STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONSEQUENCES OF HAVING A PAEDOPILE FATHER
Good afternoon Stella and all the BVees,
I have always nursed this pain inside of me cos I saw it all and I heard it all, my late parents had the worst kind of marriage, sometimes my Dad strips my Mom in public, they fought always, we lacked everything growing up including moral support, my Mom was the breadwinner most times....
My father was a chronic paedophile, he has A1 at molesting children, each time a relative needs help and accommodation, he offers to help them but will turn around and start sleeping with them, not minding their age, some from 7yrs upward, it was a terrifying experience, my Mom would cry, fight and yet he won't stop, at different occasions we've caught him and he'll show no remorse, my mom's elder brother's daughter, he started at age 5 because the girls mother died while having her and my Mom brought the girl home to live with us, my father destroyed her life so bad that she ran away from our house, got pregnant for some riffraff and was pushed into marriage with a native doctor who has issues impregnating women, as a 4th wife..
I can count more than 10 girls I know that I have caught my father sleeping with, including my mom's 1st daughter, my step-sister, The reason I am writing to you is that each time I get a call from my relatives whom he had done these to, I get scared and very troubled, yesterday I got a call from one of them and she complained bitterly, and said things like "Nne my life would've been better ooo, I for go school and marry someone better but your late father, my uncle destroyed my life like this, I just pray that one day I can forgive him", I cried my eyes out...
I quickly called my siblings, everybody was just wailing and crying, I don't know how many more of them that are laying curses on us, I feel burdened, my brother's have promised to help them in every little way they can, I called my Dad's Sister and told her everything and all she could say was that, we should leave the past and stop digging it, that her brother was acting under a spell that if it was an inborn character that one of us will have such character but because it's a spell, that is why we don't have it...
I am very angry with her and with myself...
there was a day I walked into the room and saw my father on top of my 7yr old cousin fucking her, I couldn't scream, he didn't stop, he looked unperturbed, now am angry with myself that why didn't I cry out loud for people to come in and disgrace him, why didn't I scream, I could've saved that girls destiny, please help me, how do I forgive myself, how do I let go of this past, how do I feel better... Please help me....
Mind you my Dad died since 2008 , is it possible that he was under some spell?
Why am I feeling like this? Please help me, I just need to talk to someone, is that why we the girls in the family are not settled in life? Even the married ones are suffering too, his 1st daughter is 41yrs old and yet unmarried, I forgot to add that he took them for series of abortion including my mom's first daughter, she almost died at one occasion, it made my Mom runaway from home and threatened to jump off from an uncompleted building, we cried till she changed her mind, and no I wasn't too young then, I was up to 14yrs of age, and no he neither drinks nor smokes...
Thanks and may God bless you
Hmmmm,this is disgusting to read......
Ones silence to such crimes is as bad as if one had committed the crime....
I guess you need to find closure somehow by first forgiving your dad and reaching out to all those he hurt that you knew and ket quiet about....you and your other siblings should tender apologies on his behalf so that any one of them who cussed any of you will break the curse.....
Really messy story!
Kai
ReplyDeleteI need to unread this story....
It has ruined the afternoon for me.
DeleteI felt really disgusted reading this. I'm sorry you came from the loins of such a disgusting paedophile. It is well with you all.
DeleteMe too!!!!
DeleteHmmm things dey happen ooo. Infact am speechless. Jezz
Delete@ poster my dad is almost like this, at over 70 he still Harass women up and down sexually.he tried sleeping with Mum younger sis and even tried with that same Aunty’s daughter. Even underage girls are not spared all his escapades I’ve heard about is truly shameful. And just like your aunt said there were some insinuations that he was jazzed/ cursed with the spirit of lust. Sadly my mom is not mentally strong enough to leave over the years or handle his f**k up. Mom was walking along near the house one day when She heard one woman cursing all my dads kids cos of his affairs and fall out with the daughter.
DeleteJust like your family, all the females in my family has marital challenges from ttc one even over 10 years, to nearing 50 and no marriage etc. all six girls has facing one challenge or the other and the men are facing financial challenges.
What we did was to do is break all curses coming as a result of being his children and serious deliverance. As we don’t know where or who he has offended and will refuse to forgive.
Men and women pls let us stop being enablers to these kind of men. Let’s speak out so that we won’t be partaker of their punishment and if they don’t stop their sins will be on their head.
