Can you tell us how you cope with their stinginess and how it has affected or not affected the relationship or marriage?
When i say stingy,I mean stingy cash wise,stingy with compliments,stingy food wise,stingy emotionally,stingy with s#x,stingy with EVERYTHING (or most things...)
I don't know about you and i am speaking for myself,I am allergic to stingy people,we cannot be friends at all.....
Let's gist!
I cant even relate because i cant one bit stand a stingy friend or lover not to talk of husband because i go all the way out in giving.
ReplyDeleteThis post is so not for me
DeleteI detest stingy people with passion, I can't make the mistake of having one as a friend not to talk of marring them..... God forbid.
DeleteThe worst is that some of them are not only stingy but selfish at the same time.
DeleteMy dad is the best I swear. He never says no money and my mum said he is the most generous man on earth. That he used to give her money for nothing;To just hold, clothes and song ask why she didn’t buy it, biscuit, and never gave her exact amount she asked for. Infact, she said it was a job because he’d give her money for nothing and everything. She would inflate and he will still top up even though he knew. He was like that with us his kids and everyone else.
DeleteBut iou see My oldest brother, He is so stingy or should I say very very prudent it’s annoying. His wife on the other hand was a spendthrift before marriage. The babe Dey try. It started small with Excuses of projects but now he doesn’t want to even spend any money. And the wife is just too gentle it’s annoying walahi. I have been telling her how to get money out of him but I started looking like the bad person. Sometimes, I just send her money because I know she’s trying me I can’t cope with that kind of behavior. I have never asked a man for money but I know I can’t be with someone that will have and not know that he has responsibilities as a husband.
Bar is very generous, that's my first attraction to him,I detest stingy people especially if you are a guy,it's a huge turn off,no lady should be with a stingy man,it's a pathetic experience.....
ReplyDeleteWhat about men? They deserve to be with stingy women abi
DeleteIs this shola?
DeleteLet me read comments as I can't relate.
ReplyDeleteThis post is about stingy husbands I know but I just want to say that I can’t relate.
DeleteMy husband is the most selfless human l know, he will give you his last penny, not just to me but others too even people he is not related to. He taught me how to give to strangers, people like gatemen, hotel bell boys, tip waiters. He taught me that giving people especially those not in the position to give you back attracts blessings. There is nothing l want that this man doesn’t give me as long as it’s within his power. I use iPhone 10 Xs max since last year before 11 came out while he uses iPhone 8, he said he wants to get the latest iPhone for himself by December and if l want it, l can swap with him then. So many other things that if I start saying it will be as if I am bragging.
This man planned a surprise birthday for me with my sisters even when he was not in the country. I have made up my mind to do a surprise birthday for him too next year by God’s grace. See eh! I used to be very selfish l won’t lie especially when it comes to spending for the opposite sex, highest l will buy for you will be boxers and singlets as gifts 🙈🙈 but now I am becoming selfless and more giving. I was never a fan of spending for guys but now I will spend for this man, for him l can empty my account.
Rosie, ain't you just lucky? 😍😍😍😘😘😘
DeletePrettiest Rose, WOW, you got you a MAN!
DeleteKeep loving him.
DeleteI can't stand stingy people, not to talk about stingy men. I once dated a guy, before he drops money, i must accout for everything spent, down to the last kobo. Stingy with compliments as well. I'll take my time to send a sweet message, and all I get is "ok",🙄🙄🙄. I just got fed up, because I looove compliments.
ReplyDeleteEven to compliments 😂
Delete😂😂😂, You can imagine.
Delete@Bini, even to compliments oo.
Delete@Chisom darling, it was annoying o.
Capricorn.
ReplyDeleteTaurus
Gemini
Aquarius (u have to ask before dey give)
If u are among any of these zodiac signs den you are stingy as fuk! EOD!! 🏃♀️
Capricorn are the worst... them stingy die.
DeleteThis here is a big lie, absolutely lies!
DeleteTrue my mom is taurus... Her second name is Aka gum. She's too tight handed.
