Oh Dear!!!!
SHOCKER
Dear Stella,
Please I need mature advice ,I’m engaged to my fiancé for six months now.i’ve known him for three years, i could swear he doesn’t cheat and I was never team snoop.this guy takes care of me 101%,I don’t spend my money for anything,as a matter of fact he placed me on monthly allowance of 200k even though I work and earn slightly above that amount ,he even got the job for me. He is financially ok,he works in a very good oil and gas firm.
I had accommodation problems January this year so he suggested I move in with him pending when mine would be ready (will move to a new place in May).The long and short is that I’ve never had any reason whatsoever to doubt his faithfulness to me but my eyes saw my anus when I got hold of his Pass code last week and decide to snoop two days ago.My goodness !!!
I’m sorry for sounding raw,I just want to make you guys understand .
Is it that this guy doesn’t have value for his life or my life?i can’t get over the shock!no fear of this pandemic?
He was even trying to hook up with one of his girl friends for them to have s#x but she was avoiding him.Mind you he actually told these girls that he is engaged,in his words “I have a beautiful fiancée whom I love so much but I just want us to have s#x and enjoy each other,we will always wear protection and I will take care of your needs.
I’m yet to confront him.
Dear Stella,
Please I need mature advice ,I’m engaged to my fiancé for six months now.i’ve known him for three years, i could swear he doesn’t cheat and I was never team snoop.this guy takes care of me 101%,I don’t spend my money for anything,as a matter of fact he placed me on monthly allowance of 200k even though I work and earn slightly above that amount ,he even got the job for me. He is financially ok,he works in a very good oil and gas firm.
I had accommodation problems January this year so he suggested I move in with him pending when mine would be ready (will move to a new place in May).The long and short is that I’ve never had any reason whatsoever to doubt his faithfulness to me but my eyes saw my anus when I got hold of his Pass code last week and decide to snoop two days ago.My goodness !!!
This guy is cheating on me big time.This guy has two girlfriends and three professional prostitutes he sleeps with every week,how he manages to rotate the s#x thing is what I don’t know.
We make love at least two days in a week asides my period so I can’t say I starve him.
it did not end there,my dear Bvs do you know that in this period of social distancing/stay home my fiancé has also slept with these prostitutes.
it did not end there,my dear Bvs do you know that in this period of social distancing/stay home my fiancé has also slept with these prostitutes.
In his words to them “fuck corona!!! It can’t stop me from having s#x with you”,he copies the same message to them.he later sent a message to one of the prostitutes saying “today was very good,I enjoyed myself” and said to the other one “your pink p**sy is very sweet”.
I’m sorry for sounding raw,I just want to make you guys understand .
Is it that this guy doesn’t have value for his life or my life?i can’t get over the shock!no fear of this pandemic?
He was even trying to hook up with one of his girl friends for them to have s#x but she was avoiding him.Mind you he actually told these girls that he is engaged,in his words “I have a beautiful fiancée whom I love so much but I just want us to have s#x and enjoy each other,we will always wear protection and I will take care of your needs.
I’m yet to confront him.
After I snooped,I picked few of my belongings to my parents house,don’t want nobody to infect me,I sent a message to him that I received a call from my mum. I went to do HIV test and some other tests and my results came clean.
Dear Bvs I’m shattered,my heart is broken to Pieces,how do I handle this?how do I confront him?please I need sincere and mature advise.
Stella kindly make this a stand alone post if possible,I need as much advise ...
Dear Bvs I’m shattered,my heart is broken to Pieces,how do I handle this?how do I confront him?please I need sincere and mature advise.
Stella kindly make this a stand alone post if possible,I need as much advise ...
You are about to get married to a pervert,a psycho.....A Walking tank of sexual diseases.......You are about to step on a grenade
This one is heavy. I will not tell you to leave or stay, do what makes you happy. But if I'm in your shoes, I will not stay, I can't deal with a cheat. All the best in your decision.
ReplyDeleteAnd how did you know they are prostitutes? How can you be engaged and still be flirting around with different ladies. Some men sha
DeleteStella you skipped your favourite line in your advice.TEAM SNOOP ADIVISE HER.
DeleteImagine if she no snoop? But of what use??. This babe is not leaving him. Mark that.
Just speechless🤔🤔
DeleteWow wow wow. That is why it is good to snoop
DeleteSonia, the trail of conversation with a professional will entail pricing and he will be free to say belittling stuff to to them and they won't mind because they are not emotionally committed.
DeletePoster, my dear as I always say, there is a woman for every man. There is a kind of woman he will meet that wont mind either because she has weighed her options and settled for him or she herself might enjoy such too. I know a couple who goes out to pick prostitutes for 3 or 4some. They do drugs together and her husband loves to hide and have her bring in a man to bang her on their matrimonial bed while he watches in secret. It's their thing.
So if you are not that type please hold your head high and walk cos trust me, there is NO changing him. He is made for a peculiar kind of woman. ARE YOU THE ONE?
Poster he Will not change it will even get worst after marriage so take a walk.
DeleteFor you to be asking us means you have doubts about leaving him...because you are greedy. If you actually you love your life this wouldn't be a Chronicle, but you want us to tell you to confront him, wait for him to apologize so you can continue chopping 200k a month.
DeleteWake up and smell the coffee, thank God you are clean, go back in 3 months to recheck the HIV, while at it, play the same game and make him believe you are still with him while you chop his money, just maybe he will be smart enough to figure it all out.
My dear, there is no very good oil and gas firm anymore. All of us in the oil industry are looking for a way out. Only people who feel stuck are staying. If he is young and not trying to do anything with his life outside of oil and gas except fu*** my dear!!! Run!!!! The money is not as permanent as oil and gas of those days!! This Saudi/Russia thing Might last another decade!! God forbid things things turn around for him, are you willing to deal with a broke, sex maniac, who could also be a master liar??