What a sad chronicle. The evil that men do lives with them not live after them anymore. Your father cannot eat the sour fruit and his children will be having tooth aches. There's no curse and condemnation in them that are living in Christ. Poster you and your siblings should set out a time to fast,pray ,seek the face of God and cancel every evil spells,curses and enchantment your father's actions has brought on you guys. Look for scriptures to back up your prayer. Don't go to any pastor or prophet. Just do the prayers among yourselves with faith. After that travel home to your father's compound and also break every curses and spells operating in your roots and lineage. After the prayers reach out to all the people you know your dad ruined their lives and seek for their forgiveness. Ask them to pray for you guys. I believe after doing this you and your siblings will have rest of mind and be free from every satanic bondage holding you all to ransom.
DeleteSending you love and light
It will surely end in praise.
Shaloooooom😘😘😘😘
Restitution is very important here. You must reach out to your father's victims and beg them for forgiveness
DeleteFamily deliverance is also important
Goodluck
I don't even know why I opened this post. Now my afternoon is spoilt.
DeleteSomeone remind me never to read any chronicle that Stella screamed OMG!
Poster, it is well with you. Pls forgive yourself and asked for forgiveness from those your father ruined their lives.
Your dad should be dealt with.
DeleteHi Poster, your story is really sad but the truth is there is not curse that can be active in the life of you and your siblings if you are in Christ.
DeleteRenounce your Father's ways and accept Jesus and your lineage becomes different from that of your earthly father. The only link the devil can make is if you do not believe in Jesus.
GOD does not put the curse of the fathers upon the Children that KNOW him. I pray you and your siblings find Christ and live for him, forgive yourself as it wasn't your fault, reach out to those you can reach out to and live a godly life. Remain blessed.
Sexual immorality like this carry a lot of curses that move from generation to generation. I feel you should forget about the so called father and focus on freeing yourselves from curses you know nothing about.
DeleteThis is really messy
ReplyDeleteMy dear, the story is cringe worthy!😰😰😱😱😱😱😱...
DeleteYeah very messy!
DeleteGirl just know that those young girls need to forgive you guys and your Dad!
I don't want to sound judgemental but girl,you should have exposed that man!
Parents become selfish sometimes and they don't know the consequences of their actions can ruin the kids mehn!!😵😷
Im sorry to say when ur mum knew ur father had this kind of habit,if she knew she couldnt leave(dats another chronicle altogether). Why not try protecting dos young girls in u ppls custody by NOT ALLOWING any relative stay with you. From the first time she caught him,she has a duty to protect dos girls. Find excuse even if its sponsoring those girls education in the village. But dont bring them home since u know ur hubby is sick. Then her first daughter im assuming shes not by ur dad. Should have left her somewhere safe. Maybe with ur grandma.
DeleteWe had one randy neighbour dat even impregnated the housemaid. I remember my mum warning me and my sister especially not to visit their home to play again,i didnt know the reason till i was older. We also noticed the wife stopped hiring house girls,only hired boys after that incident. And she never allowed female relatives live with them. She just found excuse she didnt know how to discipline other ppls kids. But on growing up i now get all she did. Atleast she protected girls coming ard to be abused by her husband in a little way she could.
@Bed and Roses,same thing I thought. Yes, the man was sick but the worst part is the adult bread winner wife who enabled him. His activities would have been curtailed if she had walked away with her children, then inform his family members of his problems.
DeleteAt least, people will be aware and avoid him. Poster, gather all your siblings and pray together with fasting and deliverance, you guys will be okay and live long fulfilling lives.
Ladies, please understand that there is no marriage in heaven and God will not clap for you that you spent your best years living in pains and scarring your children for life because of "I die here" mentality. See how many lives were ruined because this poster's mum wasn't courageous enough to leave a useless man.
When I was in primary 6 I caught a secondary school teacher about to rape a girl. She was in JSS1. I raised alarm and reported to my teacher who later took me to the school to report to the school principal. The man didn't even lie . instead of the school to sack him they only subspended him . He used to rape his only daughter after which hergives her #50naira and her mother is aware.
DeleteBeds and roses my thoughts exactly. When I read about her mum's niece I got angry at her mom. The woman was the breadwinner but she chose to continue to stay with a rapist and a paedophile. I'm so angry right now. The man has died and none of the girls got justice. Shame! Poster go for family with your siblings. You guys should also do family deliverance. If you guys repent genuinely from your heart and pray well, you shall be liberated. Also that your cousin that you witnessed your father raping, go and beg her genuinely for forgiveness cos ought to have stopped your father. That your auntie that supported your father, excommunicate her. May God help you all.
DeleteGo for family therapy*
DeleteI almost puked.imagine the damage your dad has done. Y'all need to just forgive him, forgive yourselves and ask God to bless and restore the people he abused. Most importantly all of you should come together and ask God for forgiveness and you'll see heaven open up for you people. Holding in pain, bitterness and and unforgiveness stalls people in life more than curses. Y'all should Ask God to forgive his sins
ReplyDeleteSome men are cursed. A female relative is not safe in some houses because a rabid dog in form of a man is living there.
