Na wah................
https://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2019/09/chronicle-of-blog-visitor-narrative_14.html?m=1
Remember me? I used my story below to reply so you can remember. You were right. My marriage is over and I wasn't prepared for it. So we had an agreement for a divorce and she said she will move out March this year. I stayed away from the house since January this year till she moved out because we signed an agreement to stay away from each other. But to my surprise she changed the locks and sent me a message that she is staying and I should be the one to move out.
I paid for the rent but I cant be fighting this woman whom I still love. I tried everything and to be honest i take all the blame for my marriage not working.
The problem was all finance. She borrowed money for our wedding and she was heavily in debt despite me telling her to reduce the budget. She insisted she had some money. She earns more than me so she was always in control. She gets angry quickly but I don't see it as a problem. So one day I got fed up and I verbally abused her, I went for anger mgt class but she never forgave me. I'm all to blame.
The problem was all finance. She borrowed money for our wedding and she was heavily in debt despite me telling her to reduce the budget. She insisted she had some money. She earns more than me so she was always in control. She gets angry quickly but I don't see it as a problem. So one day I got fed up and I verbally abused her, I went for anger mgt class but she never forgave me. I'm all to blame.
I regret all I said. And I'm totally depressed. I rented a temporary place in oniru and I'm suffering it as I cant cook. I accept all the insults from the readers because I'm totally at fault. I should have handled it well. She said shes done. I washed her plates even when she doesn't cook for me and clean the house.
Now I'm out of the house, I have a lawyer but I dont want to fight this. She has threatened me to stay away and had told people that shes done. It's a consequence I have suffered and I'm on zero naira hoping my company will pay so I can move on and get a better place.
I'm sorry we men misbehave. It's a very hard lesson. When I watch movies i think of her. I have to face this fact. All my stuff are still in that house. After I verbally abused her last year she chased me with a knife. She claims she still sleeps with a knife. Pain is most probably the best teacher
Now I'm out of the house, I have a lawyer but I dont want to fight this. She has threatened me to stay away and had told people that shes done. It's a consequence I have suffered and I'm on zero naira hoping my company will pay so I can move on and get a better place.
I'm sorry we men misbehave. It's a very hard lesson. When I watch movies i think of her. I have to face this fact. All my stuff are still in that house. After I verbally abused her last year she chased me with a knife. She claims she still sleeps with a knife. Pain is most probably the best teacher
Thanks alot for the advice. God bless.
*Chai!!!...This update broke my heart....Maybe you should work harder and get a job and try to help her offset the loan she took for the wedding so that she can at least forgive you.....
Hmmmmm. How about your children?
ReplyDeleteNo kids between you two?
No kids. I dont even know what to do. Whether to fight this leaving the house or allow it. I want peace and I love her but shes a tough one
DeleteWaiting for the backlash from the readers. It's my post. I am learning and this is a wake up call.
DeleteHmmm no words Udo diri gi
DeleteHe didn't mention kids and I think it's a good thing if they don't have yet. The guy reeks of weakness. Pity me, pity me, yen yen yen. I don't like weak people. He fell in love with a frivolous woman. Terrible combination.
DeleteYes poster, man up and quite the pity party. Get a job and side hustle and be a man. When you "arrive", pray for wisdom to recognise, win and marry a real woman not a stupid air-headed slay-queen. Good luck.
@Don did you forget to go anon? So this is how you are in real life? I am not suprised tho. I hope you've learnt your lessons
DeletePoster you have changed your I'd again?
DeleteHian poster na wa!!!! Dust yourself and prove her wrong. Let her know you aren't a failure and excel. Grant her the divorce, dust yourself and move on. Hian, you go marry high class babe. Your next wife should be level headed.
DeleteIf u have been married and want to make it work u will be in d same situation. Mind u I'm the one who posted it. It's all good. Diss me as a weakling. I have a job and I know I have to push harder. I cant say what I have been doing lay low. I'm an IT person so I do side stuff.when a guy takes all d blame it's because he wants it to work
DeletePoster I know you very well your name starts with A and your wife F.You are to blame. Full stop
DeleteIt’s so funny how women on this blog just give opinions to favour their fellow women almost all the time.
