Hmmmm.....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LOOKING FOR CLOSURE IN A LOVE LESS MARRIAGE
Where will I start,my life is a mess or so my head tells me.
My husband hates me.
Fast forward to marriage life and kids after,he is 10 years older than me,I respect him as my husband and I feel although he is older nothing wrong in me being free with him but he says I'm rude because I try to touch his head or just talk to him like I'm gisting with a friend.
He said he's tired of the marriage, truth is I ain't happy either he doesn't support me emotionally,I was in a very dark place some years back because of him and the constant insults he batters me with,he says I'm cheating and have lovers, calls me a prostitute, gutter and all sorts of degrading names.
I told him I'm happy I have moved from that dark place and all he could say was there's nothing wrong with me that I make things up.
We are both graduates,why I said this is because I feel as someone who is well read and travelled he will know about mental health as I was crying and pouring my heart out only for him to laugh at me.
I am lonely and on several occasions I have thought of finding someone I can share my heart with as he as alienated me from friends and family.
I have never cheated on him,I love him dearly but I guess I'm wasting my time as we are not compatible I jumped into marriage because I wanted to stop my sinful ways,I wanted to stop having boyfriends and stick to one person without taking time out to study him.
Everyone told me he is difficult that I shouldn't marry him,I didn't listen.
Well I guess I'm paying for my sins.
My advise to young girls never be pressured into marriage, enjoy your single days,never allow a man force you into getting pregnant before marriage,have your career, business or anything that makes you happy.
It's a long story but I won't bore you all ,pray for me to find peace.
Thanks Stella
Na wah!!!...so nah like this una go do am?maybe he does not take you serious that is why he does not believe what you tell him....When the romance is gone is n marriage na so e dey be...can you try to get that back?
It's well with you. If he is tired, met him be then. We ladies, should be careful when it comes to marriage. Some men can be so annoying.
ReplyDeleteThe mistake ia foundational and she has said it: they warned me not to marry hi that he's a difficult person.
DeleteAnd also, the poster's reason for getting married is so funny, I wanted to stop sinning, wawu!!! That's a new one.
Anyway dear poster, no, you are not paying for any sin, you walked right into the marriage with a difficult self centered man and honestly, he doesn't give a flip about ur emotions bcos he doesn't even understand in the first place. I'm sure you noticed his arrogance and expectations of pple to worship his lordship b4 you married him, that's why he calls you rude when u don't act like a subject to him.
About him saying you are cheating on him, it's either he's cheating or you are not worshipping him well enough, so yeah, there must be a distraction on the side for you. In all, you are married to a difficult man and you need to learn how to cope with him, you need to develop a heart of stone n stop crying before him, it will give him pleasure. Take ur mental health care personal, he can't help you, own our life as though he's not dia bcos h3 can't help you or even see that you need help.
All the best with ur marriage
First of all,you play JUDGE AND JURY over you life by thinking having a boyfriend means you are a sinner .
DeleteSecondly, you didn't listen to advice .
Thirdly, that man wants to be your MASTER and not your spouse.
Please,don't try to bring anything back to that marriage because that man won't take you serious and that emotional abuse.
Leave,and find yourself .
Love yourself more.
And next time,stop being god over your life.
First of all,you played JUDGE AND JURY over your life by thinking having a boyfriend means you are a sinner .
DeleteSecondly, you didn't listen to advice .
Thirdly, that man wants to be your MASTER and not your spouse.
Please,don't try to bring anything back to that marriage because that man won't take you serious and that emotional abuse will continue.
Stop assuming people will act the way you think they should.
Leave,and find yourself .
Love yourself more.
And next time,stop being god over your life.
Royal tribe, I agree with you totally. You just described my husband. Very self centred. The more you cry for him, the harder his heart becomes. I am learning to develop a heart of stone and to stop crying for him. I am an empath who got married to a self absorbed narcissist.
DeleteI am glad u know u married a narcissist. U NEED to leave him to find ursef and build ur life back. U can't do it as long as u r still living together. Your life is in ur hands and not his. Do sth abt it. I wish u all the best
DeleteAnon 16.09 why are you still there ? Just know God forbid any of you women die in the hands of these sadists you won’t be given an award for anything. Life is too to be miserable for Gods sake
DeleteY do I fell like there is another side to this story, y will he just wake up and start accusing u that u are a prostitute
Delete18:10 are you saying you have not heard some men that easily call women a prostitute.
