STAND ALONE NARRATIVE...
LOUD ANNOYING OBNOXIOUS ADULTEROUS COWORKER!
Dear SDK,
I have this annoying guy who sits next to me at work and Goodness is he annoying. He is supposed to be an IT guy for the company we share a building with (due to space maximization) but I swear all this man does is talk loudly on the company phone, sing and play gospel music extremely loudly.
It is not so much a bad thing that he plays gospel music, if he weren't such a goddamn hypocrite and morally decayed individual! this is a man who cheats on his wife and boasts about the dirty girls he is chatting with on Facebook (on the company desktop, mind you! )
He talks about them loudly and watches the pornographic material they send him, WHILE LISTENING TO GOSPEL MUSIC so yes it is a concern to my morals, having to hear that sh*t everyday!
He has this loud deep irritating annoying BOOMING voice that sounds like 10 loudspeakers combined so you can imagine the toll sitting next to such an irritant every day has taken on my mental health. He complains when he is called to report to his boss, which makes no sense cus half the time he is doing nothing. He also complains of his financial status but has sooo many excuses for why he can't do the exams to qualify for a better job, claiming he can't leave because his oga is his pastor, accusing the guy of not wanting his progress by refusing to grant him leave.
Oga forming loyalty to pastor but can't stay loyal to his marriage to save his life. Anyway I have some options on how to handle it
1. Damage his speakers/computer while he's not looking (BUT That is company property though)
2. Report him to his boss (This may mean the fool will lose his tiny source of income that is helping send his innocent kids to school and I don't trust his boss to be diplomatic and not reveal who reported to him. unless I can do it anonymously.
Using earphones is becoming too harsh for my ears. I just need some advice on how to handle loud obnoxious disgusting colleague that sits next to me without hurting myself or his innocent family. If anyone has any wise ideas it would be very much appreciated.
1. Damage his speakers/computer while he's not looking (BUT That is company property though)
2. Report him to his boss (This may mean the fool will lose his tiny source of income that is helping send his innocent kids to school and I don't trust his boss to be diplomatic and not reveal who reported to him. unless I can do it anonymously.
Using earphones is becoming too harsh for my ears. I just need some advice on how to handle loud obnoxious disgusting colleague that sits next to me without hurting myself or his innocent family. If anyone has any wise ideas it would be very much appreciated.
Have a talk with him or ask the Management to sit you close to someone else...
You are really frustrated with this guy.
ReplyDeleteTell your superior what you are passing through. Also before telling your superior, talk to him and tell him all what you wrote down for us to advice you.
Sorry o
I have mentioned all these concern to him???? I think if you haven't, you should sit him down and tell him how you TRULY FEEL. Instead of bottling it up and overflow at the wrong time
ReplyDeleteStella u just said it all.
ReplyDeleteHow about you change your sitting position or mind your damn business you're being paid for!
ReplyDeleteAnd get good earplugs while at it.
DeleteExactly perx...🙄🙄
DeleteIt's a work environment. In the UK, would his behaviour be acceptable? Obviously not. But because it's naija, she should mind her business and get ear plugs. Later, you people will be lamenting that anything goes..
DeleteNice suggestion at Aproko queen. Poster mind your F**cking business. If you f*ck him up in the presence of his boss, and he loss his job, someone else will f*ck you up and you'll not just loose your job but double of what he lost.
DeleteYou haven't spoken to him about it and you brought his matter to this public forum to castigate him. This is so bad of you. If you can't caution him as office colleague, then I'll advice you mind your business.
16:16 Loud coworkers are everywhere, the hell you mean by 'in the UK' and who said it's acceptable?
DeleteOpen plan office layout are prevalent abroad and such loud coworkers abound. OP is clearly conflicted about reporting him so.. 🤷🏻♀️
Anon 16:16, it is not in the business of a colleague complaining about anothers' personal shitty life.
DeleteYou think the English have that time? They will simply request for a change of seat or mind their business...What's her business if he's cheating on his wife and playing gospel music
Double speak.
DeleteShe was complaining about his SINGING AND PLAYING gospel music EXTREMELY LOUDLY to which you guys responded with get ear plugs. This isn't a loud coworker but a disruptive one.
