Please read it and let us discuss if she was right or wrong!!!
Monday, June 29, 2020
Shocking Chat Between Lady And Her Brother.........
This blew me away and i was really shocked but perhaps her experience modelled her thoughts....
Please read it and let us discuss if she was right or wrong!!!
Please read it and let us discuss if she was right or wrong!!!
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Oh dear😱😱🙆🙆 who will blame her? Protect,guide and guard your children! So many sicko's roaming around
ReplyDeleteMadness. I saw it on fb yesterday. She claimed she was molested. So she is trying to protect her kids. Na wa. We cnt blame her na
DeleteI no fit vex for her , na Wetin dey happen for this world na imm make am. She trust him but she just wants be safe. No be dis blog or IG that some1 said the story of the guy that the children saw as a big brother had sex with them .10 year old twin girls and was paying them 200 Naira. Abeg let her do if that is what will keep her mind at peace.
Deletealot of sick persons everywhere.
DeleteGood woman. Every relative should be made to sign sign this agreement in respect of our young kids
Delete😂😂😂 This is seriously serious
ReplyDeleteNobody is to be trusted but putting it out on social media is a crazy thing to do...
ReplyDeleteThat was very STUPID AND LOW OF HER🤮🤮.
DeleteSocial media has caused some madness. Why should this be made public? It's good she's taking precaution for her kids but no need broadcasting it to the whole world
DeleteNothing wrong! As a parent I can do this.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely nothing wrong. In fact the way I will protect my future kids ehen, I'm praying i don't end up spoiling them.
DeleteWhatever works for her, what makes her think only guys molest kids though?? What if her house help is doing the unthinkable, may God continue to protect our children.
ReplyDeleteI don't blame her even the security men, the drivers should be signing undertaking...
DeleteCrazy world
With the story people are hearing everywhere do you blame her? I just hope she wrote the same thing for her husband and he signed as well. Was it not here a woman said her husband his penis inside their daughters mouth to suckle and she did nothing? All men in her lives and women should not be excluded. Nobody should be left off the hook even teachers.
ReplyDeleteWhat nonsense is this..? Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteThis lady is paranoid and has not healed. So she is approaching it from the angle not fear. This is not going to help her children at all. While she is busy warding people off she is stifling her children. They won't have normal relationship. What she can do is train the children, teach them and keep an eye. The truth is there is a limit to which she can do if she is not teaching and educating the children. She needs to heal too. So she can look at it objectively without cutting off her siblings. One day, her children will need those uncles. Reason is we don't know tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteDoes she follow them to SCH. Abuses occur anywhere. So she has take several seats and think carefully so that she doesn't protect one end and leave another end porous.
This is the best response.
DeleteShe is not omnipresent and this effort to protect her kids is so limited. If she protects them in childhood, can she do so when they get into secondary school and university? Nobody prays for evil, but if armed robbers/rapists break into her house will she make them sign an undertaking.
See ehh, this life just pray make trials no come, Satan's devices are numerous and our human wisdom can't even help us.
Las las, na Baba God fit help man.
👌👌👌. Also, there are other sane ways of protecting your kids other than this sick method.
DeleteLady T, a woman that would go as far as telling her brother to sign an undertaking before entering her house, best believe her girls have been getting sex education as soon as they can say dada.
DeleteSo me. I like her already.
ReplyDeleteI understand her plight but I pray she won't need to work so hard to earn her brother's trust in the future
ReplyDeleteThe woman is paranoid sha. Once the warning has been given with family members present, that solves it. Why go to SM?
ReplyDeleteNobody is to be trusted exclamation
ReplyDeleteShe is right with her decision
Stella UCHE
Is better this way to avoid story that touches the heart
ReplyDeleteI'd rather avoid having him over than go this route. This may even start putting ideas in the poor boys head,what he never thought of. Oh well, to each his own. The funny thing is,the people who end of molesting your kids are people you never imagined.
ReplyDeleteThank you, might be that he is not even thinking of that sef, anyway what works for her. She doesn't seem to trust her brother.
DeleteShe needs to protect her children and i wouldn't blame her at all
ReplyDeleteI don't blame her either... experience is the best teacher. Her experience in life led to this.
DeletePls i don’t blame her. Too many sick people.
ReplyDeleteWow....I think the brother understood where she is coming from and what she went through,cos for him to have accept all that without even thinking her sister doesn't trust him.
ReplyDeleteI like the lady though once bitten twice shy
Yes I think so too
DeleteTrust no one!!!
ReplyDeleteI won't judge her for taking this decision. The world is a wicked place. I can't be comfortable with any grown up man living in the same room with my kids.
ReplyDeleteI am with her abeg. People are heartless.
ReplyDeleteIs it not on this blog that someone talked about how the person her father housed was molesting their innocent brother? Am still pained by that story.
May God not allow us see evil, or mistakenly invite the devil into our lives, amen
Ride on Sis😎
I don't believe this , This talk alone will spoil their relationship but who will blame her ,the world is a scary place
ReplyDeleteThat's how bad the society is now so I don't blame her because she was abused and I'm sure she's still living with the trauma associated.