DeleteNo matter what this poster write, people will still say it’s not the full story.. but if this came from a woman we will all blame the man.
The woman has done so wrong. Yes you don’t want the marriage again but sending him out of his own house is the worst thing than can ever happen. If this guy is one rich guy and after wedding he wants out and he did all what this woman is doing are we still going to say the wife is weak and full of pity hence we advise her to woman up????
Think about it
My dear you will pull through this. When the lockdown is over please look for Jesus Discipleship Fellowship God will use it to help you. It wasn't entirely your fault, you asked her to tone it down. See when you find the fellowship you will know what went wrong through their teachings. And by the time you will start praying yourself out of all bondages, you will come out better. There NO ONE WILL LAY HANDS ON YOU BUT YOUR DELIVERANCE WILL BE HAPPENING THROUGH THEIR WONDERFUL TEACHINGS AND YOUR MIDNIGHT PRAYERS WHICH IS EVERY NIGHT WILL BE THE ICING ON YOUR CAKE. Don't despair God is for you ok?
DeleteDon???? It can't be the same DON nah
DeleteMy dear you will pull through this. When the lockdown is over please look for Jesus Discipleship Fellowship. God will use the fellowship to bless you. It wasn't entirely your fault. After all you asked her to tone it down a bit but she refused. When you find the fellowship you will truelly understand what went wrong through their teachings. By the time you start applying what you will be taught, life will become easier. NO ONE WILL LAY HANDS ON YOU BUT YOUR DELIVERANCE WILL BE HAPPENING THROUGH THEIR WONDERFUL TEACHINGS AND YOUR MIDNIGHT PRAYERS WHICH WILL BE EVERY NIGHT WILL BE YOUR ICING ON THE CAKE. Don't despair, God is with you. FYI it's not a church.
DeleteSorry poster if my comment hit you at the wrong spot. I was angry you let her put you in such position. I need you to get angry and challenged and push and make it then find and marry a woman with some substance not one who plunges her young marriage into debt to impress her fellow slay queen friends.
DeleteI didn't mean it to beat you down, bro.
Really Modella?
DeleteNo wonder... I was wondering why Don suddenly added "tm" to his name all of a sudden and wrote his name in caps down there some minutes later🧐
Modella, it can't be me, can't be this dull like the poster. Cookie, no be me o.
Delete😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜
Ask those that know me, if there's anything detest in my life, "it's explanation"
🤣🤣🤣 so you think a man going through divorce and all these stressful situation will have time to be looking for how to open a real blog ID because he wants to comment today @cookie. Reason am now😅 and he will use a name that is not even his real name when he could have just commented in plastic ID with the name "POSTER" like most chronicle writers do.
DeleteStella don't let me find this comment oooh😂. Don Don 🐅 online but a puppy 🐶 offline.
How can y'all think that's Don? Smh
DeleteYou are very manipulative,and Very Immature obviously seek pity party,these characteristics disgust me as a reader how much more Ur wife.I mean it.Don't worry u will definitely have some fans who will take Ur side
DeleteI do not think this woman ever loved you. Even if she wants out of the marriage, why send you out of your own house and change the locks?
ReplyDeleteShe was probably after getting the 'mrs' title and couldn't take it when the heat came on.
She didn't love him at all. Na money dey insult person shaa imagine if the poster is doing well am sure the marriage will still be intact.
DeleteThank you Twins Squared. If this is the true picture, this woman never loved you. My husband had financial issues after few years in marriage. This situation was on for 8years and I was solely financing the home. I also had to deal with emotions here, depression, anger etc. I can tell you it is not easy, but with love, there is nothing that we can't overcome.
DeleteThere are days I get angry with the situation, sick, frustrated and tired. But I understood that I need to be strong for him. My go to pillar for strength are these words in Corinthians about love:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails.
Thank God we are over that now. I know his net worth to the last penny because he doesn't hide his finances from me, just because of the sacrifice I made out of love. People wonder why he loves and showers me with the best money can buy.
