The former queen of Iwo land, Chanel C has opened up in an interview on what truly happened between her and Oba Adulrasheed Akanbi of Iwo Land when they met at a party before they married....
It was my first time of coming to Africa, I didn't just want to stay in Lagos ,in Lekki, I wanted to see everything, so we now went to Osun state for the coronation, it was a day before the coronation began.
So we went, we met Oluwo , two days before his coronation, I introduced myself to him, that he's from Toronto I'm from Toronto, boom!! (brief stuttering)
Two days before his coronation, I went as a tourist, and then I met him at the burial party of one Lagos monarch's wife, errm... I believe the father passed on and I was at that burial party where I met him again.
And then they had another party for him in Ikeja that I was invited to by one Alhaji that is also from Iwo and this Alhaji was dating my friend at the time. So... my friend is also a Jamaican, so he invited us to this party, and when I arrived at this party, it was a popular Lagos monarch that actually introduced me to him again, to Oluwo again. This was gonna be our fourth time meeting now.
And this monarch was like "oh! He's a king, he's from Toronto and he doesn't have a wife and blah blah blah and it's a big glory to be Olori and we'll all be beside you, blah blah blah... And you know it's a party, we were all drinking, having fun, I had a bit too much to drink, so I went upstairs to one of their rooms and I laid down and fell asleep and like 3.00 o'clock in the morning, I woke up to find Oluwo on top of me. With my clothes, my clothes were removed, I didn't have any clothes on top of my body and Oluwo was on top of me and I started going crazy, I am just a foreigner and I don't know what... so I said "hey excuse me and he said no, "I am a king and in our culture, you don't say no to a king, and when a king extend leg to you, you must agree ,and you are going to be my wife, I am going to marry you and don't worry you are going to have a good life, blah blah blah blah...."
And you know, it's very embarrassing, and the reason I am saying this is because Oluwo has gone all around, north, south, east, west. He's telling people that I was a prostitute from Toronto, that he didn't know me , that he slept with me on the first night.
Tell the people the truth, tell them that you raped me , tell the people what happened the first night you met me.
I had too much to drink an I laid down in one of the rooms and I woke up by 3.00am and my clothes were removed and Oluwo was on top of me.
And one month later, and this was February 2nd, 2016, I will never forget this day, because this is the day my life changed drastically. (she repeats the date)
So one month later I missed my menses and I was pregnant.
So one month after I met Oluwo, I was pregnant.
Do the math, his coronation was January 16th, I met him February 2nd, my baby was born November 16th 2016.
November from February is 9 months. That's when I met Oluwo, February 2nd. He raped me and because he, listen to me Maureen, I am not gonna say I was a virgin, I was not a virgin.
But because he slept with me the first night, he raped me, the next day he said we are going to Iwo, we are going to the palace, so I went with him.
He told me to pack all my load that he's bringing me to Iwo....
The Interview is attached....
It was my first time of coming to Africa, I didn't just want to stay in Lagos ,in Lekki, I wanted to see everything, so we now went to Osun state for the coronation, it was a day before the coronation began.
So we went, we met Oluwo , two days before his coronation, I introduced myself to him, that he's from Toronto I'm from Toronto, boom!! (brief stuttering)
Two days before his coronation, I went as a tourist, and then I met him at the burial party of one Lagos monarch's wife, errm... I believe the father passed on and I was at that burial party where I met him again.
And then they had another party for him in Ikeja that I was invited to by one Alhaji that is also from Iwo and this Alhaji was dating my friend at the time. So... my friend is also a Jamaican, so he invited us to this party, and when I arrived at this party, it was a popular Lagos monarch that actually introduced me to him again, to Oluwo again. This was gonna be our fourth time meeting now.
