They become destiny destroyers in the lives of their spouses....
Destiny destroyers are not gender specific
This person comes into your life and everything good,goes bad....Everything heads South,everything becomes dramatic,toxic and emotionally draining....
The love becomes a weapon to bash each other with...
This person comes in and brings out the devil in you..
Sometimes the only way to get your life back on track is to walk away from these destiny destroyers....
Are you married to a destiny destroyer?what changed after you married and moved in together?Are you still together?How do you both cope with the situation?
Lets gist!
Oya married people, come and tell is your experiences with your spouses. Are they destiny builders or destiny destroyers?
ReplyDeleteI was married to mine. He nearly ruined me. I lost everything I worked for and even almost lost my job and he was also physically abusive apart from the psychological abuse. I left him after taking so much abuse but cos I needed to stay alive for my two kids I left and to God be the glory I'm doing great now. Sadly he died
DeleteAwww...you took the bold step. Thank you for loving your kids enough. I pray you get all the strength and resources you need to care for yourself and your kids.
DeleteAnony 14:12,did you just type"sadly, he died"?? I'm sorry but I'm not sorry! If he hadn't'died, he might get another innocent beautiful woman to destroy and ruin, so yeah! One less demon in the lives of females without him! 🤷♀️🤷♀️.
DeleteSo sorry about what you went through, and thank God you didn't loose yourself because of the monster, Happy for you🌹. #CHISOM
Chaiii i was dating one. Emotionally draining and always broke. Kept me captive for years till i found the courage and broke up with the bastard.
DeleteHe was never positive,always angry and broke. Even at work he will be picking fights with me over the phone that i wont concentrate. He lost his job and became a devil like it was my fault.
When i met my husband. It was a real change for me. I had to say dont you ever get angry. Because i wasnt use to a guy that was always happy and positive about everything.
The wrong man can wreck your life. Woman just know this. This my ex will abuse me calling me gwegs that no man will want me at 35 that i am already expired. I met this my ex at 37 and married him 38, he was 39.
Let's also hear it from the ones who destroy destinies. How/why did y'all do it?
DeleteChisom I thought you are knowledgeable. I sympathize with Anon 14:12 for everything she alleged to had passed through. But for Easter sakes, the accused can neither defend himself in a law court nor public court. The least we should do is to respect his memory. Let's not too quick to condemn. I believe the purpose of this post is to learn from experiences.
DeleteToday's comments will be mind blowing I love to learn from people
ReplyDeleteHe pulled my hair sotey l no get hair again. Thanks to wigs now. I feel ashamed to expose my naturally hair where people can see it. I use to have beautiful natural hair. Someone please tell me how l can regrow my hair. I have tried so many things yet no improvement. I have lost confidence because of this. Did l say l left?. Oh yes l did. God please give me a second chance.
DeleteThank God you left..for your hair try Avila hair products..worked wonders for my hair .
DeleteY'all bring it on 👂
ReplyDeleteIs it possible for one to be a destroyer and not know it?
Sluttychic.
very good question oo😁
Delete14;03. Yes. My ex was, I kept hammering it all tru. A man who won't support any idea u bring to d table.
DeleteFinally God reduced him to zero, begging 4 money upandan during d recession. This was someone who had the opportunity to b bigger.
Unfortunately for them, d Bible says, d way u treat others ,so shall u b treated, his bestie was in politics but cldnt assist him at all,very shameful. D thing sweet me die
@16:21
DeleteYou quoted that Scripture wrongly. Let me help you by copying it and pasting for you:
Matthew 7:12 In everything, then, do to others as you would have them do to you.
For this is the essence of the Law and the prophets.
Jesus assistant thank u. Use glasses to see my time nxt time
DeleteVery sensitive post
ReplyDeleteI will be reading comments
Very very sensitive
DeleteThis brought back an experience with an ex....but the only thing I can say is thank you Jesus you are worthy of my praise.
ReplyDeleteTell us about it, that's why we're here☺
DeleteGist us nah
DeletePlaying give us the gist. my ears are itching.
DeletePls
DeleteIn as much as I would love to share things with you guys but I can't because I have come to understand there are different people on this blog... There are some who never forget things and when they see a little mistake you make here they go back to mock you base on what you told them here,because here on this blog people dont forget things and me I am a very emotional person and things get to me easily so the best is just to avoid to share things concerning me here cos as guyman wey I be I know too strong for all those insult and trolling,thats the reason anytime someone insult me here I just come back and say I'm sorry cos I don't have the strength to drag things.
DeleteI'm sorry guys i hope you all understand.
😁 tell us Wat happened na
DeleteBigbanty, I respect your decision. You don't owe anyone a story.
DeleteYes. People like us never for. E.g. when Linda said her horseband has halitosis. Lol
DeleteBig banty b smart go Anon. Someone CLD learn from d experience.
DeleteBigbanty, you can go Anonymous but be careful it doesn't go wrong 😂
DeleteBig Banty don't feel pressured to tell us. It is wise to keep mum. Whatever it is may God heal everybody involved.
DeleteThis right here was one of my major fears before I got married. No matter how good you are in your career and other aspects of life, the moment you marry the wrong person, everything just starts falling apart. I've seen it happen to some and I prayed against it. Thank you, Jesus.
ReplyDeleteThose in this kind of situation, Lord, please come through for them. It's really a terrible thing to happen to good person.
Majorly the reason why everyone must be extremely careful when it comes choosing a life partner! Because it doesn't really matter if you're Oprah, Chimanda,NOI,Bey or anyone else, they'd mess you up, ruin you and make you question your existence and sanity..... My people we must all be guided. #CHISOM
DeleteComing from Chisiom who bashed Peter of psquare? 😲
DeleteYour comment towards #Chisom was exactly what #Bigbanty is trying to avoid.. @@imageScale. You see🤔😎
DeleteI don't condone bashing but pot, meet black!
DeleteImagescale,lol
DeleteChisom comment go don pinch you!
Peter's no.1fan.
Som baby,let no one bully you into not voicing your opinion. Most of them have that as a mission on this blog.
Anony17:57☺️☺️, hope you are aware of the fact that you are the kettle, the pot, the black, the pig and the gutter all at the same time? Usumiligo! #CHISOM
Delete@original cosmetic dealer, nne! I already dropped a comment for them, don't know why Stella isn't posting🤷♀️🤷♀️. Bully me kwa?? Nne fa epeka, They remain umuanuofia! Thanks darling😊😊. #CHISOM
DeleteMy aunt is married to a destiny destroyer,
ReplyDeleteHe has wrecked her emotionally and in every form. She even landed in a mental home in one of the years of their marriage, everyone outside thinks she's having a good time cos she keeps posting vacations and luxurious stuff..
