Everyone is allegedly at home and bored so i have decided to bring back the couch conversations for every day if possible......
Today's own should be interesting! *wink*
If you are new on this Blog,welcome to the Couch Conversation....
Why do guys ask a lady out the first day they meet her and expect her to say Yes?
Why do some men even try to Initiate intimacy the first day and expect her to say Yes?
Ladies what is your mindset on this kind of behaviour?
I dont care if he married you after making out on the first day that you met him,I think it is wrong and a lot of babes may have lost their lives or gotten what they did not bargain for by saying yes.....
What if he is sick?what if he is a spirit or even looking to you you for ritual purposes?
Saying YES the first time is wrong!
what do you think?
I will talk about saying yes the day he proposed. Had met him (through the Lord) six years earlier and known him for 3 years +. so when he popped the question, I didn't see any need to
ReplyDeletepretend, just said yes some minutes after. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
But the other one of saying "yes" (to spreading legs), I have an ajuju n'ese okwu o.
The (Naija) sisis that drag in and supply forks, did the dude ask her is
forks are available?
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The rate at which scroll pass your comments eeehhh! I still don’t believe you are a woman.
DeleteYou missed the point completely. And the Lord did not introduce you to him. You met a man and after sometime he proposed and you accepted. Like regular folks.
Delete@Too blessed
DeleteI do not need your approval to be a true Nigerian Sisi (not the other one 😊)
The (Pharisee) rate at which you read my comments (to shoot arrows eh 😊😊😊)
I still do not believe you are scrolling pass (sic.)
😂😂😂😂
I have never ever read your comment to the end. Kai!
Delete@13:43
DeleteSo you even want to manage/manipulate my relationships; with my Lord and my DH?
I chose to talk about what I want and not what you want; do you have any problem
with that one?
You ndi uta will never stop me from narrating my experiences on this blog. 😊😊😊
If you do not have a relationship with Jesus, I do. Some others here do too.
@Kokolet
DeleteSo did you read it to the end today? If not, why not? 😊😊
Two ajujus.
You better go and eat instead of being a starving busybody, gossip and pretender in the name of fasting. The way you think is so rotten and godless that even Pharisees are much better.
DeleteYou are far worse than anyone you come here to gossip about. This is why prostitites recognized and accepted Jesus but holy-weje holier than thou pretenders like yourself asked for him to be crucified.
Jesus said to pray in secret and don't announce that you are fasting but since heaven does not even have you on their register, you rushed here to announce so as to get your 2 minutes of relevance. Go and speak to God in heaven with the lewd words you use here and leave people the hell alone. Every topic on this blog is titled. If they are not holy enough for you, stick to the educational/motivational ones which conspicuously, you never comment on because it is not about your favourite obsession-other people's sex lives. Troublesome voyeurist.
I firmly believe ANG is a very frustrated woman whose husband cheats on her but she can't leave or a very frustrated man who never got the woman he wanted
DeleteYour comments reeks of hypocrisy,I hardly read it to the end.
DeleteWawu!
DeleteArrow shooters full ground today. They claim to have even deleted my name from heaven's register? 😱😱
I won't defend myself from all your arrows unu anugo?
You do not know me in person, not even by a blog ID, and that is why you can never reward me or give me
any relevant be it two minute or 2 hours. So do not fret, I won't get a blog ID okay? 😊😊
And that 15:41 said I shout leave people in hell alone? 😱😱
But wait o, did I even talk about fasting in this very comment?
Okwa sincere ajuju o. Ndi uta must shoot, arrow shooting is their occupation 😂😂😂😂
Mama ANG 😘😘😘
DeleteI always find joy reading your comments 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
Anons 15:14 & 17:03, you guys read her like a book and took her to the cleaners 😂😂😂. She’s always so quick to portray a religious and perfect life while everyone else is sinner. I truly hope she makes heaven, if not, SHAME.
