TV girl, Stephanie Coker who welcomed her baby late last year has revealed in an Instagram post that she conceived her baby through IVF...
#Respect to her for revealing this,a lot of celebs have done this and even surrogacy but hiding it....This will encourage a lot of women trying to conceive..
Nice one for repenting from the fake Naija (patch patch) celeb Pharisee lives.
ReplyDeleteNdi Pharisees erika oo 😊😊😊
I don't understand why people feel there's anything wrong with IVF? It's because we don't understand the pain, process women go through.
DeleteIt's like people who say they are embarrassed to say they had CS. I had CS for all my children and the pain is undescribable.
Why should I feel less of a woman because I delivered through CS or conceived through IVF or surrogacy etc.
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew, I just think it's an African mentality thing 🙄🥴😏🤷🏾♀️
What is the essence of this revelation?
ReplyDeleteTo encourage others out there who would want to go through same route.
DeleteTo encourage other people.
DeleteYou can't win with Nigerians sha. If she says it's God, na una go still say why she no talk true.
DeleteTo encourage me
DeleteYou know this 15:58
DeleteTo encourage others trying to conceive.
DeleteIt's not easy when you see women trying to conceive and can't even afford IVF or who can but still didn't work for them.
16:04, your testimony is fully ready 🙏. Junior and Pretty are on their way!
DeleteThis encouraged me
Deletemy dear congrats. some pple have spent millions on IVF but nada came out. congrats and baby dust to those TTC
ReplyDeletena me dey on this table
DeleteAnon 16:39.
DeleteMy God in heaven will come through for you,just believe and keep trying.
16:39 pls reach out to me. I am a woman also.
DeleteI have already had 2 failed ivf, I don't know what to do next. It's emotionally draining.
ReplyDeleteGo for egg donor and keep it to yourself, you carried the baby with your womb still your child , simple, better than adoption.
DeleteI know of a lady who had 3 failed ivf she tried again and it worked the 4th time dont give up keep trying and surely it shall work for you too
DeleteAnd what's wrong with adoption? 🙄😏🥴
DeleteYou don't wana know how many times stephany tried before it worked for her .
DeleteDon't give up. So many tried IVF severally and for years before their joy came. Yours will come. Even some people have no problems at all but just because they are in a hurry, they rush into IVF so as to please the world.
DeleteObama wasn't there when Michelle inseminated herself. If she didn't tell t, would anyone have known apart from their few close loved ones? She TOLD THAT STORY AT HER OWN TIME. Don't you just love her kids? It is all these poke nosing that makes people keep quiet so they are not mocked by society.
DeleteYoung women yet to find suitable partners who can afford it can also go and freeze their eggs until they are ready. Many options abound these days and should be welcomed.
DeleteThere's absolutely nothing like better than adoption. Carrying a baby with your uterus doesn't make it yours. There are thousands of surrogates world wide that would disagree with you that because they "carried baby with their wombs" it is still their children. Please stop talking in the nonsense and in the rubbish. I adopted 4 year old twins 11 years ago and they treat me better and are extremely well behaved compared to ALL the children raised by their biological parents I know. I brought up the topic of the possibility of searching for their biological parents last year and they were extremely upset. One of them cried and said I am the only parent they have and need. Being able to adopt a child is a feeling that CAN NEVER BE MATCHED. A priviledge to share the most intimate bond with another human not connected by blood or surrogacy. According to my girls, I would always be more of a parent than their sperm and egg donor/surrogate. Madam with the failed IVF, I would suggest you look into adoption. It is a huge gift. Multiple round of hormone treatments can increase your risk of certain diseases especially cancer. While having a biological child is a great thing, what is more important to you? Being pregnant or being a mother? Children do not love their parents because they gave birth to them, children love those who show them love and care.
DeleteI lost my best friend 16 years ago. She died while giving birth. She had a 4 year old son and the infant girl survived at the time. Her children see the picture we took together before her passing which is framed in my living room constantly when they visit me. Guess what? They have NEVER cared to ask me about her. To them she actually never existed and she doesn't matter(which is sort of true). When they were kids, I used to call them on her birthday every year to "comfort" them and then I realized that I was the one who needed comfort.They just did not care. The boy is an adult now and just started working and sent some food stuff and birthday cake when for the twins birthday in February. He said "Aunty, for my sisters." Very heart warming. I am writing this epistle to tell you people that adopted families can be just as wonderful as biological families. People respond to love,affection and care not egg and uterus otherwise there'd be no donors or surrogates. It's up to you in the end but you can find just as much fulfillment in adoption. Please let's stop stigmatizing adoption. At this rate I love my twins and I would give my life for them if it comes to it. I hurt so badly when they hurt. It's a beautiful thing.