DeleteFrom poster's narrative you could guess her husband is difficult and unempathetic.
He even laughed her to scorn when she told him she was coming out of the depression his verbal abused pushed her in to.
No apologies or kind words. Just scornful laughter. Jeez!
Ano 18.10 there is no another side to the story,so men just feel because they paid pride price on your head that can say anything, my dear poster I understand everything you wrote because I married one too, d age difference is between us is 18yrs.some yrs back I wanted to kill myself because the emotional abuse was just too much, name calling is nothing to him, well for Stella advice it's temporary because I have done it all still no change infact he will embarrassed me everywhere including my work place.
DeleteYes such men don't beat, they will provide for the household so that people will not see what you are going through, they are manipulative
I will tell u what I told myself don't ever cry for any reason, I don't know if he's existing,I relegated him to the background for 6months now,all I owe him is good morning, I still cook clean,no intimacy you can't continue to call me prostitute and expect I open,
Save up because he will never change. Your peace of mind matters dear.
I am a woman and I don't like someone playing with my head. If he doesn't like it stop it.
ReplyDeleteIt seems you love him too much and it has gotten to his head. Stop paying too much attention to him. Act like he isn't there sometimes. Be none chalant with him and watch him come around.
She used that as an example jare.
DeleteShe just means he doesnt good around or play and gist with her.kapish?.
I agree with her loving him too much.
Poster, please withdraw your emotions and focus it on something else.
A marriage is team work and personally, I dont subscribe to slaving to make anything work while the other person is scattering what I'm gathering.
Its draining biko.
Poster, you're somebody's daughter too.
You deserve happiness
Aww I feel like hugging you right now!! Invariably you didn't marry your friend and being a graduate doesn't mean you can know it all..Have you tried talking to him about all the hurtful things he did..It is well..All the best..
DeleteLol I agree flip the script on him....like I always tell my friend. Once you flip that script it would take forever to get your heart to the pint when you once loved and cared with reckless abandon.
DeleteStop being emotionally dependent on him that’s why he is playing Demi-god. Unfortunately most Nigerian women have to deal with men with such crazy ego stop massaging his ego find that one true friend you can always have as a support system
You don’t need to cheat or have another man wahala on your hands they are not worth it.
Phoenix, poster said she talked to him and he laughed at her. Which "tried talking to him" do you advise again?! 🤦♀️
Delete@Anonymous 16:58 Tried talking to him like meeting someone the husband respects or fears..There has to be at least one person..Thats another way to talk to him..
DeleteHusbands calling their wives proustite over nothing oooo must die miserably.
ReplyDeleteThat's too harsh @ Nnukwu Nwanyi
DeletePoster you were not happy with yourself before getting married. You probably told him a lot about your past and the reason you married him. Hence the insults. Your husband is not emotionally intelligent to understand all you are going through and may never provide the necessary support needed.
You need to find a positive way to be happy and stay strong for your kids. Seeing a shrink or health counselor will help a lot at this time. Prayers never fails. Stay alive and remain hopeful.
Lovelace.
She must have told him about her past just because she loves him and that is why he is using it against her.
DeleteI will advise you Just ignore him and do things that makes you happy.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with separation,
ReplyDeleteIf you both are unable to work things out it is best for you to be separated,
It would save a lot of future regrets , this actually how people end up killing a spouse due to frustration or be mentally deranged.
It is someone that is alive and well that can love and be loved in return .
Please find a way to leave this marriage whether temporarily or permanently just leave for now and figure things out, I hope you have a job and your own finances.
Seek help somehow just don't sit down and wait for him to love you please .
Madam, why don't you try out what Stella said? I mean, buy him gifts, buy nice wine and dance for him, book a small vaccation even if it's within the country just for a weekend. Don't seat back crying about what he does or do not do for you. You, wear a positive face and treat him in a way that will make him care free.
DeleteI know it works. Obviously you married one of my Igbo brothers cos na them de turn master after marriage. Try bringing back the romance and don't expect it to return same day. Be patient and pray too.
Poster listen to this advice from @15:07.
Delete☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️
Delete@Sapphire, I don't think she married an Igbo man. The man told her to get pregnant before marriage. I don't think Igbo men demand that.
DeleteMost African men like to Lord it over their wives especially the older ones. Poster thought his being a graduate meant he was enlightened and romantic.
