.... Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your bcall, presume they have something important to attend to and wait for them to call back...
-. Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers asking for it from you. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes;
-. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner. If possible ask them to order their choice of food for you;
-. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;
-. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;
-. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;
-. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;
-. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;
- If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;
-. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.
-. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;
-. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;
-. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;
-. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;
-. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;
-. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;
- Never give advice until you’re asked;
-. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;
-. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;
- Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech;
- Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren...or talk about your spouses around those who don't have.
#copied
That calling someone continuously vexes me. For goodness sake if I don't pick your call after the second ring, I'm either not with the phone or I'm busy. Why should I be seeing 5 missed calls when it's not an emergency?!
ReplyDeleteOne thing I learnt from living in the abroad is smiling, saying please, thank you, thinking before I talk.
DeleteAppreciating little things I took for granted like sunshine, mama put, ewa aganyi, bread Agege etc π€£πππ.
Or I simply do not want to talk (to you)
DeleteWhat if it's an emergency?
DeleteIf I call once and you don't pick, that's the end
DeleteSame here, it's so annoying calling someone severally except in the case of emergency.
DeletePerson never hold toilet key when you wan shit, you will forget etiquette
DeleteIf it is an emergency, then leave a voice mail or send a text...very rude to call severally, not even my hubby calls me severally if I don't pick. All those etiquette listed up there will be hard for Nigerians to keep, not in their DNA to be polite or to mind their business.
DeleteExactly Candy, sometimes you don't want to speak to the person at that time.
Delete15.11 ππ Nigerians can be a handful
@Shooter Gyal, sometimes sef I am hoping the person doesn't pick, so calling a second time is out of the question.
DeleteSome of these etiquettesnosa no be for us.
DeleteSo you neva born pikin..
Na so I go ask you.
Mao, that is an annoying question, take note.
DeleteNot the other way round... My dear.
DeleteWas just imaginning men that love to toast ladies and lie about their kids.....when some of them are actually grand Pa's.
Didn't mean to cause pain on anyone...
In summary, do to others as you would like them to do to you...Matthew 7:12
ReplyDeleteIndeed if you follow the teachings of Jesus, you do not have to be reminded of these "do, do, do, don't".
Know your New Testament.
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DeleteBut the other day, a lady wrote that her friend ordered "just burger and water" and they (the greedy ladies on this blog) at her alive. ππππ
ReplyDeleteAll good and nice
ReplyDeleteTreat EVERYONE with respect π
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DeleteThanks,I do some of them. But I will try and correct them.
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful write-up
ReplyDeleteMy God this is so nice! Thank you for this Stella. Let me bookmark it...
ReplyDeleteSaying thank you goes a long way. There's a girl I buy things from on our street, the first time I bought things and said thank you, she was like "Ma, what did you say?". I repeated it and she smiled. Thanking one doesn't take anything away from us.
ReplyDeleteShe should be the one thanking you. You did her a favor. To have bought from her when there are so many selling.... I remind them to say thank you to their customers depending on my mood.
DeleteI use sell in my mothers store while growing up, and thank you became one of my most used words. But on getting to the east, ghen Chen. Let me not talk before they come for me. Most times when I say thank you, they'll even be asking what for?
DeleteI'll just say, sorry!
Anonymous 14:56, you are so wrong!!
DeleteWhen you enjoy someone's customer skill/ service in attending to your needs, it won't reduce the number of hairs on your body to show appreciation...
Chizzy j..
Chizzy j biko gwa ya
DeleteFacts!
ReplyDeleteWow! I'm proud to say I practice 99 percent of this
ReplyDeleteYou have my honour MA. I'm up to 70%. I meet people that mistake my MEEKNESS for WEAKNESS. May God help us to stick to it more. You're blessed. Wish you a productive and nice day.
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When someone invites you to a dinner, take the lowest seat Luke 14:10
ReplyDeleteDo to others as you would like them do to you Matt. 7:12
If anyone loudly blesses their neighbor early in the morning, it will be taken as a curse. Prov. 27:14
The challenge?
Know your Scriptures.
Enough abeg! Everytime quoting bible. I know my scriptures and I don't need you to remind me all the damn time
DeleteShooter Gyal, the Bible is our life ..it will not harm to quote it every second, minute and hour.
Deleteπ€£π€£π€£π€£π€£. Shooter girl na wetinπ
DeleteHaba, its her opinion State yours and move
DeleteKia SMH
Keep your Bible qoute at home, this place no be your church.
DeleteHypocrite.
So if Church is the only place to quote the Bible, why do you discuss sex here,
Deleteis this place your bedroom or porn studio?
