TASTING THE PIE BEFORE MARRIAGE
Hi Stella. I'd like to be kept anonymous please.I really need advise cuz I'm losing it .
I'm 32 and I've been dating this girl for about a year and a half and we hope to get married early next year.
So back to my story, I noticed in the last 2wks, my girl has been trying so hard for us to have se#x. Lemme give you an example. In as much as we don't do it, we do other mild stuff but not to the extent of taking off our clothes. But on one of those occasions, we started making out.
I like to keep to my promise. And I've promised her I won't touch her till our wedding night. No matter how disciplined I think I am, I'm only human. If she keeps up like this, I may lose control one day cuz it's getting harder every time.
Hi Stella. I'd like to be kept anonymous please.I really need advise cuz I'm losing it .
I'm 32 and I've been dating this girl for about a year and a half and we hope to get married early next year.
When we started dating, we agreed on no s#x. I was cool with it cuz not to brag o but I'm quite disciplined when it comes to s#x. I lost my virginity when I was 28. And I did it cuz I was hurt that my ex that I thought I was saving for my wedding night was busy getting drilled outside.
Was so hurt that I asked myself what the point of waiting was for. So I did it with a close female friend. But after that one time, I snapped back to reality and haven't done it since.
So back to my story, I noticed in the last 2wks, my girl has been trying so hard for us to have se#x. Lemme give you an example. In as much as we don't do it, we do other mild stuff but not to the extent of taking off our clothes. But on one of those occasions, we started making out.
Then she started saying she wants to hold my D. After much whining, I let her hold it. Next thing I know, she started rubbing my D between her legs. I then realized she deliberately wore a dress without undies that day. Gosh she was so wet.
She kept winding her waist and trying to put me inside her. I tried pulling back but she had a pretty firm grip on it. When I realized I was losing it, I pretended to be cumming. That's when she let go. Then I stood up and rushed to the bathroom. That's one of many instances.
I've asked her so many times what's up but she keeps acting like nothing. So one day, I was helping her do stuff with her phone when I saw a message flash on the screen. It was from her elder sister asking her if we've done it yet. I got curious and opened it. Apparently, her sis has been encouraging her to seduce me.
Her sis isn't enjoying her s#x life in marriage cuz she was part of team no s#x before marriage and she's regretting it. So she's telling my girl not to make the same mistake she made.
Now to my challenge.....
Now to my challenge.....
I like to keep to my promise. And I've promised her I won't touch her till our wedding night. No matter how disciplined I think I am, I'm only human. If she keeps up like this, I may lose control one day cuz it's getting harder every time.
How do I prove to her that she has nothing to be afraid of without actually sleeping with her? Guys help me out here. I really don't want to touch her. At least not yet. What can I do to convince her without s#x?
Thanks guys.
Thanks guys.
*She is trying to find out if she is compatible with you in the other room.
You made the promise to her but she wants you to break it,so what are you waiting for?
Sex matter ehn... Only God knows when we will finish settling it.
ReplyDeleteE no go finish lie lieπ
DeleteThis chronicle made meπππ
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DeleteSex is overrated mehn
DeleteThe matter too hard to settle.ππππ
DeleteLmaooooo
Delete@Adi I agree
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DeleteEither what Stella said Or she's pregnant for someone else and she wants you to have sex with her so that she can claim you are the father.
DeleteVirginity is for your own peace of mind Poster from things such as unwanted pregnancy, STI and your moral conscience.
Remain steadfast in your resolution (not to have sex) so as not to regret your action.
If your Spirit is saying No, don't do it. Tell her it is either this way or no way. Don't compromise
DeleteOga poster, do oju obo fun kinni Jare. No be ur wife to be? When u opened her phone, I even thought she was pregnant and was trying to pin it on u..since, that's not the case...knack the tin jor
DeleteAre you sure she isn't pregnant? Keep to what ever works for you.......at least she Don see say the thing de stand like nepa pole
DeleteBros they are trying to confirm if your manhood is still functioning,if you gat the tool and how to use the tool right, you know what I mean. So guy it is either you knack her till she no fit walk or you simply have a conversation with her.