Whereas alexa is constantly playing suffering and smiling for her, he didn't let her work , he made her close her business she doesn't have anything to her name ,he cheats on her.
Her family has cut her off cos they cannot understand why she still in such a marriage .
I'm hoping she would find the courage to walk away .
Wow! I hope she finds strength. Some marriages mahn...😔
Delete'Suffering and smiling' that's the tune most marriages dance to these days. I pray your aunt finds peace.
DeleteMy God!! I hope she finds the streght to leave him soon.
DeleteNo man can tell me to leave my job/business just like that, when it's not life threatening.
There's this dude that used to ask me out. He kept hammering on why I didn't practice. Told him I wanted to do something different for a while. I saw he didn't like that I was going into fashion.I bade him good bye.
Sluttychic.
I hope she finds courage and strength in Jesus name.
DeleteEeyah. May the Lord help her.
DeleteWth!!!
DeleteHer family should plz help her! I know they themselves may feel hurt but family is everything. God help her
DeleteShe is really in one almighty mess! This is the point, time she needs her family the most in her life,including you that just typed this..... She seriously needs help. #CHISOM
DeleteTrust me guys its deeper than what I just typed we are doing our best to make sure things get better , but her husband has sworn to destroy her imagine being married to a billionaire but have less than a million to your name .
DeleteI'm praying for her and encouraging her I've told her she needs to be wise. Since she has very valuable jewelleries she can sell them and invest its mad.
I dont pray for anyone to experience this she sent me a copy of her documentation in the mental home its really deep.
Dear women no matter how little have a little source of income .
Some igbo men use wealth to manipulate/rule and intimidate their wives.
DeleteBigBanty gist us na
ReplyDeleteMy ears are standing
May i not marry a destiny destroyer and may i not be a destiny destroyer
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteAmen
DeleteI'm on this table o.let me take a nap first. I should send a chronicle to find closure but no strength to even do that
ReplyDeleteYou can start by summarizing it here.
DeletePls give us the gist Now. Stop hoarding gist in this Corona era. We are all bored. We need gist to keep us alive
DeleteDon't gist anything with your blog name o, they will troll you like craze.
DeleteYou better go Anonymous for peace of mind
DeleteSome people destroys their own destiny and hang it on others. I had an ex who doesn't leave the house from Monday to Sunday. He told me he's an independent petroleum worker. One day, I had to ask him how come he doesn't go for meetings at least? Because all he does is make calls and calls. Big money comes once in a while and he spends like a fool. Then when the money vanishes, he'll tell me his ancestors (not me) has a spiritual husband that's preventing him from progressing.
ReplyDeleteWhen I did some digging I now found out he's into yahoo. Lol
To think I believed the spiritual husband story and started fasting, praying and binding. Sometimes it's just in the mind. If u no work, u no go chop.
😂😂 smh
Delete🤣🤣😂🤣😂
DeleteLazy ppl blaming their misfortune on others..God saved you from his brain washing
DeleteThis is funny but I'm not laughing
DeleteWait! You actually fasted and prayed to combat a spirit husband
DeleteSo glad you left him. Most of them tag spiritual husband to their recklessness and foolishness. They dont make wise financial decisions. When it backfires, they look for whom to blame.
DeleteLmao !!!!!
DeleteMay God save us from destiny destroyer (s)
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteOya over to married people. No fabus abeg
ReplyDeleteOh wow your moniker paused me and took me down memory lane. I once stored a love interest's number as "sweetums" wow.looools....
DeleteOhh dear😊 could it be me? Buh I'm female
DeleteEveryone will soon start pointing fingers at others as destiny destroyers.
ReplyDeleteIf you are the one that destroyed your ex-husband's destiny, please do not
forget to tell us. 😎😎😎
Lmao 😂 😂 😂 😂
DeleteSluttychic.
😂😂😭😭
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
DeleteAbi ooo, everyone comes here to claim victim. So where those people wey dey destroy dia destiny na. Na wah oooo.
DeleteMy wife finally snoop on sister’s phone found out I was planning to arrange a trip for her pregnant sister! She has turned the building upside down. Left with no choice lodge into an hotel far away, invited her sister to come over cause I dnt with her to develop Hbp this delicate period!
ReplyDeleteFor days now my wife has bn begging me to return back home but hell No I planned to credit her account from here so as to take of our kids Incase the lockdown is extended
How does your lies here make you feel? Please respond cos I really want to know.
DeleteYou sef be destiny destroyer😏🙄
DeleteLie lie...in my little girl's voice.
DeleteI don't understand. You were planning a trip for HER pregnant younger sister without her knowledge. You're lodged in an hotel with HER younger sister? Are you well at all? I sincerely hope you meant your biological sister because if otherwise, you're a bad person.
DeleteI guess he is responsible for the susbter-in- laws pregnancy. Horrible people everywhere. She is begging you to come home, ain't you so so lucky. Enjoy till God decides to unleash His wrath on you
DeleteI'm currently on this. And I want to leave ASAP. It's been 7 long years of tuture . Manipulation, domestic and emotional violence, lies but yesterday for the first time, i said enough is enough, but I don't want to go back to my father's house because, he would always feed me with the bowl of "I told you" and that could equally drive me nuts. I don't know why I've found it difficult to secure a job despite my intelligence and beauty, so he's been d one "providing". He starves me of everything. This was someone I dated when he had no job. Our pastor came yesterday to talk "let by gone be by gone" . pls how long! He came this morning again, I do like say I dey sleep. I know they feel I'm about to do something. I'm not scared again. God will take of us and if he doesn't, hmmmm. Some times I wonder if God wants to to remain here and that's why he's keeping me from having jobs. I'm totally broken and confused. But now if I get money to rent even if it's 1 room apartment for me to escape to, I'll be d happiest and I'm thinking of doing rice business. All this na money hmmmm, which is actually what has kept me here till now but mehn, na one die go kill pesin but it shouldn't be domestic abuse or emotional trauma. He has chased my friends away and turned enemies d ones he could but I spoke to my friend who understand whats going on, told her I'll come over to her place at least to pray and feel fresh her and to move on if possible, she said no wahala but my own be say- wetin we go dey chop for dere? Because I know my husband will not send anything, he will say did he ask me to leave? I know him, very very very manipulative.