What is egg donor and is it cost, trying to conceive has made me become broke
DeleteAngel in human form. Has God not been blessing and opening miraculous doors for you? Thank you so much for sharing. I don't understand why some women find it very difficult to love other people's children. Birthing a child is one thing (and a privilege of course). But loving, caring and raising a child and particularly one that is not yours is one of life's greatest privilege and achievement. Imagine Esther without Modecai? How would she have become Queen? He even sat at the gate as a security man while she sat on the throne, imagine? If he hadn't placed her there, would God have saved her tribe? We are all vessels in his hand both biological and non-biological mothers. People just need to look beyond their nose to see the future. God bless and strengthen you to do more, amen.
DeleteMum of adopted twins , i repeat, that you have a child in your uterus means you have a child , same placenta , same breastfeeding, better than adoption ,adopted kids even find out that they are adopted and not biological so distance themselves inost cases that i have seen , if you breast feed a child , carry her for months , there is a strong bond and link, better than adoption .
DeleteAnonymous long epistle, you cant compare the feeling of carrying a child in your womb to adoption. if you can carry a child ,so be it, pls carry. Adoption is mainly for those who have tried all but no yield.
DeleteAnon 16.25 , if you have money go for egg donor, it is way better than adoption cos you breastfeed the child, from your blood and placenta there is a link , and ofcourse the child comes from your spouse not another man , strong link, egg donor is not so popular but it's better , if u have money though, like my doc said anyone can have a child just have the money.
DeleteAnonymous 16:55 are you okay? Allow people to air their views or you get out with your miopic opinion.
DeleteAnonymous 16:43 and I6:55, yes it is good to have our own child and breastfeed our child but the Anonymous is also correct on adoption to some extent. In all cases, there are NO guarantees that our kids will love and take care of us in the future,, I have kids but my husband and I are also planning for our retirements and old age because children are NO guarantees. Some biological kids even kill their parents in broad daylights, some change towards their parents and neglect them, some become so unsuccessful and never do wells in life, it is not guaranteed, in the western world, people plan for their old age. Let us encourage people to do what is good for them and for some of us who do not have kids and may not have, let them also have a beautiful life .. because once you are gone, you are gone, you won't ho with any child and our lineage fades off after 3 generations.just have a happy life, see the world, love, help people and LIVE life.. that is all
DeleteHey boo you are dumb, i aired mine and someone refused and i still stood on my own opinion, why not make yours as well and go, this is a case pot calling kettle black , i mean you too, leave my own comment .
Delete16.43 you are highly insensitive. I guess those children that murdered their biological parents also had a strong bond, smh.
Delete16:16, you said the truth and got me misty eyed. God bless you, your friend's children and your twins. Yoruba people say it is the person that is buried by children that is a parent. It is not by egg or placentas or sperm because who would be a surrogate in that case? Love is not by genetics- even biological parents reject and neglect their children for being gay, changing religion or even choosing particular careers etc. Some will birth and then load into a trailer for almajiri or househelp. Another set will just sell or take to Baba as final ingredient for etutu. It is love that makes a family, not blood.
DeleteAnon 16: 43 is extremely insensitive and myopic. Mom of adopted twins is absolutely correct, if u can do surrogacy with ur own egg or with a donor, try that but that doesnt mean theres anything wrong with adoption,its actually a beautiful experience an the bond is no less than that of biological parents. Even if they grow and look for their biological parents, they never ever forget who nurtured them. Adootuom is beautiful. Warm higs to mom of adopted twins. If I adopt ,I wont tell the kids they were adopted sha unless if it's in countries where the law requires you let them.know and they keep a record.
DeleteAnon16:55,u have a lot of growing up to do, do away with that mindset,its antiquated, best suited for the museums of history
Mum of adopted kids. Kudos. No need for a negative reply for the myopic one.
DeleteAnonymous 16:55 you're so dump and stupid. Have you read Joke silver's biography? She was adopted and yet she turnout well and she's still bearing her parents name "SILVER".
DeleteMy aunt adopted two girls and these girls are her world. They're so smart and brilliant. You'll never know they're adopted except you're not told.
Stop discouraging anyone who want to adopt it's same God that created all kids.
I had three IVF failures before I got a positive with Frozen embryo transfer . It’s not easy but don’t give up
DeleteThose ones that did surrogacy and kept mute about it disgust me. Nothing like saying the truth.
ReplyDeleteDid you ask them and they didn't say the truth?
