These house helps also have stories to tell about you all......
Is there anyone here that knows about those who maltreat their househelps despite the fact that these helps are unproblematic?
Or were you once a house help and had a hair rising negative experience?
Some people treat their house helps horribly and treat their kids like Kings and Queens....Know anyone who does this?
Please share any stories you know with us ....
We had house helps growing up. I'll say my grandma raised them well. Back then, when we're back from primary school, my grandma would use our books to teach the helps. She even gave them homework, and she'd mark it. She believed in equality. Whatever, she gives her grandkids, she gives them. Until she died, the helps still came around to visit.
ReplyDeleteOur house help burnt my hand when I was younger( with an iron) cos according to her, I was disturbing.
DeleteGuess who’s walking around with a huge scar on her face?
Yep
By her own sister
For taking coke from the fridge.
So thoughtful and nice of her.
DeleteOh wow. @Mide, sorry o.
Delete@Radiant, she had a kind heart.
I have got zilch to share mbok
Deletewe were raised in equality in my house as well.
DeleteI will report anybody that maltreatment their house helps fast fast......we never had one, my mum's kid sis stayed with us for a while, then momsy (superwoman) continued on her own with 6kids.
Delete@Choco baibay, I always say it takes nothing for one to be kind, but being evil, hmmmmm
DeleteMy Aunty was so wicked to her househelp.Benita's mum had 10 children and she was the 2nd child.The girl's mum saw how her sister's child was treated and looked in my house,She begged my mother to take her own daughter as a househelp,but my mum didn't want problem and refused.So she had to tell Benita's mum about my Aunt who had been searching for a help for a while now.Benita was about 12 or 13.My Aunt had 4 kids and her first born, just a year younger than Benita.
DeleteWe didn't know about the maltreatment because when they come for a day's visit,everything seemed normal aside from shouts and insults over minor mistakes,sometimes my mum will caution my Aunt over things that didn't require a reaction.We noticed the girl became quiet and walked on egg shells around my Aunt.It was odd because she stayed with us for 1 week when she came first and was such a chatter box,very lively,smart,beautiful and funny girl.We thought maybe she was growing and getting matured that is why.
It was a holiday period and Aunty had travelled for a wedding.The kids came to stay with us.One fine morning,we heard our help calling for my mum to come and see!! We rushed with her back to the room,and Benita just got out of the bathroom.She had rushed to dress and wore her usual long sleeves and long skirt or trouser.She didn't know while wiping her body,our help had stolen a glance at her back.Our girl explained what she saw,and Benita said it was a lie and started crying.After much convincing and pampering,she removed her shirt.My people if you see the big wound and so many bruises on her body.Both fresh and old sores.Including cane and bite marks.in fact 90% of her body was covered in injuries and marks,including the injury on her cheeks near her eye that had ink on it,my Aunt had told us previously, the girl fell down.We started questioning her,a lot of shocking things i can't type here.My Aunt was so wicked and evil to this girl.
Most of the beating was mainly because of her own children.E.g;not washing her first child's uniform well,the water was not hot/cold enough for cerelac.Including making her stay awake to fan her baby to sleep when there is no light.Not coming back soon enough from an errand,the girl has to run so fast even with heavy things,a second late will attract beatings.Forced to eat a spoilt fish that was buried on the ground,because she made the soup sour,when her husband came home late and dished from the soup e.t.c.She sleeps at 12am and awake at 3:30am.And she dares not be awake when aunty has woken up including saturdays and sundays.We were all in shock.
My mum didn't wait for my Aunt to come back from the trip.called her to start coming,told her to take her kids and go,but Benita is not going with her,because she has called her mother to come for her and she is on her way.I have never seen my mother so angry like that.When the girl's mother came,my mum made sure my Aunt and her husband pay every penny of hospital bills to treat the girl and get rid of her scars.That case caused a big family issues.Pastors and family elders were involved.Benita stayed with us for 3 years after that, before her mother came for her because she gave birth to her 11th child and needed help at home.
Few years later,they say Karma is not real,that is a big fat lie.Because i know the Karma Aunty is facing now,as a result of that incident.She didn't know walls have ears ,neighbours took note and everyone was observing.I don't want to mention what it is here.Someone might decode her.
This is one topic that makes me always ask the question of why do some women enjoy treating children who are not theirs badly?
ReplyDeleteI detest it a lot! If you're here doing such to those in your care cos you didn't give birth to them, please repent and tell God to fill your heart with pure love for others cos you never know where your children will be tomorrow. Only God can see it, you can't!
Preach sis!. God bless you for this your comment.
DeleteAll of them will be claiming saint today.
DeleteCynthia, you and I are the same school of thought.
DeleteSending you love and light sister 🤗💕
Yes annon 15:53. You will now wonder who are those maltreating those house helps we read about everyday on social media.
DeleteApt @cynthia Iyede.
Loud it Cynthia.
DeleteAnony 15:53 calmdan,Cynthia has been on this blog for years,still same no pretence,she may not be my blog friend but I know her well down to her office enough to tell you that she is not lying.
There are lucky girls raised by good women,she has love and is spreading love,cool down inugo and be like Cynthia.Go treat your help nicely.
LMAO!! Oluwa ooo
DeleteSome house helps are devilish,no matter how nice you are to them, they'll never appreciate..the last two I had were very ungrateful...
