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FAMILY ISSUE


Hello Stella and hope you are doing well?


I am a silent a blog visitor and I just can't do without your blog in a day.

I have a big family issue on ground and I seek reasonable advice from everyone here.


I am from a family of four, two boys and two girls and I am the last born. The boys are married, remaining us i.e myself and my sister. While my sister was in school then she got pregnant for her boyfriend in her final year, the guy came for introduction (let me call him Tony). And before u know it, things started going down for Tony (perhaps it's something spiritual) to the extent that he committed suicide early this year. The son they had together is 9 years old already. My sister hasn't been lucky in relationships based on the fact that she has a son.



We had a new neighbor(let me name him Frank) , he came in with his pregnant wife, they are staying in a one room apartment. After the wife gave birth, the mother couldn't come for omugwo, so my mum been an experienced person took up the position of the mother and started bathing the child till the she could bathe her child herself. Because of that bond Frank started liking our family. He gives us gifts during Christmas, he connected us to his generator, everyday we sleep with generator if there is no light.


Anytime Frank wants to go get fuel, my sister always go with him, we never knew something else has started between them. Rumours was moving in the compound that my sister is dating Frank to the extent that Frank's wife heard about it and was behaving somehow to my family


I confronted her about it, she denied and told me that it's just rumors, I closed the chapter.


This week my sister called my mom and told her that Frank said he wants to marry her, that he doesn't mind sending his wife away and renting another apartment for my sister. It now dawned on me that relationship has started since.


My parents has been sad ever since the news and it's affecting their health.


My brother came and tried to confront my sister, my sister insisted that she would marry Frank to the extent that they fought. Since yesterday my sister hasn't returned home, same with Frank. He hasn't come back home since yesterday.


Now back to me, am in a serious relationship with Moses, we have done introduction. And then he had opportunity to travel to out, he promised my parents that he will come back to pay my bride price immediately he returned. Things didn't go well for him over there, so he returned with nothing. Throughout this period, I never cheated on him, I love him badly. And am still praying that he gets a better job and come and do the needful.



My question now is that, what kind of advice can I give to my sister concerning this issue? And secondly this thing concerning marriage, all the girls from my mother's family have been make mistakes concerning marriage. Three of my Mum's younger sisters are not married and are well older than even my brothers. The one that is married, couldn't get pregnant. One also married wrongly and now the husband is dead leaving her with two kids to fend for. Another also married wrongly and up till now the husband haven't paid her bride price and they already have children.


Please Stella, do you think it's a family problem for all the females in the family, cuz I am confused and I have been thinking seriously that what could be the cause.


Please I need your advice, please pardon my errors, am really sad. 



*Na wah oh....The issue is much and our sister is also towing that line...
Ask your parents well,especially your mum,there must be a curse a generational pattern that she must have noticed and can talk to you about...
I am not a professional in giving advice on generaional problems...