Former Actress Victoria Inyama Reveals The Shocking Things Her EX Did After She Left Him

In an Instagram live video with UK mental health advocate, Malin Anderson, Victoria Inyama talks about the terrible experiences she faced in her marriage.

Her ex used to beat her,told her she was his property and nobody would marry her with three kids....He also used to send his girlfriends to drop off the kids......

He used to call her poor and wretched and got her arrested....

I got headache reading this horrible story....

She said;


Proper, proper afraid. Yeah, I was proper scared and eeerrm... You know he'll tell me, I know a lot of people, my clients(pauses for a while) . I have clients in prison that owe me a big favour coz they didn't do a long term, and I'll just waste you, I'll just waste you and nothing is gonna happen.
So it got to a stage and I said "you know what?" " I am not coming back to you, period."


He said okay we'll see about that and I went back to Uni because I wanted to know why people behave the way they do, what's wrong.


So I remember the first time, I was still allowing him to come and see the kids, he'll come and pick the kids for weekend and all that and the kids told him "mum got into the university, she's doing Psycho-social Studies. He said " oh! that's for mad people, it's not a normal course, psychology is for mad people, that's for crazy people(she uses her face to demonstrate his irritation)

Please I hope none of you is gonna grow up to say you want to do psychology? You're not gonna do anything with it. And so that's what he put in my kids, coz even till now, if I tell them"Oh!! You know I want you to do psychology, they are like "Mum no no no, that's for mad people (laughs) they are not gonna do that.


And you know we continued, but then he would bring his girlfriend to drop off the kids in my house, and I'm thinking... 

So one day I said, "Can we just go for a divorce?" He said " You can't divorce me, I own you, you are my property." Divorce me!! Are you for real?

I said, but you've moved on, you are living with another woman in your house.


He said " So! So! You are not in the house anymore, there has to be a woman in my house, so what's the problem with that?" And I'm like we need to divorce and he said, first of all, you can't divorce me, and second if you divorce me, your life is over. No man is gonna talk to you.


Which man is gonna want a woman with 3 kids? Oh!! You think because you've gone to university that you are intelligent, you are not intelligent. And you are where... the university of East London, that's an Islamic school, that's not even a university, that's just a SCHOOL.


(Victoria exclaims) Oh really? Okay fine, no problem and I just said, but please anytime you want to pick or drop the kids, don't come to my house with your girlfriends. Okay?
So sometimes he would pick the kids, he would... my little one has nuts allergy and he'll pick the kids, he'll give them crunchy nuts cereal and bring them back and that one would have an inflammation or something.
First time I told him please this boy does not do nuts, don't give him nuts , (her husband replies) oh I forgot, okay fine.


Sometimes, one of his girlfriends, I think that one was a Ghanaian, coz he had lots of them, that one came and she made groundnut soup and obviously they fed my baby groundnut soup and then the baby started coming out with rashes and he didn't know what to do so he brought the baby home immediately and I said "But why are you bringing him home, why didn't you just take him to the hospital?" and he said "oh I don't know, I don't even know, I am not interested, sort him out." And I'm like but you gave.. anyway I had to rush my child to the hospital, because that was more important and just told them in the hospital that look he gave him groundnut soup, the other kids told me what happened, so I told them in the hospital. Again they raised another issue, social services again .

 And this time, I said, you know what, I don't know what to do with this guy, I don't even know how to deal with him, I'm tired, can you guys just... Whatever you want to do as long as he's not gonna take my kids away from me. And social workers started again, and eeerrm, he said "Oh there's no child arrangement order, so he has rights to see his children, well if you feel he's not taking good care of the kids, then why do u keep sending them back?"


And I said but the pastor told me, you had a meeting and the pastor keeps telling me all these things. Obviously you are working with the pastor. Then he said if you are listening to the pastor, then you are stupid. (Victoria asks)Really? Okay fine. 

