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Dear Stella,

To know you, even from a distance is to love you.. Thank you for all that you do.


Shout out to all the amazing blog visitors, it is really funny, how I feel I know a lot about your individual personalities from your comments.
Sending love and laughter to all you (happy, sad, funny, diplomatic, sweet, rational, tough and hard fellows... Side eyes @Don).

Now to my story, Stella please keep me Anonymous. I need sincere advise from you all.

I am 28, engaged to a 33 years old guy, he is my first love, best friend and all I prayed for.

Let me describe a little bit of my background for a better understanding.

I came from a humble family, my Dad was a low ranked police officer and my Mum a cleaner in the University I attended.
It was not easy growing up but my parents always put our education first.
I am the second of 8 children.


Immediately after my Service, I got a job in a Multinational firm, I was 21 with a startup salary of 310k.
My life has been nothing but Grace! We were all happy and things improved greatly for my family.


Now to my dilemma, 2 years ago, through my contact, I got a job for the love of my life in my organization, as he have been under employed since graduation.


Oga is somewhat okay now and he wants us to settle down which is good. However, one of us would have to resign as it is against the organization policy for both spouse or siblings to work there.


My current salary is great plus a lot of benefits. While my Oga’s pay is still on ET.

We had a long conversation 3 days ago and he is suggesting I resign saying he is the man (a proud Igbo man) and the first Son of his family and it is his responsibility to take care of me, which I totally understand.

In as much as I love him dearly (He is my first and only boyfriend so far), what about my own family?
My job had covered a lot of our shame. My 4 siblings are still in school and all dependent on me.

I feel this job was given to me by God coz it was never my qualifications.
He suggested business for me but I have never been a business type. He also said since I graduated with a First class with my years of experience, it will be easier to get another job compared to him.


Over the years, I have become used to a certain type of lifestyle cos I work and earn well.
He promised to take care of me and the family but I am just scared it will be too much for him.


My instincts tells me not to resign.... I should also be selfish with my interests.


Do you guys think I should resign?
Are my fears justified?
What if he change to a different person after marriage?
What if I fail in business?
What if the financial burden overwhelm him and he becomes abusive towards me?
Are my being paranoid over nothing?
Is marriage truly a selfless journey?
Are his reasons for not wanting to resign justified?
What if I never get another job after resignation?
What if? what if? what if not?....


I am sorry for the long read and forgive my typos error, this is the best summary I could come up with.




*Read my lips...... DO NOT RESIGN!!!!

This has nothing to do with love at all

Everything will change once you do...

Ask yourself if his salary will be enough to take care of his family and yours?what if his appointment is not confirmed after you resign?

Don't bank on your 1st class degree cos it is even more difficult to get a job with one..

let him resign and go into business instead of suggesting you do so...DO NOT TRY IT OH.

So many love stories died because of decisions like this...

Try to get him a Job somewhere else if you can and do not make yourself a sacrificial lamb for love,you will regret it.