ReplyDeleteI Thank God for this recent one,she knows what to do at the right time and she's a very good girl. I too play my part in making her comfortable and well taken care off. I don't believe in mistreating househelps to instill fear in them..to what end exactly?..
I do my best in treating others especially house help nicely.
Like I'd always say it costs nothing to show kindness .
DeleteMy own house help wanted to make a grandmother before I reach 40yrs,had to send her back to her people.
DeleteLet me keep managing,its better than allowing a molester in my home.
While I was in Benue, there was this woman close to me. She had this small girl in her house. Doesn't go to school, always in tattered clothes, and was overworked. Looking at her, you'd know she's suffering, and she hardly smiles. The woman's husband would beat her at every provocation.
ReplyDeleteNever knew she was even the woman's late sister's daughter. Like, the day I found out I was very surprised. How can you fold your hands and allow your niece to be treated like an animal?
I made the woman my friend and decided to talk to her. Told her to always stand up for the child as she's the only person she has. My happiness was that she listened. She later confided in me, that sometimes he beats her too when she steps in.
Before I left, she registered the girl in school, bought her new clothes and started pampering her. 😁😁😁
God bless you Rhoda darling for talking to her. 🤗🤗
DeleteYou did well...👍👍👍
DeleteGlad she changed for the better.
DeleteIf she could treat her late sisters kid that way, I wonder how she will treat other people's kids not related to her. I hope she doesn't change if truly she turned a new leaf. May God keep the young girl Safe.
DeleteAwww. That’s very sweet of you. You restored her back to factory setting and just saved the girl’s life. Those type of men that have time for those small kids usually end up molesting them
DeleteThat's very kind of you. Thank you.
DeleteGod bless you, Rhoda. Well done!
DeleteGod bless you dear. Thank God you didn't like away like most of us would have.
DeleteGod bless you for giving your voice to that child
Deletegood job!!!
DeleteGood job!!!
Life is fleeting tomorrow is not promised.
Destinies could change overnight, show kindness and look out for each other.
Thank you for not drinking water and minding your business♥️
DeleteGod bless you for this act.
DeleteThank you guys
DeleteThat's so thoughtful of you
DeleteBut why do men interfere in help matters? My hubby will hardly even speak with my maid except its very necessary. I don't know why but I feel that there's something to be decoded/deciphered from such action.
DeleteI have a confession.
ReplyDeleteI sleep with my house help. Don’t want to make excuses for it. I have tried to stop but I can’t. My wife doesn’t even know. Moreover my house help is 24 and has a child that is 5. She lives with the child in my house and my kids play with her kid.
She is so caring and respectful to my wife that it’s impossible to suspect anything.
She gives me sex always while my wife gives all the excuses in the book.
It’s been bothering me that I need to confess.
It hasn't been bothering you. If it truly has you will confess to the right person.
DeleteWhy confessing to us? You don't owe us your loyalty.
Your egungun is doing press-up by the express
DeleteBe very kiaful
Hmmmm. No fear. Your wife giving you excuses (according to you) is not a good enough reason to cheat. I mean, it's bad enough that you stepped outside your marriage, but doing it in your home is just 👎👎👎. Your help will start disrespecting your wife (if she hasn't started sef.) End your affair o.
DeleteNot cool oga.
DeleteUncle, for confessing it here shows you still have conscience but you've to stop it...
DeleteHave you considered what will happen if she becomes pregnant and the effect of it on your wife??
Please, put an end to it....
😮😮😮🤔🤔🤔
DeleteThen stop! Just stop!
DeleteOga you are on your own.
DeletePls stop. It doesn't end well. Don't do destroy the small peace you have in your home Pls. I am begging you. You have self control. Let the woman go if she has become a torn in your flesh.
DeleteEnjoy it while it lasts. The effects could be devastating. All your respect, integrity and trust will fly through the window faster than Sunday stew in the making. Man up and quit. If you're busted, all the fun you had will pale into insignificance compared to the disgrace.
DeleteHaa!
DeletePlease stop!
I am not judging you but stop it now.
DeleteWhy not pay her off?that way you can stop this evil act of yours. I'm sure you won't be happy if tables were turned.Do you want her to poison your wife?or harm your kids? So stop this immediately.
DeleteStop nau, just stop! Can you take what you're doing to your wife? God is watching!
DeleteIn a sane clime, the house help will wake up one day and sue the hell out of your ugly cheating arse.
DeleteRepent oga "entanglement"!
Ms A haha @oga entitlement.
DeleteDevious bv,change and leave your help alone.
One plea from me guys ,if you have the social media handles of our dear Mr Caesar please tag him or copy and paste.
Thanks Caesar as you view and reply here.
Oga no one is without sin. You should stop now that it isn't late. Have you considered the fact that your help might be in love with you that's why she is quiet? What happens when you decide to stop and she then starts plotting to kill your wife or cause your family harm. Trust no one
DeleteCaesar come and see oooo
DeleteOga please stop abeg, haba na
Oga you are allowing your third leg rule your life. You already know what you are doing is bad. The consequences could be devastating not just for you but your children. Don't be a cursed man. Self discipline is what actually makes you a man. Also you need to to talk to your wife and go to counseling with her so you both can find a rhythm that works for you. Genuinely repent before it is too late.