I am not saying you must suffer with a man to prove your love. In marriage shit happens, would you stand by your vows or not??
Hmmmmm,there's a tiny tiny line between love and hate.All the best to you both
ReplyDeleteIt’s over, uncle move on. Draw close to God & Better luck next try!
ReplyDeleteLawyer ? It better be pro bono as I do not understand how you say you are on zero Naira and mentioning such.
THis story still looks funny, this woman loved u so much she borrowed money to finance the wedding ? She knew u were not a dangote ba, y d change ? This one u r accepting faults so easy are u sure this is d complete story ? Cos if the woman writes in now she can scatter this ur storybut oh well I wish yal d best .
ReplyDeleteExactly. Something is not right with this story. He is accepting faults he isn't sharing. The part about her chasing him with a knife, I Do not entirely believe. He probably assaulted her and she tried defending herself. Oga don't worry. Go and rest. You still had money to get a place at oniru.
DeleteLekki big girl jams struggling guy.
ReplyDeleteMarries him with her money and expected a puppet.
Unfortunately guy man wanted to man up without finances to back him.
Alas!
YOU ARE SMART!!
DeleteMore like, man Did not go for his level . Now he is crying
DeleteYOU ARE ALSO SMART!! ALL OF THE ABOVE.
DeleteWicked and inconsiderate wife from hellllllll
ReplyDeletePoster let me tell u d bitter truth, ones u can't provide for the family it becomes an issue it becomes a great problem when an independent woman become a debtor in ur house after marriage. Dat anger is sometin else.I know so bcos i am also going tru dis. I will advice u to follow stella's advice. Try and offset d debt and relieve her of dat burden and see ur wife comeback to u.
ReplyDeleteOga stop beating yourself, the deed as been done and I know why you're saying all this because you're broke right now.
ReplyDeleteMove the fuck on and stop whining a baby, she doesn't want you again, probably she doesn't even love you, maybe you're the one that was and still in love.
Be a man and step up.
But you said you’re the poster now you’ve changed mouth again no wonder you’re always bitter and angry @DON
DeleteHow I detest men that whine.
DeleteLike Don said, move on. Life is not over.
No need fighting her, pray for restoration and stop blaming yourself for everything.
Are you the only broke man alive?
I pray you get a good job.
Sluttychic.
Anon 17:25 you be fool.
DeleteThis woman Never loved you oh .I married my husband and he didn't even have a car,our acct balance together after wedding was like 100k but dude is smart and hard-working .Me too i am hardworking and smart .I never for once looked down on him .hanhan this is not nice and are just one year and 1mth in Marriage and our story is different all thanks to God .He got a better job and we are building our own house .yes one year!!!Dude this babe never loved you period!!!She did a loud wedding to make pple believe they have .mtcheee .My wedding was son Friday.Friends sent me mssgs to say they'll be at work and won't attend ..In my mind I was happy because that was the plan .only 30pple came for my wedding .Poster I am soooo sorry for what you are going through .Please do not feel depressed I beg you .Pray and try to forget her .Look for something to do too .God hears prayers he will bless you .Amen
ReplyDeleteI wish I could update mine but found out he has joined Stella's blog. It was messy. Remember the Chronicle of the entitled husband that wanted money to expand his biz?
ReplyDeleteI remember...Please send an update. How did you handle eveeything at last?
DeleteIf you were telling the truth, why are you afraid because he's here?
Delete@anon 16:09...thought you left?? Ahh so u didn’t leave??
Deleteoga u are nt at fault, she insulted you and you insulted her back, its balanced. becos of finance she couldn't bear
ReplyDeleteOga move on and stop being a sissy jare. She used jazz for u ni?? We all get angry and say things..move on, find another pussy
ReplyDeleteThis guy is a sissy. If I know him in real life, I would have slap him.
DeleteBlaming himself on top of rubbish.
Instead of him to move on and make money bsnd forget the woman, he's whining about.
She don rubbish you, keep quiet and move on like nothing happened.
