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SUSPECTING THE IYAWO OF CHEATING...
Hello Stellz and BV ,I love you guys!! I always read the stories and comments.Now to my chronicle.Pls stellz,let me know when you post this.
I'm based in US and married Iyawo 2 and a half years back.She stills stays in Naija while I'm here still putting my papers together.
I'm based in US and married Iyawo 2 and a half years back.She stills stays in Naija while I'm here still putting my papers together.
Iyawo has lots of male friends and always puts them on her whatsapp status.Iyawo frequently lodges in hotels around Ikeja and at times,when on video calls with her ,I suspect she receives other guys...hmmm. So of recent I asked iyawo if she has been faithful all these while (we av not seen in the past 30 months) since we got married.
She yelled and screamed and was like "She doesn't care if I'm screwing here.Mind you, iyawo is gorgeous and highly endowed.Some time ago she updated her status ,asking friends what she loves.They all replied and she put their reply on her status
One particular male friend mentioned "dick" and some other stuffs she likes.Hmmm.I stumbled over the slides on her WhatsApp status and then before I could realize ,she deleted the particular slide off her status.This dude is very close to her and they hang out alot though he too is married.
I am now thinking she is involved with this dude.How can a guy boldly tell a married woman she likes dick just like that?? Blog readers ,wetin be una own thoughts ?? And Stella ,please ur red pen!!
Hmmmmm oga why are you looking to open a can of worms?Did the woman you marry love dicks? its possible that they were just messing around or its possible he is helping you do your Job..lol..its either one of the two or none of both...Your wife might also be frustrated being married to someone she cannot see...
Please concentrate on trying to get your papers so she can join you where ever you are.....
Please let sleeping dogs sleep until you reunite with her
Are you faithful over there? Hope your hands are clean too. You guys have been apart for close to three years so you have been celibate? Eradicate bad thoughts world your papers and bring your wife over. ✌️
ReplyDeleteNa dem oh ☝
DeleteSo in other words, he shouldnt care if his wife is cheating abi? Did the woman come to complain her husband is cheating??
DeleteThat’s d main question o. Oga can u beat ur chest before God and say u v been faithful too? I have heard many real life stories of men who abandoned their wife here Nd married foreign women for papers . Local woman might just b trying to b safe let her not loose on both sides . 30 months of no sex or seeing Nd yal r married ???? Fix it Jesus ! I’ll go with Stella on d rest o.
Delete😂😂😂 cam dan @15:16. na simple question I ask may😋
Delete😂😂😂 cam dan @15:16. na simple question I ask nau😋
DeleteI no like hypocrites.
Which one is we have been married for 2 and half years / we havent seen for 30 months.. in essence you haven't seen since yall got married
DeleteFor me it's not even the fact that she is obviously cheatig which is bad! It is her response and nonchalant and loose attitude. Both of you are cheats hence your tolerating such crap. Focus on your papers, divorce her and move on ,because if you bring her over, you will keep singing it in her ungrateful ears.
DeleteNo to abroad husband n wife I nor do.
DeleteU have not seen for 30 months( almost 3 years) and u expect what???
DeleteYou see why it’s not even advisable to get get a woman tied up when your Paperwork is not in order?? You are a green card holder. The earliest it will take you to bring that woman over will be four years. Not including all the issues associated with the new immigration ban.
DeleteIt shouldn’t have taken this long to get her here. She is feeling fooling around and you know it.
This one is heavy. Married woman acting single, Bvs will advice you.
ReplyDeleteWhy you no marry over there?. There are single Nigerian ladies there naw why frustrate somebody daughter in the name of marriage? Body resemble firewood for your eye?
DeleteIt's even too much stress, so after you get your papers, you will now start struggling to bring her over and settling her down with a job etc? Unnecessary wahala
There are brilliant, beautiful, successful Nigerian girls over ther or better sef, marry a local American and have your peace.
Stella please what do you mean by "he shouldn't open any can of worms" is it better to continue this "sham" they call a marriage? She may not be cheating but she definitely lacks morals.
DeleteWhy put a married mans reply on your status? like no respect for your husband, no respect for yourself... Everyone on her Wassp definitely saw that.
You both dont seem to be ready for marriage cus I dont think you have been faithful either.
You either both decide to have an open marriage for now until you are both in the same geographical area, or call it quits.
