I dont know why she edited her hubbys name off her page but Marriage is not easy at all and when a woman is pissed off with a man she loves,things like this can happen... if she is indeed going through a storm with her better half;i pray that God restores what the locust has eaten.
Those of you that always like to celebrate news like this,please note that Marriage takes the Grace of God,sometimes you just wanna walk aways and when the times are sweet,you dont wanna go nowhere.....
Marriage hmmmm. It takes serious hardwork and grace to stand and not throw in the towel.
ReplyDeleteMay God keep them and make their marriage better and stronger.
The way they rush to SM to announce and edit whatever is annoying.
DeleteIf your marriage is going through
rough times, the last thing on your mind should be taking off your husband's name on SM, are you divorced?
Is this to pepper him or for publicly stunts?
These people need to think before going into marriage. They make it seem like a joke. Today I am upset I remove my husbands name, Tomorrow we make up I add his name again.
The lord will heal your marriage Tunde and Tolu.
If it's not domestic violence, she better remain there. Like she must remain there o!!. Yes I am shouting. There is absolutely nothing she hasn't heard about her husband escapades. The entire celebrities knew, even regularly people knew, amebo people still knew. She was very well aware. Toolz dont even dare. You all think marriage is a joke right. Mtcheww!
DeleteIf not for God and how the wife badly want to stay in the marriage, you would have heard the fair skinned kodo haired musician turned actor turned politician turned pastor's story before this one. But I pray he has learnt his lessons.
DeleteI pray they sort out whatever issue they have. Especially as there is now a child in the mix.
DeleteOur men really need to do better. Around the time they got engaged i had heard abt his many escapades;i even know a girl i heard he was seeing and dat one didnt know abt Toolz and was shocked abt the whole thing. But i didnt believe,thot its just rumours.
Hope they are able to work things out. Toolz may just be taking some time to figure things out. Smtimes when these men mess up you need to step away,so they understand the consequence of their action. They may still reconcille. Wish them luv and lite.
BEDSANDROSES
Fix it Jesus !!!
DeleteAbroadian Bv, thank you for writing all I had in mind.
DeleteIf you watch she and Gbemis podcast on YouTube, you will know what happenedππ seems like bubu and susu are on the rocks too.
DeleteWho no know say that clique Ebuka and Tunde Dumerin are cheats! Correct one
Delete12.02 so what exactly is funny about the situation?
DeleteDo you mean banky w @anon 11:03.
Delete12:02 I'm guessing you used a wrong emoji cos I dont see how what you wrote is funny.
DeleteSUSU AND BUBU OWN SELF DEY OO, HMM I DNT WANT TO BELIEVE SHA.
DeleteSome ladies will open their two eyes and marry a womanizer. How do you want to enjoy the marriage even when there is money? No peace of mind and happiness when you know your husband is sleeping around.
DeleteA man cheats on you while dating, he begs you and you continued with him and marry him.
I don't pity women who knowingly marry a cheat.
No man will marry a lady who cheated on them while dating.
Our women are so stupid most times.
Marriage is overrated. Painful
DeleteIf it's true that she knowingly married a serial cheat, then she should shut it with the Tiwa Savage act, and go sort her ish out. Enough with women crying wolf after dancing Egungun on-top 3rd mainland bridge at 4p.m.
DeleteCELEB LIFE EHHH! Someone edits for whatever reason, maybe to even separate business life from personal life, pipu don analyse am reach ground, even causinf misfire (misfire as in other people's gist come enter)
DeleteI am probably older than most who visit here and I have read all sorts only to find out say na publicity stunt.
And to think people fight tooth and nail BE A CELEB so as to gain attention? You cant use business class anymore, you cant drive one car for too long, every post u do is seen as a message. if you are nursing a headache in a semi public place, they say you are snob. Ok if you rearrange your social media account to be semi private they say; seeking attention....and so on
Not to talk of those v desperate hungry bloggers that wake up with fever and contort an epistle untop your life, marry 4 spouses to you complete with 20kids, as if those class of bloggers know anything about the celeb life were physically there. Pipu actually choose this profession sha? hiaaan
@Abroadian BV- a woman does not just wake up one morning and decide to remove her husband's name. That decision for a public figure like Toolzo would have been well thought through.
DeleteIt probably has taken months of deciding and a woman only takes that decision when the marriage is broken down and irreconcilable.
@DavinaRose correction "sexcapades".
Deletethis is quite sad
ReplyDeleteYou are so correct Stella, i pray that God will fix it.
