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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DATING A CHILDISH MAN
Hello Stella. I have been a fan since last 2 years when a friend introduced me to the blog and I have been addicted to it. I never thought I would send in any Chronicle but here I am.
I fell(and probably still) in love with a very childish man/boy. He gets angry at every little thing. Breaks up over things that doesn't add up and is always quick to come back begging. (Even while apologizing he won't take all the blame, he'll give me my own portion of the blame)
He broke up with me last week because I asked if he really loves me (While, we were conversing he said, "Fuck love"..so I needed to ask) He got angry because I questioned his love and told me he is no longer interested. After just 1 day, He called telling me he was angry and that he really loves me. I told him I'm not going back and that he should move on.
I started missing him 2 days later, I called twice before he picked, I told him I missed him and I was sorry. He accepted and told me he'll call back but never did and my number is no longer on his phone because I can't view his profile picture on whatsapp.
I called the next day and he still didn't pick (I know I messed up by calling him).
I know he loves me but he is just complicated. I still love him too. I have some of my things in his place. And knowing how childish he can be, i just hope he doesn't throw them away. I need those things back too but how do i get them since he has stopped taking my calls?
Hello Stella. I have been a fan since last 2 years when a friend introduced me to the blog and I have been addicted to it. I never thought I would send in any Chronicle but here I am.
I fell(and probably still) in love with a very childish man/boy. He gets angry at every little thing. Breaks up over things that doesn't add up and is always quick to come back begging. (Even while apologizing he won't take all the blame, he'll give me my own portion of the blame)
He broke up with me last week because I asked if he really loves me (While, we were conversing he said, "Fuck love"..so I needed to ask) He got angry because I questioned his love and told me he is no longer interested. After just 1 day, He called telling me he was angry and that he really loves me. I told him I'm not going back and that he should move on.
I started missing him 2 days later, I called twice before he picked, I told him I missed him and I was sorry. He accepted and told me he'll call back but never did and my number is no longer on his phone because I can't view his profile picture on whatsapp.
I called the next day and he still didn't pick (I know I messed up by calling him).
I know he loves me but he is just complicated. I still love him too. I have some of my things in his place. And knowing how childish he can be, i just hope he doesn't throw them away. I need those things back too but how do i get them since he has stopped taking my calls?
Why dont you send him a message that you need your things?why are you running after a man that doesnt love you?A man who loves you will not treat you this way so stop saying that you know that he loves you.Wake up and smell the coffee.
Send him a message and wait for his reply.
How old are you both because you're childish too.
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteThey're probably still teenagers self. What a childish chronicle.
DeleteSeriously, we need to ask. Poster how old are you both?
DeleteThey are both children.
DeleteGo there and demand for your stuff. Hope you know having feelings and missing someone does not amount to love. The day you truly love, you will know the difference with this child's play. And when a men loves you! A man's love needs no introduction or convincing. When a man loves you you he will leave no doubt even without words.
For now, its okay to play and pass the time kissing all the frogs at your disposal. The day you jam, you go know.
Abi ooo, the 2 of them are the same
DeleteExactly!
Delete😂😂 Be Nice
DeleteI know a man like this. I Don tire. I no do again
DeleteTired of these types of chroniko...stop chasing a man pls. We see it in memes everyday. Listen, the guys i dont like, i only call them when there's no option about, and i'm extremely bored. Once i get some activities, i forget totally about them. This happens in reverse too. If he's not into you, your name on the proiority list is at the bottom. I hope you gerrit someday.
DeleteWith all this lockdown see what this 1 is posting, both of u are childish u obviously don't need those things because if you do you would have gone to pack them since. U better break up, face ur life and prepare ground for ur husband.
Delete@Don like seriously,just what I wanted to say to her. Poster how old are u again? Pls just move on,before u guys starts breaking each other heads abeg.
DeleteExactly. Both of them are children. No maturity.
DeletePoster, don't you have self love and dignity??? Running after an immatured man. Now, he has ridiculed you and you won't still give yourself brain.
Like Stella said, text him and tell him, you want to go pick your things. Relationship is not by force my sister. Stop choking him with calls and how much you missed him.
ReplyDeleteText him and find out where he can drop your things. If he doesn’t reply, forget those things and move on
DeleteSecondly, he doesn’t love you. You sound so naive.
It's so cute how you make excuses for him though. May you experience true love so you can know the difference. A man broke up with you and you still called him back to apologize? You went so low. You should have ended it right there. It's okay to miss someone you once had romantic dealings with nit too long. Missing them doesn't mean we should take them back you know?
