STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
GUILTY FEELING
Dear Stella,
Kindly post this in chronicle I really want to know if I over reacted so as to free myself from this guilt.
Before I put to bed last year, I beg my cousin who is 19 yrs to come assist me, as maids kept disappointing. She came and was very helpful which I appreciate and promised her to get her a cleaning job at my company for her to be doing so as to make her responsible and to learn how to be independent. This my cousin couldn't write her waec as i heard her father stop paying her school fees due to an issue. I felt pity on her at this jet age someone can't even boast of common waec result.
When my mum came she collected her phone to use to browse I was even happy that the phone will keep her company as it was just her alone I am not a talking type. I connected her to Wifi and this phone kept her really busy until one day I pick up the phone to see what she was doing, you won't believe she was chatting to more than 10 different men professing love to them at this same plus the ones that was asking for nude picture. If i tell you I was shocked is only an understatement.
I called her immediately and confronted her she told me they were just friend and that she doesn't have female friends, I ask her what male friends ask for nude I warned her and also advice her to be very careful as one can't trust anyone especially with nude photos. I informed my other siblings to be witness so that her dad won't claim she came to my house and became spoilt. One my sister was against me that why will I go through her phone without her consent that she is an adult and can do whatever she wished.
This got me scared and I told my siblings that i want to send her back as I didn't know she was this wild for her age and I'm scared if getting her job in my company as 85% of people in my office are men and she might ending up having affairs with them and giving me bad image. My brother begged on her behalf that I shouldn't send her back but please assist her as she needs help. That I should take that as my sacrifice to the family.
I called her advice her and told her the implications of the type of life she want to choose to live. I also told her to be open to me and always seek for advice as I have seen life and can help. I told her she could no longer work in my company as it will bring problems between us. I told her that rather than taking my baby to the Creche and she staying at home doing noting let her be taking care of my baby while I pay her the money am suppose to pay the Crech. The reason for this suggestion is for me to be able to gather money for her so that she could be able to write waec next year and also jamb and see if she can get admission. Aside the money I pay I do everything for her and also give her token weekly incase she feels like buying something.
This was what I suggested to her she was so happy. I got past questions for her to be reading lucky for me my baby is a calm child it just to eat and sleep so she has enough time to study. I started work and told her that I don't want her on no account bringing my baby out or take my baby to anybody house without my consent.
I make sure I get everything needed at home on my way back from work and also make sure the house is comfortable by recharging our dstv and light. Everything was going smooth we were all happy. I stop poking my nose in her business so that she won't say I am caging her. To my greatest surprise one of my neighbour that I like and a bit close to by allowing my first child go to their house once a while came to house and show me a number asking me if it was my cousins number. I confirm it and ask her if their is any problem she said no and left.
30 mins later she called me to tell me my sister is sleeping with husband. I challenge her and she said she has evidence I ask her to bring the evidence. I was excepting to see message of her husband disturbing my sister so as to use it against the woman. To my greatest surprise I saw message of my sister begging this man of her love to him. I had to go to this woman and knelt down to beg to please not to have issues with her husband because of my sister. This woman now opened up to me that she even thought my sister was dating her younger brother, how my sister use to come to her flat all the time with my baby to see the the brother and how she was so free with her not knowing she could sleep with her husband. This woman was crying and telling how she help in building her hubby and that she wants to walk away but don't know where to start as she is an orphan. I was so hurt.
My people after much plead I left her flat and came to my sister to ask her first of all why she was taking my baby to another flats to play love I poured out my mind to her on how disappointed i was in her and can't trust her anymore. I collected her phone and pretended to check something. I called my brother to tell him he was shocked and requested to call the woman and he also said I should confront her as it is not a small issue to hid. I asked my cousin she denied instantly and was saying rubbish.
I was so furious that I started shouting on her, telling her how she doesnt want to help herself despite where she is coming from. To my surprise one of my sister was around and I involved thinking she will join me to caution her, rather she turn around and said the woman is lying even after i showed her proof. She said I'm invading on the privacy of my cousin and that I'm shouting too much on her. I was shock at my sister saying that. I ignored her face my cousin and poured my soul to her on how she could betrayed me to do that of all men in my area to sleep with.