DeleteI won't waste my time advising u because I know u will still go back to him, we will be here for ur second chronicles after the wedding. Happy Married Life
DeleteYou are very wise Saphire.I always follow your advice especiaĺy when it entails relationships ish!.
DeletePlease will you be my MENTOR???
Poster, run for your dear life if you value it.seek God first and all other things will be added. Accept Christ, maintain no sex relationship in your next relationship .make sure the person has Jesus.it is wll wiv you
ReplyDeleteThis is STD alert,It's not worth it.After marriage he's gonna get worse!!
DeleteThis one is Above me. Heal her Lord....
DeleteNo advise from me biko,this one is a sex maniac not even a cheat. He has a problem only God and probably theraphy can fix.
Stella's description have never been so perfect!!! She has said the all.
DeleteChai! That guy is so perverted, he needs a rehad. WTH??!!!
Just know he won't change...he'll cry, beg and what not. Some may tell u shebi he takes care of your needs and blah blah...he won't change o. It's left to you to decide whether you can live with it or not.
ReplyDeletePoster, run for your dear life if you value it.seek God first and all other things will be added. Accept Christ, maintain no sex relationship in your next relationship .make sure the person has Jesus.it is wll wiv you
ReplyDeleteIn Davido's voice... *Riskyyyyy*
ReplyDeleteMy dear forget the money and run for your life.
ReplyDeleteIf you confront him, he will beg you till you have no choice to forgive him, after he wins you back, he'll become better at his game and you'll have no evidence to catch him..
Please ruuuunnnnnnnn 🏃🏃🏃🏃
I'm as shocked as you're nne.
ReplyDeleteI need to chew ice first, my head isn't booting. Maybe it's the scorching sun.
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ReplyDeleteThere's fire on the mountain 🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃
DeleteA man will always be a man. You wonder how he rotates? Lol...
ReplyDeleteA man can be with you, and you have his pass words, yet he's is d biggest cheat ever.
As you are dumping him...watch out for the next...98% of them are easy catch.😄
On other words, theyre mostly the same and she should stay abi
DeleteIt is not all men that cheats. I've been married for 18 years, relatively comfortable (I have my business with office in Lekki Phase 1), travels a lot and up till now I've not cheated on my wife once. It all depends on the values you hold and your level of self discipline.
DeleteAll of my respect goes to you sir!
DeleteArise you have my maximum respect. May God continue to bless you and your wife with everything good and perfect
DeleteBlackberry this ones cheating pass another level. Different thing if u catch ur man with one side chick. He can apologise,u guys work is out. But you see this one even sleeps with prostitutes.....he has several sexual partners. His a walking breathing time-bomb. Such men hardly change,it will take alot. They cant just be with one woman. Dont know how to do it. They see every woman as a walking vagina for dere gratification. He just wants one gullible woman home dat can give him kids and a home while he gallivants about.
DeleteRespect Sir!!!!
DeletePoster this is a gunpowder about to explode..The only mature thing to do is to move out from the house and cut off ties with him..He is a sex addict and not even you if you like have a purple ikpu you can never change him unless he decides to..Abeg run away!!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear move on cos it is not going to be easy ride, even if he swears that he will stop he will never stop. Better to end the engagement than to live in misery and fear of infection forever.so sorry for what you are going through
ReplyDeleteThe main issue here is that this girl isn't going to leave this guy.
ReplyDeleteThat 200k a month was the price she was bought over with.
You had "accommodation problem" and the solution was to move in with him; as what? Where and when was your bride price paid?
All these things can be avoided by
not being greedy and not having sex before marriage.
Anonymous thank you very much. With the money she earns and the 200k the guy gives her she still couldn't solve her "accommodation problem". Maybe it was how God wanted to expose the man sha. But I bet you she cannot leave him. The money she gets from him is too good to let go.
DeleteWhat if she leave him and goes to date a guy who doesn't earn this much and the guy is cheating on her? Wahala dey everywhere ooo. Na only her fit make this decision. What ever decision she makes, anything she see make she take na so life be.
200k don blind her. If una like empty her head pack all the advice inside
DeleteThis babe wont leave. I can BET that. I no get energy to advice when you know what to do babes.
Goodluck on more Chronicle and HIV dashing. Love u sis.
I was scrolling down to comment when l saw this. If the guy wasnt this loaded, she for don clear. Money works wonders. Abeg, check yourself. He isn't stopping anytime soon. Marriage or not. So the ball is in your court. Wanna leave, then do so. If not take it as u see am.
DeleteMy dear that your 200k will soon become 0naira. Your guy will soon be laid off considering what is happening in the oil sector. So u better leave now. Being with a cheat and a broke guy is hell on earth. Dont say you were not warned
DeleteZendaya, I reject it for the guy abeg. Poster please think twice bfor making any decision let him know your findings and above all pray for him if truly you love him aside his money.
DeleteHmmmm, when she mentioned moving in with him, in my mind I was like 'shebi you no get parents house ni?'.
DeleteMy dear, the ball is in your court oo and I believe because he said he has a fiancee, you think you are the final bus stop.
He would marry you eventually if you decide to continue but don't think he would stop cheating except maybe through divine intervention..
He engaged you 6months ago, you have accommodation issue and you were going to move out from his place by May, is the engagement ring going to last 1year and 6months in your hand?
DeleteAny serious person who engages a girl for 6months + whould have used this opportunity to do the wedding proper instead of making you look for an accommodation that we all know the collect rent for 1year or 2year.
I can't advise you to leave because love matter get as e be, and with the kind of money he gives you, na no going anywhere oh.
Pray for him and make him know you snooped, he might change for good. Good luck sis.