ReplyDeleteReally messy,please poster forgive yourself first that is the first phase of the closure you seek.
ReplyDeleteIt looks like your mum stayed back and enabled his bad habits because he was rich. She felt that she can't stand on her own. See what she has caused for you all
DeleteYour father was a rapist without boundary.
Official prestige the mama no try. Okay shes not strong enuf to leave her marriage. Atleast protect the girls in ur custody,if ur husband cant control his libido send those girls back to their parents.
DeleteBut trust most women they like all dis relative with them so they cant use them for chores.
Her mum was the breadwinner
DeleteSorry to say this but ur mum has a hand in all of these.
ReplyDeleteIf she had reported that rapist from the onset, then he wouldn't have had opportunity to do this to other people.
Why did she keep bringing people into the house knowing fully well what her husband is capable of.
I hope he isn't resting in peace. Destiny destroyer
She is an enabler! Some may argue she was as much a victim but I beg to differ! She could have run to women NGOs! Shouted! Anything! Your husband raped your daughter, raped other kids and you are begging him to stop? Jeeeez
DeleteOne of the major problems we are having in this country is the mindset of the women who are currently between 55-75yrs. Most of those women are messed up. They will di anything just to say they are in their husband's house, that is why I always pray not to have an issue that will make me look for an elderly Nigerian woman for advise. Poster, I'm sorry but will not be well with you and your siblings unless you guys are original, hot and fire born again Christians. The curses you guys have acquired is to much. Sorry.
DeleteYea most of these useless men's wives should be held responsible too, they see all these yet keeps quite and i keep wondering, do they do this to continue answering Mrs or are they ashamed of what people will say to the detriment of another persons life. If you are reading this and you know your husband or a any member of your family is molesting a child yet you keep quite, better know that your day of reckoning is coming and you will surely pay in a bitter way.
DeletePoster make sure to look for those people and apologize on behalf of your father.
I agree that they should have reported. But you all seem to have forgotten the mentality of the people back then. Today, we have NGOs willing to take up these issues. Back in the days, there was nothing like that. Also, the women would have been sent back by the police that it is a family matter.
DeleteWe should all be thankful that we are living at a time when our voices matter and something can be done.
Queen Amaka take hi5🖐🖐🖐.
DeleteExactly! Women of those generations are the worst to give marital advice because their views are so queer. In those days it's an absolute abomination for a woman to report her husband even over something as horrendous as paedophilia. The only known good women of those generations are the women who stuck on through all forms of thick and thin in marriage. Which is why they decry present day rate of divorce.
Sorry o, present generation men. If any of you are hoping for such women who will take it, cover it, bury it with you, then pull out a rib yourself and make yourself one because God has closed that production line.
May your mum's soul rest in peace but she did bad for these young girls. Why keep bringing them to the lions den. And why why protect your dad?
DeleteEven if she cant report the man. Stop bringing peoples daughters into your home. If they dont have relatives living with them,will they die.
DeleteShes partly to blame. Why destroy those poor girls life. Okay u dont want to break ur marriage; thats ur problem.
But dont keep ppls daughter while ur hubby use them as sex slave.
Sapphire..lol @ God has closed that production line😂😂. May calamity never arise a second time.
Delete@Queen Amaka the worst thing you can do to yourself is to ask any Nigerian from the previous generation for marital advice. It's best to talk to a marriage counsellor
DeleteMay he continue to burn in hell!
ReplyDeleteYour mum tho, jeez! 'how she begged him to stop'. So she couldn't run with her kids as far as she could.
You need to go to God in prayers. Generational curses are normally activated this way. The curses of those young girls enn. It's only God that can undo it. I hope you find peace because you are a victim of your father's waywardness. Good luck.
I am just weak with this story...imagine begging someone to stop raping chidren😢.
DeleteMay the wicked man continue to rot in hell for eternity!. Rape is so ingrained in nigeria.
God fix all the hearts that your father broken .
ReplyDeleteYour father was evil, nothing like a spell, he was just a piece of shit.
Thank you Don. I hope he has a special place in hell
DeleteYou're feeling the way you feel because you saw your father raping an underage child and you didn't raise alarm on his head!
ReplyDeleteYou all that knew about his devilish act and refused to do something about it are enablers and your conscience is now dealing with you.
You guys need to go to God and beg him for forgiveness, all the young children that your devilish father abused; reach out to them and compensate them in the best way you can.
