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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
''BYE FELICIA''
So I have a friend whenever we have issues she get upset and blacklist me from calling and block me on WhatsApp and whenever she feel like talking she unblocks me,sometimes I will be the one to beg her to unblock me.
She can go for weeks without reaching out and even when I do she will read my chats and not reply,sometimes when I call she won't pick up or return my calls.
So this past week I called and called she did not pick up her calls neither did she return my call,same as whatsapp she read and did not reply my text for days.
There is this forum we both are and we interact on the forum with others, so whenever she sees a harmless message I sent in the forum and doesn't sit well with her,she sends me a message on whatsapp and start attacking and insulting me that why would I put something of such there.
She would go on and on about it and she is so fond of doing that.
So yesterday I told her she can't just come out of nowhere and start blasting me over something she saw in the forum.
She said she is my friend and she is correcting me out of love and she cares about me. I told her you can't tell me you care about me and you ignore my messages and calls and you only come here anytime you saw something I did that doesn't sit well with you and start insulting me over it that friends dont do that to each other.
"In her words when you are friends with someone who dont like certain things,you strive to be better" and I replied her that when a friend doesn't care about you or give a damn about you,doesn't see how important and how much you matter to them and you think you can just come out of nowhere to correct them not even correct them you insult them over something only you think its wrong.I told her I called you this past week you told me you were busy that's why you did not pick up my calls or return my call but you are less busy today to come here to insult me over some harmless message I made in the forum.
I told her to stop the pretence like she cares that it is really annoying and she should leave me to live my life.
She got mad because I said that and as usual she blocked me everywhere and I blocked her everywhere as well.
Please did I do anything wrong.
*Friends who always try to make you feel small have no place in your life!...
You should have used the word Acquaintance cos i dont think you both are friends..
If you sent in your Chronicle,please be patient,your turn will come....
Please block her forever. What nonsense, what is she feeling like now? See nerve oh, as if she's paying your Bills. Don't unblock again oh.
ReplyDeleteIf you ever unblock her... gaskiya I will look for you and SLAP you!
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Who the hell does she think she is?
Poster that your friend is toxic. Pls make sure you never unblocked her never.
DeleteStella is on point. Why do we try to maintain toxic relationships? The answer to this will help you in future poster. Used to be a people pleaser myself so I know what I am saying. Still working on myself and it is liberating.....
DeleteDear poster, I take this very personal and I'm begging you, KEEP HER BLOCKED FOREVER!!!
DeleteWith that kind of friend around you, she will finish ur self esteem and kill whatever vibe u have going on for you, she will never allow you see anything good about urself or ur life. She knock ur hustle and make u like the dust off her feet. You need to be as far as possible from her and pls, don't both to be bitter towards her bcos she has alot of healing and reorientation to do. She needs help very seriously, may just ne too arrogant or ignorant to know it, so pls, dont feel offended by her attitude. But above all, u need to keep ur distance from her and act like she's not on the platform where she sees ur comments. Life ur life, life is golden, don't let her steal or ruin ur moments and growth.
Even when u don't make sense, own it; u re not perfect, u re only human. So, own your errors and ur accolade, but never allow anyone to make u feel small or unwanted. You are special and graces to be alive! It's a privilege money can't buy.
She is not your friend! pls move on
DeleteAny friend that block you on social media is not your friend.
DeleteOne will open mouth and utter rubbish like “ God will punish u and ur family “. Then go outside look for trouble and expect me to Defend her... Nne Nne r u MAD?
DeleteIf u r targeting something from her, be patient , collect it and walk away. Mk sure is something she will CRY every night for when ever she rembers u.
Pple like that have no place in ur life, let her go to her family who can tolerate r madness Biko. No b u mk her no get parental love , cos obviously she lacks it
Poster, you are sending this in because the blocking isn t making you feel good. It shows it's not who you are!
DeleteIn my opinion, when you send her message and she doesn't respond, whenever she sends you a message, ignore her!
You need her in your space to discard her ( don't know if you understand).