Deletereal ajuju n'ese okwu 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteWhether yes instantly or constantly, all are fornicating. All are daring God, sinning against their bodies and standing under God's wrath.
ReplyDeleteBathe a pig, Paint a pig, it is still a pig.
If I like the dick I chop am o. Nobody knows what will happen next min so enjoy ysself biko.
DeleteDon't sound like that sis except you aren't a believer and u don't believe there's another eternal life after death. Nobody truly knows what will happen the next min and that's why u should be careful because u truly don't know what will happen after 'chopping the dick'. Flee from lust please and flee totally from sin
Delete@13:24
DeleteAt least I can tell you what will happen when you die, as a "chopper of any dick you like":
Rev. 21:8 8 But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, THE SEXUALLY IMMORAL, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”
Me, I dunno. To each his own.
ReplyDeleteI don't usually say yes when a guy asks me out the first time..Dats a red flag already..I prefer knowing you more and with time if we click, then its gonna a YES!!
DeleteHubby asked me out the first day we met. He told me he knew I will be his wife ,from the first day he set eyes on me. I just laughed it off. This is 12 years and four lovely kids after.
ReplyDelete@Yollar
DeleteDid you know that you are his wife?
I think I know you, you stay in Abuja?
DeleteYawns. Last last, somethings can't be predicted. Whatever works for A might not work for B and vice versa. Honestly life isn't A,B,C. Just keep doing what works for you as an individual.
ReplyDeleteIf you decide to give your bodies to iniquity, be ready to receive the wages of iniquity.
ReplyDeleteEveryone should have a level of self control on first date
ReplyDeleteEveryone should have a level of self control on the first date.
ReplyDeleteit's common sense..when you first meet a lady, you get to know her at least before asking her out. And to the lady too it's common sense for her to tell the guy to hold on for them to get to know themselves at least for a while
ReplyDeleteTruth is that, it's not good asking or requesting a lady to say yes on a first date. Love is sweet when it flow with time and both parties start catching interest for each other.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, you don't even ask a lady for a relationship but discovered that you both are already dating. A lady we were once close and sometimes gist, one day called me baby when we were speaking on phone. I guess our closeness already makes her feel that way. You don't need to say or ask a woman before she knows you wants her. Actions most times is potent.
Osi gini?(what are you talking about?) She called you baby, and for your mind E dey totori you abi?but for your mind she no fit be your baby.
DeleteI'm glad na past tense sef.
I think it will be wise to clarify things and call it what it is,so everyone go know their stand ni.
NO ASSUMPTIONS
Adanne, you missed the point I am trying to make. I never said she's isn't fit rather you are the one saying so.
DeleteOh nwanne ndo
DeleteTeejay, don't mind Adanne jare. I understand you better cos it has happened to me as well (yeah I'm a lady) and yes we are still dating
DeleteI no get energy to type so make we leave matter for here..
DeleteIf a man asks me out the first time he sees me, if I like what I see, I accept him. Nothing wrong with saying yes the first time. Whatever works for you. 0eople meet once and they click for life. Some take longer time to get to know each other and they don't go far.
ReplyDeleteI'll go anonymous on this one
ReplyDeleteI didn't even ask my wife out. We were first friends and we gravitated gradually into loving each other. She knew my secrets, the girls I dated at each point and I knew hers too
My husband will probably have a similar story.
Deleteyou guys are not getting the question Stella asked. how do you feel when a man tries to be intimate with you the first time of hanging out with him simple...........for me its very annoying like you think i am cheap and if you had a sister would you want a man to treat her same way inukwa
ReplyDeleteHey boo, I just wanted to ask the ? Before I saw your comment...I was like is she talking about s#× or normal asking out.
DeleteSo since we dont know, SDK biko clarify, that might change our comments.
Tankuo
Na wa. Is that your definition of cheap?
DeleteYou can skip being intimate on the first day and still be Hella cheap.
How old are you beebumble?