Don shout up and stop pretending... coward
Delete😂🤣🤪.gbam! 22:05
DeletePoster, you sound manipulative. Stop seeking pity by sounding pathetic and supposedly remorseful. How come you didn’t add all this information in your first chronicle? You painted her as a bad woman and wife.
ReplyDeleteSingle women on this blog be careful don’t think of this poster as a good man dealing with a bad wife. You’ll fall for his manipulative self and get into an abusive relationship or marriage with him if you do.
How did he paint the woman in the first Chronicle bad? Thank God the link is up there. Wicked woman with a bitter heart
DeleteAwwwww... Her unforgiving spirit is the die hard one...This kind of woman you need to get someone she respects a lot to talk to her. She's resenting you for leading her into a marriage with financial Wahala.
ReplyDeleteThis is sad but it's not over until its over. Poster there's hope
ReplyDeleteStella is so correct on this. Oga you have to off set her debts for her to be normal again because right now she is going through alot. Truth be told i cant get wet for a man that doesn't hold up to 70%of his responsiblities
ReplyDeleteOffset ko, Cardi ni.
DeleteIf you like listening to this and not help yourself first.
did the man ask her to borrow, she wants to peper them with big wedding,now her debtors will pepper, that woman already has someone cruising her already
DeleteOff sett what? Did she not know the man's pocket before the wedding? Wedding is not marriage, now marriage don set she dey run. Get it moving poster she don't deserve you.
DeleteThat guy caused this.I dont understand Nija guys.When you are dating a babe,let her know your financial status.Let her know you are struggling or not financially buoyant enough instead of doing big boy and taking her to club,restaurants,etc and showing off.If you keep on showing off till you get married,she will think you are rich.
DeleteInstead of you to plan with her when still dating.When you get married,you can continue planning together.Nija guys believe that wen they are dating you,they can spend on you but wen they get married, you should understand their financial status as if it's easy.Let her know from the onset
of course he did n thats why she had to borrow to finance the wedding.From the weite up the man didnr deceive her
DeleteWho borrow money do wedding, na by force, who she wan impressed ?
DeleteThat's her problem unless the poster told her to help him borrow money for wedding, if not so, he owe her nothing.
So sorry about this. Next time avoid big wedding
ReplyDeleteWhy would he help to offset the loan when she borrowed money without his consent, refused to forgive him and the marriage is over?
ReplyDeleteThe poster might have his faults, which he has accepted but she is clearly not ready for marriage.
It's really sad but move on and don't rush into another relationship,take time to work on your finances and attitude.
Bitch please, that's what she is! Abusive, manipulative, controlling bitch! If she borrowed for her wedding so? Please try to untangle yourself from this Web she has woven for you called love, pick yourself and move on. You will find yourself a better woman who will appreciate you. She does not deserve you, if all you have said about your situation is true.
ReplyDeleteWhy did she do a high budget wedding when it's easy to just pay bride price and go to court to legalize.... All these show off women... Imagine u told her to reduce budget, she said no and borrowed money for a high profile wedding and she's blaming you for her debt!!! Who send her. She's definitely not a WIFE PERSON
ReplyDeleteThis is pretty sad. Is there any way you guys can still sort things out?
ReplyDeleteOne quick question, was it just the loan that she couldn't offset that made her this angry towards you? Or did you tell her you father is Dangote or Otedollar?
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm
Sorry poster I do feel for you. Try not to fall into depression, you still love this woman. Do the little you can for now by getting a job first, arrange your life together then try offset some of the loans she borrowed. Don't allow her bear the burden alone, that might change her mind towards you (as far as she hasn't given you the divorce letter).
Don't blame yourself cos the deed has been done. Brace up and face the challenges that awaits you, you have to be strong for this so you don't break down and commit suicide bcos your marriage didnt work..thank God there is no child in between.
The Lord is your strength.
I hope we have learn from this? Let's learn to cut our cloth according to our size.
In your next marriage if you see a lady who is as extravagant like her, ran and end the relationship. Don't let anybody put you under pressure all bcos you want to impress the society that won't be there for you.