I later called her dad(pls note her mum is late) the father had to open up to tell me this is what he has been facing and was relieve when I ask her to come over so that she could change environment not knowing she will continue with the same act. Her father requested that I should seize her phone which I have already done. He also requested to speak to her I called her she refused to answer me not until I shouted she came I told her dad want to speak to her she said she doesn't want to speak to her dad, I forced her to talk to her dad she refused so as to scare her her I told her she have to leave my house if she won't talk to her dad. She told me she is ready to leave and immediately started packing her things. My sister realise what she was doing and joined her to pack her things and both of them left my house.
I don't really know what to think as I am feeling bad that maybe I was too harsh on her or maybe I should have supported her as my other sister said but I am married and don't wish for that. This girl is the daughter of my favourite uncle it quiet unfortunate I wanted to help her but I don't really know what is wrong. I feel pity on her.
People are begging I should forgive her and let her come back especially her dad, but am scared and don't know what else she is capable of doing...
Dear Stella,
Kindly post this in chronicle I really want to know if I over reacted so as to free myself from this guilt.
Before I put to bed last year, I beg my cousin who is 19 yrs to come assist me, as maids kept disappointing. She came and was very helpful which I appreciate and promised her to get her a cleaning job at my company for her to be doing so as to make her responsible and to learn how to be independent. This my cousin couldn't write her waec as i heard her father stop paying her school fees due to an issue. I felt pity on her at this jet age someone can't even boast of common waec result.
When my mum came she collected her phone to use to browse I was even happy that the phone will keep her company as it was just her alone I am not a talking type. I connected her to Wifi and this phone kept her really busy until one day I pick up the phone to see what she was doing, you won't believe she was chatting to more than 10 different men professing love to them at this same plus the ones that was asking for nude picture. If i tell you I was shocked is only an understatement.
I called her immediately and confronted her she told me they were just friend and that she doesn't have female friends, I ask her what male friends ask for nude I warned her and also advice her to be very careful as one can't trust anyone especially with nude photos. I informed my other siblings to be witness so that her dad won't claim she came to my house and became spoilt. One my sister was against me that why will I go through her phone without her consent that she is an adult and can do whatever she wished.
This got me scared and I told my siblings that i want to send her back as I didn't know she was this wild for her age and I'm scared if getting her job in my company as 85% of people in my office are men and she might ending up having affairs with them and giving me bad image. My brother begged on her behalf that I shouldn't send her back but please assist her as she needs help. That I should take that as my sacrifice to the family.
I called her advice her and told her the implications of the type of life she want to choose to live. I also told her to be open to me and always seek for advice as I have seen life and can help. I told her she could no longer work in my company as it will bring problems between us. I told her that rather than taking my baby to the Creche and she staying at home doing noting let her be taking care of my baby while I pay her the money am suppose to pay the Crech. The reason for this suggestion is for me to be able to gather money for her so that she could be able to write waec next year and also jamb and see if she can get admission. Aside the money I pay I do everything for her and also give her token weekly incase she feels like buying something.
This was what I suggested to her she was so happy. I got past questions for her to be reading lucky for me my baby is a calm child it just to eat and sleep so she has enough time to study. I started work and told her that I don't want her on no account bringing my baby out or take my baby to anybody house without my consent.
I make sure I get everything needed at home on my way back from work and also make sure the house is comfortable by recharging our dstv and light. Everything was going smooth we were all happy. I stop poking my nose in her business so that she won't say I am caging her. To my greatest surprise one of my neighbour that I like and a bit close to by allowing my first child go to their house once a while came to house and show me a number asking me if it was my cousins number. I confirm it and ask her if their is any problem she said no and left.
30 mins later she called me to tell me my sister is sleeping with husband. I challenge her and she said she has evidence I ask her to bring the evidence. I was excepting to see message of her husband disturbing my sister so as to use it against the woman. To my greatest surprise I saw message of my sister begging this man of her love to him. I had to go to this woman and knelt down to beg to please not to have issues with her husband because of my sister. This woman now opened up to me that she even thought my sister was dating her younger brother, how my sister use to come to her flat all the time with my baby to see the the brother and how she was so free with her not knowing she could sleep with her husband. This woman was crying and telling how she help in building her hubby and that she wants to walk away but don't know where to start as she is an orphan. I was so hurt.
My people after much plead I left her flat and came to my sister to ask her first of all why she was taking my baby to another flats to play love I poured out my mind to her on how disappointed i was in her and can't trust her anymore. I collected her phone and pretended to check something. I called my brother to tell him he was shocked and requested to call the woman and he also said I should confront her as it is not a small issue to hid. I asked my cousin she denied instantly and was saying rubbish.