DeleteShe has to go. Since you want to have her as a sex toy, keep her elsewhere. You are seriously disrespecting your wife and before the devil takes over completely (she could decide to do away with madam and become the main madam), she needs to go.
DeleteAs for you, no words.
My first househelp was a hardworking bed wetter, after she left i got another one who had bearly spent 2mths then I went shopping for her but by the following day I went shopping for her,she had packed all her belongings, mine,most of the wears I was selling at that time,digital camera and most of our pictures and she disappeared.
ReplyDelete😱😱 sorry oo
DeleteI know a lady in Lagos who beat hear 6 year old househelp to death.
ReplyDeleteI hope that woman is now behind bars
DeleteHow sad. Hope she was arrested o
DeleteOh God 😭😭😭
Delete😲😲😲😲😥
DeleteImagine! See slavery! 6 years old! Some women hennnn! No conscience at all...
DeleteHope they locked her up?
Did you write 6years old. How can someone give up a 6years old to another as a house help, she is still a baby for christ seek. This is really heartbreaking.So what happened to the murderer?
DeleteI hope she's cooling off in jail ,
Delete2ndly what help can a 6 year old render ???
Lord have mercy , I say this all the time fornication and adultery aren't the only sins capable of destroying our relationship with God and man.
🙆🙆🙆🙆 6years old,kai that woman is wicked
DeletePlease finish this sad story and tell us the witch is in jail.
Delete😳😳😳 she what!!! hope she got arrested, a 6 year old Kwa, some helps are horrible but women should treat their helps better and the husband should put them in check when they don't, the gory stories are too much 🦋
DeleteI am about getting one after so much pressure from my mum. I stay in Lagos but so scared of living with strangers coupled with a have kids. I will just read and learn
ReplyDeleteThe only advice I can give you is to pray about this .
DeleteThe world is a terrible place and lastly be kind .
There's no house help with us.. The story I read about the Deaconess maltreatment to that Princess was on another level. Never seen such wickedness...
ReplyDeleteShe's just a deputy devil not a deaconess.. gosh!!!!
Oh you saw that story?!
DeleteDevil dey learn where some women dey.
Oh my!! Stella, please don’t get me started as I have seen the most wicked things being done to those maids and like you said, they treated their kids like egg and behaved badly that their kids is more closer to than them. Some of those kids get to see more of their maids than their own mother and cannot imagine why they will choose to treat the maids that they entrusted their children to. I was at an high scale hotel buffet one Sunday and this useless family cane with their children and maid and the maids sat through while the family was eating and they didn’t included her in the buffet meal. I was so angry and was close to going to tell them how to be a good human being but my sister stopped me against such. And you wanted this woman to be nice to your children and your family? Very inhuman and sad 😞
ReplyDeleteI can’t wrap my head around such meanness...like, how were they all seating at a table eating without offering food to everyone at the table? Sheesh.
DeleteWicked people! Mtchewwww
DeleteThe heart of many Nigerian women. They hate other people's kids and treat them like trash.
DeleteAnd their kids will call them the best mother in the world not knowing how dark and stoney their mothers heart are.
it's equivalent to witchcraft, not all witches attend coven meetings these days , some are in human forms .
DeleteI'm proud of the people we are today i mean my siblings and I, if we ever learned anything from our parents. We learned to treat people with love and kindness.
You cannot love God and maltreat another person's child.
Ms. A are you not a Nigerian woman??
DeleteShe'll say they're been paid salaries so they can use the money to pay for the food
DeleteShe leaves her kids with the help for hours you say？ Don't worry about her those things they order at the eatery she will eat them from her kitchen,in other revenge sessions she will beat their kids to stupor and make eba with bad reddish garti and feed them.
DeleteAbeg! The maid that my mother-in-law was carrying up and down like her handbag to ocean basket and co to eat, how did she treat her in the end? Stole from her and left.
DeleteShe is a lonely londoner. The way she stresses Nigerian women, you would think she is from Pluto. Mind I know of many foreign women who maltreat their children, not to mention other people's. We have read some stories on this blog. Wickedness has no country, tribe or gender. You are putting the good Nigerian women to shame and smearing them unnecessarily by your generalization. You are always doing this when this topic is raised. Foreigners smear us enough and we need to try to change the unhealthy narrative some foreigners try to pin on us.
DeleteYes. My mother does not treat her househelp well. As a child during my growing up years with her, I witnessed her abuses, throwing knives, wooden paddle, anything within her reach at them. As her daughter, I too was not spared. I have marks all over my body. I am in my 40s now.I hated her then.
ReplyDeleteShe kept changing domestic servants at quick succession and yet illtreats them. Now she is almost 80 yrs living all by herself cause no one wants to release any child to be with her. Not even relatives. No child of hers stays with her. I feel bad and pity her. But When she was in her 60s I suggested someone coming to stay to assist her she bluntly refused claiming the girl will finish her food. She can not treat any househelp well. They will look hungry cause mother will hide food and claim lack. Can't buy clothes, pants for them. I was in boarding school for 5 years and she never came on visiting days. I always felt sad on visiting days seeing other parents bring food to their children. She never bothered if I have started menstruation or needed bra,sanutary pad, pants as a teenager. So you can imagin domestic servants.
But she is now paying the price.
If my mother in law is not careful, this will be her fate!