DeleteThey are not obligated to say anything if they dont feel like it just like nobody asked Stephanie..she chose to reveal this.
Keep mute about it? So they must come out and tell the world how they welcomed their kids into the world. The kids are theirs and they owe you no explanation.
DeleteWho cares if it disgusts you. It is THEIR life, THEIR choice.
DeleteMust they come and tell you ? Say you be who ? They entitled to their opinion and have the right to keep things to themselves and be mute , many of you Nigerians are not perfect but are quick to poke nose in people's lives , worry about yourself , reveal what you want and leave others.
DeleteNne, they don't owe you any explanations, please. Let people live their lives. A part of their truth/story maybe keeping quiet.
DeleteDisgust you?? Who are you to them??🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteY'all are too entitled!!
Congrats Steph
Nobody owes anybody any explanation for how they live their lives, as long as it doesn't affect you personally.
DeleteOh please shut up, it their choice ok
Deleteit's their choice whether to tell or not, you are not entitled to their news.
DeleteBlack diamond, your comments these days get serious comma. Hope everything is okay with u.
DeleteIts their life not yours. they can live anyhow they deem fit. Afterall they dont owe you any explanation.
DeleteEveryone has given a deserving response. Why should I bother?
DeleteBlack diamond are you Okay? what's your business with their keeping mute 🤷🤷🤷
DeleteI am trying to figure out how they Disgust you.
Wow
DeleteSo they dont have a right to choice?
Why must they tell you if they dont want to ?
Smh
Fell pregnant? What a way to describe such a sensitive topic.
ReplyDeleteI know where Stella got that word from, it was intentional
DeleteOh...you are actually right as that phrase usually describes an unplanned pregnancy but this clearly was. I think though Stella just means she got pregnant.
DeleteThere's nothing wrong in conceiving via IVF and telling everyone. There's also nothing wrong in conceiving via IVF and hiding it. Its their choice and no one should be shamed for doing either.
ReplyDeleteexactly.
DeleteExactly, it's all about CHOICE. It's the choice of the individual and no one has a right to expect such disclosure from another.
DeleteThis brightens my day and brings hope.. I tried to get pregnant last year for 5 months straight and it didn't happen so i was sad.. my sister was telling me it is too soon to conclude, that it takes longer at times and it doesn't mean I'm not okay... i don't know if she is right or not😕😕
ReplyDeleteMy dear, please you and your hubby should go for tests to determine if you are both ok or not.
DeleteShe's correct though. Healthy couples can achieve pregnancy with medical intervention or assistance anywhere from immediately after intercourse to 3 years while having regular intercourse. Pregnancy is not easy to achieve at all. Keep trying though. IVF doesn't always work either, so really all you have is to keep trying.
DeleteCongratulations to her. Children are such precious gifts.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you Steph
ReplyDeleteThank you,this will encourage people to be more open about other ways to have a kid
ReplyDeleteThere is absolutely NOTHING WRONG WITH adoption, IVF and surrogacy at all. It is just the African and particularly Nigerian mentality that is the problem. Lots of women desirous of children are having rich fulfilling lives with these options. I know few Nigerian friends who opted for IVF and have triplets; some chose surrogacy and are happy; others adopted. My uncle chose to chase his first love/wife away because family says she's been barren for 10 years and he was ashamed of adopting, so he did. He remarried to a yellow pawpaw who has given him 3 kids but from day one, no peace in his life anymore and the carrot/stick is "I birthed children for you", so he lives with it. His close friend and neighbour who heeded the advise of both their friend(a highly respected legal luminary) agreed with his wife to adopted. You need to see that young girl today.She looks exactly like the woman(brown skill, slender and elegant). Everyone keeps saying she did not adopt her." WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY" has keep many in bondage (because they theirselves are chief amebos). Even Mordecai adopted; Joke Silva is adopted etc. Single/unmarried women today can enjoy having children even if they can't find a suitable partner. Isn't that good news? I see lots of our single celebrity ladies with money to throw around and outdoing each other with designers wears and I wonder why they cannot help themselves to any of these options and be happy rather than appear happy in public while dying in silence in their privacy. Even sperm banks abound. Women themselves are their own enemies because rather than support their own, they mock both in public and private. More importantly, no one owes the public any fucking explanations.Just do you and you'll be fine last, last.
ReplyDeleteVery well said!!!
DeleteCongratulations, Stephanie. Very brave of you.
ReplyDeleteIt just occurred to me that there are becoming many instances of women needing help in getting pregnant. Is it the food we eat that is affecting both men and women fertility? The lifestyle? Or is it social media that is making us know more about Trying To Conceive couples?
