Some people tell their friends all about their spouses or lovers and these friends use these 'weapons' given to either try their luck or destroy that relationship/marriage....
One or two women reading this have snatched their friends men and men have snatched their friends women....
Let's gist...
Well, I only gist if there's something to talk about. And it depends on the friend. I have just one friend that I talk about things like that to and it's never the negative.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was single,rarely dated jobless guys rather better working class tho not the same time.Didn't know my younger sis was stealing their numbers from my phone and they ended up screwing n dumping her.Stupid and greedy sis,Tueh
DeleteI discuss with a friend turned sister when i really need someone to talk to.
DeleteEka Joy even the positive you need to be careful. There is so much evil out there and the devil is battling marriages seriously.
DeleteVivi, yes of course but I believe in having that one person u can confide in because even without that people can still get u.
DeleteThe devil can not fight her marriage cos hers is hidden in Christ.
DeleteAnon 15:15 it's well
DeleteWhen I talk to my married friends i know i am talking to them + their husbands, but they annoying thing is guys don't talk about their friends o
DeleteI don't have female friends that knows anything about me, my only friend that knows few things about me is a guy and we don't stay in the same state. He's the only friend that can try to boast that he knows my story/gist (but to secrets, I don't tell anyone my secret). My sisters are my best friends.
DeleteI'm a very private person, always so scared, telling anyone anything about me. I always feels they will one day betray me. The only person I trust in my life is my sister, she can never betray me, instead she protects and hype me
ReplyDeleteMy secrets(if any), are on the blog as I kuku no get blog id, I cannot shout
DeleteI once told my twin about a very handsome toaster. Guy had little money too, was working in a bank.
ReplyDeleteLong story short, she went behind my back to ruin my image. Told the guy wicked lies about me. Few weeks later, they were dating. When I saw what happened, I was so hurt. I moved on.
Few months down the line, they had a nasty breakup. The guy sent me her voice notes and screenshots of their chats on WhatsApp, where she was badmouthing me. He also pleaded for my forgiveness. Until this moment, I never confronted her. Fear some people o.
Your twin?I mean she's suppose to have your back instead becoming the back stabber, anyways such stories hardly end well.
DeletePele
😱😱😱 Your own twin did this?
DeleteKai, this life ehn
Your twin?🙆🙆🙆
Delete14:11 Your twin????
DeleteDid you say your twin?
DeleteYour twin did that to you 😨😨😨
DeleteBe very careful of her. She's an envious person and I can't stand people like that. They will do anything to pull you down.
Sluttychic.
Your twin?😱😱 He is good riddance though..
DeleteYour own twin😲😲😲😲
DeleteObara jesus 🙆🏽♂️
Deleteyour own twin ooo😩
OMG 😱😱😱
DeleteYour own blood 😱😱😱😱
Abasi mi mbok
DeleteYou own twin😲
#insidelife cruel world folks.....dis 1 weak me ooooo
DeleteYour twin you said ? She'll kill you if she has the opportunity. Please beware of her. Choi 👀👀👀
DeleteYou mean your very own twin?😲😲😲
DeleteI'm not surprised! There's Peter Okoye
Your twin???😲😲😲
DeleteNo, I don't believe this story. Twins don't envy each other. I'm a twin too, so I know what I'm saying.
DeleteNa real wa ...Your twin you say?
DeleteSay you don't know. I have read stories of twins who killed their other twin.
DeleteWatch CSI. On DSTV.
end time twin😱
DeleteHmmm, fear some twins oh!
DeleteMy friend was giving me gist of a set of twins we both know that are about 30 years old but are always at each other's throats.
This week we read on SM of twins named Peter and Paul that fought and one of them got critically injured!
Stella, pls do a post on evil twins!
@Tenny you say what?don't let me talk,you have a good twin,my mum's twin bro is evil,then another twin in our family is related to Judas.
DeleteJeeeeez
Delete@Tenny that you can't relate to somebody's story doesn't invalidate it. Our realities are different.