DeleteSEXYHIPS
It is well. God, please kindly fix whatever it is.
ReplyDeleteI am shocked sha. They looked so good together. Is it that people no longer put in effort in making the marriage work???
ReplyDeleteI mean, apart from DV and cheating, no one seems to want to put in extra effort anymore
Don't worry. You will soon know how far.
DeleteY'all should stop this nonsense. Eka will not know how far or near anything. Her marriage will continue to be sweet as it started off. Y'all keep holding your breath till you die of asphyxiation waiting for Eka to know how far. Rubbish!
DeleteI will never know how far in Jesus name. I wish u whatever u wish me *10 in Jesus name. Oponu ayerada.
DeleteUseless thing that will never do well.
Geez!!! God forbid you!!!
@Anon
DeletePlease nor curse Eka ooo. She will only know peace ooo. Na God I take beg you.
Lolssss..10:52, she Will know how far soon.
DeleteCyclone pls stop with the negativity. I see nobody cursing aunty Eka here. That is a simple statement which can be interpreted to mean you are yet to understand. And I am not the anon. I have been married 18years and enjoyed every bit of my marriage but I have come to know how far. That how far may not even be from your spouse but external parties etc but there is no perfect human being anywhere. Spouses unintentionally hurt their other half and it doesn't mean the end of the marriage. Challenges will come in any marriage and no one is an exception. How far may even be from other couple's marriage so ki lon gbe ki le ju. Is Eka a spirit or she married a spirit in? Two siblings from the same womb have issues how much more two people from diff backgrounds. Abeg!! Aunty Eka you will have a blissful marriage but you go learn many lessons believe it or not!!
DeleteShe will not know how far in jesus name... Eka joy your home shall be blessed forever...
DeleteAnon 11.56 if you know that kind of how far in your marriage, that's your headache. I will never know such how fars. Wish that for urself and ur family members and leave me out of it.
DeleteGosh...Eka you are so uncouth in the way you speak to people. What has Anon 11.56 said that is wrong now. Even when you attend marriage classes you are told that challenges will definitely come in marriage or do you choose to be delusional in your marriage?? Na wa for you oh...
DeleteDont mind Eka,talking like she lives in Mars...There is no marriage that will not encounter problems, how you handle it is what matters and if the erring party is ready to learn and do better. A lot of men cheat and that's a fact! How about emotional abuse and verbal abuse? Not everything is domestic violence. Some men will not beat you but you will hear wiii!! We can only pray and do our best
DeleteWhat has ska said that warrants all these , please leave her alone, she's not the cause of your frustration, her marriage will be sweet to the end, my parents has a sweet marriage, not everyone will know how far
DeleteBibilomo
Ask your mother, she still knew 'how far' even though it was a sweet marriage. Try and understand what Anon meant by 'how far' before you rush to comment.
DeleteDear Tolu,
ReplyDeletePlease don't tow this path, marriage is not a bed of roses. Whatever it is you are going through you need not bring it to the social media. It doesn't help you but there is always someone that can help you. Take it to God in prayer and He will sort it out. You remember that day you were asked to choose an item amongst the items your husbands people brought and you chose the bible? It is for times like this. I love you from a distance, I pray the Lord fix it for you. Cheers
Amen! Father pls grant her the grace to fix this. They really look good together
DeleteHmmmmm
DeleteWho told you she chose the Bible?
DeleteITK
She is from a Muslim family
At 18:17, you're the ITK, she chose the Bible. I watched their traditional wedding video. She is a Christian.
DeleteBut my parents made marriage look so easy.. They share everything, laugh a lot, support, encourage and build each other and its been over 30 years.
ReplyDeleteMine too.
DeleteMine too. But even within our parents generation, there were lots of broken marriages, we just didn't know about them. I remember thinking every family was like mine until I attended boarding school at an FGGC. I remember my friends had horrible stories.. from domestic to family violence to drunk and absentee fathers or mothers and so on. Even some couples that appear good we later found out had a really sour marriage..the only thing is that most of them never officially divorced.
DeleteMarriage is easy when you are in it with your God-given spouse. Don't let the stories you read online scare you. Many people have it going very well for them like your parents. And I pray you get it right too.
DeleteEven mine,my parents were married for fifty years before my dad passed away..
DeleteMy mom worshiped my dad,she calls on his name when ever she hurt herself or in a confused state..
My mom can even kill any of her children for my father if he ask her to..