Same thing I have been wondering lately. There seems to be a high number of people TTC and I also wonder if there are underlying causes in the environment.
DeleteIf i have the finance why should i be ashamed to get pregnant through IVF?
ReplyDeleteAll na children wether is through IVf or Natural it does'nt matter.... May God come through for the rest of us.
Congratulations Stephanie 😘
ReplyDeleteI would have love to go for ivf but I am financially handicap for now I was diagnosed of bilateral distal tubal blockage, It's well
ReplyDeleteSorry sis , God will answer u speedily IJN !!! Seee there is nothing God cannot do... just have faith sis , I was diagnosed with same n had to go for IVF but it wasn’t successful... God showed up just few months after n I conceived naturally ... that was how God turned my story around n I’m very sure u are the next ... Pls be strong, everything is gonna be fine by the special grace of God !!
DeleteHubby suggested I get a sperm donor because his sperm count is very low because of varicose veins stuff, he's an only child, what does it entail getting a sperm donor and is it affordable or what do I do
ReplyDeleteLow sperm count is treatable
Deleteif his sperm is low, there are drugs that can increase it and it can also be washed by an embryologist so I don't think he needs a sperm donor but if it's azospermia(no sperm), then you both need to meet a fertility doctor that will introduce u to sperm bank. I wish you the best.
Deletenazy
There’s something your hubby isn’t telling you. Gbam it’s treatable.
DeleteHave him drink a shot glass of onion juice daily for as long as it takes for you to conceive, and also have him eat lots of watermelon, including the white part. His sperm count and quality should go up, as well he should be able to hold an erection longer. When he ejaculates inside of you, then place a pillow under your bum/hips and stay in that position for at least half and hour to allow the sperm to have the best prospects of fertilization. Also track your ovulation, so you know which dates are best.
DeleteNo person is entitled to know the private life of another. If a celebrity chooses to keep aspects of their life private that is their right to do so. Kudos that she shares this, but also kudos to the celeb who chooses to keep their person info person, both is OK and there no problem with either approach.
ReplyDeleteAnon. 15:22 pray please tell what is wrong with adoption?? You know we learn everyday I truly want to know from you or you commented based on Your STUPIDITY??
ReplyDeleteThat anonymous that is against ADOPTION is quite daft , stupid and myopic .
ReplyDeleteYou know nothing .
Our last born is adopted . I love him more than my biological siblings .
He is the light of my world and guess what ?? he knows he is adopted and he does not care .
Don't mind that yeye anonymous. Myopic narrow minded human being. Mschew
DeleteThat anon is actually right oh , an adopted child is not linked to biological in anyway , not from you or your your husband , I understand that anon,s point of view , it is a choice , some adopted kids when they find out , they feel bad .
Delete19.49 you are the same anon, your terrible use of space and comma has given you away. Go and take a seat abeg. Insensitive human being.
Delete19:49,the way you guys conclude about same person writing different comments is funny though.i am not the same annonymous as who you are talking about but i learnt something as i am about to do my IVF and truth be told that anonymous is right to an extent..
DeleteLiar liar
DeleteMum of adopted twins , i repeat, that you have a child in your uterus means you have a child , same placenta , same breastfeeding, better than adoption ,adopted kids even find out that they are adopted and not biological so distance themselves inost cases that i have seen , if you breast feed a child , carry her for months , there is a strong bond and link, better than adoption .
DeleteI put it to you that you are the SAME ANON as 16.43 up there. Just stop denying and learn to have some human feeling. It's not that hard to do so.
Congratulations again Stephanie
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Stephanie.
ReplyDeleteThe most important thing is fulfillment of destiny for your child.
I actually took my precious time to go through all the comments here and I'm wondering : "are some Nigerians this daft??" if you conceived through IVF (and it's your egg and your husband's sperm), you do realize it is your "Biological" child right??? what's with all the I'm proud of her BS... mumu people everywhere
ReplyDeleteCongrats Stephanie,i have learnt somethings on this post too .
ReplyDeleteYou owe no one an explanation
ReplyDeleteI would have opted for ivf too but money is the problem, ttc can drain one financially
ReplyDeleteIvf only has a 25% success rate, so you could spend out all you have and still end up empty handed. Change your diet and if you are underweight or overweight work on that. There are foods that increase fertility for both men and women. Lots of prayer and sometimes just forget about it. A lot of ppl got pregnant when they stopped thinking about it and just got on with their lives.
DeletePlease where can one get the ivf done
ReplyDeleteLol @ fell pregnant
ReplyDeleteStella, Stella... sub!