DeleteWow... This is my first time hearing about an evil twin.
Delete@Nedi..Seriously 😲😲😲😲
Wow 😮😮😮, your twin!!! this is really crazy
DeleteNonsense family members abound
DeleteBible said that the enemy of a man is in his own household
This life
Deletei can’t date a lady that takes our affairs or bedroom tales to her friends, over the years i have learnt not to be too friendly with the friends of any girl i’m dating or planning to marry.
ReplyDeleteMost Women are women’s biggest enemy and most times they always want to be the one happy and doing good, so if a girl goes about bragging or involving her friends in her relationship or marriage, only few women would truly advise you honestly and would want to see your relationship or happiness work, most would use everything you confide with them against you... Have seen and witnessed these scenarios too many times in my friend’s relationship and few marriages around me....Ladies please be wise and learn who to confide in and what to reveal to others🙏🏾
Your first paragraph is everything 👍👍👍
DeleteOga Isaac not just women o,men also gossip.
DeleteOga Isaac,Men are in fact the worst gossips ever.
DeleteBest way to live. I've never had to befriend any of his friends. We exchange pleasantries anytime we see.
DeleteSluttychic.
Word bro 👌👌
DeleteIsaac👏👏
Delete👍👌👌
DeleteThis is my policy with my present fiance,your friends are not my friends and my friends are not your friends. I know dey house for stories that tickle the' obu'
DeleteOga Isaac this ur true talk really pepper Sandra for unmentionable places oooh🤣
DeleteI did it once and it's ended in years😭😭😭😭😭
ReplyDeleteSo sorry
DeletePremium tears 😭 😭😭
DeleteSorry 👋
Sorry😬
DeleteI prefer keeping any gist about my partner to myself even when I'm tempted to keep gushing about us especially in the midst of friends. It's not necessary. I no fit shout abeg.
ReplyDeleteHe on the other hand keeps our matter to himself too.
Cynthia keep it up. That's the best way abeg. Don't gist you friends anything, whether good or bad. They shouldn't even know what's going on in your home.
DeleteMy mother's brother told me that when my mother was in her younger years, she was head over heels in love with this fella and she was super excited each time she was going to visit him in Lagos as her family lived in Ago Iwoye (Ogun state) and she also worked there as a teacher... Mind you, I heard this story from my uncle because my mother passed away when I was a teen.
ReplyDeleteMy mother had this cousin; we'll call her Aunty Jackie. Aunty Jackie was (still is) a stunner. She and my mother were born days apart, were cousins, both "yellow paw-paw", had same taste in men, fashion and the like!
Each time my mother met someone exciting, she'd introduced her cousin and 'bestie', Aunty Jackie!
So, my mother met and was hopelessly in love with this young man, and she was going away to Lagos to spend the weekend with him, Aunty Jackie 'begged' to tag along, my mother said "Why not?"
They'd had a swell weekend; His mother raised him singlehandedly and she was from a very wealthy family in Lagos but my mother hadn't given Aunty Jackie the full gist about his background because she was in for the love and not material gain
Upon arrival at my mother's BF's home, my Aunt Jackie couldn't contain her jealousy! Her countenance changed!
After the weekend had passed they returned to Ago Iwoye. Believe you me, the next time my mother saw her BF, he asked "Why did your best friend return to my house 2days after you both left?" My mother was confused, "How d'you mean?"
Long story short, Aunt Jackie had gone back to my mother's BF's house behind my mother's back and he'd ordered her to leave after which she tried to badmouth my mother. His mother got involved and they both told my mother!
Now, here's the real gist... my mother had since died and Aunty Jackie's husband divorced her and abandoned the kids. She started having an affair with my father!
When I found out and told my Uncle, he told me this story I just shared with you guys and he concluded "I'm not surprised, she's always been like that; She's always wanted what belongs to your mother"
Sorry about the typo
Hmmmmmmm. Ndi mmadu!