And this monarch was like "oh! He's a king, he's from Toronto and he doesn't have a wife and blah blah blah and it's a big glory to be Olori and we'll all be beside you, blah blah blah... And you know it's a party, we were all drinking, having fun, I had a bit too much to drink, so I went upstairs to one of their rooms and I laid down and fell asleep and like 3.00 o'clock in the morning, I woke up to find Oluwo on top of me. With my clothes, my clothes were removed, I didn't have any clothes on top of my body and Oluwo was on top of me and I started going crazy, I am just a foreigner and I don't know what... so I said "hey excuse me and he said no, "I am a king and in our culture, you don't say no to a king, and when a king extend leg to you, you must agree ,and you are going to be my wife, I am going to marry you and don't worry you are going to have a good life, blah blah blah blah...."
And you know, it's very embarrassing, and the reason I am saying this is because Oluwo has gone all around, north, south, east, west. He's telling people that I was a prostitute from Toronto, that he didn't know me , that he slept with me on the first night.
Tell the people the truth, tell them that you raped me , tell the people what happened the first night you met me.
I had too much to drink an I laid down in one of the rooms and I woke up by 3.00am and my clothes were removed and Oluwo was on top of me.
And one month later, and this was February 2nd, 2016, I will never forget this day, because this is the day my life changed drastically. (she repeats the date)
So one month later I missed my menses and I was pregnant.
So one month after I met Oluwo, I was pregnant.
Do the math, his coronation was January 16th, I met him February 2nd, my baby was born November 16th 2016.
November from February is 9 months. That's when I met Oluwo, February 2nd. He raped me and because he, listen to me Maureen, I am not gonna say I was a virgin, I was not a virgin.
But because he slept with me the first night, he raped me, the next day he said we are going to Iwo, we are going to the palace, so I went with him.
He told me to pack all my load that he's bringing me to Iwo....
I am not going to shame her or say anything to rubbish this story but she also made a mistake staying after he raped her...how dare you marry your Rapist?what kind of marriage do you hope to have?I dont know if this is what really happened but it is wrong that he did and it is wrong that she stayed...
I listened to the audio and I dunno what to make of it.
ReplyDeleteLet me go anon on this . The first time I had sexual at 25 , it was a close frnd of mine that raped me! He knew I liked him and him so he had the perfect bait ! The day it happened he apologized to me etc. a week later I was in his house again . We had sex, this time he wanted to ‘make it up to me’. Guess what if this guy had asked me to marry him I probably might have. But deep down I knew it’s totally wrong to marry an abuser! After d second encounter Nd seeing he was very manipulative I broke off whatever rubbish was going on .we have heard of many stories of how men rape women and the women marry them, there is a physiological word for it I can’t remmber but it happens ! Very well! You will be shocked to hear some stories mehn! I believe her especially with the way he behaves like a tout . It’s very possible he did . However she should never have married him , such unions are doomed to fail except they genuinely find Jesus and in this case they dint .
DeleteAbeg next!!!
DeleteI dont even know what to make of this story. I have been raped by a male colleague and friend before and till this day i hate him. He's asked me out for long but i always refused and said we should just be friends. He had lured me to his house with the excuse i shld come and help him with wrapping his wedding stuff since it is my side hustle.
DeleteI only complied because of my life,no one knew where i was,we went to his house together after work and the way he pushed me and tore my clothes and raped me i knew he could strangle me.
I was calm till he dropped me home. Then i called him and started cursing and threatening him. The next day his parents came to beg my parents so i wont carry it to the police. I said i wont but he must resign from that office cos i never want to see him again. And he agreed.
So for this lady to even follow her rapist home and later marry him i dont know. But i have been told it happens.
My rapist last time i saw him at an event,i could see the fear in his eyes. The hatred i have for him cant go. He couldnt even raise his head throughout the event because of shame.
All the way from Canada, she somehow "ran" into this man 4 times in a short period. He "raped" her but the next day, she packed her belongings and began living with him. No mention of a job/business/life she had to return to. Something is wrong with this story...