I was so furious that I started shouting on her, telling her how she doesnt want to help herself despite where she is coming from. To my surprise one of my sister was around and I involved thinking she will join me to caution her, rather she turn around and said the woman is lying even after i showed her proof. She said I'm invading on the privacy of my cousin and that I'm shouting too much on her. I was shock at my sister saying that. I ignored her face my cousin and poured my soul to her on how she could betrayed me to do that of all men in my area to sleep with.
I later called her dad(pls note her mum is late) the father had to open up to tell me this is what he has been facing and was relieve when I ask her to come over so that she could change environment not knowing she will continue with the same act. Her father requested that I should seize her phone which I have already done. He also requested to speak to her I called her she refused to answer me not until I shouted she came I told her dad want to speak to her she said she doesn't want to speak to her dad, I forced her to talk to her dad she refused so as to scare her her I told her she have to leave my house if she won't talk to her dad. She told me she is ready to leave and immediately started packing her things. My sister realise what she was doing and joined her to pack her things and both of them left my house.
I don't really know what to think as I am feeling bad that maybe I was too harsh on her or maybe I should have supported her as my other sister said but I am married and don't wish for that. This girl is the daughter of my favourite uncle it quiet unfortunate I wanted to help her but I don't really know what is wrong. I feel pity on her.
People are begging I should forgive her and let her come back especially her dad, but am scared and don't know what else she is capable of doing...
Let her come back say wetin?please forgive her alright but DO NOT LET HER COME BACK.....she will come back to destroy..if you have a husband then you should be scared of letting a serial pussy into your home....
You can decide to pay for her Education or settle her some money but that is where it should end.
You did the right thing. If care isn't taken she would also start to profess love to your husband. You cab help her from afar.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster you did not over react and you did the right thing letting her go. There is something wrong somewhere! Why is she the one after men and not the other way. Abeg dnt allow her back.
DeletePoster don't feel guilty, you did the right thing. If she gets pregnant, aborts and dies from, you would feel worse than this and the whole world will blame you.
DeleteKeeping her will sooner or later result to her trying to seduce your husband.
Please try and assist her from far if you can and if she will accept cos it seems she is a proud person and has your sister egging her on.
Come back to do what? This is how people end up writing chronicles of ‘My cousin sister snatched my husband’. Let her live with your sister who is part of her supporters club.
DeleteI’m sorry but if it was me the beating she will receive before I send her out eh. That was how my grandmas teen help too was bringing men into my grandmas house to f until she was caught . Forgive but don’t bring her back. Let ur sister take her in. Shame on ur neigbours husband
DeleteCome back to which house?God saved you that it wasn't your husband,both the sister that left with her should not be allowed into your home again,
DeleteDon’t bother bringing her back, they don’t change. That’s how my cousin came and was distributing pussy until she carry belle for bricklayer. My sis sent her out and she now lives with the man. Don’t try to help someone and inconvenience yourself or loose your reputation in the process. Imagine because of her you had to kneel and beg someone.
DeleteDear poster your sister is a big mumu you should also ban her from coming to your house goes to show she is of the same ideology as your cousin. As for that your cousin keep her far from your family because if she can’t get a man to sleep with she’ll start abusing your baby. Useless young ashewo
DeleteYoung and foolish. It is best she does not come back. You can render help from your house. You can give her financial help to sit the exams but she should not come back. She seems psychologically messed up. You could help her see a therapist too.
ReplyDeleteThank God she left your house. Let her move in with that your sister. I wish them well
DeletePoster, what is her relationship like with your husband? Because, we seem to be looking far away. Let's start by looking within.
DeleteIn my opinion, your cousin is a maniac and a shameless one at that who doesn't need your help so, if you do not wish to render any, it's not an offense. Also, is that your sister bisexual, because I can't seem to fathom what's with her and the said girl...
Mama Mia I tire for the sister ooo
DeleteMama mia you have a point there. I cant imagine siding with my cousin against my sister when the said cousin was obviously wrong. I hope your sister is not bisexual or pimping out your cousin.
DeleteYes o...me thinks the sister and the girl are in a relationship too
DeletePoster poster poster how many times did i called you follow Stella advice and that your sister watch her and be careful of her she has a mission.
ReplyDeletePoster she is sleeping with your husband too, better let her go where she is going and forget about her. She has chosen the life she wants, allow her.