@ Aproko queen you're really not smart and it shows. Try to hide your ignorance small. U said oyinbo will mind their business. Haba. Say what u know! Oyinbo that are very very nosy. One can tell you've never travelled or had to work hard for your money a day in your life. Unless you can't working hard on your back. Personally I wouldn't want to be stuck next to someone like that. I have misophonia. Typical loud noises irritate me. From horn, to singing, to even laughing.
Delete@ anon 17:06, aside from double speak,they've got comprehension problem hence,the reason they failed to understand the lady's main complaint.
DeleteAhhhh that No 1 you wrote there is extreme abeg.
ReplyDeleteBe direct and tell him your discomforts he won't kill you. If he refuses to change take it up to your management. The way you're going about it eh its looking like you're sowing wrong seeds in your thoughts, one day you might do something really bad to the guy thats not professional but labelled witch hunting.
Have u tried to talk to him to tone it down???
ReplyDeleteIf yes and he still insists, report to his boss and ask that he tells him to tone it down.
It's a public space ffs
Calm down!!!
ReplyDeleteI think I know who wrote this chronicle... 🤣😂🤣😂 her name keep buzzing in my head as I read through... will send this link to her...
DeleteI can feel you screaming even though you didn't write with the caps lock on. Sorry nne or nna
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Hi Poster I can imagine how you feel however I believe you should talk to him about how his actions are affecting your job performance(Don't talk about his private life its none of your business for now) cause in your write up you never stated if you have discussed this with him before..If there is no improvement, report him to your unit supervisor or team leader or someone he respects (Make sure he has the right temperament, make him no sack the poor guy) or request that you want to move your desk..In all be professional with him and always smile, you guys are just office colleagues nothing more..How he deals with his personal life is left for him to handle..All the best..
ReplyDeleteMaybe the guy don hammer her ponyor while still cheating on her
DeleteNice one @Phoenix. Poster please take this advice, it's the voice of reasoning.
DeleteI'll say drink water and mind your business because nobody holy pass as concerns his morals but concerning his disturbing your creativity and productivity at work, you have basically 2 choices ...
ReplyDelete1. Talk to him about it and if he does not change,...
2 Report to management that you need to be separated from you for your sanity, which will enhance your productivity
Find a way to live in peace with him at work but I hope you know his personal life doesn't concern you
ReplyDeleteTry and lead with his lousiness and stop prying into how he live his life.
Try and lead with his lousiness? I guess you meant for her to try and live with his lousiness, right? If he’s abroad, he would have lost that job the very first week this disruption started! There’s a reason that place is called office, not a studio. If I were the lady, I will care less about his personal life, because that’s none of my business. But other behaviour that are anti-productive at work, has to be curtailed.
DeleteEven a fool is thought wise if she keeps silent...Proverbs 17:28
ReplyDeleteIf you are my type, just ignore him; no talk, no laughter, no discussion,
and he will get the message.
This can be done after you've talked to him politely and he does not change his
ways.
But I am afraid for you because, you might lose your civility and call him names
just like you are doing here which is wrong.
Ekwuchago m. 😊😊😊😊
Poster I understand your frustration..but have you talked to him about all these you mentioned above to him ?? If not ,call his attention to it
ReplyDeleteMoreover a work environment isn't suppose to be a noisy place,abi na shopping mall una office dey??
Talk to him first,if he doesn't change then you can report him
Exactly. How are people expected to woek well in that kind of work environment?
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DeleteHave you spoken to him yet or you're just there dying in silence?
ReplyDeleteOde ma ni poster kee... Ko ti ba bobo ye soro; and she came here ranting like a typical lagosian. His private life doesn't concerns you. How about if someone come to discover that you have hidden dildo in your house, or inside your back and then threaten to report you to ur boss... will you like it?
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DeleteOde no girl yen jo.
He doesn't have a private life in an office...He should know then difference with his home and an office..
Delete16.26 please go and learn how to talk. Stop being crass. Ki lo fa ode?
DeleteAnon 16:26 olodo ni e. Private life. Inside office?? Oponu ni awon obi e gan. Lmao. can bet you are one of those noise makers in the office be cause you are here supporting rubbish and exposing your tout behaviour. No wonder this country just dey upside down like cockroach wey them don use fleet soak.
DeleteI have spoken to him and anon 16:26 the only ODE here is you for concluding I haven't. Assumption is the lowest form of knowledge. Talking without thinking and analyzing lands fools like you in trouble. Be warned! Stella pls post. Thanks
Delete16:26 by ode you mean your parents abi. Wonderful
DeleteMy male colleague will always look for female colleague to help him warm his food,he rather eat cold food than go downstairs to warm his own food,while big ogas go to warm their food themselves,never covers his mouth when belching or coughing. carry him egocentric self to a working environment. very irritating.