Eleganza I raise two Beyonce hands for you. Pray for him to change from afar maybe. The one who didn't care if her life was going to be endangered by COVID-19? This one na outright leave. Girlfriends and prostitutes on speed dial? Sex maniac re oo..
DeleteWow I do not usually comment but I am not sure why the advice is needed in this case. God loves you very much for you to have uncovered this truth before your mariage. Money is not everything in this world. Leave this relationship immediately and do not look back. Please do not sleep with men anymore until mariage for your own sake and peace of mind; It is well.
ReplyDeleteMust you all put I don't usually comment.??? Oya congratulations
DeleteDont mind them.... like their comments are gold when they do
Delete15.57 but how is it your headache?
DeleteMy dear truth is it rains everywhere. If you leave him, the next guy you'll be with will still be a cheat. I've come to accept that...and it's a fact. So the decision is yours...
ReplyDeleteYou just spoke from your anus. @15:12. The next one will not put her at risk not just for STDs but bloody corona. Post please run! GOD shows us these things to give us time to check out. If you look at the timeline and see what led you to checking before marriage as well is God's way to showing you to help you make an informed decision. I would return the ring and ask him to go therapy to deal with his demons the rest is up to you
DeleteNot all men cheat my goodness! some of you women are so messed up in the head that you think all men cheat. So you think all men wants to go to hell fire??? Only women wan go heaven?? Think about it. Find a man who has the fear of God first and who has discipline to resist temptation! Unfortunately it’ll take lots of prayers to find that man. I always wonder why some men cheat self. No be the same feeling when y’all ejaculate? Exact same pleasure when you cum so what’s the point of this whole cheating. I don’t understand.
DeleteWow! Just wow. So your mentality says that every man is a cheat, so she should stick with this pig?? Tell me, is every male figure in your life as dirty as this poster's fiance??
DeleteLies from the pit of hell. Not all men are sex addicts pls
DeleteIf you conclude ALL MEN CHEAT, then you need to question the kinda guys you attract and those around you, dont fail to include your brothers and father.
DeleteLies from the pit of hell! A man who truly loves God does not cheat. I dated my wife for two years(no sex). We have been married for 8 years and I have never cheated on her.
DeleteI want to make heaven and nothing will stand in the way of my relationship with God.
Besides being a sin against God I won't think of hurting my wife by sleeping with another woman. She is an amazing woman. She stood by me while I was nobody. Now I run two successful companies.
Ladies, marry men who genuinely love God and make sure you also love God and have a relationship with Him.
I repeat for the umpteenth time, it is not all men that cheats. I've been married for 18 years, relatively comfortable (I have my business with office in Lekki Phase 1), travels a lot and up till now I've not cheated on my wife once. It all depends on the values you hold and your level of self discipline.
DeleteAnonymous 17:26
DeleteHow many of these men are genuine available nowadays? Na God hand we dey, I pray I find one.
Low self-esteem females are creeping out. As much as I don't buy that nonsense of "it rains everywhere", this one na flood. It will sweep her away.
DeleteArise and anon 17:26 God bless you both. May you never be put to shame
DeleteLadies you have just been told twice by MEN that there are those that DO NOT CHEAT!!! However, you must look for these men through the eyes of God (praying and fasting included) than through the eyes of money.
DeleteLady, aren't you the one that does not love your life?
ReplyDeleteWhat were you doing having sex before marriage?
And who told you he will stop when he marries you, if he eventually does anyway?
Mr/miss saint
DeleteMy dear i dont know how to advise you o.maybe the society don mess up my brain to think most men cheats .Its possible he get married to u and stop cheating ( i v seen cases lile thato) n vice versal
DeleteIf this guy were not working in an oil company and gives you generous allowances, will you date him?
ReplyDeleteYku don't need advice but you can't think deep in your own because of the money you're getting from him.
ReplyDeleteSince you can Snoop on him, you don't need anyone to tell you what to do.
Don are you my Twin?
DeleteI wrote that ☝️
😀😀😀.. it's just the plain truth. I just saw your comment now.
DeleteThe money involved int allowed er to thinki and I can't bet it, she won't leave the guy.
Yku don't need advice but you can't think deep in your own because of the money you're getting from him.
ReplyDeleteSince you can Snoop on him, you don't need anyone to tell you what to do.
Exactly
DeleteWe don hear na. Stop repeating
DeleteYour question should have been, how do you break things off with him.
ReplyDeleteYou think she will break off?
DeleteNdi ohuru ego kwere onwu.
☹☹ eeeh oooo
DeleteAnon 15.15, I just tire... God forgive me... This is looking like a case of sex addiction...
DeleteJust ignore his ugly sides and focus on his good size.Still you need to let him know you're aware of his,escapades but in a,subtle way ,if I were you I will just focus on his good size and keep praying for him to be a,better man .
ReplyDeleteAre you for real? Pls do not listen to this person
DeleteMelancholy
You are either an ashawo or u v really low self esteem ?!! Like wtf
Delete...because of the money na. Means you are a gold digger. Don't think about future diseases and pains, dey there dey talk of his good sides. Which good side ?
DeleteBecause of 200k, you’re talking this rubbish. Nigerian women and money. Money won’t buy her life back if she ends up dead with a deadly disease. The negative outweighs the good side of him! Dude is f*cked in the head. He’s a sex addict!
DeleteNa wao... Focus on his good sides all because of money. You think life revolves around money and material things. I hope you would have a better comment if her life goes south after managing the mkpi of a husband.
DeleteLovelace.
Focus on which good side..because of few notes that you can actually generate in your own.....what is the good side exactly?????? I still insist that there are mad persons out there because there are stupid partners enabling them....Buxomebony...money certainly cannot cure all diseases... I really pity you...only women who are poor and lazy mentally will stoop this low!!
Delete@Buxomebony, you're talking in the nonsense, you're talking in the rubbish. Come and collect your esteem back o, baba has released it.