DON come and answer Anon 17:12. You think you are smart.
DeleteAnon 17:12 may wisdom never depart from you.
DeleteGood Facts,I am guilty of that calling someone more than twice especially if its my hubby.
ReplyDeleteThat's sensible guiltiness. I understand. One will have butterfly in their stomach if the call isn't answered immediately esp when he says I'll be right back just wanna take something somewhere. It's ur hubby tell him not to be vexed if the missed call is more than twice. God bless your home.
Delete.......Covenant
Exactly, covenant.
DeleteMy heart skips anytime I call someone close to me twice and they don't pick and its unusual of them to not pick after the second call.
Not only 'skip' even over-skip. Unless that's typical of them. I feel pester them with calls die.
Delete.......Covenant
True, am glad I practice most of the acts but will do better.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, People need to learn to mind their business. Like, stop being nosy!! I remember when I was going through my miscarriages, some people were constantly asking me when I was going to get pregnant. Someone said, "oh, you've been married since August, you should be spitting by now" I couldn't celebrate my birthday in peace, wedding anniversary without people talking about pregnancy. I couldn't celebrate my friend's deliveries on my whatsapp status without people reminding me about the fact that I was yet to be a mom. It was tiring.
ReplyDeleteThere were people that would constantly bug me about pregnancy. Like every single month. I remember going off on about 3 people when I couldn't take it anymore. I was going through a lot. Yet people who didn't know half of what I was going through were so insensitive. Let's all learn to mind our business.
Stop telling your unmarried friends or relatives to go get married. Stop asking newly weds or people who have been married for a while about children. It isn't your business! If you're on this table, come down!
Stop telling parents who have one child to go give birth to more children. SMH
If you're really concerned about them, pray for them during your quiet time.
How would you feel if someone constantly bugs you about an area of your life which isn't perfect? Or you think you have a perfect life? Please let's do better.
There's something I know for a fact , only a few percentage cares about you genuinely and those ones they'd no ask nosy questions.
DeleteThe rest are just curious about your life , they want to know especially the bad stuff that's happening to you.
If I'm asked a stupid question I give a stupid reply .
We need to be sensitive towards each other , life is filled with battles .
God bless you.
DeleteSince I turned 25,every birthday wish from most people comes with the ;'this is your last birthday as a single lady'. I will be 30 by July and I'm already tired of what I will be getting as wishes.
Yea we know they mean well but come on!!!!!
There was this place I worked and our MD was a female. All the unmarried ladies hear wen. Every second when are you getting married, everyday lecture on how you are getting old. I once shared my birthday cake with her and she told me' This is not the type of cake I want to eat', I want your wedding cake.
DeleteLet us be considerate and mindful of what we say to others in the guise of being concerned.
Abroadian BV
@chocolat noir, you're so right. A lot of these people do not really care deep down. Most of them are just curious about your life. I had to learn how to grow a tough skin and ignore stupid comments or reply with even more stupid response
Delete@ Nkay.. Amen.. I understand you perfectly. I wish more people will treat others the way they'll want to be treated if the tables were turned.
DeleteThis is what Africans do, poke their noses in other people's life, all in the name of caring, but just 1% of all who ask this sensitive questions, care, the others are just nothing but condescending brats who like to remind you of your not so perfect life. Press the ignore button for such...
Delete@abroadian bv, oh, how I love your last paragraph. If one person can take a lesson from all of these, then we've done a good job.
DeleteThey don't care. Just want to know your secret and what's happening around you....
DeleteI don't know when some people will start minding their business.I have two kids but my friends and relatives won't stop reminding me how important to have more kids,as if they will help train them.One even asked,if am using any contraceptive.Funny thing is, my parents don't even ask me this annoying questions
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ReplyDeleteQuite a number of people are guilty of doing the opposite, especially the for ordering of expensive dish because they aren’t paying and also, paying for the trip when next the opportunity presents itself. Always miming, ‘no money’. π
ReplyDeleteHolla Momma ππ
DeleteFunny enough, these are normal stuff but ofcourse some people need to learn it
ReplyDeleteThey are not normal to some people, its simply SUPERNATURAL to treat people nice.
DeleteWhy bug people with unnecessary questions, and the refusal to treat people right irrespective of how thy treat you,my dear it's not easy but we learn everyday.
Nothing supernatural there, it is only in Africa, well Nigeria that you find people who do not practice what is listed up there...
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ReplyDeleteStella I call more than five times if you are a seller of what I really need..
ReplyDeleteThat's bad Biko. Please stop it. Two times is enough. You can send a text after calling twice if it's urgent. I really hate to see 4/5 missed calls on my phone.