You guys should pray against the father and mother sins not to be visited on you. Pray that the curses that has been laid on your parents should be visited on You guys.
Gosh, those Nollywood movies are true life story after all!
I feel really bad for those innocent lives that were destroyed
As in, lives have been ruined.. So sad. "he continued fucking a 7year old girl"? Despite your presence? Y'all enable that man, I blame your mum the most! I shot that man like 150 times in my head already!!!! I'm so pissed..
DeleteWell said,they enabled him.
Delete"should not be visited on you guys"
DeleteI'm still trying to process how you will walk in on your father raping a 7yr old and you left the room for him to continue. Hmmmnn....I'm short of words.
DeleteA 7 year old girl can not be f**ked. She can be raped, molested, abused etc.
DeleteIt is sickening to hear anybody describing what happened between a fully grown man and a seven year old as f**k, inugo? Sho gbo?
She was 14 years old, please!!! She froze in shock! That was how many years ago?
DeleteWhat could she have done? Who could she have told? Where could she have run to? This poster was trapped!
If her mother, a grown woman could or would not do much to save her children and the victims from the horror of poster's paedophilic dad, what could a 14 year old have done then? Run away from home? To where?
Poster, take the advice of bvs who suggested family prayers to God by your siblings and heartfelt apologies to your sicko father's victims.
Pls they were kids themselves. What did u want them to do??? They were kids. What could they do?? Pls stop blaming the mans children I beg!!
DeleteShe was a kid herself.
DeleteIts the mama that was an enabler. Okay you want to remain Mrs,no problem.
But dont bring in peoples daughter and let ur husband destroy them.
She was a child herself.She was just 14!
DeleteThe typical 14 year old in Nigeria is timid and not outspoken, you know how we are raised such that we barely can challenge our parents plus the shock of what she saw would have numbed her.
DeleteAsk God for forgiveness, forgive yourself and let go of the past. You can even go for deliverance in MFM. Honestly, I really don't know what you would say to your dad's victims. Ask them for forgiveness, tell them you didn't know any better and you were a child.
You mean your mum stayed with a man who was molesting and raping her daughter?? Unbelievable!!!
I wish he was alive to go to jail and No,he wasn't under any spell or curse.
First, I pray his soul doesn't rest in peace just as the living he damaged are finding it difficult to find their heads.
ReplyDeleteYou can follow Stella's advice, I agree with her.
igbo people are such animals. na them dey carry this curse well well because na money ritual for their side, most of them sleep with their young daughters in order to get money from satan.
Deleteyoruba own na to bathe with soap made with human parts
You also need to undergo therapy. You carry too much. You need to offload it! You also need to come to terms with what happened. Therapy can help you. It's available in Nigeria. Plz get help. Your head is threatening to explode. Jeez so saddening.
ReplyDeleteYes to therapy.
DeleteWhy did I read this? Very disgusting, the silence is what is killing you, why didn't you say anything? You werent that small, you were 14 and you ignored it all, you just have to live with the guilt and push it at the back of your mind. Its just a disgusting life to have lived, your dad messed up all your lives, even your mum....jeez...she could have refused those kids knowing the kind of husband she has, just messed up. 7yo girl being sexually molested like that. Jesus christ when she should be in school playing with her mates. Even your step sister wasnt spared, sorry love. You can heal, you need to forget marriage, why you wanna get married? To bring forth more generations of damaged kids? Forget it, not everyone should gey married and have kids.
ReplyDeleteExactly! The last thing this poster and her siblings should think of is marriage! An emotionally damaged person getting married is a Time bomb. They need to sort themselves out first. Prayers, seeking forgiveness, therapy, deliverance. Marriage should be the last thing on their minds.
DeleteIf she desires marriage, she can and her kids won't be messed up. She just needs to heal, find closure and move on. Her life shouldn't end because of her dad. Neither her dreams should be buried cos of his crime
Delete15:12 I know you meant well
Delete- that is, to cut short the generations that will bear the unfortunate burden of the curses.
However, you don't know what your own forefathers did?
Maybe not paedophilia but some forefathers could have sold slaves, sacrificed virgins or something else.
That means everyone should investigate their backgrounds. Maybe
most people shouldn't get married or have children after their findings.
Let poster decide that. May not be interested in marriage anyway with all the burden of the nasty memories.
Stop blaming her. Most of you would have reacted the same way if you were in her shoes.
DeleteShe was a child for God's sake. Don't utter such ignorant words or the same measure will be used against you.
DeleteThis is terrible...OMG 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮.
ReplyDeleteYou need to work with a therapist ASAP. Chai....Your parents failed you greatly...your dad was under no spell.