ReplyDeleteInfact I've started calling people I shouldn't asking them for assistance, they are shocked by my story but everybody get him own wahala. They no even pick call again and I am so ashamed of myself right now. Does God want me to still wait? Is God enjoying the abuse am going through? Why has he not made a way for me? These has being my questions for years. Please let anyone who can help me escape please do. I had to go anonymous on this
The lord is your strength dear. Be strong, be brave, this will pass eventually
DeleteYou're not in a marriage, youve been imprisoned and the moment you start looking for a way out the better for you.
DeleteHow about you go back to your family house and start all over again? Must you wait till you leave in a body bag? I pray you find strength to leave asap.
My darling go to your father's house! Yes he may blame you everyday if he chooses to but at least, you are sure of protection,food and shelter.... Who knows, the bad energy from the demon you are married to might have been holding you back from getting a job, onyema?? 🤷♀️🤷♀️
DeleteI won't want you to go live with your friend cos since you're currently broke, you might become a great Budden to her and it may affect the friendship! Because she'd start getting pieced off.Visit her from your father's house, you'd be fine deary, always remember to pray.... Submit your CV and think of a mini business you can be managing for now, maybe table business like,selling fruits, cooking licious jollof or fried rice and be selling, you'd definitely survive without the man, trust me. 😘😘😘❤️. #CHISOM
My dear, swallow your pride and go home to your father's house, there lies your escape and a path to greatness. Call him and tell him, you were wrong for all those years and you have been living in denial and you want to come back home. Better your papa house than friend's house, otherwise you has made mockery your best friend. Go home to your dad ASAP
DeleteGo to your father's house. You may be pleasantly surprised at how your people will receive you. My father who is vehemently against divorce actually sorted out mine!!! He said it is better for me to be alive and in his house than dead. The shocker is that not for one day and I mean one day did he ever use it against me. And my dad in all honesty is the kind that everyone knows does that. So please, he may be more understanding than you think because after all he is a man and he knows what his gender is capable of.
DeleteYes, go to your father's house. Because he cares, he will bash you for a while, take it from him and start getting on your feet from there . At least you will be sure of feeding and accommodation till you can get your own place. Get a job, start a business, no matter how small. I started a business with little or nothing, heaven knows I'm not at the peak yet but I sure will get there. Story for another day. Dont relent , dont give up, remember you are a success.
DeleteYou are not yet ready to leave there. When you are, you won't be considering all these petty stuffs like what your dad will say or what you will eat at your friend's house. You are even mentioning death already. You better leave before that thing you are calling forth meets you there. May God protect you.
DeleteThis sums up my life presently. I had the good life before he came in and destroyed it. I had two cars, a fat bank account and a good rented apartment. I dated him while still in school but broke up because I wasn't ready to settle down. Reconciled years later and married within 4 month s. I had an accident and was on admission for long though with health insurance, I had nothing to pay but then I needed money to give my family. Gave him my debit card and today the story is different. He got hold of my phone, with all my savings that ran into millions within a year that I was in amnesia. Sold all furnishing of my house, we now sleep on the bare floor, moved us to face me I face you house and started hitting me. I am emotionally destroyed and I am loosing it. I can no longer think right again. I have quit the marriage and staying with a friend for now till I am back on my feet again.
ReplyDeleteThat man is worse than the devil himself. Good thing you found courage to leave and I pray you stand again. It will only get better.
DeleteJeezz!! 💔💔😢😢. #CHISOM
DeleteMay God heal you, restore you and make you whole in Jesus name.
DeleteI feel your pain. It's sad u had to pass tru this in the hands of an insensitive man. I pray that you find peace, healing and restoration soon.
DeleteMay God come thru for u sis, no one should ve to go thru this in life but what can u do than hope against all hope.
DeleteSad!
DeletePls don't lose hope. God will make you rise again
He plainly came back for revenge. God will restore all and more. I am living proof trust me. Now as for him, wait and see how God will avenge you.
DeleteWow. So sad but hey! You've done so well by having the courage to leave him. Bo one can destroy you until you give the person the power to do so. Some of us has been there and we turned out great. So girl, pick yourself up and make those millions again ok.
Delete@anonymous...who will spill the milk?Thats how kelechi came into my life and siphoned 200k as far back as 2015...hmmmm i felt like running mad then because that money was for my cool room business but God raise me up
ReplyDeleteStella Oh my Elder sis married a Destiny Destroyer .A Sunday school teacher in Redeem oh..Let me try and make the story short. .Enjoy the read ...
ReplyDeleteSo she met h at 28..she was Living on her own already and had a car.My sis made money in this life early .Boom!!!she Started following this our neighbour to church and vigil .In the church they told her her bf back then Wasn't her husband ..That he took an oath that will destroy his life bla bla bla ..That's how she ended the relationship with Francis ..Kai e pain us ..we all loved Francis to a fault ..well except my mum cos he's an Ibo.Francis is a big boy now oh ..Flying abroad like at na him second house ..Back to my sister's story
So the Stupid pastor in the new church she started going for prayers told her One bastard brother in their Church was her husband ..That's where her suffering started .He was jobless ...My sister funded his life Stella .She married herself oh.na she pay her bride price ..Stella My sis get money!!!She dey work for bank that year na big girl!!!
She rented a bigger apartment ,Funded the house ,did her white wedding .please note the bastard did not bring penny!!!Also none of us wanted the marriage them force me do chief brides maid .Even on the wedding day I quarreled with the best man .Told him to act like I do not exist .I hated the groom and all his relatives .Gold diggers!
That's how my sis got preggy ...Opened a Photo studio for this asshole ..he was managing .Few years later my sis lost her job Stella
Do you know my sister was doing Virtuos woman all the while and was saving all her money in this man's acct?Stella all her mny ..as in every Kobo
When she lost her job this guy turned her to a punching bag ..Was beating her steady even with her second pregnancy .
It was her sis inlaw that called my dad and told him if he wants my sis alive he shld come and pick her
He told my sis that he will kill her and bury her and no one will cough .at this point my sis was already without one naira.She ran away with her kids .the story plenty
She's 37 now and her life is no same
And she no get mind to take the guy go court at least see if she fit collect something ...she set up a standard studio for him ..she fit sell the camera ND all or maybe even the cushion in the house ...Cos he retained the house even after my sis has left
He doesn't pay school fees .We are the ones taking care of the kids now .it's so sad.sometimes I look at my sis and I feel bad
Big girl before now 20k na big mny for her
Bad marriage is a destroyer of destiny .