DeleteIt is annoying to me too bumblebee. The anon asking how old she is, what has her age got to do with how she feels? Maybe you go around asking ladies you date the first time around for sex and it works for you. Such nauseats me. Comman ask me my age.
Delete18:26 I'm the anon and I'm female. I asked her age because the way you lots think is amusing. So having sex on first date means you are cheap? That is so last season!
DeleteWait a minute...I am glad we are all entitled to our opinions. I dont think there's anything wrong in asking a lady out on the first day. It all depends on the atmosphere, you never know, they might have clicked instantly and the guy decides to try his luck, and boom!it worked.
ReplyDeletePlease let's not jump into conclusions without out facts or reason or something.
Thanks .. So much sense in one comment.
DeleteThanks Don
DeleteAsking out is still ok, but asking for sex is hella not. And yes it happens.
DeleteWetin u know u wan chop, why u come dey postpone am to 2nd, 3rd date/meeting... abeg submit d somtin on the first date jor
ReplyDeleteLol, but you will be the one arguing in your mind and even to your friends how cheap and easy she is. I have even read here on this blog, some of you guys coming to report to us what you people did on your first date after SnM, then abusing all female Bvs afterwards. Make una kwantinu.
DeleteThe first day I met my husband,I heard a voice say.. "that's your husband" and I told my flat mate,she didn't take me serious ,infact we both laughed and laughed over it.
ReplyDeleteFast forward to 2 weeks later , he asked me out and I said Yes. We've been married for 9years now.
To God be the Glory.
Wow! Nice,may God continue to bless your union.
DeleteI love this. May your union grow stronger.
DeleteWell it isn't right or wrong Stella, saying yes on the first day he asked you out or saying it after a year does not guarantee a successful relationship Or having sex the first time or on your wedding night guarantee "happily ever after". They is no book RULE to this things, I believe that you should always go for what you want and believed in, if it works out then you are lucky but if it doesn't you try again! Stella you mentioned that there is a possibility of you being use for rituals etc if you say yes immediately... Well even those that have been in a relationship for years still get used by their lovers, spouse. What will happen will happen no matter how HARD you play to get or how EASY you play to get.If you didn't say yes to him the first time he asked you out no problem but don't let it be because it is the "FIRST" time! It doesn't guarantee ANYTHING! 👯
ReplyDeleteOnce you say no, I'm not asking you for the second time.
ReplyDeleteOn to the next person.
No time..
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DeleteAnd you feel they said no and didn't mean it?
DeleteIf you're not a kid, you don't need to say no, when you don't mean it.
DeleteI take no as no.
If you feel being intimate with a guy on the first date is cool, then wait until your 18 years old daughter tells you some day that she met a boy that same day and had sex with him 👌
ReplyDeleteOn our first date my hubby proposed.
ReplyDeleteI thought he was joking.
He trailed me home and told my parents they would see him again.
To cut the long story short,
I could not have asked for a better man.
His good sides overahadows his flaws.
That same year we did intro,court,traditional and white wedding.
It's been 7 years plus now.
Ehnnn mad ooo
DeleteHaving sex with a person you just met is wrong! I am not a moral instructor but sex is powerful and many just think its only for pleasure. Many lives have been ruined due to sex. Men and women no longer respect their bodies and even go as far as having several body counts just because they wanna explore. We call ourselves believers and ignore this part of the Bible. The old testament warns about fornication and the new testament also warns. Why then do we choose to ignore that part esp as youths just because of short time enjoyment? Remember, when the devil pushes u into something, its always sweet in the beginning but the end part is deadly. May our case not be 'had I know'. Dedicate your life to Jesus today and he will accept u no matter how bad your past is!
ReplyDeleteI think it's only a prostitute that will have sex with a man she meets for the first time.
ReplyDeleteNo decent, well brought up lady would try such nonsense.
Osi decent and well brought up lady? You will shocked to hear...
