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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
GOING BACK TO THE EX AFTER ABUSIVE MARRIAGE ENDS
I never knew I was gonna be amongst those who the earth would shake out of their marital homes because I lost my only child years ago and couldn't conceive again.
Now my ex-boyfriend that was the only man that truly loved me but I refused to marry him because he occasionally drinks alcohol (and my husband pretended that he was born again) heard about how my husband threw me out of his house because of childlessness and he came into the country to comfort me specifically. He rented an apartment for me, changed my wardrobe, opened a business for me and also bought me a car.
Now he asked me to marry him but I feel everything is happening fast.. Just 6 months that my husband chased me out of his house and now my ex-boyfriend that I left 10 years ago wants to marry me before the year runs out? My ex is 49, never married because as he said he couldn't get any lady like me.
I am 38 years. He has gone back to UK where he is a citizen and he said he would only come if I agree to marry him. He is also trying to make me visit him in the UK. I am confused!
Would people not say that I left my husband because of my ex-boyfriend?
I endured years of domestic violence from my husband till he got tired in February 2020 and threw me out with not even my clothes.
*My dear take what life has thrown your way and move on,let them say whatever they want to say.........please move on with your ex if you still have any feelings for him....even if you no get sef,move on with him!!!
Thanks is what is killing Nigerians""what people will say**Madam you better grab this opportunity else you will live the rest of your life in regrets,what am I even saying,the guy has done enough for you sef even if you miss out on him but HEY DONT!!,RUN,RUN TO HIM!!!!
ReplyDeletewhat if your ex is d reason behind ur not having a Child and abusive marriage
DeleteYou are just looking for validation. You have been in contact with your ex while married, so it was easy for him to come into the picture immediately after your marriage crashed. We need to hear the other side - would the domestic violence be related to the fact that your husband knew you were in contact with your ex or some other men? I find it difficult to believe some of the chronicles of ladies on this blog - always painting your exhusbands to be devils and you, saints. Please enjoy the UK returnee's money and care, while you allow us to drink water.
DeleteAnon 18:56 your opinion is yours to hold on to.
DeleteA friend, an ex or a classmate can find you if they are determined to.
I've had my ex come back to me 3 times and I NEVER REACHED OUT TO HIM.
The second time, I refused to accept him back.
The third time, my eldest sister persuaded me to CALM DOWN and accept him back.
How he contacted me? My workplace.
STOP ASSUMING POSTER IS LIKE YOU! 🙍♀️
Madam poster pls receive sense.
DeleteWhy so bothered about what people will say???
We’re they there when he was beating you???
Did they help when he threw you out???
Pls I say again, receive sense.
Anon 18:56 I'm with you on this one...shameless olosho
DeleteI haven't fully read other comments. But I'm taking this to my bank account. Selah!
DeleteI believe I saw, it is worth pursuing, somewhere in the comment section and I quite agree but I also think you should do your due diligence.
DeleteSo as to avoid the story of the frying pan and naked fire.
Let me go annon, I am presently married to my ex. We parted, he hot married I also married but my marriage was hell, even though it produced 2 kids. When I coukdnt take it any longer, I ran with my kids, and relocated to a different state. I went to market to buy things and bumped into someone looked up,it was my ex.
DeleteWe exchanged numbers, and format talking he has been directed for 5 yrs with 2 kids as well after catching the wife cheating long story short,today we are married.
I never contacted him,didn't know he was no longer married when I left but God orchestrated everything and we are very happy together,12 yrs and counting
so annon saying they must have been in contact,its not always the case.
There are some relationships that even after you have parted ways ,the heart of each of you grew fonder and any chance they get to be together again, they dont joke with it. Those are the really happy marriages sef.they are really besties that never knew they will be giving a second chance.
My marriage is sweet honestly ,we argue and all that but we are best friends and nobody has been able to come between us
I am annon 12:47, so many typos, from talking, he has een divorced for 5yrs,...
DeleteBabe, marry him. Set wedding for December. E go pepper ur ex husband. Besides u need to change environment
DeleteThis woman, if I slap you err!! What people will say ke?? Marry that man as fast as yesterday if you love him. The only person you should be concerned about right now is you. You can let him go if you don't like him.
ReplyDeleteEven if you don't like him, MARRY HIM FAST!!!