DeleteHer children always run away from her (she curses them and never agrees she's ever wrong)
Her maids are always scared whenever she's home(she gives them spoilt food to eat at times and some of them have this murderous looks on their eyes at times when looking at her), she beats them at the slightest provocation.
We the daughters-in-law are always scared of hearing her voice even when she calls.
She embarrasses her hubby in public...the list is endless!
,😲😲😲😲
DeleteNa wa o
DeleteTypical description of a monster mother and mother inlaw 😱😱😱
DeleteSee because of maltreating peoples children no one wants to release his child. The reason why the say is good to be good.
DeleteAt least, you saw how wicked your mother was to her maids. Let her continue to pay the price of her actions.
Deletethis left me bemused.
DeleteJust keep praying for her it's not too late to make amends.
🙆🙆🙆
DeleteI stopped going to a friend's house because if the way she maltreats her help. The girl likes me alot and fond of me, but wtaching her dehumanizing the girl and her husband inclusive. Flogging her naked in her husband's presence and asking her if she's a virgin or not, I took off biko.
ReplyDeleteI needed to be sane for myself, my sister wasn't happy with me, said I should have stood up for her and maybe told her mum to come pick her,but I did the little I could for the girl. It saddens me anytime I remember the girl.
The helps that lived with my mum, came young and grew with us, they still come around, even my mum passed, one refused to go, she takes care of my dad (he's lost his sight) now and I opened a saloon for her. Although she steals sometimes but she's an amazing young girl.
Your sister was right.
DeleteI don't get the flogging and asking if she's a virgin. What has her virginty got to do with her work🙄🙄. Your friend is wicked, I just wish you stood up for the girl.
DeleteAnyone that keeps quiet in the face of injustice is part of that injustice.
DeleteYou should have stood up for that girl.
DeleteThat your friend is literally giving her husband the go ahead to rape that girl. One day the man will be curious and would want to know if she's truly a virgin.
Oli please it’s not too late to do more.
DeletePlease let’s take this on ourselves to be on the lookout for the less privileged. Please.
I wish you did more,
DeleteIts sad what these people go through, id not also be surprised if her horseband abuses the girl.
Lord have Mercy 🥺 I think there should be a capital punishment for maltreatment of domestic staff.
@Everly rock that's your business, Ms. I did my best, I wouldn't fight in her house nu,@Candy I didn't understand it either @Amigos yes but I tried the best I could and I am not expected fight her and her husband. I can't take her away from her, especially if I don't want to keep her.
DeleteGo back and talk to your friend oliveK, that girl was Jesus who needed help. You can help, more than you did. Find a way to
Delete@OliveK, I said what I said. It is nothing but the honest truth
DeleteOlive k, tip those agencies or is it human rights group, what If this poor girl dies in their hands?
DeleteMy neighbor next house have a girl(extended family)that her parents have 8 of them and she's the first born,the parents can't take care of them,so she took her and have been with them for 12yrs now she says! She brought the girl when she was 8 years old..this girl is grown now 20yrs,she does everything in the house,from chores to taking care of her Aunty's 4 children,to cooking ,to running errands while her Aunty galavant the whole neighborhood doing absolutely nothing
ReplyDeleteThis girl will work from morning till night daily, without rest..the Aunty will beat her,deny her food for being forgetful sometimes..she complained the girl don't know anything regarding her academics and I replied her when she doesn't have time to read,how will she know anything?? Since this lockdown,the girl haven't opened anybook to read for once!
I noticed the girl has body odor last year,so I bought roll-on and body spray for her and told the Aunty that when it finished she should be buying for her,her reply was shocking 😱😱 she told me she didn't use roll-on when growing up so why should her girl be using roll-on?? I reminded her she has a female child of her own,so what happens when she's of age won't she buy for her? She told me her husband will be buying for the daughter when the time comes🙆🙆🙆
Infact I can't write all I have seen so far from this woman to this poor girl..I wish people can really give birth to kids they can train instead of giving them out to family members or outsider to train
Your neighbor isn’t ok in the head.
Deletekai
DeleteI wish that girl could leave that toxic environment 😕 😒
This is really crazy!!!and tomorrow if such a woman is brought to book she would plead for mercy. Smh evil woman.
Wicked beings
DeleteWhat kinda woman is that
DeleteI used to know of a lady who always gives her housemaid a leftover spoiled food. It was so bad that we had to call the maid's parents to come to the aid of their child before she dies of food poisoning.
ReplyDeleteSome people are extremely wicked.
I'm glad ya'll called her family .
DeleteBut how do some people comfortably ill treat another without any form of guilt?
Candix God bless you for speaking out..We have a lot of devils in human skin
DeleteAhhh
DeleteI stayed with my aunty and i have felt what it means to be maltreated no matter how hardworking i was. My aunty dares not see you eating, hmm! The name calling will make you not to eat for the next 1 week. She will remind you how your family is dying of hunger and all you do is eat and eat. Since i left her house i always stand up for ny household being maltreated. I have his wicked,heartless neighbor who maltreats her niece so much that she can beat and starve this girl for days. 1 day i picked upon mmyself to confront her and i threatened to arrest her if she dares lay her hand on that girl again that if she's tired of staying with the girl,she should send her home to her father. She didn't ouch her aagain from that day, i traveled and came back and i didn't see the girl again, 1 of my neighbor old me that while i traveled, she was beating the girl and broke her head and took her the chemist and that after that day she didn't see the girl again.