Bfre I married I shine my eyes well because I know myself ...Divorce won't be far if I sense nonsense .
Single ladies shine your eyes ..please do not believe pastor's that tell you this is your husband ..pray by yourself ..do not invest in a man dats lazy!!!Do not marry yourself!!!
Learn from my sister's story .God bless all of you
This story weak me o,may God come through for your sister.
DeleteUnknown thanks for sharing. My prayer is God will restore all your sister lost. This blog continues to open my eyes on a daily.
DeleteMy goodness lord Jesus what a story na wa o. When you see some people suffering check their hearts. It’s stone cold no emotion . A heart that has compassion as a taboo in it that’s why his life was bent. Probably the pastor saw how committed he was but may thunder fire that man blue black chai it’s so painful. May God restore her amen
DeleteChurch bros fear them!😔
DeleteThis is sad......She will rise again.
DeleteMay God restore your sister, may she find Joy and peace. May she have reasons to rejoice again in Jesus name.
Delete@unknown 15:00, is your elder sister my sister? Chai!! May God not let one miss it in this life. My sister's husband is also a destiny destroyer. She was doing so well before she met this uncle. Everyone was wondering why she decided to marry this brother. I kept asking her even on her wedding day, I called her to a corner and said, "you don't have to do this". She said he's her husband. She loves him and her PASTOR told her that that's her husband. (she has always been the type to believe pastors and prophets. Looking for what did not lost eventhough we were never raised liked that)
DeleteMy sister broke up with her ex because he wanted to travel to Germany for his masters. He wanted them to hold on a little before getting married. Funny enough my sister was very young at the time (there shouldn't have been any rush) . .but she has always been so marriage crazy. She broke up with him cos he wasn't ready. I remember her ex (Intelligent, wonderful guy. We all loved him.) coming to our house a day before his flight to Germany. He begged and begged. Cried and cried. For where? She no gree oh. She talk say she don find husband. My parents did the wedding because everything her husband and in-laws promised to do, dem no do. Thank God my parents were proactive else, we would all have been put to shame! During the traditional wedding, when it was time for the bride price to be presented, her father inlaw started begging my father. He said they forgot the bride price. Eh-ol-El. (bride price that we return in my family oh). That's how my sister got married without bride price. She bought everything on her engagement list. She literally married herself.She lied to us all and deceived everyone.
Now, who is suffering? My sister!! She's a shadow of herself. She begs to feed. Begs for everything. Her husband has no single drive or hustling spirit. He has dragged her to his level.
You need to see my sister's ex now!! The guy is balling!!!!!!!!!!! Big boy!! He got married two years ago.
It's so important to marry well. So so important. It can make or mar you!! Singles please open your eyes once it's time and choose right. May God help us all.
May God restore all your sister lost to that marriage. One reason I frown at matchmaking especially when it is to the disadvantage of another.
DeleteOh Lord! This is sad.
DeleteMay our good Lord restore all that she has lost, amen . She can rise again she did it before, she still can. Its all I her hands
DeleteThis is emotional for me. Let me try. I was doing very well for myself. Good salary. Built a better house for my parents in the village. Solely taking care of my parents and siblings. Had friends and relatives under my roof l cater for. Boom he came into my life. Two months later we are engaged and traditional wedding fixed. Something happened and it was cancelled three times. We decided to do it anyhow. Called few friends and relatives one evening and the traditional rites was done. I moved in with him. He changed my phone and line. Warned me to disconnect from my then friends and relatives. Even my parents and siblings Its l and him. He had no house in his village. We built a house together. He changed to better cars. Built two small houses were we reside for rent. All these happened within 3yesds. The fourth year. No child my life turned upside. It started from his elder sister. She said l want to control them. He started molesting me physically and emotionally. Deals with any friend he sees around me. My siblings stopped coming. I hide to call my parents when he is around. Salary stopped coming. We can stay for 8months without salary. I became depressed. Hard loss of memory. Had panic attack that a little sound shocks me. Had insomnia. Looked 10years older than myself. Had serious marks on my body due to beatings. Was ashamed and afraid to complain to anyone due to his reactions. I once complained to my mother and he nearly killed me that night for washing my dirty linen outside. His job took him to another state and he moved in with another woman. His patents supported him because he is the first child and needs a child. Our rent where l stay expired. He refused to renew it. According to him. No money. He earns good salary. I pleaded with him to send a tenant out so that l can stay in a flat in one of the houses we built together and he refused. His excuse was that he cannot live in the same building with his tenants. My landlord gave me 7months grace because he knows my ordeals. After seven months. Out of shame l moved out leaving our load. Few weeks later. He came and parked his load and never asked after me till date. I heard he is married to that woman and they have a child together. Four years later. I am no more where l used to be. God has been indeed very faithful. My life has turned around again for better. Though no husband or child yet. I am extra grateful to God. I will have died but God said no. My hopes are alive. God has not finished with me yet. God bless every beautiful marriage. God please heal every marriage that is going through difficult times.
ReplyDeleteWhen next you want to judge anyone. Please purse and hear their story. This here got me teary. Keep your hopes alive dear. Marriage is for the living says my mum.
DeletePraise God for you. May God fulfil your heart desires and bless you with a peaceful home and glorious kids of your own in Jesus name.
DeleteOh my God. Father thank you for the testimony of this lady but turn her life around by giving her her own husband and child according to your will. Silence all her enemies completely and take all the glory in Jesus name, Amen. Ma, go and help the orphans and poor children. God will answer all your prayers.
DeleteThis brought uncontrollable tears down my face. Anonymous 15:07, may the Almighty God restore all and years uve lost my dear. May He give you peace of mind and lift you up.
DeleteMay you find the bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh and may you be fruitful, your children will be like olive plants around your table in JESUS mighty name.
You will testify to God's goodness.
Sending you love my dear 💕
I had tears in my eyes reading this. Thank God. You will recover fully and have a home by His grace
DeleteWow. Wow. Thank God for your life. It is well.
DeleteIt is well with your soul .
DeleteThank God for your life.
