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Hi dearies,
Please, I need help! I tend to forget things easily and this has been going on since my childhood. It affected my studies too right from secondary school to university days to the extent that i always feel like I'm not intelligent enough to even pass my exams. My friends back in uni would see me as one unintelligent dude. Sometimes I would be isolated from discussing academic stuff in school cos they all know my GP and maybe cos they see me as one thats not intelligent enough.
Worse thing is before going for an interview, I cram and cram a lot but all to no avail. I end up forgetting everything I've read and i'd end up not getting the job. I also don't know why I find it hard to read and understand., if you asked me anything about what I've studied so far in school, I'd be scratching my head and be looking at you like lucozade.I really dont know whats happening to me.
I am really depressed right now. I have never talked about this to anyone before.
*Are you going through early menopause?please read about what you have Online and learn how to deal with it OK?.......Or is it something else?
Take it to JESUS
ReplyDeleteI pray that God does a miracle in ur life IJN
DeleteThe answer to your plight is the king of Kings,I am that I am, ancient of days..he has your answers
DeleteGuy start business and try record everything in a book.
DeleteGod will help you.
Go check your thyroid levels.
DeleteStella, the poster is a young man and wouldn't have nothing to do with menopause😂😂😂😂😂
DeletePoster, some people are not good in the classroom but are excellent with their hands. Maybe you are one of them. Put your degree aside and go find out what kind of handiwork really interest you. I was not too good in class up to secondary but everything changed in uni but aside that, I'm naturally gifted with my hands. I'm depending on my creativity now and I think you are like me. Go learn a trade bros.
Delete16:12 your advice is 💯%👌👍
DeletePoster, use your talent to create a business niche for yourself.
I agree with 16:12. Poster don't despair. But you omitted some vital info. What is your gender, what is your age, what is your current level of education and what grade, what are the things you like doing, how have your family supported you, what are you doing now? To have a better perspective to advise you better......... You are special, you just haven't found your niche yet. It shall be well with you. Believe in yourself. You are unique.
DeleteCan a therapist help, maybe its a kind of disorder. Like other people suggested you could try your hands on bandwork or biz. Good luck 🦋
DeletePoster are you good at any other thing apart from academics? If you are good at other areas, why not try them.
ReplyDelete👌👌
Delete💯💯💯💯
DeleteNigerians appraise themselves based on academics. He writes well so his self appraising himself so low is unfortunate.
DeleteBros, find something else you are very good at and dont for get to trust that God did not make a mistake with you. You have a purpose.
Sapphire, I noticed that too. He writes well for someone who rates himself poor in academics.
DeleteForget white-collar job and get to do what comes to you naturally.
Poster,please see if you are good with your hands or other things. The fact that you aren't book smart doesn't mean you aren't smart in other aspects. God may have destined you to be site manager, because you have a knack for seeing flaws or managing people. He could have destined you to be a baker because you may be good in cooking. I am suggesting these kind of jobs because, to you they look like small jobs but there may lay your millions. If office work no come your way, Oga drop certificate and start thinking what you might be good at. Look for somebody to apprentice under, God will lead. Don't be down, because we are not God.
DeleteHa!..
ReplyDeleteThey have tied your destiny somewhere!!....
Whom did your parents offend?..
Village people at work!..
Poster,you have to be prayerful ooo...
This is not ordinary!...
😂😅 madam have come again
Delete😄😄Chai, and you never can tell ooo,maka ndi uwa ndi njo, poster you will be fine, if you are not good academically, you can be good in sports, music or anything else. Pray about it very well, you can also take coconut water, I hear it works wonders too, try to read and assimilate, not cramming, when you cram, you tend to forget all that you read. Be positive OK, education no be competition inugo.
DeleteIf reading in a very quiet place works for you do it, read at your pace and understand, always look for key words while reading, Eg Obi is a boy, ask your self, why is a obi a boy? Study gently and you will grasp all in no time.
Am in same boat oo sometimes I come in with my kids and lock them out forgetting to let them in they’ll start banging the door before I remember 😭😭 and the people responsible for this are still thriving this life...
ReplyDeleteMadam start helping yourself by taking note of things
DeleteThis one is worse
DeleteMadam you are autistic but high functioning and it’s same with the poster, your brain is wired differently and you can’t change that, you need to take some supplements to help you, I have a son that has autism and He is getting therapy and supplements too, he is high functioning as well.
DeleteOr it could be adhd-i check it out
DeleteWhite collar job is not for everyone.
ReplyDeleteGo learn a skill and use it to earn a living.
Education is not your calling.
ReplyDeleteTry business, there lies your destiny
I concur.he should try biz or get a handwork.education is not for everybody.
DeleteAgreed
DeleteWhy cram?
ReplyDeleteRead to understand
Exactly. It is not easy to forget something you understand.
DeletePoster, try read up on dyslexia
ReplyDeleteIf he had dyslexia, he wont be able to understand written words cos they will appear upside down or downside up. Y'namean? 🙂 That doesn't seem to be his problem.