DeleteFocus on his good side kwa? Poster, the question is do you love yourself? If you do, you know what to do. This man will only bring you grief and heartache. His type will sleep with househelp, neighbour, recharge card seller on your street etc, etc. Babe RUN for your life!!!
DeleteIs it not glaring enough that your man is a man hoe? What exactly do you want us to tell you? To bear with him and that he'll change?
ReplyDeleteEven after confronting him, he won't change, mind you.
He would make you empty promises of how he's going to change and all of that... It's all yimu...I like that word 😂
You know the right thing to do, but you don't want to cos you feel once you leave, you'd miss out on his cash/material gifts to you...nothing else.
If you don't value your life and sanity, you can remain with him and enjoy.
You think having sex with a man everyday would make him stay faithful to you?
You know the right thing to do, do it.
Sluttychic.
Thank you sluttychic. The ojukokoro on the material gains wont let her go. Which advise she need when the handwriting they clear.
DeleteJust ignore his ugly sides and focus on his good side.Still you need to let him know you're aware of his,escapades but in a,subtle way ,if I were you I will just focus on his good size and keep praying for him to be a,better man .
ReplyDeleteChai.wetin be e good side! Ring and Monthly allowance? No wonder men they use African women like tissue because most dnt know their worth. She should pray??
DeleteOmg, did you just typed this...
DeleteBecause of money???
Nawa o
I will suggest you talk with him. His response will determine your next move. He might have kept that part of his life a secret from you in other not to hurt you. From your narrative, he seems like a nice person. Wishing you the very best.
ReplyDeleteyou see them marriedchicks that will lick up even soak away pit as long as there is money coming in?
DeleteIf this man was sacked from his job and became penniless, will you be chanting that thing there?
The girl will not only match on that grenade, she will eat it. As long as the dude is taking care of here 101 percent.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 15:18, thank you very much. So much for their feminism. Once the man is rich and takes care of all their needs, feminism is dropped. I dey laugh.
DeleteI think you should read about feminism with an open mind. Drop the crowd mentality. Do you know what feminism is all about?
DeleteHe is such a fucking whore, very irresponsible dude. So what are you going to do now.
ReplyDeleteMelancholy
But Stella, you said ladies shouldn't snoop, how will she have detected the grenade in the first place?
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 15:19, leave Stella out of this. She gives her opinion. You give yours and move on. If snooping works for you fine, if it doesn't fine.
DeleteAs this poster has snooped is she not confused? Why can't she make a decision on her own from snooping. Did she consult us when she wanted to snoop? Now who is not having peace of mind?
Wow!!! This is really sad to read! Sleeping with prostitutes esp at this delicate time?? Why do people lack contentment?? He loves you yet he finds it hard to let go of sleeping with people. My advice to you madam, leave him and don't even look back. You work and earn money right? And I am sure u save, at least he gives u monthly allowance too. Move on! Make sure you tell him what u saw and read, let him know. Don't let him get into your head with sweet words o. I'm sure he will have an explanation, he also will definitely tell u that he will change. He won't! This one is beyond normal and I am disgusted on your behalf
ReplyDeleteFor the first time Stella is supporting snooping. But this guy bad Sha. And he still has sperm in his Anus. Wasting money on lustful desires
ReplyDeleteMy sister, all men or some men are cheat, if he loves you and take care of you ,stick with him.... He use protection even. The next guy that you will meet might not take care of you and love you... He will still cheat. FACT
ReplyDeleteSee advice! So until he give am HIV/AIDS abi.
DeleteBecause of money make she stay???
Wow!! Wow!! Wow!!
Poster do not take this advice. There r good men out there not twisted sickos like this one. Do u Rily want to keep up with a cheating man for life? Can u handle d depression that comes with it ? Nd d fact dat he could give u aids or herpes one day ? If u can go ahead. But he will never change don’t lie to urself on dat one he might cover his tracks but except Jesus touches his head he won’t change !!
Delete15:20 money mongers. See your mouth like he takes care of you. Trying to justify your greed with all men are cheat. Who told you. Greedy lots.
DeleteLovelace
This is why women need to have their own money and be content with it. So you don't feel obliged to remain in a wrong relationship.
DeleteIt is rather unfortunate that some ladies have really been messed up in their upbringing and are suffering from rather low self esteem (sorry to say this please), NOT ALL MEN CHEAT. I've been married for 18 years, relatively comfortable (I have my business with office in Lekki Phase 1), travels a lot and up till now I've not cheated on my wife once. It all depends on the values you hold and your level of self discipline.
DeleteThank you jare.most of these men cheats.if he loves her n taking care of her, she should pray he changes
DeleteUr eyes v seen ur anus indeed 😂😂 sorry dear ..... take a long quick leap of faith outta dat sham of a relationship cos guess wat wen u get married nothing changes!!!! And in ur next relationship try to not v sex till u get married Nd close thy legs !!! B extremely prayerful too! He gives u 200k per month as what na? Nne run for ur life o! Chukwu aju this type of end time men. Pele ehh
ReplyDeleteExactly! I feel irritated with that word! I AM NOT STARVING him. Are u married to him to be performing wife duties??? Pls ladies close your legs biko. Meself don learn my lessons long ago.
DeleteIt is sad. What is now the difference between you and them? You are all having sex with him and being taken care of... None of you is married to him, only supplying... How sad...
Delete👌
DeleteY didn't u go to ur parents house
ReplyDeleteAnd stay wen u had d accommodation
Problem.nah money blind ur eye.
Just move on,don't even think
Of forgiving him cause he will always cheat on u no matter what!
A broken Relationship is better than a broken marriage.be Wise like a serpent
Gbam @your last paragraph
DeletePoster use your tongue to count your teeth, that man is a serial cheat and it will only get worse when you are married to him.