Pls seek help.
No spell! He was just a wicked man!
DeleteExactly, he wasn't under a spell. If he was he would have raped his daughters as well. Your dad knew what he was doing and your mummy enabled him.
DeleteYou and your siblings reach out to all the people you can, that your dad need up.
ReplyDeleteWhat pathetic story. Every child should be proud of their dad, but in your case, it's quite shameful.
The stigma, humiliation you guys get from some family members and outsiders must be overwhelming.
You and your family Need total cleansing. But what if your dad was under a spell?
Maybe you guys should find out stuff but your family background. Some children suffer for their parents sins.
May God come through for you.
Sluttychic.
I haf similar experience, my younger brother and lil neighbour used to smooch in her room when she was little. I even told him to have sex with her, he was only about 10 and I 16/17. I regret that I enabled it and it affects me till this day, almost 20 yrs later. The guilt never goes away, you feel like a molester yourself. Too bad
ReplyDeleteYou told your brother to have sex with a kid, may God have mercy. Hope you have repented and make sure to talk to your brother, who knows, he may still be doing that.
DeleteThey were same ages btw. Not a kid
DeleteYou mean a 10yr old isn't a kid.They were both kids now
Delete17.18.you should have stopped at they were age mates.
DeleteIs a 10yr old not a kid? Rubbish talk .
To all the rape apologists and supporters in this blog, you all will forever lack peace....amen.
ReplyDeletePathetic narration....
ReplyDeletePlease, you and your family members needs totally spiritual cleansing...
You need to deeply ask those persons your late father molested for forgiveness from your hearts because like you said you didn't do much to help out even when you witnessed some..
Then gather your family together for family prayer of forgiveness... Cry and ask God to forgive your late father and everyone of you , forgive your father and yourself...
You all should find closure by reaching out to all the relatives involved.
ReplyDeleteHave a family meeting and let them know how sorry you all are let them forgive you all for not reporting him.
When you do this you will het closure, try and get professional therapy so you can move.
A part of me wished your mum moved out
oh no sorry for how you feel poster i don't think your dad was under spell,it was a nurtured habit. He was doing it because he wanted to do it. It's possible some of them might have said things like 'it will never be well with all your daughters' out of pain and disgust. Reach out to those you can and try to forgive yourself too and pray
ReplyDeleteThose people definitely cursed them!
DeleteHmm mm.... Nawaoooo this one carry weight gan.... Please take Madam Stella advice. Forgive yourself and let it go. Help those that you can reach out to in any way you can.
ReplyDeleteHe's roasting in hell so that's a consolation. But all those lives he's ruined.... I have no words, honestly. Only God can heal such a trauma.
ReplyDeleteSo broken reading these, Please locate any of them or all self, apologize on your dad behalf and you all should seek counsel from a Good man of God,Pray and fast together.There's nothing impossible for our God
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of story did I just read? Oh dear, I lack the words to say. Let me read again. Perhaps, I'll find the right words to say to you.
ReplyDeleteFor now, all I can say is.... turn everything to God. Jesus is your burden bearer. He'll fix it for you🙏🏿
Bad things are happening o. Oh God, our children, protect them Lord!
ReplyDeletePoster dear please do not blame yourself..You were 14 years and you didn't understand the gravity of your father's atrocities..I want you to forgive yourself because it was not your fault and I also want you to forgive your father as well..Even though in the bible God said the sins of the father shall not visit his children however this is the time of restitution. Calm down and meet a good man of God that is grounded spiritually (ask God for wisdom or discerning spirit in this choice) and arrange what we call FAMILY LIBERATION..Gather all that were molested and sexually assaulted by him and meet with this pastor..Pray and fast either you or you and your siblings..Truth is there is a foundational curse and those people will have sworn for your family due to their pain...Please deal with this SPIRITUAL first before visiting a psychologist/therapist cause every battle starts from the spirit...Please take this thing am saying very serious..All the best..
ReplyDeleteYour mother was an enabler. If she really felt bad at anytime about these things, she would have shouted, your father would have been caught, and maybe some of those girls wouldn’t have had their lives destroyed.
ReplyDeleteI hate disgusting weak women, and your mother was one of them. I hope you see her for what she really is?
You and your siblings should go tender an apology to your father’s numerous victims, and hope that none of your offsprings fall into the hands of a paedophile where the only adult around to help is an accomplice.
Yes her mother was an enabler ....there is however no need to use 'disgusting' in referring to her weakness. People are built different and we don't know the entire story. You can give advice but don't insult abeg.
DeleteHer mother is VERY disgusting! If her weakness affected only her, I wouldn’t have used that word, rather she covered for a paedophile that destroyed the lives of other children that she should have been protecting.
