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So, I finally decided to respond his texts and we talked on the phone. He had a 'zillion' and one questions to ask me and I willingly answered all without holding back; but when it was his turn, I noticed that he was secretive about his life.
For instance, I asked, "Are you married?" He laughed and responded "I'm currently in my bedroom, I live with someone." Then he added "I dont wanna say anything, I can't divulge 🤐. Let me ring you back" and he was gone!
He didn't phone back. When I texted few hours later, he didn't respond until nearly midnight (which clearly indicates he is married but wouldn't open up)
During our conversation he very quickly told me how he's now into real estate and other side jobs but COVID-19 outbreak has been an hindrance to some of his side work
I was so proud of how far he's come since post graduation when there was nothing!
This was someone I once cared about so much, we were once inseparable in our early 20s, although it was a long distance relationship as I live in Europe while he lives in Baba Buhari's country
I'm starting to feel as though he's only contacted me to find out where I'm at in my life just to acknowledge his life is okay!
So, I wasn't being OTT afterall! My instincts were right!
Now, here are my other questions... Is this 'friendship' worth keeping? My head is telling me "let him go" or am I being dramatic about the whole thing? Or should I just remain in contact but not rely on his friendship? ie keep things civil just for the sake of the past?
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Face front please!!!
He decided to get update so he will know if he is better than you! or you re better than him..Abeg drop him like its hot
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts exactly
DeletePoster just wanna, he want to date you as a married man
DeletePls block him, his making fun of you. How do you feel when someone mock you. Pls how old are you? You can see that he is married. Pls face your own life. The earlier you take Madam Stella'd advice's, the better for you.
DeleteI don't know what other sign you need o. To modify what Stella has spelt out, Face ya front, sis! You don't need friendship complication.
DeleteThis is for your sanity o.
Be busy with your Europe life abeg. With time, the right man will find you.
PS: I didn't really understand the original chronicle when it was posted. It was a muddled up.
Na wa for this poster. You are obviously not done with this situationship. Kwantinu.......
DeleteYour type finds it hard to let go............
Anyway personally I know now that closure is overrated. Don't be like the dog that can't help going back to its vomit.
Maybe he still wants to you to sort his UK papers for him?!! Poster tbh you sound lonely.
DeleteNo woman with a full life and self esteem would even give this Abuja runs boy a second thought.
Keep walking and don't look back,or else,you will turn to heap of salt.
ReplyDeleteLolzzz Lot's wife
DeleteKeep it moving darl.
ReplyDelete100 percent.
Delete100 percent.
DeleteFace front. No eyes right. Keep moving
ReplyDeleteYou are not wise at all I'm sorry to say. You answered all questions without holding back?
ReplyDeleteI tell you. Poster better wise up before dem take you do scam. Boyz are not playing ooo
DeleteShe's lonely. UK is cold. She no get shame again.
DeleteDon't mind her. After all the advice she got to fave front, she still went back to answer jamb questions. Las Las, he'll sleep with you, get what he wants and dump you. Then you'll come back with a third chronicle. Anunti!
DeleteYou still have feelings for this his poster. Since your head is telling you to let go, then why can't you let go instead of disturbing us with questions and answers. Pls let him go jare. We don't want another chronicle from you!
ReplyDeletePlz leave that very married man alone.
ReplyDeleteI know her type, ori now onye ozo! She will never leave him alone! Her village people finish work where she dey, sotey the thing follow am reach Europe. Poster please prove me wrong!
DeleteMelancholy
Move on abeg! Is he the only man in the world? Just look at the foolish questions you asking. Mtcheeeew
Delete😂😂😂😂poster please prove her wrong
DeletePlease just face front
ReplyDeleteLet bygone be bygone
Babe honestly the fact that you are still asking if you should still savor your friendship still shows you can go back to him. Again keep working on yourself...I won’t lie it may be hard but it would save you from men like him.
ReplyDeletePlease. Be strong.
Looks like you wanna get banged doggy style n dumped, before you let go.
ReplyDeleteOh Lord!🤣
DeleteBlackberry gini mere lolzz
Delete🤔🤔🤔, i think so too🤣🤣🤣
DeleteMelancholy
And her money will get missing from her account too
Delete🤣😂
DeleteSimply put. Now you know you’re still asking jamb questions till you find yourself buying flight tickets to Nigeria, booking hotel rooms and then writing Dear Stella .... I decided to go and see what he actually wanted with me. You’ll not respect yourself now while there’s still Time 🙄
DeleteUr head is not correct, friendship whattt? You want to be dumped after dumped... My friend face ur front, he is in his bedroom but with someone... Delete his number and block him everywhere if you don't want to be defrauded sexually an emotionally...
ReplyDeleteAfter all the advice they gave you in the last post, you still responded to him abd you're back with another chronicle...... So you expect people to waste their time advising you again ba???
ReplyDeleteYou still like him that's why you're asking all these were questions, face front madam and leave him alone!!!