No Stella. Shebi he told her to reduce the budget but she no gree cos she wants to show off. He should move on and stop being a sissy. Man weh dey behave like woman.. stay off relationships and women for now.. Go and learn how to be a man. This should be your number one priority, instead of you bringing shame to men worldwide. You're part of the reason men get treated anyhow, encouraging toxic behaviors and shii.. Nonsense
ReplyDeleteWait!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIs Don Onynx?
I feel so sad reading this. Marriage is about commitment, love ,communication and tolerating each other knowing you are from different backgrounds. Poster please pray , give your life to Christ and ask Him to help you overcome your anger issues. Prayerfully involve your pastors or family members or other people you know she respects and let God be the head of your home. Both of you should work out how to pay the debts so that she won't feel overburdened. Than reach an agreement not to borrow money unless there is mutual consent and it is absolutely necessary. You also need to apologize for the verbal assault and she should also control herself. Imagine what will be said if she had stabbed you with the knife when she was chasing you. You guys didn't cut your coat to your size regarding the wedding expenses. Both of you really need to work on that. It is well with your marriage in Jesus name. Amen.
ReplyDeleteYou abused her verbally? How bad was it? Maybe my imagination is not wild enough but I can’t think of anything bad enough to warrant a marriage ending.
ReplyDeleteIs the woman devastated because you may not have the wherewithal to contribute to paying off the loan, a loan she insisted upon?
I still believe there is something the lady is very very mad about, you may not have identified or you just haven’t let it out, because this reaction is too extreme. Did you cheat on her?
Maybe you both are better off apart. Go get your things from the house, see if you can put up with someone until you get your bearings. The stories, both ancient and modern, are still confusing to me.
Err'body be like..be a man, be a man. Don't men hurt??
ReplyDeleteHis broke state is making y'all call him sissy and weak, would it be any better if he was rich and emotionally unavailable? He messed up, yes! But he is looking for restitution.
Bro, your marriage was built on lies. You weren't honest with your finances and you tried guilt-triping your wife by always apologizing lies after lies after lies and now she's gon take yo house for all the money you owe her in marriage.
My advice - Forget that house and move on. You ve already hit rock bottom so get up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Find your purpose and harness it. If you get your shit together, just maybe your wife will see you as a real man and take you back..if not, there's always a Queen out there for every real man. ❤
How wasn't he honest with his finances? For the woman to have borrowed money for wedding then it clearly shows he didn't have that kind of money. She went into that marriage with so many expectations thinking they will be met but they weren't,hence the anger. She would have just left the man to begin with if she couldn't manage life with him
DeleteI would never blame or judge someone who isn't here to defend herself and as you can see the woman isn't here to defend herself. But when she borrowed the money didn't you think it was to help him out? If he could handle the wedding on his own why would his woman feel the need to borrow in the first place? Why didn't he dissuade her from borrowing by telling her that he won't be able to pay back and it would be on her neck? Obviously he was okay with it and wanted to show off too. He agreed to it.
DeleteHow can a woman borrow to do a fairy tale wedding just because you want to please pple. Pls stop borrowing for wedding. Do it according to your budget. When we got married my husband works in oil company and is still working there. My dear we did not borrow a dime we did a low budget wedding. Our church pple were just yearning rubbish that the wedding was looking poor. But guess what 19yrs we are still married with properties every where. The pple that abused us in our then church are divorced including pastors self. The magnitude of a wedding does not determine the success of the marriage.
ReplyDeleteWhy would he offset the bill did he ask her to borrow for wedding. Showmanship pple.
ReplyDeleteOnly if the wife was here to say her own part of the story..only then would we understand how they got to this point.
DeleteThank u all for the messages. The point is not to say who's at fault. It has happened. I already said I'm at fault. We are quick to judge people. Thanks all d same
DeleteYou already said you are at fault? But nothing you wrote was strong enough to fault you.
DeleteEverything you wrote was written in a way that all fingers points to your wife. Please shift
Tell your ex you wrote in here and let her say her own side. Why is that so hard for you to do?
You only come under post of anyone who tries to be fair to both sides by reasoning differently to shut them up but all those who blamed your wife were excluded.