Dear men, dont think you can be unfaithful and expect faithfulness, women have woken up.
Oga, your wife is sleeping around especially with that guy. QED
ReplyDeleteOga your wife is not faithful to you.
DeleteFocus on getting your papers and if you love her very much then bring her over, if not,you no get wife o.
Any woman that is married and acting single and not afraid to show it,then there is a problem.
Exactly.
DeleteGuy, consider yourself single o..
Confirm she is sleeping around. Just that her fellow women on this platform will ask you stupid questions like are you faithful over there.
DeleteOga, please pray for your wife. focus on getting your paper n keep your mind busy. Trust your instincts too. Do you have pot belly? Do u dress like a garage tout? Just keep yourself busy over there, when u return, you decide whether you wanna continue or quit.
ReplyDeleteOga you just want to upgrade an olosho, you think it'd end in Nigeria? She'd do it over there and you'd be full of regrets!!!
DeleteHahahahahahahahahaha. Do you have pot belly got me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteBwhahahahahahahahahahha
DeleteHahahahahaha.
DeleteThat woman is a married single woman...she cant come and keee herself.
Just make sure you both do Std test when she moves over plus even pregnancy test sef. To be safe.
Exactly😂 what people tell women who suspect their husbands are cheating.
DeleteOga are you faithful???? Just know that your wife is cheating . Even the blind can see it. Good luck.
DeleteChai
DeleteSee me see laugh
Your wife is LOOSE.
ReplyDeleteNo responsible married woman would entertain such. I'm not saying she can't have male friends, but there's a method to the madness.
So yes, you are justified with your suspicion.
Sluttychic.
Yeah she is.
DeleteVice versa,you said it all
DeleteGbam
DeleteShe is CHEATING steady. but wait o, cant you guys be meeting even if its in the UK?Long distance relationship is not easy.
DeleteCorrect .. Take this.
DeleteIf he doesnt have papers he wont be able to leave the Us and come back. He will be refused entry. He may just have gone with visiting visa which may have expired.
DeleteAre you single? If you are not then what is good for you is also good for her.. I don't care what ya all think. So if you are not faithful then cos she is a woman na her good to dey frustrated. If you cannot rest with suspicious then call off the marriage and let us hear word abeg
DeleteAt this point, I think you should concentrate on getting your papers so you can relocate your family to join you cos at this point you can't really prove anything.
ReplyDeleteOga don't reloacre her to the US o, she's still going to do the same things and that will break you down in every way you can think of.
DeleteDon't take her to America if you don't want yo die quickly.
He has to be sure who he is relocating. Oga do not relocate her if you aren't sure she is committed to the marriage. No self respecting married woman behaves like that. Lodging in hotels for what exactly? Not that she traveled. Which married woman plays like that? If she is lonely has she voiced her concerns to you? As for asking if he is faithful, he might not be but for crying out loud, women, leave the men and do your thing with reckless abandon.
Delete@kiks, which marriage?
DeleteYou made me go read the story again. They are married. If they are not, she should break up with him before going from one hotel to the other.
DeleteI won't waste my time today abeg. In this day and age people still doing over the ocean marriage We cannot tell you if she cheating or not but you married someone with these tendencies then want to complain. Im a woman even though i have make friends i dont go about uploading them and shit there is something called boundaries she clearly doesn't have any Mthcewww
ReplyDeleteYou left a well-endowed woman in this country full of randy men, all by herself for over 2years, and you think gardners wouldnt volunteer to take care of the weeds & trim the hedges? Hibiscus must be growing on your brain.
DeleteI can bet she doesnt even dress decent, so they'd all want to taste that nectar.
Don't me him
DeleteIm even a single woman and i cant do that shit. Doesnt look good as a woman to post such shit saying dick.
DeleteLemme read comments today...
ReplyDelete#BaeisBeulah.
Oga poster, you're yet to see the woman you are married to... That means that your marriage has not been consummated.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you get married knowing fully well that you're only going to be married through phone (internet marriage I guess)
Sorry to burst bubbles, that your well endowed iyawo is cheating on you. Yes, she has a steady guy coming to service her when she needs some servicing.
I believe your iyawo is on this blog too, she'll probably be laughing at your naiveness right now.
You're worried about the guy that said your iyawo likes sick (his dick)😳😳
You should be worried about the other numerous guys that she lodges with in her fancy hotel room.
