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Good day bvs, please i need your opinions.
Good day bvs, please i need your opinions.
There is this yoruba guy that is seriously asking me out, he is talking marriage. I like him but I'm just scared.I have heard countless stories of how yoruba people treat their in laws especially when you are not yoruba. I'm from delta state.The Yorubas are mostly outspoken,they like active and outspoken people(my observation) but I'm kinda quiet and shy.
Non yoruba women married to yoruba men ,please tell me your experiences.I dont want to enter one chance.Thanks
*Over to those who know something about Yoruba in Laws....
here to read comments.
ReplyDeleteMy sister married a yoruba man and she is doing fine.
DeleteI believe yorubas value respect to the core, just be yourself and be respectful.
The educator ones are very loving and accommodating.
Yoruba in laws only try nonsense when you are a Yoruba wife or seem like a pushover. Yoruba culture encourages women to be doormat and pushover . It's all manipulation but if you're not yoruba wife they will be careful how they tread with you. Also if you're yoruba wife and they see they cannot take you for a ride they will ease off you. Funny enough yoruba women have that same fear when it comes to igbo inlaws
DeleteNot all yoruba's are like that.
DeleteThey love respect.
Give him a chance first before you judge.
Don't judge when you're standing on the fence, you wont see clearly.
My dear we both seem to be in the same watsapp group. I have phobia for them becos I believe they dnt value marriage like the igbo do. My perception thou. But I have seen alot of yoruba couple! That their marriage is beautiful. My sister if u must marry yoruba!
Delete1. You must respect everyone in his family, even the baby u go kneel down greet.
2. Abeg marry a genuine Christian one! My friend did and her union is beautiful .
3. Have your own money.
4. Marry the one that loves u and hardworking one. Not Yahoo or omota..
If not! Ready to hawk bread feed ur children.
Pls if he is not polished dont enter o
Deleteanon 17:22 the fact yoruba ladies have the same issues with igbo inlaws means you're not using your head...because the issue is not peculiar to yoruba people alone
DeleteYou can start a relationship with him but take it slow.
DeleteDon't let anyone rush you into marriage whether Igbo, yoruba or Hausa.
Whilst dating him, you will see traits of someone tied to his mum's apron. It is not hard to spot one.
If they are not too exposed, brace up. It won't be a smooth ride.
But trust me, this issue is not peculiar to a particular tribe, pray for yours, seek God's face and shine your eyes.
A Yoruba guy, very good friend of mine chased this Igbo girl for two years and finally got her. The moment he traveled home and came back, he changed. Later got to know that his mother told him that he can't marry "Omo Igbo". This guy did not even have the courtesy of telling this girl what happened; that they got him a wife while he was home.
ReplyDeleteHe simply came and packed his belongings and left the town he has lived for over a decade.
One thing I know for sure is that Yoruba guys are tied to their mother's apron strings. Whatever she tells them is what they do. If you have a good MIL, good for you. But if you harvest a bad one, chop alone o.
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You're very silly with your submission bout Yoruba men .
DeleteWhy not keep shut and read if you don't know anything or have good things to say.
Because one of your stupid friend told you a story, you think you can come online to generalized ?
Ode oshi.
What happened to the lady? Sad...
Delete@Don
DeletePerhaps you are Yoruba and decided to take this personal, which is not necessary.
Please nobody told me a story, it was what I witnessed. Suck it up.
Did you read the last line there about the good and bad?
Don you have showed on this blog that u are nasty.just shut up ur mouth. U cnt be on this blog and be attacking everyone. Violent man.
DeleteAnon 15:22; this has nothing to do with tribes. I have come across Igbo guys that are also yes boys to their parents.
DeleteDear poster, it depends on the family and the boy's attitude. If your guy is crazy about you there's is nothing he won't do to make you comfortable.
People saying Yoruba's are fetish, which tribe is not not into jazz abi which one does not cheat. It all depends on the individual abeg
I agree with you anon 15:22
DeleteDo you know that many Igbo and Hausa men also turn down relationships and end Engagements because their families disapprove? This is why Stella has stories to post everyday- you look at a situation and see labels and not substance.
DeleteThe men who do this ( and women as well) are not yet mature and don't know that good things have a cost. Their problem is not their tribe but their own cowardice when it comes to personal happiness- no one would walk away from a billion dollars of honest cash because Daddy and Mummy said so. Learn lessons from occurrences around you and not just the gist. That way you will actually garner wisdom from life and not end up a local champion with tentacles limited to your family house in the village. Clifford Orji's problem was not being Igbo but his cannibalism. Anini's problem was not his hometown but his actions. Shekau is not a killer because he is from Maiduguri and Malala is not an icon because of her gender or country.