DeleteGemini I have met was a very generous guy,I never lacked and he buys even down to tampons for me!
DeleteI am an Aquarius and I give alot.i know how much I have given this month alone, so say what you know dear anon.
DeleteOh my younger sister is an aquarius and she is a selfless giver as for the rest I totally agree with you!
DeleteA gemini will give if only they can use you
I'm Gemini but you just goofed!!!
DeleteStingy kor🙄🙄🙄🙄
I bet to disagree with you on an aquarian. I have never seen such loving and compassionate people like them. They can give you an eyes and go blind. All the aquarians i know are givers.
DeleteRemove Aquarius biko
DeleteWhat is a Taurus doing there?..
DeleteThe most generous people ever!!..
Most Taurus I know are not stingy
You are right about capricorn and aquarius!!..
I am Aquarius, same as hubby.....we are not stingy oooo unless we don't have that thing....if hubby has money like this ehen,people around him must enjoy....I do things for people without expecting anything in return.....now person no get again like before. It is well. So anon that thing you write up there are all lies
DeleteI am a Capricorn and I am not stingy
DeleteLies from the pit of hell.
DeleteI'm aquarius and I am not stingy and my man na Gemini, he is not stingy although he can do promise and fail eeeh
Too blessed to be Cursed you are 101% correct on Gemini.
DeleteYou're wrong. I am a Taurus and I am generous to a fault. Being stingy doesn't have anything to do with your zodiac sign.
DeleteNot true I am Capricorn and I am a giver,my default setting is giving and returning Favour
DeleteI'm Aquarius my dear,no need to boast but I can vividly give all to go hungry.In my place of work,they have nicknamed me already cos I'm all loved by all,I said all!.I have no enemy.And im very compassionate!.
DeletePlease don't use your personal experience to generalize. Thank you
I am Capricorn and I am not stingy biko.
DeleteOnce I smell you are stingy in money, compliments or manipulative I pick race, some are even stingy in advice, ewooo, especially if my own is sweet in your mouth and you form aka gum we are done, for the ladies I mirror you. Nothing spoil 🦋
ReplyDeleteSome of these stingy partner/men or is actually a curse. Some want to give but they have an oath or a curse never to give money they earn. Some would even use a 3rd party if they really like you to bypass the curse. I saw this a few times In Movies and Nollywood is art imitating life. I know one that never give but will take and expects you to give so much to him.
DeleteI don't even understand what stingy means. I won't be wasting money unnecessarily to prove a point. A lady that I gave N20k thinks that I am stingy while another lady I gave N10k believes that I am generous. Where do you draw the line? If you think that I am stingy, then go make money yourself. I aint trying to impress nobody.
ReplyDeleteYou are not stingy at all... The lady that refused to appreciate you is an ungrateful lady.
DeleteSome never gives, but, they are quick to tag others stingy.
Exactly...what do they mean by stingy...its important to manage money even when you are rich. If you spend anyhoe and are always paying for things for people, you will eventually run out of money.
DeleteAs long as you are giving in proportion to your ability that is all that matters. I know billionaires that argue ver 50 naira, yes 50 naira!! And I know not so rich people who are generous to a fault. Ingrates are the first to accuse people of stinginess.
DeleteMy boyfriend of almost 8yrs is very stingy when it comes to money this man is very very rich has numerous aeroplanes but he is stingy when i first got to know him i was like wtf he cd Come to My home empty handed and when i complain because here in Europe every body contributed 50% but this man was stingy i cd abuse him call him names chase him away but he wd Come back. So i finally just accepted him like that and we have 2 kids together. this yr he suprised me with a very big beautiful house 150m from the beach in a very expensive city and he started giving me euros punds dollars. So i asked him why he is doing this after so many yrs he just laughed and said its because he was testing me and he has seen that AM a very patient woman Who is not interested in his money. I was so angry but I kept My cool because naturally AM a very giving person and they say givers never luck but this man is crazy.