DeleteHow can you be calling someone more than two times ?
DeleteCalling someone more than twice esp when its not an important call is very annoying. At times I will see 5missed calls and I will be scared. When I call back, I will hear "I'm just trying to say hi." Like seriously???! People that wear sunglasses to night events, what is your aim gangan?? Maybe it's fashion sha
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ReplyDeleteThat borrowing stuff is a huge problem. Some people don't know how to return stuff they are borrowed. I have a neighbor like that. I mean almost all my plates, buckets and pegs are in her house. I don't even know how to ask for them back.
ReplyDeleteMaybe the day I will move out is the day I will ask.
My neighbor in the next house is on this table,infact I don't bother her anymore! She will borrow and not return
DeleteTalk, talk and talk. Tell her you hate to remind people to return borrowed items. When next she comes to borrow tell her you dont want to remind her ooo. Only God knows how much I hate people that borrow without returning. Most time you wont notice till you want to use that thing and if you're not lucky they will be out of the house that time. Very bad habit.
DeletePut limit to your niceness. Over-niceness has side effect. Some don't know their boundaries. Show how you wanna be treated. All's proudness.
Delete......Covenant
Very bad. My neighbour is on this table
DeleteLUCENT- don't borrow her anything again, she knows you don't like asking and she is taking advantage of it.
DeleteThat's how I dished food for my neighbour and when I asked for my plate she told me she likes the plate and can't return...
Delete@ GOLIBE you say? π³π³π³π³ Walahi if na me she has eaten her past, present and future. Can you imagine?
Delete@Brown Sucre, it's ... don't *lend* her anything again.
DeleteLucent, if your neighbour is bold enough to borrow from you, be bold enough to demand the borrowed item must be returned or he/she should not bother to borrow from you again. Be firm.
I don't give a shit. My goal is to annoy people
ReplyDeletechai
DeleteAnd when someone annoys you how do you handle it ?π§ππ²
"Dont call someone more than twice" what if generator noise is preventing the person from hearing and its important or the phone is always in the bag like my mums' until she sees the light.... I call my mum more than 5 times before she picks..
ReplyDeletefor my mum's sister,the phone is always in the shop while she's outside... I've her neighbours number when need to call for something important π€£π€£
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DeleteFor mothers ehhhh this won't work. You have to call my mom atleast 4times before she gets her phone lol.
DeleteBut for others really,it very annoying seeing more than 4missed calls from one person. I can pardon 3 sef but anything more than that is crazy except it's an emergency.
@chocolate noir...hi dear
Delete@Nkay...as for me I dont mind how many times you call me so far is very important and urgent..what if it has to do with LIFE...I'll only be angry if it's trivial.
most people dont return calls when the caller calls twice,they think it isn't important and that the person will call again
We know most of our mother's must be called more that 5 times,but for our youngsters et al,it becomes annoying.
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Delete"Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public"..... Abeg i dont agree with this one, when they dont have swollen bandage on their hand or carrying load.
ReplyDeleteit's just simple courtesy . I hold the doors regardless of who it is .
DeleteMacBeth it’s the right thing to do. If you’d had enough courtesy, you wouldn’t have killed Banquo the way you did, imagine all the pain and suffering you had to go through.
DeleteDo the right thing this time.
Macbeth, I do it sometimes and when the same favour is returned to me,I feel special and I say thank you.
DeleteThat feeling is sweet, if you enjoy the feeling, try and do to others when you can.
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DeleteShowing me a picture on your phone, am sorry amma swipe on and on “ my close pals “ especially if you are photogenic
ReplyDeleteBut I may that bad habit someday π€£π€£
I really hate it !!!!
DeleteYou'd show someone a picture and before you blink the person is on the 20th picture ππ€£π
I just hold my phone and have you come close enough to see the picture
I dislike this particular habit,look and return! Why swipe on and on?
DeleteOkoro it is wrong
DeleteI dislike this too,it's so annoying. Some will even jump to your Whatsapp.
DeleteHahaha am sorry ready to change too
DeleteVery bad habit.
DeleteStella you are doing well. π
ReplyDeleteNice one
ReplyDeleteAlso, people always asking hope you have added weight or hope you don fat by now. Like seriously, of all the things to ask me?! It gets me pissed and I would want to ask them questions that would make them also feel bad but I'll just comport myself. The question pains me the more cause I've been on an involuntary constant weight loss journey
ReplyDeleteYour body burns up faster than it stores. It is vice versa for big people. If only people understood the human body functions differently for everyone, they will stop acting like they were God's paint holder when he was creating people
DeleteI have been the same size for over 4 years, until late last when my hips added by 2 inches.