DeleteForgot to add that this rapist made me swear that i was going to be his girlfriend and i agreed because how violent this guy had been if i didnt say yes he may have killed me. So i understand this Queens story at that angle. Have it in my that this my rapist was preparing for his marriage while doing this. And if i started threatening him that i will tell the world he could have killed me. I waited for him to drop me off before i cld even do anything.
DeleteSome men are animals. I could sense it wasnt his first rape. Please bvs if a guy you dont like is asking you out dont make mistake of going anywhere with him. This bastard knew i will never follow him home he had to use lie.
If i were the judge assigned to this case, I will dismiss the case as frivolous. Everything she described above is a description of a prostitute in our culture no too way about it. An you were obviously a party to your ow abuse.
DeleteAnon it’s called Stockholm syndrome. Anyway Olori u are a runs girl. U ran well and hooked a big fish and now he doesn’t want u again u are angry. Cut ur loses and leave. Ur story doesn’t make sense
DeleteThis oba is the real defination of your highness, confirmed weed smoker, caught on video smoking a joint.
DeleteAnyone who lives in Canada knows how Toronto girls are, awon big time runs girls 💪🏾👏🏾. Dem full Toronto.
DeletePerson wey know say dem arrange am for the Oba, make she talk true jare.
Nonsense, birds of the same feather.
Abeg, make we talk another thing 🥴😏. Weve got the pandemic and 1million boys to deal with at the moment
Anon.15:25,I am so sorry for all you went through. Hugs and kisses from me to you.
DeleteThis is what a Runs Girl Memo looks like:
DeleteStalk a man of influence wherever he goes.
Send Dms and nudes on Gram and Facebook.
Retweet his coughs and laughs until he notices you.
Attend all parties he attends and make sure he sees you at everyone.
Keep your greedy eyes on him alone and smile seductively to him alone.
Lure him to a room and pretend to be drunk whilst wearing revealing dresses.
Open your greedy legs but pretend to be deep in slumber.
Meanwhile your fellow runs girl couldn't find you. If possible, snore loudly like a locomotive train. This is what long throat causes. You wanted to be a queen so badly you followed a man that had just poured his syphilitic semen inside you to Iwo; a small town you've never been to. If he wanted to use you for sacrifice, he could have done so.
After being 'raped' you ended up getting pregnant after one hurried fuck. The dude is a yahoo boy and behaves true to type. Crying after the deed is like wanting your cake after eating it. Spare us this tale by sunlight and cash in on the Olori title like your fellow runs girl, ex queen Zaynab Otiti of Ile-Ife. Unbeknownst to you, yahoo boys and money miss road men would pay millions to fuck a former authentic Olori.
Ask Zaynab on modus operandi. Good luck. #COPIED
Big lie. You did not meet him in Nigeria. You meet him abroad. We say all your pictures together b4 d coronation.
DeleteHe raped her, but she still went ahead and married him? Wehdon ma. Stupid people everywhere.
ReplyDeleteShe is not stupid anon it happens all over the world .very well
DeleteIt happens. I used to have a friend who was raped by a friend and then after d guy begged she went back to collect the one with consent
DeleteIt is called Stockholm Syndrome... read it up. Be with your rapist out of affection borne out of fear.
Delete"Went bk to collect the one with consent" 😂😂😂😂 kokolet forgive me for laughing.
DeleteWhich Stockholm? Abi she was a stalker of a King for marriage ?
DeleteTales of bitter exes.
ReplyDeleteHmm mm,orisirisi things
ReplyDeleteIf that's what truly happened then I blame her too for going with him the next day to his palace and I guess the things she saw, the way they treated her made her marry him if not I don't see the reason why she married someone that raped her
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmm. So much going on....
ReplyDeleteThings are really happening. Should have just exposed him right after that. What??
ReplyDeleteShe won't be able to cos it never happened, I don't like the Oluwo king but this story? I have my doubts
DeleteI believe her...the man looks like he get down like that. Chanel C count your loss and move on
ReplyDeleteWhich kain akukuo be this? With the waka waka up and down plus drinking to rape you didn't make public but because there's a fall out we won't hear word. I hope these people think before going online to spill. I was so bored like who says this and claim rape. Women too rape men abeg swerve.