You are an emotional person and will keep feeling bad. Rather than put yourself in that position, let her teach you how to pay her back herself! That way you won't be hurting.
It's good you blocked her how she blocked you. Don't blacklist her on calls. Follow her tempo.
If she sends you a message complaining about group rada rada, don't respond. Let power change hands!
If you didn't sound overly emotional, woulda asked you to cut her off. But I want you to do what your heart can carry for your own peace of mind.
We are all wired differently. She's exploiting your weakness
Block and delete her number for life.
ReplyDeleteYou're the one seeing her as your friend, to her, you're just like everybody.
You don't need her. Simple.
You're not friends but "somebody that you know " she is very manipulative and authoritative.
DeleteBlock her.
Blacklist her.
Ignore her.
Avoid her.
And if she decides to unblock you to find out why you blocked her with another number ,block that new number again .
Please ,block her from your head,heart and feelings.
You are not wrong in anyway ,some people are like that,what they can't give they want to receive.
Selah.
What did you post in the forum that your friend did not like?we have people like that in our life but basically I think the person means well. I nor like the blocking aspect of it all.
ReplyDeleteAbeg that kind friendship no follow. You block me, and then unblock me when you have decided to come back to Earth. My x boyfriend, anytime we have a lil misunderstanding, he will be saying "don't make me block you o", i'll just smile. The day he said it again, i didn't say anything, i just jejely blocked all his numbers. And then i told him i helped him fulfil his "wish". Arrant nonsense.
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Delete@Candy, you're so like me.
Anon 17:07, na true na, acting like he was doing me a favor. When he saw i meant,he con begin dey beg. Rubbish. I no kuku answer am. Used another number to call that i should please unblock him, my response was HELL NO. The fact one keeps quiet for certain things no mean say one be mumu.
DeletePlease, let this block industry both of you have established remain o.
ReplyDelete😁😁😁😁😁😁
DeleteNo be small block industry.
Lol
DeleteBlackBerry ,you're funny as hell.😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
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DeleteSavage 😂 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
DeleteShe told you she was too busy to return your calls but she does not call back.
ReplyDeleteHow do these add up?
And why does everybody who posts a chronicle pretend to be the saint?
Friends are usually birds of same feathers. The pigeons do not flock with vultures do they?
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I saw that too and it left me speechless.
DeleteAnyway, make sure you don't unblock her cos obviously you already chipped in lies to make yourself the saint. You both are toxic to each other.
BTW, why is it that most people who send in chronicles make themselves the saint? Since you're seeking for sincere advice, why not tell the truth? After all you're anonymous here. Even if you're blasted for what you did, you'd still get sincere admonition here. Please if you're sending in chronicle be truthful, no one will kill you.
Thanks.
15:08 the said friend was chatted her up on WhatsApp to reprimand her about her post on their group forum?
DeleteDon't you think it was during that chat her friend said she was too busy to return her calls?
Not true 17:13 stella is not posting my comments.you came here to lie to gain sympathy.ill reveal it all.
DeleteGhen ghen
DeleteWhat is the age difference between you and this friend,cos it seems the age difference is wide and she sees u as someone who is a younger one and who is privileged to be her friend hence the actions.If she really loves u as a friend and u offend her,she could tell u what u did and u guys talk about it like adults instead of blocking and scolding u like a spoilt brat who thinks everything must go her way.she is not ur true friend,she is too toxic and bossy.please block her for life.
ReplyDeleteWell e dey for both of you body..Two of you get coconut heads, una no dey hear word..You and her are one and the same..
DeleteHow old are you?
ReplyDeleteUse your thinking faculty.
That one no be friend.
Finally someone asks. How old are you? I feel like this is a waste of Chronicle space. 🙁
DeleteSome of you are childish and just put out everything in public forgetting it's not supposed to be so. What exactly did you post your friend didn't like?
ReplyDeletePoster to be honest I blame you for how she’s treated you, you allowed it to go on this long. She was never your friend, you are the one that thinks she’s your friend.
ReplyDeleteI’m just glad you are now brave enough to give her back. Don’t unblock her no matter what and as you have stopped talking to her I’d suggest you stop talking about her as well that is if you both share the same friends.