WTF 😲😲😲😲😲😲. Please start running. A broken enga
ReplyDelete*A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage*
DeleteThis one is really crazy
ReplyDeletePlease run as fast as your leg can carry you
I can't deal mehn
You have to confront him, he is Rich and things money can solve all things
ReplyDeleteI am happy for you that you snooped,you don't know the bullet you just dodged. It is time to walk away from him.
ReplyDelete@Rose, what did she dodge? Did she tell you she is done with the relationship? She is asking us what she needs to do which means she hasn't made a decision. The guy's wealth won't allow her make a decision so she has to bring it to SDK's blog. I can tell you when she's done reading comments here she'll still be as confused as before if not more.
DeleteDear poster, you are about to get married to a nymphomaniac, someone with unsatisfiable sexual cravings.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is HE CANNOT CHANGE, so even if you confront him he will only apologise for getting caught and not for his lewd ways.
So the choice is to either marry him and live a life of sending in chronicles and regret or walk away with hope that the next man you meet will treat you better...Don't let the money his giving you fool you, and also before you confront him make sure u send urself copies of his message so that he cannot deny.
So confront him and watch him closely, if you see genuine remose and change then continue with the relationship but if you feel he won't change then walk away.
MAKE SURE YOU PUT YOUR HAPPINESS FIRST
LEP 😛
Fact1. He will not change. He has whetted his appetite for sex. Loving u will not change that.
ReplyDeleteBe sure u can live with that in marriage, if u continue.
U are lucky, some of us discovered ours after marriage and are stuck in it.
Poster, I am so sorry for what's happening in your relationship. I'd advise you to walk away though I know it is very difficult given that a date for marriage has been fixed, but walking away is the best thing to do especially as you are healthy.
ReplyDeleteAs a side note to ladies, we have to be sincere with ourselves. When we see a good man we should recognize it. We can't always have it all in one man.
In yesterday's chronicle I made it known no formulae for all this .yesterdsys poster complained of stingy man and today we have a generous man but a cheat.
ReplyDeleteI believe ladies truly know who is right for them..I choose not to believe along the line no good like decent man came for you?...the problem most time is.."he is not my type or the the guys that treats us well aint the one we want "...I repeat , any successful man you see today got someone ..so you either choose to play along and get burnt or you take a walk ...this guy giving you huge money when he is not yet married to you and you felt happy and encouraged him and you think you the only one he spends on ? Find me a guy that is rich and hardly spends on you during dates then I bet that kinda man make a good husband in marriage most times..now listen, sex is not emotional attachment to ladies..guys see sex as just sec like when a man is thirsty he drinks water so is when a man is horny he sex...ladies are emotional beings and youvattach emotions to sex...you thinking having sex with youbis enough is on the long thing....if you ever want to know if agiy truly values you...he spends reasonably on you..and his commitment and attention he gives you is much more than the sex he gets..then you 75% good to go with him.
Pay attention to what aguy does with his money.attention..and commitment that's is a clue in knowing if a man is responsible .poster best of luck.
What is your problem poster?..
ReplyDeleteAre you crazy or what?..
What kind of advise do you want?..
Oya leave him so a girl that will value him with his cheating attitude would take over!..
Mumu!..
See someone that is taking care of you,flaunting you as his fiancee and you are complaining...
See most guys cheat!!..
So far he is using condoms and taking care of you,you dont have problems!!..
You can knack pigeon on his head to stop cheating...
And you have to be doin it every 3 months or else,the cheating will increase.
Jayz has cheated on Beyonce ofozie gi!..
Who you be?
Boss you are back with this pigeon talks. Only low self esteem ladies will follow this advise.
DeleteHahahahaha. Oh girl see your mummy in the lord ooo. She has spoken.
DeleteYou know what you want? Live or death choose one
Leave B from this matter biko
DeleteAre you okay at all?
DeleteBeyonce forgiving & accepting JayZ back has really made alot of women give unworthy men second chances.....
DeleteThat reference is becoming damn annoying this 2020.
She's here again, speaking for pastor in the morning, knacking pigeon in the afternoon.
DeleteIf you want to be confused in life, listening to this queen at your own peril.
Na queen talk am well me that am feeding and clothing a cheat in peace nkor. I wish I see rich man wey go look after me well and cheat na me sef go dey arrange babes for am
DeleteThis issue of "I have been faithful to him" does not arise here.
ReplyDeleteBoth you and this boyfriend are one and the same in fornication.
If you break off, will you not join yourself to the next available
man that is able to provide for your needs 101%, move in and live
with him and go on to supply fornication and to snoop around his phones?
You both have been unfaithful to God that created you to be holy and chaste
with your bodies, even in marriage.
My advice to you may not be the popular one; give your life to Christ, live in
him and find fulfillment and eternal life in him first. He will give you the right man to marry you,
with whom you will work out a beautiful marriage with.
Hmmmn...thank you. Poster, seek God.
DeleteSome men are like this, philanderers they are but are quick to hide it after all "na who dem catch be thief." You're lucky you found out now before he infects you with std. Can you cope with this if you go ahead with the marriage?
ReplyDeleteI'll tell you this for free, it's not easy having a philanderer for a husband. Better a broken engagement than a broken marriage. You know what's good for you and only you can make the best choice for yourself no one else. By the way, confront him let's see what he's got to say for himself.
Some men are scum 🤦🏽♂️
ReplyDeleteaunty your boo is a sex addict and if you manage to see all ladies he is getting down with, i bet you they all would possess the same physical or skin tone attributes hence why he is telling them about you, he loves you but love their body and might even fantasize about them when shagging you😔
confront him about your discoveries and how he acts will determine if he truly is repentant or unrepentant then after that, he should go for multiple deliverance and also he needs therapy badly to free him from his fantasies
Nawa o....I am beyond shocked
ReplyDeleteIf you can share your man then go back and continue, but if not, you better count your losses now and move on with your life because this one na bad market.
