move on!!!!

You didnt even date him,you dated yourself....

delete his number from your phone,unfollow the pages you have been monitoring him with and please move on.....

4 years of being a monitoring spirit must have taken its toll on you but honey,you will be fine,OK?