Have you told her parent? Family members? What did they say?
Tell your wife to come here and say her own side so we can know the real issue here. please!! we have a brain we are trying to apply to decipher your matter here.
Mugu guy @anon 17:42
DeleteHow can a woman borrow to do a fairy tale wedding just because you want to please pple. Pls stop borrowing for wedding. Do it according to your budget. When we got married my husband works in oil company and is still working there. My dear we did not borrow a dime we did a low budget wedding. Our church pple were just yearning rubbish that the wedding was looking poor. But guess what 19yrs we are still married with properties every where. The pple that abused us in our then church are divorced including pastors self. The magnitude of a wedding does not determine the success of the marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster if you are so BOLD send her the link to your first chronicle and this update. Let her send a rejoinder to stella.
ReplyDeleteWhy will you as a man allow a woman borrow money to do wedding? That was the very first reason why you should have called off the wedding and moved on with your life. Borrow money for wedding? It's already obvious her type of person but you were too blind and you are even still too blind to see her for who she really is. She is a woman who isnt in tune with reality. Men yall need to stay away from these fake life type women
ReplyDeleteThe marriage was laid on faulty foundation of lies.
ReplyDeleteSince you have apologized and she's not accepting. Just let her be bit don't divorce.
Have you involved her family and yours to help in settling this challenge??
it sounds to me that God has even spared you from someone that didnt love you.
ReplyDeleteplease do proper investigation, this your wife may be in a relationship with someone else and she is using the argument you had as cover up, to stay with her side boo, since you no longer have money.
you will definitely rise again and things will be better. Dont feel bad about spending some time mourning, the break down of a marriage is not nice and i am sure it feels like death, really sorry about this. you're allowed to mourn, but please dont stay there, let what has happened fuel you to succeed.
Seek God for advice about this your marriage, it may be that God will reconcile the two of you again.
I wish you all the best!
Poster give her more time and see if she may finally love you back. The anger in her is the loan she took and you abused her when she have not finally paid all the loan.
ReplyDeleteTry and forgive yourself, you have learn from your mistake. Next time you will.be more careful with what you say to anyone.
You are still loving her because you are broke😏😏😏😏 once you hammer you will tell her to heal with you.
Poster I feel for you.
ReplyDeleteI wish you had stood your ground right from day one. You shouldn’t have let her have more control in the wedding preparation and condemn borrowing money to have a big wedding. You should hv been sincere with your financial status. I mean what were you expecting?
But the bottom line is you didn’t marry well, neither did your wife. You both played yourself.
Cry over this L. Dust yourself and quit this blame thing before you damage your mental health.
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ReplyDeleteDude, I know you are trying to take responsibility for all of these because you love her and you want to be the man.
ReplyDeleteBut you know what...you are not doing yourself favours.
Here's my advise....
1. Move on. Go away from that negative energy. Focus all your energy and pain towards being successful and making money. Build a business. Get a better career. etc.
2. Stop calling your ex wife. Stop trying to win her back. She is not for you! She is not your wife material. This type of lady is more interested in herself than in a partnership.
3. Stop washing plate or bending back until you are horizontal. You are not a door mat!
4. Look at your ex wife (yes..your ex)...imagine someone who is ten times more beautiful, better behaved, more emphatic? Guess what...they are out there. Lots of them.
5. Stop loving a badly behaved woman! I know it's hard. But focus that pain on becoming successful, and women will be at your beck and call.
6. Go on youtube, start reading up on "How to become an alpha male" and follow all the teachings you read about. Right now, you are behaving like a beta. Alpha male don't crack like this because of a pussy that millions of it are available that are 100 times better.
Personal story: I had a fiancee back in 2008, we were nearly married, spent over 1 million on this babe (School, support family etc), then I got deported from abroad to Nigeria. She started misbehaving and even disgraced me in front of her friends.
Well...I picked up my life, built a business from scratch to making 5 million monthly. Then luck shined on me and I got my resident permit back by fighting it through an immigration lawyer(the abroad country made a mistake deporting me).