In the story you narrated, believe me, you are more like the boy's mother because you judge books by the cover.
Don don't mind some yeye Igbos here that wish this blog is just about them and wish they can silence us here. Àwọn amukun meko.
DeleteYour friend couldn't keep a man because of her caustic tongue and rude behaviour, likely a nag. Sebi that is what you would have said If it was another person's story?
DeleteYes Yoruba sees it as a taboo to disobey your parents reason why some of their men take whatever their parents say. If man parents no want you to marry their pikin, pls jakpa
DeleteY-demons.
ReplyDeleteThat name is not a fluke.
The Nollywood people did not act it in a movie to make jokes.
Yoruba men spray kids everywhere like Davido, like Whizkid, like any of them you know. They don't care. 😏😏😏
ReplyDeleteLike Flavour abi🙄
DeleteAnother oponu spotted.
DeleteAnd tuface?
DeleteExactly like tu face 🙄
DeleteLol like 2face too
Deletespray kids 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteKids have become perfume or insecticide?
Stella, this your blog is a drama zone.
This must mean Ubi Franklin is Yoruba. Hmm... Never knew.
DeleteOponu afo fún gbé mú. Your examples of Yoruba men you mentioned even when you clearly know there are other celebrities sitting on the same table from other tribes shows how daft you are and the reason all you do is to marginalization.
DeleteFetish.
ReplyDeleteAnd other tribes are not? Swerve abeg make I read sensible comments.
DeleteYet you girls will keep marrying them. abi?
DeleteMarriage no hungry you o 🚶♂️🚶♂️🚶♂️🚶♂️
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteI mean this is just ridiculous
Don't ridicule the Poster. Many relationships have been broken because of tribalism so her fears are justified
DeleteHer fears are very justified. Just because you want to get married doesn’t mean you must marry the first man that asks you. This is why some of you end of divorced in a couple of years.
DeleteAunty you are in trouble today..
ReplyDeletePeople are different, we have bad people in every tribe and state.
If your gut is playing games with you then listen to it.
Look before you leap,if you were from the East I would have asked you to weigh your options but since you from South and Delta you got nothing to loose,you guys have similar tradition,good luck
ReplyDeleteDelta similar tradition with Yoruba? Please explain.
DeleteAmazon baroness please don't talk our of ignorance how does delta and Yoruba have similar tradition?
DeletePoster everything depends on the family, most tribes have the good,the bad and the ugly so it's not about tribe it's about the individual and his family members. Good luck.
Amazon stop displaying your ignorance in public
DeleteMadam poster if u are not yoruba. Please I beg you stay away from them. Especially if you no hear yoruba or sabi eye service matter. You own is finished. You go seat with them them go gossip you for your presence. My sister look very well o. Them no they value woman. They sleep with their wife friends and spread children home and abroad without care.
DeleteSee if anyone insult me
Thunder go strike ur yash. My opinion no concern you.
You are on point. My friends are Yoruba and they told me the same thing about their own people... (gossiping about you right in your presence and their men having kids with different women outside wedlock).
DeleteThat's why my friends prefer to be friends with people from other tribes.
finally it's time for sdk women to display their foolishness and bigotry.
Deleteif you've ever been jilted by a yoruba man (or you personally know anyone who has) this is the chance to vent your bitterness, so it does not kill your sour, brainless ass
you are asking the erong question because we cannot tell you how his inlaw will be. do you have a man that will fight for you? you better get to know him and his family before you enter
ReplyDeleteExactly coz families differ
DeleteStop asking silly questions. You listen to side talks too much. If you love him and want to be with him, study him and his family, make up your mind if you love them and want to be a part of them. If you don't want to, take a walk.
ReplyDeleteThere are no manuals to these things. Always have this belief that yours would be different. Some of you have crucified tribes based of hearsay and it's not nice.
Sluttychic.
I mean!!!!
DeleteThe generalization here is just annoying.
How does he treat you , from how he has spoken of his family what do you think, why not get to know him better and his family too rather than paying so much attention to hearsay,
My sister would have missed a wonderful man if she asked this same question .
You can imagine the silly question.
DeleteDon, cool down she has a right to ask. Its her question whether you think its silly or not.
DeleteFaraballe.
