The kind of gifts have always appealed to my emotions are gifts and words of affirmation. They are my default 'mumu button' and if every other means to gain my attention fails, these two have been known to do the trick.
The gifts don't have to be necessarily expensive, but the thought that the giver had me in mind before purchasing the gift is enough to melt my heart.
Whether it's a simple love card, an interesting book or a beautiful bag, I'd always appreciate them.
However, there are some gifts my hubby knows never to gift me. You see that stuffed animal or is it teddy bear, I can never accept such, in fact it creeps me out and (my apologies to teddy bear lovers) I always look at those who love it as weird. I remember how my classmate in school used to cuddle one huge one so tightly while sleeping, in fact, it became a replacement to her boy friend and she would always mumble sweet nothings to it.
Abstract works of art are also in the category of gifts I hate. Those paintings that you struggle to understand what the artist had in mind while painting. The ones that add no colour and appear bland on the wall. It's better to leave the wall bare than adorn it with something that looks 'meaningless'
Even though I admire flowers from afar, I wouldn't want it to be given to me as a token. Those 'oyibo' movies where the lady 'awws and ohhhs' and gets a glass filled with water to put the flowers are not my thing.
I am a typical Naija woman and Oyibo style of being romantic falls flat for me.
*you must be missing out oooooh...
Being a 'Typical Naija woman' does not mean you have to put yourself in the cupboard....Flowers are beautiful and bring life into an environment...An abstract painting helps your brain relax if you know how to stare at it....
I don't have time to pretend,if the gift you are giving me is not expensive,please forget it..lol
I absolutely do not like flowers too.
ReplyDeleteDont gift me flowers and stuffed animals...yeah...or undies....please dont.
DeleteOmg!! Y'all don't like teddy bear?? I want to cry 😭😭😭😭😭
DeleteI love eeeeetttt.
Ok, who gives panties as gifts? I don't want please, I'll feel violated. 🙄
Pls don't gift me flowers and cards....however, if you much gift me either of those, it must come with an actual gift biko. Thankio
DeleteMe too except gift cards biko.
DeleteI think teddy is the only turn off for me. Please don't buy for me. I love flowers but something nice should accompany it biko.
ReplyDeleteI like bags,shoes and perfumes but I don't want anyone aside my family members to buy them for me. They know what I like.
I love flowers but something should follow it biko. I also love anything I can use to decorate my space. Wall frames, flower vase...........
Talking about gifts and gifting people,I give gift a whole lot to friends and just once in my life last year,a friend gifted me a very nice backpack. You needed to see me!
ReplyDeleteI got home and I cried ehhhh,chai😊
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DeleteFlowers are a no no for me. Wetin I wan use am do. I appreciate anything gifted to me no matter how little, the intentions are what I admire and love.
ReplyDelete👌👌👌
DeleteWords of affirmation,
ReplyDeleteActs of kindness and spending time with me ,
I love gifts but the above does it all ,the little things really matter to me .
For gifts I fancy Roses and chocolates 🍫 and customised teddies loool.
Gifts for me should come from a place of love no matter what it is but for me the perfect gift should be money or Footwear cos it’s like my addiction.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow is my birthday but instead of feeling happy I feel all sad. Because I had discovered that it was to fall on a Saturday I already had my plans for the day in my head but Corona just messed things up and I feel terrible.
Doing a retrospect of my life in the last one year and it saddens me to know that I’ve not made so much progress. I feel quite sad but we move.
My birthday mate in addy dear
DeleteI just realised my birthday was on Saturday on Tuesday, it's just a normal 24hrs I am also unhappy cos of the way things are currently with me but I am grateful to God for the gift of life...
DeleteDon't be sad Agadi, you win some and you lose some. God willing, by this time next year, you'd be excitedly counting your blessings.
DeleteHappy birthday in advance...