ReplyDeleteI'm or I am @anon 14:15
DeleteAww dear, so touched by your story. He found him a good wife.
DeleteYimu to you.
Delete🤣🤣😂😂 he did not give you, you complained, he finally started giving, you are still complaining. What do you want 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
DeleteHian,sufri sufri. E go better.
DeleteNa wa ooo. Are you married to jeff bezos😆
DeleteAnon 14.15 well done o! Linus Mbaka😏
DeleteWhat a FABUlous story.
Delete@Anony 16:57!! What is wrong with you?? Which one is Linus Mbaka again?? OMG 😂😂😂😂😂.
DeleteYou people will not kill me on this blog, Linus Mbaka?? ROTFLMAO.
Tenny she said he is her boyfriend o
Delete...he has NUMEROUS aeroplane's.
Chisom it's Delilah Linus Olayinka
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DeleteAmu atogbo mu, Blog visitors got no chill🙆🙆🙆🙆
Wizkid 🗣Nobody want to give everybody wants to take 🙃
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Exactly. How do you know someone is stingy if you are not a taker in the first place?
DeleteMy boo is stingy with everything except s#x. If I tell him I'm horny and he doesn't have money he wouldn't mind to borrow
ReplyDeleteSome of the guys women call stingy aren't really stingy tho. Just because a man is dating you, you want him to shoulder all your financial needs and if he doesn't, you start calling him stingy. Is he your father? GTHOH!
ReplyDeleteWell said Eesah.
DeleteStingy goat....I am sure you are damn broke....broke men are quick to complain
DeleteAnon 15:05 pls take easy na 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
DeleteWell said...i was not brought up to ask men for money. I come from a family of indeprndent women. I would find it embarassing to ask a man for money for myself.
DeleteBody can sabi pepper poor man ehn @Eesah
Delete@Femilicious. Same here. Despite growing up in poverty, we were trained to be independent so I always marvel when people say women like money/depend on men for money too much. Although despite being independent, I am grateful to God that I married a Giver.
DeleteDayomi i dont even know how to open my mouth to say give me money for hair etc.... if its bring money for your children i talk well well because i didnt manufacture them by myself
DeleteOnce I noticed that you're stingy, I back off. No time!
ReplyDeletesweetums baby😍
DeleteCan't relate. My homies and I be generous af. ☺😜🤑🤑🤑
ReplyDeleteMy brother was very stingy to his ex wife, I usually stay with them whenever I come to naija before the marriage collapsed. He doesn't give the wife money for upkeep, the children clothes all worn out,and the wife looked like a poor hawker. This my brother had all it takes to make his family comfortable, well the short period I do stay with them, I provide basically every household items they needed. On one occasion, the wife asked for money to buy vegetable oil, he told her to use palm oil instead. Later the marriage collapsed, he remarried ,I believe he's treating his new wife better. I asked him why he's behaving that way,he told to my face to mind my business.
ReplyDeleteA man is never stingy to a woman he loves. FACT
DeleteBlood money things; let your family not to partake in the money
DeleteI am married to one and sincerely its frustrating. He didn't have much while we were dating I grlt he wasn't doing because he didn't have much but now the reverse is the case. You will see him with money o but ask he will tell you he is rich. I needed to go to hospital for antenatal and also to get diaper for our son he said he didn't have only for him to tell me the next day that he will be travelling to see his supervisor. Once he brings the monthly upkeep 15k that I complained is not enough for three adults he won't bring sisi but will want to eat plenty he is a foodie. He is not stingy with comments since na my money go cook the food but his own hmm. The last time I advised him to buy new belt, clothes and shoe for himself because he is stingy even to himself. The stinginess is really affecting my feelings for him. My husbands favorite phrase is I am rich(I don't have). I have decided to always make sure I cook good food for us even if he won't give enough, I will also take care of myself but I won't stress myself over him at all like cooking special meal for him, buying him gift or supporting him whenever he needs money. This decision was taken this july. I will reciprocate his stinginess back to back.