Look before you leap,if you were from the East I would have asked you to weigh your options but since you from South and Delta you got nothing to loose,you guys have similar tradition,good luck
ReplyDeleteSo someone from Asaba and Ogun have the same tradition. I guess you skipped your history class olodo..
DeleteJust be ready to be greeting and serving everyone, except if your husband is from a learned family, if not OYO.
ReplyDeleteYou people should stop all these lies!!! Serving everyone say wetin??
DeleteYou don't get and serve were you come from? When the post of overbearing in-laws came up some weeks ago, was it not women married to all tribes that were complaining? This is why the cycle continues- the oppressed women are not saints but heartless oppressors in waiting. They also think less of fellow human beings then ask the God who created those people they dismiss for help. Live with, buy and sell and work with only the people from your village and let's see how many people in this world will succeed. Your type looked at Jesus and said what good can come from Nazareth forgetting that as Jews, the Romans did not see them as any better than dirt.
DeleteIf we check now, you left your utopia to come to Lagos and are praying to live with gays in Canada yet, you have nothing good to say about people God has used to make your life better. And to think this is a blog where I see Jesus this, God that every five minutes. So because a man your God decreed should be from somewhere else toasted you, you are calling yourself a Deltan- did the tribes in Delta state not use to enslave and war against each other? But because Oyinbo has taught you a new word, you've seen an outsider? Some will say they are Delta-igbo- which Delta? You speak the same Language yet turn your nose up at your brother? Ijebu and Ijesa too would be murmuring as if there is not already ijebujesa and they are thriving. Honestly, stop with the shallow-mindedness. You are a woman. You are black. You are Nigerian. You should know it doesn't favour you.
What a stupid assumption. How many of your friends or family ad the experience you discribed up there ?
DeletePlease don't fall into the trap of stereotype. Just be good, be yourself. Once you are a good person, it will shine out. Don't go into marriage with other people's opinion. We are different and handle challenges and situations differently. They will advise you based on their experiences. If in doubt ask God. He will give you the perfect answer.
ReplyDeleteI can't agree less. Good opinion.
DeleteI don't understand how people feel comfortable making generalizations about an entire race or tribe.
ReplyDeleteSurely, you realize that different backgrounds, personalities will account for different experiences.
Is it all marriages between people of the same tribe that thrives? Do you really think every Deltan/Yoruba thinks and acts the same? Yours is an extremely unreasonable way to thinking. Please, broaden your horizons.
shut up we generalize because it happens with a majority. i was born in the west, am from the middle belt and married a deltan cos i hated the eye service of yorubas despite living in lagos since the 80s. too lousy for me sorry. then all that boda bullshit, person wey i senior i go dey call broda cos i married your older brother...dia fada..then whats with the bleachy bleachy yoruba girls like to do? married woman no go siddon for husband house. go to london and see all those typical gboko gboko yoruba women, insults, men snatching matters, daleru daleru, gossip.abeg cant type jo
DeleteThis mayb true but every family is different. Judge character not tribe. Look at how the families act towards u or existing in laws. That should tell u what to expect
ReplyDeletePoster don't make the mistake of jumping into hasty conclusions.
ReplyDeleteForget about the tribe first and foremost, go in with a plain mind. Open your eyes and be very observant, how do they treat You, if there are older women married into the family, how are They treated?
Every family is different, therefore know this one for yourself.
But first, like I said do away with all those bias you typed up there!!
My dear, follow your heart, just be sure you are cool with their culture and traditions, ask enough questions o, get to know the dos and donts, if it suits you, go ahead, if it doesn't, find your square root Nne.
ReplyDeleteWhich heart? the heart wey una don confuse already.
DeleteWho be the 'una', abeg park well jorr, is there anything confusing in my comment,abi u no Sabi read.
DeleteI'm igbo and I have a lot of yoruba wonderful friends, people I call my second family,so what the issue here.
Poster I repeat follow your heart, na you dey in love, not us.
Aunty were nwayo, e never reach to "PACK" well.
DeleteIt is PARK and not PACK. You people will be forming correction on top of your errors.
DeleteSweetie don't mind these bv's, you be the judge. If he seems like what you like then go for it, keep an open mind. Yes it's a stereotype that is mostly true but who news if he's the 1%. If he breaks your heart you'll be hurt but you'll be more hurt for not giving love a chance and the memories of what ifs will hunt you forever.
ReplyDeleteRegard
ReplyDeleteRespect is key in yoruba land.
Don't start what you cannot start....e.g. washing clothes for in-laws, cooking, etc.