ReplyDeleteShe was taken by the fame and money,
ReplyDeleteThey are both birds of the same feather.
You are responsible for your actions,someone you barely know,he raped you and you still married him,after raping you,he asked you to follow him and you did.
So many cracks in this story
Exactly, they are birds of the same feather
DeleteShe come to do Lagos Party
DeleteHow do we believe people who talk from both sides of their mouth? Yesterday he was the love of your life and today he is a rapist?
ReplyDeleteYou went ahead and married him. This sordid detail about your relationship wouldn't have come to light if y'all were still together.
ReplyDeleteMa'am, there's no point in shaming her now. No point.
Delete14:43 she ain't much different from the man, where's the shaming?
Delete"You went ahead and married him. This sordid detail about your relationship wouldn't have come to light if y'all were still together".
DeleteReallyyyy? perxian Learn to comprehend next time.
She brought the matter to light because he called her a prostitute and he went further to say, she was so loose she gave herself to him the first night. She is defending herself from the derogatory name he called her. She is upset that how could he say all that about her knowing fully well he raped her. SIMPLE!!!! So how is she nd the man same in character.
Perxian! No one is an expert in everything. Heard about psychological defects? . You don’t know how different people respond to trauma. Pray it doesn’t come close you.
DeleteThis small time you spent in Nigeria your accent is already Nigerianised... or was that done for the benefit of the listeners...
ReplyDeleteYou noticed too?
DeleteWhat a disgraceful king and queen
Melancholy
No my dearest don't say so,some Creole people easily adopt Nigerian accents,my coming to Nigeria while everyone around will be calling me abroad baby my father always make fun that I am speaking phonetized ajegunle English and not proper English
DeleteI will use Anon.to say this l had a child hood friend that married her rapist no big deal.
ReplyDeleteKobe and Vanessa Bryant kind of had something like that, she was under aged when Kobe met and had sex with her, hence he was forced to marry her or face the law.
Hence a minute after Vanessa clocked 18 K9be wifed her.......long story.
Lie small now they got married 4 years later.google is your friend
DeleteThey were both wrong, you woke up and met him and top of you and all you could say was 'hey excuse me and he said no, "I am a king and in our culture, you don't say no to a king, and when a king extend leg to you, you must agree ,and you are going to be my wife, I am going to marry you and don't worry you are going to have a good life, blah blah blah blah...."
ReplyDeleteYou didn't even try to fight back and worst off you followed him to I would the next day SMH lady C I out it to you that you came for the marriage, you had it all planned, next post please.
"You didn't even try to fight back"
DeleteDid it cross your mind that she might have been drugged and afterwards threatened?
That clown-king is a renowned lout.
Tried to fight back? Hope unrealised people react differently.
DeleteDont ever question anyone that dint fight back during rape. I watch special victims unit (NCIS), a lot of people go into shock, some even reach orgasm... No one expects to react how they do, in that moment alot goes through ones mind, you cant say what you will do, its not a script.
DeletePeople marry their rapist out of shame sef so dont judge.
Don’t ever believe only one side of the story. She’s a runs girl that has been dumped. Period!!! Her Jamaican friend was also dating one Alhaji from iwo??? They are all international runs girls and she struck gold. She’s just bitter she has lost out.
DeleteChai...I fear a lot of Nigerians. How can a woman that is being raped cry back?
DeleteSo if Armed Robber come to your own house...put a gun to your head, you will talk back abi?
And yes...people that rape are worse than armed robbers!
