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Hi Stella and fellow bvs, hope y'all are doing great.

I am really grateful for this wonderful platform. Stella may God continue to bless you for all you do. Please I'd like that identity is kept hidden. And yes, your red pen is needed as well as advice from the bvs.




I am practically engaged to two guys right now and they both have intentions of going ahead with the wedding ASAP. Please before you judge me, I'll go to how it all started hope u don't mind how long this gets.


I grew up with members of my extended family and saw many failed marriages and abusive relationships because my parents separated when I was 4 and things were so rough. Eventually, I had a rather distorted mindset towards some life matters including relationships. I don't really talk to people and hardly keep friends till date so I end up making all life decisions by myself. And one of my weaknesses has been indecisiveness, mind you, I have made lot of mistakes in the past.


My dad never took care of us and ended up marrying an older woman till death. My mum, on the other hand, left us for her mum to take care and was scarcely around. Because of my parents' broken home, I'm so scared of marriage and have tried to develop myself to be a good wife and learn how I could have a very good marriage. But the challenge has been who to marry.


I met this guy (say Mr A) in the uni though I saw serious red flags, and knew deep down we were too different, I just ignored because, I was too naive to say no to him even after surviving an abusive relationship in the past. Also, times when I'd feel the weight of the whole world was on me, I'd always oblige to spending some intimate time with him just to get my mind off them. We have had series of fights and he has hit me on two occasions still, we would resolve the issues and move on.


I have caught him cheating on several occasions and I must admit I too have done same but sincerely, those were times I really got fed up with our incessant arguments and wanted out. Let me also mention that he is doing well enough in his business and really hard working, caring even to my mum and brother and understanding.

As I mentioned earlier, I have devoted myself in developing areas of my weaknesses so I'll have the best of marriage but I also I'm not perfect so I used to condone these with him. Meanwhile, I have never shown dependence on him nor anyone. I have always been contented with the little I had and do little businesses here and there.

I have broken up with him severally and he would always beg me to come back using everyone that knows us including my mum. A few years ago, I started working for a multinational company and met a guy (Mr B) that seem to be all I ever wanted and to top it all, he is sort of a pastor so I fell miserably for him. He is the exact opposite of what I had in the past and last year, just three months after we met, he asked me to marry him. I couldn't say No because I knew he loved me sincerely despite having told him my past which are ugly, he promised no s#x till we were married.



I got to find out I earn a little above him and financially, he is a miser, and he also takes care of his rather large family. I told him all about Mr A but he still kept faith of having me someday.

A month after that, Mr A became inexplicably changed towards me and one day he pleaded that we had lunch together and I accepted on the note I was going to ask him to back off completely but surprisingly, he pulled a public stunt proposing to me. I couldn't afford any shame as everyone in d busy restaurant were already interested in my accepting the proposal so I said yes to him.



He immediately started making move to see my people as part of the wedding plans while I begged Mr B for some more time to end things with him. On both ends, I am tired of giving excuses and whenever I intend ending things with either one, I keep seeing reasons not to. I have desperately prayed to God to help me make the right decision. Truth is, I know what to do but I'm just plain scared of hurting either of them as I know I have done wrong by accepting to marry them in the first place especially Mr B.

Just last month, Mr B and I had se#x. We got carried away but I got to realize he isn't as perfect as I thought and meanwhile, Mr A who is so agile in bed agreed to a no s#x relationship with me since middle of last year to my amazement and has kept it.

To cut the long story short, I have in my possession two beautiful rings, two men and a head full with confusion.

Hmmmm you are very bold and greedy.....so you used two open eyes to collect rings from two men?I am also confused on what to say but you need to gather liver and drop one or both will dump you when you least expect it.