So I had to tell the kids. At one point I said Do you really want to go see daddy, they said no and they told me why. Cos obviously his girlfriends' kids were bullying them and stuff like that, and there was always fights going on and one major incident, I think the kids had an issue with the other lady's kids and there was a fight, and the kids said they were not going there. Mum can you come, we need to take our things from dad's house and we don't wanna go there anymore. So I said okay. So we went to dad's house, knocked at the door, girlfriend comes, opens the door, slams the door at my face and I knocked again and he opened the door and said "yes what do you want" I said can I have the kids' clothes? Because yeah they don't wanna come here anymore because this this happened and that that happened.


(Husband replies) Everything I buy for them, stays in my house. You could go to your charity shop and buy them anything you want to buy for them. I've already told them that you can't take care of them, you are poor and you are very very needy and you don't even know what you are doing. 

I said but their school bag, you didn't buy them I bought them, can I have their school bag and stuff? He now goes into the house, he tells his kids, go in and look for your bags, take your bags and come and get out of my house.


So he goes inside and closes the door, I hit at the door and say please can you leave the door open,while the kids are in there, I want to know that they are safe to come out. So he pushed me and slammed the door . So I fell, got up, I took a pebble , you know those pebbles that protect the flower and stuff, it wasn't like a stone, so I started hitting it at the door and I said open this door, I wanna make sure the kids are okay.


So he comes out, he says, how dare you? You basically damaged my property. I said, I didn't damage any property, just open the door, I want my kids out. So he gets my son, pushes him out, gets my daughter, pulls her, pushes her out, dislocates her arm, she falls over and starts crying and I am thinking "God what did I do?" So my daughter was crying, apparently her shoulder had been dislocated , in confusion I just took her, out her in the car, went straight to the hospital. 

In the hospital she got admitted because they had to fix her arm and stuff like that and the police came to the house to look for me , I wasn't home so they dropped a note. I was in the hospital for about two days, yeah... my neighbour had come to take the boys . So I come back, I think it was on a Wednesday night. Thursday morning by 6.00am , I see like two police vans in front of the house.


They said they are arresting me for criminal damage to a private property. I'm like criminal damage, me? They said yes! They said did you use a stone to hit the door, I said yes, they said, well, you've destroyed the door to the tune of €5000. (Victoria laughs) I said, no I didn't destroy the door, there was no mark on the door . They said look, we got a call and we have a note, we hear you are very very violent and you have mental health issues , you've been on some strong medication in the past so you are not reasoning normal, so that's why six of us are here to restrain you.


I was like me? I was like I had cancer and I was on strong pain killers but it didn't affect me in any way. They were like well and they mentioned my drug and they said, well it affects you.


So, anyway I get arrested, I get locked up. I got locked up for 12 hours.


That is the most humiliating, very humiliating (she struggles to hold back tears).
They wanted to handcuff me, and the lady said, you can clearly see that this is an issue of domestic violence, you saw the note, you saw her name, she left the house, there's no way we can handcuff her, not in front of her children. We will escort her upstairs, she's gonna change and she's gonna follow us to the station. I'm not gonna allow you do that. So she followed me upstairs.


At the station, they now bring out a long letter that he did, I came... I am an estranged wife, that I am violent, I came to attack him and his girlfriend. And I said, no, this is what happened. I actually came back from the hospital last night, I showed you, I showed them that this is what I came back with from A&E . Yeah so we went to the station in Bromley, locked me up, I had to look for duty solicitors and I had to call my brother, my half brother and then he got someone who came to the station to bail me.


But this man put a clause and said that I cannot leave the station unless they contact him. So he wants to decide if he's gonna take me to court or I'm gonna pay damages. And I told the police man, I lived in that house for 12 years and I think I still have a right as a wife to that property.


I told the policeman, "But we are not even divorced yet, so I am not understanding what he's doing."


"I did not touch him, I banged the door."


"And this man has been beating me all these years and I have never ever for one day called the police because I am too afraid."


And they are like "Next time, you call the police and we'll sort it out."

I said, but I am always afraid, he's a lawyer, he says he's a duty solicitor to a lot of police stations.
So me calling the police, the police is his friend , and the policeman says well not all of us are his friends, I'm not his friend, I don't know him. You understand?