CM
Anon 17.06 .....and our Nigerian big men like any kind of FOREIGN woman. That's why she was all over the parties with her friend
DeleteI am not surprise. I have a friend who dated a guy that raped her. She spent the night at his house because it was raining heavily that night. That was how the stupid guy took advantage of her. When i Confronted him about that the incident, he apologize and blamed his act on alcohol. Funny thing is they dated for 4 years till she broke up with him because he became possessive and always beating her whenever she receives calls from other guys. He is married now with Kids but he still sent money to my friend once in awhile. He even got my friend her present job. Saw the guy sometime last year at shoprite and he told me he miss my friend and he can't never forget her. The guy nor dey use my friend matter play.
ReplyDeleteFrom the start I almost thought its my friend's story. It happens for real
DeleteAnd you didnt tell him off and tell him to carry his nonsense away from you....
DeleteIf this is true, then I don't really understand why she took the decision to marry him.
ReplyDeleteOlowo of Owo has entered one chance, this lady will expose him to heaven and back to earth. Is she not a Jamaican, Jamaicans are not Naija women that'll keep quiet just to protect the throne.
ReplyDeleteWho has heard anything from Ooni's ex wife?
All these imported escorts.
ReplyDeleteAlhaji dating your friend.
I laugh in Toronto.
My sentiment exactly 14:25.
DeleteThat's how people go about collecting and disturbing viruses up and down.
Lemme continue minding my fish pepper before I am accused of shaming the victim so called.
Biko post oh.
Most Jamaican caregivers in Canada are caregivers for their day job and prostitutes at night. I was shocked when one of the Jamaican caregivers told me the story because she was fighting with her colleagues. Turns out she was also prostituting...
DeleteCan you send some pepper soup over here please. And please escort it with a bottle of chilled malt.
DeleteCan you send some pepper soup over here please. And please escort it with a bottle of chilled malt.
DeleteYou really caught the drift.Let me break it down for Stella and her readers as I have had a first hand experience with one of these girls.
DeleteIn the days of oil bloom during Jonathan's time.Around late 2013 and when Instagram was becoming popular in Nigeria,a lot of these girls especially those with Caribbean roots(Jamaica,T&T,Barbados etc) in UK,US and Canada started flooding Nigeria for their share of the oil money flowing.Word was on the streets in the strip clubs especially NY was that thousand of dollars are being doled out by some affluent Nigerians. A street wise girl could make about USD50k for a week's fully paid trip. Contd
Yeepa please for my sake give my blood sisters small bashing, our DNA is highly Nigerian ,I highly believe Igbo because I love Igbo culture passionately, while I love other Nigerian cultures seductively.
DeleteAnon. 16.28.... that was when South African girls with georeesque backsides were routinely imported into Imo State By Ohakim.and others . .....and then the craze for foreign girls in Nigerian music videos followed
DeleteHe raped you and you still married him???Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteI believe her, that king is controversial for the wrong reasons. This is not the first time I have heard of a rapist ending up with their victim, strange, but it happens!
DeleteThese two deserve each other, embarrassing and disgracing themselves from naija to the abroad.
Melancholy
I wish I could understand it but I guess it's complicated. A friend if not for this corona outbreak should be preping for her wedding later this year. Sometime last year, she told me she was raped by her boyfriend one particular night. She said she had to go to pharmacy even because she was in severe pain. I was shocked but they are preparing for wedding this year. I think of her sometimes and I try to wrap my head around it but she kept saying ‘it's complicated’
DeleteMake I recount wetin I read here o, (in case I did not understand, let ndi uta explain to me...) 😊
ReplyDelete"I introduced myself to him first time..."
"We met again and I introduced myself to him..." second time
"At a party...the Alhaji introduced me to him, he doesn't have a wife, needs a wife, it is glorious to be his wife..."
"I introduced myself to him again and again and again... and drank too much alcohol and went upstairs to sleeps..." 😮😮😮
Wawu, no be pursuit and proposal she carry dey pursue this dude so?
Okwa sincere ajuju o 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Even "go between' don show begin dey propose join o
Ehhhhhrrrrr.
And after the "rape," you now carry belle waka go say I do and now wetin you wan make we
carry this ya yarn do?