ReplyDeleteI will always say this, if you want to snoop on your man, make up your mind to expect the worst and make up your mind on how to handle it if your suspicions are correct. But to go and snoop and then write to stella to wail that your heart is broken to pieces and beg her to advise you on what to do is what I dont understand. Anyway you have too options, if you simply can't handle a cheating man, then quit the relationship. You have a good job and can take care of yourself. Another man of your choice and sexual preference will come. If however you love the way he takes care of you financially (all the allowances and goodies he gives you) and since he told his side Chics that he loves you, then advise him in a subtle manner to always play safe, forget you ever snooped on his phone and don't ever go asnooping for your peace of mind and sanity. One thing I know is that men that has the kind of money that he has and love sex the way he does hardly ever stop cheating except they personally find God and decide on their own to stop. So think through these options and make your decision.
ReplyDeleteBut why do some men think it's okay to cheat?
ReplyDelete@ Picture (G Wagon) it the same reason some women think it's okay to cheat.
DeleteEverybody is not chanting "na money blind you?"
ReplyDeleteHow many of you ladies here will stop being with a man
that gives you more than what you earn in a month, even if
you catch him farming with seven hoes at the same time?
My life is better and I value it
DeleteSpeak for urself abeg!
DeleteThat's how most of u just sit down to generalise what u don't knw.
I dated my now husband for 10 good years,( from my uni days)
This is someone that had nothing
We both ain't from a rich home.
I even got a job before him
To think I never for once cheated on him
Do u think money is everything
To some of us?
I can't trade my peace of mind
For anything.
Speak for YOURSELF abeg. Nonsense
DeleteSpeak for yourself. Money is not everything. If you have practiced contentment all your life, no amount of money will sway you. In abundance, we are good. If we hit a roadblock we are good too.
DeleteYou are not a child of God so why are you complaining about how your sin partner chooses to sin? It's his life and you have no right to tell him how to live it. The best you can do is leave him, that's if you have the guts. It's just like when many married women are complaining about unfaithful husbands when they were having premarital sex with the Same person before marriage. What do you expect when you nor your husband is a born again Christian? As you make your bed, you lie on it.
ReplyDeleteMost BVs will tell you to leave him, and then what? Find another boyfriend who you'll start sleeping with and the cycle repeats itself. No man, I repeat no man who is not a child of God can stay without sleeping with multiple women especially when he's educated and has money. So ask yourself what you desire? To stay with him? Keep in mind that he won't change except if he really wants to and that could be on his death bed after he must have infected you with myriads of diseases or to repent, give your life to Christ and wait for the right man from God. That is if you're meant to marry. After all the bible makes it clear that not everyone is destined to marry.
@Anonymous 15:38, what you've said up there is so true. I know many would not agree with you.
DeleteI am guilty of pre-marital sex, but I know what you've posted up there is so true If we have to live a true Christian life.
Anon 15:38 you have no right what's so ever to tell someone that he or she is not a child of God. No right at all.
DeleteThank you 👏
DeleteMy dear count yourself that you dnt have a man. Na chronic sex addict. Remove your mind from that money you thing say e get oo.
ReplyDeleteThank God for opening your eyes before you say I DO. Pls move on my sister. If not!! na sexual disease go finish you oo.
Sometimes is good to snoop. Am team snoop😎
Dont mind those that would tell you to flee,.most of them are enjoying their cheating boyfriends and husbands with no shihi...
ReplyDeleteNne,you know what to do...just follow your heart.dassal..
ReplyDeleteA mans adrenaline and libido naturally gets higher than normal when he has enough money to spend, only self/sexual control can put those hormones in check. Your mans sexual control button has been pressed deep in like the 0 button on an ATM, pretty damaged. Good thing you snooped, you'd have been waltzing blindly into a Gen Pop Penis, the decision after snooping is entirely up to you, alot of women will remain there as long as hes wealthy, praying & hoping he'd change his ways.
ReplyDeleteI still dont get why some people are against snooping.
You need a kiss for this comment
DeleteYes a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, He, s a man hoe!! You talk about corona???an irresponsible man is an irresponsible man, mine that preaches Christianity and all, is ready to have sex a prostitute even on a Lenten retreat
ReplyDelete.will run for my life soon!!! Sick men everywhere!!!
@Anonymous 15:42, "will run for my life soon" so what are you waiting for? To milk him before you leave, abi? Nonsense! If you have any iota of self dignity you would leave the moment you find out. So much for your tough stance.
DeleteIt's either he's giving you money or you're jobless, that's why you're still hanging in there abi ?
DeleteWaa wa alright o. 😅
I'll advice you weigh if u can bear it. The truth is that many men cheat(I won't say all) but at least he has d decency to use protection and hide it from you. He respects and take care of you. Babe, weigh your advantages and disadvantages. If you think you can cope then stay. If not pls leave to avoid more stories later
ReplyDeleteYou don't starve him sex and you are not his wife. My dear remember fornication is a sin
ReplyDeleteMadam if you intend to stay just keep your mouth shut and continue to pretend like you don't know. Cos if you let him know that you are aware of his escapades and you eventually marry him, if he continues in marriage, he will say didn't you know he was like this before you agreed to marry him. If you tell him now he will promise you heaven and earth and say he won't repeat it, but when you enter house your eyes go see 9-9.
ReplyDeleteIf you were my sister I will advice you to dust your slippers and run, cos this one na man ashewo. And men like this your knees will go black from war room prayers everyday. you will see that you are always fighting in prayers side chicks. Cos if any of these ladies decide to sink their teeth in him, na so both of Una go dey drag the man. I am not saying it can't happen to good guys but this one is even before marriage. How will it now be after marriage.
