Actress Benita Onyiuke Talks About Motherhood And Says It Is The Best She Has Ever Played

Nollywood actress and former Most beautiful in Nigeria contestant Benita Onyiuke (Formerly Benita Akpofe) talks smittenly about Motherhood and how it impacted her life and career....

This is every woman's story after they become a Mother and nobody prepares one for the role of a Mother because it comes with several emotions....

Earlier hours of today, I took a little walk through my gallery, and saw some old pictures of mine. It was interesting to see that I had grown so much, not only physically, but in every aspect of being human. This particular pictures got me thinking about one of the biggest reasons for that growth, which is motherhood. It is more than a journey, and nothing actually prepares you for it. Now it's my life everyday because even when I am being other things (as an actor), I carry my children with me.

Looking back, I've always loved kids and eagerly looked forward to having my own. However, I wasn't certain when that phase would come and how it would be. 

So, when I got pregnant with my first child, the news came with a whirlwind of emotions. I was estactic and at the same time scared and a little intimidated by the responsibilities I imagined would come with it. Would I make a good mother? How would I protect my kids from the unpleasant side of this world? How would it affect my acting career? These are some of the questions that filled my mind.

Then, the constant nausea and physical changes started. Some days I would look in the mirror at my bump and smile. Other days, I'd get so frustrated with everything and start to cry. The pregnancies were tough, but I bore it all for the love I had in my heart.

When I had my daughter, it was like being in love for the first time. That's the only way I can describe what I felt and still feel. The love and emotional connection is like nothing else. It's so easy to lose yourself. I didn't sleep for days. The birth of my son was followed by a similar pattern. I was determined to be the best Mom there ever was and nearly broke down from wanting to do everything by myself. I had to unlearn, learn and relearn a lot of things. It is a grueling process which I get better at with each passing day. I'm not a perfect Mom who gets it right all the time. But knowing that this is the most important role I'd ever play, I show up everyday and give it my very best, not missing a single line. And that in itself is enough.
In many ways, motherhood has changed me. The most obvious being that I'm way more observant and cautious than i used to be, i scrutinize everything and everyone coming around my children. And pay close attention to my intuitions. I'm also more organized, taking the time to plan and create a schedule for everything, down to the tiniest details, in order to have a work-life balance.
By God's grace, each day is better than the previous one and I'm proud of how far I've come.

 P. S i still slay 😝



*Let me go and follow her on Instagram,I love well written,clean posts like this........