ReplyDeleteHer own blood!!!!!!
DeleteSmh !!!!!!
Oh my God!! Jesus Christ..Wickedness
DeleteWhy are some women heartless like this, why treat another human being that way
DeleteHmmm... And here I am looking for a girl child to adopt and pour all my love to but adoption process is just too hard.
DeleteKai! This world no balance at all. #CRYING# It's not fair.
My sisters mother inlaw was one hellish woman to helps, she was never nice to anyone else except her daughter and grandkids.
ReplyDeleteShe will give them the oldest of her soups. No egg and meat for them even if you fry it for her grown grandkids.
She will send you to her farm very early in the morning, monday to friday!!
If she is not at home you sit outside by the corridor and wait for her.
What about her insults...
She was never satisfied with any help.
She calls them thieves.
Abeg her matter too long joor!!!
things are really happening
Delete@Choco I am telling you..some people are living demons
Delete😱😱
DeleteSome people are damned wicked. My neighbour has over 5 maids in less than 15 months. I don't know where she gets them ftom.
ReplyDeleteLate every night sometimes into 2am, you will hear her fighting with her maid. We can't sleep due to noise.
And they keep going away. She will bring another in and within a short time you will see another face. She is so lousy and dirty so are the maids too. One of the maids came into my apartment to beg for food. I was shocked. She told me she was going awsy as she couldn't stay again couple with rats taking over their house. The day.I made attempt to talk to her over the threat of incesssnt change of maids and rats running into a hole in her apartment, she said I should go report to CBN. I did not understand what she meant by that. Though I don't see her as an educated woman as she claims, I kept away fron her and we hardly talk.
Meanwhile, my maid who is 23 has been with me for 7 years now and we are like sisters. I am looking for office work for her. Covid 19 has messed up alot of things as I would have fixed her up in my organisation. She is a nice and decent girl and has her complete WASC Papers
You're a good woman, keep it up
DeleteGood work..God bless you..Keep being good..Some people are just plain evil
DeleteThat's nice of you Posh
DeleteSome people are damned wicked. My neighbour has over 5 maids in less than 15 months. I don't know where she gets them ftom.
ReplyDeleteLate every night sometimes into 2am, you will hear her fighting with her maid. We can't sleep due to noise.
And they keep going away. She will bring another in and within a short time you will see another face. She is so lousy and dirty so are the maids too. One of the maids came into my apartment to beg for food. I was shocked. She told me she was going awsy as she couldn't stay again couple with rats taking over their house. The day.I made attempt to talk to her over the threat of incesssnt change of maids and rats running into a hole in her apartment, she said I should go report to CBN. I did not understand what she meant by that. Though I don't see her as an educated woman as she claims, I kept away fron her and we hardly talk.
Meanwhile, my maid who is 23 has been with me for 7 years now and we are like sisters. I am looking for office work for her. Covid 19 has messed up alot of things as I would have fixed her up in my organisation. She is a nice and decent girl and has her complete WASC Papers.
I have even shopped for her office wears incase they call her in any of the places I applied for her. She is trainable and good looking
Good bless you beyond measure.
DeleteGod bless you🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteGod bless you
DeleteMy own is women that keep underage children in their homes as house helps are witches.
ReplyDeleteGod will punish all of you...and better miss me with your stupid “we’re helping their parents send them to school” excuses, if you really want to do charity they don’t need to be in your house for that.
Igbo women especially...And lots of you are on this blog.
Amen to your prayer
DeleteThank you.
DeleteI was talking with my ibo neighbour some weeks ago and I asked her why must a newly wedded ibo lady always go to their husband house with a helper especially little kids and she said it’s necessary o...that bc after marriage, pregnancy is the next thing and they need someone to be sending on errands and all that crap. She said when she got married she was given a 7 years old girl to go with but she sent the girl away reason being “she’s lazy”.
Of course she’s lazy! She’s 7!!
That’s child abuse you mf.
If you’ve got kids from age 5-15 working for you, that’s child abuse.
You know yourself.
😂😂😂@ Witches
Delete@Reasonable Doubt No be small witches
DeleteI know one, not igbo tho. They had the girl from childhood, but treated her same as the other kids. They were not related. She did chores same as other kids and was sent to school. She grew up with the kids. If you go to their house you wouldn't tell the difference. They would all be playing together. She got married from their house. They are all like family till now. Their story is good. It sad that it seems to be opposite for other helps.
DeleteMy sisters in law maid told her she's visiting her parents in the village, and she didnt see her again, she doesn't have the parents number, all of a sudden some people came after like a month asking after her, that she's their daughter, she couldn't provide her ,and they said she has used her for rituals, thats the girl is their breadwinner, anyway to cut the l9ng story short, they started collecting money from her, blackmailing her until she says enough is enough and she involved the police,that was how their secret opened, she's not the first victim, she always disappear from people's house,and they will claim the oga has used her and starts demanding money from the madam
ReplyDeleteWicked people
DeleteWow
DeleteVarious forms of evil in this world.
Na wa Devil dey learn where some people dey oh
DeleteThat's pure wickedness
DeleteInside life, many mysteries abound 🦋
DeleteLast year I was ill and was around for more than supposed cos I had allergies from air pollution...