DeleteSwit@ I saw a message on your phone, I assure you I can perform well no doubtπ
Bro, hit it.
ReplyDeleteNack it
Shinzu nakamura
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πHeheheh Blackberry you be yeye
DeleteLmaooππ, You watch WWE??
DeleteNyakamuraahh!!
BB, you don spoil! Kimon! Hehehehehe
DeleteBB the baddoo. OK ooo bros, don't let her start worrying that something is wrong with you . Find a way to make her know your take on this ( you can't go back on your promise ).
DeleteDo the do with her once.
DeleteMake her mind come down.
Because she doesn't want what happen to her sister to happen to her.
Or assure her that you are good in bed.
Chai π€£π€£π€£π€£ you're no help whatsoever.
DeleteYou are a spoilt child πππ
Deletethis BB πππ
DeleteOga break it jor. U are not a virgin na. Prove to her biko.
DeletePoster your word has value
DeleteTalk to her about trusting you
Ignore a woman with little faith asking her sister to do nonsense
You have come this far
Be a Rare Man of integrity!
Stand firm
HYPOCRITES EVRYWHERE. How do you guys sleep at night knowing you speak from both sides of the mouth?
DeleteMy take on this? Poster be very careful and watch-out Bcos women are the most manipulative-YOU NEVER KNOW WITH WOMEN. She could be pregnant and is acting a script. See all of them here saying;knack am, hit it, they are all the same from the same mother.
Mr Poster, you need to understand that sexual incompatibility can RUIN a marriage... How would you feel if at the end of the day, you marry a girl whom you don't enjoy sex with or vice versa.
ReplyDeleteShe is just trying to ensure that she doesn't marry an impotent man and I belive you also need to ensure that you are not marrying a BOREHOLE Or someone who is boring in bed.
At least have sex ones to confirm her fears and yours, after which you both can wait till marriage.
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ππππππ marrying a BOREHOLE.
DeletePlease keep to your promise and keep it in your pants. Have a heart to heart convo and let her know that she has nothing to worry about without giving away your source (I hope she really has nothing to worry about)
ReplyDeleteThat's why I love you πππ Cool answer πͺπͺπͺ
DeleteI hope too oh. Hmmm.
DeletePersonally, my no sex policy is to give the relationship a real try to be sure I am not blinded by the sex. Once I have all else cleared, then come the koko; bros, you gatta knack me so I know what I am getting myself into. If the promise is to God, I will not contest it. If it is to your own self, well I will try and let you be but if it's to me, what's the holding off for?
DeleteI believe it's healthy to have sex at engagement not till marriage. Marriage is final but engagement can be broken. You are not a virgin and she is not. So...
Sister this one is not healthy for an everlasting life time. Those who took this path are regretting it.
DeleteSincerely personally i can't get married to anyone without breaking bed(side eyes at BB) to be sure of what am getting into
ReplyDeleteYou can actually give her once π,to calm her nerves down and so that she will be assured you are fit in the oza room
Good luck to you both π₯π₯
Correct talk, see which we read on social media or news everyday and one will close eyes and jump inside one chance marriage.
DeleteIf I will not taste I will not say yes. At least have a deal with her once or twice just to calm her down.
Which one be, I don't want to have sex till wedding night ?!
ReplyDeleteOga have sex with her and cear her doubt unless you're hiding something.
I actually laughed when he said he wants guys to advise him. People who are doing the opposite.
DeleteAbi oh, before wedding night story go change.
DeleteGood guys like you are hard to come by and once a man cam control is d**k he has total control over his life.
ReplyDeleteYes oh....
DeleteGbamsolutely ✌️
DeleteAnd that is exactly why he seems to be marrying the wrong girl, one that is
Deletea puppet to her sister and so willing to fornicate
Dude, so at 32 your body count is 1? Wow! Just wow!!
DeleteYou are really a rear kind...
Please experience they say is the best teacher. Don't blame her sister or the girl either. If u've ever had an accident from driving, common sense will necessitate caution when driving next. They seem to be good girls since even her sister waited till marriage. Go let your intentions known to her parents and knack her mercilessly. Do use protection though.