When my father died she almost went mad,she will prepare my father's food,placed on the dinning table and she will ask me to go and wake up my father to come and eat..
It was heart breaking, they never quarrelled, they drink beer and eat suya then gossip every night..
My parents flat was different from ours,because they don't want children disturbing their alone time..
But when I got married, I had to praise my mom,she tried..
Marriage is hard work,especially on the bitter days..
Papa Johnson is one hell of a lucky man..
lol my parents made it look so easy too. theirs will be 50 years this sept..no marriage is perfect though some have less drama than others. the day my mum told me about an affair my dad had years back my jaw dropped...lol..we and even most relatives never knew cos dude doesnt drink, smoke or even keep late nights. it was a brief office affair. now they are all loved up and following each other upandan like brother and sister.
DeleteYour mom can kill one of her children for your dad???? Mbanu I don't think so..and if it is then that is not love for her spouse again ..it Is something else.
Delete13:22
DeleteSo you believe all the things bvs type here? I pity you
Dear Tolu,
ReplyDeletePlease don't tow this path, marriage is not a bed of roses. Whatever it is you are going through you need not bring it to the social media. It doesn't help you but there is always someone that can help you. Take it to God in prayer and He will sort it out. You remember that day you were asked to choose an item amongst the items your husbands people brought and you chose the bible? It is for times like this. I love you from a distance, I pray the Lord fix it for you. Cheers
Awwwww not this one na. I was rooting for them.
ReplyDeleteWhen people marry for the wrongest of reasons π
ReplyDeleteIf you don't have anything sensible to say keep your trap shut!!!! What do you mean by when people marry for the wrong reasons, marry first and lets see the outcome na, you are just an extremely insensitive human ,with you basket nose and mouth.
DeleteMy thoughts exactly! When you marry for material accomplishments other than the purpose for which it was instituted in the first place, it can’t stand the test of time.
DeletePeople should marry for the right reasons. It should be completely selfless.
how could they have married for material accomplishment when both come from very comfortable backgrounds. They also didn't marry young. Both were mid 30s and doing well in careers without the others imput.
DeleteIMPUT??
DeleteNa wa for you this Alternative facts oooh!!!
DeleteDo you know Toolz and Captain at all?? If not, just read and pass abeg!!!
Some many things causes marriage to pack up apart from material reasons!!!
Input,imput*. Atleast you got what i was trying to say inugo.
DeleteBEDS.
Beds and thorns accept correction inugo?
DeleteEven our English prof perxian do accept it with gratitude. Mkpi
Who knows? Might just be a ruse or he has eaten mama put from edible catering
ReplyDeleteThat guy looks like he gives her serious emotional trauma.
DeleteMaybe Toolz doesn't want to take the cheating. All of them are shameless cheats; Olamide, Banky, Tunde etc. The only person wey no get liver cheat amongst those friends from hell is Ebuka. Cynthia will not only throw him back to the streets, but will take his kids and hr will never see the again.
ReplyDeleteWhen you marry wrong, that is what happens. They all swore to marry rich man pikin, unfortunately, they forgot to add attraction to the equation. Everything is not about money, they are all learning the hard way. Gold digging bastards.
Wait oh, you think the Demesne’s are richer than the Onirus’s , none of them married each other for material things, they both can hold themselves . Things happen in life
DeleteSo Captain is broke??? Abi na Adesuwa be the rich Man pikin?? Leemaooooo!!
DeleteI'm not against the rich Man pikin gist but the only person that married Rich man pikin is Ebuka!!
Ebuka is bisexual reason he doesn't cheat with females but males!..
DeleteHow Capt.be gold digger..una go just dey type nonsense.
DeleteAnon easy with the lies pls..Google is just a click away.. Tunde is the son of Gtbank's highest shareholder, Chairman!!! What does he want a rich man's daughter for bikini?
DeleteWhich money you think say Oniru get? Capt's mother is the chairman of GTBank o. Google is your friend.
DeleteEven Banky family hold. Only Cynthia's family might be richer than Ebuka but who knows? Some families are silently loaded.
When you say wrong reasons... It doesn't mean money or material things
DeleteYou can marry out of pressure.
To remain within your tribe
To remain within a social class
To have a hot and happening husband.
It doesnt mean money... People marry for plenty other wrong reasons.
Some will claim a guy is too boring for them but be looking for an all night, 6pack happining nigga
Then when you marry him, you expect him to sit at home and become a "home man"
The thing is, know what you want and stick to it. Dont try to change anyone.