Aka inyere mmadú n'elú uwaa ka eji esò gi..
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Martins.
DeleteThis is an english speaking blog, you always do this.
Anon,so someone cannot express himself in his language? Why not ask for interpretation.
DeleteNezz ask for interpretation as how? He or she should drink Ogwu Oke. Martins nna ò kà odì nù
DeleteLmao! Inukwa English speaking blog! Oshe mr/ms colonial master/mistress
DeleteYou did nothing wrong poster,like Stella said,bye Felicia! This type of friends are users,controlling, manipulative and will never want you to be good sef talkless of better than them
ReplyDeleteI don't have friends anymore and that's the best decision I have taken in recent time
Good riddance!!
Both of them are the same to me..She is toxic and so are you...
DeleteNo dear you did the best,she's was never a friend instead a silent hater.🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteAbeg stay away from her ,she is toxic.
ReplyDeleteGrow some backbone baby girl. Anyone who see nothing good in you doesn't deserve to be in your life. The only reason she calls you her 'friend' is because you allow her push you around.
ReplyDelete1....The care is one sided.
ReplyDelete2....She's dealing with bad mood swings.
3.....One if not the two of you ve unsaid feelings for each other but surpressing it.
4....Whatever you guys ve going on is toxic and won't end well..
Solution... Cheer each other on from afar. Both of you can't stay in the same space ona go clash. Some friendships are better off from a distance.
This one na frenemy. Shine your eyes.
ReplyDeleteDear poster your sanity is more important you don't need any human being to control you,this your friendship looks toxic it's better you stay on your own.Your happiness is important
ReplyDeleteAvoid friendships were you are always put down. They have a way of messing up with your pysche. You have done well. Bye-bye to yeye friend.
ReplyDeleteFriendship is not by force and she is not a very nice person. Since you have blocked her make sure is permanent. She probably feels you care more about hee hence the silliness.
ReplyDeleteFirst treat people the way you want to be treated, keep treating them the way you want to be treated, but if they keep up with the nonsense after giving them a few more chances (these chances are because they might be going through stuff and acting out but they should not act out on you anyways), just take a bow biko...such friendships are NOT worth it and will leave you drained.
Hello poster I understand you very well. Because I was in your shoe. Your friend looks down on you a lot. Even mocks you to your face that person isn’t your friend. As long as you want to be her friend you may probably not grow cus once any little thing comes your way to pull up trust me she would block it. She’s excessively proud. Please don’t hold her in your heart set her free from your heart and please let that contact be remained blocked forever if possible. If she tries reaching out to you don’t pick. Since the day such friend left me my life changed for the better at first I thought I was nothing cus they actually make you feel that you won’t amount to anything like a god . Clean your tears for you to take nonsense from that friend she’s probably doing better than you for now. God is the one that bless people. Stay away from that friend . Your life will soon take a good turn ok. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteYou did nothing wrong poster intact you did the best thing. I had a very close friend back then in school that I gave my all to our friendship but at a point I realized I was the one always doing and she only calls me when she needs stuffs. I cut her off and I don't regret it for now I have just 3 friends I roll with well tho I am married it still didn't change a thing plus during my wedding they stood by me all thru that's what friends are for .
ReplyDeleteShe's not a friend,do not unblock her.
DeleteOk poster do this
ReplyDeleteSend her this message, "bye felicia". Then you block her annoying troubling a*s. Shior!
Melancholy
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DeleteShe said she has blocked her already.
Are you a child? Block her!
ReplyDeleteThat your friend is so annoying, please block and delete her number if you can
ReplyDeleteDear poster she has never been your friend,who does that? My dear blank the female narcissists and move on, she has been giving you cold shoulder treatment and you fell blindly for it. Everybody mustn't be your friend.
ReplyDeletePlease block her back and remain blocked from her life.
ReplyDeleteHow will I go and be begging someone to unblock me. Poster whatever is making u act inferior towards her, totally remove it from your head or u will keep falling for her rubbish.