Delete@22:38
Delete"Intention known to her parent" is not same as "pay bride price" to her parents.
That "merciless knacking" is still fornication and God will judge all the sexually immoral Rev. 21:8
Poster, don't break your promise. You made that promise to yourself and the Holy Spirit was there when you did, don't allow your girlfriend lure you into breaking your vow and giving in to the sin of the flesh.
ReplyDeleteIt can be very hard, but, you can do it. Stand by your words, reassure her that there's no reason for her to be worried; at least, she has seen for herself that you can have an erection. You don't have to mount her or indulge in sexual intercourse with her.
And also, avoid every occasions of sin. Stop giving in to foreplay, it sends the wrong message about you to her. She's got some power over you because you allowed her play with your member.
If you are ready, marry her already and start legitimate pounding.
God bless you dear. So Apt πππ
DeleteU never disappoint...thank u!
DeleteAt no point did i see him refer to religion.
Delete#justsaying
Since he has made up his mind to marry her and she too has agreed to marry him too. Why the wait for tasting.
DeleteAlot said what you wrote up there but got something else. An important man will also claim to be hard driller, let the babe be sure of what she wants to buy.
I know tasting before marriage doesn't guarantee success of a marriage.
Ms A
DeleteAlways making sense.
Thank God some sane and godly souls still exist on this blog.
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If you have decided, prayed about it, God will not let you down. Reassure her to calm down and Keep to it. What makes a man is the maturity and the ability to make decision and stick to it.
DeleteGood one Ms.A
DeleteMrs A, which one is legitimate pounding? They've had sex already? Oral, heavy petting are all forms of sex. Stop the churchy pretense jare
DeleteWhich one is holy spirit again. Didn't u see where they are making out and using kick to rob laps. Did he tell the holy he will be doing that.
DeletePoster you have had sex already..Sex is not only penetrative but involves other acts (please check your dictionary)..When you guys are alone together, the temptation will be strong so I advise that you spend time in open public spaces if you are serious with the no-sex-till-marriage.
ReplyDeleteNow you guys should sit down and have productive discussions about this journey you guys are about to embark on.Ask her why the sudden urge to have sex, hear out her fears and challenges and then both of you should agree on the resolution of no sex before marriage..All the best...Ask God to help u resist the urge as well..
Phoenix come and chop hot kisses, you killed it when you mentioned hear her fears.
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DeleteAnd her sister's experience is not helping you. Her sister's sex life regrets are fueling the seduction. Not judging you but if I'm to say, when you make out with only penetration remaining, do you think that might not count against you? Go ahead and do it since you almost did it. She is human too. Do you want her to go the way of your ex? Choose.
ReplyDeleteHe made a mistake of going to that length with her , body no be firewood, Mbok πππ
DeleteI feel she's following the orders of her sister. She wants to 'test' you and know if you are active in bed to avoid stories that touch. Her aunty must be going through tough times and that is why she's encouraging her. One thing I believe is that no two partners can be 100% sexually compatible. The idea of tasting before marriage is somehow. If you bf/gf
ReplyDeletePlease have a mind "reset". Yes partners can be 100% sexually compatible, what you talking about?
Delete@Ennie
DeleteThis issue of compatibility isn't an excuse to fornicate; yes, that's what it is.
Call the sin by its name.
Who teaches the new born baby how to suck breast milk?
If God is the one joining these two, how will he give what is not good (See Deut. 1:25)
Except they are getting joined by ulterior motives like, "sex," monetary gains etc.
If these people are set out on a godly venture; marriage, there is absolutely nothing to
be afraid of. If the girl does not like him, let her go and marry someone that will fornicate
with her.π€¦π»♀️π€¦π»♀️π€¦π»♀️π€¦π»♀️π€¦π»♀️π€¦π»♀️π€¦π»♀️π€¦π»♀️
What do you mean "No two partners can be 100% sexually compatible"?
DeleteIs that your experience and you use that to console yourself?
Of course sexual compatibility exist and very common. There are couples that have issues in other aspects but their sex life is the only thing keeping them together. I am not saying that is ideal but please disabuse your mind that no couple is 100% sexually compatible.