DeleteI kept hearing when will you grow bigger or fatter, at first it was annoying but then I can't kill myself. I'll be big when I am big, end of discussion.
Someone gave me 20missed call, I later called him back and asked him if they told him that l stole his money. The idiot laughed and said that he is just checking on me
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DeleteThe idiot really? All i can say is wow! Someone used his credit to know how you are doing, cuz he called 20x,that's what makes him an idiot.
DeleteMake una see dem here, 2moro they will go anonymous
20 missed calls? Na wah oh! Once I called twice you don't pick,I send message sharply
DeleteThat word idiot was not a good adjective to qualify someone checking on you.
DeleteAnonymous and Golden Mummy, he is an idiot, I know him very well and idiot is ththejective that truly qualified him
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ReplyDeleteThanks Stella for sharing...I call just twice and as an auditor I go to WhatsApp to check last seen. π€£
ReplyDeleteGood Morning House, May GOD bless us and cause HIS face to shine on us .# No JESUS No life#
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DeleteYou're funny!!!
You go to check last seen?
If you go WhatsApp to check my last seen,your name na sorry. I nor dey check person last seen so person no fit see my own. Even my message receive button dey for off. Because monitoring spirit like ☝️...π
DeleteAuditor general, FBI. What if the number isn't on WhatsApp? Or it's like Solo Makinde's case.
Delete@ Chocolate π€£π€£@ So.lo I'm not a monitoring spirit o, infact I'm a private person I only check when someone is owing me and ignoring my calls .@Spectator hope you understand?
DeleteNice one
ReplyDeleteFactsπππ
ReplyDeleteI personally don't like calling people,and when my phone rings several times it pisses me off.Don't call people more than once,if it's important drop a message
ReplyDeleteSame with my hubby. He prefers sms to phone calls.
DeleteGolden mum,bikonu it's better that way
DeleteAll I'm saying! I call once and that's it, you should count yourself lucky if I decide to call a second time sef
DeleteBeen TTC for 7years. All my friends, close associates, relatives are married with kids.
ReplyDeleteI love their kids as though they are mine. I buy gifts every birthdays, Christmas etc celebrations. Sometimes, when I'm opportuned to take care of their kids, I pretend to myself that the kids are mine. It gives me joy. I'm never upset when people ask me about having my own children. If its someone close to me who knows my situation, I'll reply them with their own situation eg: when will you get a job that will pay you well. If its a stranger, I'll just ignore or say pray for me.
Father Lord, remember me..
God will remember you in His Mercyπππ keep being good to your friends kids
DeleteDon't worry, yours will come...just be prayerful
DeleteMay God come through for you.
DeleteMay God bless your womb in Jesus name and may the cries of babies in your home be your portion in Jesus Name,Amen.
DeleteAww. The merciful Lord will visit you soon.
Delete♥️.
May God remember you for good and surprise you with more than you currently seek in Jesus' name.
DeleteGod bless you, and will give you yours in no distant time. E.Hugs
DeleteAlso do not open whatsapp messages until you are ready to reply. Do not read at earlier time and reply hours later. Stop it!
ReplyDeleteYes Ma'am
DeleteHmmmn...added etiquette.
Deleteπ,I'm guilty of this sometimes
DeleteFor my peace of mind,my read received notification is permanently off. So I can reply at my own convenience.
DeleteSame here @Solo!
DeleteThe ones that ignore your msgs are the worst. That shit pisses me off
Thanks Covenant and amen to that prayer.
ReplyDeleteThanks ke?.... ah ah think nothing of it. You're blessed.
Delete......Covenant
A typical Nigerian is guilty of almost everything on that list. Some people are just too damn nosy.
ReplyDeleteSomeone once called me 99 times. 99 missed called. I had to call her back to find out if there was an emergency, she said she just wanted to chat. Well, that was the end of my friendship with her. Told her never to call me again and cut her off.
ReplyDeleteWow! All this cutting off people. What if that person is someone God would have used to bless you abundantly?
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Deleteπππππππππ. Seriously, that phone must be hidden inside the rock....
Delete99 missed calls....
She likely isn't mentally okay. 14.28 you can ask for the details of her friend and connect with her since you don't mind 99 calls.
DeleteThere was this family friend that has formed it as a habit of continously asking me when am l going to marry, that all my friends are married execpt me, that I should do fast cos she is thirsty. Hmmmmmm one day she came again with the same question. I told her that she is the cause of me not married. She was surprised and ask me how. I told her that husband is scarces, so l am waiting for her to die so that her husband will marry me. Hahaha she looked at me and said that am crazy. Case close,am free from her silly questions.