A friend can correct u when u are wrong but the problem is that this one isn't your friend
My own is, how can a friend insult u when u not quarreling or anything? Like how? My friends and I have so much respect for each other. We can argue and all, agree to disagree, but nobody insults anybody.
ReplyDeleteThis is not a friendship. This is Master and servant relationship. Very unhealthy.
ReplyDeleteAre you a child to be corrected in such a way over a message you wrote on a forum using your own data, a message not about her. Na wa.
Na for primary/secondary school years ago I see this kind friendship last o.. where one person will want to be in charge and control of other people's life and make them feel soooo small that once you do any mistake you will hear, "I will not play with you again" hence the blocking your friend activate at any little disagreement poster. Leemao 😂
ReplyDeleteEmi o raye gbogbo eleyii o
Poster, you can do without people like her forever.. It's not by force!
Belittling you is an abuse! Please stay away from such friend. I'm a mental health social worker and I know what an abuse is.
ReplyDeleteWhere is my comment?
ReplyDeleteIgnore her, it might be difficult but that's what you need to do. Whenever she sends messages, read them to indicate that blue tick but do not reply. If she quotes you on the mutual forum, ignore her comment and reply others.. Act like she does not exist or gets to you. Such ppl are proud, manipulative and make you feel less of yourself, stop feeding her ego. She isn't your friend just an acquaintance . Like I said earlier ignore her, if she blocks u don't reach out, stay on your lane and be happy.
ReplyDeleteYou are a liar. Where is my comment!
ReplyDeleteWho still has time for friends???? Mscheew
ReplyDeleteI use to have a friend like that,she was so rich as at 6 years back,she was driving a range and i didn't have a bicycle. We visited each other from time to time. Fast forward to her wedding,she wanted everyone to pay 50k for bridal shower and we were 30 or more on the group,it didn't sit down well with me so i told the planner to reduce it to 25k at least. Na so i hear the story of my life o calling me "broke ass girl ".Took as far as shading me on Instagram,me i just left IG stopped communicating with her. Fast forward to last year na dem dey find me,famz me and all of a sudden i don turn to person for their eyes cos they didn't believe i could marry the kind of man i got married to. Me daughter of nobody. Dear poster,focus on making your life better and block bad energy,God will elevate you in a way that no one is gonna look down on you anymore.
ReplyDeleteBetter now than later.
ReplyDeleteBurn the bridge and blow the ashes into the ocean.
This type of 'friend' can do you a lot of harm.
Both of you are not compatible. Are you depending on her for financial assistance?
ReplyDeleteIt's better both of you go your separate ways.
She is a narcissist.u better run from her
ReplyDeleteFriends nahh not for me anymore. I used to have a close friend she was so close to me i could do anything just 2 put a smile on her face. I was having a chat with someone dat worked for her elder sister and we got gisting and i said somethings like gist but the girl said more deep tins but i shut her up and told her im not cut out for gossip...dats how the girl went to tell her all sort and she my frd dint even confined in me to knw if i said such or not but rather she believed the girl more than me. I was heartbroken. Learnt my lesson thou, henceforth if you want to tell me about a friend i will just stand up. I dont even keep close friends anymore.
ReplyDeleteYou made the right decision. She is not your friend, let her go.
ReplyDeleteNkechi my fake brainless 'big girl' comes to mind here. So quick to put others down while hyping herself. I no fit finish story here but will put it in perspective oneday. So full of herself, extremely manipulative and takes grand pkeasure in spoiling and putting others down. But see how God brought her low from her 'exalted height.' Shame no even gree her talk true. Hmmm, all I can say is keep away from ANYONE who thinks less of you in their very small minds. The God who created you knew you before He formed you and that is all that matters.
ReplyDeletePoster na wetin, can't you live without her abi dem born una together, una be siamese twins? She come dey treat you like say she dey do you favour by being your friend and you too dey call am. if she waka, make you sef waka, genuine friendship is based on mutual respect. Any misunderstanding should be settled with peace and respect. Leave am abeg, friendship no be by force.
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