10:17 Ebuka is also a cheated. Cythnia not going anywhere even if she caught him. Ebuka is the best thing that happened to her apart from her father money. If it wasn’t for her daddy money, Ebuka would not look her way.
Delete* cheater* my bad
Deletenobody should make jest of toolz
ReplyDeletemarriage is called oja okunkun in Yoruba
it until you enter into it ٫ by then you will see the man's true color
men are scum for real
And women are bigger scum������
DeleteWomen are saints right ?
DeleteBe there talking rubbish.
Another university ni ile α»kα» jαΊΉ.
DeleteYutee1's story shows women are saints right???
DeleteAll these girls nowadays are all over the place. How can you have a good and settled home/life ? Every party , you are there. If they are planning aso ebi anywhere, your name must be on the list. Won fi se yin ni?? Every Saturday your picture must be on the internet as the best party dresser in the world. You go from Lagos to Ibadan to Abuja for useless parties that add absolutely no value to you. You will have to pick a hustle because you can never have a settled life and still be gallivanting all over the world.
ReplyDeleteJealous much
DeleteNa so. You want to start blaming her in advance even wihout knowing the truth. How many parties does Toolz attend? If you like marry and enter kulle, that's your call. Leave others to live their lives in their terms.
DeletePls stop the blame game already, you were not there, and you apparently cant tell what went wrong, toolz husband that is always IG liking pics of big big ass girls twerking nko. despite the fact she is a celebrity, how many party have you seen her post on IG????.
Deletei only blame them for bringing all these to the public, becos it wont help at all.
SEXYHIPS.
Marriage is indeed hard work.Been married for a yr plus now and some days I want to run away.Now,my own case is a little bit worse because I stay with my parents in law and it has not been easy.I keep asking for more wisdom,grace and a better job so we can relocate because that's the only way I can have the privacy I crave.
ReplyDeleteIf you know wat is good for u, propel your husband to rent his own place, jezz, this is 21st century and you still allow your hubby stay with his parents??? my mum did dat terrible mistake and almost lost her life. pls think about this ok.
DeleteI cant even live with my own parents even though i love them.
DeleteGot my own place at 30 and later married at 34.
Live with who????? Hmm, sorry, if he is not ready to be a man, let him walk, please. Live with in-laws, seriously and at what age?
DeletePeople no longer strive to make marriage work these days. May God take control.
ReplyDeleteyou know why??? because men of those days are not fucked boys like the lazy men of these generation. they are lazy to care for u and still cheat on u without shame. women fail to train the boy children.
DeleteSo the blame is for men alone right ?
DeleteWomen has nothing to contribute to make marriage work right ?
I didn't know it's for men to make it work by all means.
I reject this o. After all the money spent, the Gbemi vs Mofin Boyz drama, the destination wedding, no o. Una must settle. Go for counselling, pray together, etc.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, what is wrong with marriages these days? So a time will come when 10 years anniversary will be scarce?
I’m laughing so much at your recollection of Gbemmy vs Olumofin brothers drama
DeleteShe may have done it for publicity though. She know say we Nigerians no dey mind our business. Expect to see her post a picture with a family and say "April Fool"
ReplyDeleteHmmmmn. I pray all is well with them.
ReplyDeleteS lot is going on behind the screen. Believe all what you see on social media t your own risk.
ReplyDeleteThe next one will shock you guys more than this, wait for it.
#weddingparty
I don't even want to believe that story!!!
DeleteBanky with his big headπ€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£
What does his head have to do with this? Can you create a head? Is your own body perfect?
DeleteI hope not
ReplyDeleteI hope all is well
ReplyDeleteif people cannot stop cheating then don marry to satisfy parents or society. my sister had a miscarriage and her husband still had guts to camp side chiek in hotel
ReplyDeleteCan you imagine. Ahn ahn
DeleteLeave your sister and her husband alone.
DeleteDefender of the universe.
If the sister is disturbing her with tears everyday what should she do ignore. When someone you love is going through pains in their marriage,it also affects you unless you dont have a heart.
DeleteCant see ur siblings unhappy or a man maltreating her and it wont affect you.
Don you are not okay
Delete#Ruth
Oh no!
ReplyDeleteFix it Lord...
Marriage is so much more than the 'lovey-dovey' season or extravagant wedding. It is more of a spiritual and soul walk which requires dogged commitment from both parties. The generation before us made it so effortlessly, making us look forward to our own homes and partners. My generation, please what is going on? Why are we quick to give up on ourselves? There is help- counseling, therapy, prayer, meditation and seeing being the hurt caused by either party. Please, Tolu, work this out. Lots of people love what you share with yours, please work this out, please.
