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Hello Stella and hope you are doing good?

I am Miracle, a man of 35 years and I have a question. How do you stop interacting with your blood brother? How do you cut all ties? This is someone you went through a lot together since teenagers when father dad and your mother had to take care of five children. If not for mother I would treat him the way I treat strangers who threaten my peace.


I am the fourth born of five children while he is the third. We are three boys and two girls. When it was time to take jamb form my mother told me to be patient considering she was the only one shouldering our responsibilities. She said I needed to wait till our firstborn got admission and she did after writing jamb a few times. Then I had to wait till the second and the third got admission. 



All this happened till I was 27 which was the first time I wrote jamb for I had to wait till they all passed and got admitted first into the university before I could dream of sitting for jamb exam. We suffered while growing up with dad now imagine when he was no longer with us. So I promised to excel and be a focused young man.

This my elder brother who was just a year older than I am entered before me and I got admission the next year into the same school. It was agreed we picked the same school so we would have to bother about extra fees like house rent and feeding for we will be living together and managing.

Now the thing is the apartment he lived in was given to him by the son of a rich man in my big brother's church, it was a three-bedroom apartment well furnished by the guys dad who wanted his son to be comfortable while studying, however, he was lucky to get admitted to a school abroad so he left and gave us the apartment for free. The dad already paid 3 years in advance and the guy who travelled only lived a year with my brother in the house so he still had extra 2 years of free accommodation left.

It was in the second year I joined my brother and I saw him for whom he really was and still is.

Considering the background we came from you would expect he would be serious but it was the contrary. When I got there a girl was already cohabiting with him. I guess seeing he lived in a well-furnished apartment she couldn't wait to put all her burden on him.


I wouldn't have bothered if he was the only one being affected but the thing is, at that point our Mother was getting tired she had to do odd jobs to send us to school so it was expected we let her relax and try our little at the time to take care of her. After all, we were part-time students and we had little money to support and take the load off her.


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But he was paying her school fees, feeding her and living couples life while lying that our dad was an offshore worker. I would be the one to assist mother and buy her drugs foodstuffs and give her money for upkeep. That wasn't the only issue but I fed him and the girl too. When I cook with the intention to eat the leftovers the next day I would realise it's gone. Since he was feeding them both he was always broke and comes to take my money and provisions that I was managing. 


The girl used electricity anyhow and our meter reads excessively which I end up paying for what I didn't use for I am always at the library most times. The girl left to another school and immediately he got a new girl. Mind you at this point he was in huge debts because of her. So I had to step in and pay his school fees from my own fees and I lost out on a semester. As if that wasn't enough to repay me he brought in another girl within a few weeks and this one saw the house and thought we were well to do. She got pregnant immediately and moved in with us with her two younger siblings a boy and a girl.


Since it was a three-bedroom apartment she gave the third rooms to her sister while her younger brother slept in the living room. This was when I was starting to become averse to my brother without realising it. I am a very quiet person who doesn't like crowds and extremely private. But the people he brought were opposites. 


They played music that I couldn't read nor sleep, used electricity anyhow they liked, are the food I was managing, invite many friends over jesting and laughing out loud. Phew! I thought I was going to go crazy. Funniest thing I started feeding them all because his power couldn't contain them. He is the kind of person who believes no matter what situation you find yourself in your sibling must always have your back. God knows I tried and I was disliking him without even realising it. He would come to tell me his girlfriend is hungry... this and that. Excessive Complaints every day. Like I was the one who put him in that situation. 


I lost weight and stopped performing well at school that one of my lecturers called me to ask what was wrong. Considering that you can never see me have below 95 out of 100. But I was then having 40/100. But I managed to have a GPA of 5.0 in my first and second year though I was emotionally, mentally and physically drained. I just couldn't understand why he would put us in that situation. 


I am a man too and didn't believe in having a girlfriend till you have a good shoulder on your head. My books were my girlfriends and I wondered why he couldn't do the same. I was upset because that wasn't the right time for that. we have suffered and I expected him to be focused and do things at the right time.


She gave birth to TWINSSSSS. Yes, twins and the hospital bills he used his school fees again( mind you our elder ones were supporting with the little they could) I started helping out. I used my feeding money to buy clothes and baby food. then I knew no sleep anymore at night and no studying. 


Stella, my grade dropped. I thought I would graduate with a first-class but my brother said no way. Now the house rent was due for it was three years the former tenant our church friend paid for so it was left to is to pay. We rallied around and God came through but because he just delivered he said he needed to do a naming ceremony for his children. And he used half of the house rent money and part of his school fees. 


I wouldn't have had a problem with that but whenever that happens he ends up coming to meet me. I could no longer eat, sleep, study, all our money went to the girl and her family. Yes, he was also taking care of her younger ones living with us. These people have parents but they didn't care. So I had to miss another semester because he told me how would I be paying my school fees when his kid is starving.


 If they were my kids would I go to school and lay knowing fully well they were starving. He fought me verbally and nonverbally. He kept malice for long. One day he barged into my room and said his girlfriend and children are hungry. 


You could see he wanted to fight so I packed the money and gave him for peace to reign. It was like he didn't want me to have life because he was in debt.


I couldn't do anything with the little money I had, he was always watching me. If I had 200 naira I couldn't buy credit, his mood would change except he doesn't know. He even told me once" what are you doing with the money, you don't have any responsibilities" In all these, I still tried and made sure our mama monthly allowance wasn't stopped.



One more Thing I forgot to add Stella.

 I bought a small car for mama for business. Got her a driver for the car who pays her weekly he got to know about it and asks mama to give him the car while so he can sell it and venture into a different kind of business. I told her to refuse which she did and he has been a pain lately. If he was reliable I wouldn't mind but I know if she tried that he won't do anything with that money and won't support mama financially.Must you talk to your siblings simply because you are related by blood? I need answers. Thanks.




*Hmmmm this is serious!!!

you need to stand up like a man..Blood does not only mean someone born of the same parents,blood also means someone who has your good at heart...Please if you are still there,move out of that house and go and find yourself that you lost playing good two shoes to your brother....I am so pissed at his entitlement mentality behaviour...WTF