Ndi be anyi dey talk say dude wey drink ogogoro like fish dey end for gutter,
but Sisi wey drink alcohol like fish, na her toh😮😮 fit be the gutter o.
Yarns mics. dropped for ndi uta o... 🎤🎤🎤
You have to understand that most people, to try to live with the abuse find a way to rationalise it.
DeleteShe may have had to convince herself since they'd met before, it was just "sex". He may also have apologised, blamed it on alcohol, told her he loved her, and proposed.
Of course, it then becomes easier to marry him than to live with the emotional torture that comes with being raped.
Anon pls spare me the "it becomes easier to marry him than to live with the emotional torture" If it was a bricklayer that raped her, would she have married him?
DeleteBut he was not a bricklayer!
Delete@Rainbow
DeleteEzigbote ajuju n'ese okwu
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Anon 14:14 you're saying rubbish.
DeleteThank you Rainbow
DeleteANG AJUJU.
DeleteYou have solved the riddle and puzzle well. You spoke well from your point of view.
Some matters are too complicated to understand.
That's why a wise person should first flee from all appearances of evil or look alike. This OLORI tales is unfortunate. Lots of broken souls for different reasons. Sorry ex-olori.
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ReplyDeleteNo offense but I believe this lady was a runs girl. I work in a Nigerian Embassy abroad and I tell you that the hustle for non-Nigerians abroad to catch a Nigerian rich man is real. The Jamaican friend who was dating the Alhaji must have brought her with the sole reason for her to catch a rich man too. Nigerian rich men are hot cakes for these ladies and they go about seeking the connection themselves. So she must have been a runs babe who came as a tourist to catch a big fish.
ReplyDeleteHe raped you and you married him? Or you set yourself up?
Hmmmm! 🤔🤔🤔
DeleteMelancholy
Gbam @14.35. You go school. That was what happened. Na runs she come do
DeleteBut all these you wrote was not a good enough reason for her to get raped
DeleteYou spoke my mind !@ anon14:35
DeleteSee the way she was pursuing up and down(met him 4times) till she finally caught his attention
Your head dey there. When I saw we met, I met, she kept on turning up like a spirit around that man. Then Alhaji, and all. Except you are not exposed. This is runs in its highest. He was the target.
DeleteThank you Anon. I had a boss once that used to import them from all over the world. There was no type of international prostitute that I did not see with this my two corocoro eyes.
DeleteShe came to do runs but it turned awry. The King however is a known tout.
God help both of them.
Hmmmmmmmmmm,ok bye
ReplyDeleteHmmmm🚶🚶🚶
ReplyDeleteThey are both opportunists, she came to Naija for runs not “tourism” thought she caught a big fish. He was VERY wrong if he raped her. He wanted a foreign Olori, at the end they both were never meant for each other and their motives going in was just wrong. I wish her all the best in raising her son.
ReplyDeleteSo many things do not add up in this story. You both are birds of a feather.
ReplyDeleteThe guy seems to take the medal for the most despicable traditional ruler in Nigeria. That's why I detest monarchy. An imbecile will just wait in the wings to assume sovereignty and dictate people's lives. In as much as I know a lot of women tend to talk shit after a breakup, there's just too much filth, controversy and razzmatazz around this guy not to believe her. This guy is a typical oshodi motor park tout.
ReplyDeleteEeyah. What a pity. Take heart and move on.
ReplyDeleteIf this is true then it is most rather unfortunate..Chanel sorry about this that you had to be raped it doesnt matter if you are a virgin, runsgirl or whatever..What he did if it is true is very bad and i will advise this case has its day in court provided you have evidence..I pray for God's healing over your life..Take solace that you have a beautiful daughter na wa oh..
ReplyDeleteThe foundation of the union is faulty going by this story...How can you as a Royalty pick a bride this way....
ReplyDeleteI think she lies a lot. Incoherent stories.