ReplyDeleteThis is why marriages are crumbling- ALL the advisers on this blog are advising only one half of the equation forgetting that it takes TWO to tango. This man, TUNDE should also be given home work if the marriage is to stand.
DeleteHow do you advise a person who doesn't ask for advice? It's usually the women who write chronicles and ask for advice so we advise them. You want us to leave the women and advice the men who would not even read the chronicles? Most times it's the women who fight to save the marriage. Some men misbehave because they want the marriage over but are too cowardly to come out straight so they keep frustrating the women until they leave by themselves.
DeleteI actually started suspecting something was off since she stopped wearing her ring.I bet she thought no one will talk 'cos she dropped the "Oniru" too but alas!!!She was also absent from work last week,i guess that's cos she was moving houses. There is gist of BankyW disrupting Gabriel Afolayan's marriage too!!
ReplyDeleteMy take is they should listen to what Omotola told Banky after his wedding.Hide yasef....the devil is not playing!!
Stella didn't post my main comment. I wonder why.
DeleteIt wasn’t bank, captain is the one having an affair with Gabriel afolayans wife... the decoders on gistlovers blog totally forgot that captain is the head of EME records, though everything she said pointed at hanky but na captain do the do , that’s y their is fire on the mountain for toolz
DeleteBanky is d head of Eme. Founded in US I still watched him talk on ' under 40's ceo'.
DeleteMarriage isn't beans.....had to take a long walk last night to clear my head while playing some music. Now I envy single people sometimes
ReplyDeleteDon't envy us, nothing dey here to envy o.. π€£
DeleteIt is well
ReplyDeleteStella, Amen to your prayers. It is not easy.
ReplyDeleteBut the message to us too is that these celebs so called do
pretend a lot. When you see them smiling and doing PDA, it is all
for the camera, it is not what it looks like inside.
But it doesn't mean that those sweet loving moments were untrue. Those moments that the camera captured, were real true moments of their lives. Nobody makes an album of sad moments. So Their wedding, proposal, vacation photos were true. That they have issues doesn't take away from that.
DeleteNIB, well said
Delete@Nib and Eka
DeleteNot when you kept putting out on the internet even a week/few days to
outbursts like this one.
So, if they settle (assuming say na quarrel trutru), she will now "add" the name again abi? Childish tantrums. If you are a celeb, no need to add your husband's name on your social media handles/page/profiles. It's the easiest way for people to know when something is "supping" in your marriage.
ReplyDeleteBadass women like Florence Ita-Giwa and Bola Kuforiji-Olubi no dey commot any husband name once dem don add am. Florence Ita and Dele Giwa went their separate ways but she no gree go back to her maiden name even after the man remarried. Who dem born well to challenge her? Our senior mummy Bola added the new husband's name to the former one and kuku turned it to compound name. Bukky Wright did not officially divorce all her husbands but you wouldn't know because she never added their names in the first place. Men in showbiz don't have this problem so, women in showbiz be wise. A married woman is a woman that haff chopped liver. Use the name forever/until you remarry or don't bother to add it at all if you will be changing it anytime there's an issue. I love Toolz and da Captain together but na who wear high-heels know whether e balance well. I wish them peace, understanding and plenty love.
I love them together too,i just hope there is no problem with their marriage.
DeleteStella you are right about marriage
ReplyDeleteMy marriage is eight years and I must confess that some days I regret marrying at all.
Last year I edited my husband's name on my phones contact list from 'my darling' to his first name. The day he saw it he was angry and asked why. I told him he cannot be my darling when he keeps talking down on me and disrespecting me. I told him he is free to edit my name to anything he likes that he can't call me sweet names now and the next minute he is insulting me. I warned him to stop calling me sweety, honey and the rest. He should call me by my first name or Mama Debby(not real name). He too changed my name on his phone to my first name but the thing is still paining him. He mentioned it recently.
I also went on Facebook and removed his last name from my name. I use a neutral name now, my first name and something neutral. My friends thought something had happened but I still post loved up pictures of us and the kids so they know we are still together. He is very sweet most times but gets so annoying sometimes that you want to disown him as husbandπ. In all, he is a good husband, doesn't cheat or hit me, just talks anyhow sometimes, he is also very caring and hardworking.