DeleteSo she is in fact a disgusting person, just because she is the poster’s mother doesn’t make her any less so.
Hopefully other enablers on this blog reading will read this and feel some kind of way about their actions.
This is really baad! How do I unread this?
ReplyDeleteYour mum was an enabler. She should have ran away with her children and even if she stayed as she did, she should have not allowed any relative live with her. Your father didn't get the punishment he deserved because we live in a bad society were women would rather remain married to pedophiles and rapists than leave such marriage. Tell your mum that I said she failed as a mother for allowing that man sleep with her own daughter. This story should be a lesson to modern days Nigeria women. Your peace of mind comes first. Poster's mother was probably sad and depressed all through her marriage. Don't stay with such men that sleep with your children please Nigerian women. This is too much! Leave such dirty marriage!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, her mum's silence is so annoying. To the extent of him impregnating her daughter and then going for an abortion. What really was her fear? The anger drove her to cry rather than take action.
DeleteShe was covering him up. Someone you would have reported to his entire village. And yet you guys buried your father. You need to dig up his grave cut off his dick,flog him well and burn him. He is a wicked man.
I bet it that at the time of his death, his kids will say he is the best dad.
DeletePoster confront that your mother! She is a culprit herself! Just look at! Women and staying in bad marriages! Your mother and father has destroyed lives.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you anon 15:28.Her mother isn't worth to be called one. What was her fear? What was her excuse for keeping quiet?
DeleteI pray God helps you, your siblings and all those people your father molested.
15:28 poster's mother is also dead.
DeleteMy dea4, God is not holding you responsible for what your dad did. Pls don't hold yourself or family responsible too. And stop allowing the victims guilt tripping you.
ReplyDeleteAnd don't allow the devil either, do same.
The bible says Ezekiel 18v20 "The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him." soul that sinneth, shall die"
it means every man shall carry his cross.
It also says, Jeremiah 31v29 "In those days they shall say no more, The fathers have eaten a sour grape, and the children's teeth are set on edge.
30 But every one shall die for his own iniquity: every man that eateth the sour grape, his teeth shall be set on edge."
Don't you know you all were abused too? At 14, I knew nothing about sex, neither was I allowed to watch films with kissing scenes. But you saw a ligh pornography. You were a child too and ought to be traumatized. You couldn't have made an appropriate decision at such age. So, don't blame yourself pls.
The most important thing is you all judged it wrong.
Henceforth, stop feeling guilty or thinking about the evil deeds of your father. Think ahead. You both are 2 different entities.
When you get calls from the victims, politely tell them you feel sorry for them, but you are not your father and let them know you are a victim too. Tell them to pray to God to change their lives.
Lastly, when the devil comes with his evil thoughts of guilt tripping you, shut him up and quote the above scriptures to him.
Take charge and control of your lives.
Stop every accusing finger and refuse every curse. It can't stand.
You are not guilty or suppose to bear the consequences of his evil deeds.
The devil is using your ignorance to torment you.
You are very funny o if you are truly a Christian you should ask her first if she is born again before quoting verses and saying nonsense.
DeleteHighlyFavoured thank you for giving the poster the Word of Life.
DeletePoster, do this.
God heal you all - victims and siblings in Jesus Christ name. Amen 🙏
Tufiakwa!!! I developed headache reading this,what a disgusting story. Am sure your dad is in hell already. My problem now is you and your siblings, you guys are not free from curse. Please you guys should visit these people he molested to ask for forgiveness, you guys should start from there first.kai..abomination
ReplyDeleteVery messy story. Poster did your mum know all these and still stayed?? She should have taken you all away from him. Afterall she was also the breadwinner. Hmm...some men are just too selfish
ReplyDeleteFor the first time I cried reading a Chronicle. How will a full grown man sleep with a 7 year old, This is painful to read, You people need to pray for yourselves, sometimes when people do evil it doesn't affect them but it affects generations unborn. So many of us are suffering from the sins of our fathers or forefathers. That is why when people say they dont believe in karma I laugh, because karma may not visit you or even your children but it may be visited on your children's children.
ReplyDeletePoster,Pray dear.
ReplyDeletepray for the victims
pray for your family
pray for peace of mind
Ur dad is supposed 2 be buried upside down or left in a forest 4 animals 2 devour. D sins of d fathers will be used against his ch8ldren. Pray 4 his 4 giveness nd try nd locate those he destroyed nd ask 4 their 4giveness
ReplyDeleteFind solace in Christ
ReplyDeleteFasting together with all that are connected to this
man by blood is the way forward.