Your husband is an heartless traditionalist! Imagine him telling you his wife not to touch his head... Like, how do you people even make love?
ReplyDeletePlease, go and speak to your family members and his, too. They should be able to call you both and see where the problem really lies.
I think both of you still don't understand yourselves yet, so, you guys need to talk it out in the presence of your family.
Pray without ceasing.
I wish you both strength and courage to conquer the devil and his agents of divorce.
*a* heartless
DeleteOne sided love will just leave you questioning your sanity...
ReplyDeleteWalahi this is the truth ...noone should ever be in this place.
DeleteIt happened to me I worked hard on acting non chalfant. Now we are balanced
Reason I dnt wanna marry older man. One keeping disturbing me . Like 11 years older! But meh! not all are matured! They view you like their younger sis or daughter and not lover. He wanted to rush but I knew it was not right. I left and immediately he got married. Thou to a natured lady in age. Poster I really do not know what to say. But i feel your pains. Being in a loveless marriage must be heart breaking. But if you think you are not happy. Why not take a walk or both of you should go for counselling. E- hug darling 😊💝
DeleteKeep***
DeleteYour husband get big problem if you can't freely play with him.
ReplyDeleteEven if he senior you with 50 years, you guys should be able to play together.
I can't even date a woman that chat yab me well well.
For the first I concur with Don.
DeleteI like this version of you.
Don Don.lol
DeleteThe reason you got married is not the issue here because if you wanted to stop your sinful ways like you did put it, you will never agree to have a child outside of wedlock for him before marriage. You will refuse because that was another sinful act based on the kind of sin it was obvious you were trying to avoid, which was Fornication...right?
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't love you too and married you for whatever reason only he knows. It obvious you don't have kids yet because you didn't mention and your man is already set in his ways. Can you cope forever?
read well. She has kids.
DeleteShe has kids.
Delete"Fast forward to marriage life and kids after,he is 10 years older than me..."
Don't mind me, I was eating while reading.
DeleteLike I said before he is already set in his ways so poster, the best way to treat people like this, that is if you want to stay in the marriage, ACT LIKE HIM. Let all your usual and former reactions to his antics be different. If he brings trouble instead of crying like you always do don't give him the honour of seeing you cry. Don't laugh with him too much, even if he cracks a funny joke act like you weren't impressed. If you opened your 32 before this time around just say "hmm" or give a faint smile that disappears instantly. If you always run after him before like a lost puppy please act like you are so preoccupied to even notice someone walked past you sometimes. He will start to look for your face. But if you know you can't do all that and you are tired then you know what to do.
You got that right! 👌
DeleteI got no time go folks that got no time for me. If you like be my identical twin.
I got no strength for stress.
I agree..when I married my husband he just changed drastically after 2weeks, no more acting lovey lovey nd stating how grateful he is dt he married me and started acting like the master always harsh. No love or romance, no cuddle sef..so I decided to give him d same pill...instead of reaching out to cuddle like before I evn moved to d guest room on d pretext that his snoring was disturbing my sleep. I stopped looking at his face or smiling. Even when he comes to my room after forcing himself to kiss me n all I will move to d far end of d bed. I started acting like he was nothing to me, now he is d one always seeking for my attention, begging for kiss and cuddle, singing my praises and always begging me to come to his room, too bad d love has evn reduced on my part..I like how he is working double time to be loving for d both of us now
DeleteExcess love dey kill love
DeleteExcess love dey kill love
DeleteDear poster, although i don't know you personally, but i love how you took responsibility for your mistakes unlike the others that will come and start claiming side chick or village people is on your matter. You accepted the fact that you were warned and refused to listen. The next step is to be accountable. Don't let affliction to arise a second time in your life. Your hubby obviously has mental issues. Be in charge of your life and take the decision that best suits you. I would have advised you to meet an elderly woman for counsel, but most of them will only tell you to die there. All the same, i believe you are already healed 'cos your write-up shows no anger. Learn to love yourself and those around you. Watch youtube videos on self-love, they help alot. The more love you give the more you receive. Wishing you all the best.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you sis for dis.... I have learnt from dis too
DeleteSelf love is very important. Love yourself and be selfish with it.
DeleteGod bless you. Queen by name and great by nature.