Reason why I use a neutral name on sm. Friends have labelled me all sorts and I love it because no one knows my marital status; some inbox pity-party messages etc while showing me their loving 'marriages', I just dey laugh. Not only men are guilty of cheating but also women.
DeleteMy name on SM is still my maiden,even my email still my maiden name and i dont plan on changing it. At work i use my married name though my documents still carry the old name.
DeleteOnly thing i changed is my passport. And dats because we travel as a family.
Even if a celebrity marriage is in crisis. I dont believe in all this removing of name or removing of rings. It gives too much away. Your partner knows you both are going through it,no one else needs to know until those divorce papers are signed. And we know that takes years.
In that time who is to say you cant get back together.
Those who actually understand what marriage is know that marriages should be kept off social media. Marriages are too sacred to be spread like clothes on a clothesline for the whole world to see. It is a sacred covenant between a man, his woman and God Almighty. May the Lord open the eyes of understanding of today's married couples.
ReplyDeleteEven the ones not on social media are crashing as well, so what's your point?
DeleteDon't go and face your marriage, be busy antagonizing people's comments here as usual.
DeleteAnon, at least I have a marriage to face. Do you?
DeleteThe way people show off on social media makes me wonder who exactly they are competing with? Man is busy showing off wife (who is so proud to be a 'woman and mother in Israel' and has been holding forth since the union, while horseband is busy inboxing single ladies asking to be eating as chocolate for dinner. When women show off their spouse and how 'loving' he is, I so laugh in Spanish. That loving, harmless man who 'chose' saint 'u' among all the ladies may just be a ..., hmmm.
DeleteEla what on earth is wrong with you. Which one is You have a marriage to face. Omashe o
DeleteHa Eka, take it easy. Stop bringing yourself outside like this. You have marriage to face. What a shame
DeleteLolll, I have always said that your mouth will be your downfall.
DeleteImagine. 'at least I have marriagecti face do you?' You are the kind of person who will have children and be secretly mocking those who ate yet to give birth.
You are such a dirty,filthy,malevolent character. One can only imagine your upbringing.
Absolute trash!
Don't blame Eka joy pls. All she has going for her in her life at the moment is her new marriage. Shikena. No job or school or baby yet. Leave our Iyawo alone.
DeleteThis Eka Joy. I thought marriage changed you. I can see you're still the same foul mouthed individual. If this is the way you talk, you might wake one day and no longer have a marriage to face. It's happened to so many don't think it can't happen to you. I don' wish that for you though. Be humble. You mustn't respond to every hater with such words.
DeleteMarriage is not always sweet.
ReplyDeleteThere are times things are sweet, there are times things are rough. But the best thing is just to keep calm, keep praying and trust God. Because some decisions you make during the rough times can jeopardize everything totally.
When i got married 4years ago, it was all sweet and yummy, but along the line,2yrs on, with our delay in childbearing, everything began to look rough and all. We would quarrel over the slightest thing, malice began to set in. We could go 3 straight days without talking to each other, we would only exchange ‘good morning greetings’. Reporting to this person, talking to that person. Hmmm, they almost tore us apart. ‘Loved ones’ giving the most wicked adviceπ. Issues here and there, with our ttc state, it was a very difficult time. I wont lie, i got fed up. I said to myself, i married the sweetest man, what could be the problem? Why is he a different person now? I didn't know as i was seeing him as a different person, he was seeing me too as a different person. We would prefer to talk to someone else than talk to each other.
I turned to God in prayers, i would only talk to my parents, and they would only preach peace and patience. Before when they tell me about patience, i would flare up, ‘he is doing this, doing that, and you’re telling me about peace...bla bla’
I began to listen in patience, pray and pray. And not only pray, i began to change too. I stopped ‘carrying face’ stopped the malice totally. Would say good morning with a smile. He would come back from work and also say hello with a bright smile. We began to change gradually, till we opened up to each other and cried and cried. With time, i realized the issue was just ‘third parties’ God πππ. The same people who would give me the brightest smile, was giving my husband the most wicked advise about me π. Maybe they were telling him stuff with jazz in their mouth i cant understand. I mean a God-fearing man, the nicest and sweetest person just changed like that. Why they were doing that, i cant tell. You see this faithful God ehn, He will always be God. To cut the long story short, God restored the peace in our home, we hold hands to pray, the love is stronger than that of when we just got married. We now remember those difficult times now and smile and say thank you LordππΎ We tell each other everything now. And i just pray that God will continue to keep my home in Jesus name. And i pray that God will restore peace in every home. Amen. So toolz and hubby might just be going through one of those times. All will be well with them❤️
Thank you for sharing. God bless you richly!