DeleteWhatever you do, people will talk. You MUST learn not to think about whatever anyone says. And do what is best for you. Which right now seems to be marrying the man. KINDLY GO AHEAD MADAM. Let people say whatever they want to say. If you like be a nun, a saint. Whatever. People will always talk
DeleteI propose courting oo. Before marriage. Hmmmmm
DeleteA 49-year old in the UK or anywhere else, still single and you don't know he has a problem. I would believe that of a lady not being married at that age, not a man. Like I commented earlier, both of you have been "cohorting" during your marriage and may be the main reason your marriage crashed - not domestic violence.
DeleteAnon 18;59 DON'T ASSUME OR GENERALIZE❗
DeleteYou have only a teeny-weeny bit of knowledge/perspective how life works and how circumstances shape people.
He invited her to the UK for a visit. That's a good step to let her in on his life.
I will only advise that they court to find out if they are compatible.
What did people say when your abusive ex husband was unleashing domestic violence on you and eventually threw you out. I'm happy you're in a relationship with your ex who has never been married.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you do do not go back to your ex husband.
Do your background check on him. You must know every every. Does he have kids? Does he have a partner? Is he able to bring you over to the uk to join him Immediately without any Immigration wahala? What does he do? Why has he been single?
DeleteMy dear, If he ticks all the box, go ahead and marry him, commit your journey in God's hand and go for it. Nothing ventured nothing gained, to hell with your Ex and world people.
Why did you receive all his gifts if you haven't received him?
ReplyDeleteall these you are writing in here is to
receive validation to jump into marriage with a man you do not know;
what he's been up to for the last ten years. Was he married, had kids, how did
he get UK citizenship. Is Uk citizen ship his occupation? What does he do?
Besides, where is Jesus in all all these plans of yours?
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Jesus is in his throne smiling at her and also saying to her to give love a chance.
Delete@LIZ thanks for replying that over sabi wey dey wear im pant inside out
Delete@Liz
DeleteBecause the man is a UK Citizen based abroad.
If he were to be in Ojuelegba secondary school as a teacher?
"Satan would have been in his throne in hell scheming to throw her into
a hell of a marriage?"🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️
Senior heavenly judge.
DeleteStella why are you not posting my comments? It's very annoying when you do this
DeleteYou are interested in people's opinion. Madam your happiness and sanity should come first.
ReplyDeleteLMAO @ your two last sentences Stella🤣😂😂
ReplyDeleteIf I sound u ehn..what is what pple will say? ...pls take ur chances, get supplements drink n check ur tubes. Wait o...ur ex fit no be as single as he portrays o...well, u know him more than me. Stop feeling for an abusive Ex pls.
ReplyDeleteEven at that, it's worth a trial. She is already coming from a hellish marriage. Wetin remain a again?
DeletePoster, please post his contact let's help you check if you should go ahead or not🙄
Poster, life goes on. If you're telling all the truth, you can move on with your life.
ReplyDeleteYou still dey ask?
ReplyDeleteLife has given you another chance at happiness and you are still forming Spanish inquisition.
Please my dear didn't you read the story of the 44 year old poster who is full of regrets because she let go of her man based on 'false prophecy'?
Please accept this good news with your full chest and forget about your ex hubby and what people like him will think or say na their palava be that.
Stay Blessed
I bind every spirit of ANGism that intends to troll this comment.
New word alert
DeleteANGism
@Twinsquared
DeleteStand in front of a model's mirror.
Anything you see inside, point at it and
call it "Greedsquared!" five times. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lmao 😁😁😁 @ ANGism
Delete😂😂😂 You are bemused as in? Move on with him cos it's now more like he's a God sent to you
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you write a chronicle to ask us before you received all the
ReplyDeletecar, new wardrobe, new apartment
from him?
Don't mind her - looking for our validation. Most of these chronicles are filled with half-truths! I wish we would hear from the other parties, for every chronicle - to give the chronicles some balance.
Deletehaba let them say (in Sunny Ade voice),see God bringing blessings to you and you're there thinking of what people would say
ReplyDeleteNevertheless,pray to get it right this time and do your findings of who he's ,don't settle for who you knew him to be.
Madam point of correction he throw you out, you did not live him. Be at peace with yourself and embrace what life has given you.
ReplyDeletePlease take your time, don't rush it and if you decide to move on with your ex tell your people to return your bride price ( before marriage preparation).
ReplyDeleteLet me ask you a question that will help you.
ReplyDeleteIf this your ex is a secondary school
teacher in Ibadan, will you have written this chronicle?
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This is a wrong question, status makes an individual.