ReplyDeleteHahahahhahahhhahahhhahHha!!!!!
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DeleteHmmmmmm.... This your response dikwa very risky.
Deleteπ savage response!!
DeleteWhen myself and my husband were TTC couple of years ago.., one friend was always asking.. so one day, I told her do you want me to call you when we are doing the do.. or when I raise one leg or when I bend low should call you so u can pray on the line for us.. π€£ ever since that day, she stopped asking!
About the taxi.. There was a day I and a friend of mine were going for a wedding. We were to take 2 busses before getting to our destination. So I paid the first,was thinking she'll pay the second but she didn't so I paid. When we were to go home, we entered the first bus, she pretended she was on the phone so i paid. Entering the last bus,she sat at the back so when the conductor collects money he'll get to me before her. That was how I paid for both the coming and going.
ReplyDeleteSince then, I vowed never to go anywhere with her. Even if it's a mutual friends place, she'll go on her own, I'll go on mine. Another mutual friend of ours told me she did the same exact thing to him.
Wetin dey there? You would have simply told her "babe, the tp is N#, bring your own share"
DeleteSimple and short!
I've experienced such before.
DeleteInstead of this, why not bluntly tell her she'll be the one to pay for her fares?
DeleteI have experienced this too,with different people going out with bus or cab! Well I will just pay and forget about it
DeleteYou're very nice @ City Chocolate.
DeleteThat miss call thing,if its an emergency omo i go call you eh
ReplyDeleteI do all of the above, but my own dey my body.i dey lazy to pick calls..like I dont pick calls from a "strange number",or when I know you don't have anything meaningful to tell me,
ReplyDeleteDon't block ur blessings urself. Which one is u don't pick strange numbers.
DeleteHian
This is the behavior of rigid people, you think of yourself so important but you're nothing.
DeleteYou don't pick strange calls, what's strange about call?
You be Bill gate ?
This is how people miss great opportunities. Who are you not to pick numbers not stored in your contacts? Kmt!
DeleteI also don't pick calls from unknown numbers. Now, if I were job hunting, that would be different.
DeleteAlso when someone gives birth. Never ask the sex of the baby especially on phone. Some will ask and if its a sex they are not happy with. You could hear their joy drop. It's rude and annoying especially if the mother shares your disappointment. Stop it
ReplyDeleteWat of it is an emergency call? if someone keeps calling n the person never did such before,it means there is something important
ReplyDeleteNo qualms if it's emergency but when it's to know how you're doing, it's no longer ok.
DeleteI already know some of these etiquettes,and started keeping to all ever since I read em,trust me it's part of being classyπ
ReplyDeleteEarly morning calls jolt me, scare me, making me think there's emergency. Why call that early to know how am doing?
ReplyDeleteMe too... Can you please not call so early? Imagine calling someone at 6am to just check on them? Ah! My eyes have seen something
DeleteThank you Stella
ReplyDeleteI call you twice, with three to four minutes interval.
ReplyDeleteIf you don't pick up, that's the end.
I end a relationship because of that, don't expect me to call you the third time.
Acknowledge my calls by calling me back or send me a message.
Anything short of that, I'm done.
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DeleteWhen I was serving,I met a lady and we became friends. Boy did I pay for that friendship. If we are going somewhere,she'll suggest we do "three in one". I hate that arrangement with the whole of my heart,but to save money,I'll just oblige. Now when we reach our destination, it's either she starts acting drama,looking for what is not missing in her purse,or she just alights and stands there with a straight face,waiting for me to pay up. Lol. When we go to get groceries, another story. She will refuse to get some things,claiming she doesn't need them and when we are done shopping, she'll start asking me for those same things. Borrowed myself brain and faced my apartment. Refused to go anywhere with her and saved myself all the unnecessary trouble.
ReplyDelete"Three in one"... What does that even mean?
DeleteI noticed that nobody talked at length about treating poorer people with dignity and respect. Is it because most Nigerians treat their domestic help and drivers with wickedness? Leaving your driver in the car at 100 F while you enter an air conditioned place to hang out is classless! Slapping an orphan or maid because they are below you socioeconomically should be on that list! Most Nigerians are barely 2 generations removed from poverty but they act like a Rockefeller! Pretending to be better than others. Treat your subordinates and domestic help with dignity and respect. Don’t make a 16 year old wake up at 4am to start work till 12 midnight, you offend God when you do that!
ReplyDeleteIt's up there.. Treat everyone with respect, doesn't matter whether poor or rich. There are Nigerians who do so.
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