ReplyDeleteHow did u reach the conclusion that she is sleeping with the husband? Poster let her stay far away from u and ur family abeg
DeleteNa wa o!
ReplyDeleteIf she wanted to do runs,she should have done it BIG.
Instead of messing around like a cheap girl!
Ashawo Kobo kobo!
Mtchewwww!
Please don't bring her close to you again,or else,she will hurt you!
As for your sister,no comments!
I support Stella's red pen 100%
ReplyDeleteThe girl is wild and you are only going to have yourself to blame if you take her back. You are even lucky her eyes are not set on your husband..yet.
ReplyDeleteDon't beat yourself up thinking you were too harsh. Hell, i would have done worse. Assist her financially from afar and let your sister take her in since she thinks she's the better guardian.
Poster allow your sister take her. Once she has exhibited her defiance towards you, you no longer have that authority again. Cut her off and assist from afar.
ReplyDeleteMadam, you inadvertently sent her away without hearing from her.
ReplyDeleteIt would have been nice to hear her side of the story. Adultery involves two people, even thought the lady submitted herself to it. But hear her out and do not part company in acrimony.
I wrote it in the other post that virgins are scarce to find. Young girls are too corrupted beginning from those gadgets in their hands.
If you have a teenager and want her to be somebody, do not allow her near
any gadget or own one.
OP already caught her once for chatting with multiple guys and even nudes would have been shared if not for her timely snooping.
DeleteAlso, what was her phone number doing in their neighbor's husband's phone?
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I agree with you. Most teenagers get access to internet bad guys! Nudes and po*n through those gadget
DeleteToo harsh you say? You weren't even harsh enough. What's your problem with that sister of yours? She has a very big problem she isn't even aware of.
ReplyDeletePlease don't beat yourseld. You see that cousin of yours, she's bad news.
She will not only bring you shame, unwanted pregnancies, bad name.
Such a person can molest your young children sexually.
she will sleep with your husband and his friends.
Snce she is with your "woke" sister, let them be. But make sure you call her dad, your mum and other siblings and let them know your cousin is no longer with you and that you have washed your hands off her.
You don't know what God has done for you yet.
Wait for it...your sister. She too will get her own share of the shame.
Thank God she's left your house and don't ever let her back in...you will regret it if you take her back.
Why is her dad begging you? Selfish man. Are you the girls mother?
He can't handle her, but wants you to carry all the wahala. Please tell them you can't anymore.
Think about your kids. Girls like these steal, they lie to cause you pain. She's capable of poisoning. They are jealous, ungrateful and vengeful.
Just so you know, she will never appreciate what you do for her.
To spare yourself all the headache and humiliation, don't take her back.
Sluttychic.
Sluttychic has said it all.
DeleteSlurrychick you have said my mind.
DeletePoster you did the right thing. There’s more than what the father is telling you sef. Who knows if her next target would be your husband.
Just let your whole family know that she’s not with you anymore please.
As for your sister, I’m very sure she’s just the same as your cousin...so maybe you should talk to your mom about her cause she obviously has problems herself.
Poster don’t feel bad o. You have done your part. My advice therefore is to never ever allow her back into your house. Please don’t.
please don't let her come back to the house ...at this stage she should be able to take responsibility of her actions. mind your she knows what she is doing poster just let her go
ReplyDeleteDear Poster you have done well and I will take same steps as well..Please you weren't harsh at all..Imagine you were aloof..She could have infect your child and start making advances with your husband..Please you can help her from afar..She is 19 and should know what she wants in life at least by 50%..Good you have forgiven her but the risk outweighs the benefits for now..All the best..
ReplyDeletePoster I understand how you feel but you did the right thing by letting her go,let her stay with your sis which is her enabler and be sending money to her
ReplyDeleteThe nerve she has beats me,if you let her back just know your own husband is at risk as well cos she will come back to take revenge on you
I'm sorry to say this but your sis isn't a nice person? Her support to this girl lifestyle will be her down fall at the end!
Please let her go and never come back as for that your sister supporting her check well they are birds of a feather
ReplyDeleteIf you want to help her fine but don't bring her back to your house.If you do,you will regret it.
ReplyDeleteMadam your sister is pathetic!!! Are you sure she's not the person pimping the girl out? She definitely has a share in whatever that man gives your cousin so she has to defend your cousin so she won't cast...
ReplyDeleteExactly! Watch that your sister Poster. Both are into the same line of business.