DeleteExactly anon. Women eh!. I read about a girl who went to visit a guy that has been chyking because she wanted to get a phone from abroadian toaster. And she was raped and turned to sex slave. Nigerian women with abroad mentality.. This life no balance at all
Delete@15:53
DeleteStand in front of a big mirror,
Anything you see inside, point at it and shout, greedy!
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Was her ex husband a British citizen yet she married him? So what is the fuss about him being British? Abeg rest over this uk citizen talk, It is a cheap point.
DeleteVery cheap point.
DeleteIf she's all about his citizenship she would have jumped at his proposal and not bothered writing this chronicle.
@21:51
Deletebut she jumped at "new wardrobe, new apartment, new car, new attention, new comfort, and new what will people say?"
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ANG Rest
DeleteMadam point of correction he threw you out, you did not live him. Be at peace with yourself and embrace what life has given you.
ReplyDeleteAwww Poster I am sorry about the loss of your child.Please tread with caution..Don't be moved by all the things your Ex has done for you..If you don't love him because of his drinking habits, then tell us what has changed...Don't behave like you have no other option, you have and God will show up for you..Don't jump from frying pan to fire..Please be very careful and have you sought God's face...I believe you should hold on and clear your head first cos obviously you have gone through a lot..Take your time, don't rush it..All the best
ReplyDelete👌👌
DeleteLet me ask you just one question poster.. Please if na that your ex husband, will he be bothered if it's just 3months he chased you out before bringing another woman in? Answer yourself oh and make a choice!
ReplyDeletePoster please your attitude should be- unto the next.
ReplyDeleteDo you want to go back to Egypt?
Oya go meet your ex-boyfriend don't allow your ex-husband kill you first becz people will never stop talking.
They never stop playing judge in a matter they know nothing about.
Madam, grab this opportunity with two hands and legs. People will always talk, if you never find love again they will talk. No one will love you like you and you deserve to be happy. Marrying himself will afford you a better access to medical care abroad and who knows you might have kids. See life is a risk and you don't want to look back and regret again. You can ask for a little time.
ReplyDeletePeople are already calling you names from your divorce already so why do you care?
ReplyDeleteGo and marry him jor.
Poster,
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about your predicament and thank God you were able to pull through.
You said your husband threw you out of the house but you didn't say if you have filed a petition for dissolution of the marriage on grounds of cruelty. If you haven't, please do so and use the period to date and get to know your ex once more.
Do you and disregard what anybody says or thinks before you give yourself unnecessary headache. This life is only once you live it.
All the best.
Woman thou art lucky!
ReplyDeletein as much as a lot of people are complaining about tweeny tweeny, this year has been extremely good to some people.
Madam, please marry your real husband(your ex) speedily!!!
ReplyDeleteIn fact, could you please do me the honor of inviting your husband and and the people that would say "you left suffer head because of enjoyment" to come and witness "the handwork of God almighty upon your life"!
My sister, God has seen your secret tears and has shown you mercy. Please do not leave your life caring so much about what society will say because, take it from me, society doesn't give a sheet about you! Have you ever wondered why bad news/negative things spread so fast? Exactly, society hardly wishes anyone well. All it cares about is drama and entertainment.
In short call me! We have a wedding to plan...
Lol.. Stella o
ReplyDeleteDear poster,sorry for your loss.
If you think you need more time to heal,then do so by all means.
However take your time, not because of what people will say (where were they when you endured your marriage?) but to heal, find out more about your ex(you know someone you haven't seen in years may have changed one way or the other) you don't want to move from frypan to fire.
If your Ex truly cares about you, he'll wait a little bit more for you to decide. Whatever you decide,do not rush yourself and make sure you live in the moment.
Life is too short to live a boring and unhappy life. May God direct you.
So sorry about your crashed marriage, and the DV you endured. There is no crime in moving on, but can you say your EX is being true to you. He lives in UK, and you're here. You have no idea how he is over there, the kind of life he lives. He's probably showing you what he wants you to see. I for one don't give a dime about what pple say, but I'd say give yourself time before you move on.
ReplyDeleteSensible comment! Jump and go meet an ex- who you have no clue on what he does and the life he lives in the UK. Bought you a car, rented an apartment for you and set up a business for you - greedy woman! You will end up with him in jail shortly.
DeleteStella I no fit hate but love you. Abi even if she no get feelings. 😂😂😂. Ma'ma, you have gather the remaining of your years left and spend it with your ex. Who knows, you might get pregnant with him and have kids.. THIS LIFE NOOOO BALANCE OOO!!!!