ReplyDeleteWay to go
DeleteSuffer head. Pele dear.
DeleteNa wa o! l feel your pain, just take it easy especially for your unborn baby. 🤗🤗
Delete15k for 3 people? Wow.
DeleteThis would be a great read.
ReplyDeleteJust like you Stella, I am allergic to stinginess and also to stingy people. I don't have such people in my life.
ReplyDeleteBorn a giver and receiver
I was dating one boy like that during my undergraduate days. From my own pocket money, I will send him recharge cards. He will always manipulate me to borrow him money, send recharge cards etc (things we do for love). I will always be like why is this guy always collecting without giving me. He was working and i depended on my parents, yet I still give. One day, he invited me over to his place. I traveled from Abeokuta to Osun. When I was leaving, he gave me 1k for tfare. Ogbeni, 1k isn't even enough to take me home....long story short, I broke up with him. Carry your stingy ass away. Not that he didn't have, but the stinginess has eaten deep. It is emotionally draining to be with a stingy partner
ReplyDeleteFor some people, they only give when they are truly in love, if they have not gotten to that level they feel sacrificing for you is a waste of time and resources.
DeleteHow do you notice it? Do you test them.
ReplyDeleteYou can also open up to us if you are the stingy one(rolls eyes) all of us on this blog na saint obi 😀 hehe but I am not a stingy person by the way
ReplyDeleteI have read a lot today;
ReplyDelete"I detest stingy people, I am allergic to stinginess...stinginess is worse than covid..."
Abeg my sisters, if you are the stingy person in the relationship, yarn us o.
When last did you give somebody a pen?
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"I can't deal'. "I" m allergic to stingy guys". What of you? Are you allegic to being generous too? Nonsense
ReplyDeleteStingy people, you have to be smart and use orisirisi tricks for them to give. But ain't gat no time for that. If you're stingy, then you don't exist in my world.
ReplyDeleteI am married to a rich stingy man,and it is particularly annoying when someone is rich and stingy. Tufiakwa. It is tantamount to wickedness
ReplyDeleteMe I’m stingy oo. I use to be a giver to everyone that cost me a lot. Now, I just do my thing and mind my business. I was looking for someone we can be together so the feeling is mutual, but for now, I’m even stingy to myself
ReplyDeleteLmao 😀😀😀😀
DeleteYou don't have to test them anon. It's always very obvious.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is too stingy eeeh,I buy clothes for him but can't remember the last time he bought for me. Time to drop money of food(his own part o)his mood and face would change.
ReplyDeleteHe enjoys squandering my own money but his is a no go area.Someone dashed me money,I used it to buy foodstuffs, his salary came and never brought any and next was his new clothes.
Well if I'm paid this month,must collect money for food from him,use part of my money to buy clothes too.What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.
Selfish husband
My mother is a very stingy and ungrateful woman I have ever seen.Well for husband,his own dey wme body.
ReplyDeleteI have realised that when I give,more doors and gifts come in.
Stinginess is not an attractive quality in a romantic relationship. However, many ppl become stingy because of situations they have gone through in life. The stinginess is oftentimes a manifestation of some unresolved fear or trauma.
ReplyDeleteI am who i date. Theres a reflection of me in my spouse, stinginess is not on my dna and i can never atrract or be attracted to stiny people and poverty. The universe forbid. My partner is a giver, im also a giver. Sometimes i think desperation makes people's frequency jam. Dont be desperate and you'll be ok.
ReplyDeleteMy bestie got married this January to a man someone introduces to her.the girl who induced her the her husband also dated her husband but she never knew. According to her, when they met,in lest than four months this man started rushing for them to get married so they got married. Then everything bust out.
ReplyDeleteLet me state it here first that this man is into politics,a business man and also has a government job. This her husband also inherited two rooms n two shops from his late date. Before they got married,my friend has a very good job in Abuja.so she relocated to live with her husband in another state.