DeleteYinmu. Be there decieving yourself. Sex is nothing.
Deletethose who haven't sent in their WNB and MP should do so too as we'll be staying home
ReplyDeleteI can't try it oh. I feel it's better a lady keep herself till marriage. I am not a moral instructor or spirikoko. But sex is powerful. It binds two souls together. D reason y I don't feel broken in my past relationships is dat I never had sex with them. If I have sex chain E go pain me die. The dangers of pre marital sex outweigh it advantages. Sex is just like USB chord or flash drive. One's glory can be taken away through dat.
ReplyDeleteGbenshing on the first date is a no no for me. Like Stella said ,it is very risky.you dont know the kind of person,disease or spirit/ curse the person was carrying about.
ReplyDeleteStella for me, the best relationship I have is my present one and I said yes to dating him 3 months after he asked me out. Sleeping with him was another extra months and I did it cause he never tried to force me...we traveled to Paris do it for the first time together because he said he waited for long and he wanted us to remember it forever. Lol we still talk about it till today. Till tomorrow this guy respects me a lot. Infact I never imagined I could get so lucky again.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand my ex...I said yes to him 1 week after he asked me out, the relationship wasn’t so great. So I think it’s good for a girl to decline at first o. Whether it’s sex or normal asking out. It’s not about doing shakara...know about this person you are saying yes to.
Stella for me, the best relationship I have is my present one and I said yes to dating him 3 months after he asked me out. Sleeping with him was another extra months and I did it cause he never tried to force me...we traveled to Paris do it for the first time together because he said he waited for long and he wanted us to remember it forever. Lol we still talk about it till today. Till tomorrow this guy respects me a lot. Infact I never imagined I could get so lucky again.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand my ex...I said yes to him 1 week after he asked me out, the relationship wasn’t so great. So I think it’s good for a girl to decline at first o. Whether it’s sex or normal asking out. It’s not about doing shakara...know about this person you are saying yes to.
Sex on a first date???
ReplyDeleteAs far as it affects a future relationship between a couple, it doesn’t make any difference whether they have sex on the first date or not. There are some men who are encouraged and others turned off by such an early relationship.
In my opinion, whether sex on the first date is considered proper or acceptable depends on the age of the people involved.
If she's 17- or 18-year-old and willing to have sex on the first date with me, I would probably be worried and might see her as being promiscuous.
In her mid-twenties having sex on the first date might lead me to think she was promiscuous,others not.
In her thirties and has sex with me on the first date, I'll likely think her sleeping with me meant that she was attracted to him, not that she was inclined in general to sleep casually with anyone.
And if she's in her forties or older, she needs not worry about her reputation or the unfavorable judgment of their partners if she chooses to go to bed with me on the first date. By that age, sex has become more casual and more acceptable.
So it depends the stage she is in her life.
Your analysis is the dumbest thing I have ever read.
DeleteAsking out the first time you meet, respond however you feel, its to start a relationship, no biggie if it doesn't work, nice if it does.
ReplyDeleteSex on the fist date, HELL NO!!!, If you will marry anyway it turns out, then what's the wisdom to take that kind of risk as a lady? Risk of STD, kidnap,rape,ritual killing, sex tape etc.
Even well known people surprise and betray one, please don't give avenue for strangers to do so as well because of lack of self control, being hip or modern or whatever.
I ask you out and you say No, I move on. Nothing is that important. I must have noticed you to decide that you are worth my time. I will never invite a lady to my place unless I know her. Many of these ladies steal or are informants to criminals. Sex? I got my lotion and I do sleep in peace. Men Going Their Own Way! MGTOW rules. I will join them soon. Why go through all the hassle just to stick a peepee in a whole bc of societal pressure? No woman is worth such effort. Men be wise.
ReplyDeleteMen still ask ladies out? I am shocked. Trouble dey sleep. Nyanga go wake am.
ReplyDelete