When you see a happy couple, don't envy them or assume they are lucky to find each other. There is no happy home anywhere - if you see any, be sure they were made.
Being a good person or being religious doesn't make a happy home,neither does riches and wealth. Marrying the most beautiful woman or the most handsome man doesn't guarantee happiness in marriage either. Many believers even think marrying another good believer is a sure way to having a happy home but many have been disappointed.
What then makes up a happy home?
A happy home is a function of mutual fulfilment derived from mutual selfless commitment to the marital union. Having a happy home can only be achieved by deliberate efforts and determination of both parties. No matter how much a partner desires a happy home, it can only happen if the other partner wants and agrees to build a happy home.
To achieve a happy home, therefore both parties must first offer themselves as a living sacrifice on the altar of their marriage. They must deny themselves and be willing to accept their cross.
In a happy home, ego and self are buried in the grave of marital bliss. Partners in a happy home don't think too much about themselves but the happiness of their spouse.
The journey to a happy home can be initiated by the man or the woman. This journey starts with *contentment and diligence. Then it continues in daily forgiveness and mutual tolerance.
No couple is happy when they continue to look at each other's weaknesses or offences. They can only be happy if they choose to accept each other's shortcomings and offenses and take their pains and hurts to the Almighty God, instead of romancing with them. Happy couples don't win arguments, rather, they communicate to achieve a better union.
Happy couples don't compare their marriage with others, they are happy and contented with what they have.
Happy homes are not meant for selfish and inconsiderate partners. Happiness is a choice but the price is not cheap. Only the humble and the broken can buy it.
The manual for a happy home is not designed by the society or social media. They are designed by the couple. The ideal home mustn't follow the acceptable trends in the society rather working and practicing what makes the parties happy.
You can initiate the journey to a happy home today no matter how far you have traveled in the path of bitterness and unforgiveness. An unhappy home is the junior sibling to hell fire.
Happy couples don't compare their marriage with others, they are happy and contented with what they have.
Happy homes are not meant for selfish and inconsiderate partners. Happiness is a choice but the price is not cheap. Only the humble and the broken can buy it.
The manual for a happy home is not designed by the society or social media. They are designed by the couple. The ideal home mustn't follow the acceptable trends in the society rather working and practicing what makes the parties happy.
You can initiate the journey to a happy home today no matter how far you have traveled in the path of bitterness and unforgiveness. An unhappy home is the junior sibling to hell fire.
A happy home is a reflection of heavenly bliss. The choice is yours today.
*Give Peace a chance in your marriage today.*
*Give Peace a chance in your marriage today.*
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Well Written
ReplyDeleteThe best part of this write up is "The manual for a happy home is not designed by the society or social media. They are designed by the couple. The ideal home mustn't follow the acceptable trends in the society rather working and practicing what makes the parties happy."
DeleteWhoever wrote this is a star, well written.
DeleteI love this.
ReplyDeleteA believer is one who believes in Christ and His work on the cross. A true Christian is one who believes and deliberately strives to pattern his life after Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeleteIt is that deliberate attempt to live like Christ that brings about happiness in marriage. It leads to a situation where both husband and wife practice true love which forgives easily, takes no record of wrong,not proud or puffed up, sacrifices easily for the other's comfort, helps the other grow and glow, does not cheat etc.
It takes more than being a mere church goer or believer to easily handle the level of vulnerability and emotional strength required to keep a loving marriage.
The knowledge and fear of God is the beginning of the wisdom needed for marriage. It keeps you from hurting yourself and your spouse. It helps you cope when the ride is rough. It brings joy. I know this one.
You may know others.
Well said @ D'Arc Ed..like you already...
DeleteWell said @ D'Arc Ed..like you already...
Deletewell said
ReplyDeleteHappy homes are made by two adults who are ready to work together...
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DeleteVery inspiring post.Hardwork always pays.
ReplyDeleteYes it does .
DeleteThanks for this piece.
ReplyDeleteYes.
ReplyDeleteAnd the Scriptures, the teachings of Jesus contain
the principles of building a happy home.
Many girls are more interested in building a money home.
ReplyDeleteHummmm my home is peaceful now but those early days was not easy at all thank God we weather the storm. Sometimes I wonder how my life will be if I have left if I tell u what I went through the first three years many here will say God forbid but today is as if am living in paradise it will be twelve years by June lord am grateful for my home please God keep sustain us
ReplyDeleteThank God for you. I wish it were so for everyone going through the hard times
DeleteHappy homes are boring. The air of uncertainty and drama makes life interesting. Happiness is overrated
ReplyDeleteWishing you what you wish yourself.
DeleteReally? I love happiness,peace and joy.
Deleteam trying. But i am tired. seems like the cross is on me alone.
ReplyDeleteHang in there dear, everything will be okay. I pray God gives you the strength and grace.
Deleteit is well with you,keep pushing
DeletePersevere
DeleteBe strong and determined to get what you want,might be hard and very tasking but it pays off!!