ReplyDeleteSome balance joor.....
DeleteGolibe you wan make I prove am to you say e no balance?
DeleteFeelings must come by force o Stella. Ahead ahead poster no time.
ReplyDeleteHmmm this life!
ReplyDeleteWhat made you leave him in the first place?
Do you still have feelings for him?
Have you found out sincerely why he didn't or hasn't married?
When it comes to marriage you can't be 💯% sure on yourown. Seek God's face and look inwards and answer the question of your heart without bias.
In all your considerations, let WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY NOT PLAY ANY ROLE AT ALL.
WHERE WERE "THE PEOPLE" WHEN YOUR EX HUBBY WAS SHOWING ANTHONY JOSHUA'S SKILL ON YOU.
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What's the worst thing that could happen? Biko do you, the world will adjust.
ReplyDeletePeople will always talk! That is FACTS!
ReplyDeleteIf you want to proceed, you can take it slow if you want but don't say NO to him because of what people will say.
When one door close, another opens.
ReplyDeleteYou have been given another chance, you want to thrash it because of world people.
Nawaoooo, what would they have said if you died with your ex abuse. Nobody actually cares.
Learn from Regina Daniel.
Do you 💯✌️
At 38, you are still thinking of what people will say.
ReplyDeleteLmao. I tire
DeleteAuntie, make I no hear say u no marry day your exboyfriend that is showing u so much love.
ReplyDeleteI will trace your address and beat u more than your ex husband did.
Pls accept his proposal
Lmaooooooo. abeg, dont beat her, she has received enough already....
DeleteMy sister pls don't miss this golden opportunity.infact you are favoured to have this. Within 6 months your story changed beyond your expectation and you are thinking what would people say?
ReplyDeleteSomeone knowing fully well you might not conceive and he is still willing?
Pls, so long as he dosent have an ailment he is trying to give you or use you for juju, abeg merry him.
You must learn at some point to think YOU and do YOU.
People will always talk. Didn't they talk when you were kicked out? Even if your husband gather town criers and accuse you, abeg, face front.
Pls go-ahead.
Ewoooo Stella 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 even if you no get feelings for him move on with him
ReplyDeleteYou are really lucky to find such a nice man in a short time. It is okay, if you want to take your time and heal. Forget what people will say and move on, don't be surprised that your ex husband has someone already. Enjoy your life dear❤❤
ReplyDeleteAh. Poster I can't even believe you're even thinking about this proposal!!! Better marry him asap and be happy plus you get to pepper that your yeye ex husband
ReplyDeleteShey you know that whether you remarry or not, people will still talk...they will say both what they saw and what they did not see.
ReplyDeleteYou.must live life for God and for yourself and never for others...certainly not for people who don't care about you. At 38 years of age and with all that you have endured you must brace up and face life squarely.
I wish you the very best.
I understand you may be confused, but didn’t think it would be because of ‘what people would say’.
ReplyDeleteI would be confused because I would ask myself if my ex can take care of me without remembering the fact that I married someone else. I would also ask myself if he will not use my failed marriage against me in future, by being verbally or even physically abusive.
One thing we have always known is that men see sad and troubled women as easy targets/prey. That may not be his intention towards you but I will say you should apply caution and leave a cool-off period between your failed marriage and a new relationship. You need this, not just to properly assess his intentions towards you, but to purge yourself of all lingering bitterness, self pity, and other things that are products of your former marriage. I would also suggest you formally end your marriage, so no one can have any hold on you (legally, traditionally, spiritually, and otherwise).
You need to be whole again before heading into another relationship. Most importantly, you need your self esteem back. Whatever you do, just please don’t consider the ‘scarcity of men’ in making your decision, so you don’t rush into a trap. Cheers.
Stella, God go bless you for this advice.
ReplyDeletePoster, take every bit of Stella's advice and keep praying about it to God. It is well with you.
Et tu Cynthia? You fall my hand! It is either the come-back ex is directly or indirectly the cause of her breakup or she is not telling us the whole story. Jump and follow an ex cos he spent all those on you? A 49year old unmarried man? Didnt marry cos of her? Haba na, make una dey reason small
DeleteEveryone is saying grab the opportunity without stopping to ask questions. Poster, how come he's 49 and doing well and didnt marry since. What if he's a wife beater and abusive just like your ex? This guy seems too good to be true
ReplyDeleteMy mother’s ex never married or had children. He died at 90 and told everyone that he never found a woman like my mother so it’s possible.