If some guy just get small change na woman go be their problem. Something must kill a man. Poster move on from this pinky lover boy.
ReplyDelete@poster, I wonder what you are asking here, or is it BC of d financial benefit you get? This is what I call universal prick, so you can go on till he starts competing with King Solomon.
ReplyDeleteIt's your decision and I hope you don't come back with more terrifying stories in d future. I thought d essence of snooping is to take a stand, so what are you waiting for? Choose wisely, okay.
Don't mind her. I wonder who sent her to snoop
ReplyDeleteShare his number i need to call and confirm he's a cheat. 😜
ReplyDeleteWere 😜.
DeletePoster thank God for the revelation. Pls borrow Johnny walker shoes and keep it moving. Thank God you didn't contract any deadly diseases.
ReplyDeleteSimple my dear. He's all you've got for now. You are enjoying that extra 200k that comes in every month arent you? If you confront him or report him to his people, he still wont change, FACT. Your matter now na manage matter till you are ready to either
ReplyDelete1- leave him and move on with your life
2- stay with him until you find someone better then you break up with him. But someone better I mean, a guy equally as nice as this one and even spends MORE on you than your current boyfriend but doesn't cheat much
3- accept your cross now and get your self your own fuck buddy that you can be gbensing at the time you want as well
4- go stone cold and concentrate more on your own personal finances ie, be richer than him and leave him.
If you are not ready for any above...then I am out of advises for you. Finally,if you know you are not strong enough to handle cheating from your husband to be, please don't marry.
Money equate to love for majority of you.
DeleteSee nonsense his one is spewing.
So, you knew the way to your parents home just after snooping... What happened before now, Why didn't you go to your parents home?
ReplyDeleteI can't tell you to leave your pervert of a fiancé, the choice is yours.
It will be very difficult for you to leave him, seeing that he has the kind of financial stability and security you wish to have in a marriage.
If you go on with the marriage, he will continue to fuck prostitutes and he'll one day forget to wear protective and then contract STDs that he will later pass on to you.
Let him know what you saw. Don't hide it from him.
You can decide to call off the relationship if you so wish.
he'll one day forget to wear protective 😂 egungun will enter express ni yen.
DeleteMadam break up with him in your mind and allow him continue fooling himself with the hoes. Keep collecting his money, infact task him more now. DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM. Play him, collect more of his money before you sign out. By the time you collect 200-300k monthly from him, by December e don reach 1.6m/2.4m. If you’re very sharp and smart, you’ll take advantage of postcovid economy meltdown and drain him weeeeelllllllll using nonexistent faux businesses et al.
ReplyDeleteRemember I said you should break up in your heart. By December you should be good to go. Please break his heart, dry it, grind it, roll it and smoke it like weed. He is mad! He wants to pack all sorts of diseases and dump on you. Hoeloshi!
😂😂😂☹☹
DeleteHoin!!! �� you are doing well, you have met freaky freaky. My advise is take it easy, men have sex for fun, he has told them he is in love with his engaged fiancee. No need to panic as he does the do with protection.Relax my dear, even your pastor get side chicks, Hoin! Go back to freaky freaky and make your relationship work, you are doing well.
ReplyDeletePoster , I will be honest with you here. Your man will never change or stop sleeping with the “ prostitutes” and “ the side chicken “ not even after marriage. The cheating will increase during all your pregnancy 🤰. Hope you can handle it? If you can’t run now or forever share him with other women and be ready to be treating infectious. ✌️
ReplyDeleteSDK bvs are 2 faced... if this guy was a poor struggling guy, no one will advise her to stay....My dear, relationship is quite different from marriage. Ask yourself if you can deal with a cheating and lying spouse in the future.
ReplyDeleteSee forget all these people that will come here and tell you Shit, marry that guy.. He respects you, how sure are you that the next guy won't do worst??
ReplyDeleteMost of them here have it worst, don't let anyone deceive you, they will be chopping slaps untop cheating broke husbands that don't bother using condoms out there, and they will come here and be cheering you not to marry him, only leave him if you are sure you have a better man financially and otherwise.
These same people will call you old if you don't marry on time and they will say you were too choosy..
They will soon come and diagnose me of having low self esteem syndrome, na una sabi..
Wetin you talk up there na true. Some dia husbands/boyfriend no get nothing but dem dey chop both verbal and physical abuse. Dem be pussy cat for real life but dem go dey form lion for SDK blog.
DeleteFrom the conversations, you can tell.
ReplyDeleteMature advice and Co. is needed if this discovery had happened after marriage.
ReplyDeleteYou are single, blank him out and flee. Rest assured he will not change just because he is getting married. He will need an epiphany to change his ways. Do you want to stick around for that? You’ve got to know when to hold and know when to run away.
U want to listen to the advice people are giving u? then by all means go ahead but my dear My advice to u? Do not leave him.
ReplyDeleteshow me that man that isn't cheating... Sit him down and talk to him, make him know u are hurt and that u know all his escapades. Do not break off ur engagement cos darling u really do not know who u gonna meet next.
He left her in his home to go sleep with different prostitutes during this pandemic,and you say she should stay? The man isnt just a cheat but a pervert. He is addicted to sex. And he wont change. If the girl is ready to accept him like that then she can go ahead
DeleteI am a Man and I am not cheating. Never cheated! Women you need to place more value on yourself!!!!
DeleteBumblebee, It is not all men that cheats. I've been married for 18 years, relatively comfortable (I have my business with office in Lekki Phase 1), travels a lot and up till now I've not cheated on my wife once. It all depends on the values you hold and your level of self discipline.
DeleteI've shown you a man that has not cheated, isn't cheating and isn't likely to cheat.
Oga Arise, please let us hear word.
Delete19.44 is obviously one of those men that share their bodies around like akara. No self respect.