ReplyDeleteWell during one of my frequent visit to the hospital, I came across a little girl of 13 years with a big stitch behind her head on inquiry , i was informed by one of the nurses that she waa injured by her 'madame '.
Family members you'd not even guess why!!!
Her madame asked her to reheat the food she has previously cooked , the girl did and left the soup and stew side by side . Madame got infuriated and said the girl wanted the food to go sour by leaving them next to each other 😱😱😱
She hit the girl with a wooden chopping board behind her head, the girl bled so bad that the first hospital 🏥 rejected her cos they thought she would die .
Well however the injury was sutured the 'madame' made a deposit at the hospital and told the girl to work at the hospital to pay the balance.
Hmm i was so hurt and infuriated, I informed my family and they decided to take it up,
The girl then opened up to me telling me her madame had beaten her to the point she could no longer hear with her right ear , she treks to and fro, while her kids were driven to school.
We got the woman arrested , the woman started pleading and blaming the devil , also reminding me i was a woman like her, I said madame this girl too is a young woman like us and this is why you must be arraigned and prosecuted.
Well we rescued the girl from her and my parents were willing to take care of her but her elder sister decided to milk the situation by trying to extort my family while damning her sister's future .
It's quite painful even as I type this cos I wonder if that girl is doing okay , her sister wanted us to give them money instead of rehabilitating the younger sister while making sure she pursues her dreams .
Some women are very wicked and evil, God forbid I mistreat another woman's child.
Choco baibay, God bless you and your family. 😘😘😘.
Delete😞poverty mentality is a bad thing.
DeleteI’m sure that girl would be shipped to the next family to work.
Good job your family did.
DeleteFind links to the hospital and track her family depending on the number of years past,she could be a big girl now doing her family proud.
Choco Baby God bless you kind heart..The girl is deaf becos of Madam..God punish her stupid woman
DeleteIt shall be well with you and your family . Amen
DeleteThank you rescuing the girl
Choc your family did well
DeleteThe madame is wicked,i just can't believe why people will treat their fellow human being bad
God bless you and your family Barbie 💕
DeleteAmen guys , we are only doing God's work 🙏 😘😘😘
Delete@XP this happened recently like almost 2 years , the sad part was the elder sister called me some weeks later to say the girl was ill and she took her to a native Dr 😢 kai
And she needed money , I was too devasted , and ofcos we couldn't have the girl come to us without family consent.
I just pray she is doing okay wherever she is .
So you see, there is a limit to how someone can help.
DeleteI no of a woman that has a boutique,she has 2 housegirls,dey don't go to sch.she always make them suck her pussy anytime she's at home.dis made d girls always running to her shop to stay.this woman has a son that's 14/15 at night he enters d girls room to sleep with Dem.her hubby is not always at home
ReplyDeleteEhen！ Na dem！
DeleteThe minute you see a 12year old help with a size 40c breast,someone is touching her,oga or madame.
God punish that woman.
Say what?!!!! 😳
Delete🙆🙆🙆 Mogbe
Deletewhat's this ???
DeleteHa na wa !!!
Ewelekeee! 😱 😵
DeleteI have a neighbor that abuses her help, verbally especially.
ReplyDeleteI look at her and just tell myself that no wonder God didn't give her a child(I pray God forgives me for saying that)
She bought a baby in 2018 finally still she doesn't still have motherly care for her helps.
Not all helps are bad. Our help we had while growing when life was ok was extremely good to us. She is married now with children
I'm trying to phantom why some women abuse their helps .
DeleteWhy is this almost a norm ???
Hmmm. My dear, how do you know she bought a baby? Have you tried reaching out to her? TTC is a depressing thing, remind her to be kind to the girl so that children will come to her. Reach out to her, or pray for her, ok?
DeleteSome women are inborn wicked..Tufiakwa
DeleteChocolate noir it beats me
DeleteLuleha,I can never mock someone who is ttc but I just don't have strength to write this woman's wickedness.
About the buying of baby,let me just leave it at that for security sake.
Imagine a woman that after her maid finished writing pry 6 exams last year and the girl said she wants to go sec sch last year Sept the woman said that education is not for her,that she is a dullard. I am not talking hearsay she told me herself. I told her ok if you think she shouldn't go to sch then let her learn a trade but she said if she learns a trade which time will be helping her at home. I am talking of a child that just finished pry 6 o.
The girl is no longer with her. She cried and laid so many curses the day she left. Another one is here with her now.
My dear this madam maid experience is vice versA. I promised myself that I will never maltreat someone's child in my life. I had to get a girl of 9 years last year. Lots of people thought she was my child bcoz we resemble. I did everything for her but men... I suffered in her hands. is it lying even when I catch her red-handed she will lie. Is it stealing up to the extent of stealing things in the school. Ahhhh this is the only girl I HV seen that can wash plates for 5hours. But the highest of all was molesting my 2year old son. Ahhhh I really saw weeen but thank God. Am managing
ReplyDeleteThank God you found out early, but 9years, that's a child.
DeleteThank God you found out early, but 9years, that's a child.
DeleteMa’am a girl of 9 years old shouldn’t be a help. Whether you mean well or not, She’s still a kid and all those characters she was exhibiting is definitely something she got from one of her parents. Kids like her need lots of attention. Can you whole heartedly give her quality attention like you would your kid?