DeleteYour story no add up to me seriously, but all the same try and yourself in anything that makes you happy. Because life is meant for the living
ReplyDeleteCould you please add it up? 🙄
Delete🤣🤣@ Mystery woman
DeleteYou are married to a narcissist....read up and know how to follow him. Tie your heart and be strong
ReplyDeleteI agree! Very difficult humans
DeleteThis narcissism issue..i dont gerrit. I am married exactly to that kinda man up there. I think all nigerian man are like that. Seperated fpr a while but mehn loneliness is making reconsider getting him bak. Aunty you may just continue worshipping him if you dont wanna leave. Or if you're strong, you can leave. Its your life.
DeleteYou are a 'proudly feminist ' and you are yarning this absolute gibberish ?? Lollllllllllllllllllll
DeleteFeminists dont hate men duh
DeleteProudly feminist,you sure you are a feminist?
DeleteWe should all be darling. Independent ambitious strong women who want equal opportunities with our male counterpart. You should be too hun. xx
Delete@Proudly feminist, what makes you think the man wants to have you back, that you're even considering getting him back
Delete@Proudly feminist
DeleteThe 'Narcissist' title is over flogged on social media in the past few years. We all have narcissistic tendencies but some more than others. It is a collection of traits and not just one trait that makes one a narcissist so not all Nigerian men are narcissists.
This man in the chronicle does have the trait of lacking empathy, it doesn't necessarily make him a narcissist though.
And you're not any less of a feminist because you want to go back to your husband, you're just a woman who misses someone she's been close with.
Just be careful that you're not going back only because of loneliness
I'm going because of loneliness and I am starting to rethin . He has started being very aggressive and controlling again and I just can't cope. I like a free lifestyle with trust and calmness from my man. Thanks @aďebakee and other positives
DeleteMarriage can be HARD sometimes,may you find peace.
ReplyDeleteThis is sad, why are things like this😥?
ReplyDeletePlease just try your best to restore your marriage, before taking any drastic decision, especially because of the kids.
But, if after you have done your best, and it's still not working, you can try separation, and not outright divorce.
Most importantly, stop blaming yourself, when you have not done anything wrong, it takes two to keep or break up a relationship.
😘🤗🤗
Enough of the nagging..You didn't tell us you actually married him because he is Rich.Woman start building on your self worth and invest in yourself and that of your kids.
ReplyDeleteAnd you concluded she married for wealth cos you omniseeth Abi? I didn't read where she said she's jobless and totally dependent on him.
DeleteI think I want to believe what you wrote here @ snom15:21
DeleteI'm on the same boat with you. One sided love. I still love him so much but he said he is tired of the marriage. I have decided to give him space.
ReplyDeleteYou were warned but didn't listen. You jumped into marriage because you wanted to stop fornicating, you couldn't control your sexual urge?
ReplyDeleteYou didn't even notice the fact that he wasn't your friend. How can your husband tell you that you are disrespecting him simply because you placed your hand ✋ on his head and try to gist with him? Na wa o.
If you know someone he respects and listen to, beg the person to help you talk to him.
That is why I don't joke with Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo's messages on singles and married. I've learnt a lot.
An unhappy marriage has the potential to be happy again with communication, forgiveness and respect. The spark in marriage will naturally diminish when you don't work together as a team to overcome obstacles.
ReplyDeleteSis..unless you are experiencing DV, try and fix your marriage. Work things out with each other, go to therapy/counseling and find love again. Forgive your husband and ask for his forgiveness too and remember, a family that prays together stays together. 🤗
Poster please go with this advice..very helpful
DeleteWhat exactly are they forgiving? It's not like they have offended each other. It's obvious this marriage has no love or understanding and the man is difficult. Nothing to forgive here in my opinion.
DeleteListen well,16:45.
DeleteMarriage is for the long haul and in 10 years, people can change and start resenting each other. It takes effort to make a marriage last.
What are they forgiving, you ask?
The neglect
The emotional abuse
The insults
Not honoring their vows.
Everything must not end in separation/divorce.
Why is it only DV, that’s not pardonable.
DeletePhysical abuse & emotional abuse .. is still abuse and carries equal weight
I think it stems from a complex issue from his end. He wants you to feel as low as he is already feeling. “ Misery loves company”. You love your husband a lot and I want to believe he loves you too but he feels letting it show might get into your head.
ReplyDeleteStop playing with his head. While some like it, some detest it too. Seeing that the age difference might be an issue for him. Maybe he is in that school of thought that don’t give way to women so much.