DeleteArise, Anon 18.13 🙌
Poster, God loves you that's why he made you see the kind of man you are about to marry. Please repent and give your life to Christ. There are still men out there who are genuine christians , doing well and faithful to their partners. Pray to God to give you your bone of bone and flesh of flesh. If he is to be your husband , pray for God to touch him and make him change his ways. Please don't settle for a pig that always goes back to his vomit. Take care.
ReplyDeleteIts easy to differentiate a prostitute from a side chick, quit acting like there are no hookers no more, the oldest profession is still in the game, you want her to narate their conversation before you'd rest?
ReplyDeletePretend you caught serious infection with fake results. Then milk him for treatment. Thereafter, dump his ass.
ReplyDeleteExactly tell him you have an infection and milk him dry. Better do it fast becos oil and gas sector is going down soon. Many workers will be laid off.
Deletesame thing I said. she can turn lemon into lemonade. that is how u win at life. if not depression for finish someone
DeleteDevilish advice.Dont listen to these ones above me o.If youre quiting fine and if you decide not to ,stay.
DeleteSee association of users. You people never for once think of how you can make your own money, but to be milking men upandan, you sabi that one. What a generation.
DeleteIf it were me, I'd remain with him, the devil u know is better than the angel you don't know, at least he respects you, provides for you, acknowledges you in the presence of the other girls...in marriage u can't have it all. Just brace up, laslas you go and buy things that will weaken his libido and be giving him codedly. The ball is in your court shaa, but don't leave him kos there are waiting arms
ReplyDeleteMy dear even broke ass men cheat, its not always greener on the other side, the dude you're leaving him for, what makes you think he won't cheat?
ReplyDeleteAunty pls just overlook his bad side o.
At least he made it clear to them, he has a fiancee, not all those broke ass that'll cheat n still deny you.
No mind Stella o, she's abroad and the way she thinks is different from ours.
He is not any grenade o.
Just be at your parents till after all this shit is over, and remain with your parents until he marries you, I dont understand you going to live with a man who's yet to be your husband.
Are you serious?
DeleteYou need a high dose of Jesus Christ
DeleteKwakwakwa so jesus christ get low dose
DeletePoster for the fact that he acknowledges that he has a fiancee, that means that he cares for you. Ask him and if he doesn't denie it, give him time to see if he will change, if he doesn't, leave him and move on for your own good.
ReplyDeletePoster, leave the man. A relationship founded on sex doesn't last long even if some people will argue with this. Accept Jesus into your life as your Lord and perdonal Saviour. A man can never give you satisfaction neither money, gold, silver and other possessions. That gap in your heart is waiting to be filled by Jesus Chtist. Jesus loves you
ReplyDeleteVery funny you ran to your parents home,but you did not ask them to counsel you. I had a pre-marital challenge once. After narrating a long chronicle to my sleepy Dad, he woke up and said "go and find another partner." Short and simple. Later events proved my partner had even left the relationship before then.
ReplyDeleteLady, be wise. Money is key to most things. But money is not everything. I know. My father was VERY rich during his lifetime.
Lady be wise. A man that sex 6 women a week before marriage cannot be satisfied by one after marriage.
Can you provide the sexual quantity of 6 women in marriage? with motherly and work responsibilities?
May God give you wisdom to decide aright.
Please be kind enough to let us know your decision.
ReplyDeleteThis man is lying to you so it is time you turn this to your favour and keep him in the dark as well! Look for one excuse and distance yourself from him, but don't let him know what you know. You must be stealthy about it! Ofkos avoid sleeping with him by giving him one excuse or another. Men are good at games so women need to be smarter.
ReplyDeleteGuilt will nearly finish him and he will not know why you are moving far but he will feel it and want to overcompensate. Creatively make up excuses to distance yourself from him physically and sexually while still being kind and sweet to him from afar and chopping his money. Say you feel a bit sick and need him to send you money. say someone in your family is sick and needs money. Say u just started a training or are fasting and need to be away from his tempting body! Something!Anything! Turn this to your favour girl!
DO NOT EVEN THINK OF TELLING HIM WHAT YOU KNOW. Not yet sha until you can cash out big. In this life, we can't escape some disappointments. We can only turn them to our favour. Have fun with his tiny brain while you work on your dating options. All this without him knowing, And when you are satisfied, you dump him and his diseased dick for those ashawos. This will require a lot of patience and emotional maturity and emotional numbness. If you feel you can't do without confronting or falling deeper in love with him then just count your losses and move on completely. But honestly this guy deserves to be taken advantage of. Sex runs his life and men like that are the easiest to toy with and manipulate
t is always good to look for a silver lining and how to turn the story to suit you because this life na big pot of beans.If you allow this life to turn you into a victim, na depression and suicide o.
Clearly end game is for you to leave, but I know you don't want to leave all those goodies behind.
Three gbosa for you
DeleteAnother association of users here. Go and make your own money and stop trading self dignity for milking men all over the place. Haba.
DeleteWhen you will realise that money is nothing is after you've married him and you are stuck in the marriage. It's not easy to live with a cheating partner not to talk of someone who sleeps with prostitutes. Good luck if you decide to stay.
ReplyDeleteThe guy obviously have a higher libido than you do. Sex twice a week shows your libido is low and his multiple partners shows his is high.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to stay or go is entirely your decision. But can you meet his libido? if you can't there will be trouble in future. You need a heart to heart talk with him forget the run away crowd most won't if they were in your shoes but you need to think it through very well, discuss extensively with him and take a decision that makes you happy
Ignore the multitudes emphasis on money for a quarter of that amount 70% of them won't leave him,
You need to really think of your sexual compatibility and how you both can harmonise it, endure or take a walk but in cases like this reaching into yourself is the best way to reach a decision
I pray God helps you as you decide