DeleteI hope you’ve sent her back.
having an underage house help is a crime .
DeleteWell good she got caught. Please if you need a help get someone older and also prayerfully select.
@Miriam, that's what I am currently experiencing and she's 18. Though she doesn't maltreat my son but she steals, lies (even when caught), then goes on errand to a nearby place and spends like 3hours. I have been asking her who she goes to meet. Oh, she also calls guys and even invited one to my house. Abeg, story plenty. May God help us all.
DeleteWell the school my sister works...the owner has a house help, she decided to enrol the girl in her school so she can be educated but alas her father came to shout at the woman that he doesn't want the girl to be educated period...when my sister told the man came to school and was shouting at the owner of the school I was shocked
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DeleteWow !!!
Speechless .
I'm speechless
DeletePeople that have house help beat those kids like animals...their clothes are dirty, scars are all over their body
ReplyDeleteCan't the govt stop children under 18 from being househelp
My father travelled about 5years ago and returned with his Uncle's daughter to Lagos to help her further her education since he was told she was in Ss3 already and men were coming for her hand, distracting her.
ReplyDeleteHer father was a good man and was so so good to my mother when she married into the family, so we all agreed easily since the father was a good Man
That was a mistake we are yet to recover
For over 40yrs, my parents are married, This is the first time a third party is staying in our house, I didn't grow up to see anyone living with us, they can stay but not live in.
First she no know anything, d Ss3 thing was Scam!!.
She lies a lot, In fact my parents started fighting at their old age, imagine. It took my siblings to call them to order not to let their marriage crash for a young girl
Ohhh she steals, caught molesting my nephew once.
You may ask what is she still doing in our house??
She's learning tailor for 4yrs + and can't sew a shirt self.
Whenever they plan to return her, my father would be sick and unable to travel that week
If you beat her,You go sick seriously.
My Elder siblings have agreed by December she must go and we are strategically praying and watching out
We are just waiting patiently
My father regrets helping, even my mum regrets more.
Imagine she has her room to herself with toilet & bathroom. We stopped her from doing ANY chores for about 3yrs +
Just wake, eat, go to her work place, return 9pm,bathe eat and sleep.
For me, I don't know I doubt if I would ever let a third party in my home after this experience
Abeg make una pack her kaya and return her back to sender
DeleteHmmm, see comments oh. And na all these women dey shout domestic violence up and down when their husband applies necessary force to untangle himself from their claw of his shirt collar, whenever they're pocess by their OGBANJE, and he decides to just leave the house for her but, NO! As far as she's concern, he must sit his ass down and take whatever insults she gives, which includes but not limited to, nagging, squeezing of his shirt collar and shouting you must kill me today, holding him on his belt buckle and telling him he is not a man, comparing him with all the other men in the neighborhood, slapping and kicking him and challenging him to fight back, accusing him of sleeping with the housemaid or female relatives in the house whenever he stands up for them or decides to be nice to them.
ReplyDeleteBut still, I blame the men more who have become women in their homes and can't put their foot on ground and get their home in order, or send her parking.. irresponsible men that don't have a say in the home cos they are comfortable with the wife being the bread winner. Weak sissy men forming Mr understanding and Wokeness. Will Smith tendencies.
Blessings
Man, you good?
DeleteKposhi kposhi 🙄
DeleteI teach in a pibpub sch and 90 percent of d pipild are house helps.in fact no week I don't treat issue concerning madame maltreatment and majority are ibo women.im ibo too but I won't lie,yhese women are wicked.
ReplyDeleteSome these girls are even related to them but still.
Most send their helps to public school.
DeleteDuring my undergraduate days in sch, I had a landlady whose sister's daughter (13yrs) was living with her. She subjected this girl to slavery.
ReplyDeleteThis girl wakes up as early as 4am to start preparing her aunt's kids for school - heat water for them to bath, prepare their meals, clean the house and cook for madam which must be done before 6am she then takes the kids to school. This my landlady doesn't even see her kids before they go to school because this girl would have done all the necessary things needed and take them to school. She is always the last to sleep in the house say 12-1am.
Overtime, I noticed she doesn't sit with them to eat at the dinning neither does she eat when they do, she eats the leftover without meat or fish but her own children (age 5 and 3yrs) eat with big fish/meat in their food attimes I wonder if they can finish it.
Everyday they must eat boiled eggs and this girl dares not eat from it same with their beverages. If she forgets to boil eggs for them she is in trouble for that day. She is always in the kitchen cooking and multitasking to do other house chores.
The day this girl started her menses she went to meet madam for pad, she chased her out that she should never expect her to use her money to buy sanitary pad for her. So this girl comes to me or my neighbor who is a nurse and we give her pad (of which madam must not know) I gave her clothes and shoes, madam used side eyes to accept cos I asked for permission before giving the girl (she likes people to think she is a good woman so she pretends alot only those close to her knows her true nature).
Anytime visitors comes to their house that's when this woman will be complaining in their presence that see ooo I bought body cream for this girl she won't use, she how her body is white, I bought this and that for her she won't use ( they are all lies)
I remember the girl asking me if I could use a razor blade to cut her hair cos madam went give her money for barbing saloon. It was one of our Americana neighbors we call him big daddy that used his clipper to barb her hair.