So after the wedding, her hubby called her n told her that he has no money so they hv to manage . My friend believes this man.where they are living now, this man hv lived there for nine good years n it is a very old building, their living room is a story for another day in fact nothing like television cos the one there is not working n this man dont even care. He will give her #1800 for soup.she will Carry her hair for three months. then this pandemic opens her eyes when the husband only sister came to stay with them. She told her the truth that she is going to suffer the way their own mother suffers in their father's hands.
In fact I'm tired of typing. The truth is, she snooped n find out that the husband lied to her n since then her house knows no peace anymore.
Her saving grace is her saves cos that is what she is useing to take care of her self.
Apart from that, the man only hv sex with her during her ovulations.
Am tired of typing o.
Chai ooo na torture marriage be this, na by force?
DeleteMy hubby lives in the U.K and he is really doing well. He is a health practitioner. He visited me in February and because of the pandemic, he is stranded here. I knew he was stingy but I didn't know it was this much. I mean, he knows I haven't worked for four months, yet he doesn't help me with my feeding. We don't eat the same kind of food due to some health conditions. He just gives me money for his food and that's it. Not a penny more. Even when he was in the U.K, he sends me an equivalent of #25k which is not even regular monthly
ReplyDeleteThis one na carry come stinginess!!! He should just go back abeg,what's 25k from a UK health practitioner ?
DeleteThis is pure wickedness!!!
DeleteI don't know if my boyfriend is stingy cos I've never asked for a pin
ReplyDeleteI buy him lots of gifts , luxury gifts he buys me gifts too but I wouldn't consider them luxury . I have bailed him out financially a couple of times not more than $5k
I've never asked for money , my friend thinks I should ask him for money so I'd know if he is stingy or not. I really don't believe I should be asking a man for money.
Please no insults this is who I am. E no dey hard una to curse person.
Aww! Nobody will curse you out. I see that you are a very giving person. Keep it up but don’t let people take advantage of you.
DeleteStop buying him "luxury gifts" and if he asks you for money? Say dont have. Na wa for you ooo
DeleteNot cursing you out but please stop it. Don't make the same mistake I did when I was your age. Give in proportion to how he gives. Stop giving him money and only give generic labels and not luxury gifts.
DeleteMiss independent wehdone 😏👐🏽
DeleteSince you don't want advice kwantinu...........
anon by their actions you will know o
ReplyDeleteMy husband is on this table thank God I am working if not i for hear nwii.
ReplyDeleteLol anon, I remember when I got married newly, I was earning about 300k, hubby was earning about 170, I was shouldering most of our financial responsibilities since I was the one earning more but my hubby kept on complaining that I’m so stingy that I don’t spend my money(mind you I have a saving and accountability culture), I used to give him money and buy him stuff when I can, I later lost my job and now I’m a housewife but my hubby got a better job that pays him a lot , I now understand why he used to say I was stingy then and complain a lot, cos now he pays me a monthly allowance of 400k and never asks me how I spend it, he has bought me a beautiful car and buys a lot of stuff for my parents too, he is generous to a fault I guess that’s why he sees me as stingy, the down side of it is that he isn’t accountable, he can have 1m and use it up on gifts and dashing people money, I hate it so much but what can I do.
DeleteI cant stand stingy men abeg
ReplyDeleteIt's been 10 months and i am trying to figure out if he is stingy or not. Sometimes I feel like he is, other times like he isn't. On my part, I am very generous and I do not want anyone to take advantage. If you are waiting for me to ask, you will be waiting a long time. If i start to feel used, I will just walk away
ReplyDeleteIf you are in doubt then he is stingy. Stop giving and see what happens then take it from there.
DeleteMy own is stingy with everything “stingi-able“. Just mention it and he will be found there.
ReplyDeleteDear God, i am not a stingy person, pls do not bring a stingy person my way in Jesus' name. Amen
ReplyDeleteMy own question is... why is it that, people who are stingy are mostly greedy? They are so tight fisted yet they always expect to be gifted things. Not just to be gifted on a normal level but in abundance... Can anyone relate?