DeleteChai 😱😱😱
DeleteIt's pure jealousy
Sorry for the loss of your mum
No typo dear. There are people like this. Always in a competition with you.
DeleteThey never want to see you happy or progress. They'd do anything to make sure you are sad always.
Good thing is that they can never be you. They always remain WANNABES and will only eat your vomit. I love the way your mums bf told her off.
Some people have no shame at all. Thank God I don't keep friends. I have amazing siblings.
Sluttychic
Hian.
DeleteEven in death??? Wow. Aunty Jacky is utterly shameless, see how she ended up plus your daddy no try at all, let me respect him because he is your dad.
DeleteWow! What a story, there are actually people like that. They want what others have even if theirs is better, still they will want the other person’s own.
DeleteJesu 🙉 🙉 🙉 Ovie. When I thought I have heard it all. Tufiakwa, aru.
DeleteYour aunty Jackie is a longthroat heartless human being and as for your dad, he should be ashamed of himself!
DeleteJealous and evil aunt.
DeleteThis one is called household enemy ......remove the aunty from her name mbok she is pure evil stay far away from her
DeleteChineke meh!
DeleteJesu.
DeleteA leopard never changes its spot! Aunty jackey the lung throat!
DeleteThis does not happen only in the movies. It is real, always chooking eyes to what belongs to your sister or cousin.
DeleteEwooooo!!!!! Jesus
DeleteLife. Few days ago, an ex who I dated 14years ago called me, asking I guess who called him. I mentioned the name of a friend who was in my clique when I was in the university then, and he said yes. I asked what she called for and he said his birthday. I asked further, if she had ever called him on his birthday and I said no and he mentioned he was shocked. I noticed I was getting fussy and I was like, it isn't in my place to be bothered on the call he receives and how that was the duty of his wife. He asked me if I was ok. I said yes, it's just that I would never allow my friend's have access to my boyfriend or husband, same way I would never be close to my close friend's husband. If I need to speak with their husbands, I would do it through the wife
DeleteI gave him the instance of a close friend who is always upset with me that I don't have her husband's number saved on my phone.. I always ask her , why do I need his number. If I need to speak with him, I would through you.
I then told my ex about a relationship I had before him. The guy in question wasn't based in Lagos and whenever he comes around, he would mention the names of all the toasters I had, all the trips and parties I went for and how I later discovered it was this same friend that was giving him all these info and how the relationship ended.
To my surprise, he responded by saying, that's the same thing that happened between us. I was so shocked and hurt, even though I this happened about 14years ago, when I was in I think 300level and I was so naive.
My sister would say, never carry your friends to where you bread is being buttered, let them no even know your source, just dey look...
Shout out to all the back stabbers🙌
How are some people like this @anty jackey,''who born them' 'how do they form'.
DeleteWow
DeleteThings are happening,that your aunt is evil
Woww... This is serious. Msy we never be blind to identify those we should avoid in this life oh
DeleteJésù. Please stay from that woman o, she is jealous of your mother even in death and will raise her children same way.
DeleteWhatever happens in my home remains there.
ReplyDeleteThat's it!!
DeleteStellz Nwanyioma, this is all shades of wrong and risky. Some relationships dabaru because of this.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was growing up, used to have a male friend who is so handsome with dimples, a sweet look a whole lot of ladies will die for. Had a boyfriend and I had to introduce them, so they became friends. We are so close that you'll think he's my Bru. I know all his stuff with women and was always warning him about them until it struck.
Went to visit my then boyfriend in Uni and he told me they've been settling my friends case with some bad cult girls in school cos he wanted to play smart. He actually met and started dating one of the girls, older and bad, (smokes like hell, in fact, all them girls). In a bid to impress her,guy man come dey finish work, both in plate washing and the f***king etc (bedmatics). The babe went and told her friends how good my friend is and all hell was let loose. Na so the babes come dey take turns with my friend. It was so bad ,they started having problems with themselves to the extent of threatening to deal with my friend, no be small matter ooo and he was just in year one then.