DeleteHappy for you, may it be permanent.
DeleteThat's why I keep tight lips concerning my marriage especially when I'm angry with him..
DeleteI don't discuss it with friends and family, I just wait and discuss it with him,case close..
The truth is one needs alot of patience with men. They are just a different breed.
DeleteDo you want to keep changing them like wrapper. Once DV isnt involved and the man is not dos chronic cheat that disgrace their wives i believe in sorting things out. Especially with men you know on a regular are good fathers and good providers but they just have brain spark.
My husband can be soooo annoying. He is also very proud and likes to keep malice. But i know he isnt a womanizer and he is a good provider. So many times we argue i have just had to be the bigger person. Even if i see he isnt talking to me,i will still greet him,i will still cook for him. I will even still send him messages at work to check up on him like i do daily. I have just had to swallow my pride many times. Sometimes i stand my ground on some issues. But above all i dont let our fights escalate,i still give him his respect even in arguements. The minute you start disrespecting eachother with abusive words,next will be beating eachother up. So i avoid it.
Great approach Anon!!!
DeleteAnon 13:58
DeleteSo if your husband cheats on you but the type that disgraces you, you will remain with him until he gives you HIV AIDS?. And what do you mean by changing men? Must I remarry or date men if I leave my husband? Do I need a man to validate my existence? This your warped thinking is the reason some women keep torturing themselves in the name of marriage.
PS: I am married and my man does not cheat or beat me. Any day he does, he knows how far
But not the type that disgraces you*
DeleteMay there be unconditional love and peace in their home, may their hearts yearn for each other. Toolz & D, I love you too, not now God answered your prayers with a son, then it turns to be blessing in disguise. Never, get back and sort your issues for the love you shared before and for your son.
ReplyDeleteAwww they are one couple I love so much and always like to see together. God please, fix it for them.
ReplyDeleteI hope they get through whatever it is Toolz and Demuren are going through.
ReplyDeleteWell said Stella, it takes Gods grace
ReplyDeleteMarriage isn't easy at all, am married for 3 years plus,sometimes I wish I was never married, I recently changed my Hubby's name on my phone to is first name,right now am in my parents house just to cool of my head...it's not easy oooo..
ReplyDeleteYou didn't need to leave and go to your parent's house except it is a situation of domestic violence where you may fear for your safety. You should make all efforts to always sort out any issues without 3rd parties being aware. You could as well stay at home , create your own space and cool your head then both of you will communicate and resolve issues.
DeleteAt least your parents allowed you. Mine will be playing neutral when hubby will curse me the hell out. No physical abuse but emotional abuse. I had to ask my parents one time if they really love me. Sometimes I hate this our naija culture especially Yoruba culture! It’s been one hell of a ride living with a Nigerian man. It’s exhausting. iPad help us naija women.
DeleteAnon 14:16. Sometimes it’s good to get away completely for some time to heal the emotional stress faster. Emotional abuse is even worse than physical self. So leaving that situation temporarily helps.
DeleteThat's why it's good for a girl to have her own money, so that in times like this, she'll just jet off to some exotic island to cool off and think through. If he loves you enough, let him get on a plane and come meet you there even if he has to borrow; can't afford a trip, get a girl's pad somewhere away from home, remain there, let him come woo you right back on his knees and RENEW THE UNION. I think that would make marriage more interested
DeleteShe looked so happy. Lord if true, plz bring peace to them.
ReplyDeleteStella marriage is not easy.
ReplyDeleteThey will soon come out to deny everything.
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This old news na, Toolz knew who she was marrying. Demuren wayward ways Is well known, him and his friends, Ebuka is even worse. Their wives are Steve Wonder to the wayward ways. Toolz take heart dear, Cythnia you next.
ReplyDeleteI pray for a restoration of peace and unending happinesses in their home.
ReplyDeleteMy favorite celebrity couple..
Jesus fix it
Could be nothing, when I edited my hubby's name off all my social media handles, most of my friends were troubled...it was so funny to me ,when I started getting calls right ,left and center. But hay,I just want my maiden name out there simple.
ReplyDeletePS, I'm not a celeb π
So so gobsmacked at d comments here, bcoz I never believed that most BVs insulting & mocking Tiwa, Toke, Tonto, Mercy A, Lilian, Yvonne , Chika, Venita & other celebrities that their marriages crashed , were married . This is really confession time, suffering & smiling, while some of u were & still are making jest of those who couldn’t take d heat from their marriages. It is well. I don’t even know what to tell Toolz bcoz i’m Shocked & scared of marriage now. Banky’s own , being d cause of Gabriel Afolanya’s marriage break up is all over d blogs . May God take control.