Don't feel sad dear. Even if nothing spectacular happens tomorrow, be thankful and grateful to be alive. Happy birthday in advance. 😘😘😘😘😘😘
DeleteDon't be sad 😔 be thankful life would get better,
DeleteI had tickets for my birthday with some other peeps to one of the places in my bucket list I was really sad but I can gladly tell you that I had the best birthday in the past 3 years ,
My point is just make the most of it, we are all here to celebrate with you be happy and of good cheer for only the living can celebrate 🍾 😊 💜
We all had plans for our birthdays but....
DeleteJust make the most of it like choc wrote.
Change your name first.... It's a just joke. My Hubby's birthday is on Sunday but coro and childbirth has disorganized somethings, don't think we will be cerebrating.
DeleteAwwwm my birthday mate.
DeleteHappy Birthday.
I am grateful for everything .
Queen Amy, don't let childbirth or coro change anything. Do the little you can.
DeleteLast week was my hubby's birthday, I was really sick but I tried and made chin chin, prayed for him and we danced.
When there is life, there is hope Agadi.
DeleteChin up
You guys are the real MVP thanks for all the motivation and words of encouragement I feel better already. Queen Amy leave my name for me biko I like being a Joke afterall life ain’t that serious🤣🤣
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ReplyDeleteStella, your last line is the truth 👌👌👌👌
ReplyDeleteIf it's not expensive, then just don't bother cos I also give expensive gifts
For me, pant and bra from a man asking me out whom i have zero feelings for, is a HUGE turn-off.
ReplyDelete😀😀😀
DeleteEwwww!!!!!! Even if that's his business, i would really feel somehow
DeleteBig ewwwwww
DeleteEven if he's not asking me out, it's still a turnoff! 😩
DeleteNaija girls no dey accept Teddy bear and flowers o. E better make you buy them iPhones, expensive gifts or even give them the money sef
ReplyDeleteAnon 12.49, would you rather be gifted stuffed animals and fresh flowers than iPhones and cash gifts? I'd really like to know because, everyone seems to be quick to bash the "naija girl"...
DeleteMama Mia, ignore this one. If them give you Iphone, reject It you hear sanctimonious hanty.
DeleteMy boo has gifted me teddy more than once cos he knows I love those kind of gifts but some people think am weird and should not belong to this part of the world. I love teddy, flowers, frame etc
DeleteDo they give flowers as gift in naija?
ReplyDeleteI still don't understand how a teddy bear for kids will now be gifts for adults. No one should try that with me Sha.
you should try to accept one as a gift.
DeletePlease don't give me card,except its recharge card🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteHaha
DeleteYou must be very local. 😜
ReplyDelete😅😅😅
DeleteFor me it is words of affirmation and acts of service.
ReplyDeletepeople differs.
Delete😘😘😘😘😘😘
DeleteMy reasonable stance remains;
ReplyDelete* Do you want to have your dignity as a lady and keep it in case the relationship progresses to marriage?
*Do you want peace of mind and blessings?
Then DO NOT receive any gift (except card notes) until he proposes and you accept to marry him.
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It is more blessed to give than to receive, says the only wise God.
Anon 13.03, I'm still trying to figure out the way you think! So a male friend can't buy you a gift? Must it be about relationships and marriage? Don't you give out gifts? Does it affect the dignity of the receiver? Also, if someone you're in a relationship with buys you a birthday present are you to reject it?
DeleteI am sincerely trying to get your point here...
@Mama Mia
DeleteDo you know the motives behind all the gifts "male friends" give you?
If you keep receiving, one day, you will be required to give what you
wouldn't like to give at that time. When you give your chastity, you might
receive with it; sti/hiv, demons, "unwanted pregnancy" and abortions, death perhaps and... eternal damnation,
To be safe is to reject those gifts until you have received the giver.
@mamamia, anon has a point. You'll be shocked at the people ladies have assumed are just friends whose real intentions had nothing to do with friendship. Even ladies get harassed when they don't receive gifts not to talk of when they do.
DeleteThe average Nigerian girl has this vain weird "receiver" psyche. If a man says "hello" to her, she is already expecting monies and credit alerts to
ReplyDeletebe given. It not due to poverty, it is a greed mentality.
And those stuffed whatever that the whisper "nonsense" to is nothing but an idol. If you see where a girl was crying that it was stolen, you will think that
she is bereaved. If you cannot do without it, it is your "god". For "a person is a slave to whatever masters that person".