No pass boundary oooo e.g. chuk mouth for family matter.
Importantly, no manual for marriage. Is your husband a MAN and your friend???
Hope the marriage talk is not to get you to lower your guard and have access to your pant. Men these days know talking marriage with some girls will make her fall yakata.
ReplyDelete😊🤣🤣🤣 I dey tell you. And Nigeria ladies no dey take ear hear marriage.
DeleteMaybe if the man still collects food money from his mom.Gone are those days when Yoruba parents dictate who their sons marry.yoruba men are wiser now hence the diversity of their spouses.
ReplyDeleteA lot depends on the kind of husband he'll be. Most men like to side with their family. Then get to meet them and draw your own conclusions. I believe, if you're not going to be living in the family house you should be fine.
ReplyDeletePoster, I am an igbo woman married to a yoruba man for over 5 years.
ReplyDeleteFor the first one year, my dad in law called me consistently to ensure his son was treating me right.
Till now, if I travel to the family house to visit them, na for parlour I dey cross leg as they don't let me enter kitchen to cook.
I no sabi pound yam, they just laugh it off as I call myself lazy before they do. I don't even call, when they do, na prayers dem dey pray for me and the family.
I don't attend occasions cos of the nature of my job and that of my husband's.
My in laws love me, no quarrels, no issues.
Even in my office, I am dotted as the yoruba wife.
My dear, just do you and let God.
I got what I wanted.
God bless your home. .
DeleteIn Jesus name amen.
DeleteThanks DON
First positive comment EVER from Don. This topic really pained him haha.
DeleteThat is a correct family. We call ourselves the P and P family. Na prayer and presents galore for our Igbo sis in love. I hardly see her even when she and the kids comes to stay. We just put them up in our guest house and we just send food and all sorts to them. Who has time to be monitoring anybody. All this serving and what not, why should she serve when we have caterers? She doesnt have to do anything she doesnt want to. Our brother is happy and they are thriving as a family. That is more than enough for us.
DeleteGod bless your home...Don her marriage is a few good one...your anger or her story will not change some realities. most Yoruba men are very promiscuous and families very interfering
DeleteJust don't live with the guy's family, u will be fine
ReplyDeleteYou will be the typical nightmare of a wife- the home will be hot and uncomfortable because you heard something and the guy will perpetually be a suspect. Nothing he does will satisfy you because you are moved not by what you see and observe but what you heard or your innermost fears of inadequacy. If we check now, the Daddy of your church or the one you type "amen" to his posts is also Yoruba.
ReplyDeleteUse your own eyes to look and observe the guy's character and the characteristics of his nuclear family- marrying into a Yoruba family does not automatically make you an in-law of the Ooni. If you want to listen to stories, please leave this poor man. Your marriage is not going to succeed or fail because of where you are from or your religion. Tonto dike is from a particular part of Nigeria and I don't use that yardstick to qualify everyone from that place. Her twin or ex is also from a place within Nigeria and I don't see him when I see Adeboye.
With the mindset you have, you will make the guy keep apologizing for the way God made him then one day, he will get fed up and act the way you've always believed him to be. Or he no go just send you again. James Ibori is from your area and the way he treated his first wife and now flaunting the one that did not go to jail to slight the women he is still dating does not mean we should conclude everyone is a particular way.
How did you gather your data to conclude that Yorubas are largely active and outspoken? Let me humour you and say it is true. Did he not see those ones before pestering you? Aren't there outspoken and active women in your own family and community who are happily married? Are you even considering other things like how many kids, career, where you'd live, genotype, finances ( I don't want to hear 10k tales again), religious convictions, domestic compatibility, etc? All you are about is tribe? That's all you've seen? Have you even bothered to know this guy or you are just desperate for a ring? Then they would say Buhari is tribalist- is it not people like you that voted for him? How many of the marriage chronicles here are about where a person is from and how many are about character and action? Which tribe has not produced wicked MILs or do Patience Ozokwor' usual screen characters have Yoruba names? Are they not written by Igbos and made for the Asaba market?
If your evidence is tales and gist but you have tendered nothing as to what you yourself have seen about him, please leave this man to find a woman that is objective and not an armchair statistician.
See, this post reminds me of the one of yesterday where self esteem is absent and fear is the order of the day. Your outlook is bleak and your thinking is pessimistic. Fix yourself so you are not given off for free to a blind cousin.