So many single ladies in the US, but you choose to marry one that is on the other side of the planet.
Ms.A
@paragraph 1...we don't know if the marriage is consummated or not because poster didn't say how they got married.
DeleteLast paragraph, I dont think there's anything wrong in marrying someone back home.
My thing is , the wife is playing his(men's) game, and now we cannot hear word
I assumed the marriage hasn't been consummated because the poster said, they have been married for almost Two years and a half and he also said he has not seen his wife for 30months. Please, do your calculation!
DeleteAccording to statistics, there's a lot wrong with marrying someone back home and leaving them back home.
Ms.A
I am the poster.It was consumated.I plan to visit once corona virus matter dies down.
DeletePoster that means ur not having papers doesnt mean you are stuck there or an illegal immigrant.
DeleteAnd you leave a woman alone for more than 2yrs. Do you think exchanging vows and talking on phone is all marriage is abt.
She also seems quite young since shes jumping hotels and posting it. A mature woman will NEVER. Even if shes cheating u wont know.
From her age and not being with you much since the marriage it may not even dawn on her shes a married woman.
If you want to continue with this marriage you need to design a plan you guys will be seeing every 3/4 mths pending her move. How do you leave a new spouse for 30months. Nawa o
Aunty Ms A. You hear am abi?*rolling my eyes*
DeleteI still my what I said...theres absolutely nothing wrong marrying someone back home. If you dont have the statistics please dont jump into conclusions. Tankuo
Poster...my own is, if you ever wish to continue with this marriage, IYAWO+ you,need to run test
I still stand by what I said *
DeleteMs. A *Naivety* not Naiveness.
DeleteYou mean you guys didn't date before marriage? This is as a result of marrying someone you don't know and can't vouch for.
ReplyDeleteThe little timeh you've spent with her, how does she respond to sex? Do you think she can go a long time without getting the D🤐?
BTW, what's she doing in the hotel? You don't have a house or what?
Anyway, do fast with the papers so she can join you there so you won't get a heart attack.
Less I forget, hope you're not cheating on her too
Seems these days people just do whatever they like even married ones. As a married person there are things that are just unacceptable. What is a married person doing in different hotels when its not work related. Poster just tell her the things you do not like and how these attitudes make you feel.
ReplyDeletehmm this una marriage arrangement ehn did you say 30 months? Weakweakweakweak i laugh in Wuhan..oga your wife's hands are not clean,the question to you too is;are your hands clean over there? Pls do something about this quickly this is not a good arrangement
ReplyDeleteYou laugh in Wuhan 😂😂😂😂 that laughter is not healthy please 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteSluttychic.
hehehe i laugh in healthy laugh some chronicles be making you laugh unhealthy laugh
DeleteOga, i feel so sorry for you.
ReplyDeleteSo if theyre calling out all married men, you'd boldly join the league? Oh pls sit your ignorant ass somewhere comfy.
You don vex hahaha 😂😂😂
DeleteThe guy is very naive
Ms.A
Thank you my friend. Don't mind the alika complaining
DeleteLoud it please 🙄
DeleteHa!MacBeth, bet why? You have finished the guy! He paid bride price na.
DeletePoster, so sorry about the way you feel. I don't have any advice for you because I believe if you want to be honest with yourself,deep down,you know the truth.
2 years? Why can't she come over and then you both try to get your papers together. 30 months? You are very stupid
ReplyDeleteSeriously? Yiu cant call him stupid...because you do not know the circumstances surrounding their marriage or papers. Tankuo
DeleteYou're an idiot. Plain and simple. Eyin were
DeleteHe married her looks and body now. Mthewww
ReplyDeleteI think those were the deciding factors.
DeleteYes she is gorgeous and adorable but also has a great personality.Well ,I ho for spec first before anything else.
DeleteU have seen ur spec na, y u come dey disturb us here again? I pity ur wife o! married but living single, i hope u even send her money..mtschewwww!
DeleteThis one get as e be
ReplyDeleteOga just face you papers and let her join you soon. She might be using those friends to kill boredom and frustration. As for the WhatsApp status, she might just be playing around , you see some married ladies on Instagram playing with their fans.
Oga alika, you too you never chook for that USA you dey? Ajuju.