Lucky him, my then boyfriend had to wedge into the matter as per bad guy that he is. If not, they for fvck my friend die. Haha.
😂😂😂😂 your friend was lucky
DeleteSome men too can be very secretive. Ladies I will advise you not to marry a man that cannot open up to you at the beginning of your relationship cuz he will always remain that way. Married this dude only to find out he’s been married with two kids and did not feel it was important to share the information were his words. I would have actually stayed in the relationship and forgave him but his continuous family interference in my life and his lack of support whenever thye got involved in my business is what irks me. Oh and he’s still so very secretive! Preparing to divorce his ass. As for bragging about partners, nope! Don’t do it. Keep your happiness to yourself.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who brags about her boyfriend a whole lots, my bf gave me 50k,bought me iPhone blabla sometimes I just be like what do u stand to gain with all this brags.I've told her,she won't listen I hope life won't teach her a lesson sha cos sometimes I just see it like she's showing off.
DeleteGirl. You are doing yourself a whole lot of good . Stay away from secretive men . They're evil!
DeleteI'm not married. But I wont gossip about my spouse to anyone, neither will I gossip about my siblings to my spouse
ReplyDeleteVery correct 👌 never Gossip about your siblings to your man.
DeleteWhat about friends who gossip about their own friends with their husband or boyfriend? No loyalty. To make it worse, the same horseband will be trying to date the friend behind their wife’s back. Nonsense.
ReplyDeletechop knuckle. When the man sees and interacts with the wife's friend, their worth to the hubby is not up to a cent.
DeleteMost times, it ends in premium tears. It has happened to me when I was dating this TDH guy. One of my friends had a crush on him (she actually told me). Any time this guy annoy me, I will go to my friend and report him. She will spoil this guy to me, tell me I am the side piece bla bla bla. There was a time we both visited the guy. Long story short, I gave this guy a surprise visit and I met my own friend lying comfortably on the bed! Naso the girl take over sha
ReplyDeleteBad friend!😟
Delete🙆🙆🙆 @ comfortably laying in the bed
DeleteNa wa oh
DeleteI don’t discuss my husband with anybody. We hardly have misunderstandings but when we do, we sort it out between us and let it end there. He is also a very private person much more than me. It is working for us.
ReplyDeleteThe last time we had a little misunderstanding, guy man was proving stubborn, l just purposely told him that I will call his dad, sisters and my parents and tell them what is happening, ehn! Immediately my guy just said make we settle, he started petting me 🤣🤣 Abeg l love that guy too much jare.
😄😄😄😄I love love. God bless and keep you both.
DeleteWhat I can do 😂😂 mischievous us.
DeleteSluttychic.
That's unique
DeleteMy lady friend tells me almost everything and I always give her the best and godly advice. I can never betray my friend for anything in this world.
ReplyDeleteEven her husband is jealous of our friendship.
Aww! Such friendships are rare.
DeleteEveryone prays for this kind of friendship where loyalty can never be joked with 👌
DeleteThank you for being a good friend to your friend.
DeleteThat's being loyal 👍👍
DeleteSluttychic.
Loyalty ✌✌
DeleteDo you tell her everything too?
DeleteThis is me & my only bestie...her husband calls me "his wife's bf".LOL
DeleteI don't joke with loyalty!
Awwww, i like your tone ms A. Thanks for being a good friend to your friend🤗💖
DeleteOnce upon a time, early 2000, I had 2 friends (they're sisters)
ReplyDeleteThey both worked at Burger King at the time. There was this young guy who also worked there.
He first caught the attention of the younger sister but they were only talking although she really liked him.
Then the older sister lured him into bed. She told the younger sister how big his manhood was & that was it... and all hell broke loose!
I lived with them at the time... for 3weeks straight, the younger sister refused to communicate with her older sister!
