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TRADITION CONCERNING FINANCIAL INVESTMENTS IN MARRIAGE

I feel so betrayed, I feel cheated. But I fear for the future because I’m very vindictive.

My marriage is less than a year old. My husband is someone you can call rich based on his salary but he doesn’t care about savings or investments, he earns more than me but he’d rather spend on his family where he would get praises and before the next pay check he’s already broke.

Honestly, he has always been like this right from when we started dating but I felt he would change once he sees someone that will point him in the right direction. So recently, an opportunity came up and I advised him to buy now and re sell later it as it will yield him a lot of money in less than 5 years. My husband refused so I told him I will buy it for myself, he said ok.

On the day I was supposed to finalize everything and make payments, I couldn’t go so I told him to go on my behalf.

My husband went with his brother and did everything in both their names.

Meanwhile, our agreement was that he will buy it in my name and put his name as a witness.

I was confused when I saw the papers, I confronted him immediately and he called his brother into our room to explain things to me.

The brother told me, in their family, it is forbidden for women to own properties that my husband has told him how I have a lot of investments, that i have to change the names on the papers to my husband’s and one of his brothers until I have a son, then i can remove the brother’s name and add our sons name.

I was stunned!

I asked my husband if he knew about this culture and why didn’t he tell me before marriage? He said he didn’t think it was necessary, that he feels it’s common sense for me to know that whatever belongs to a wife belongs to the husband.


Stella, I’ve been working since I was 17 years old, I took over my mum’s shop after my dad beat her to death and committed suicide in prison so I Put myself and younger siblings through school. All through hard work. I never slept with a man for a dime, In fact I married a virgin. I am 36years old now. I have only had one vacation my entire adult life and my siblings literally forced me to. All I do is work!! 

I do not even have up to 500k in my account because I invest a lot and these people think they can use one silly culture to steal everything I’ve worked for from me?


I calmly told my husband I know nothing neither am I interested in that culture, that he should quietly change the names on that document as I do not think he wants to have problems with me concerning this.

The brother flared up and called me a troublemaker, that I’m not submissive, I’m a bitter feminist, that I’m not ready to be married, I should just pack my things and leave his brother’s house etc (Please note that I built the home we currently live in years before I met my husband).

I didn’t exchange words with him as he was not the one I gave money to. I just told him to excuse my husband and I to have a conversation, my husband insisted that I can say whatever I want to say in his brother’s presence.

I just kept shut and the brother continued quarreling and my husband said it in clear terms that there won’t be peace in our marriage until I hand over all my documents to him, after a while, they left the house. My husband hasn’t been home in 3 days now. I’ve made my findings and I know the hotel he’s staying at and his room number. I am tempted to pull a gun on him to get him to change the names on the documents because I know he doesn’t have the cash to pay me back.

It has become clear to me that he married me because of what I have and I thank God we do not have any kids yet so moving on should be easy.

I witnessed what a bad marriage is in my early years and what it does to people and I will never put myself or children through it.

*Has it occurred to you that you may be in danger of being eliminated?he has probably moved to the hotel so that he can have an alibi when something happens to you...whatever else you are planning please make sure you have security around you and make sure he does not come back to the house until you both sort out the problem.....

As for that tradition stuff,thats just bullocks to rip you off....