This one hard me oo
ReplyDeleteCause am Team no sex
Lets wait for other suggestions
You are exactly the one to advice him na
DeleteGuy, na man you be. Some people would have taken advantage of the situation.
ReplyDelete@Clito
DeleteSo are you saying he should fornicate?
What about his conscience and the God that created him that
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I believe "na man you be" is a form of praise for his self control and restraint?
Delete@anonymous that same God loved mary magdalene, that adultress, the tax collector and the thief on the cross
Delete@22:41
DeleteThe forgiven and saved Mary Magdalene did not continue in adultery
Zacheaus the corrupt tax collector did not continue to steal, he returned his loots
The thief on the cross had a repentant heart
One is saved to live a righteous life, not to continue in sin that grace may abound. Rom. 6:1-2
Jesus saved me from teenage drunkenness and vanities and for 20 years or more, I have not returned to
those vanities.
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Oga if your promise is not because of God, and you have nothing to hide( I suspect that your “pretending” to cum), then pia the babe oku ozugbo
ReplyDeleteFan Fan, I hail ooo π π π
Delete@Fan
DeleteSo why not write it like this;
FORNICATE with the babe ozigbo -quickly.
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ANG is fornication is not a crime. He is fornicating with his wife to be.
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CEO ezigbo nwannem I’m loyal π
Delete@Fan
DeleteFornication is a Sin before God the creator. "Wife to be" is not
same thing as wife. A wife is a woman whose bride price is paid by
the man; her husband.
If you are still a sinner, I am not. I am a saved sinner
and Romans 6:1-2 I will not continue to sin so that grace may abound...
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Maybe when all these clamour for the scrapping of bride price by feminists come through and abolished we will see what ANG will be singing with from morning till night. Bride price, bride price as if that is what ensures a lasting marriage, as if even without marriage itself the essence of life is defeated.
DeleteHian!
@Saphire
DeleteYes, without marriage, the essence of life is defeated. Are you wiser than God that instituted marriage
immediately after he created the man and woman?
Feminist or no feminist, some people are joining man to man, woman to woman. (Google "man of lawlessness" and educate
yourself) Has it changed a jot from God's word?
God's Word remains sure and he knows his own 2 Tim. 2:19 All that name the name of the Lord should depart from
iniquity.
If you are a Christian, please don't, sit get down and allay her fears.Stylishly use her sister's story as an instance to let her know she has nothing to fear.
ReplyDeleteStick to your words.
Guy, relass and be taken kiaruf
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DeletePoster, even if its just once,you need to put her mind to rest else she will go out and get it and then you will come back to square one.
ReplyDeleteTry and convince her for the last time.
You guys should just have a heart to heart tok on the issue. No need to pretend like you dont know what she wants, the question is are u ready to give in?
ReplyDeletePoster isn't ready to give in.
DeleteI'm sorry we can't advise you, have a heart talk with you and be firm about your decision henceforth if your promise is religion based.
I hope her sister won't be a stakeholder in your marriage Sha
Finally, STOP the foreplay,it's a preamble for sex.
If you are a Christian, please don't. Sit her down and allay her fears.
ReplyDeleteStylishly use her sister's story as an instance to let her know she has nothing to fear.
Stick to your words.
Lol.. I GET HER.
ReplyDeleteI also had a no-sex relationship and I had my fears before we got married. Difference between my story and yours is hubby hadn't even had sex at all while I had been sexually active before we started to date.
We are married now and Yes! the sex is good. Infact, I am glad I was the one who taught him how to pleasure me and he was so willing to learn.
Assure your woman that you can have an erection, maintain an erection and that you do not have premature ejaculation and that you are willing to learn how to pleasure her if you end up together.
Sexual incompatibility mainly exists because people are not communicating. The men think they are a pro at sex(meanwhile they are twisting nipples like they are turning a radio and are introducing their teeth to your labia amongst other "I sabi fuck" errors).. The woman too thinks she's a pro (meanwhile she's nearly biting the dick off while throating, and when she's on top, she's not thrusting the full length of the dick at all, just rolling aggressively on the poor guys hips amongst other "I sabi fuck" errors).