ReplyDeleteBear it in mind that your relationship that never took off is already over but at the moment you need to act the fool to get your belongings back then afterwards gently ignore him. Don't fight and don't let him suspect that's why you are calling then after you have gotten your stuff, be rid of him.
This right here 👏 @ May you experience true love so you can know the difference!!!
DeleteBoth parties in this chronicle are childish. Even if you get back together it will happen again and again because neither one of you is taking the role of an adult/ maturity in the relationship.
DeleteThank you sabella He doesnt love her and it has nothing to do with age. His childishness is only showing because he doesn't value her abeg That same man when in love with another ehn people will see the difference.
DeleteThis must be childishness, immaturity, a case of an inferiority complex or just outright backwardness. How old is your boyfriend again?
ReplyDeleteYou know he loves you? Wow!!!
ReplyDeleteStop allowing him treat you like an idiot and also, stop with the excuses on his behalf.
Can’t stsnd childish men, I expect as a man, you should be near perfect 😉
Truth is, that man of yours is a SADIST, emotional blackmailer.
Tell him to drop your things outside, you’d pick them. Do not even make an attempt to see him.
Work on your self esteem, don’t settle for less.
You lose my numbers on your phone, good riddance.
Love yourself some more. When you do, you’d never settle for men like this.
Exactly. That man isn’t childish.
DeleteHe’s just Ill mannered and manipulative.
Poster you are the childish one cause you keep going back and forth. You are supposed to miss someone you break up with, whether he treated you wrong or right, it’s normal so don’t confuse that with love.
I’d suggest you hold on getting whatever you want to get form him for now cause the break up or whatever you guys are now is still fresh. If it’s not important stuff, leave it for a month. I know it’s hard but girl this man isn’t consistent.
Seems like both of you are childish. I don't know what to tell you. Move on? 🤷
ReplyDeleteYou know he loves you 😏, mind reader: clap for yaself 👏🏾. Please move on my sister, you don't want this nonsense and headache when ure not even engaged let alone get married.
DeleteMarriage is not wedding ceremony ooo, it takes 2.
Is it because there are more women than men that women are just desperate to attach to any baboon now and call the person fiancé, husband , boyfriend ? I am tired of reading chronicles !
ReplyDeleteit's tiring 😪
DeleteWe need to demand better by not lowering our standard.
Did you say, you know that he loves you? Stop deceiving yourself.
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't love you! Don't go to his house because you might fall for him again.
Beg your siblings to go and help you pack your things from his house or beg your friends to follow you if you must go.
Stay away from him, he doesn't love you.
Honestly, both of you sound immature with all the breaking and making up. I predict y'all making up again after this chronicle so you can decide to leave him now or wait till you outgrow his immaturity. Either way, the relationship ain't gon last.
ReplyDeleteAbout your stuff at his place, text him and if he ain't responding, give it time..he's probably still in his feelings so let him stew for now.
How old are you and that your boyfriend?
ReplyDeleteHe loves me ,I love him ,He miss me andi miss him too blabla bla!!
Take Slappp !!!! and go and read your books.
Two childish lovers eleyii tun gidi gaan o.. 🤷
ReplyDeleteAre you even sure you love the man and hope you ain’t the one asking stupid questions just to make him get angry. Imagine!! U r questioning his love and you are still saying you know he loves you. You are both childish. #Rubbish.
ReplyDeleteExactly. That was how my ex girlfriend was asking stupid questions and most times, I get really angry with stupid questions like * Are you sure we are meant to be together * bla bla bla. Women nonsense plenty sometimes jare and yet they will come online and start saying my husband did this and that.
DeleteThe guy has borderline personality disorder. He loves you but cant help himself.
ReplyDeleteIt is covid Blue.
DeleteThis was my exes behaviour.if you continue you are in for a tumultuous ride of mental and emotional torture
ReplyDeleteWhat colour of chronicle is this???
ReplyDeleteColour childish🤪
DeleteMustard my dear🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteMauve😂😂😂 very confusing color 😂😂😂 it's Sunday y'all be nice.
DeleteToddler chronicle.
DeleteCorona Red.
Deleteit was white
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣@ corona red. Gosh!!!
Delete@chocolate, which one be corona red😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteI tire ooo
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
ReplyDelete"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
Romans 12:9-10
"Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves."
Please do not confuse what love is , honestly I think as a person you should know you deserve better ,
Most importantly what you allow would continue,
If you can let go of this relationship in other to avoid future regrets ,you can build a healthier relationship when you find the right person for you.
Send him a message demanding he sends your stuff across , I wouldn't advice you going over , you need some time to re-evaluate and think clearly .
All the best .