I almost got married to a destiny destroyer, He brought out the beast in me, I'm very peace loving but with him i was like, i was running mad. Never knew such thing exist, and i couldn't leave. It's unexplainable, i can't even explain it in words. Never knew such people exist
ReplyDeleteHe manipulated everyone around him, he doesn't get close to people richer than him, i was going insane. But God saved me. He never abused me physically, but mentally i was losing it, started lying alot just to please him, he can wake up and say i love girls that dance, i will start learning how to dance, okay i love girls that sings, throughout the week will be trying to sing, i love size 4 i stopped eating and hating myself.
Till one day God steps in, i had a dream i woke up and all changed. Even till now he's still monitoring me. I feel he can stop trying to know whatsup with me through means he spent a lot and just forget we ever dated. One memory i want God to wipe away from my head that i ever dated him
He is a player and manipulator..Please block him everywhere
DeleteI would like to hear from destiny destroyers. Did they know? How are they coping? Etc. If you get married or engaged and things turn out for the worse for your partner and he or she dknt recover , you are a destiny destroyer. Some bounce back but some just continue struggling until d destroyer or you leaves the union. Some may not recover fully coz d damage is much and it eventually kills them.
ReplyDeleteMaybe I should send this as a chronicle to get everyone's view but let me post small here. The man I'm married to is a gentle, and caring man. When I met him, he had nothing but his certificate in music production from a post grad course her did in London. He is a spender. He is someone that can make 10k today and spend 5k on flexing as per, let's enjoy small. The remaining 5k will find a way to fly away and he's back to square one again. He has family abroad who have helped him in the past but they see him as unserious and stupid because he foolishly sold a family property when he was trying to relocate us abroad. I quarreled with him severally over this when I heard the plan. He didn't carry me along and finally did it behind me. He had intentions of paying but no money till date. His parents are late. Most of his siblings (the older ones from another mom) have disowned him because of this. He has begged and begged, no way.
ReplyDeleteHe's now hustling small small. Still, no progress. I'm the breadwinner this corona period and the bread is beginning to finish. I'm worried.
Since we married, my life has been stagnant. No real progress. Even his spiritual life is poor. I'm the everything.
Maybe I've also been a destiny destroyer somehow because before we married, his younger sister abroad sent him money to go and study abroad in other to permanently relocate. I stopped him. We married and we were doing a very lucrative business. Things just gradually went bad.
He doesn't know how to save or invest or plan. Why na? I've talked and talked. He always has very good reasons and excuses for failure. I'm tired. I don't know. I want freedom. But hes a peaceful man really and really caring and genuine and honest. But this money issue is a BIG problem. Im drained and tired
I feel that way about my spouse sometimes
ReplyDeleteYou know how you want your husband to be your best cheerleader
Someone that will support every of your decision or moves
Someone that will support you both physically, spiritually, mentally, morally....I don't get any of that!
I'm pushing myself all by myself with the help of somethings I have learnt here positively from both married and single on here
I'm working towards being a better me!
Heavenly Father, may I and my siblings not marry our enemy or destiny destroyers. Amen
ReplyDeleteDestiny destroyers can change the steady progress of a successful man or woman. This people have nothing good going for them and they latch on partners that has potential and then boom, life spirals downwards without any railings to latch onto. I have fallen victim into this, story is for another day, and I usually advice Young folks to look before they leap.
ReplyDeleteMy aunt married d biggest destiny destroyer ever!
ReplyDeleteThis man went to d uni bcs she asked him to, he was an illiterate bfr they married, she got loan and built a house for him, after BSc, he left her, now he's doing his PhD and got married to someone else last month, after my aunt gave him 4 beautiful children, boys n girls oh, he said he wants more kids, now aunt has mental issues and is in d psychiatric ward while relatives are taking care of the kids, may God come tru for her.
I'm scared of getting married really.
Chai..... Psychiatric ward? Oh my God. Women especially open your eyes with men ooo....stop doing love love.
DeleteChai. Lod please come through for this lady. Amen. May the resurrection of Christ be a turning point in the life of everyone going through difficult times in their marriage, amen
DeleteCurrently engaged to one. Very manipulative human. Promised me heaven and earth ,love bombings. I foolishly let my guard down and boom pregnancy!
ReplyDeleteMarry him now cos of the baby and divorce later or move on now and be shamed as a 'baby mama'?
Abeg please move on.
DeleteBetter be shamed as a baby mama. I pity you. You really don't want to marry a manipulative man. You don't want to!
DeletePlease ignore what people may say or think of you. This is your life and you deserved to be happy. Who says being a baby mama or being single is the end of the world? You never know the big things that awaits you.
DeleteMay God direct you. You might want to still leave him even after the marriage, better now than later with more baggage.
DeleteRemember, ppl will always talk
Thanks so much guys for the courage. Happiness is the ultimate goal.I will move on now and not care whether my enemies will laugh at me.Thank God I have a little savings. I know God has something great ahead for me. Thanks guys
DeleteBetter to move on and be shamed now!! DO NOT MARRY THAT MAN!!
DeleteLet me go anonymous on this one... Stella next time please attach RANT" on the post... Phewwww....
ReplyDeleteI had a son out of wedlock, I started dating when he was a year old, we dated for 3yrs, he said he was relocating abroad, I told him I won't wait, I got married to someone else, a monster, an animal, I had a daughter whom I have not seen for 10 solid years, she will be 11 soon and he denied me access to her, my ex from hell came back 9 after my marriage packed up, said he wants marriage knowing fully well that I have had two kids from two different father's, we did the wine carrying, I got pregnant, he dumped me, told me to my face that he came back to revenge, that I ruined his life when I left him for another man in 2008, he said he has ruined my life too cos no man will ever married a woman who has been married twice, has three kids from three different men, sometimes I feel like killing him but I can't hurt a fly, and the idiot is a glutton, to get him hear and finish him off is very easy and simple but I can't and I fear God, let him fight for me ooo
The stories am reading today are heartbreaking. I just pray you find healing and move on with your life. he's not your God, you will get a man to marry again and he will regret his actions.
DeleteWhat do you mean? Is custody not given to the mother in Nigerian courts (if she is of sound mind)?
DeleteHow did he get FULL custody of your daughter?
So what if you have kids from different men? At least you are fertile. For now, close those legs!!! No more men and kids until you heal, work on yourself and build your life. I have been celibate for nearly 20 years. If I had dropped my standards or listened to many useless men that approached me I would not have met my God ordained man.
DeleteHaven't you sent a Chronicle before??