Mr man, are you sexually okay? If you are sure you are, Tell her to hold on
Married people should learn to start having sexual talks respectfully without bruising the partner's ego.
This Candor you be expert oooo.
DeleteI won't mind more lessons seriously.
He cannot ascertain anything about his oza room skills because according to him he has only done it once. You need to have experience in order to assure someone of these things. Except he has been wanking and that one is even worse because a woman's real body may not even turn him on.
DeleteNO DO AM OOO
ReplyDeleteGuy man don't do it!
ReplyDeletePoster, dont do it keep to your promise. She wants to know if you are a real man. Sit her down and talk to her that there's nothing wrong with you.
ReplyDeleteThis world no balance at all.
ReplyDeleteWetin some people dey find, na hin your girl dey joke with......
Ogbeni fuck the indoor joo
ReplyDeleteDon't do it, please. You should wait because God said so and not for anyone.
ReplyDeletei would advice you not to break your promise ..as a man uou need to stand on your ground with the decisions you make ..if not she will always be taken advantage of you
ReplyDelete..be wise
Do not break your promise though, just have a heart to heart talk and try to convince her to wait.
ReplyDeleteGood luck
Poster you have to prove to your girl that you are capable in za oda room. For myself I will test drive before I will finally say yes, no time to Carry last. Once beaten twice shy.
ReplyDeleteIf you like bash me, I am only speaking my mind because when the chips are down no one will cry with me.
Poster it has to do wt conscience determination n discipline. D ball dey ur Court
ReplyDeleteOga,have sex with the girl ,that is if you don't have things to hide maka you are acting suspicious,and there is nothing like you have control ,you have reasons which you didn't share with us. If you feel your no sex stuff is worth your relationship,keep on the good work . E sure for all of us say you dey wank up and down.
ReplyDeleteGuy, stop all these play around the vagina and penis that you both are doing.
ReplyDeleteIt is not worth it. After the marriage (just pay her bride price and that's it), you will
have loads of sex. Do not fornicate now and do not get her pregnant, you will regret it.
And one thing that will be lost in the marriage if it ever hold is trust. You will just be
fighting and scrambling all through your marriage to find trust.
It pays to be in Christ. Marriage, the process of it and indeed life in general can be lived
in fulfillment in faith and trust. The Lord our God will give what is good...Deut. 1:25
And Rom. 8:28 in all things, God works for the good of they that love him and are called according to his purpose
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DeleteI know you wouldn't disappointππ
DeleteWell said
DeleteSo what it means is that even as viable as you are sexually, if after the marriage
ReplyDeleteyou are no longer, this girl will dump you?
You have a problem in your hands guy. Let this girl know that you both are getting
married and her sister is not the one mediating or joining you both but God.
And it is this same God that you both should honor with your bodies. Stop all these sex plays
immediately.
Once you have sex with this girl, you'd keep doing it and it doesn't end well. If she gets pregnant
you would have thrown an evil spanner into a good relationship.
The one directing this orchestra is the devil, that ancient Serpent, the destroyer.
Will you allow him or will you work with God to build and solid foundation for your marriage?
All of you that are saying that he should do the do. Do you guys also realize that things can change for the worse even when the sex is good prior to the wedding? What if after wedding Oga starts having mid life crisis?. Just what if his desire for sex now dies down after marriage? Hold yourself if you can and if she thinks you are not good enough bcos u don’t want to make out with her, let her go abeg. It’s painful but it’s the truth. See a man with strong self discipline that a woman should adore and yet she is there rubbing bumbum on penis. Mctwwwww. Lastly pray and make sure that this is your God given spouse o. God will continue to strengthen you.
ReplyDeleteSimple. Poster, this comment answers your question, run with it, and God will continue to strengthen you.
DeleteYou just said my mind,poster pls go with this advice.
DeleteSo aptπ
Kisses for this !!!!!
DeleteStop turning me on!!!