DeleteI thought same or they might be "carpet munching",hence the sentiment. Help her if you are inclined to but not to your own detriment. Hope she hasn't penetrated your hubby? God abeg oh.
Deletemy exact thoughts.....
DeleteLet her come back and see if she won't divert to your husband. It's riskyoooo coz men think with their sick not head
ReplyDeleteCome back where? It will end in premium tears pro madam
ReplyDeletePremium tears😂😂😂
DeleteWhat if she comes back and infects your baby with HIV or hepatitis. Are you not scared of these ones? Remember they have no cure. If you would be a bad person to protect your family please be.
DeleteE wo tun ni premium tears bayi... loooooool... chai...
DeletePoster please leave her alone. Don't expose your husband and baby to extended family wahala. Focus on your new family. Your cousin will live her life either ways, don't carry a cross that can cause disrespect in your home o.
ReplyDeleteIf she comes back it's either she starts sleeping with your hubby or continue with the neighbours and turn to full olosho; she'll now use you do fake testimony of how she was a maid and God helped her. Keep that girl at arms length she's 19 not 9. She's an adult let her be. If she calls for help; help if you can but don't go saving someone who has forged her own path.
You don't know how she started living when her mum died. And the fact that her father who should take responsibility of her is stylishly disowning her is even putting her more as a needy person with daddy issues. That's why she's seeking male attention please o face your front
She will come back and sleep with your husband.
ReplyDeleteHelp her from a distance
Poster your husband will be next if you're not careful. Help her from afar.
ReplyDeleteYou did the right thing by sending her away. If care is not taken, she will sleep with your husband.
ReplyDeleteThe best you can do is to render help from afar .. never let her back
ReplyDeletePoster, you did the right thing. Please do not allow that your cousin back and be very careful of your sister who was supporting her. You should be happy that you baby is safe as I believe you cousin must have been neglecting her while pursuing all are love interest.
ReplyDeleteYou made a good call by not getting her the cleaning job at your place of work. She would have slept with any man that showed interest in her and messed up your reputation of they got to know you two are related
On a different note, poster read through your messages your tenses are off.
Maybe the father dey chop his daughter hence the bad blood, maybe not! This one here is by the way but if it's true that your dad neighbor is chopping the girl, then the man is less than a pig; he has no control and will probably fuck a goat that ties wrapper - such men dey tarnish our damaged reputation even more!! Lastly, that girl could be a bad omen but since you didn't say anything about your husband I suppose you have none so therefore I'm guessing a bit of hoeloeshoism runs in your family - no offense my dear...on a more serious note make una no dey discard people like tissue paper, treat her like you would want your own daughter to be treated in your absence.
ReplyDeleteAre you for real?
DeleteWhat if her husband is not in the country? The girl is an adult
King, just how low can you go?...
DeleteYou promised her a job but latter broke her heart by telling a dullard to go and pass waec and jamb - she lost hope and faith in that mission, hence no more zeal to live with you anymore! You did your best in providing basic necessities and amenities for your house hold - you acted responsibly to the best of your ability hence your frustrations are legit to an extent.
DeleteYour neighbor's wife got the better of your emotions and because of that you/we'll never get to know whether "they" had an affair or not - next time exercise more patience(husband woulda diffuse the dicey situation systematically), use discretion next time and don't be too quick to divulge family members' secret to the public, just like her dad did too - it weakens your advantage. Remember tomorrow get belle, you have kids too. I know you didn't intend to send her packing without fanfare but it happened abruptly that's why you are feeling guilty conscience - in a way you choked that girl sha(no vex), not undermining your good intentions and deeds though!
I don't blame your sister, neither should you, she knows things we(bvs) don't - her own season film with your cousin just started.
PS. Not all men are loose like most of you here are insinuating, infact, only the lowlifes would sleep with their wife's relative.
You promised her a job but latter broke her heart by telling a dullard to go and pass waec and jamb - she lost hope and faith in that mission, hence no more zeal to live with you anymore! You did your best in providing basic necessities and amenities for your house hold - you acted responsibly to the best of your ability hence your frustrations are legit to an extent. Your neighbor's wife got the better of your emotions and because of that you/we'll never get to know whether "they" had an affair or not - next time exercise more patience(a husband would have diffused the dicey situation to manageable extent), use discretion and don't be too quick to divulge family members' secret to the public, just like her dad did too(tomorrow get belle, remember you have kids too - just saying) - it weakens your advantage. You didn't intend to send her packing without fanfare but it happened abruptly that's why you are feeling guilty conscience - in a way you choked that girl sha(no vex), not undermining your good intentions and deeds though!