ReplyDeleteIt's because your female colleagues have been indulging him. He would become a dog that eats cold food permanently if I was the only one there with him.
Deletehmmmmm,,so easy,,pls call him and talk to him,,let him know how you feel,i mean a sincere discussion by so doing,i know he will change except u ursef has another motive entirely that u are not telling us here
ReplyDeleteSimple talk to him about his lousy attitude, if his unhealthy behavior continues kindly report him.
ReplyDeleteThe worst place to create an enemy is work environment. just move your chair bikonu
ReplyDeleteThis chronicle tire me o. Please what kind of company do people make such kind of noise without being cautioned immediately?
ReplyDeleteOmo na face me I face you kind of company.
DeleteAnon 16:27 which company you don work before? Or is it not shangala with no light or ac.you work at so why insulting where someone else works or looking down on them. Your mouth like face me I face you. Nigerians always jumping to conclusion saying what they don't know. Worse part is they are always worse off than the people they want to ridicule. Hian!! Pride in abject poverty. I never see
DeleteThis guy has frustrated the poster's life,sorry you hear
ReplyDeletePoster, this bitterness in you will consume you.
ReplyDeleteMind your business! You haven't even warned him about disturbing you with porn. But you are here writing chronicles. This guy would probably be thinking that he is your friend, while you are here plotting how to bring him down. For him to be explaining his career and what he is facing in his work place, you guys are obviously in talking terms. But you couldn't talk to him about this?
Shaking my damn head. Stella this poster is nothing but sinister. This type will anonymously rat you out for suspension and still listen to you when you come crying about it.
Poster seek help... the thing about your attitude is when it is down consuming those around you, it will definitely consume you.
Anyone that has ever experienced conspiracy in a work environment, will see everything wrong with this Chronicle.
You nailed it bro abi na sister... Its either poster is crushing on the dude but he's not giving her attention that's why she's ranting here because I see no reason why you just can't open up to the guy and tell him to stop.
DeletePoster change your attitude, his personal life doesn't concerns you. Face your work,tell him to his face that he's disturbing your with loud music or shut the fk up.
Keep quiet! Which bitterness?! I am not the OP but it is so annoying to see people trying to justify this crap behaviour. A work place is a SHARED space. Or maybe you are the guy or maybe this is the way you behave in your workplace. Nonsense
DeleteThank God someone see beyond this chronicle. Something is wrong with the poster herself.
DeleteShe's sounded like a wicked person, imagine the way she dissected the guy's personal life.
@ 16:48, I have worked in both environments, shared work space and international org. That is. International standard... you have to cordially caution him on how he's affecting your work after which there is no change you take it up with your HR. You are expected to have a good rapport with your colleagues or customers or whatever in this case may apply. You are expected to show all levels of emotional intelligence in handling this type of issue. Which I didn't see from the posters write up. International standard, your colleagues will rate you during assessment especially on your rapport with them. people are always quick to reference oyibo type of lifestyle, but will always pick and choose the part which to succumb to.
DeleteYour colleagues cheating behavior is NOT YOUR BUSINESS. Your colleagues having plenty girlfriends is NOT YOUR BUSINESS.
Your colleagues 'pretending'to love God whilst cheating and watching porn is still not your business. If the porn and music is disturbing you, talk to him about it and advise him to get ear phones.
You have so listened to his conversations that you know how many girls he has aside his wife. Your work place need to increase your responsibilities, you have enormous time in your hands.
I still said what I said, poster is sinister and I see bitterness.
18.04 You are the one who is being sinister. Put on your glasses and read the chronicle again where she mentioned him playing gospel music EXTREMELY LOUDLY, which normal work environment would permit that? But as usual, the Nigerian way, blame the victim. Nonsense.
DeleteAnon 15:43 back to sender!! I reject it in the name of Jesus! Amen. It is your own support of sinful things that will DEVOUR AND CONSUME YOU!! You lack analytical THOUGHT. I guess you are same person Anon 18:04 how am I eavesdropping on the conversation when the guy TELLS me about the girls himself??!! HMM how?!!