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Most men who have stayed that long have been using p**n to hold body and soul together. It means that he has a fantasy or preferences that the future wife may not meet. But the good news is that everyone can be trained so far there isn't any major illness involved. Maybe you should consider a semen analysis or test. Tell her of any defects or discoloration you have around your private part. Ask her to share hers too. I think that these are allowed. Another thing that you can do, although it is bad advice I am giving you, is to ask her for same thing. Tell her that you want her to do a pelvic scan to ascertain some things. This is usually what I tell women whose men want them to get pregnant before marriage. Ask the man to submit samples for sperm analysis. Do me I do you.
ReplyDeleteWow!!! My dear if you know the spiritual consequence of fornication you won't. I don't get why everyone wants to taste first, so what happens after tasting and kasala burst one year later or even six months later. Please your promise should be to honor God with your body not TO ANY GIRL ok? If she can't wait let her walk. May God help us to understand that he wants us to honor him with our bodies!!!! That everyone is doing it doesn't make it right. Flee fornication please!!!
ReplyDeleteBro., do not give in.
ReplyDeleteAm alarmed at the number of people telling you to do the do with her!!!
ReplyDeleteHonestly wide is the road that leads to destruction!!!! So after sleeping with her and you die with that sin, I hope you already know where you are headed to? See first airforce female pilot, she was just 23yrs old!!! Are you sure that lady is for you??? Her elder sister is the one clearing road for her abi??? She has no mind of her own abi??? I pray you honor God with your decision. Am actually short of words!!!
My dear you made a good point
DeletePeople like you who don't have a reasonable reason for waiting till marriage end up falling like a pack of cards. You didn't mention Christ as the reason for doing the right thing but a promise you made to your woman. Of course, you will stumble in your celibacy journey. Who is fooling fool here? The only person who deserves your chastity has been relegated to the background it is now a mere mortal like yourself that would make you stand upright especially one Who is as weak as you are, one whose faith has been replaced with the spirit of fear. Who is to say you haven't already stumbled as at the time you are reading these comments. I don't know why you don't want to do it because you have done practically every other thing so what is the purpose of this chronicle? You entice each other, arouse each other and keep the fire of passion burning then stop abruptly when you are both at the peak of ecstasy. You both are a tease. And I find it hard to believe you saw a text on her phone and that's the reason she is scared. She simply wants it because you arouse the desire in her all the time, but what is the point when you wouldn't go all the way? You both are to blame. Stop igniting a fire you can't quench.
ReplyDeleteI honestly think you are hiding something. Though I don't know a thing about the intricacies of sex, I am not stupid to buy this story of yours. You didn't pretend to 'cum' you actually did. And I think that was the reason you went off sex when you tried it the first time. Over excitement due to engaging in sex the first time made you underperform with your female friend and you came before she could say"Jack Robinson". So, due to that, you crept back into your shelf. The fear of embarrassing yourself again made you keep off sex till marriage. You aren't convincing enough. Let face it. She held your member in her hands and with it, you noticed she was wet after going to a point of no return you still had the self-control to escape from her grip. Bravo! The award for the most self-controlled male in the other room goes to you. You came before you went in? And now you are trying to pass it off as an act. How interesting! You mentioned that is how you have been escaping her countless times? Which shows you have been experiencing that countless times with her? That is your problem right there. So stop acting like it is an act you put up to avoid her. You would probably send this chronicle to her to confuse her about what she saw because she also suspects that is the issue. That is the only reason I could come up with as to why you sent this in because honestly, I don't see the purpose of this story. You have been caught, stop looking for how to wriggle your way around it. Open up to her about the issue you are facing and stop pretending.
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DeleteSabella you sabi well and this is where I rest my case
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DeleteI raise my behind for your analysis
How refreshing to read someone who think, and differently at that!
DeleteChrist is the ultimate. For the Scripture says; Psalm 119:9 how can a young man keep his
way pure? By giving heed to your Word. If your intended purity, if that's the case is not due
to the Word made flesh (Christ), you will fail. Joseph ran from Portipher's wife because
"he feared God," not Potipher.