DeleteI don't blame your sister, neither should you, she knows things we(bvs) don't - her own season film with your cousin just started.
PS. Not all men are loose like most of you here are insinuating, infact, only the lowlifes would sleep with their wife's relative.
@King, you are so pathetic. You didn't see where she said she is married. What if her husband is not in the country or does not stay in the same state as them.
DeleteAlways yarning dust.
Madam u hv tried,except u want to use ur hand an destroy ur marriage
ReplyDeleteShe is a grown up woman and should not be living with you in the first place.you can still help pay for her Education if you feel like
ReplyDeleteI'm suspecting that your sister is living the same lifestyle ur cousin is living
ReplyDeleteMadam, I am begging you, pls don't allow her come back. Leave her alone. You tried your best. Don't use church mind to destroy your home. Forgive and forget then help from afar.
ReplyDeletePlease she shouldn't come back oh! To come and entice and sleep with your own husband too? Please those kind of relations are better helped from afar.
ReplyDeletePoster....let her go and stay with your sister that keeps supporting her.Simple!!!
ReplyDeleteJust render help from afar oo
ReplyDeleteWhy did your sister support her & leave with her?
ReplyDeleteLet her be. Later she will regret.
When ever she comes to you for help you can help her out.
But your sister sha
Oh house helps?! If we start to talk...
ReplyDeleteTo summarize, just note that you can take a camel to the river, but can’t force it to drink water. Both your cousin and sister are very naughty to say the least, they should leave your home.
Yes, you may be tempted to force the ladies to ‘hear word’ but are you ready for that stress? To change a person who has already developed a character? Do you know it sometimes involves serious prayers and fasting? Mind you, you still have to train your own kids, I repeat, do you have the strength?
My only concern is that you do not know where that lady is now, or do you? I would have been more comfortable if you had handed her to her father and washed your hands off.
Please don’t let her come back. If you want to help her, you can, without needing her help or services at home.
By the way, text msg begging for love is not enough evidence that slept with the man. Do you have more evidence? Just so you don’t mix issues.
You did the right thing by letting her go!!!! Why did your other sister support her nasty behaviour?anyway,good riddance to nonsense!
ReplyDeletePoster you tried for her, you tried to uplift her and better her life she chose otherwise since she wants to go let go but please don't stop helping her.She needs that education she just a naive girl who does not know what life is all about
ReplyDeleteShe is a very big risk for your child.
ReplyDeletePlease don't bring her back.
Tell her father you tried but won't be held responsible. For her to even start packing her things when you are not done is enough disrespect.
Your sister will come one day to tell you that you are right after all except she is on that lane too (no insult meant)
I see no reason for her not to side with the truth
Let her stay with your sister since that one is always supporting her.
ReplyDeleteHelp her but she should be far from your home.
She’s a ho and your sister is in the same whatsapp group of runs girls. She is very loose and irresponsible. If she wants to ho around, let her be free. You have done everything from a guardian’s standpoint. I’m glad you kept your entire family in the loop as the situation progressed so no one will wake up and say you victimized her. Wash your hands clean of her. You cannot fix everybody.
ReplyDeletePoster you never sent her packing, she left on her own because she chose to leave rather than talk to her father. As for your sister, I will not be surprised if they are partners in crime since she sees nothing wrong with your cousins' way of life. Assist her in whichever way you can but let her not live with you as she likely to tarnish your image in that environment.
ReplyDeleteAt 19 she's sleeping with your neighbor's husband, hmmm young girls of nowadays have mind ooo, please leave her, once she realise her mistake she will come begging
ReplyDeleteStella and Bvs already said it all. Let her stay away from you so she won't put you in trouble.
ReplyDeleteCome back where? You have done nothing wrong. I dont know why your sister is supporting her but i think she's a bad influence. Forgive her and support her anyway you can but it will be a bad idea to let her back considering how she left .
ReplyDeleteWhy am in more bothered about your SISTER than the loose pus*ied cousin?y you should be too!
ReplyDeleteLet her go and never come back again. If you must help her after this, do it for afar
ReplyDeleteThis one go embarrass you and herself for area o.