ReplyDeleteGbam!!!!!
DeleteIja de lorin do owe.He raped you and you Couldn’t report him but got married to him Instead but because you guys have issues now,you’re shouting he raped you.i don’t like this Olu iwo but this story makes no sense..
ReplyDeleteThings happening
ReplyDeleteThey were both players. She wanted the fame and money while he wanted the 'oyibo' wife. About the rape, well I wasn't in room with them
ReplyDeleteMake she shut the fuck up.
ReplyDeleteNo one cares about her epistle, they are not longer married.
Why not say all this before she married him.
Ija de, lorin dowe.
Both of them are not alright.
ReplyDeleteAbegi park one side biko
ReplyDeleteAnd she ended up with a man that raped her? Why is she telling us now? Anyhow people
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo. Rape is a strong allegation but why would she marry a rapist?? Rape is a huge crime in her country except maybe she likes the idea of being an olori. Well what do I know??
ReplyDeleteThey deserve each other, one wanted quick sex, the other loved the fame & money. The man shouldn't have called her a proustite, she was his wife no matter what & madam needed to defend herself too.
ReplyDeleteEvents has overtaken the story....sorry lady!!
ReplyDeleteAnd this is the right time to talk about it?
ReplyDeleteMove on Sister.
A friend of mine married the guy that raped her so it's possible.
Thank God I did not blast the guy when she came to complain to me.
I believe her story...don't judge...shameless man married his victim to cover his crime.....but ur yansh still came out...
ReplyDeleteI can’t tell if this woman is telling the truth.
ReplyDeleteHowever, for those asking how a rape victim can marry their rapist, there’s such a thing and rape fantasy and the bonding from rape can be almost impossible to break.
Also, one of the reasons why rape bonding occurs is because many of these victims are adventure junkies. The more spontaneous and crazy a guy is, the wetter their coochie becomes. And raping rates quite highly on the adventure/adrenaline scale.
Once had an ex that confessed to me that she wanted me to rape her occasionally. I was flabbergasted. Rape you so I can appear on crime fighters abi instablog? 😆
This is classic BDSM and entirely different; the difference is choice.
DeleteI like to be forced and treated like a whore during sex with the man I love. We understand it's just a role. It's my choice to take that role.
Do you think that means I would want to be raped by some lunatic out there? Hell no!
Please, there's BDSM and there's rape!!
Anon, Rambo surely knows the difference between RAPE and BDSM. Don't put words in his mouth biko.
DeleteHi my Bdsm friend. Wasup. I married a man that doesn’t know I love bdsm everyday I’ll be looking for his troubles so he can beat me wosai guyman go just dey avoid me . I enjoy violent sex too
DeleteSiddon there na. People who aren’t into BDSM that are bonded to their rapists nko? Why did the 50 Shades trilogy sell billions? 😁
DeleteIs every woman that enjoy the 50 shades books into BDSM? Dey dia.
Just a thought, perhaps, those whose first introduction to violent sex was through rape may later become addicted to and fetishized that form of sexual expression. So, your BDSM angle may have some merit. Still, for many rape victims bonded to their rapists, the thought of enjoying violent sex may never have existed or may have been severely latent before the rape experience
DeleteHey anon 20:19, Yeah, I understand, girl. We should create a group. Lol.
DeleteSeriously though, I think you should tell him. My partner is as gentle as they come too, but he hits me during sex and chokes me because he knows I like it.
Tell him, he might surprise you.
Men! Do better for your daughters. A father gives his daughter the first taste of power in a patriarchal system. She learns from him that power must be tender. That being bigger or stronger does not equate being a bully. The way he pampers her and gently talks to her should contrast the way the mother disciplines her so she has confidence, class and knows she won't take SH*t from any man. The father-daugther bond should be so strong that she would even seem snobbish to foolish men and extremely choosy about who she will hang out with, date or marry. She learns from him what she should take and what she must reject from outside. This is why many men, even few abusers don't hit their female children or yell at them. The father's example would show the sons that they must be gentle and protective of their sisters/ women and instead of getting violent with them, they would rather report them to their parents. Even a womanising bully like Donald Trump clearly adores his daughter Ivanka. A good father would never allow you to take the rubbish your mum endures. The love he shows her would not even let her be desperate for marriage to the extent of seeing someone like this 🤡 king and settling to hang out.