This woman doesn't allow the girl speak to her parents or she sends the girl on an errand when her mum comes.
She can wake up midnight and start beating the girl at any slightest provocation. I can't count how many times this girl has ran (jumped the fence) at midnight from the house due to excessive beatings. Her parents will end up bringing her back (they are separated) her father works as a driver while her mother wants to do the baby girl life without any child disturbing her.
There was a time this girl fell sick and couldn't do much house chores madam was furious didn't give her food to eat. When madam went out the next day still did not give her food the girl came to me and I gave her food most times she comes to me to ask for garri to take to sch (she collects it in her pocket) which I give her with little money to buy something.
So I gave her food that day and madam's kids saw her eating the food they reported to their mum when she came back all hell let loose. She finished this girl with beatings and was ranting up and down the house.
To be contd...
Why some women like treating other peoples children bad is something I will never understand no matter what!!,you have the option of returning the child if he/she falls below your expectations,but why do you have to maltreat them and make them suffer, why?!some people are just wicked no matter how we look at it,but what I believe strongly is that it may actually take long,but nemesis will catch up on whoever inflicts pain unjustly on another persons child.
DeleteContd...
DeleteSuffering was an understatement in this girl's case.
When the the whole drama was too much and unbearable, I called her father (she once used my phone to call him) I asked if he has sold her to this woman bcos I see no reason why they abandoned their daughter here despite that she kept running to them. I threatened him that I was going to involve the police if he doesn't come to take her - if it's garri you can afford drink it together and be happy.
P.S her parents are separated - father is a truck driver, mother is living the baby girl life hence, she doesn't want any child living with her.
Her father eventually came and took her but at the long run landlady knew I was the one that called him,she issued me quit notice and I gladly left her house even though my rent was still running.
She was a terror to us (the tenants) I was the only student living in that house others were married/working class.
She burnt the clothes and shoes I gave the girl after she left.
P.S her husband wasn't always around when she does all these,he works in another state and comes home once in a month.
To cut the long story short sha, I saw the girl a year later on her way from sch - her school wasn't far from the town I was schooling, she was so happy that she jumped at me on the bike😀😀😀. I was so happy to see her dressed well and looking good.
Iya Emma wicked woman to the core #tueh# to think that she is the leader of the children department in her church.
That your landlady is a witch
DeleteYou are a good person Venus. How some of these wicked women can be staunch church goers and workers beats me.
DeleteI believe in Karma
ReplyDeleteYep!
DeleteWe had housemaids growing up and my mum treated them nicely ...2 of them married from our house and we take them as our older sisters. The others woke up one day and said they were leaving not knowing na man dey worry them...they got pregnant shortly after. The last one refused to leave and she automatically became a sister cos she literally grew up in our house until her true colors showed. Left my parents when they needed her...inflated prices of things when we send her to the market...insulted my late sis and my mum. When I heard what she did, I will call and she will act like she was the victim not until I went home and found out na she be villain sef. Anyways, when she wanted to leave, we allowed her to go and none of us gave her a dime. Even when my sis died she didn't even show up.
ReplyDeleteI have a maid and she has been with me for close to 4yrs now,she have never told me she wants to go and visit her family cos she hardly remember them because of the way I treat her.my children sees her as their only sister and the do everything together. We gist a lot including things that happens in her school. I believe if you treat them well, they will in return relax and treat ur kids this same.
ReplyDeleteOh my🤦
ReplyDeleteThese stories errh🤦
It is well.
My fellow women, please if you must take a help, stop taking children o, take the one that if you maltreat her, she can face you and give it back to you.
ReplyDeleteI think we all should speak up when we see evil. Don't drink cup and mind your business.
ReplyDeleteI have plenty gist concerning this discussion but I find it hard to type long story mostimes.
ReplyDeleteMy elder sister ,mom and I have saved many help from their witch madam and I sincerely thank God we did.
The last child we saved,my mom coundnt bear what she saw on the girls skin,we followed the girl to where she was living, we found out that the so called wicked madam also malteats her own two little blood sisters o living with her also cos when they saw us and heard why we came ,they rushed us and started telling us how they want to also follow the help and leave but their mom is dead and their dad is a drunk,he does not even care .
My dear gist plenty o,we reported that one to human rights and took the girl to hospital,contacted the family and I thank God the girl finally left.
Na God brought that poor girl my way at a saloon where I went to make my hair. I now brought her to show my mom and my elder sis,we follwd the case from there.
Abeg gist plenty and many others.
I always stand for the oppress no matter who you are. I can't take humiliations melts on poor people especially.
Make Una choke mouth for this matter
ReplyDeleteMy husband brought a house help through his worker. The girl is 12yrs old I am about to deliver I told my hubby o take the girl to her family since her family s staying close to my house jst 50 transport. That after my delivery I will come and pick her back, that I don't want her to stay with him and my daughter who is 2yrs+
My husband said nooo that the girl will stay with him, I told him I no I am nt comfortable with the girl staying with I'm since am nt around. He said since I dnt trust him he will return the girl today. Note my husband is a good Man not that he will Hurt her but I am not comfortable
You did well o. No normal woman would feel comfortable going for delivery and leaving her toddler and Hubby with a stranger. It's good you said how you felt.
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