I agree with you
DeleteAbeg I won understand something, so if suddenly you can't view someone's picture on wathsApp it means the person no longer have your number? Okayyyyyy now I know my enemies! So I have been some people's sidefriends.. Today today I go delete all the nkpokoro na nyokoro friends. Ndi uchu
ReplyDeleteis that the only thing you read..
DeleteI was surprised at that too
😆😆😆😆so that is what you picked😆😆😆😆😆😆
DeleteFan 😭😭😭😭
DeleteChildren playing love, breakup and makeup. I'll pass
ReplyDeleteExactly😂😂😂😂 they are really children.
DeleteLmao
DeleteIt will shock you to know the man ain't no kid. He doesn't want her that's all.
DeleteSorry poster take Stella's advice
ReplyDeleteok now you come
DeleteDo not go for those things that you left in his house. Tou can still afford new ones for yourself. Except you want to make up with him which is going to kill you finally. My dear, learn to move on. It's just common sense.
ReplyDeleteHe sharply removed your number from his phone and you say he loves you?
ReplyDeleteWhat women really want? My wife was remaining it bn long we had issues na she dey try put things to pissed me off but I promised never to react anymore na to snub
ReplyDeleteSnub and she will say you don’t love her again. Women sha.
DeleteThis one name secondary school love. Abeg corona virus dey🙄🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeletePoster wake up! Open your eyes, don't be a fool in love. This man doesn't love you and don't you dare devalue yourself by going back and begging him. You having things left at his place is just an excuse to go back and see him because you hope that when he sees you he would want to get back with you. Forget the stuff you left at his place and buy new ones I'm sure that they are not important things like your certificates, passport and valuables. Take time to know yourself and improve yourself in every aspect and your own God given man will locate you. I was once a fool in love so I know what I'm talking about. Now at 29 I'm focused of my career, spiritual, emotional and financial growth because I've realized that my God given husband will pursue me, love me, respect me, cherish me, get me closer to God and elevate me in every aspect but most importantly he will give me peace of mind and won't play games. Take this break up as a lesson and move on. Trust me you will look back one day and wonder what you saw in him in the first place. It won't be easy but if you make up your mind and focus on upgrading yourself and your life you will soon forget him. All the best.
ReplyDeleteGood comment I follow you say Amen
DeleteGOOD 👍
DeleteYes and amen to this .
Love this.
DeleteSend a text telling him you're coming for your stuff around the time you know he's often home. You may go with a friend. Don't get back with him except you're comfortable with the way he treats you.
ReplyDelete#shalom
Some posters will come and start posting nonsense and won’t say exactly what really happened and later they will start blaming social media for ruining there relationship. A man won’t just get angry easily without you getting him angry. Incomplete story. Tell us your own bad side too abegi and if this is the reason why he isn’t picking up your calls then he is probably thinking of a way to dump you because the excuse sef no follow at all.
ReplyDeleteYes, or what she did to him was even more than what she posted because I can’t imagine now as a sharp guy and one girl will ask me if I love her and I will think of breaking up or not picking her calls. There is more joh.
DeleteI am certain a 14 year old wrote this chronicles 🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteMe too
DeleteT O X I C.
ReplyDeleteYou guys love story is complicated
ReplyDeletePoster i know you love your man so go for him this issue can't lead to brake up na
ReplyDeleteWhen someone loves u for real, u will know without a doubt and it wouldn't come with all these childish and annoying dramas
ReplyDelete✅ correct
DeleteVery true 👍
The way you people advise in the blog Sha...any little thing leave, call of the relationship, divorce the man, and other funny advise.
ReplyDeleteNobody gives room for improvement or growth in a relationship or marriage anymore. Even some singles who have never tasted marriage before will be giving people advise to divorce and bla bla bla.
I have been married for six years. If I or my wife had divorced each other because of certain childish behaviors, if she never gave me a chance to grow and mature with the relationship, we would have divorced the first year.
Even if the guy and the poster are childish, can't they grow and improve? I dey tire for una advise sometimes
NO they can't grow and improve. He is unstable and inconsistent. She needs to grow into self awareness and pursue value for herself..education, skills, career. That will help with self worth, confidence and respect. Finally and most importantly, he BROKE UP with her and deleted her number off. She has no business desperately begging him, it doesn't work for men. She also has no business living with a man. Her job is to quietly ask for her things back and move on.
DeleteIn your case, you're married. By all means, grow with your husband. Both of you at some point said yes to each other in the presence of God and family. He is yours. You and I both know that poster's relationship is fornication & heartbreak relationship.