I moved back abroad, continued running my business virtually, and I own houses both in Nigeria and abroad, and now married to a woman who is ten times more beautiful and has the most amazing personality ever.
And guess what? My ex ended up with an abuser as a husband. ANd she is now a shadow of her old self. I only knew about this because she reached out to me pleading I give her some money. I immediately blocked her on facebook.
Not that I have anything against her...but she chose to leave, so I am not letting her back into my life again.
Biko, learn from me. There are 10 million beautiful and well mannered ladies out there. You will find one, but go and make money first.
I know who you are
DeleteGoing anonymous can't save you
You have a terrible character and no woman in her right senses should stay with you
You are uncouth, bitter and rude
Your ex must have messed up but you are not better
Like I said, I know you
Don't omit the fact that you were cheating on her while dating her
You were notorious
KING XOXO MYSTERY
King xoxo mystery...I laugh in pidgin when I read your comment. I am the poster, and no...you do not know me. Not only are you wrong, but I am in Lagos and you are speeding at 150,000 kilometres to Maiduguri with your incorrect assumptions of knowing me.
DeleteMy story. My tales. Don't add sand to it because it's not needed.
No negative energy here. I wish you well.
Anon 18:04& 21:37. You’re such a liar!!! You said you’re back in abroad but your response the second time says you’re in Lagos! Liar oshi. You definitely do sound like you have a bad character and still bitter about your ex that left you. Straighten the hell up! Stella please post my comment.
DeleteThe guy na real manipulator. He is even at it all over this post. Only few Bvs can see it. Attacking women for supporting their own then turning round to say he is at fault. I hope that woman runs very far away from him. He is dangerous. Painting the woman black yet forming sob story he wants to stay with her.
DeleteThe Almighty Don you can't even ignore people's comment of you you kept on replying and denying the fact that you are the poster... I'd always known you have a bad character and a bitter soul Stella post it ooo
DeleteThey prepare for the wedding day but not marriage, not for a married life.
ReplyDeleteAnd hardly do they prepare for eternal life too.
So sad reading this. In spite of every advice shared here about preparing to
be married and not for a wedding day; just one day compared to a lifetime?
How on earth does someone borrow money to wed? 😮😮😮😮
I believe this can still be fixed. She is probably going to miss you too.
There must be something she saw that made her marry you.
That thing she saw, she realized was fake when she entered. The man na slow poison. You will see it once you read between the lines.
DeleteThis update is for your new girl you are begging to date you
ReplyDeleteShe is on SDK blog
So you are telling these pity party story and included some never heard details of your ex chasing you with knife.
We will like to hear Herr story
Oga, Chase your new girl in peace
Gold diggers are easy to find
You will find another gullible woman that will be spending her money on you.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
King Xoxo, it is you I believe. I thought some Bvs were intelligent, now I know better.
DeleteDarling, what's done is done and can't be undone. I'm all for grieving a loss but don't you dare spend another minute putting effort and thought into this woe-is-me, self organized pity party. It is perversely counterintuitive at this stage to keep bring up how you washed dishes for her even when she didn't cook for you. Isn't it obvious that ship has sailed? Let's look forward and try to move on, okay?
ReplyDeleteIt might be comforting to think the marriage crumbled because of finances or lack thereof. Real talk? Your marriage crumbled because you were madly in love with a lady who barely tolerated you. It was a wrong paring from the start. Your insincerity and failure to provide her needs were merely the catalyst further speeding up the already rapid decline in your matrimony. If you were a billionaire, she still wouldn't love you. If she stays, it will be because she's getting her bread nutritiously buttered by your billions. You made matters worse trying hard to please her. There are only a few things more exasperating than a guy you despise, still running after you like a love struck puppy. Sweetie, please retrieve your balls by completely ignoring her. Act like she doesn't exist. You need to man up, damn it!
Fighting her over a rented apartment is as low as it goes. You married her, as the man of the house, you ought to take care of her. You failed in your duties, the least you can do is allow her keep the roof over her head. When the rent expires, it's left for her to renew or move out. Now, take your eyes off her and her accommodation and think of the best way to survive. Honey, why are you crying over cooked meals, I thought you said she never cooked for you? What has changed? How were you surviving then? Are you really saying you, a grown a$$ man, can't arrange your meals? Can't you buy already cooked food? I can see why you will be off putting to the average Alpha female. You sound like a pubescent teenager whose mummy didn't prepare his lunch. That's super unmanly.