Do you have a husband or man that your own blood sister could be sleeping with? Why is she always supporting your cousin? Does your cousin 'have' her secret? Is your sister scared of your cousin exposing her? Why has she persistently supported this girl even openly in your presence? I'm just curious. I'm not insinuating anything please.
ReplyDeleteBring her back to your house, is she a minor? If you want to assist her financially, please do but it ends there.
ReplyDeleteI'm even more scared of her sister than the cousin. Please keep both at arm's length. Someone who sees nothing wrong with your cousin sleeping with a married man can sleep with your husband without remorse. Just saying
ReplyDeletePlease let her go,take your baby to the crèche, good riddance to bad rubbish.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, it is very OK to love people from a distance. Your sister should take over from where you stopped. It is easier to criticise until one wears the shoes. With how adventurous your niece is, your baby she is supposedly caring for, is not safe with her (what if she goes out with your baby and is doing the do, and the baby abandoned somewhere gets into harms way), neither is your husband safe with her in your house & your reputation too... You should not feel guilt at all, you gave her the benefits of doubt before, and she messed it up. Render financial help when/if you can and keep it moving. Cheers.
ReplyDeleteI don’t think you have a husband ,poster. Probably you are a mistress as well is why you may be living alone and not think this ‘little’ girl will do that with your husband too. Stupid question. Be nice o till it hurts you. Go and ask people who it happened to. I was nice last year that it cost me my first should have been child. I sent my bf to go and carry one idiotic man at the airport- that was it! Spilling everywhere talk talk that I had coded in the relationship for 2 years all out in 30mins drive. My naive mother that I told I wanted to come to Nigeria was just there begging me not to infact I’m just upset with the whole world. I’m going to be so selfish ehn. Nobody will be able to reach me not to talk of know I’m pregnant till I birth. Wicked world
ReplyDeletePoster you did the right thing,face front and take care of your children. As for your sister she will come back with her own story if the girl is staying with her.
ReplyDeleteHelp her from afar I beg. Pay for her waec and jamb but that’s it. If she wants to ruin herself pls do not let urself be a party to it.
ReplyDeleteMadam you did not over react, you did the right thing. Forgive her but help her from afar. Take your baby to a creche or get nanny that will resume in the morning and close when you return from work. If you bring that girl back she will ruin your marriage. She never learn anything and is not ready to change. Also that your sister supporting her is same with her, don't allow her stay with you. If she is supporting rubbish it means she can sleep with your husband top as she is an adult and can decide for her self.
ReplyDeleteThis your cousin just showed who your sister is.
Ezekiel 33:9
ReplyDeleteDear B.V. you did the right thing.
If u can send her back to her father though it will be good, that way it is recorded that you returned her back to where you picked her and not sent her away to no where precisely..
Poster please don't take her back, you can still help her from afar.
ReplyDeleteDon't allow her back.
ReplyDeleteBut can you find out the kind of relationship she has with her dad and why they have the kind of relationship they have?
Can you also find out if she was abused at any time?
She's not even remorseful, she lied to your face. Take her back at your own peril. You sure did the right thing.
ReplyDeleteIf you sent her packing that's another thing. She chose to go.
ReplyDeleteTell her parents this and give the condition that unless she begs by herself which I'm sure she can't and won't. If she mistakenly does, give give unattainable conditions for her living with you. She won't stay.
Dear Poster, You did not over react. I am not surprise at the girl's but rather at your end time sister that is encouraging her.
ReplyDeleteHad a similar situation, got a maid at one time whose job description was to; pick my son from school which is just 100m away and take care of him till we return from work around 7 - 8pm.
This girl is atleast 18 from middle belt, good pay, well fed,got her phone, cloths access the TV 24/7, my wife cooks and prep the kid for sch, we gave her option to choose btw school or learn a craft etc
Within a week, she came my wife first told me she saw her talking to some boys on the street, then I observed she will be in her room making long calls while wifey will be in the kitchen cooking, there was a day I met her downstairs acting suspicious and could not explain her actions etc
I let my wife counsel her cos I didn't want to get involve yet. Until the day I got a report from my son teacher that the girl visits the aboki boys around the school with my own son.
That was it, I got home that day, scrolled thru her phone, I realise she invites them to the house too.
I called the parents immediately that I am sending her back. I gave her enough money, and personally took her to the park the following morning.
All these happened within 3 weeks. Somehow we were able to manage till my MIL came.
Such girls are dangerous and can ruin a peaceful home. Once they have gone wild you can't tame them. Just let them go, help from afar if need be.