DeleteLol @ y'namean
DeleteY'namean? 😀😀😀 at that expression @Cyclone🌀
Delete🎶 Umuaka n'asuzikwa phone' n'ogene, Y'namean? 🎵🎤🎼
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His case has nothing to do with dyslexia, he is just a slow learner but sounds intelligent. If he was streamlined from the beginning he would have excelled but most nigerian schools don't get that.
DeleteEvryone isn't meant to go to school or work in d office. Look for what you are good at and develop it.
ReplyDeletePoster, do you watch porn frequently, or are you addicted to porn?,if yes pls find a way to stop it. Porn addiction makes the part of our brain responsible for retaining memory to shrink, but since it started from secondary school, Google ways to improve your memory but. Try not to be distracted,find the best time for you to study, encourage and believe in yourself. Because I don't think you're as bad as described above,then how come you graduated from higher institution.
ReplyDeleteStells Stells! I think the poster is a guy not a lady so the issue of menopause does not come in, unless maybe there's menopause...the Male equivalent.
ReplyDeleteI'm have lived with this my whole life,I have learnt to jot down important things and set reminders on my phone and systems.whenever you find yourself in that state just calm down.i tend to forget recent things but remember things that happened years back.Just get yourself supplements and do not over stress your self over it.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing spiritual attach to it,anytime you forget things just calm down and it comes back naturally.
Unknown, you are very correct as I do experience this as well at times but whenever I calm myself down I do remember everything back though it started not quite long sha but It's getting better by the day
DeleteI'm have lived with this my whole life,I have learnt to jot down important things and set reminders on my phone and systems.whenever you find yourself in that state just calm down.i tend to forget recent things but remember things that happened years back.Just get yourself supplements and do not over stress your self over it.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing spiritual attach to it,anytime you forget things just calm down and it comes back naturally.
🙄🙄 Unknown you are also Jimi? Issokay
DeleteJimi et unknown=one🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteDo you watch movies, do you remember the movie after seeing it? People learn differently, you need a deeper understanding of yourself to know how to help yourself or you can get an expert to help.
ReplyDeleteAnother thing, not everyone thrives in academia. See if you can learn a skill you have a natural talent for.
Pray...
Pray to God about it,he will surely answer you.
ReplyDeleteStellaaaaa early menopause bi ba wo? The guy said he's been like that since he was a kid till present,not that it just started now that he is an adult.His parent should have noticed and helped out,either by getting him extra classes or a home teacher to help him study more or find a way that makes studying fun that he could enjoy and cope with,that helps too.but as he don old now eehnn,na ogun isöye you need oo guy,find those instagram mamalawo's and buy shaprapra brain medicine from them.
ReplyDeleteTalk to God about this.
ReplyDeleteTry doing business too instead of waiting for white-collar jobs. It is well with you in Jesus' name.
You should not over stress yourself because of that, maybe you should try learning hand work and see if that is where your success can come from.
ReplyDeleteStella You ehn I give up on you lolzz..Poster I think its time to explore other types of intelligence..Most people always look at book intelligence as the highest but no! It is not.
ReplyDeleteI have a relative who was not doing well academically and I love how his parents handled him..They opened a business for him and to the Glory of God, he is doing well and making money.
I will advise that you don't cram but read to comprehend and understand for your own knowledge not to prove to anyone or validate yourself..Practice Self-talk, look into the mirror and hype yourself and say you are the greatest champ of all time..Don't allow anyone look down on you except they are admiring or complimenting your shoes
at Phonix dear, our last born is like that, not doing well academically, cant read but better in maths a little. what can we do??
DeleteI have a friend, immediately they saw that their son wasn't doing well, dey ask the boy wch business will he like to do. Na so the guy enter biz, he is doing very well, has shops, bar. Even the siblings that went to uni work for this guy. Biko book is not for everyone.
DeletePlease start taking omega 3 tablets. It helps the memory a lot. Eat more fish too.
ReplyDeleteTake more wallnut(ogbaa in igbo, it is round black but the seed is white
ReplyDeleteI love walnuts but haven't been able to get them where I am
DeletePoster of short memories check my first post. Also take sewerchop fruit local igbo fruit(chop chop)
ReplyDeleteposter you may be dyslexic
ReplyDeleteI have the same issue. Do might have ADHD & Dyslexia. I forget so easily and now if you ask me what happened yesterday I can't remember. Do practise exercises as well online to help re alingn your mememory
ReplyDeleteA dyslexic will not write so well.
DeletePoster check out what you enjoying doing, something that even when you don't get paid,you are happy doing it, then start it and watch your self grow.Don't forget to always go to God who has our factory reset button.
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ReplyDeleteEat a well-balanced diet and take a multivitamin that includes beta-carotene, folic acid, iron, zinc, and vitamins C, B12, and E--your brain needs these nutrients. Avoid alcohol, OTC sedatives, such as antihistamines and sleep remedies, and stimulants. Unless you absolutely need them, avoid prescription drugs that are sedatives.