I have a lot of Yoruba-igbo marriages on both sides of my family and in fact, we are celebrating my in-laws birthday today so this is the last thing I need- bigotry and hate.
Till your chronicle about how someone said something racist to you on a bus and how a particular race is racist, goodbye.
Tell em!
DeleteFirst of all you need to free your mind from these stereotypical mentality .
ReplyDeletePeople are different. I have many Yoruba guys as friends and some of them are married to other tribes and have wonderful marriages. It's not a general thing abeg. Every tribe has the good and the bad
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ReplyDeleteNote the following:
No tribe is good; only few human beings are good in the entire world.
People from same family may look alike but they have different attributes.
When it comes to marriage, do not let people deceive you; it is all about You and Your Husband, other elements are just about how social and intelligent you are.
If you ask Igbo people about Hausa, they will say Hausa people are bad. If you ask Igbo people about Calabar, they will say Calabar people (Efik) are bad fetish. Yet among Igbo people, Imo dont want to marry Anambra, other states call Ebonyi people, village people, etc.
Just follow your mind and be a good person: be respectful, social, nice, love your man, love your in law, etc.
Yoruba people are very good and very accommodating, most especially the Christian and educated ones.
My dear, even the Muslim ones. Most of the ones in the market and the neighbors to most immigrants to Lagos are Muslims. This is a tribe where people are of different faiths but have NEVER recorded one case of religious clashes. BabaTunde Fashola is a Muslim but see how people love him. Gbajabiamila is a Muslim and many don't even know. Soyinka is an atheist and it doesn't affect how he has been treated. Even if you are doing traditional rites, they just gave their own religion and will still greet you and be free towards you. If you like, be evangelizing, they will tell you they still have your pamphlet from last week and ask you were the other other sister that tied scarf is. Every tribe and creed has found a home in all states were Yoruba are a majority. If you still see them and think any less, the burden is on you. Chronicles poster, have you heard?
DeleteYou started with no tribe is good, only few human beings are. Then you went ahead to slag off Igbos, and conclude Yoruba people are very good.
DeleteVery confused hypocritical comment.
Yoruba guys that can introduce 10 women to their family and they will call all the women , our wife(iyawo).do u think they call them demons for nothing.
ReplyDeleteI'm very sure you must have dated plenty of Yoruba guys for you to know this. Well done ma
DeleteMind you this happens everywhere okay? Don't thank me please
You don't sound like someone that wants to marry, so you want to based your judgement on hearsay ?
ReplyDeleteIf you're in doubht, why not ask God. Bible said in all your gettings, get knowledge but you are just shallow and I hope you don't end up misarable the way you're going about your life.
Nawa o. This wicked guy quotes bible too?
Delete*getting
Delete*miserable
My bestfriend from imo state married a Yoruba guy, 15yrs and still counting 👇 they are still happily married.
ReplyDeleteI married a Yoruba man,I'm from Edo state. As long as your husband isn't a mummy's boy you are good. His mum loves me, my husband loves and respect me. How does he treat you? I've never washed for my mil. My mil washes her cloth herself and i tell her mummy well done. I love my husband's mum. I only knelt down completely to greet her the first time I met her. I don't kneel to greet her anymore, I hug her instead. People are different poster, meet his people while you put your eyes down. Be very observant, most importantly bad people are every where. All the best. #Spotremover#
ReplyDeleteNice one. That is it. Check how they treat you. That will speak alot.
DeletePoster it dosnt matter , pls put it all in ur prayers and all will be well . As far as the guy is responsible, focused , from a good home and God fearing ..I’m a Yoruba woman and my Big bro got married to Igbo , we love her instantly , despite the fact that she couldn’t conceive early , we drew her even closer to us and showed her real love , God showed up few years after n gave them beautiful kids, they are happily married .... so pls relax and let God take the Wheel, everything is gonna be fine !!
ReplyDeleteMy dear,it is the man involved that matters! Even if his people don't like you for whatever silly reason, as long as your man has got your back, screw whatever anyone else thinks of you.
ReplyDeleteI'm a Deltan married to a yoruba man. When I was dating him, his mum on several occasions made it clear he would rather he was with someone else than me. Sometimes she would say I don't have respect cos I didn't kneel down to greet her. Other times she would say I'm too quiet and quiet ladies are dangerous blah blah. But hubby always made it clear that it was me or no one and if it came down to choosing between me and her, he would choose me in a heartbeat!
We've been married for 6 years now and so far, no issues. She has managed to dig out likeness abi na tolerance for me from deep within and we r cool.