DeleteHe is proud of his nonsense or don't you guys get??!! Do I have to spell things out for una?! I have spoken to him about it. The man doesn't care. Listen, this behaviour is disgusting. I posted what I posted!! If you have problem with me complaining about it especially when it affects my WORK....?? MY WORK??? AND IT prevents me from carrying out the responsibilities you speak of then YOU are one of the many PROBLEMS In this country that has made it as bad as it is. Mind you part of the reason it is annoying is because I have so much work to do that involves my TOTAL concentration?? I suppose you cannot relate so oh well. That's unfortunate for you.
If you can support his deplorable behaviour then YOU are one of the BAD THINGS wrecking Nigeria. So when people are pointing fingers at those that ruined naija u better point in the mirror! Yes! I said what I said!! it is My BUSINESS because it disturbs my work!! if you're too uncivilized to see that then sorry there Is nothing that I can do to help you!
Anon 15:43 What bitterness? You should be ASHAMED of yourself. Viewing pronographic material at work is disgusting and YOU ARE A DISGUSTING PIG for even supporting such nonsense. Mind what business?!! This is why none of you ever progress in that silly country. Imagine supporting stupid behaviour. Just imagine that. You are pathetic and your own life haff spoil. Allow those with brain to better the country na
DeleteAnon 16:31 EWWWW. Lmaoo. WHICH crush???! You wish and he wishes Abeg abeg abeg all I want is advice on how I can improve my workplace experience
DeleteLike a very wise person said up there. You spend more time at work than at home. Pls o. I find the guy repulsive. And my peace is all I want. that is how you unattractive Nigerian men go about flattering yourselves that innocent girls have crushes on you but meanwhile you are mouth breathers with bad hygiene and bad breath. Uncle! I don't know what mama told you but not every girl that acts irritated by you wants to smash you. She may be just annoyed by you.and disgusted by you. Leave it at that!! Don't turn this into a pathetic "she's secretly crushing on him that is why she hates him" thing because you are so far from the truth it makes me want to throw up.
Anon 15:43 I have talked to him about this to no avail that is why I came here!! Now what!
DeleteSweetheart, in life you may be faced with some very infuriating people or circumstances that challenge every aspect of your being. In some cases, there's little or nothing you can do about them. The only plausible solution is to ignore them, ironically, for the sake of your sanity which their very existence is a threat to. Charles R. Swindoll stated that "...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it... we are in charge of our attitudes". Very poignant words, in my opinion.
ReplyDeleteWhy not consider this a learning curve on how to be more tolerant and ignore annoying colleagues at the work place? True, you can get him removed or fired. What happens if you find yourself in a situation where there's no respite and you have to deal with certain pugnacious and loud-mouthed people tomorrow? You can train yourself not to be so reactive. It's not easy but it is possible. I trained myself to be in control of how I react to certain situations, especially the extremely infuriating ones. With practice, I now ignore a lot and keep it moving. It has helped tremendously in my interaction with people and has made me a better person.
You can have a chat with him but if that is his character, that will be an exercise in futility. You have already weighed your options, reporting him may not turn out the way you planned. If he loses his job, you may feel horrible at the end of the day. Honey, just try to be more tolerant, it will amaze you to realise that he wouldn't be as annoying to you as he once was. You are super pissed at him right now, so anything he does wrong will appear worst than it actually is. I'm sure his "good morning" will even make you want to punch him.
As for his personal life, leave it at that. It's personal to him. We live in a world of hypocrites, occasionally we too have been hypocrites, so learn to be more tolerant and less judgemental. You can condemn a person's actions without necessarily pontificating. Focus on his official duties, if he were that bad or incompetent, I don't think he would still be under employment. If others are not complaining, try the best you can to tolerate his antics. Learn to work under certain unfavourable conditions and you will cope with whomever and be a better person for it.
e-hugs and kisses.
Learn to work under unfavourable conditions? THIS IS BULSSHIT! No wonder Nigeria is in deep shit because of people like you taking shit and giving shitty advise.
DeleteYou spend more time in the office more than at home and you said she should tolerate what? Have you heard of mental health at work before? Of course you have, but as usual people like you don't take it serious.
Poster, report this guy asap to the management before he frames up first and gets rid of you.
You lots tolerate nonsense in that country!