ReplyDeleteI remember in school when a certain guy had a messy breakup with a girl and started running his mouth. The next day, her two brothers came to school and rushed him into a toilet away from CCTV cameras. The man that left that toilet would never insult any woman again. Even their sister was pitying him. Another Swedish/ Lebanese guy posted a cryptic insult of an ex on Facebook and there was radio silence. What we heard next was that that lady's brothers flew in and suited up to receive him at the airport when he landed to resume the new session. Their welcome party did DAMAGE. These guys actually took time out of their summer to come and give him a crash course on respect. No wonder the girl didn't even seem moved when he thought he was the only one with a laptop.
This woman's story oozes bad judgement, desperation and drama. She was indeed a perfect match for the oluwo as they are very alike in nature. Perhaps like poles repel.
Why the hell would a grown ass woman get drunk at a party with strangers in a strange land? She didn't visit any tourist site, just looking for a rich dick to hook and live off of. No business or job under her belt, no plans to use her network to blow in Nigeria, just looking for flesh dealers🤦. Her friend is a sidepiece of an alhaji who brought her down to Naija to find advertise her body and the Elegushi then pimped her to a drug addict. Please how is her story different from the man she is condemning today? Do upon all the crown she was wearing and drugs and drunkenness she was covering, the oluwo was still pinning every skirt and even some boxers. Gosh! The ratchet-ness...
Gbam...
DeleteYou said it all.
Aptly said.😍😍😍
I believe the lady's claim. The man is mad (Oluwo) and an obvious junkie. The alhaji was probably Ogundokun who at his age and with his political history has turned out to be quite an agbaya. The same old man previously revealed that the oluwo, after having slept with all the females in his palace and some of the males, physically brutalized one of the male palace staff who turned him down for backyard s*x. This is the same oluwo that was claiming he is blameless before God concerning his marriage and that Corona would disappear in a week in his state that now has about 20 cases.
ReplyDeleteA woman's choices have consequences. What the hell where you thinking getting drunk and sleeping in a stranger's house in a lawless land? What were you looking for at these parties that you couldn't find in the safety of the museum's across Nigeria? If ten of these guys had beat you up, torn your clothes, raped you and slit your neck after, which police would arrest them? What business did you start in your years with this f*ckboy, king of druggies? The woman had strong emotional baggage that would explain her penchant for self sabotage and wrong decisions.
Rubbish
ReplyDeleteStella, I dated a man that raped me. He raped me the 2nd time we met (1st time we were alone together). He saw me at a party, and realized that we knew someone in common, my in laws friend. So when the friend called me and said his friend liked me and could he give my number, I agreed. We spoke for a few weeks and he invited me to a get together at his house. I went there because other people were there and it was "safe." Well he slipped something in my drink, a flavored seltzer water and when I woke up he was penetrating me on his couch and everyone was gone. I tried to push him off but I had no control of my body. My spirit left my body, I watched myself get raped. When I finally woke up, he apologized and said he couldn't help it. I should have gone to the police but I went home and had the hottest shower and cried. The next day my in laws friend called me and said that his friend liked me and was in love with me after last night and I kept talking and laughing with him when they left. I didn't say anything but after a week, i realized he had "marked" me and everyone knew he had sex with me. They just didn't know it was rape. We lived in Atlanta and this was 20 years ago, the Naija community was small, so I continued to see him for a year because I was ashamed and everyone knew. A year later he wanted to marry me but his mom said he couldn't marry an Igbo girl and the relationship ended.
ReplyDeleteI think people marry their rapists. I would have