Some of you BVs are funny o. All the poster requested was that non yoruba women married to yoruba men should tell her their experiences as she has heard negative things before and all you did was insult the Poster. For the Poster to even send this chronicle shows that she doesn't want to judge by just what she has heard. Even Stella didn't insult the Poster. Na wa for una o.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, i am not married. But i have observed inter-tribal marriages between yoruba men and other tribes and honestly, i can't think of one that is not living happily with his family. But bear in mind that this is based on those i know personally. Besides, i wouldn't turn down a man because he's yoruba. I don't mind marrying one when he is a good man from a good family.
Again, some yoruba ladies have even complained to me that their men treat ladies of other tribes better than they treat them. I've heard the same comment from Igbo and Akwa Ibom ladies about their tribesmen treating ladies from other tribes better, so go figure.
On a serious note, bad husbands/in-laws are not restricted to any tribe. I know horrible examples from other tribes apart from Yoruba. Just get to know the person and the kind of family he comes from, then make your decision. Don't chase away a man who may become an angel of a husband because of tribe.
Some BVs are pretending as if this tribe thing has not dealt with some women.
ReplyDeletePoster, ignore the comments insulting you. Your fears are valid.
https://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2018/07/mama-tee-series-marriage-and-tribal.html
It doesn't mean your case will be the same though. Just make sure he loves you and would put you first.
I am Ibo...married to Ibo....My in-laws are the worst ever.....go figure....no be by tribe poster.
ReplyDeleteNa ur luck be that. Yoruba worst
DeleteIgbo, not Ibo
Delete....i go say something after reading all the comments....
ReplyDeleteWho ask u
DeletePlease, people should marry from tribes that have similar culture to theirs or they understand their language and culture.
ReplyDeleteThere will be exceptions to the rule but the language barrier started at the tower of Babel.
Poster, do you speak or understand Yoruba language? Do you know their culture? Do you think you would easily adapt to Yoruba culture?
If yes, then get to know him and his family well. Pray before you decide.
Compare your background to his and how you were both raised? These factors are important in marriage.
Nigeria is largely a tribalistic society and that is still seen in every sphere of life till today. Culture influences the way parents raise their children and the values passed down.
There are things that are peculiar to every tribe.
I have some wonderful Yoruba friends to date. My cousins are half Yoruba and their mom and mine are very close.
However, I changed my mind about marrying a Yoruba because of unpleasant experiences both in relationships and on the job. The ones I related with proved that generalization right.
The same way, I made up my mind not to marry a 'typical' Igbo man because they are domineering and unromantic.
There are bad people in every tribe but the generalization holds true sometimes.
All tribes are accommodating. Using Lagos as an example that Yorubas are accommodating is not a good measure because Lagos was the capital of Nigeria for years and the seaport factor plays a role. There are not many Yorubas in other parts of Nigeria as you would find other tribes.
Abeg send the guy's contact to Stella make let's start from somewhere. Shebi you no serious ni
ReplyDeleteI am Igbo married to a yoruba man. Being married blissfully for 4yrs. My husband comes from a good christian home and they are educated to the core. Nobody get time for skoin skoin or gossip. Infact they pamper me too much. I believe there's good and bad in every tribe
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DeleteThanks
DeleteNne please follow your heart. I’m saying this because my elder sis married yoruba (Ekiti) and we are igbo. She was down for over a year and this blessed young man stood by her(physically, financially, emotionally). He loves my sister to bits. He doesn’t play with her same goes for his mother and some of his siblings except for 1 of the sisters because she just has her issues. She likes to control the family and their families, if you no gree kiss her ass, she will wanna turn everyone against you.
ReplyDeleteLong and short, if your mind wills it, please go ahead But if not, let him know and call it quits. What works for my sis might not work for you. All I know is, there are very few IGBO guys that will stand by her in such trying times. They’ve been married for 12 years now with a child.
There are evil people everywhere, same goes for good people. But one thing you need to have at the back of your mind is, wherever you find yourself, don’t start what you can’t finish. Don’t kiss ass and then stop. You will have issues. It’s not just a tribe thing but a human thing......words of my sister also.
Very few IGBO guys how??
DeleteMaybe the ones you know are badly behaved including your brothers and relatives?
We should avoid generalization and treat every case according to its merits. Poster, you are in the best position to advice yourself cos na u know these people. But there is a yoruba saying that "you can marry a bad man and still manage your marriage, but it's almost impossible with bad inlaws". So look before you leap.
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