Thank you Cookie
DeleteKING XOXO MYSTERY
💯💯💯
DeleteLike your didn't get the much needed advice the other day? You want someone that will tell you to stay? Oya continue o.
ReplyDeleteSome times I wonder if some chronicles are posted for fun
DeleteSmh .
U dont have any business with that friendship. Go forward, else u begin to lose focus in ur life pursuits.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her, very soon his wife will know her. By then she will bring in another chronicle for us to advice her again.
DeleteMadame Sebi we adviced you to leave him alone? E be like say you stubborn, you wanna be starting something huh? Keep it moving biko!!
ReplyDeleteMelancholy
Wait, he said he's living with someone? That "someone" has no title? Sis please how old are you? Do you have no self love for yourself at all? Why are you comfortable being a second fiddle to a married man? Move the hell on! Ahn ahn. You've been friends since womb days.. so??? 🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteLike 20 friends can remain friends for 20 years? Mtshewww
DeleteMelancholy
Even all the stories we read here everyday some people haven't learn anything. Well he that wants to be lost must be lost.
DeleteForget about him cos he just wanna mess with your you. I once met an ex although he told me he is married but said we should hook up so we can catch up on old times and discuss what's been happening to us. I thought of it as a good idea he even came to visit me at home, the day we fixed for the first date he didn't show up, I called to know whether the date has been cancelled he didn't pick. He called later to apologize and we arranged for another date and same thing happened,this occurred like four times before I gave myself sense it was when I started ignoring his calls he'd had to explain to me through text messages that he felt it was the best for us to stay away from each other I then asked him why he kept arranging those dates. Haven't spoken to him since then but he still disturbs me in Facebook asking for another date and number Some guy just wanna meet CJ you with your present situation but God gat you please block him everywhere sef
ReplyDeleteMadam
ReplyDeleteYou know he is married
Tomorrow, you will start crying that you were used and dumped
Are you the only one with old love?
KING XOXO MYSTERY
No mind am
DeletePoster, grow up please!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are having butterflies and second thoughts over a guy you have not seen for decades.
ARE YOU THE ONLY 30 something year old that is still Single?
The last I checked, ladies in their late 40s are still getting married for the first time and having their own babies.
A sister's friend got married at 46 in 2018 and had her set of twin boys in April 2020.
Have you not heard that if you are not in contact with someone in 6 months, YOU SHOULD BE ON YOUR GUARD?!
Do you know what he has become over the years?
He could be a fraudster for all you know!
That's how someone I know nearly got roped into a fraud case by a friend that reconnected after 11years.
Keep catching feelings until feelings catch you as a prey inside jail!
Poster BVs advised you that day to bounce nau,abi you wanna be dating a married man? He has shown you signs and yet still asking if you should be friends? Sister cut all ties with this man pls!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, why are you vexing me? with all those words I put in for you the last time? please leave this guy alone girl! HE IS MARRIED. like MARRIED!!!!! kilonshey baby yi na?
ReplyDeleteThis update is a prove that most posters don't take advise, it will take the grace of God for me to waste my precious time advising any poster again.
ReplyDeleteThere's no road where you are going plain truth.
ReplyDeleteMadam move on Abeg
ReplyDeleteCan't you see he's married?
It’s a stubborn fly that follows the corpse to the grave
ReplyDeleteDesperate people get desperate results.
ReplyDeleteObviously your brain has been quarantined!CONTINUE!!!! THAT BODY WEY DEY SWEET YOU GO SOON COOL DOWN!
ReplyDeletePoster he is most likely married. He is calling you to begin a side affair with you, he is not physically there with you so it will be an emotional relationship. Calls, text messages, pictures etc..you will get entangled and fall so bad it would be difficult to let go. My dear, men are takers. They will take whatever a woman offers them. He can get marriage from Ada, good sex from Bimbo, prayers from sister Bisi, emotional support from you in the UK..etc, just that feminine energy. If you offer him yourself, he will take as well. That's why he contacted you..not to catch up anything, but for the emotional entertainment he'll get from you. Someone that gave you such marriage conditions- this man ain't it abeg.
ReplyDeleteI know falling out of love can sometimes be difficult, but please stop feeding your feelings for him. If you are a Christian, pray very fervently about it and trust me, God's grace is sufficient. Those feelings will release and disappear. This land you are tilling is infertile. Good luck.
NIB I love love your comment. Hopefully she’ll listen. She doesn’t have emotional maturity honestly.
DeletePoster he doesn't fuckingly care abut your love, he just want to be sure you ain't doing better than him.
ReplyDeleteChia!! So this poster still text this man back after all the advice we gave her? Well maybe for the closure but this second question she need deliverance.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, abeg face front... Face your work..
ReplyDeleteYou get sense so? You don't read advice. Trust me you don't want to get into a friends with benefit situation and get more enabled with this guy. Users are attracted to weak minded women like you like sharks are to blood. Cut off from that guy and look for other friends.
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