DeleteAnon 15.54, will stop lying? Your mother told you that, as what na? That meant your mum must be regretting marrying your Dad, telling her kids such sweet stories about her unmarried ex! Nonsense and ingredient
DeleteSome of us needs daily resetting slap because life circumstances has made us think its a normal thing to suffer. If its not stressful. Its not real. L feel you poster. You go dey alright.
ReplyDelete"What life threw at her, really?"
ReplyDeleteIf this man were to be a police constable in nigeria
or a primary school teacher, will he has been "life thrown?"
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Don't mind them.
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DeleteHope you know you are one of the luckiest woman on earth? Why do you still consider the thoughts of a man that has thrown you out, shamed and abandoned you!! Or the words of the people that couldn't save you from him??.
ReplyDeleteIf sincerely you did not commit any heinous atrocity in your matrimonial home that made him react the way he did to you, please kindly embrace he second chance life is offering and make the very best of it.. Be happy!!!
Luckiest woman on earth??? Because an ex is putting pressure on her to marry him after a failed marriage??? Abi is because he lives abroad? After you people will be saying marriage does not define a woman. Una get double mouth too much for this blog abeg.
DeleteAnon 16.36, God bless you. Very many bipolar women here.
DeleteYes she is lucky to have the chance to be with a man she loves. Go with your ex
DeleteIt’s the u.k so you’ll be fine. If he tries any funny stuff, at least you can call the police. There are many fine good men single at 49 so don’t listen to rubbish about his age
Why attach so much to the place where the man stays, he could also be living in cotonou and still love her, be a primary sch teacher and still give her peace.
DeleteShe is lucky because not so many women get second chances after a failed marriage!!
If truly her marriage is ended and she is certain it's through no fault of hers, would you prefer she stays all by herself forever or you call people bipolar because they can see beyond your holier than thou character anon 16:38 and your sis/bro19:18.
Poster check your new man out, if he is what he says he is, and you like him enough, by all means necessary move on with your life. Be careful so you don't make a second mistake.
Living overseas and single till pass 40years
ReplyDeleteMy dear, use sense and social media and investigate him well first oo
And dont fall for his words only
Time changes people alot before you become refugee in the abroad
Yes.
DeleteDo your background check well, poster.
You are not longer interested in his drinking habit?
You are lucky if he's truly what he's displaying to you now.
Society shouldn't define your life for you anyway.
40 years and so
DeleteNwanne travel and see, there are lots of them still single and even older than this one!!
DeleteWhere were the people including your family members when you were receiving beatings, insults and eventually be thrown out?
ReplyDeleteSome people will never get this opportunity you got after what they've been through again. Mind you, marrying him is not because of the UK thingy but because he genuinely loves and accepts you...
Pls stay and suffer while waiting for ur abusive husband that has kuku thrown u out. Continue caring what people will say. Meanwhile this ur ex can u throw his digits by me?? I want to ask him something I beg 🙄
ReplyDeleteHear her sounding like an old roofing sheet wind is blowing, my dear pray and if you find peace and happiness with your ex boyfriend gladly embrace it with both hands. Leave what people will say,God gave us two ears facing forward not backward on our heads so leave what back bitters will say and do what makes you happy.
ReplyDeleteJesus u guys. Old roofing sheet wind is blowing 🤣🤣👍
DeleteAt 38, you are still bothered about societal pressure and what people will say??
ReplyDeleteIn this life, you can never get people to stop talking..
Move on with your life, I feel that life has given you another second chance, seize it...
If you love this man, please marry him, and be happy, your happiness matters a lot, you deserve it OK, Just do your background check, pray about it, and marry the guy abeg. Life has no duplicate OK.
ReplyDeletePoster, that man truly loves you for him to remain single all this while. I will advice you don't miss this man because of what people will say, rather slow him down till first quarter of next year to enable you make up your mind too. Who knows, if he is still in the habit of drinking (that made you to choose your ex- husband over him), having you back in his life will make him stop.
ReplyDeleteYou can go oooo.but please investigate. after 10years he just appeared from no where and wants to marry you .it's a beautiful story but details are missing I'm sure . please research oooo don't just jump because not every thing that glitters is gold
ReplyDeletePeople will always talk,just do you and the society will adjust.
ReplyDeletePoster are you still thinking of what people will say??