DeleteBinapopus we are in the same WhatsApp group. mine will be 27 years in may but I thank God for where I am today even though it is not an easy journey.
ReplyDeleteThis piece makes marriage look overrated and most times the burden of a happy home lies on the wife.. life is not fair if only one party suffers the price alone. Yet almost everyone want marriage, why not stay single...just thinking aloud
ReplyDeleteI also think like you do sometimes*!
DeleteLike everybody keeps complaining, yet everybody is praying too
Most just enter based on soceital pressures, limited dreams and urge to leave home and be free.
God help people; esp women*
Wanted (desired) a happy home but his eyes was somewhere else. Did everything within my power to be a good wife. The more I try the more he drains my efforts with physical and emotional trauma. I sleep and wake up daily in tears. I prayed, fasted, went to mountains. As if God was very far from me. One good day, I told myself. I Can't come and die because of another human. I carried myself and waka. Its been 4 years since I left. He has long remarried and moved up. Am still here wishing God will look upon me in his mercy and give me another chance.
ReplyDeleteFor me I think it takes two to tango in marriage. If one party in not reciprocating the happiness thing. The other party is on a long thing
It is well with you.
DeleteI pray God gives you another chance. It is well with you. Go out socialise be happy and happiness will find you ❤️🙏
Delete13:34, sorry for your pains.
DeletePlease how did you guys get married? Was it arrangee?
Did you force it?
Was he loving you back as you were loving?
If sincerely it was true love, maybe the outside lady jazzed him. If she did, his eyes will still clear someday (albeit late)
B strong 4u ok?
It is well
ReplyDeleteEven when he cheats????One should forgive for the sake of a happy home????
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy. I pray for strength and wisdom to weather the storm.
ReplyDeleteI've been married for 4+months. The day me and hubby want to do love ehn.. You will run but then, I took opinionated and hardly listen. I'm trying to work on myself cos its not helping me. I grew up being the decision maker in my home, so its very difficult right now for me to just sit back and let hubby lead. Maybe God help me. I love this man so much! He's God's blessing to me😓
ReplyDeleteThen keep drinking water anytime he's taking decisions na!!😂😂
DeleteIt's difficult for you to let him lead because deep inside you know his decisions ain't shit sometimes. But because you love him a lot, you are feeling guilty over what you know you are not wrong on!
DeleteYou still need wisdom sha...
Almost every woman comes off to men as opinionated, deep down they want your opinion and know its mostly even the best,just try to find ways to tone down but have your own voice(low voice o)😂😂
DeleteSEE,RIGHT NOW I AM HAVING SERIOUS BEEF WITH MY HUSBAND. I AM PREGNANT AND YOU KNOW THE HIGH PREGNANCY HORMONES AND WHAT IT DOES TO PREGNANT WOMEN BUT MINE CASE IS THAT OF EXTREME VOMITING AND POURING OF SALIVA LIKE OCEAN. I HAVE NOT GIVEN MY HUSBAND ANY ISSUE AT ALL JUST THAT I DONT TALK MUCH THESE DAYS. I HARDLY SPEAK OR HOLD CONVERSATION BECAUSE OF EXCESS SALIVA. NOW,MY HUSBAND COMPLAINS THAT I AM NO LONGER TALKING TO HIM OR HOLD CONVERSATION WITH ETC. THAT I AM EASILY IRRITATED AND WAKING ME UP FROM SLEEP IS ALWAYS A DIFFICULT TASK. I HAVE TRIED TO PLEAD WITH HIM TO BEAR WITH ME IN MY FIRST TRIMESTER BUT HE HAS CONTINUED TO COMPLAIN. 2DAYS AGO, HE KICKED ME WITH HIS LEG WHILE I WAS ASLEEP AND I WAS STARTLED AS I WOKE UP. I DIDNT FIND IT FUNNY SO I COMPLAINED AND THE NEXT THING I HEARD IS THAT I AM BEING DIFFICULT. IN THE MORNING,HE TOOK HIS BIRTH AND LEFT ME AND OUR TWO GIRLS AT HOME,DIDNT EVEN TELL ME HE WAS OFF TO WORK. HE DIDNT DROP HIS KIDS AT SCHOOL,HE HAS SPOKEN TO ME EITHER. IF IT WERE BEFORE,I WOULD KNEEL DOWN AND BEG BUT THIS TIME,I DECIDED NEVER TO BEG AGAIN. LET ME SEE HOW FAR WE CAN GO WITH THIS BEEF. I AM NOT GOING TO SHED A TEAR EVER AGAIN.
ReplyDeleteWomen are the ones causing issues for themselves.
DeleteKneel to beg a human being?
Allow your husbabds see the value in you.
Let him miss you.
Please, try not to type in caps lock, makes reading what you've written very hard.
DeleteMarriage is grace of God,and it takes two to tango, God bless our marriage
ReplyDeleteBeen separated for 3 years and divorced for two years. Waiting on God to bring my real husband my way.
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