ReplyDelete30 months and your excuse is you are still getting your papers, tell that to buhari
"Iyawo has lots of male friends and always puts them on her whatsapp status.Iyawo frequently lodges in hotels around Ikeja and at times,when on video calls with her ,I suspect she receives other guys...hmmm. So of recent I asked iyawo if she has been faithful all these while (we av not seen in the past 30 months) since we got married."
ReplyDeleteAfter having the presence of mind to type this, you still have the patience to ask for people's thoughts. It is either this chronicle is fake or you're a shady person yourself. In that case, una fit each other. You're married to a whore.
As a matter of fact, I make it very paramount not to be romantically involved with any woman that has so many male friends. Na coded way of whoring.
Ceasar has been brought out, and its not even SP, a toad doesnt run during the day for nothing 😂😂
DeleteThe man knows deep down that the woman is cheating but can't come to reality.
DeletePoster, are you married to Bose??
As much as I bash Ceasar, he is absolutely spot on! A well endowed married woman with LOTS of male friends jumping from hotel to hotel??? Are you for real. She has no respect for you, for herself and for the sanctity of your marriage. I also put it to you that your own hands are not clean either.
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ReplyDeleteMy Naija sisis like stealing fok😯 anyhow. They will never cover their ngada, they open for any available preek. Never you trust a Naija sisi.
ReplyDeleteAnd the thing is that she doesn't love you, yes she doesn't and that's the gospel truth. She married you because of the abroad. Naija girls get wet immediately you mention that you live abroad or when they sense you have some cash.
One advice, pay people to monitor her so you can get evidence against her. With that evidence, you can easily dump her. Don't worry about getting another sisi cos they would be at your beck and call as per abroadian. Good luck.
He should pay people to monitor her. What about him? I am not saying it is right. But he created the situation. 30 months. That's 2 1/2 yrs. While some can hold up not everyone can especially if there is no fear of God.
DeleteLet's be fair.
She doesn't love or regard y.Take this information to the bank and cash it.
DeleteWhy you no marry in that abroad?
ReplyDeleteAre you faithful?
Why didn't you travel back with her after marriage?
Abeg shift
Its obvious naaa...but hey, 30 months? Yiu too are busy doing own so dont judge. In her case shes too stupid putting it on whatsap. Hurry up already and bring her even though it's a 50/50 marriage now.
ReplyDeleteIts always advisable to make sure things are in place before marriage ,
ReplyDeleteI mean cross country marriage , the marriage is more important than the wedding.
Trust is the bedrock of every relationship , especially when distance is involved, not seeing your partner for over 30 months can spark already of speculation but if you've a firm foundation that would be the last thing on your mind ,
When you spoke to her about fidelity how did you go about it , did you make her feel you were suspicious of her or you spoke calmly about your worries ,
My best advice is try to see how things can be expedited.
Why you no marry in that abroad?
ReplyDeleteAre you faithful?
Why didn't you travel back with her after marriage?
Abeg shift
No paper
DeleteShe is sleeping with someone, deal with that. It’s what you gain getting married when you are not ready to get your wife to live with you. You are also living a double life, what do you mean by putting your papers together? So bad that she can’t even visit? For 30months? Meaning the last time you saw her was when you got married?
ReplyDeleteA married man or woman is supposed to be faithful, no doubt about that. But this isn’t a situation life threw at you, you created this situation yourself. It is not good for a man or woman to be alone, what were you expecting? That she would love you (whom I assume she barely knows) and be faithful to you (when you haven’t even built the trust necessary to earn that). You don’t just cross into behaving like a married person, it comes gradually, as a result of living together, whereby both know that as a result of the man or woman at home, I can no longer do this or that. You both are living single, without even taking time to try forge a bond strong enough to warrant faithfulness. Please you both are not serious.
Pardon me but I dislike such marriages.
Well let's cut poster some slack. The Iyawo knew his status before agreeing to marry him, WETIN una dey talk sef? 'I MUST MARRY AMERICANA' syndrome.
DeleteTherefore iyawo owe it to the poster to be faithful period, because she signed up for that.
mystic made so many sense. Too much good information...
Deleteif the reverse was the case they would had said the man is cheating, oga is possible wifey is cheating on you, no married woman will be disrespected that way by such comment without her permission... they might be fvcking
ReplyDeleteOga, the moment you and your "iyawo" decided to stay apart "after marriage" for up to 30 months,
ReplyDeleteyou choose money "dollars" over companionship which is God's intention for marriage. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Yes, na me yarn am.