DeleteSit him down and have a serious word with him. If he doesn't stop, then make a formal complaint to the appropriate department. No should make you feel uncomfortable at your work place. All these are things he shouldn't be doing at work, whether he's your friend or not. In fact watching porn at work is classified as sexual harassment, as long as you can see it or hear it. He can be dismissed on the spot.
Detective Adaobi
I'm shock, she should learn to work under such conditions???? Where do u people get all these advice from.
DeleteLet's say all the poster is saying is true, I'm working and then someone is disturbing me and I can't concentrate because of that, I should just mind my business????.
Poster, I will repeat, if u talk to him and he refuses to listen, report to ur boss or his own boss and if that leads to him being fired, then fuck it!!!!
Nigerians just like condoning rubbish all in the name of minding your business.
You are every bit in ur right here. Just don't bring up his personal matters, that one is totally none of your business.
People really need to learn how to behave in public. They should fucking learn!
17:26, she should report him and he will get fired? So if she meets the same person later in the future, she will keep reporting innit?
DeleteNigeria is in deep shit because of people like you. Just imagine saying the guy will frame her up to get rid of her. Evil mindset! It's because of your type of thinking Nigeria is messed up!
Zero team player
It is clear Aproko is one of those that behave like this at their workplaces, busy defending this guy's behaviour upandan.
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Aproko, it is because of your type of inconsiderate behaviour that Nigeria is in the deep shit it's in.
Delete@Poster, I wonder the type of workplace/office you guys work that he has ALL the free time to do all these (at your workplace),how long it has continued and why you have not told him your mind. I advice you speak with him NOW, and/or liaise with a colleague and swap desks, and escalate to your/his boss, if he does not take correction.
ReplyDeleteHowever, if you guys are at a marketplace, then you can liaise with another co-worker and swap sitting places/position.
His personal life should not be your business, if you have never spoken to him about it OR let your morality rub off on him. Silence, at times, means consent - if he has been doing and saying all these about his escapees, watches porn yet claims a Christian, and you, that is morally upright, listens with interest and does not show him that he is wrong and irritating, then let him be, just talk about how it affects your work.
This is an unacceptable behaviour at a workplace. Have a final word with him, if he doesn't stop, please report it to the management.
ReplyDeleteHe shouldn't be using his company's recourses on those rubbish, which I believe it's none of your business, because he works for a different company. However, His loud presence affects your work and mental health and this should be taken up with your superiors/management asap.
Very unacceptable. It is so ridiculous seeing ppl defending such nonsense and asking her to live with it.
DeleteThis is an unacceptable behaviour at a workplace. Have a final word with him, if he doesn't stop, please report it to the management.
ReplyDeleteHe shouldn't be using his company's recourses on those rubbish, which I believe it's none of your business, because he works for a different company. However, His loud presence affects your work and mental health and this should be taken up with your
At my work place like five or four people share one office, and we speak up if anyone is disturbing.
ReplyDeleteI don’t understand how you’ve been able to cope with such situation without complaining or talking to him. Abi you are crushing on the guy ni cuz in my place of work we speak out immediately there’s any form of noise or disturbance, it doesn’t need any formal “sit him down and talk to him”. I just speak up immediately or I throw my earpiece to the person to use, it’s as simple as that. I don’t care what the person is watching or playing, it’s none of my business. If it were to be two people discussing, we tell them immediately and it is either they close the discussion or go to break room if they don’t have anything doing. It has never cross my mind to report anyone cuz of that, cuz I might forget to use my earpiece at times and they’ll be the one to signal me to use my earpiece very simple.
And there’s this my colleague that sits opposite me, he farts any how, belch out loudly without covering his mouth and coughs as well, I tell him immediately and I leave the office to take fresh if it was fart.
Why will I be keeping all that in my heart and be planing on how to report him- that’s witch craft.
Eww please. Me crush on him..that's a never! I just want relief from it because I have tried talking to him plenty times about it.
DeleteTalk to him about his attitude towards work.
ReplyDeleteIf you take his job away from him can you feed his family?
If you report him to his boss and his boss purnish him, tell me what you stand to gain.
You must not say anything but talk with him and threaten him first before reporting.
Tell him politely to use earphones for his leisure activities during work. If he doesn't change, then take it up with your own management with a complaint that his antics are affecting your productivity. You don't have to be friends but also, you should not be subjected to working in a distracting environment. Also, try and chill small. Don't let him drive you crazy so you don't explode some day and then they will say you're the one with the problem.
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