Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative UPDATE...

Na wah!!!!

Dear Stella.


It's me again. I wrote to you some times back in respect of a horrible specie of a man I married as a husband. Recall he has a horrible drinking problem which makes him to sometimes act irrationally.


Another incident occurred after the on I send in in which he came back as usual drunk. Removed my son's phone from the charger n fixed his.


He then went to lie down and put the phone underneath his body and slept off. When I woke him up to asked where he kept the phone, he denied knowing where it was.


But when he sat up to shout. Lo and behold the phone was under him
I told him "u're drunk" and went to my children's room(that is where I sleep now, Alcohol and cigarette smell wld suffocate me if I sleep in our so-called room).


He displayed as usual and even the next door neighbors heard. Cos one asked me if everything was okay.
U punched the door and flinged my phone against the wall.
Now the screen is misbehaving.
Our kids were there and they were crying and he told them I made him do it.


But later on,I told the kids it's not so. I told them I'd explain to them one day.


Heard my son saying he was going to call his grandma and tell his dad threw my phone against the window and broke it and he told him not to.


I asked him why? Isn't he proud of what he did? I'm sure they would be mighty proud of his"manliness" since they believe he can do no wrong
For now.all they know is that hes older than me and can beat me.that's why they want to call his mum cos they said she's older than him an can beat him.


So recently, my sister came visiting and we were at home when my husband came home and sar in the dining section(he used the back door to enter).


She got up to get something to drink in the kitchen when she perceived a strong alcohol emanating from him while his head droops to his chest.


She had heard of our issue so decided to sit and tried to talk to him.


He told her his usual narration about how things are not working for him hence the drinking blah blah blah.he even cried in her presence while narrating it all.this man actually told her I'm single handedly responsible for the upkeep of the house


At the end he made the following allegations about me.


1. I do not respect him.


2. I have been insulting this family members.


3. I don't relate to my mum and that may be a reason his biz is not going well.


4. He helps in the house but I don't appreciate.


An in and on and on.


She tried to let him feel better by advising him to get a job to keep his sanity etc.


The next morning she tried to chide me on the issue of me insulting his family, she called my dad(he's not spoken to him over 5 years when we had an issue which was so bad my dad personally car to carry me).


So when she left.i asked him to pls tell me how I'm insulting his family?


His response that he doesn't mean insulting them per say.but that i say stuffs I dont like about them.


Example is that his sister who has never called me in A9bit 5 years suddenly called out of the blue to help her organise a birthday surprise for him.i felt bad in that that's the only thing that made he r call me.i still helped do it but didn't attend.


The second incidence is that I told him that I'm not happy with his bro.(Recall he has a way of crying when drunk) he once came back home and sat crying lamenting how things are not going well. So I tried to reach out to the bro to talk on how how they can help him out) so the brother ignored me and never responded.


So I replied that but that's not what wld make him rebrand these as "insulting his family" I also asked him how I felt when his dad told me to my face that my dad is a shameless old man who came to pick me from my matrimonial home when we had issues way back.


He replied that "of course now, he is a shameless old man. Who else comes to pick their daughters out if their matrimonial home".


Recall he told my sister that I'm the one doing 90% of the catering of the home.he just supports due to his financial issues. So I told him the joke is in him sha.cos he is the shameless old man too cos he knows his daughter in law is catering for his son and grandson.


He has gone out Sha. So I will find out more when he gets back from yet another drinking spree.
Stella im simply tired if this bull shit.i think I'd relocate to another part of town once this rent expires.(let him go back to his father's house and live there since he won't get a job and wants to drink 5 bottles of beer daily.
This is certainly not the best of times for me.i'm so disillusioned

*Madam this your story has gotten even more complicated.....If a marriage is not working out,take a walk and save yourself all these unhealthy toxic stuff......Its the same thing i would tell myself that i tell someone else so please pardon my advice if it does not go down well with you (or anyone else)

Marriage is not by force!!!