ReplyDeleteExactly! Being a stingy female or male is just a turn off. From friends to life partners it is a no no from me.
DeleteSincerely I don't know. I am generous but am married to a stingy man. He thinks he should manage my salary. When he is broke I transfer money to his account because I feel the man of the house shouldn't be penniless but when he has and I don't hmmmm..I will ask for 100# for more than ten times and his reply will be I will give you later until I get tired and give up.
Delete18:21, Better fight that man till he takes his eyes off your salary. I hate stingy people. They won't give, yet they feel so greedy and entitled to what you have.
DeleteNa so my Capricorn boyfriend dey do before, till I woke up one day and opened eye for him. Told him I didn't toast him and will dump him if he doesn't adjust that rubbish behaviour. He has been trying and better now. But I still dey observe am.
No time for nonsense
i read about how alot ladies here complain how they hate stingy men. the question is this , are sure you are not stingy yourself . Apart from sex what else are offering to that man. most nigeria girls has these entitlement mentality. they feel like oh because he is my boyfriend he is suppose to buy me this and buy me that while they offer sex .its doesnt work like that . young generation of guys are becoming wiser.
ReplyDeleteYou wrong Anon. How many girls bring only "sex" that is the cheapest thing to the table now.
DeleteYoung generation guys are becoming shafter# Breeding women providers and losing their masculinity.
Amazing how things have changed and now being the new norm.
If u dont give , u can never receive.(law of the Universe )
ReplyDeleteMy former boss will always ring it in my ears that A stingy Man is not worthy to be a Husband ...hmmm dat I held on to ! Fortunately I married a very open handed Man
I don't even know if my fiancee is stingy or not, he works and earns not less than 200k and he isn't taking care of anyone as his siblings are all working but the highest he can give me is 5000 naira. And this comes like in 3 months, I try to buy him gifts even when I am a student but he doesn't. I am already having second thoughts about our marriage which is dated for December as I don't know if it is something I can cope with. I am a very generous person Infact my family always complain that I am good to a fault.
ReplyDeleteYou better think twice oo bcos this man here is over stingy. What is 5k for 3months and he earns 200k. ABEGII
DeleteYour man is stingy. Please think twice.
DeleteIf you were to devide that 5000 by 3 months that is less than 20 naira per day.
DeleteAnd he earns over 200k you say.
You wantu marry him?
Lolll nne, you are about to get a post graduate degree in existential suffering.
As Suffering Pro abi na Sufferring Max. As in the this kind of suffering wear bra and corset join. Tufiakwa!!!!!!
Stella I'm not lucky with generous men, before I marriage it was only stingy men that were coming my way and I also married a stingy man and know he's rich but he won't allow me smell his money but I've learnt to be content with my salary so na so I see my life for men hands.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I love about stingy people is that they are not just stingy to others,they are stingy to themselves.
ReplyDeleteMy elder brother used to be aradite,I helped him open his hands. Even though he is still stingy,not like before.
Awwwwwwww
ReplyDeletePrettiest Rose,that's a good man you have there
My elder brother is the most stingy person I no, he will be holding his own and want to collect your to join to his own.
ReplyDeleteThat's the description of greed and covetousness
DeleteActions, also you can say subtle things and see how they react .
ReplyDeleteSuch is life. I dated a girl who was always pestering me for money. She said I am stingy. Now I am dating a lady I gave an open book to ask for anything. She never asks me for anything. Very homely and respectful. I know that if she calls me for N200k I will send it with no questions asked. My point is that some men only give you what they think you are worth. How do you carry yourself? Pretending to be posh is a big turn off--that means you are only good for outing and partying but not a wife material bc my money aint safe with you.
ReplyDeleteCan you pay N1k for a bottle of sprite? Why do you pay N10k for a bottle of wine? Because the wine is worth it and the sprite is not. Are you a sprite wanting to compete with wine? No man is stingy. He only gives you what he thinks you are worth.
ReplyDeleteEvery man has a lady wey dey chop him money. Maybe not you.
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