I intervened, they both told me to mind my own business. Their parents intervened but they weren't having any of it!
Then big sister got pregnant and once she informed the guy, he literally warned them both to stay away from him! He was very well aware and he liked how they fed his big ego
Typo***
DeleteHe was very much aware how they fought over him and he liked how they fed his big ego
Imagine
DeleteSee how family ties were damaged!😦
DeleteChai😧
DeleteGoodness! When I was in school, there was this room mate of mine that was already married then. She was always bad mouthing her husband to us. When I finally met the guy, he looked ok to me. I don't know why my roommate didn't like the guy.
ReplyDeleteOne fine day, the husband had just called her on the phone and when the call ended,she hissed. Her friend who had come visiting now asked her what the problem was. She said, 'Is it not that useless man that calls himself my husband. Obese fool. He doesn't know how to do. Money he no get. I only married him because I got pregnant. And my ex was misbehaving. But now my ex wants me back. I visited him the other day and he said I look sexier now that I am pregnant. Blah blah blah.'
Few minutes later, her husband called again and she put it on the speaker, perhaps to buttress her point. Guy man now said,
' I heard all the glowing complements you had been giving me to your friends.'
Her mouth hung open. Her eyes were popping out of their sockets. My roommate thought she ended the call with out knowing that guy man was listening to all she was saying.
Na so kasala burst o.
The man said, 'you went to see man? Chei!'
Babe removed it from speaker and ran outside to continue with the call.
I don't know how it was resolved, but babe was sober through out the day.
See her life! Bad mouthing ones spouse is a no no!
DeleteChineke mueeeeeh!!! 🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️
DeleteJust wow 😳, I can't even pity her.
DeleteJust wow 😳, I can't even pity her.
DeleteAhhh🙆🙆🙆
DeleteI don't pity her at all
DeleteMost times people always want to get information about people’s marriages just to cause trouble. Some will infer little things here and there to make you open up and use the info against you. Others will criticise you for being too secretive and may even gossip that you are in an abusive relationship because you don’t discuss your spouse with them.
ReplyDeleteYou are right
DeleteYou're right
DeleteThe one and only time I included a
ReplyDeletethird party...the girl I and my ex went to settle quarrel. I just left for NYSC and houseboy of my ex started calling me. Aunty come back O...aunty Oby is cooking for Oga o...she was always around o. Called him and he said God forbid with that her buffalo body. I travelled once to see him on his birthday and came back. Few weeks later, I saw trad pics of both of them on FB. Apparently he had limited my viewing and only saw them cos he was tagged.
That was the first and last time I involved 3rd parties. Only a few of my close friends know about my love presently and I only involved one cos she has been married for long and very smart with things of the heart.
You are doing well.
DeleteHonestly bini. Sis you're doing well💋💖
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ReplyDeleteHmmmmmn just reading the experiences up there
ReplyDeleteThis world is indeed a bad place
I don't talk about the things that happen in my relationship to anyone though I'm very secretive cos I HV seen a lot of relationship that it destroyed.
Especially the one of the twin sisters.
DeleteThis life is funny, if you're happy in your relationship, hide it,my mom would say,anyone who has a white yam should hide it before it attracts what it shouldn't.
Especially the one of the twin sisters.
DeleteThis life is funny, if you're happy in your relationship, hide it,my mom would say,anyone who has a white yam should hide it before it attracts what it shouldn't.
that's experience for you.
DeleteI want to date someone secretly for a year before even introducing him to friends and family. I just want something secret and all for me before letting the crowd in.
ReplyDeleteYou did well. No loyalty whatsoever from both of them. Shame!
ReplyDeleteWhen it pertains matters of the heart, I am usually careful who I talk to.
ReplyDeleteBetter jare bcos they are not your friend at all.
ReplyDeleteI don't discuss my family with anyone Biko. Not even my sis.
ReplyDeleteMost people think I'm secretive. I don't care to avoid stories that touch.
I've never been the type to share things about my relationship/marriage, I hardly have friends, so no experience from my end.