My advice is while you love him to bits, it’s time for you to give him a little bit of “I don’t care attitude”. Love yourself very well and concentrate on you and the kids for him to even notice it and see if he will change a bit.
Good luck.
This is emotional torture and it's worse than physical one. You need your sanity!!!
ReplyDeleteI tell you sis, emotional torture can't be describe, even as a single person when treated this way you feel like running mad not to talk of marriage that is a lifetime.
DeleteThis one really weak me. And some people are out here praying to marry older men cos they think they are more responsible and romantic, now look at.😫 Please who has a manual on the perfect way to go about life? Do pass it to me cos what I read most times scares me.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, please I have two suggestions; it's either you pay him no attention like pretending he doesn't exist anymore even while you both live together. Or you separate for now. Reading your chronicle, I feel you have no business living with that psycho. Do you have kids yet?
Please start making plans of moving on so grandpa doesn't frustrate life out of you.
I use to believe older guys have sense but have realised not all of them. I met one once who was twelve years older. He insulted me 'jokingly'I returned the favour too jokingly. When I did the same was when he realised it wasn't a joke anymore. He started carrying face for me I just took to my heels. Carry your age and go biko. If you felt you were that old you wouldn't come close to me in the first place.
Delete... so grandpa doesn't frustrate life out of you. 😂😂😂😂
DeleteConcentrate on ur life and let this man be. Don't act as if he has ur uniblical cord attached to his. You seem very emotional and needy. Also act as distance as he acts
ReplyDeleteAct as distance as he acts. U seem needy. Don't behave as if his uniblical cord is tied to yours. Be very independent not all men like needy women.
ReplyDeleteTake control of your life. Your husband is selfish and will not lift a hand to assist you. Even now he has seen you finish,maybe you told him a lot of your past. I also hope you are financially independent otherwise you may not be able to fight this battle
ReplyDeleteThank you Poster. I hope you find healing.
ReplyDeleteMay God see you through this trying times.
ReplyDeleteMen and women stop abusing this word LOVE.
ReplyDeleteSomeone that loves you can never ever hurt you.
While dating, be smart enough to know the signs. Don't get carried away with romance.
Poster you married a manipulative man!!! He knows your weakness and he's taking advantage of that. I advice you build up your self esteem and ignore him. I hope you are financially secured because e no go easy. I wish you peace and love ♥️
ReplyDeleteThe problem with been treated in this manner is that when you call for family meeting, you would have to explain to people who do not understand mental health or abuse. So long as there is no DV, they won’t understand anything.
Delete@18:01 exactly
Delete18:01
DeleteYou really know this .
So sad a tale.
ReplyDeleteContrary to this tale I read here and the lies people believe,
Marriage does not stop one from sinning; fornication, adultery lies etc.
Only a person can save a human from sin and he is Jesus. Please let's get this clear.
He who is in sin is a slave to sin ...but if Jesus sets you free, you are free indeed. John 8:36.
So dear, confess to Jesus and make him your Lord. Study his liberating teachings and have joy
of salvation in you. It is a joy that surpasses all understanding.
No be to pack and go if he's tired of the marriage ni? Na question oo. Staying means you will be slaving away your life to please him, which in the end it is still impossible.
ReplyDeleteTake heart!
Poster act asif he doesn't even exist. Keep your mind busy with positives. Play with your kids be creative and have fun with kids. Leave the damn psychopath Alone!let him learn the hard way. Good luck dear.
ReplyDeleteIf you are are not friends, don't date nor marry him oooo! It's a long journey you don't want to manage with a man that plays god in your life.
ReplyDeleteThis shows that you can be married and still lonely. I think I mentioned this the other day on this blog. Princess Diana was married and even surrounded by so many people but spoke about a heart wrenching loneliness [which I have come to realize that only God fills that emptinessin man]. Cos sometimes people bully single ladies with the you-will-be-old-and-lonely narrative.
ReplyDeleteI also read somewhere about married single mothers..where only one parent (mother) in a marriage plays the role of parenthood.