DeleteThanks my dears, my legs are well closed, no more men for now... @Shy Artsy gal..., I haven't, I am too ashamed of telling anyone my story sef, I hide and pretend like all is well with me, I can't even talk to steplS, she will finish me.... At least I emptied my chest today
DeleteThank you for contributing, am going through divorce with two kids, my ex whom I left for my kids father is back. He may be back for revenge. I don't really trust him. I would rather marry someone else. He wanted to fly to my base if not because of this corona.
DeleteThat recycling of ex's is full of busllshit, it is way better to settle for a total stranger than to go back to your ex, it never ends well
DeleteHonestly this thing weak me but I'll add one or two things i know. For every human on earth,there's spiritually and physical compatibility,you may be compatible with someone physically but spiritually they'll bring you nothing but trouble and bad luck. I have a friend who is like a big sister to me but she's about 41 years. She has been dating this man for over 15 years with nothing to show for it,i summoned the courage to tell her that the man is using her destiny and tried convincing her to stop dating him,she told me she's been told several times by different people but she would rather he keeps using her!!! I was shocked,so i left her to follow her heart. After being stagnant over here in Naija for a long time,she travelled out of the country,she prayed and fasted also spent money on spiritual purification when shit finally dawned on her. As soon as she got to Canada,she met a Caucasian and he loved her to pieces. As soon as they started dating,she hit it big and got over 100k $,prior to that time,she complained about him being a drug addict as in cocaine o,i told her to help him stop or she leaves .After she got the money last year February and invested in the guys name,uncle took everything as in all the money and eloped.I was shocked!! I asked her why she kept the money in his account,she said her papers weren't complete,I said what about Naija account,madam kept mute. Fast forward to today,she's been struggling to no avail. She filed a complaint at police station over there but nothing has come out of it.The hotelier boyfriend in Naija just opened another hotel and bought house,he's got so much money but has refused to assist her.Before marriage,if you are a Muslim please fast and pray before fucking each other. If you are a Christian,ask God about your decision and renowned man of God .Marriage or not,there are destiny hunters out there who are ready to take your glory.Stay woke!!!!
ReplyDeleteTypical yoruba girl's tale - always running around fetish priests (wolis and alfas) throwing and checking names of diverse men to hook. It's payback time for your friend in Canada.
DeleteHmmmn, was very happy with my life until he waltz along,few weeks to our engagement he told me to my face that he can't marry me that I come from q poor and wretched family, I ignored not until he started body shaming me and telling me he will pass me around to his friends to sleep with and make money from my body,that he is marrying me because of my intelligence and beauty and the fact that one day I will be a judge and start earning good money that will be used for his comfort, to worsen issues he was sleeping around with underaged girls and boasting in front of me,that after all what can I do,my family is too poor and with no connection in government. Had a particular dream or revelation that he rejected me on NY traditional wedding day,and I woke up physically in tears, got up and left the house quietly,never continued the situation ship, I left and felt peace and freedom,looked back and still wonder whether he went to look at my star,because it even when I left his family was still begging me to come back,I left became more fulfilled meet more open doors,worked on my self esteem to sport a destiny killer two centimeters away. Don't be afraid to leave,nothing is worth dying for,don't worry God will always make a way.
ReplyDeleteTimely revelation
DeleteDear poster God bless your days for leaving. My gosh someone said all that to your face. That was horrible of him. Pls don’t go back pls. Even if they send big gifts don’t go back. Take care of you cheers . They should keep worshiping money . What is bigger than money helped you to step out and found you a new pathway. Nonsense
DeletePls can someone pls tell me if any of this destiny destroyers/violent or abusive people ever change. My ex is asking to come back after 4 years of divorce. I m in my early 30's, have one child. Personally I feel he wants more children and wants it from one woman before turning me to baby mama of children. Pls advise
ReplyDeleteso with everything you went through you are still considering to go back. you never suffer that is why let me tell you that man will kill you if you go back to him don't believe he has changed o.
DeleteYou answered it yourself! He will use you to birth all his kids and still dump you. I pity women with their stupid emotions
DeleteMy dear, don't go anywhere. Follow your instincts.
DeleteDo you really want to go back to him?
DeleteWhy do you want to or not want to go back to him?
Has the issues that led to your separation been resolved?
Will your going back to him be beneficial to you and your child?
Do you also want to get all your children with him and make him too baby father of children?
Are you thinking long term or short term?
And the most important, have you prayed to God about it?
If you decided to take him, don't get pregnant immediately.
Teatree.
I sincerely don't think abusers change.
DeleteThink deeply, pray alot.
So you don't regret
Surprisingly it seems only men are destiny destroyers? I bet you, most of the women making this comments themselves are the problem. Imagine the one with 3 kids for 3 different men still blaming the men. Women are never wrong?
ReplyDeleteMost blog visitors are female
DeleteThank u sa
DeleteD, this you? Abi, is it C???
DeleteIt's not like anyone stopped the men from sharing their story.
Women are more of destiny destroyers than men. And of course I am a she
DeleteI almost married one. He was the sweetest guy i have ever met. I was once married before but the marriage was very turbulent and the guy travelled abroad. Whenever he called he threathened to come home and finalize the divorce proceedings. I used to cry everyday and became a shadow of myself. Till i met this new bf. He boosted my self esteem from o% to 100%. I showed him love he has never seen before. He also showed me love and stood by me too. Then suddenly he started pestering for marriage. I told him i was still married technically. Even though we were seperated. The new guy started cheating seriously. I did not know. Meanwhile i am the one funding the relationship cos i had a better job. And he was always taking money from me to sort out himself. Then i got the shock of my life , he went for another lady's introduction. Planned marriage and fixed date. I was the last to know. I was so heart broken. But since the day he started d marriage proceedings, he started getting sick. The woman he married is way older and very rich but very ugly. My guy got sick to d point that he is now bedridden 4 years after marriage. Meanwhile i had told him to postone d marriage when i noticed some things. I pleaded with him that his life is more important, but he refused. We still remain cordial because he helped me a lot when i was down. But he married a destiny destroyer who is holding him captive. His family cant even see him cos the wife is alpha and omega kpata kpata of thier family.
ReplyDeleteU should have waited till you're divorced before involving yourself with someone else
DeleteWow!!! What did I just read.?