Thank you NiB 😊
Deleteeveryone asking how old they are sometimes,age is not maturity it will surprise you to know they're not kids. A younger person can act older while an older person act like an child. Poster this is not love,take time to get over whatever you both shared and move on cos trying to make things work will amount to more waste of you time and energy.
ReplyDeleteWhat are your things doing in his house?
ReplyDeleteHas he married you?
This is what happens when ladies are too forward
and desperate to get married by a man.
You go to his house, sleep over, cook for him, wash for him
and all and he considers you "cheap and not properly home trained."
Hardly do men find desperate women valuable.
Please move on and move on.
I agree with you. I am against moving in with anyone who is not your spouse due to my christian beliefs. But Christianity aside, the law of common sense is against it too. Why?
Delete1. There is a high likelihood that see finish will occur, your value will deteriorate and he will fall out of love.
2. Let a man miss you, if he misses you, he will seek you. It strengthens love. If you're always in his face when you're not his wife, it chokes him.
3. Men are selfish beings and their most selfish years are when they transition from boy-to-man years, usually 25-32. In that period, they plan their life, work, career, business, who they will marry. Many of those key decisions are made ALONE. In that period, they need to live ALONE. They need to come home to an empty house and THINK, see the emptiness of their apartment and DECIDE which woman will be the best fit for the home. They absolutely don't need to come home to nagging questions from a nag girlfriend.. Are we us? When are we getting married? Do you love me? My cousin just got married.. nah, it will drive him nuts. Especially if he is not ready.
4. They need to grow into that readiness. That is why it is dangerous to marry a man who lived with his parents until marriage ie never lived alone. Adam was ALONE for a while - even God left the garden. For ADAM to WORK and EARN a wife. I know cos though I am female, I live and think like a man. I WANT my space. All my plans and key decisions are made in silence. If you want to be a helpmate to this man, move out of his house. When y'all talk, make intelligent contributions. Ask him about his business, goals, plans. Leave the... do you love me..questions. Instead of ..my cousin just got married...say..my cousin just started a business, I'm also thinking of a business..Not every talk has to be love/romantic talk, let the friendship grow. Be busy and reduce your availability.
5. There is a BIG chance y'all will not come back together but let him go. It will make you more mature for the next relationship and he too for his next. Goodluck!
Not all men follow this manual of yours. I know a lot of them who were so different and are still different from your analysis up there @Nib
DeleteDon't be desperate move on. You deserve better
ReplyDeleteYou both are childish,go and pack your kaya from his house and move on. Stop the back and forth relationship
ReplyDeleteSeriously, it looks childish but it’s not. This was how I and my wife started o!!! Chai, any small issue Na wahala and I will block and unfriendly her anywhere blockable and that doesn’t mean I don’t love her. Now, we are happily married with 3kids. All you need to do is calm down and talk to him politely and not questioning whether he loves you or not. You will know if a man really love you without asking and whenever you feel you want to ask o you should ask in a calm way not trying to feel you are in control.
ReplyDeleteRubbish advice. Hope the man talks to her in a calm way too? Poster leave that childish man alone, he doesn’t love you period
DeleteYou need slap to reset your brain. You are senseless.Look at you using your mouth to say he loves you. Love gbakwaa oku.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is a beater•••• *#leave and move on.
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend doesn’t have money•••••• #dump him*
My wife don’t know how to cook•••••••• leave!!!
My husband won’t pay bills •••••••• leave and move on.
Always negative comments about relationships. If we all continue to move and move where are we moving to. Some people here don’t even understand that we are all human and we have to make mistake on way or the other. Madam poster, leave him o and they will give you there own boyfriend or husband. Like as if they don’t have issues with their boyfriend/husband. It’s normal for you to block or don’t pick calls when you are angry with your partner so what’s the big deal like everyone here don’t do it. I’m a mother and my advice for you is if you are sure the man loves you then you should know how to handle him. We all have our own problem and don’t Let people make you feel there is a perfect relationship anywhere.
Thank you
DeleteWait are they in a relationship abi they were? Didn't he break up with her? And even if you're an advocate of them coming back together it won't be achieved through her crying and begging him..
ReplyDeleteIT LOOKS LIKE LOVE UNTIL IT IS TIME TO MAKE A SACRIFICE!
ReplyDeleteYOU DON'T SECOND GUESS LOVE! ABOVE ALL SEEK THE LOVE OF JESUS AND YOU'D KNOW BETTER HOW YOU SHOULD BE LOVED.
Sounds like teenagers 😄😄😄Abeg let's discuss something serious .
ReplyDeletePoster when people tell you who they are or show you who they are do not say nope, do not try to create another new person. Accept people they way they told you about them.
ReplyDeleteThat your bf is just using you.