Most of you marry mentally unstable men and got blinded by words/ love. Me I have learned my lesson and I read read and read behaviours now God always let's us know on time
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with wanting to marry as a way to stop sinning. Yes having a boyfriend is a sin, having sexual relations outside of mariage is a sin. Whosoever loves God will hate evil. The bible is very clear about it. God also hates divorce. The thing is most of us get married for our own selfish reasons but we fail to understand the plan of God for our lives. What is the will of God for our lives? Was there a purpose to begin with or are we just living our lives for living sake and fooling ourselves that we are Christians? You can marry a difficult man and survive, I am proof of that. It takes however a deeper relationship with God because everytime I wanted to divorce I was reminded of my children and also of the fact that what if God wanted me to save my husband through me? I thought of Jesus who endured so much on the cross for our sake, He who knew no sins, he took my shame and was beaten for my transgressions, I then realise that I should start living for God and stop living for myself. When my husband stopped loving me or showing me love I started loving myself more and seeking out the love of God; God is the one who completes and fulfills me, it is not my husband. Once I became more secure of the love of God for me I realise that I needed no other person to make me happy. I started living my life, when he realised that I was no longer needy or clinging to him, he changed. i will not say that he is totally different person but i have grown and I no longer see him the same way.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this .
DeleteHmmmn... deep stuff...
DeleteI can feel ur pain. My husband was once like this at d second year of our marriage. When I try to talk to him he will laugh or make funny faces at me. Sometimes he would even leave d house to be coming back late at nigh. Then I decided to change my styles I keep my distance,ND stop trying to complain agin. ND I continued doing my wifely duties. Nah him come dey ask me what is the problem u have changed ooooo. As if he knew all his fault ND try ing to hurt me. He changed from den and till now 4years and still counting. We are besties ND gist partners
ReplyDeleteMy question is this - how did you let him alienate you from friends and family? I'm not married yet but I know when I do, nobody can alienate me from friends and family especially family. Me that is already planning how my future children will be spending weekends/holidays with their cousins either at my house or my siblings' house.
ReplyDeleteI think you should put this in prayers and stop giving him too much attention, learn to love yourself. Build yourself emotionally. When he misses you enough, he will come talk to you, that time you both will have a heart to heart.
The day i will send Stella my story ehn...poster see d solution
ReplyDelete(1) learn,study ,go on line to learn how to control your emotions.
(2) keep your self busy,love your self more,invest that emotion,time and love on yourself .
(3)Control your sex urge atleast for now, if e no meet u for sex,pls don't go to him
(4)stop telling him or gisting him anything except it concerns the kids,learn to read novels on line or watch movies to keep your self busy ..
5) start new things, like exercises or join a dance class it will help build your mental health
(6) Don't discuss Or nag about his attitude to him anymore..learn to play blind, deaf and dumb to what he does cos this type of people don't do communication, Infact the more you talk, u feed his ego...stop crying to him cos they feed their ego on ones pain.
(7)Try to kill d love u have 4 him by remembering d bad way he treats you ,it will help cos u too lov am and he knows..He is using that weakness against u.He doesn't hate you o but he is so comfortable in your love..shake am small by I DONT CARE ATTITUDES.
(8) Feed well and look good .. invest in your self ..Get busy cos if you are a house wife you can't carry out all this cos as u dey house na only your husband thoughts go dey your head.Learn to be independent abit even if he is rich
(9)make online friends you can always jist or chat with even if you no dey visit them..stop discussing your husband to anyone cos the more you discuss it the more you are troubled..take it that he doesn't exist .
(10)Always pray for God to heal your heart and for his direction
My sister you need to be on same I DONT CARE LEVEL With that man if not you will lose your sanity o..you go just dey old..Trust me when you stop feeding his ego with your weakness(too much love) oga will start coming close to u...even when he does ,don't reciprocate until you are sure you no longer love him too much, until you are sure your happiness doesn't depend on loving him again.. YOU NEED TO KILL THAT LOVE.. I know you are d lovey dovey type like me but unfortunately you didn't marry your type so kill that love b4 that man drives you crazy..N.a. so all these matured men dey do.. The one wen I experience senior me with 15years very difficult, sadist,you dare not advice him, don't play with him,so many issues that will confuse u, when you see these older guys not married ehn, look very well there is a hidden problem .. I being normal today is a Testimony
Beautiful comment
DeleteRuth thank you! I heart you for this comment. I’m going to work on myself seriously, lose weight and get my self worth back. Ps: I’m not the poster but going through similar situation even though it’s not as bad as posters.
DeleteStop crying for him, neglect him as if he is not visible, he will crawl back to you.
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