DeleteAnd this is my story, got married 5 years ago to this guy.. He was everything I wanted in a man, a fatherly figure to fill in the gap of my dead dad,matured and kind but I never know he was a gigolo to a woman.i found out abt the woman before our wedding and he brushed it aside dat the woman is Jst an admirer..maybe I was carried away by love and pregnancy then..jst 2 months after our marriage, he changed.. Starts to beat me up, and use all kind of abusive words on me even though I was pregnant..he doesn't care Wat my poor widow mum and my Lil siblings will say..i have scars all over my body dat I got from his beatings.. His family ask me to cum and do my NYSC with them bcoz then I already had my second child and am malnourished..he didn't care care any I and my kids, all he does was to leave the house and cum bk any time he likes...i sit even have a say in a place I called my home... After everything I went to the village with my kids.life was so hard Dia, he Neva cared any us, I was Jay using my NYSC allowance to take Kia of my kids.after 2 years with the help of his mum we are Nw back in his house
ReplyDeletebt its like everything has gone worst now cos he neither provides for I and my kids, he talks to the woman on phone even in my present, he doesn't touch me, and he has been telling me to pack my things with my kids and go.. I am to receive beatings anything time I ask him for my kids feeding or skul fees ...bt all am doing nowit's accepting my fate in life and taking Kia of my kids with the little I got from my teaching job bcoz I can't go back to my mum one room apartment with dis kids, I can't bear the shame of letting my mum down after all her sufferings to train me in skul after the painful death of my dad, I dnt know how I will look into the face of my Lil siblings anymore.. .And I will Neva commit suicide
My love,i pray God comes through for you,and crown all your effort so you can take care of your kids.
DeleteBe strong. U can find a job no matter how little. Start from somewhere and leave as soon as you can
DeletePlease take suicide out of your mind. It seems you are the one who is still married to this man as he left u already. Marriage is not by force, your happiness and comfort matters a lot. If you are not wanted in a place, it is advised that you leave especially as he beats you. May God grant u the strength to over this.
DeleteYou see what you did to yourself? He beat you all through the first pregnancy, instead of you to leave,you opened legs and collected baby number two. After NYSC, why didn't you stay back there and search for your teaching job there? Then rent a room and live for your kids? You came back to recieve more beatings meanwhile you are the one taking care of yourself and the kids, what is the difference? OK, they are calling you 'Mrs'. You are tying two wrappers and gele and smiling isn't it?
DeleteThis man is telling you to pack your things and leave his house, you are sitting down there because of what people(including your relatives) will say.
Now let me ask you, do you prefer he kills you? Will your mum and siblings prefer you being brought back dead instead? Oh! You don't know that he may kill you one day.
Pls, I know your horseband has killed your zeal in life, but pls and pls consider your poor kids. Leave that man. Start doing contribution in your workplace, add extra lesson and other small things to your salary and when you pack your own contribution, rent a room very far from him, in another town. You will always get a teaching job anywhere since you are a graduate and you have experience.
He has hit me again dis nite,he use table spoon to stab me all ova my back and a blow in one of my eye, simply becos he step on water in the kitchen. . dnt know how to post pictures..i dnt have anywhere else to go to with dis lock down hia in Asaba.am seriously down with malaria and my people dnt know how to cum from on its hard to give me drugs
DeleteWhy don't you rent a one room apartment and move into with your kids.
DeleteI think his mum will still support from whereever you are.
The beatings might increase ooo. Your life might be in danger
Hmmmm! Destiny destroyers.
ReplyDeleteHad fleet of cars,choice properties in good neighbourhood in Lag. I bought my first property in an expensive neighbourhood in Lagos all before I clocked 30... (Sheer hard work no dubious biz)The year she got got preggy with our first child, I started experiencing problems with my biz both here in Nigeria and Abroad. We got married and I lost everything except my crib, we were together for 13years and all thru those years I was always struggling to get on my feet! I will start a good a new biz and it will crash and end with Police case sef( still battling one with EFCC as I am writing this). I was good to her and never vented the frustration on her or our kids... Pastors was of the opinion that if we don't part ways, I won't get up financially.. I was and still of the opinion that the thought is for lazy Bozzos, when God is ready to answer you, no Destiny destroyer(s) can stop him! I was in this marriage for 12 years and then she started cheating, today, I can say I helped with her career and where she is today! Anyways, she moved out without any fight between us... The same week she moved out, I signed a Life changing contract... Double digits... Do I believe she was responsible for all that went wrong in my life? No! God's ways are mysterious, we cannot fight it but only understand it! I started my importation biz and believe me, God has proven to all ( those that mocked me) that he is indeed on his throne.
ReplyDeleteEverything is not spiritual. Life happens
DeleteNice to hear from a guy.
DeleteFor you not to blame her, it's a wow.
DeleteI can see sense is really far from you, if you like when you start dating another destiny destroyer don't run Inugo be forming hulk horgan until she will finish you nd your life
DeleteI have an uncle that is a destiny destroyer. I so feel for that my Aunty. He married this lady and turned her life into something else. A lady that was a hot cake in her time...We became close after she married my uncle..She didn't graduate b/c of marriage too.
ReplyDeleteThe day she told me part of her marriage story I cried ehh. I was close to my uncle before too but can't stand him now at all.
Sometimes I wish she can leave or tell the family what's she is passing through.
My uncle is so put together that you will never suspect the kind of things he is doing.
Marry with information...Ask questions about your spouse...Do your CNN work and above all Pray and follow God's leading
I married a man that almost destroyed my destiny but ended up destroying his own destiny, reputation and life instead.
ReplyDeleteHe cut off my friends and tried to cut off my family (they live less than 30 minutes from me but he wouldn't let them visit till 3 months and 2 weeks after our wedding but his family & friends could all visit), which he was unable to, though he caused friction between us.
He was so different while courting that we almost all fell for it except my sister who never fell for his charm.
He borrowed all my savings then & wanted to emotionally subdue me so he could continue spending all my earnings too. I appealed to him severally and even involved his elder brother and my mother-in-law when he got another good paying job but refused to cater for the home or our only child (his mum even told me it's a woman who provides for the home, it is so in her younger brother's home & she taught him not to give the wife upkeep for both their kids- this is someone who did not work till her last son finished University). They told him I reported him & he threatened to kill me.
I went into savage mode & dragged his case to the Police. The coward has paid half the loans he agreed to borrowing now.
He was shocked I would take such bold steps as he thought his manipulate mental abuse would break me. He even told me I hear voices,someone with such low self esteem that he is psychologically imbalanced.
I am in the process of leaving for my child and I's sake. Let me be granted custody of our child,in Jesus name, amen.
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DeleteSome stories here got me so emotional. I fear for my daughter, God.