A lot of you think "abroad, and money" first above God, marriage, companionship and enduring
friendship and peace; even above eternal life.
Let me ask my ajuju n'ese okwu which you asked your "Iyawo" give you;
Oga, for this 30 months, has ya rod drilled another Sisi's 🤐🤐🤐
Yes, sincerely answer that ajuju.
You cannot come to equity with soiled hands. If you want to be married,
stay married. If you prefer abroad to your marriage, then you cannot
eat your okpa/kulikui and have it.
😏😏😏😏😏
if the reverse was the case they would had said the man is cheating, oga is possible wifey is cheating on you, no married woman will be disrespected that way by such comment without her permission... they might be fvcking
ReplyDeleteWe have hear you nau😂
DeleteAnd we are still saying it, that the man is cheating and the woman is also cheating happy now? None of the is honest with the other of this man was faithful he would have said"and to think I have never had anything to do with another woman ever since we married", or "to think I have been celibate" you know? Something along that line but no, the only defence he came with was" while I am trying to put papers together". Do you know how many years he would need to stay over wherever he is before he gets his papers? Just two and a half years and more years to go and he expects her to stay like that? Is she a wood? She has blood flowing through her veins too. He can cheat but he can't right? He had better come back to Nigeria or accept this their open marriage.
oga dont bring that woman over to any country you reside, ahe will just go loose and you wont be able to do anything about it
ReplyDeleteI am the poster.I am still working on my documentation.We r also working on her own.Just a little patience on both sides and we will be together.
ReplyDeleteHaba!! See as una dey yarb me.Lol
You should have done this first o
DeleteBefore the wedding, well situations differ,
However you guys need to set boundaries when it comes to Male and female friendships especially for married couples ,
Also you need to make certain decisions, I. E curb the hotel lodging except it's for work purpose and ya'll don't live in that Lagos.
Also try to rebuild your trust and purge yourselves of negativity .
You both come clean in terms of fidelity and have a fresh start.
All this while you didn't sleep with another woman or WOMEN?
DeleteDoh poster.
DeleteI like how you laughed off all the yabis.
I was already feeling sorry for you that you might start regretting sending in this chronicle.
Lolz.
It is well, try complete the documentation sooner. Happy married Life to you and Iyawo.
Did you not find anyone over there? Nawa o
DeleteThank u anonymous
DeletePoster no need to explain about the paper thing...if you never do paper for abroad you go just dey yan dust 'upandan'
Delete@chocolate, good point.
@anon17.04...poster has every right to marry wherever and whoever. What the heck?
Poster has been knacking other women steady that's why he can't come out plain plain.
DeletePoster, you married a very wild girl and you know it! Can you claim she wasn't putting up such nasty whatsapp status and on her Facebook page/wall? The lodging in hotel lifestyle, did she start it on her wedding day? She's very beautiful, she's endowed, what does she do for a living Sir? What is she bringing to the table Sir? I'm sure you were excited thinking you had married a trophy wife.
DeleteCan you tell us there was no girl you started with, that was hustling with you back then? Remember naaw, that one you dumped because, "I want a wife that is SHAARRRPP mehn! WOKE!" Well, dinner is served Bro...
adanna please speak for those who went illegally...nothing like struggling if you went right my friend. poster you haven't said all the truth. de give half half including lies based on bashing
DeleteI wonder why you would marry someone in nigeria when uou know you dont have papers to bring her... gross itresponsibility! Im sure she did not even know you dont actually have papers.
ReplyDeleteSince she is cheating i think divorce is best!. No kids to complicate matters.
See comment...I can bet my lunch that IYAWO knew his paper status. Did see where poster updated us that he is also doing her own paper?
DeleteWe are all assuming its cheating including me. For all we know it might not be, though there are reasons to believe so. Divorce is not always the answer unless he has proof or the love is no more there.otherwise they can work on the relationship and trust.
I have no plans to divorce her.I love her that's y I married her.Once corona virus clears ,I will visit.I am gathering evidence.If she confesses and comes clean ,I will forgive her and we will move ahead but if she denies ,then I will file for divorce.We married both traditionally and legally.Thank you all for your comments.I guess my situation is another episode of #InsideLife.