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Gbam! I stopped reading other comments after reading your comment sabella. That’s just it. You’ve said it all. I’m thinking to myself, he’s waiting till marriage yet he’s still engaging himself in what he’s against in the first place. Poster open up to your woman! Your sex game is not it and it’s something you both can work on. Do not trap her into your BS! Selfish Man
DeletePoster,ur girl doesn’t know that’s she’s lucky to have you,ur type are rare in this generation where a guy won’t date you without having sex with him,u are a disciplined man keep it up,I will advise u have a heart to heart talk with her, on why the sudden change in her behaviour after you guys made a promise together,let her know that no two person are the same ,if it didn’t work for her sister,it might work for u guys.U sef stop all this foreplay ,na blood dey run for ur vein o ,body nor be firewood .
ReplyDeleteStart seeing her public places like an eatery, a cinema, etc.
ReplyDeleteNo more sex till marriage
Body no be firewood.a lame excuse to commit fornication.
ReplyDeletePhonex has said it all.
ReplyDeleteSabella welldone.
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Poster i think both of you do not have the same ideology about waiting till married. If you're not dating someone who has the same belief of no sex relationship,this is what you get. It also depends on why you do not want to have sex,if it is because you want to obey God then your convincing her should be into that direction. This is where being on the same page also comes in because if both of you are like minded,she'll be able to know what God says about sex before marriage and encourage you to keep yourself rather than seducing you to compromise . Lastly, if you cannot agree on a matter such as this,I'm afraid you might not be compatible. Look before you leap
ReplyDeleteThis kind of guy who believes in no sex before marriage and has erection, is rare to find. Just avoid being in enclosed places with her.
ReplyDeleteMe wey be fuck machine, dated a guy for like six months and e never mount me. I asked oga i need you, he said he was tired. Na so i hold gbola, gbola soft, i wait till eight months na so i jump fence marry my next suitor. Oga come marry later, poor girl never born, me i get 3 boys, a girl and a husband dat FUCKS LIKE AN OX. i dont blame her elder sister o
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart bro.
ReplyDeleteCommunication .this should have been an agreement between the both of you and not you promising .so have a discussion with her .Ask her about her fears.. I mean, this is who you are going to spend the rest of your life so get used to communicating .
ReplyDeleteCommunication .this should have been an agreement between the both of you and not you promising .so have a discussion with her .Ask her about her fears.. I mean, this is who you are going to spend the rest of your life so get used to communicating .
ReplyDeleteDear poster, learn from the wise... This issue maybe what will make or break you.... If that girl knows that she can make you break your promise with sex, it will be what she will use to dominate you all your life. But if you don't, that will make her respect and value you more... The devil is using her unbeknownst to her to open the crack in your relationship... This if from experience
ReplyDeleteI’m married. Sex is practically non existent. There was a year we had sex about 4 times. This year not up to 10. It’s very very frustrating. I don’t feel the need to have sex with my husband. He dosent interest me in a physical way anymore. Would I have married him if he told me he wAsnt into sex? I don’t think so. It’s just a sad situation for me.
ReplyDeletePoster, this is why giving her only once is not even going to cut it. One hit wonder will not do it o. She will need to know she is with a man who can't resist her, who wants her over and over. Infact, your ability to "control" so much with her is not an advantage for a woman. Pls don't turn to those kind of men who have sex only for procreation. I and my husband are rabbits and I can tell you for free that there is nothing that builds a woman's self-esteem as much as the knowledge that she is with a man who losses control at the sight of her.
DeleteMy friend's husband once called her a dog because she tried to initiate sex 2ice in a week. This is a man that can go months without sex and thinks it's ok. She said he has been that way from when they were dating and she thought he was just a man who has "control" now they are married and that "control" she was celebrating is her greatest regret.
Nwoke m, with only one sexual experience under your belt, how then do you know that you are good in bed?
ReplyDelete1 CORINTHIANS 6 VERSE 18
ReplyDeletePlease and please poster,don't do this.When temptations like this comes, always remember the reason why you held on for so long.
ReplyDeleteDon't do what you will regret eternally and always have God at the back of your mind in all you do.You do it once, I bet you will continue doing it .Please be a man by standing on your promise. If she can't help with your peace of mind,let her go please.
Fornication still remain a sin whether you promise her or not. Wait on God's promises which is everlasting Brother.
Goodluck and avoid occasion of sin completely.