ReplyDeleteI don't even know which category my own marriage falls. When we got married, we were both comfortable. I was a salary earner while he was into business. After three years of marriage, everything started going wrong. I lost my job, his business started crumbling. We were owing rent. At last, we had to run to his hometown and lived in his family house for a while before getting a room. All these while, my people including friends were saying I married the wrong person. I am actually confused sometimes but deep down, I don't believe I married the wrong man. He doesn't hit me, has never done so, doesn't cheat, very caring, hardworking too. Things just refused to fall back in place. I had to get a small teaching job when I couldn't get a job. He too got a small job like that.
There is something our elders refer to as morning enjoyment,afternoon and night. Madam by the time you start enjoying all you have laboured for,people will start using you as point of contact to God. Trust God,keep praying and working.
DeleteYou are both going through a trial. After it, the sun will shine again. Hold on.
Delete@Courage you both are destiny destroyers. You both destroyed each other's destiny. So you and your husband should start midnight prayers to reclaim your destinies
Delete20.45 that is such an evil thing to say. I rebuke your statement in Courage and her husband's life in Jesus name. Amen.
Delete20:45
DeleteThis is untrue.
Dear Courage be fervent in prayers life is in stages and phases pray against retrogression.
There is nothing God cannot do you both keep encouraging yourselves with the word of God , this too shall pass.
Thank you all
Delete20:45. I reject that name in my marriage in Jesus name.
I married one too, pretend to support me but he doesn't, sabotage everything I do, I closed my shop for peace to reign but for where,I have to explain every call that comes in, going out nko wahala, I can't greet anyone wearing trouser without him calling me names, prostitute, wayward, ungrateful, for me to step out d children must go with me, if not I have gone to sleep around.
ReplyDeleteEvery business I try he hijacks it and be doing it for me so I don't have any reason to go out. All my few friends are all bad influence.
He doesn't beat with his hands but his mouth. I was off all social media for years just to please him. I have decided to fight back. Am even ready for divorce but he will not divorce me because divorcing me means setting me free which he told me I will not get away from him that fast.
God will help me
Whatever you decide bikonu apply wisdom because men like that won't let go easily
DeleteGet away from him now!
DeleteForget about him divorcing
Return his brideprice and move on
His type can kill instead of letting you go. Gather money, when he is out, pack a few important things and go very far from him
DeleteHmmmmn a lot of ladies are going through hell and keep on pretending outside that all is well
ReplyDeleteWomen Women Women
ReplyDeleteToo emotional
Men are strategic in choosing partners ..women should learn to be strategic too. Why are most of the destiny destroyers male?
Because women marry for emotional reasons...turn your bad situations around by using your brains ladies.
Be strategic in your choices
Lord help us all
A lot also marry for money and ignore signs.
DeleteFrom comments I have read so far, lessons I have picked up:
ReplyDelete1. Stay away from sex in a relationship. If you are going to do things God's way, go all the way.
2. Never move in with a guy you are not married to.
3. Let God choose for you. Before you marry a person, seek and hear from God. A reason again to stay away from premarital sex. It's not easy, but with God's grace, it is possible.
4. Stay away from "pastors" in making your decision.
I am beyond shocked. Women are suffering oh!
ReplyDeleteGod have mercy on your children 😭
ReplyDeleteWish my auntie can read this
ReplyDeleteA person who thinks marriage is a prison
Her husband is a dog sleeps with anything in skirt ,even flirts with family members ,brings his dirty girlfriends to her shop rubs it on her face ,15years of marriage no children doesn't want to go for test to make matters worse he is ugly with his tiny legs ready to spend on others than his wife .family members have pleaded with her to leave to leave the marriage sheis more concerned about what people will say. I think that man jazzed her.
What people will say? People will always talk, so why not safe your life and allow them talk. My ex husband was physically and emotionally abusive towards me. To top it all he was a drug addict. I thought I will died in the marriage. My prayer for 10 years was for God to deliver me from the hot mess I called a marriage. I don’t have the strength to type the abuse I went through in that marriage. Since I left i have been so happy and free like a bird. Am also dating a very nice man that loves me so much. I thank God everyday that he gave me the strength to walk away from that mess.
DeleteHmmmmmm my dad is the highest destiny destroyer and when my ex husband want to pull the similar strings with me I ran faster than my legs can carry me, am dating on manipulative guy now but I dy treat his fuck up steady cos I have a devilish wicked destiny destroyer father, ex husband so he is child's play, my family is not comfortable with him but he doesn't stop me from anything, the thing is most Nigerian guys are very selfish and manipulative but if you are a bad ass chick too he will leave you and run, cos with my experience in my failed marriage of 12yrs with 3kids to train alone,I have turned to a tiger that i toilst men around the way I want, no time to check time or love any wicked man, I see all men as liars even my brother , sons everyone of them, am so selfish with myself now ehe that you will be wondering what's going on with me
ReplyDeleteSee me shedding tears this midnight. I was already close to tears as I thought of my present condition and that of many other Nigerians in this pandemic. I can't sleep.
ReplyDeleteMay God restore all that the locusts have eaten in the lives of these women and men up there. Amen
I need serious midnight prayers. Let me go and pick my Bible
God bless you Stella for using your media to bring out these things. Very serious issue affecting the girls & women from Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteMany are calling spiritual problem, destiny killer husbands etc. But the most important factor is how the:
*social culture, norms in Nigeria & attitude of the Nigerian peoole towards the victims of domestic abuse, structure of the legal and criminal justice system.
Here you see many write about detailed accounts of emotional & psychological manipulations which are often unseen & without physical scars on the victim's body. How these wicked men and women too will use subtle attacks & twisted mind games such as body shaming their victims, sweet talking & promises of better life & future together to gain hold of their victims for long. Using constant criticisms, destructive remarks and repeated psychological abuse and mental torture to minimize & devalue their target or victims.
All these things here now are things that should be systematically analyzed, discussed & talked about in the Nigerian society wider audience!!! Because many lives are at stake. Innocent children born into these dangerous, toxic circumstances. What could be done especially for the (vulnerable) female gender? To stop girls and women falling into or getting trapped for long in such hopeless & horrific situations.
*pastors should stop playing match makers
*families should reconcile & accept & welcome back their daughters who have been victimized by men.
*girls & women should run from any "friendship" or association with person(s) who make them vulnerable to sufferings, hardship & dangerous lifestyles.
SUFFERING & SMILING IS NOT A GOOD THING!