DeleteThe foundation of this marriage is extremely faulty. Believe me there is no worse fate than marrying the wrong person. I advise you to cut your losses now or cry bitter tears in the future.
Deleteposter 30months is wickedness. Must you marry in Nigeria. after you bring her you will now start complaining about Nigerian wives.
Deleteposter better tell the truth instead of using Corona as excuse.
DeleteBros no vex oh, I no say e no easy for you, but you sef reason am na.. You leave endowed wife for 2yrs plus n you think say she no go run package... Bros nobody holy oh, u sef go dey package urself for dat way.. Bros just hustle well if u love ur woman u fit carry comot mk dm no use ur wife do giveaway or you fit do wetin dey ur mind wen u enter naija..i dn yarn my own
ReplyDeleteHe should reason it, is that enough reason to cheat on him ?
DeleteAll of you are the same.
go and sit down mr don di
DeleteOga, have you not cheated? Judge her if you've not. You will be abroad doing arabanko and still be monitoring someone in Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteYou dey craze. Hypocrite, is that what we are talking about?
DeleteUouyiu have asked this stupid question f this was written by a woman ?
Eyin were.
don you de craze...such vile
DeleteGuy she's cheating on you, take it.
ReplyDeleteInstinct done lie.
Of course! She shagging steady. She questioned your fidelity.. that’s being defensive.. My guy she’s banging, period.
DeleteA married woman should have boundaries.
ReplyDeleteA married man should also have boundaries. You cannot be practicing open marriage on your own end then be monitoring a fellow child of God in this quarantine period.
DeleteDear sir, how well do you know the woman you married? I hope you weren't blinded by her "endowments" and ignored the proverbial red flags? You seem okay with the fact that she keeps and displays her numerous male friends, so I'm guessing she had them during your courtship? If you have always known your wife is never backwards in coming forward when it comes to men, should this really come as a surprise? Leaving such a lady all by her lonesome for two and a half years is not a terribly brilliant idea, no? It appears you put the cart before the horse. You should have sorted out your papers and living arrangements before you got married. Why the rush, though?
ReplyDeleteDear sir, what manner of man would know his wife lodges in various hotels and can't set her straight? What? Are these lodgings business oriented or just for the fun of it? How can you marry a lady, who appears to love living on the edge, be apart for 30 months which is exactly how long you guys have been married, and wonder if she is faithful? Not every woman will be unfaithful, regardless of how long they are apart from their partners, but some women can't stay long without having a man to fulfill certain needs. You ought to know which group your woman belongs.
I marvel at her intrepidity and unmitigated audacity to post such an offensively lewd and disrespectful comment from her male friend. Are there no boundaries? How can a man, a married man no less, tell your wife she likes dick? I see no ambiguity here, sir, it's quiet self-explanatory. Come to think about it, what type of marriage did you conduct anyway? Because you both seem way too laidback. You write like this is happening to a friend and not you. Are you sure you are man enough to handle such a woman? Oh well! You saw other ladies and chose her for whatever reason. It appears you are a very tolerant guy, perhaps you guys are a perfect fit for each other. I wish you both good fortune and numerous happy returns.
Ronalda I wish you didn’t advise this man.. obviously he’s a weakling. Even I as a single lady won’t do the crap his wife is doing.
DeletePoster take your wife to US at your own peril.
The poor woman has also tolerated the man and this situation for long enough. What kind of papers have you been arranging for 30 months that you can't even spare a weekend getaway in Ghana? Olga drink olive oil and pray o. It is a house with doors ajar that goats can defecate in.
DeleteThis is dicy. You both have to open up to each other and decide what to do after that. I guess you might be having a different tot about her but to clear your doubt tell her how and what you feel. Its not by force.
ReplyDeleteBvs have said it all and more, while I don't want to say it loud, but check yourself I think you know the truth. Walks away
ReplyDeleteWait, y are you guys trying to turn the chronicle around by asking the man if he isnt cheating too? When women write chronicles about them suspecting their men of cheating, i dont see such questions like 'madam are u not also cheating bla blah blah' the woman is cheating and as usual you all have blamed the man and justified her actions but if reverese was the case, you would have gone off with the man's head. Stop being hypoctites
ReplyDelete@rainbow I am as surprised as you.
DeleteDon't mind the hypocrites here. They are asking the guy if he's not cheating out there.