ReplyDeleteYour friend is not loyal
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm i will never forget, I once confided in our very close friends they are married (I mean both the hubby and wife are our friends) I was actually worried about my hubby so I opened up to this friends. Both of them advised me and the husband even prayed since I was so worried . The next day the wife called me on phone to tell me that her hubby is worse and on top of that he treats her like a dull subordinate, she told me she sees how my hubby worships me that I should pray to God to help me with my concerns with my hubby...she told me never to take such a matter to anyone as the devil could use that as an entrance into our beautiful marriage! She said she was laughing in her heart when her hubby was praying for me! The Devil himself!!!! Anyway I was really shocked Cos I thought I knew them 100% apparently not! I finally found the nerve to tell hubby I had opened up to that family about him and this was my fear blahblah he wasn’t happy but we have sorted all that out!!! I didn’t have a bad experience however, God opened eyes to stop being naive!!!!
ReplyDeleteLol. Every mallam with him kettle. Confiding in people about your spouse is a tough one.
DeleteOne male friend/ frenemy was always talking about his wife’s shortcomings and badmouthing his in-laws. Those were the initial red flags for me that he was going to a bad friend but because I’m a woman I thought he was better than female friends. He ended up as one of the most evil friends I ever had in my adult life. Lesson learned.
No one, except God o. Cos most of your pain na gist to dome people
ReplyDeleteCome to think of it,everyone is claiming the victim here, so who are the bad friends? Who are the snatchers?
ReplyDeleteMaybe they jumped this segment or they are in reading mode
DeleteI once slept with my friend's boyfriend, shortly after secondary School.
ReplyDeleteThe boy was very handsome and lived in my neighborhood.
Boredom led me to visit him often- we talked about so many things. I was crushing. So was he. One-day, we kissed, smooched and almost did it- I just wasn't ready to give up my virginity.
I ran back home and stopped going there. I felt guilty. Not for once did I ever bad-mouth my friend. Soon, his friend started toasting me. I totally declined, so he told my friend how I had been visiting her boyfriend everday- she knew I used to visit but didn't know how often. He also told her I slept with the guy. Well I told her the truth and her boyfriend tried to tell her but she had stopped talking to him. Somehow we all settled. I had my own boyfriend, a hottie I was crazy about and gave up my virginity to. My friend was aware. I thought she was happy for me. Soon she started telling tales about me to my boyfriend,adviced him to dump me and even introduced another friend of ours to him- that one had been crushing on him and shebi I used to tell them how my guy trips me.
Well, after all these I learnt my lessons. I don't smile at the love interest of any person I know. I don't talk about my relationship. And i don't poke into that of others. I have peace.
See my typo-o!
DeleteI once almost slept with my friend's boyfriend.
Na wa o... All this in secondary school? Where was I when girls were wising up? On a lighter note, I can imagine the trips... Ice cream during break, a bottle of coke before lesson... Lol
DeleteI used to have a friend back then,she seemed very spiritual but I noticed anytime she asked abt my boyfriend,the relationship will pack up. When I met my husband,I hid him away from everyone even the only friend that knew didn't knw we were serious. This my friend came back to ask me if I had any bf again I said No,even when my husband called me I told her that I was just playing him nothing serious. Thank God my hubby didn't mind.I had done my intro and picked my wedding date before I told my friends. I told all of them 2 months to go,this particular friend wanted to knw details abt him and kept asking if I was pregnant,why I was rushing. I reminded her my church won't wed us if I got pregnant. That was how I escaped oo. She changed towards me after my wedding, I no kuku send anyone.I don dey my dey. I no dey tell anyone abt my marriage,I tell God, almost 10yrs and still going strong by his grace
ReplyDeleteEnvious friends are worse than an enemy. Please keep your relationship and marriage to yourself. Talk to God personally. Pastor or friends cannot help you don't give them such power over your life
ReplyDeleteYes o!👍
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