ReplyDeletePutting it on social media is a big NO for me sha
What is this?? Abeg I don't know what to make of it.. It doesn't look right. There are better ways to warn him off. That there is disturbing.
ReplyDeleteIt is all shades of wrong! Very very wrong. She doesn't even know how much she has exposed the daughters she's claiming to be protecting to the rapists around her, their perverts eyes are now on her kids, I bet she doesn't know.
DeleteIt is not right at all and doesn't make sense. This is abnormal behavior.
DeleteJesus,if my sisters tell me this kind of thing,Everything that connects us end that day����
ReplyDeleteWell maybe the lady knows that the brothers head no correct or he has done it before
Let it end. Abusers are usually family members, that brother or sister you trust so much is probably abusing your children. If you were ever abused, you will be paranoid too. So if you cannot sign undertaking, stay in your parents' house and earn money from there.
Delete* speaking from experience*
If your mind is clean you shouldn't be so offended
Delete@jet li exactly. If your mind is clear you will not even have a problem because you know even if you swear oath you won't fail so you can humour your sister plus you as her brother would know where she is coming from.
DeleteJet li and anon..we all know most abuse come from family or close friends. But hey, how would you feel if you sis tells you now as a lady that she can't entrust that you cute lil nephew you can do anything for to your care because she's scared you can abuse his privates? Look, there more reasonable and even more effective ways to go about this but that up 👆 there isn't one of them. And to put it out in public? That boy must be really young and desperate for some change tho.
DeleteJet li,Y and anonymous so I'll have to sign agreement before going to my sisters house?Romans 7:7I have not known sin but by the law.Just the bringing up the agreement is going to put it in that boys head if he is Innocent..Just like I said maybe she knows her brother..And you people know Una family
DeleteJohnny, If you love your sister, you should applaud her for taking all necessary precautions to protect your nephew and nieces especially given the poster's experience. Those cultists,rapist, paedophiles, armed robbers you see all have loving sister and family member who have no idea what they are up to when no one is looking. If you like,make your own children easy target, na you know.
Deletelet it end biko.growing up, I was abused by an uncle who was living with us.
DeleteShe went too far,From their chat the brother is desperate,hence the signing of the undertaking without thinking.
ReplyDeleteShe's not even a good sister to the kid bro, I mean, why must my baby bro work for me to be able to write his waec bikonu?? Won't I just send him the money and advice him to read his book as those chores might steal his time for reading and solving past questions?? Why will my brother especially the last born, the baby in the house work as a domestic staff for me??
DeleteShe is not.. Let's even assume the young boy just wants to leave home and come stay with her, if he felt he can only get a nod for that only on the basis of becoming a domestic staff in the house of his own elder sis (most ibo elder sisters that don't joke with their younger brothers).. Then this display of lack of trust up 👆 there is just ine of the many issues in that family.
DeleteAnd for her concerns towards the girls, there are better and respectful ways she could have passed the message to her brother and even put him on check when he comes..this thing she did and put out to the public, if i were one of their siblings (maybe her elder or immediate junior to her) then she for hear am hot from me for feeding my fam to the public.
Lol! That's not the best way to go about it. She has even given him that such can happen, forget the threat. He can do it and run away. Better keep him off
ReplyDeleteI don't blame her. At times, the things we've passed through may make us do things that may be considered extreme by others.
ReplyDeleteSince she and her brother are fine with it, no problem.
traumatophobic behavior.
ReplyDeleteI will always say this, parents/adult, if you can not cater for the children you're planning to bring into this world, please don't bother getting pregnant!Don't also bother getting pregnant!You have no business being a parent, also you have no right whatsoever being called a parent. Just look at the embarrassment an innocent teenager has to go through all because he wants to work as a domestic staff for someone to be able to write HIS GODDAMM WAEC ?? Is it supposed to be so?? Aren't his parents the ones who should give him the money for it?? The lady even went as low as exposing his privacy to the public, only God knows how much she intends paying him🤢🤢. This is abuse on the boys part and it is all shades of wrong. Shame on all the wicked Nigerians that will not plan their lives but will keep breeding innocent children and leaving them to fend for themselves as a child, shame!shame!! This is why poverty rate will keep increasing here,God didn't give us sexul organs to misuse them, if you can't cater for only one child, then give birth to one only, if it's 20 that you can cater for, then go ahead and give birth to 20,Stop bringing innocent souls to the world only to torture them!! Let's start correcting these silly mistakes and start doing better.
ReplyDelete*can*
DeleteI get her concerns 💯.. But this right here is highly embarrassing and another kind of abuse on its own prolly the young teenager doesn't know it yet. She's supposed to know There are other ways to handle this naw, i mean as woke as she intended to show she is to the public.
DeleteShe should go and sit down. She's not ashamed that her younger brother has to beg to work as her domestic help before she can give him money for something as important as WAEC. Shame on her!
DeleteMay life not humble her to the point of needing the same family she neglected. Her brother may never forget this treatment.
A good step in the right direction if you ask me...we live in a crazy world and it's left for us to do our path and leave the rest to God cos no matter how you try,you cannot entirely protect your child (Ren)
ReplyDeletePart*
DeleteI wouldn't blame her.