Consider this a learning curve. Make sure you are financially stable before you ask a lady to spend the rest of her life with you. Focus on developing your character and work hard to be successful. Next time, look for a lady who respects you and not one who is an obvious puppet master. Allow this divorce move on as peacefully as possible, don't contest anything with her. Let her have whatever she desires while you dust yourself up and start anew. Start learning to detach from her emotionally, it will get easier with time. I wish you a very happy life ahead.
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Best advice so far, poster I hope you are at least man enough to follow this through!
DeleteHis type deliberately go for women who are well off. He thought he could manipulate his wife but that one discovered the truth and decided to bale out.
DeletePoster, I put it to you that you never loved that woman.. She was the one who was blindly in love with a lier so much so that she borrowed to finance the wedding. You encouraged her and made her and made her feel you were expecting money which would be enough to offset the debts. She didn't borrow to show off. She borrowed to hide your shame and support you.
ReplyDeleteNow that her eyes are clear, she resents you for lieing and dragging her into your mess. If you like wash plate, pant and pad. You are very wicked. What was the deceit all about. Now, they haven't paid you for 3months. Are you sure you even have a job?
Which man in his right senses will be washing plate of food he didn't eat everyday. You better go and confess your sins to God and stop hiding.
You claim you love her but the truth is you miss the comfort that comes with being her man. To think that you are still expecting sex from her sef...based on what, the fact that you sweep and wash the dishes? Mtcheew, You are on a long thing.
Haaa u just describe an economic I dump recently
DeleteLady Taylors gbam gbam gbam!!! You got it straight up! Wish I could kiss you right now but I’m not a Lesbian lolll. Poster gave it away. He fucked up big time! You better find a job and help her out with those debts!!! I’m not your wife but I’m so pissed off. Please anyone who knows this poster’s wife should send this link to her so she can respond!
DeleteSome of us can read through your bullshit poster. Send this link to your wife so she can respond! Then we’ll give you proper advice
DeleteLade you have an intelligent head. You saw through the bullshit.
DeleteYou are right. His jobless self decieved her into marriage without no source of livelihood. He made her finance the weddings with his lies and Its obvious the woman paid her bride price with her own money and on top of it he was looking For free sex. It was when the woman entered she realised she married herself and he hoping to live off her thought she would continue to tolerate his parasitic self because as a desperate Nigerian woman she would do anything to stay married. She went 360 on his ass and now he has gone to get a house in oniru to trap another desperate woman.
DeleteAnd this was exactly how it happened. Thank you Lade Taylor cos this poster keep saying he knows he is at fault without telling us what made him be at fault.You are wise dear
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DeleteOga she never loved you and never will.she just tolerated you,God knows why.please start your life all over again,be happy and be open to love again . don't worry everything will work together for your good.
ReplyDeleteKing XOXO Mystery I don't think you know the poster of the chronicle. No he is not rude, bitter or uncouth. His only mishap was dating and marrying a lady not on his finacial level which makes him look like...... a gold digger!!
ReplyDeleteShe may know him. Something is ringing a bell about this poster.
DeleteAnonymous 08:30 the poster is Don the Almighty Don scroll up to see were he commented and denied it
DeleteDon I do not know why you are denying you are the poster. You have commented once before about your wife here and people said they never knew you were married. And the comment was even a complaint.
ReplyDelete@Don, DON, Dontm- all na the same person. For everyone saying it's not Don because he is confident on this blog- note that often times hostile or rude people "online" are really puppets and insecure people "in real life". They come online "faceless" and act like they wish they were in real life. Poster is definitely Don. And the way he attacked people who asked if it was him is another red flag...it is defiantly Don...Don wehdon sir!
ReplyDeleteShe should allow you carry your stuffs or u break the doors and take em..Which kian weak love be this?
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