Read Ezekiel 18; if your dad was vile like you painted
but you the kids grow up to seek God, you won't share in
the curses of your father. But if you do nothing, no seeking
of God, then you will have a share in it.
Do the needful dear and trust God. 💖💖🤗🤗
God bless you for this. The first step is to seek God sincerely and genuine. Once she have an understanding of a new man in Christ she is set free
Deleterefreshing and encouraging.
DeleteIn Christ all things become new , he is the chain breaker , the destroyer of evil shackles and the burden bearer.
Take it all God seek him and there would surely be a turn around.
Poster if everything was going well for you and your sisters, will you bring this up?
ReplyDeleteSee ehn everyday I wake up and curse my molester and his generation, so I'm not surprised what you're going through..
Only God can save you from those curses.
Oh my God, I feel sorry for what you had to go through, I really wish these molester and all culprits could pay for their sins and wrong doing with their last blood, my soul weeps for their innocent generation that would suffer for what they do not know, it's a horrible circle.😭
DeleteYour mother damaged you people, not the He-goat of a father.
ReplyDeletehow could she bring you people up in such toxic environment?
Your mum should take all the blame.
Imagine the lives he damaged, may the grave never be kind to him
First of all,ur mum is a very wicked enabler,how could she still allow kids under d same roofs with someone as revolting as ur dad...am sorry for wat u r passing thru,but,am guessing Mrs was very important to ur mum .. when you cover up a rapist...not just a rapist but a paedophile,dats d most vile thing to do and no amount of making it up to them can reverse those curses....AM SO ANGRY RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMany may see are as a victim, but I will not. She is not! She enabled him! She is just as guilty.
DeleteExactly @Bini they all enabled him and they are all guilty...if life was smooth,would she remember d atrocities of her dad...
DeleteOh dear! What a terrible story
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't your mum leave such marriage and face her children,now you had to go through all these.
ReplyDeleteSome men sha🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Why didn't your mum leave such marriage and face her children,now you had to go through all these.
ReplyDeleteSome men sha🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
My nephew is a rapist,but I do not know what to do.i pray he is caught one day.
ReplyDeleteCONFRONT ooooo. Tell his parents.
DeleteDon't allow a your girl's life to be destroyed because of your silence.
PLEASE DO SOMETHING. WE ARR ENCOURAGING YOU.
Anonymous.. Be the answered prayers! Don't wait till he ruins more girl child lives.. You are aware of this thing already, do something about it please I beg you.
DeleteIf I continue typing, I fit start to dey swear.. I'm very angry!
*young girl's
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REPORT HIM, DO SOMETHING FAST, I AM SHOUTING o
DeleteYour father was under no spell,else he would have molest his children too.
ReplyDeleteReach out to as many of his victims and ask for their forgiveness.
Why didn't ur mum reported ur dad to the right Authority? Ur dad it's Evil& I pray he rots in hell!
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of story is this one, innocent children are suffering from the crime of their father. I pray you and your other siblings will seek for forgiveness from all the people your late father has offended.
ReplyDeleteHow I wish you did the right things then now the whole thing would have been better. God will give you all wisdom to handle.
it's not your fault. seek therapy, pray if it helps. and I wish you the best
ReplyDeleteBut PLEASE we need to stop attributing men raping and sleeping around as 'jazz' or spells. They CHOOSE to do that especially if they know they won't face consequences. A man can be poor or rich in Nigeria and get away with raping and beating women. because we place no value on women except they are married and liked by men. We can't say all the time that men are 'naturally polygamous' and other such lies, act like a woman who divorces or is unmarried is a 'failure', and then act surprised when we find out men sleep around and rape underaged children. If we say men are easily distracted then when a man cheats we say he has been jazzed? when he rapes we say he's been cursed? They didn't jazz Dangote or Bill Gates, why that man?
Also, a man cannot 'sleep' with an underaged child. It can only be rape. He's not only a paedophile, he is a rapist. We need to start demanding more legal justice for rape. Not that when a man rapes a girl we start asking for forgiveness and using emotional blackmail to keep it hushhush. I HATE the way we encourage injustice in Nigeria. The man lived his life and died and people saw him as an honourable family man, now it's the women he left behind who have to heal themselves. Men cannot keep using women like tissue paper that exists to clean mess. that's messed up
They do things knowingly then start asking for forgiveness. They know exactly what they are doing. "Begging" is supposed to make everything ok
Deletewhen a woman is married for a long time we automatically tag her a wise woman who 'keeps' her home. when a woman is married to a former bad boy we tag her as the chosen one, the winner who was exhaulted among all others. Yet we act surprised that women will go to great lengths to stay married, even to rapists. Meanwhile the same people assume all single women are potential home wreckers who sleep around for money. Nigerians, let's pick a side.