ReplyDeleteEskiss me efriboldi. Does it mean a change in profile name in her case is indicative of marriage on the rocks? Y’all may be right o but eh, my Naija people are now adept at kicking up dust just for the F of it too!
ReplyDeleteMy father is a Lazy buffoon who hates to work. My mother always prays she dies because his only contribution to her is his penis. Women who marry lazy men who are cheats are trying.
ReplyDeleteComing on social media to call you father a 'buffoon' is sooo wrong. When you use such abusive words on people, it is rather a reflection of the kind of person you are than on the person you try to portray in bad light.
Delete@anon 14:34, leave anon 13:56 alone to express his/her feelings. You don't know how painful it is to watch a parent suffer in the hands of another and die before the bad one.
DeleteMany adults watched their mother fast and pray and take care of their financial needs while their fathers cheats with different women and contributes nothing to their lives. When the children are old enough to take care of their mother, she's dead and the useless father enjoys because the world will tell them to forgive and forget, after all, he is their fathers.
This is actually so sad. I just hope its not true. How can? And the other gist I'm even hearing ab bubu and susu. I just hope it's all a joke.
ReplyDeleteIt really takes maturity and lots of endurance and sacrifice to hold it together. God didn't plan it this way, no!!! I just pray for them and everyone going through such to heal, amen.
ReplyDeleteIt is like she took his pictures off her IG page
ReplyDeleteIt was a bad move to change it in the first place. Her social media pages are an extension of her professional life, so she should have kept her professionally recognizable name on her social media and not change it after marriage. Why high profile women do this I don't know. Always assuaging men's egos for no logical reason. You are known professionally under one name and recognized by your fan base under that name then let it remain that way after marriage. Marriage is about how you care for your spouse, not names on social media.
ReplyDeleteVery true
DeleteTrust me, the name toolz is more than enough.
DeleteLots of Nigerian men were not raised up well. Then the ladies (wives and girlfriends) cut them a lot of slack.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is not easy has always been the excuse. Who made it difficult?
Why don't men pray to keep or preserve their marriages? God made them the spiritual heads of their homes. No, they slack off.
*ISAAC INTERCEEDED IN PRAYER FOR REBECCA FOR 20 YEARS UNTIL GOD OPENED HER WOMB TO CONCEIVE.*
The wives carry prayer on their heads while the husbands gallivant around doing all sorts.
Nigerian women behave like "Isacchar...when he sees how good is his resting place and how pleasant is his land, he will bend his shoulder to the burden and submit to forced labor." Gen 49:15
Did the wives and mothers of yesteryears have better? No!
Most of them endured and tolerated nonsense from their husbands, then passed it on to their daughters - suffering and smiling.
For the lady that said they confided in third parties, I'm sorry you had to learn the wrong way. May God bless you with children that will bring you joy and honour.
Your husband acted the way he did because he felt it was your fault not his for delayed conception. That's another nonsense men push off on women. Often it is men that have the problem as it has been medically proven.
My only brother and wife has been ttc for 14 years. They both went for treatment. She was scared of fibroid surgery and none of us pressured her for one day. She eventually had the surgery at a time her faith was strong.
Mom and us 3 sisters do not visit their home. My brother gets the scolding when he falls out with his wife.
I say it again, most Nigerian men were not raised up well.
If this continues with the sons we are raising today, most future marriages will not last a year. I dare say that the daughters that are in their teens and twenties now leave much to be desired.
Parents do your work.
Ladies, do not tolerate nonsense while dating a man.
Wives stop making excuses for your husbands and making sacrifices they should make as Christ did for the Church, His bride.
If you like, behave like Isacchar and become a slave in your marriage.
Honestly this maybe NOTHING. Nigerians love negativity alot
ReplyDeleteIssues about Nigerian Economy and politics - 30 comments highest
ReplyDeleteNews about celebrity marriage breakdown - 150 comments
and we wonder why Nigeria is where it is.
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Deletetoolz wey dey smoke when they were dating...what do you expect from a man that allow his woman to smoke on his face...most people marry potential then end up with reality
ReplyDeleteThis has got nothing to do with it and is quite a stupid assertion by you.
DeletePeace be stillππππ
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo
ReplyDeleteStella where is my comment o?
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