DeleteDo they ask the same question when a woman write the same chronicle ? No.
That's to tell you the kind of women here, they are too defensive, always have excuse for stupidity.
Im not surprised, normal "shark attack" from SDK BVs
DeleteThank you .
DeleteHaven't we read chronicles of women waiting to join their partners too.
Don't mind the hypocrites
DeleteNa their way.
see them, same club members
DeleteYour worst mistake will be bringing that beb over cos she will surely push you out of your house, look for single ladies in USA where you base, marry her, leave that runs beb to live her hotel life,
ReplyDeleteAnd you are so sure single babes won't push poster out right?
Delete30 good months and you are not with your wife but yet you want to fustrate her life. Are you saying you have not been with another woman for those 30 days?
ReplyDeleteFace front with the papers you are looking for and stop looking for issues where there is no issues. Madam is helping her ministry while she hold on to her obodo oyibo husband.
Lol.. Everyone is blaming the poster.
ReplyDeleteAs much as I don't support distant marriage, the wife knew the arrangement and agreed to it.
It's not okay to cheat on your spouse and even bring it to your status. That's disrespectful jor.
Meanwhile she may be doing all of that to gain your attention and make you jealous. So I'll advise that you communicate with her and make your judgement. May God help you to take the right decisions.
They really need to communicate.
DeletePoster you are a real mugu, who does that? why marry someone in 9ja when you don't want to live in 9ja, and why marry someone in 9ja when you don't have paper in U.S to bring her over, perhaps i am not saying you should bring her to U.S when you get the paper, you will be severely dealt with if you try it. For your information your wife is really fucking around with those male friends, for 30 months you have not seen your wife and you think she will not fuck someone else ? she's even disrespecting you by putting her male friends on status. Man you are weak ooh, how did you marry that woman? were you charmed ? Wise up man, and don't make the mistake of taking her to U.S after you get your paper, or else you might die of heart attack.
ReplyDeleteFrom all indications, it is very likely that she is cutting show. Long distance relationships are never easy, they only survive when there is blind trust. Her actions (hopefully they aren't mere assumptions or speculations) are eroding trust. On the flip side too, remember that he who comes to equity must come with clean hands.
ReplyDeleteOga, please take it easy with her. Distance does a lot to relationships,.but am sure when you are finally together, you can easily breach the gap.
ReplyDeleteEven if she's cheating, don't leave her. It rains everywhere. Instead forgive her and pray for her. Watch war room. Don't leave your marriage for another man to take over. Is there anything you're doing that's bringing out this behaviour in her? Try to work on yourself and be a better husband.
ReplyDeleteYou're high on cheap weed 😂😅
Delete@Anon 21:46, that's tongue in cheek, a bit of sacarsm, hehehehe
DeleteOh god..😂😂that's the usually advice given to women whose husband' cheat.So he should take it as well..
DeleteYou should set your home right, even if you are not around your wife should know her boundaries. What will a married woman be logging in hotels wen is not for business purpose, and you feel okay with it.
ReplyDeleteYou are not the first to leave your wife in naija, but 30 months is alot though, do all you can to come back and fix your home.
My situation is almost same but in my case he hasn't done anything on my head, it's 8years now,i waited for 2 years no show, I jejely started dating so he wont says am cheating on him. No time to they wait for Americana wen go come pay bride price commot leave me again.
Cut your losses
DeleteMove on
Except the Holy Spirit says otherwise
STOP WASTING YOUR OWN TIME!
A woman that lodged in hotel alone I this time and age (when it's not for business purposes/family events) is that one a wife?As an unmarried woman,I don't even remember doing any of that shit u listed above.Just be careful .you all need to check your health status.. Let her reduce all those Male friends.. Seems u married a very hot blooded woman..It's well..
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I think you are missing the point here. How can you be apart from your wife for THIRTY MONTHS? That is no longer marriage, pls it does not matter if you have GENUINE reasons to be apart or not but any marriage that the spouses are apart for more than 6 months FOR ANY REASON is likely to have loopholes and on it's way to crumble - there is no companionship, trust, commitment, sacrifice, et al.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to marry, marry and live together with your spouse, else leave woman/man alone and continue living your single life. Marriage needs companionship & commitment and these two dwindles with distance. You must be physically close to your companion and the one you're committed to, else you're just doing lip service.