ReplyDeleteBecause of the lady's past experiences, she has trust issues. But in my opinion, I think she's taking it too far.
ReplyDeleteSafe guarding her kids, you can't blame her, she could have turned down his request but she didn't,so it's okay.
ReplyDeleteChild molestation is horrible, may God heal us☹️
U people saying she is paranoid , how do we blame her ? She is scared cos of what she experienced while growing up, I will even do worst cos I went thr same thing with loads of family members my kids are a bit free but I’m always putting my eyes on them , no mother will ever allow same thing to happen to any of her kids both male n female ... she went too far by posting it on sexual media tho But the agreement is very ok , Trust no one
ReplyDeleteSince he is her brother, why didn't she just send him the money? Must he work for her? IMO, she went too far. putting it out on the net again, hmmmm. It is well
DeleteMay God help us!
ReplyDeleteTo me it doesn’t make sense , putting thoughts in the young boys head, maybe he has not even thought about that before I know you have to be careful and all but that’s extreme and putting it on social media is something else
ReplyDelete👍👍👍
DeleteI think its either she allows him work for her with maximum measures in place to curb any molestation, or refuse him to work for her. With this, she has put ideas in his head even if he never thought of such. What if he does it and then absconds before he is caught.
ReplyDeleteHow does this stop anything? She should heal herself and stop branding everyone that will come in contact with her daughters.
ReplyDeleteI dont see churches,schools,women and mothers rising up against songs and movies that are enablers to these behaviours. Do you know that there is a song promoting a culture of teeage girls walking without underwears and women & mothers dance vigorously to this song when it is played
The lady's action even though unique is not effective. Let us be serious
and tackle this problem with the plurality that it deserves. It is multi-faceted and the women who i regard as the moral keepers of the soceity should go after ALL enablers,OAPs,radio stations,internet providers,law makers etc
Stellz, I don't think this can be assessed in terms of right or wrong. In this case, I dare say "right" or "wrong" should be relative. What I can say, with little or no conjecture, is that her mentality has been shaped by her past experiences with sexual molestation. However, one can agree or disagree with her mindset not necessarily based on "right" or "wrong" but on whether, if we were in her shoes, we would do same or handle it a tad differently.
ReplyDeleteWhat came to mind as I read this chat was why she couldn't just give him the money he is proposing to work for? I figure if she can afford to pay for labour, bearing the unusual circumstances and for the safety of her girls, why not offer to give him the money then, since she seems big on signing undertakings, ask him to sign an undertaking to pay back at a later date?
I can't fault her for not trusting her sibling with her girls, after all she's in a better position to know what he may be capable of. What I find disturbing is the need to expose this to the public, to what end, really? What's the moral lesson to be learnt here? What message is she passing about her family to the public, that she comes from a family of perverts? What if a prospective employer sees this undertaking by her brother posted on Facebook? Regardless of how innocuous it may be, it leaves a sour taste in the mouth. I, for one, would want nothing to do with any member of such a breathtakingly peculiar family.
I understand the need to protect ones children from abuse or the pathological obsession of trying to prevent an ugly history from repeating itself but when does one more step move from the sublime to the ridiculous? Just thinking aloud, though. Like aforementioned, I'm not in a position to say she is right or wrong but I want to believe there are several other options open to people in similar situations because I don't agree with how she chose to handle this situation. I hope she got the necessary help needed to deal with child molestation and other sexual abuse she may have suffered because the blowback from that traumatic experience has a way of manifesting during the adult years of the victim.
Thank you. You said it all. 👍👍👍👌💟
DeleteAbusers are close relatives, don't blame her please. She didn't go too far abeg.
ReplyDeleteNot in all cases, will she have her pastor, daughters teachers, security guard (if she has any) sign undertaking?
DeleteI don't support all these being made public, but I don't blame her in any way for trying to protect her children. That's what she owes them. she would not want them to go through what she went through. These days you read unbelievable stories about a father impregnating his teenage daughter, a 3 months old baby being raped by a 50 year old man. it is sickening. so people should do what they got to do to protect their children. A lot of psychos out there, and they will blame it on the devil
ReplyDeleteI totally get the need to protect one's children from abuse and all, but this approach doesn't sit well with me. Like where is the place of trust? And like someone asked, did she also get her husband to sign similar undertaking, because we have heard stories of fathers who molest their own daughters.
ReplyDeleteWhat she has done will only plant ideas in the teenager's mind. Like they say, words (in this case letters) ate seed that must germinate once uttered.
My worry about all these "protection/alarm people stew raising is that it is gradual eroding family bonds and all. This little girls may never grow up to know and enjoy uncle's and auntie love becomes mum has labeled them rapists. The children's innocence are reaped away with this attitude and we are gradually becoming like the western world where family ties no longer counts. While we joyfully embrace this new ways of life, let's not fail to also accept the
Chisom God bless you for this your comment.
ReplyDeleteBut will this undertaking stop a psychopath from doing all those? Why don’t you send him his waec fees instead of allowing him to come. That’s what I’d do
ReplyDelete