Picture flash cards, working puzzles, and otherwise exercising your mind may help you stay sharp.
Early signs of Alzheimer's? I'm scared too because I also forget things easily
ReplyDeleteposter remove whatever is bothering ur mind, anxiety do cause it too.
ReplyDeleteOuch... check your blood sugar levels, high blood sugar can affect the brains
ReplyDeleteIts well,you need to see a doctor about this
ReplyDeleteWell you are not alone.....I might read something now and forget it totally. I could be anything, a spectrum of autism and/ or development disorder, an untrained mind, symptoms of a disease etc.. We plenty for here.... Let me recommend what I find out and applied personally research
ReplyDelete1.study something you are passionate about(something you know and comfortably able to express opinions) maybe an art or social science course or try a vocational school.
2. Figure out your preferred learning style/s, if it's not reading/writing, it could be auditory visual or kinesthetic.
Reading and writing is tiresome for me but I learn best with visual and kinesthetic.
For reading, don't CRAM, that's probably why you can't remember. ensure you attend lectures, then go through your notes everyday;for every line /paragraph you read, write out your own understanding of it and if possible apply to real life and write examples, use that as your study materials, befriend one or two intelligent classmates and go through your notes together to get a 2nd opinion and ensure you have a grasp of the course. Read beyond the materials given by the lecturers or even the course you are studying.
3. Eat healthy esp brain foods and supplements, drink enough water and rest regularly and try brain exercises. Read Anon 17.02 comment.
4. Don't pressure yourself.... Anxiety doesn't give room for growth.Stop focusing on expectations (whether yours, your family, or friends) Take it one day at a time, find solutions as you go. I ended up with a 3rd class because I didn't want to upset my parents by changing courses even when I didn't understand much about the course I studied,I later realized they wouldn't have minded, because all they want is for me to succeed and be fulfilled in life. So start figuring out your career/business path esp if you don't like where you're now, then take steps towards them.
All the best, hopefully we ll get a better update from you.
He's a dude Stella.
ReplyDeletePoster, I had the same problem. But I discovered that increasing your stock of knowledge helps. Read wide and extensively. Beware of happenings around you. You don't have to know everything. If you don't know one thing, you would know another. That would boost your self confidence and esteem.
Figure out what the root problem is. Mine was abuse. I was molested by my own father as a child. It killed me and I died many times. I was a walking shadow. Always distant. Merely existing not living.
It took me over 25 years to heal. I'm actually still at it.
Make your self happy. Stop condemning yourself. No one person has it all or is good at everything. Find what you are good at and feed your energy with it.
Stay away from people or circumstances that drain you. Even if they're family. Stay around people who make you feel better about yourself. Feed yourself with positive energy at all times. Listen to music and motivational pieces.
Again, read. Read extensively. Be informed. Read informative and educational stuffs. Don't limit yourself to a particular genre. And not everytime Africa magic or social media.
Stop feeling shy around good/better people. Wise and kind people will not make you feel bad about yourself. Identify people that can help you and be confident enough to admit to them you don't catch things easily and they may have to slow down for you.
Relax. And stop taking yourself too seriously. Awaken your humourous side. When next it happens, accept it. You can even admit it and joke about it. It's not the end of the world. Worse things happen to people so look on the brighter side of things.
Also Google the 'spotlight effect' to check if you're the one blowing things out of proportion.
I remember considering medicines/voodoo that boost human memory. I don't remember doing either and I'm actually better now.
Above all, would you believe that reading your chronicle is the first time in about 3 years that I'm actually remembering that I had this problem? Meaning I didn't even realize when it was solved. But I know that I have spent the last three years loving myself... sometimes selfishly. I've been doing things that make me happy regardless of whatever/whoever's justification. And I forgive myself more easily these days. Maybe you should take a cue from that.
God help you dear.
This is me right now! luckily it started in final year so I kinda managed it!the issue ain't lack of comprehension,it is the inability to retain information! funny enough i have a six year old, anytime I help him practice,I tend to retain everything!once its mine,even if I run through a line ten times,I still forget it!go figure!!!
ReplyDeleteYours is probably stress. Work on your stress level and sleep well!
DeleteStress and anxiety worsens it
ReplyDeletePoster you need supplements. First detox your brain from heavy metals, then buy MegaRed. MegaRed is more potent than regular fish oil. Then buy ginkgo biloba (you can read more on this. It helps a lot with memory). Take vitamins and eat food that helps with memory. Get lots of sleeeeep, deep breathing and relax your self. Depression worsens memory problem. If You’re saying you’re already depressed, how things go improve. Please work on it. Goodluck. Ps: MegaRed is here in the United States. I’m not sure if you’re able to buy this supplement at your location. Or better still start with fish oil.
ReplyDeletePOSTER READ UP ON ADHD (ATTENTION DEFICIT HYPER ACTIVE DISORDER). You are not alone
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