👙 I will reject these,especially if it's from someone I do not have feelings for.I prefer to be gifted cloth(it doesn't matter if the cloth is not expensive as long as it's gifted with love) and money.
ReplyDeleteI’m proudly 9ja biko I don’t like flowers. That was how my bestie brother ( an importer according to her ) came all the way from Lagos to my sch then with a 💐 , when he was leaving I bought a 🍬 from aboki and gave to him . Since we are acting romantic 🎥
ReplyDeleteHahahahahwhwhwhwhahahw. Your own sef,no good.
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DeleteWords of affirmation and gifts. Better gifts o. I'm not a lover of flowers, but if it comes with chocolates, a nice perfume, all good. 😁😁😁😁
ReplyDeletei like flowers but is not my thing. Receiving gift and quality time are my love language.
ReplyDeleteI love painting as well.
I love money as a gift, Money, Money, Money always Money no matter how little it is,cos u might not get me what I like.But that doesn't mean I don't accept gifts given to me no matter how little it is.but I prefer MONEY. Saying I hate flowers and Teddy is an understatement, please don't bring them close to me😒
ReplyDeleteI give money as a gift cos I believe u will get urself what u desire more than I do.
@13:33
DeleteThat's how runs start 😏😏😏
Yes o. That's the only romantic gift I love 😍😍. 💰 MONEY!
DeleteYea gift should come with much love, me love flowers, painings and perfumes.
ReplyDeleteStella Stella that your last line hehehehe
I love paintings.
ReplyDeleteYou see cards??? No matter how big, expensive ,colourful the card is or the wordings, I don't want...
ReplyDeleteLol Golibe, I don't mind a card If it comes with something else.
DeleteAbroadian BV
Some people are clueless when it comes to buying gifts.
ReplyDeleteA colleague once told me she bought a set of pot for her then boyfriend on Valentine’s Day 😯
The little things matter the most to me but flowers is a no for me.
I love painting and perfumes.
ReplyDeleteI honestly don't mind flowers or teddy bears. I've never been given a gift by a boyfriend before, not even money. I'm in my 30s, have only dated two guys at different times and haven't had a boyfriend in over five years. Really sad come to think of it. It is well.
ReplyDeleteIts not sad
DeleteYou just have more screening time and prayer time
Make the most of it
I love when the gifts show that the person is conscious of what I like no matter how small... Just a gift that is personal, not just something that everyone likes.. You should know I love my novels, so a good crime novel, chocolates, a nice bag or shoe, bangles and earrings(give me something not everyone would know to give me)
ReplyDeleteI love flowers but back it up with something expensive like a luxury wristwatch or luxury bag.
ReplyDeleteOr stuff dollar notes inside the roses
DeleteMe I don't like flowers Biko, any other fine gift is acceptable
ReplyDeleteFlowers are cool...but I wouldn't want them
ReplyDeleteTeddy is so perfect.. I llloovvee them or usually art work- drawing...portrait..all of them
Undies are cool..but...anything I wear..I am usually skeptical...before I will see boxers-pant as gift
The most important thing is, you are doing it because its from your bottomless heart....lol
I don't want flowers abeg,give me perfumes,watch,shoes,bags,I no dey forbid am biko
ReplyDeleteOMG y'all are so square! I LOVE flowers- only real ones though- and it's a really romanic gesture to gift them to me. I like plants too.
ReplyDeleteAbstract art is also beautiful, the right one would give your space a modern chic aesthetic if that's something you're into.
I don't knock any kind of gift sha as long as it's thoughtful, useful and well made.
🙌🏽😘🙌🏽 flowers 💐 are bae
DeleteI accept all gifts.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how ridiculous it might seem to others.
I also make conscious effort to use what is gifted to me.
It is the thought of it that matters.
I love flowers but they have to be the right sort. Not the tacky roses with gypsophilia in cheap cellophane rubbish. In the absence of flowers, a great book will do.
ReplyDeletewhite cash envelop,watch and a nice perfume.
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