ReplyDeleteWe cannot pick a side because everything has dynamics and there is no black or white. Every situation has to be assessed according to its peculiarities. That is life dear.
DeleteI tire o
DeleteRightly said... Very hypocritical set of people.
DeleteLesson for everybody. There will be consequences if we are covering relatives who are paedophiles or rapists. All crimes should be reported no matter how influential are perpetrators. If you have brothers as siblings, watch out, they will have tendency to do the same.
ReplyDeleteOh dear, this is a sad story
ReplyDeleteIt's only God that can save you from these curses.Please try and ask God for forgiveness,I pray you find happiness within 🙏🙏🙏
A man destroys the lives of innocent women, is it ok for his children to live a blissful life? Hmmm.
ReplyDeleteI've said it before in this blog. The reason why some women experience marital woes or mistreatment in the hands of men may be because of the sins of the fathers. At least one of the victims would have laid a curse on his daughters. I'm just saying.
You are right, some ladies are suffering for what their fathers did in their youth, I hate this circle 😭😭😭
DeleteAnd guys too
DeleteI'm speechless. Things are indeed happening.
ReplyDeleteI'd advice you and your siblings start a serious prayer session especially at midnight to detach yourselves from the curse accrued due to your father's unruly behaviour.
Ezekiel 18:20 says "The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him". You're in Christ and because you're in Him you won't have to bear the sins of your father as it was said in Exodus 20 and 34.
Just keep declaring God's word and don't let doubt set in. The guilt you feel will stop. The devil wants you to feel that way, he wants you to concentrate on the negative. Your dad has lived his life albeit the wrong way, live yours aright without feeling guilty about his actions. Ignore the negative and embrace the positive. Confess God's word!
Y'all keep finding ways to help your father's victim but don't do it because you feel guilty about your father's actions. Do it because that's what you want to do!
There is no big deal if the woman choose to stay in her marriage. Who wants to be lonely at old age besides rapist will continue to trend in Nigeria bcus if d woman choose to leave her marriage pple will insult her. The children shud seek God's so that every foundational curse can be erased in their lives. U can't suffer for the sin of ur father if u are in Christ. I believed the man was under a spell the yorubas call it Emi sise sise.
ReplyDeleteYou are an enabler. There is no difference between yourself and that woman. Tueh!
DeleteChoose to stay in a marriage with a man that molests little kids and rapes her daughter?? Just stop it already please. A man cheating on you with mature ladiesis different from a paedophile. The latter is unforgivable!!!
DeleteWow, your dad did horribly bad, I would advise that if you know what is good for you, pray hard and consistently, have a close relationship with God and break every curse, because your dad's generation and the next my suffer the consequence of his wrong doing.
ReplyDeleteIt is always better to speak up early no matter the consequenses. I met a seamstress who told me how her boss abused her for years. Her boss owned a bar and restaurant. Previously had 2 sales girls that live with them. She was employed newly making them 3. She said she had d greatest shock of her life when her boss visited thier room at night and had sex wit one of the sales girls. When she asked her in the morning she was told its normal. So each night they each get fucked by the boss. They get pregnant and the boss takes them for abortion. What baffles me is that this man is married. When i asked where the wife was when all this was going on, she said the wife was overweight hence when she sleeps, she does not wake up till morning. I even told her that i suspected the man was drugging her every night cos i cant understand that kind of sleep. Laslas she found courage and walked away. Today she is healing and rebuilding her life.
ReplyDelete...so he was defiling a 7 year old, a family member for that matter, and he boldly left the door open/unlocked, in a house where his entire family resided in. He was not even hiding to commit these crimes. So bold that even his own daughter saw what he was doing, and he did not stop. May his soul continue to rest in pieces. I don't fault you dear poster, you have been a victim of trauma yourself, having to witness that at such age. However, you see your mother, to have allowed such boldness and did nothing about it, that is what sends chills down my spine. Your father was a very bad man and your mother did not do better either.
ReplyDeleteYou ought not to pay for your fathers sins. As many as you know that he did this to, reach out to them and apologise, for your own closure. Stop feeling guilty, you were also a victim.
This is terrible.
ReplyDeletePersonally I think your dad was a bastard and I hope he is rotting away in hell. I also think your mum was a terrible coward and is culpable. She failed to protect all the minors under her care, was being the wife to a beast better than being the single mother to happy, healthy and safe children?
ReplyDeleteSerial rapist ni baba yen. May he be used eternally as charcoal to stoke the fires of hell.
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