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LOAFER HUSBAND

Hmnnn. Stella, its with pain I write these epistle of mine.
Pls hide my identity and notify me when you
Post this.cos I'd be in the comments section.
I'm married with 3 children. Fi6r the past 9 years that I've been married. My husband has not for once fed this family for a week straight.


It happened that he has a business venture that crashed woefully n it seems it has affected his morale. Stella I've walked in to the room n seen this man crying with tears. Tears that I know of due to compounded frustrations.
It has gotten so bad that he had sold roasted fish before and bartender. He has done manual labor also just to get himself busy.
I'm working and I hustle hard to ensure we don't lack. One may never believe except he's in the the picture of what's happening.
This man's father is a former ambassador with enough connections to get his son s job or something. But he's feigned dead ears to his first sons predicament.


He said he's not aware that his son has a problem. He's also pretending not to know that it's me that's footing the weight of raising his son and grandchild when I have my own dad whom no one is taking care of.


Before u say the dad owes him nothing. The same dad has found jobs for his remaining 3 kids in lucrative agencies.


I've completely stopped visiting his parents house cos I don't understand how they seem to pretend that all is well. Is it that they have no shame or conscience, how would they feel if one of their daughters is married to a man like their son? Would they even allow such marriage to hold.


The mum is a decoration mbanu.shes that type of woman that has accepted her fate of being a wife of a rich man with no responsibility except to sit and look stupid.i can't imagine a woman watching another woman feed her son.

why can't she plead to her husband on behalf of her son?


Honestly im in pain. This husband of mine has never laid his hands in a business that has succeeded. He's had over 5 businesses so far that has collapsed. He seem to have this bad luck at everything he places his hands on.him
Stella do u think it's a curse on him?
I've asked him to get a regular day job so as to be able to at least have something doing till such a time that he can have a business that is profitable but he's refused.


Another painful aspect is that his mom or sister had never worked for a day, they have husband's that take responsibility So I don't know or understand how comfy they are with the fact that a woman is doing what they've never done for a man to their son.


Stella im carrying the burden in all the financial aspect of this family. He is officially s house husband.. I'm just tired.
Sometimes i look at him and I'd notice that that from the shoe on his leg to his boxers.tibhis tooth brush.na me buy am.

Is this normal? Should I walk away n leave him n see if they may help him?
On his own he's not helping matters.this man lives for evening so he would go out n drink.he can ask me for 50 naira to climb bike to go and drink.i've advised him to shelf the habit and see if his life doesn't change.

He claims that he can't sleep without beer in his system as it's the only thing that keeps him sane.

Is it possible that I'm the one encouraging his excesses? Is this a normal marriage or is he just clinging to me cos he has no one else?
Stella,the way I work hard eh;u'd think I'm a widow trying to keep her family.but no i have a fully ground 40+ Man at home.
Stella what should I do? 

Why are you blaming your parents in law?you married a USELESS MAN and all the reasons you stated are probably why his Father has refused to bail him out and probably helped the others thinking he would change but it looks like you are containing his excesses so he is relaxed.....

You know the right thing to do so why are you asking us to tell you?If you are not tired of babysitting him,then please continue....

Otherwise you shove his behind to stand like a man,stop already!