ReplyDeleteYour EX is God sent, its not even something you should have a 2nd thought about.
If that guy did make you happy please grab it.He waited that long for you???Wow
Poster, I'm not doubting your story but did this happen within this covid-19 pandemic? How was he able to fly back, get you a new wardrobe, a new apartment, start a new business for you and fly back to the UK all within this lockdown period??
ReplyDeleteWell, if all you said is true, I think you should take it easy. Don't allow him or anyone rush you into another marriage. You need time to heal and find yourself once again, you need to do your own investigation regarding your Ex and who he really is presently - when something sounds too good to be true, it usually is.
Tie up all loose ends as regards divorce before taking any action. Above all, do you. Don't listen to side talk. What people say about you behind your back, is their business not yours..
Dear Poster, I'm sorry about the loss of your only child. I feel that it might have put pressure on the marriage. I'm glad you have the opportunity to start afresh. However, you must so it right. The info about your ex isn't complete. Pls investigate him so you don't end up in a worse situation. Men are usually really sweet until you have "entered" the marriage. At 49, he must have kids and/or a partner somewhere.
ReplyDeleteDo things right dissolve the marriage and move on with your life.
Even if the ex wants to marry you don’t agree to it immediately. Change environment and go meet him in the uk. Still be prayerful and observe him so it won’t be from frying pan to fire. Don’t depend on him totally and cut off links with family or friends so you can have people to fall back on if he turns out different. Having a relationship on the rebound can be dangerous. Take time to heal and clear your head before marrying again. Pls forget what people will say, you owe nobody any explanations. If your family believes you then so be it for the general public. All the best
ReplyDeleteI smiled when I saw Stella's comment because it was exactly what I wanted to type. Whether you have feelings or not follow him and forget about what people will say. Afterall,they are already talking and will still talk.
ReplyDeleteTake @stella's advice plss.
ReplyDeletePoster so sorry about your failed marriage.
ReplyDeletePlease do what ever makes you happy by all means, this life is only once.
Take time to heal sis dont rush it. Find out what he has been up to for the past 10yrs dont go from frying pan to fire. If you find out he is clean and doesn't have any skeleton in his cupboard pls go for him. Finalise your divorce and damn what people will say. They are the one that will abuse you when you are 50yrs and single.
ReplyDeleteWhat about his drinking issues can you deal with it?? He was drinking in the past that is why you left him. So pray about it and look at the pros & cons. If you decide to go with him try facility clinic,Adoption or surrogacy.
All the best sis.
See this woman shaa, you're still thinking of what people will say when they're already saying you're out of your husband's house. Dey there de jonz make time de pass
ReplyDeleteI'm just amazed at how people think The guy is better because of the things he has done. Poster you alone will bear the brunt of whatever decision you make. Thoroughly make findings about this guy,and pray about it. Once bitten twice shy.
ReplyDeleteNawa o. Wetin money dey cause. See as all of you are urging her on because of all the money he has spent. Do u know people change. You left him cos he drank. What does he do now? Have u finished all your divorce process. Stall him with that while you check and be sure u aren't going from frying pan to fire. What is his fear? He wants to marry you before you reconcile with your husband again. Leave what people will say and check and be sure what's up abeg.
ReplyDeleteplease move on poster...
ReplyDeleteWhat people will say did not matter when your husband threw you out, it didn't matter when your ex got you a house and a car. It didn't matter when he opened a business for you. Hmmmm poster give love a chance and go with your ex. I hope you still love this ex and not the husband that threw you out.
ReplyDeleteMrs Poster kindly pray about it before making any decision
ReplyDeleteThe one in UK is married gara
ReplyDeleteTake time out to ask for God's direction before making any decision
ReplyDeleteAll I know is that people are meant for each other and that God created them male and female. This man might be your God sent husband and so he waited and wasn't able to marry and you also had a failed marriage .Pray about it very well. God will direct you .All the best
ReplyDeleteStella ehn, most times your advise dey tire me and l cuss you out. But when e sweet me, e dey sweet me wella. I couldn't stop laughing at this your advise. I laughed so hard my family was like "what is going on"? After all the plenty abuse, and at 38 she is still wondering what people will say. The same people that will call her barren and shame her for being a divorcee. Some women sef.
ReplyDeleteStella I love this your advice100%
ReplyDeleteStella your advice is on point because age is nor on her side and menop3might just be knocking on the door soon. She should even go to the UK with him and start a family in a new neighborhood to avoid 'what the people will say'
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